“Re-Home Her Or He’s Out”: Entitled BF Makes Demands About Woman’s Dog, Regrets It
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Generally, ultimatums do not make a good relationship. This is doubly as true when the demands are completely out of place and involve something like a beloved pet. This is exactly the case one woman found herself in when she asked the internet if she was wrong to pick her dog over her boyfriend when he gave her an ultimatum.
People online were quick to rush to the animal’s defense and did their best to tell her that losing this man was all for the best. We reached out to the woman in the story via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us. We also got in touch with Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert from Dating Advice to learn more.
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Getting an ultimatum in a relationship tends to be a pretty big deal
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But one woman second guessed her own decision to pick her dog over her boyfriend
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There are some questions folks need to answer for themselves before just committing to a serious relationship
Bored Panda got in touch with Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert from Dating Advice and she was kind enough to answer some of our questions about the things people need to think about before getting into a more serious relationship.
“People need to ask themselves (and their partner!) if they are compatible with the three “F’s” of love. It’s Family. Finances. Future Goals. Let’s break them down: First of all, I feel that I need to debunk the myth that good sex means a good long-term relationship,” she shared. Many of us plan out our future with someone in our heads before actually understanding what they are like.
“When the cocktail of lustful neurohormones lose their potency, every monogamous relationship must get creative, add novelty, and do the work necessary to keep that aspect of their relationship alive. As the love pheromones die down, however, other aspects of the relationship become more important.”
A long term relationship can’t just run on vibes
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“And these are the things we must ask ourselves before we commit to a life together:
Family – If at least one of you are in their childbearing years, a discussion about reproduction is crucial. Do you want to have kids? If so, when? Does one or both of you already have kids? If so, are you ready to be a stepparent? Going blindly into a marriage with the hope that the two of you are in this area can be a prescription for disaster.”
“Finances – If you can’t talk in detail about money, then you have no business noodling into the future. While spenders and savers can get along, they have to create financial common ground for basic living expenses that are non-negotiables. Ask yourself if you should be entering into a union with your own or your partner’s burden of debt. If you have assets, ask yourself how you can protect those assets.”
“Future – Before you commit, ask yourself where you’d like to be in five years, ten years, or even twenty? I know that John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans,” but if you don’t start out with a shared plan, where are you at? Talk about careers, how you’ll do the work/family balance, where you’d like to live, and maybe even how you’d like to retire.”
A good way to communicate this with a potential partner is to just share your own experience
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We also wanted to know her thoughts on the importance of folks sharing their experiences online. “Yes, it’s important that people share their relationship history. There is a common denominator in every one of our past relationships, and it’s US! By hearing about your journey, your partner will get to know you better. To avoid judgement about some of your more shameful partners, couch each story with, “You wouldn’t believe what I learned there!” Tell the stories as adventures in personal growth, instead of past failures.”
“Probably the biggest Red Flag in a potential long-term partner is someone who is estranged from their family of origin and/or friends who represent their roots. You’ve got to meet the tribe who shaped them, and they’ve got to meet yours. I used to host a show for Investigation Discovery Network called “Happily Never After.” It was a show about brides or grooms who murdered each other. Note: It was usually the groom who did the deed. And in almost every case, the couple had eloped. They didn’t allow they’re greater tribe, their friends and family, to weigh in on their relationship. Relationships are a bridge between tribes and it’s very important that you get to know the familial and social world that you’re entering.”
People were quick to side with the dog
Others shared their own examples of dogs being a pretty good judge of character
She later came back and gave a small update
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Well, Jack Russels are bred to hunt rats, so clearly Brandy knows what's she's smelling.
My boyfriend 8 years ago when I found a stray kitten: “It’s me or the cat!” 8 years later…. I kept the cat XD bf is still around too. He realized I’m not giving up animals for him (or anyone), and gotta give him credit - he adjusted!
Please remember, while some dogs can absolutely tell who the bad people are, many cannot. I once had a dog who had an occasional issue with some people, sometimes someone he had cuddled with just minutes earlier. Took a while, but we figured out that curly haired men standing near our avocado green fridge would trigger our dog. When we replaced the fridge, never an issue again. That said, if you ever tell me to choose between you and my pet, I'm choosing the pet every time.
Wow, that's weird. My friend's (rescue) hated men in work boots (that one's easy enough to work out, sadly). Leave the boots outside and she cuddled up with them. She had to be shut away or taken out when they had electrical work done, poor girl.
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You shouldn't. Anybody who hates animals deserves to die a virgin.
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Frankly, I would never ever consider being in relationship with a human who hates animals.
Yes. It's a life decision, with a long term partner...why would I marry someone without the same views and ethics as I have? That's not good for a long term relationship anyway.
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In this case, I think it was clear that BF was bad, or at least incompatible (calling dog smelly, wanting GF of only four months to rehome, making comment about wanting dog euthanised). I’m just not entirely sure how I feel about trusting or not trusting people based on whether your dog likes them; bad, bad people have owned dogs and been cool with them… and some dogs can bark aggressively at anybody who enters their range. I suppose if it’s someone you just met and don’t expect to ever, ever see again, or your dog never barks otherwise, it’s better to trust your dog’s instinct.
If I had an SO who said they hated cats, I'd be very uncomfortable. However, if the SO was willing to share the house properly, I might consider it. By share the house, I mean be okay with the cats' normal behaviors and routines. Will the SO be okay with Audi plopping on my chest for pets a million times a day? Will the SO gently tell Bouche to get out of the bathroom sink when needed (she will jump down if asked)? Will SO be okay with mousie toys all over the floor? Would I expect an SO who doesn't like cats to scritch Audi's ears just right, or to coo at Bouche? No, not if they're fine with my doing so. My new helper, whom I've employed for about a month and a half, was very nervous about the cats at his interview. He'd never been around cats before. I was really worried at first, because a lot of the job entails meeting the cats' physical needs. The helper was a bit jumpy the first day he worked. Now, if Audi decides to help, he just gently shoes Audi out of the way. He'll even come tell me if he sees them doing something he hasn't seen before, to make sure they're all right. He doesn't particularly like the cats, but he's willing to co-exist.
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Why the hell would you text and apologize? If anyone ever told me my dog needed to get put down they would be lucky not to get kicked, let alone just dumped.
Right from the start....why would you date someone who hates animals, when you have one??????? SO glad you chose your dog!! The reaction to the jerk told you what you needed to know about him.
Did she not know he hated dogs from the get go?? How did he make it to boyfriend status?!?
Not liking animals shows a lack of empathy. You can dislike specific animals, but if you don't like them in general, you tend to have muted capacity for compassion and empathy.
I'd never trust or want to associate with anyone who hates animals, especially dogs. Unless they had a traumatic dog-related incident in their past, or are so allergic they would require hospital care, I don't get or like people who hate dogs. I mean, you can be a cat person, but still like or appreciate dogs
When i was younger I was afraid of dogs because I didn't know their language and being from the countryside they sometimes chased me. But I love animals in general and I made an effort to try to like the miniature Doberman pincher my boyfriend had (he was a high energy, feisty dog). So Giving treats, taking him on walks, make sure he liked me. Because that is what you do. For the minimum you leave them alone!
My last dog (corgi x red healer) was absolutely my way of judging new people who came over to my house. There were only a few people he didn't like and would "stand guard" in front of me. I'd tell people too "if my dog doesn't like you, you have to leave"
It doesn't matter if your pet is sweet or near feral, they are part of your family. Potential partners need to accept your family or move on. No exceptions. Anyone who wants you to choose them over a pet who gives you unconditional love, isn't worth your time.
I wouldn't be with anyone who hates animals. Even those people who 'adjust' to living with an animal, I would always worry that if I had to leave for any time, would they bother to look after them properly if they don't love them as i do? There can be a trial period, but once I know they really don't care, they would be out. And yeah, if my dog or cat doesn't like a person, there's usually a good reason.
Look at those people giving ultimatums 4 months in 🤣🤣. The delusion.
It's fine to have deal breakers at any point, but that does mean the deal gets broken.
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I don't see how you could date someone that hated animals in the first place.
Never trust a person that doesn't like animals and always trust an animal that doesn't like particular people. They know what we don't.
She needs to drop that dude like a sack of onions. People who don't like dogs are to be held in deep suspicion and contempt.
There’s an old saying, “Love me, love my dog”. If you don’t love my dog, you certainly cannot love me, because a love of animals translates into a love of all, including humans. I got lucky that my husband always loved my pets (I had two cats before we started dating). I could not stand being with someone who doesn’t love animals, because I have always had pets, my entire life (and I’m 63 now). How empty the house would be without at least a couple animals running around in it! How empty a child’s life would be without pets! How lonely a single person’s life is without an animal to greet them at the door and be tickled pink that they’re home! They’re your most constant and loyal companions. They stick with you through everything; when you’re sick, when you’re unhappy, when you’ve gained ten pounds, when you’ve lost your job, everything. They don’t care if you have to live on the streets, they will stick with you. Because they love you unconditionally—-and they want the very best for you. Animals have a sixth sense about people; they know who’s good, and especially who’s bad. So if their “Spidey sense” detects that someone you invite into your home is bad and has bad intentions toward you, they will get their hackles up and hiss and growl and be incredibly protective of you. Pay attention to them when they do that, because they will always be absolutely correct.
Our family dog loved people... except for this one guy, who he never warmed to and always growled at. Guess what, guy turned out to be a POS.
Before we jump all over her for dating a guy who said he doesn't like dogs, a lot of pet owners think it's just attitude and history with poorly trained animals. I can assure y'all, it's not always that innocuous. I've know several guys who 'didn't like cats/dogs' who ended up the biggest suckholes for those very specific animals. I've also know some pretty horrible people whom my cats or dog pretty accuratel outed to me.
The fact that the dog doesn't like him too - god knows what he's capable of! And who wants to be with someone who hates all animals - RED FLAG. Psychopaths and bad people sorry!
Dogs don't lie, brought a guy to my bed for the first (and only) time, also the first (and only) time my dog decided to sh*t on the bed while we were in it. Time showed that she had good judgement.
Hating animals is a huge red flag. I can understand disliking them but hating them goes too far.
I had a dog that didn't like a guy i was going out with. Let's just say she was right about him. She was a Jacky Russell as well.
If anyone tells you they don’t like animals, that’s your first indication they aren’t worth 💩! To date a person who doesn’t want your dog in your lives…. HELLLLL NAWWWW! FurBabies first. I can’t believe you had to second guess yourself. He’s the ahole. YOUR DOG TOLD YOU! No one is worth dumping your furbaby for … NO ONE!
During our pre-marriage counseling, our pastor told my future husband, "Never come between her and her dog! The dog will come first." He eventually loved the dog as much as I did.
Issuing that sort of ultimatum is a red flag, but all these comments imbuing the dog with some psychic powers of detecting rats are just plain wrong-headed. I'm an animal person. But I have a close friend who is just simply terrified of dogs. That fear is like announcing to a smaller creature, "I don't belong here!" Dogs respond with fear or protectiveness or even just nosiness. It's not a good situation.
He's not a jerk for hating dogs. I myself don't want dogs inside my house even though I like dogs. Turns out these 2 are just not compatible and that is okay. The jerk part of this is both of them making the breakup more dramatic than it needs to be. If you have kids and date someone who does not like kids then breaking up is valid and the same applies here. No one should expect another to choose them over the other important parts of their lives and I personally would lose all respect for someone who would comply. She should have told him that it was a deal breaker as soon as he told her he hated dogs. He should not have given her an ultimatum. Both should have bowed out of the relationship and moved on gracefully as both have valid feelings about animals.
I can safely say I am not much of a cat person (don't dislike them, I was just raise around dogs more) but if the guy/girl has a problem with fur-babies, he/she will need re-homing, preferably on a farm far, far, far away. So Brandy was right, OP needed to re-home the ex and good on her for doing so. Side note: My bro 4 life has a dog that barks at me whenever I'm visiting but just for about 5 minutes, then he will try to snuggle to make up for it (if he wasn't so cute, I'd probably be pretty darn POed seeing as he sees me once almost every two weekends XP) and despite being more of a dog person, an unofficial (neighbor doesn't actually keep them but feeds them nonetheless) neighbor's tabby cat and her two kits have been trying to snuggle at my feet or on my lap at every opportunity. So I am officially okay with any and every fur-baby at this point XD
Listen to your pets when they tell you they don't like someone! My cat took to my now-husband before we even started dating, lol. Onyx would let new people pet him but would reserve the honor of jumping into their lap for the third or fourth interaction. The first time he met my husband Onyx immediately started purring and rubbing and climbing on him. After the proposal, Onyx would nuzzle my engagement ring. Your pets will tell you who's good to have around or not.
My aunt had a Pyrenees. He is a gentle giant that is not easily moved. She told the family that on one of her nightwalks in the woods, she got scared from her own dog, because he started growling and barking to a man hidden behind a tree but because she was responsible fo her dog, she took him away out of fear he would attack. We heard it flabbergasted. She got a good dressing down about walking in the woods at night from her sisters and the dog was praised for his actions. She's a reasonable intelligent person but was stupefied by what we were telling her....
How could you even want to be in a relationship with a "man" who hates all animals? If a man is so hateful, don't have anything to do with him.
My ex husband once said its me or the cat...... He backed down when he realised it was the cat 🤣 He is LONG gone and Motherfuss and I enjoyed many more years together ❤️
I didn't even have to read this whole thing! LOL! I was like "bye bye a*****e!" "hit the bricks, prick!" Doggo knows! Doggo smells a rat!!!
I don't like dogs. I have never had one bark and/or growl at me. Dude's garbage. Throw him out.
I wish I had listened to my mother's cat. Cat hated my first husband. Kitty is crazy in love with my current husband. Good kitty!
My late cat wasn't to keen on my ex. First night he stayed over she let it be know by biting and digging her claws into to the family jewels. I really should of listen to her and dump him then and there, but didn't. 6 months he ghosted me.
My husband wasn't a pet person, he was not happy when I kept the cat I found or when I showed up with a deserted bunny (adopted a friend for her afterwards). He wad pissed off a whole week after the bunny incident. He feeds the bunnies every morning now and he is worried when the cat isn't home yet
I will ALWAYS trust the reaction of my pet to another human being. If my pet (dog or cat) doesn't like the human, then I KNOW there's something wrong with that person. I had a dog, years ago, that when we were walking he didn't want a stranger petting him. The stranger didn't do anything but hold out his hand for my dog (Kirby) to sniff. Kirby said "nope". I just told the guy that Kirby is shy and not used to strangers. The guy just walked away. Kirby then went back to his normal happy self.
I had a very timid cat that I adopted. He ran away from everyone. When my cat met my now significant other for the first time he took a shine to this new man. My SO is a really kind and loving man. I think that animals know.
When I was a young teen I was walking our dog Bear (black lab beagle mix: picture a black lab but with shorter legs than necessary). We were approaching a young man standing at the end of his driveway, and Bear started crying and muttering, tucking her tail up so tight it was as flat to her belly as it would go. She tried to pull me out off the sidewalk and into the street rather than walk past him. She'd never acted that way before, and I knew enough about the heeby jeebies to trust that her heebies were well and truly jeebied. We didn't take that street anymore after that.
If you don't love Gina, you don't love me. End of. I guess I wouldn't be compatible with any non-cat person ... but, lately, there's been a lot of people who got animal-hating spouses and search for the wrong in themselves ... what's wrong with them, is easily identified - they search the wrong in themselves. Where it won't be to be found at all.
ABSOLUTELY NOT THE A**HOLE!!! Animals can sense who is a good person and who isn't!! Trust in Brandy, she's protecting u
Well, Jack Russels are bred to hunt rats, so clearly Brandy knows what's she's smelling.
My boyfriend 8 years ago when I found a stray kitten: “It’s me or the cat!” 8 years later…. I kept the cat XD bf is still around too. He realized I’m not giving up animals for him (or anyone), and gotta give him credit - he adjusted!
Please remember, while some dogs can absolutely tell who the bad people are, many cannot. I once had a dog who had an occasional issue with some people, sometimes someone he had cuddled with just minutes earlier. Took a while, but we figured out that curly haired men standing near our avocado green fridge would trigger our dog. When we replaced the fridge, never an issue again. That said, if you ever tell me to choose between you and my pet, I'm choosing the pet every time.
Wow, that's weird. My friend's (rescue) hated men in work boots (that one's easy enough to work out, sadly). Leave the boots outside and she cuddled up with them. She had to be shut away or taken out when they had electrical work done, poor girl.
Load More Replies... You shouldn't. Anybody who hates animals deserves to die a virgin.
Load More Replies... Frankly, I would never ever consider being in relationship with a human who hates animals.
Yes. It's a life decision, with a long term partner...why would I marry someone without the same views and ethics as I have? That's not good for a long term relationship anyway.
Load More Replies... In this case, I think it was clear that BF was bad, or at least incompatible (calling dog smelly, wanting GF of only four months to rehome, making comment about wanting dog euthanised). I’m just not entirely sure how I feel about trusting or not trusting people based on whether your dog likes them; bad, bad people have owned dogs and been cool with them… and some dogs can bark aggressively at anybody who enters their range. I suppose if it’s someone you just met and don’t expect to ever, ever see again, or your dog never barks otherwise, it’s better to trust your dog’s instinct.
If I had an SO who said they hated cats, I'd be very uncomfortable. However, if the SO was willing to share the house properly, I might consider it. By share the house, I mean be okay with the cats' normal behaviors and routines. Will the SO be okay with Audi plopping on my chest for pets a million times a day? Will the SO gently tell Bouche to get out of the bathroom sink when needed (she will jump down if asked)? Will SO be okay with mousie toys all over the floor? Would I expect an SO who doesn't like cats to scritch Audi's ears just right, or to coo at Bouche? No, not if they're fine with my doing so. My new helper, whom I've employed for about a month and a half, was very nervous about the cats at his interview. He'd never been around cats before. I was really worried at first, because a lot of the job entails meeting the cats' physical needs. The helper was a bit jumpy the first day he worked. Now, if Audi decides to help, he just gently shoes Audi out of the way. He'll even come tell me if he sees them doing something he hasn't seen before, to make sure they're all right. He doesn't particularly like the cats, but he's willing to co-exist.
Load More Replies... Why the hell would you text and apologize? If anyone ever told me my dog needed to get put down they would be lucky not to get kicked, let alone just dumped.
Right from the start....why would you date someone who hates animals, when you have one??????? SO glad you chose your dog!! The reaction to the jerk told you what you needed to know about him.
Did she not know he hated dogs from the get go?? How did he make it to boyfriend status?!?
Not liking animals shows a lack of empathy. You can dislike specific animals, but if you don't like them in general, you tend to have muted capacity for compassion and empathy.
I'd never trust or want to associate with anyone who hates animals, especially dogs. Unless they had a traumatic dog-related incident in their past, or are so allergic they would require hospital care, I don't get or like people who hate dogs. I mean, you can be a cat person, but still like or appreciate dogs
When i was younger I was afraid of dogs because I didn't know their language and being from the countryside they sometimes chased me. But I love animals in general and I made an effort to try to like the miniature Doberman pincher my boyfriend had (he was a high energy, feisty dog). So Giving treats, taking him on walks, make sure he liked me. Because that is what you do. For the minimum you leave them alone!
My last dog (corgi x red healer) was absolutely my way of judging new people who came over to my house. There were only a few people he didn't like and would "stand guard" in front of me. I'd tell people too "if my dog doesn't like you, you have to leave"
It doesn't matter if your pet is sweet or near feral, they are part of your family. Potential partners need to accept your family or move on. No exceptions. Anyone who wants you to choose them over a pet who gives you unconditional love, isn't worth your time.
I wouldn't be with anyone who hates animals. Even those people who 'adjust' to living with an animal, I would always worry that if I had to leave for any time, would they bother to look after them properly if they don't love them as i do? There can be a trial period, but once I know they really don't care, they would be out. And yeah, if my dog or cat doesn't like a person, there's usually a good reason.
Look at those people giving ultimatums 4 months in 🤣🤣. The delusion.
It's fine to have deal breakers at any point, but that does mean the deal gets broken.
Load More Replies... I don't see how you could date someone that hated animals in the first place.
Never trust a person that doesn't like animals and always trust an animal that doesn't like particular people. They know what we don't.
She needs to drop that dude like a sack of onions. People who don't like dogs are to be held in deep suspicion and contempt.
There’s an old saying, “Love me, love my dog”. If you don’t love my dog, you certainly cannot love me, because a love of animals translates into a love of all, including humans. I got lucky that my husband always loved my pets (I had two cats before we started dating). I could not stand being with someone who doesn’t love animals, because I have always had pets, my entire life (and I’m 63 now). How empty the house would be without at least a couple animals running around in it! How empty a child’s life would be without pets! How lonely a single person’s life is without an animal to greet them at the door and be tickled pink that they’re home! They’re your most constant and loyal companions. They stick with you through everything; when you’re sick, when you’re unhappy, when you’ve gained ten pounds, when you’ve lost your job, everything. They don’t care if you have to live on the streets, they will stick with you. Because they love you unconditionally—-and they want the very best for you. Animals have a sixth sense about people; they know who’s good, and especially who’s bad. So if their “Spidey sense” detects that someone you invite into your home is bad and has bad intentions toward you, they will get their hackles up and hiss and growl and be incredibly protective of you. Pay attention to them when they do that, because they will always be absolutely correct.
Our family dog loved people... except for this one guy, who he never warmed to and always growled at. Guess what, guy turned out to be a POS.
Before we jump all over her for dating a guy who said he doesn't like dogs, a lot of pet owners think it's just attitude and history with poorly trained animals. I can assure y'all, it's not always that innocuous. I've know several guys who 'didn't like cats/dogs' who ended up the biggest suckholes for those very specific animals. I've also know some pretty horrible people whom my cats or dog pretty accuratel outed to me.
The fact that the dog doesn't like him too - god knows what he's capable of! And who wants to be with someone who hates all animals - RED FLAG. Psychopaths and bad people sorry!
Dogs don't lie, brought a guy to my bed for the first (and only) time, also the first (and only) time my dog decided to sh*t on the bed while we were in it. Time showed that she had good judgement.
Hating animals is a huge red flag. I can understand disliking them but hating them goes too far.
I had a dog that didn't like a guy i was going out with. Let's just say she was right about him. She was a Jacky Russell as well.
If anyone tells you they don’t like animals, that’s your first indication they aren’t worth 💩! To date a person who doesn’t want your dog in your lives…. HELLLLL NAWWWW! FurBabies first. I can’t believe you had to second guess yourself. He’s the ahole. YOUR DOG TOLD YOU! No one is worth dumping your furbaby for … NO ONE!
During our pre-marriage counseling, our pastor told my future husband, "Never come between her and her dog! The dog will come first." He eventually loved the dog as much as I did.
Issuing that sort of ultimatum is a red flag, but all these comments imbuing the dog with some psychic powers of detecting rats are just plain wrong-headed. I'm an animal person. But I have a close friend who is just simply terrified of dogs. That fear is like announcing to a smaller creature, "I don't belong here!" Dogs respond with fear or protectiveness or even just nosiness. It's not a good situation.
He's not a jerk for hating dogs. I myself don't want dogs inside my house even though I like dogs. Turns out these 2 are just not compatible and that is okay. The jerk part of this is both of them making the breakup more dramatic than it needs to be. If you have kids and date someone who does not like kids then breaking up is valid and the same applies here. No one should expect another to choose them over the other important parts of their lives and I personally would lose all respect for someone who would comply. She should have told him that it was a deal breaker as soon as he told her he hated dogs. He should not have given her an ultimatum. Both should have bowed out of the relationship and moved on gracefully as both have valid feelings about animals.
I can safely say I am not much of a cat person (don't dislike them, I was just raise around dogs more) but if the guy/girl has a problem with fur-babies, he/she will need re-homing, preferably on a farm far, far, far away. So Brandy was right, OP needed to re-home the ex and good on her for doing so. Side note: My bro 4 life has a dog that barks at me whenever I'm visiting but just for about 5 minutes, then he will try to snuggle to make up for it (if he wasn't so cute, I'd probably be pretty darn POed seeing as he sees me once almost every two weekends XP) and despite being more of a dog person, an unofficial (neighbor doesn't actually keep them but feeds them nonetheless) neighbor's tabby cat and her two kits have been trying to snuggle at my feet or on my lap at every opportunity. So I am officially okay with any and every fur-baby at this point XD
Listen to your pets when they tell you they don't like someone! My cat took to my now-husband before we even started dating, lol. Onyx would let new people pet him but would reserve the honor of jumping into their lap for the third or fourth interaction. The first time he met my husband Onyx immediately started purring and rubbing and climbing on him. After the proposal, Onyx would nuzzle my engagement ring. Your pets will tell you who's good to have around or not.
My aunt had a Pyrenees. He is a gentle giant that is not easily moved. She told the family that on one of her nightwalks in the woods, she got scared from her own dog, because he started growling and barking to a man hidden behind a tree but because she was responsible fo her dog, she took him away out of fear he would attack. We heard it flabbergasted. She got a good dressing down about walking in the woods at night from her sisters and the dog was praised for his actions. She's a reasonable intelligent person but was stupefied by what we were telling her....
How could you even want to be in a relationship with a "man" who hates all animals? If a man is so hateful, don't have anything to do with him.
My ex husband once said its me or the cat...... He backed down when he realised it was the cat 🤣 He is LONG gone and Motherfuss and I enjoyed many more years together ❤️
I didn't even have to read this whole thing! LOL! I was like "bye bye a*****e!" "hit the bricks, prick!" Doggo knows! Doggo smells a rat!!!
I don't like dogs. I have never had one bark and/or growl at me. Dude's garbage. Throw him out.
I wish I had listened to my mother's cat. Cat hated my first husband. Kitty is crazy in love with my current husband. Good kitty!
My late cat wasn't to keen on my ex. First night he stayed over she let it be know by biting and digging her claws into to the family jewels. I really should of listen to her and dump him then and there, but didn't. 6 months he ghosted me.
My husband wasn't a pet person, he was not happy when I kept the cat I found or when I showed up with a deserted bunny (adopted a friend for her afterwards). He wad pissed off a whole week after the bunny incident. He feeds the bunnies every morning now and he is worried when the cat isn't home yet
I will ALWAYS trust the reaction of my pet to another human being. If my pet (dog or cat) doesn't like the human, then I KNOW there's something wrong with that person. I had a dog, years ago, that when we were walking he didn't want a stranger petting him. The stranger didn't do anything but hold out his hand for my dog (Kirby) to sniff. Kirby said "nope". I just told the guy that Kirby is shy and not used to strangers. The guy just walked away. Kirby then went back to his normal happy self.
I had a very timid cat that I adopted. He ran away from everyone. When my cat met my now significant other for the first time he took a shine to this new man. My SO is a really kind and loving man. I think that animals know.
When I was a young teen I was walking our dog Bear (black lab beagle mix: picture a black lab but with shorter legs than necessary). We were approaching a young man standing at the end of his driveway, and Bear started crying and muttering, tucking her tail up so tight it was as flat to her belly as it would go. She tried to pull me out off the sidewalk and into the street rather than walk past him. She'd never acted that way before, and I knew enough about the heeby jeebies to trust that her heebies were well and truly jeebied. We didn't take that street anymore after that.
If you don't love Gina, you don't love me. End of. I guess I wouldn't be compatible with any non-cat person ... but, lately, there's been a lot of people who got animal-hating spouses and search for the wrong in themselves ... what's wrong with them, is easily identified - they search the wrong in themselves. Where it won't be to be found at all.
ABSOLUTELY NOT THE A**HOLE!!! Animals can sense who is a good person and who isn't!! Trust in Brandy, she's protecting u
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