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I’m sorry :( I know your pain. 4. Separate. Doctors. Told me that my arthritis (which was so bad I couldn’t move, only time I’ve ever had s**cidal ideation) was just anxiety, just in my head, not that bad. F**k that.

I had to bring my fiance to a Cardiologist appointment with me because he wasn't taking me or my heart issues serious and wouldn't even show me any of the test results. He would scroll past them real quick and say, "oh it's fine." I also told him the meds he switched me to were giving me awful side effects and weren't helping with anything. I tried them for a full month and could barely function on them, but he wanted me to keep taking them. The visit with my fiance there and doing the talking resulted in getting my meds changed, a full run down of every single test result, a diagnosis, and the Cardiologist getting an earful for his treatment...or lack of treatment really...of me. I have a new Cardiologist now who is great.

Same camp over here, they won't put me back on my methotrexate injections as I have a higher than normal temp, well a higher temp is a symptom of my sarcoidosis being active, they contacted my rheumatologist 11 days ago and not chased it up so I'm going to have to do it. Also on the subject of anxiety, I always try to keep my cool I usually have someone with me like a support person, but my doctors is somewhere I feel safe so I can go alone. Well you had this Karen of a receptionist who messed me around so much I went in to meltdown, the surgery that day was the busiest I have ever seen them and I'm now stood in the reception having a full blown anxiety attack. Just when you are starting to feel like your making progress something knocks you back, I'm now 5 weeks and counting without my meds, I don't just need them for the sarcoidosis but also the fibromyalgia I have. It's starting to really affect my mental health.

Good luck

Good

Just adding, some doctor's are really judgmental about offering any kind of help for weight loss in the form of medication. They treat you like you're weak and I've even seen some health professionals here talk about how annoyed they are with people who even ask. Someone who is severely obese doesn't stay that way because they're just lazy. No one would choose that. It's incredibly difficult to live being that overweight and there are almost positively some mental health issues going on. Maybe instead of getting annoyed, you can try and determine if that's true. What's they're energy level? Lets check their blood and see if there are any vitamin deficiencies. It could be that the person just needs a little energy to get the ball rolling. And maybe recommend a psychiatrist who could talk to them about why this is happening in the first place. Get someone on a plan to help themselves instead of just writing it off as something that should be shamed.

Easier said than done at times

I have no choice, severe lack of doctors for 7+ tears. Mine retired around then, got a new one who has jeopardized my life, denied me an ambulance only for me to be having emergency ops within a few days. She's been in trouble for never monitoring me on more than one occasion, because I have to be a squeaky wheel. But even squeaky wheels die. Like my childhood dr, who denied a nurses diagnosis of spinabifida for the first two years of my life meaning no treatment. When I was six he removed stitches against hospital orders and I lost most of my cerebral fluid at home, nearly died on that occasion. So, two of my three doctors are guilty of serious medical neglect but faced no consequences. Because there is a lack of doctors. Please don't be so dismissive so quickly(if someone had listened whenI needed an ambulance that day I would still have all my internal organs, no pulmorary embolism damage, and less scars).

I've been dismissed by female doctors as well.

10, but I saw it happen to my mom at 6

I think I was maybe 10, but by the time I was 12 it was all the freaking time. I think that's something a lot of men don't get. That it's not just that one creeper dude that scared us that one time. It's frequent. By the time you're in your teens, it's pretty much daily. The only way for me to not have some creepy old guy harass me was to stay in my house.

I was 8.

From reading theses comments I feel blessed. I’ve never been sexually harassed.

I feel really sorry that you had to bear something so horrible at such a young age.....shame on the guy who harassed a 5 year old

I am sorry. No one deserves this.

My first sexual assault was when I was 7. I can still see the expression on his face so clearly, like it just happened yesterday and it was nearly 40 years ago.

Mom said I started telling her at 3. I don't even remember back that far. My first inkling was around 5.

Yea me too. I tried to get the boy to stop and he wouldn’t so I told the teacher. The teacher just laughed. Typical.

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I'm sending so much love to everyone in this comment thread, I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. It's heartbreaking that the world isn't safe, and none of you deserved to be harassed. I wish you all the best <3

Am lucky that never happen to me:)

I am so sorry for you

I'm a slightly luckier one: 14 (my current age).

Omg im so sorry thar happened sending hugs😊

Me too, we lived near a great park, where were sometimes (always) very weird people. My sister, 2 yrs older, was not, never. When I was over 50, i am going to the local fair with my stepdaughter, who was 25, nice and plump and I was harassed (physically, hands on my butt etc. - there were lot of people), but she was not. My friend (male) tells me: You are the certain type. Really, are some types of girl, suffer more and some less?

Around 2-3 years here.

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My first time was when I was never years old because I’m not a girl

these stories are equally horrifying and so, so sad. I am so sorry. That is absolutely horrendous and I want to beat that disgusting man's sorry a**e. I hope you're recovering, no matter how many years I'm sure that's a terrible memory to have. I'm sending the best big-sis virtual hug I possibly can. 🥺

I like to wedge an edge under my knees.

Offloading or brainstorming? is my go-to line

Same here. If there is a solution, sometime I want that.

I agree. The use of "pretend" here is invalidating. Guessing the OP got that feedback but his flippant response about not blaming him in combination with his practice of pretending doesn't bode well for his relationship even if he is at least making some sort of an effort.

I always involuntarily start crying when someone yells at me or around me. And I just can't make it stop. I'm just a bundle of fear.

EXACTLY! Like you really don't care because the issue is stupid. This is exactly why we don't like men.

I ended up having a hysterectomy at 25 as well. A combo of endometriosis, Fibroids, and ruptured ovarian cyst nearly took my life. I'm 37 now, and so glad I don't have to deal with it anymore. Imagine having a flaming hot poker wrapped in barbed wire scraping your insides while simultaneously being punched in the spine. Everyday for 1-2 weeks a month, for most of your adult life. And being expected to go about your daily life with menfolk telling you to "walk it off," "hold it in," or "it can't be that bad." Let me grab your twig & berries and pull them over your head, then you walk it off! Super awesome👌 💖/s

I couldn't get a Dr to be real with me until I was 30. Got a partial hysterectomy at 31. Best Xmas Present EVA!