It’s not always easy giving gifts. Some people have a natural talent for it, others have to put in more work and thought. And some don’t even bother – a random candle will do. But what if a person tells you exactly what they want? All that’s left then are just a few clicks to order the present online, right?
As evident from this story, it’s not always as simple as this. One Redditor went to the r/TwoHotTakes subreddit to share her story about a Christmas gift from her boyfriend. She wanted to know whether her reaction to getting the wrong gift was appropriate or not, so she decided to ask the Internet’s opinion. Read the entire story and people’s reactions below.
The giving season is officially upon us. Unfortunately, with it also comes unwanted gifts
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What do you do when you ask for a specific gift but get something else?
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This is what the GF actually wanted
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And this is what the boyfriend got her
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Why do we take bad gifts so seriously?
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My first experience with bad gifts was in childhood. Teletubbies were pretty big in our household, so one year I remember asking Santa for a Po plushy. What I got instead was a Laa-Laa. If you were ever a fan of Teletubbies, you’d understand that there’s a big difference.
Either there were no Pos in the store or my parents just didn’t bother looking, but there was one lesson I learned that day – you don’t always get what you ask for. I wasn’t old enough to understand what I felt at that moment, but I now can recognize why it hurt. I felt like I wasn’t seen, like my wishes didn’t matter.
And that’s a very common problem that couples run into. Gifts can symbolize what each partner “gives” in the relationship. The one who doesn’t pay enough attention to give good, thoughtful gifts becomes the one who doesn’t try hard enough for the relationship to work.
Researchers have found that people perceive a bad gift as indicative of being misunderstood. What’s interesting is that the men who took part in the experiment took bad gifts worse than the women. They said receiving a bad gift makes them feel less close and more upset with their partner.
Receiving a gift is not about just getting new stuff. When we want a meaningful gift from our partner, we want to know that they’ve put thought and effort into it. That makes us feel like they “get” us.
Financial therapist Amanda Clayman told The Cut that “you want to be with a partner who is able to work with your preferences for how you feel loved. That’s a lot bigger than just wanting a person to buy you stuff.”
Avoiding arguments and hurt feelings is not that hard – partners just need to communicate
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A common misconception that couples have is that if your partner loves you, they should know what you want as a present. But, thinking realistically, can you really expect your significant other to read your mind?
Relationship expert Neil Wilkie told Metro that it’s important for couples to communicate on the issue. Either tell your partner what you want or try to nudge them in the right direction when they give you a bad gift. “If they are given feedback and subtle clues and still fail to get it then this is a clear sign that they are not understanding your needs,” Wilkie says.
Amanda Clayman suggests not to be too serious about gifts. They’re supposed to be fun, after all. “As an act of love, it isn’t necessarily about the gift itself. It’s more about wanting to feel like your partner really gets you. Make sure [they] understand that the gesture is the most important part.”
Another piece of advice that Wilkie had for Metro was to accept that some people just may be not great at gift-giving. “If your life with them is otherwise full of love, communication and connection then hold onto those positives and nurture them. Ask yourself, how important is that ‘stuff’ to you and what you can do to reduce the impact of their quirk of poor gift-buying.”
The reactions in the comments were mixed
Some people shared their own stories about how clueless men can be when buying gifts
The OP posted an update
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There was another update – the couple seems to have talked it out
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I know, right? Why isn't this weird thing called "communication" taught in schools or maybe even by parents? Although I guess if people actually discussed their problems with each other, there would be no reason for Reddit.
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Glad both parties communicated with each other and saw each others side in the end....you know the usual thing healthy couples do
I like these stories because even if it only helps one person make a change in the way they handle things in their own relationships, it's a good thing.
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I'm going to be the pedantic one here, but the image of what she wanted barely classifies as a suncatcher. The whole idea of a suncatcher is that it's usually a stained glass piece that reflects the colours into the room. It can work with crystals, but you need more than those 3-4 crystals for the full effect. Fair enough if it's what she wanted, but I'd just call that more of a hanging ornament than an actual suncatcher....
I thought he put "suncatcher" in the search bar and actual suncatcher came up so he picked one he thought was lovely. Because she kind of uses whatever term suits her whether it is correct or not. I'm glad they worked it out.
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Some people are really not good at choosing gifts. For my 50th I really wanted a specific type of bracelet. On my birthday I received the bracelet plus 3 other gifts that my husband was super proud about... a pair of scissors, a decent pen, and a tape measure. He said he remembered me saying that when I was a kid, these items were scarce in my house hold which is why I have so many of them now. He forgot about the part where i said have so many of them now, and thought I would be super appreciative. I said he did a good job this year in the gift department (because he remembered the bracelet, and attempted to get me something that I wanted as a child). But in my head I was laughing.. WTF? Scissors?
This is hilarious! At least he got you one thing you really wanted and something that made you laugh. Laughter is, after all, good for the soul!
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'in the echo chamber of women hating losers' What a perfect tag line for reddit. so glad I stopped visiting that cesspool years ago.
Also a great example of small, yet very important grammatic details. An "echo chamber of women-hating losers" is a chamber full of losers that hate women, but an "echo chamber of women hating losers" is a chamber full of women that hate losers. 😄
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I feel like someone who really isn't into this sort of thing really doesn't see much difference, hummingbird or butterflies
I don't think it's as much about the butterflies v humming birds. The picture she posted is more of a hanging thing with faceted glass balls that make prisms. I would not have thought of that as a suncatcher. I'd thing 2D glass window thing. He searched "suncatcher" and brought up suncatchers!
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Thank you to the comments for bringing to my attention that it would be nice for me to acquire something for my girlfriend's son to "give her" for Christmas since I doubt her ex husband ever did that
Even better if you can have him actually pick something out and wrap it for her.
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I actually bought a suncatcher just now from amazon to give to my best friend and when you search suncatcher on amazon there are several search results like the one he bought. Maybe he just thought they were even prettier. I get that it was not what she wanted but it doesn't look like weaponized incompetence to me. Plus doesn't amazon just deliver in boxes or envelopes labeled amazon? Especially around Christmas? How did she know what is was without actually opening it?
I think the hummingbird one is a lot nicer, but whatever.
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More on the comments left to OP - My dad has long given up trying to surprise my mom (married 63 years now). We joke that what do you get a woman who's hobby is shopping? (Side note, we call her shopping catch and release. She buys something, sees if it goes with what ever, and often times returns it.) For as long as I can remember, Christmas/Birthday presents have gone like this: Mom: "Do you want to see what you got me?" Dad will unwrap and say "Gee, don't I have good taste! I bet it is just what you wanted!!"
My husband for many years asked me what I wanted for Christmas. Eventually I pointed out that we have a joint bank account, if I have to tell him what to buy, I may as well get it myself, and then _its_not_a_gift_. If he cares he will pay attention to me and thereby find out what I like. Occasionally I have to remind him, but overall he has become a stellar gift giver. He just needed to be reminded that gift giving is about showing love, not accumulating stuff.
Why waste money on something that a person doesn't want or wouldn't use when you could either not get them anything & save that money... or actually get them the thing they asked for? Especially when they show you EXACTLY what they want. It's so dumb. You're not ungrateful just bc someone didn't care enough to listen to you & actually put in the energy to do something nice for you..... especially if you're a person who has a partner that does this all the time. That to me shows that they're just phoning it in. Which is always disappointing no matter what the situation is. I don't think OP was being ungrateful at all. They handled this very well... I would have felt the same way. My husband used to do this a lot & it was never intentional. He's just a man who doesn't pay attention to detail sometimes. After awhile I brought it up to him & he understood where I was coming from & it never happened again. Communication is everything. But so is being understanding!
Reactive abuse is sometimes the motivation. I used to give my ex a very specific list, where to purchase the items, exactly within his price range, etc. He'd pick random c**p he knew I would hate (because I'd told him what stuff I hated), and worse, it was always something huge and bulky I had no space to put up. So he'd get to first be upset that I didn't like it, then again that I didn't have it up in my tiny living space. And I was so broke then; I asked him for small things I desperately wanted but couldn't afford, like the latest book from my favourite author. Getting the books would have meant everything, but he insisted on those stupid, random pieces of c**p that he knew I hated. It got to the point where I'd cry after opening the gift. He got some malicious pleasure out of it. I don't know why I stayed with him.
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I'm glad they talked about it. I get where he's coming from. He did get her a suncatcher, which is what she asked for. And it is helpful that she sent images. It seems like he was doing what he was asked, but tried putting *more* thought into it so it wasn't like he was the middle man between her and Amazon. It strikes me as the opposite of negligence.
Why did the end turn into reddit being nothing but an echo chamber of woman hating losers? Some people agreed with her and some didn't and the boyfriend was clearly in the ballpark of what she asked for. So was he being not detail oriented enough not obedient enough not thoughtful enough or was she being overly picky or ungrateful? Tbh of the pictures shown, they are very different but the bird is imho prettier the the dangle crystal thing with the butterfly but categorically they are quite similar so I chalked it up to some folks often men being more big picture thinkers and other folks often women being more tiny detail thinkers...and the older you get at least as my experience as a woman, the more on your plate, the more big picture thinking you become but yes when I was younger I would be making sure the stitching on my jeans matched the socks which matched the earrings where now if I'm just wearing clean pants the day has a chance of turning out great.
If you go into the reddit post, sort comments by controversial, you'll see exactly what comments she was talking about. BP highlights the good ones, since they cant have them ol negative karma bugs on their site!
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I am sorry for you. The gift looked really thoughtful, he tried to get you something you wanted. He does not get your attitude of things. Should he?
No he didn't try, that wasn't anything close to what she wanted. She said she showed him photos, so based off her reaction, that looked nothing like what she wanted. Stained glass is not the same as what she wanted. I'm assuming you didn't even read the entire post, because we should stop normalizing getting our feelings hurt by incompetent gift buyers because they might get their feelings hurt, but that wouldn't happen if they would just buy the correct gift in the first place. Getting something like this shows you didn't listen or care. I'm so sick of gift buyers mentality. If someone doesn't like your gift because you didn't do your research, don't be mad. Just do better 🤷🏻♀️
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This might be the guy in me, but I hate people blatant showing others "buy me this". Where's the mystery¿ Where's seeing how well the other person knows you¿ I'm ok w/ hints. I'll do hints. And if it's "I want something like this", I try to not get that, but similar. To show I was paying attention, but can put my own spin on it.
Not the guy in you, just probably someone who hasn't had to deal with the people who's scarred from bad gifts. Surprise is fun and great, I like doing it too. But some things involve checking with people, especially if you're buying for someone else's kids (like I did this Christmas for my friend and her family).
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I think that of the two I would rather receive what he bought, than the ornament that OP wished for.
This reminds me of the time when I was in middle school saving money to buy a bicycle for my paper route. Not just any bicycle, I had the specific brand, model and color (which was overall silver/gray) and I made sure to let everyone know about it. Then one day my dad "surprised" me by buying me a totally different bicycle which had some blue but was mostly an obnoxious bright yellow color. Which I felt was totally inappropriate to give to a 11-12 year old boy given how boys of that age and time period were prone to picking on other boys who were misfortuned to have emblazoned on their stuff any colors considered "wimpy" or "corwardly".
If it makes you feel any better, I remember that year when the Teletubbies plushies were all the rage. It was a big deal to find one anywhere, and you usually spent a lot more on them than they were really worth. The only one I could find anywhere was a Laa Laa one. I paid $200 for it to give to a friend's son, only to find that my friend got him the exact same plushy! Your parents weren't trying to overlook what you wanted, they probably scrambled trying to find any Teletubby plushy anywhere, and were thrilled when they could buy Laa Laa for you (even if they probably, like me, didn't see the difference between Laa Laa and Po).
I thought they were both pretty, but only the hummingbird was a sun catcher.
Sooooo you decide to just ignore everything just because she states a fact at the end? Are you going to pretend that she didn't get dozens of sexist comments son her post? Obviously this isn't the original reddit post, so we will not see the entire comment section, but it's pretty clear you're a man and that you even see anyone call out mens awful behavior, you get tunnel vision and focus on that. Cope, I guess?
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Seems like communication is the simplest, and most obvious, answer... but please(!) let's make a derogatory post about how this "man" is incompetent. Yet, if she gets called out for her incompetence at communication, it's misogyny. (I fully expect, and accept, all the downvotes that are coming... because if there is two things I know about BP: any challenge toward a woman is misogyny and the definition of misandry is lost here.)
You missed a lot. I think that's why the downvotes. She called out not the people who said she was the jerk but the people who were being jerks to her in her reply. And yes she did use the wrong terms. But they've worked it out now and now she knows to be careful with her terms. And when talking to her BF she didn't make a big thing of it. Idk but that sounds like a happy ending to me. All sides are heard, he knows she doesn't like birds now (I hope) and she knows he genuinely tried but was mistaken. Ended well. But, again, sorry, no. The misogyny part wasn't calling her out, it was how some of them called her out; namely with a lot of insults or intended ones. Maybe next time go to the full post? Might help.
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"echo chamber of woman hating losers..." did you tell this story / make up this story / just because you wanted to use these words? -- Oh an also let's not forget, "weaponized incompetence" - grow up
Just backing up this whole story, you started dating (or whatever it's called these days) your boyfriend when you were 16 and you're living together. You need time to grow up, work or go to school, and learn about life. Get to know different guys before you move in together and see what qualities are important to you. Something like this item will not be so important in the big picture. BTW, I really like the one he bought you, but it's not for me, so I guess it's a really big deal for you.
That escalated quickly!!! "you all criticize me cause I'm a woman" is too much. It's reddit, what did you expect? People are encouraged to downvote, and YOU post on AITAH subreddit, where people flock for drama. And then you realise you don't like drama?!?!? Know yourself and the meduim you're using.
Wow. Okay, so it's kinda weird to get a gift that's not what you asked for when you asked for something super specific, but it's WAY WORSE to make inferences as to the REASON for that without first talking to your partner and then not only doing that, but POSTING IT ON REDDIT so the whole world can judge him before you even talk to him using something so charged as "weaponized inference"? That's a breach of trust. Especially since I'd bet dollars to donuts she didn't tell him she posted this in the first place and just let Reddit have at him.
Should Bored Panda change its name to Angry Females and clueless men? I always love the "am I the a*s**** for being an assh***" yes Karen you are.
strange how my father gets a gift from my mother every year and my mother doesn't get a gift from my father 🙃 this sort of dynamic is incredibly normalized to the point that people joke that women only get kitchen appliances as gifts from their husbands
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What?? How the fück did you infer any of that from this thread?
Load More Replies... I know, right? Why isn't this weird thing called "communication" taught in schools or maybe even by parents? Although I guess if people actually discussed their problems with each other, there would be no reason for Reddit.
Load More Replies... Glad both parties communicated with each other and saw each others side in the end....you know the usual thing healthy couples do
I like these stories because even if it only helps one person make a change in the way they handle things in their own relationships, it's a good thing.
Load More Replies... I'm going to be the pedantic one here, but the image of what she wanted barely classifies as a suncatcher. The whole idea of a suncatcher is that it's usually a stained glass piece that reflects the colours into the room. It can work with crystals, but you need more than those 3-4 crystals for the full effect. Fair enough if it's what she wanted, but I'd just call that more of a hanging ornament than an actual suncatcher....
I thought he put "suncatcher" in the search bar and actual suncatcher came up so he picked one he thought was lovely. Because she kind of uses whatever term suits her whether it is correct or not. I'm glad they worked it out.
Load More Replies... Some people are really not good at choosing gifts. For my 50th I really wanted a specific type of bracelet. On my birthday I received the bracelet plus 3 other gifts that my husband was super proud about... a pair of scissors, a decent pen, and a tape measure. He said he remembered me saying that when I was a kid, these items were scarce in my house hold which is why I have so many of them now. He forgot about the part where i said have so many of them now, and thought I would be super appreciative. I said he did a good job this year in the gift department (because he remembered the bracelet, and attempted to get me something that I wanted as a child). But in my head I was laughing.. WTF? Scissors?
This is hilarious! At least he got you one thing you really wanted and something that made you laugh. Laughter is, after all, good for the soul!
Load More Replies... 'in the echo chamber of women hating losers' What a perfect tag line for reddit. so glad I stopped visiting that cesspool years ago.
Also a great example of small, yet very important grammatic details. An "echo chamber of women-hating losers" is a chamber full of losers that hate women, but an "echo chamber of women hating losers" is a chamber full of women that hate losers. 😄
Load More Replies... I feel like someone who really isn't into this sort of thing really doesn't see much difference, hummingbird or butterflies
I don't think it's as much about the butterflies v humming birds. The picture she posted is more of a hanging thing with faceted glass balls that make prisms. I would not have thought of that as a suncatcher. I'd thing 2D glass window thing. He searched "suncatcher" and brought up suncatchers!
Load More Replies... Thank you to the comments for bringing to my attention that it would be nice for me to acquire something for my girlfriend's son to "give her" for Christmas since I doubt her ex husband ever did that
Even better if you can have him actually pick something out and wrap it for her.
Load More Replies... I actually bought a suncatcher just now from amazon to give to my best friend and when you search suncatcher on amazon there are several search results like the one he bought. Maybe he just thought they were even prettier. I get that it was not what she wanted but it doesn't look like weaponized incompetence to me. Plus doesn't amazon just deliver in boxes or envelopes labeled amazon? Especially around Christmas? How did she know what is was without actually opening it?
I think the hummingbird one is a lot nicer, but whatever.
Load More Replies... More on the comments left to OP - My dad has long given up trying to surprise my mom (married 63 years now). We joke that what do you get a woman who's hobby is shopping? (Side note, we call her shopping catch and release. She buys something, sees if it goes with what ever, and often times returns it.) For as long as I can remember, Christmas/Birthday presents have gone like this: Mom: "Do you want to see what you got me?" Dad will unwrap and say "Gee, don't I have good taste! I bet it is just what you wanted!!"
My husband for many years asked me what I wanted for Christmas. Eventually I pointed out that we have a joint bank account, if I have to tell him what to buy, I may as well get it myself, and then _its_not_a_gift_. If he cares he will pay attention to me and thereby find out what I like. Occasionally I have to remind him, but overall he has become a stellar gift giver. He just needed to be reminded that gift giving is about showing love, not accumulating stuff.
Why waste money on something that a person doesn't want or wouldn't use when you could either not get them anything & save that money... or actually get them the thing they asked for? Especially when they show you EXACTLY what they want. It's so dumb. You're not ungrateful just bc someone didn't care enough to listen to you & actually put in the energy to do something nice for you..... especially if you're a person who has a partner that does this all the time. That to me shows that they're just phoning it in. Which is always disappointing no matter what the situation is. I don't think OP was being ungrateful at all. They handled this very well... I would have felt the same way. My husband used to do this a lot & it was never intentional. He's just a man who doesn't pay attention to detail sometimes. After awhile I brought it up to him & he understood where I was coming from & it never happened again. Communication is everything. But so is being understanding!
Reactive abuse is sometimes the motivation. I used to give my ex a very specific list, where to purchase the items, exactly within his price range, etc. He'd pick random c**p he knew I would hate (because I'd told him what stuff I hated), and worse, it was always something huge and bulky I had no space to put up. So he'd get to first be upset that I didn't like it, then again that I didn't have it up in my tiny living space. And I was so broke then; I asked him for small things I desperately wanted but couldn't afford, like the latest book from my favourite author. Getting the books would have meant everything, but he insisted on those stupid, random pieces of c**p that he knew I hated. It got to the point where I'd cry after opening the gift. He got some malicious pleasure out of it. I don't know why I stayed with him.
Load More Replies... I'm glad they talked about it. I get where he's coming from. He did get her a suncatcher, which is what she asked for. And it is helpful that she sent images. It seems like he was doing what he was asked, but tried putting *more* thought into it so it wasn't like he was the middle man between her and Amazon. It strikes me as the opposite of negligence.
Why did the end turn into reddit being nothing but an echo chamber of woman hating losers? Some people agreed with her and some didn't and the boyfriend was clearly in the ballpark of what she asked for. So was he being not detail oriented enough not obedient enough not thoughtful enough or was she being overly picky or ungrateful? Tbh of the pictures shown, they are very different but the bird is imho prettier the the dangle crystal thing with the butterfly but categorically they are quite similar so I chalked it up to some folks often men being more big picture thinkers and other folks often women being more tiny detail thinkers...and the older you get at least as my experience as a woman, the more on your plate, the more big picture thinking you become but yes when I was younger I would be making sure the stitching on my jeans matched the socks which matched the earrings where now if I'm just wearing clean pants the day has a chance of turning out great.
If you go into the reddit post, sort comments by controversial, you'll see exactly what comments she was talking about. BP highlights the good ones, since they cant have them ol negative karma bugs on their site!
Load More Replies... I am sorry for you. The gift looked really thoughtful, he tried to get you something you wanted. He does not get your attitude of things. Should he?
No he didn't try, that wasn't anything close to what she wanted. She said she showed him photos, so based off her reaction, that looked nothing like what she wanted. Stained glass is not the same as what she wanted. I'm assuming you didn't even read the entire post, because we should stop normalizing getting our feelings hurt by incompetent gift buyers because they might get their feelings hurt, but that wouldn't happen if they would just buy the correct gift in the first place. Getting something like this shows you didn't listen or care. I'm so sick of gift buyers mentality. If someone doesn't like your gift because you didn't do your research, don't be mad. Just do better 🤷🏻♀️
Load More Replies... This might be the guy in me, but I hate people blatant showing others "buy me this". Where's the mystery¿ Where's seeing how well the other person knows you¿ I'm ok w/ hints. I'll do hints. And if it's "I want something like this", I try to not get that, but similar. To show I was paying attention, but can put my own spin on it.
Not the guy in you, just probably someone who hasn't had to deal with the people who's scarred from bad gifts. Surprise is fun and great, I like doing it too. But some things involve checking with people, especially if you're buying for someone else's kids (like I did this Christmas for my friend and her family).
Load More Replies... I think that of the two I would rather receive what he bought, than the ornament that OP wished for.
This reminds me of the time when I was in middle school saving money to buy a bicycle for my paper route. Not just any bicycle, I had the specific brand, model and color (which was overall silver/gray) and I made sure to let everyone know about it. Then one day my dad "surprised" me by buying me a totally different bicycle which had some blue but was mostly an obnoxious bright yellow color. Which I felt was totally inappropriate to give to a 11-12 year old boy given how boys of that age and time period were prone to picking on other boys who were misfortuned to have emblazoned on their stuff any colors considered "wimpy" or "corwardly".
If it makes you feel any better, I remember that year when the Teletubbies plushies were all the rage. It was a big deal to find one anywhere, and you usually spent a lot more on them than they were really worth. The only one I could find anywhere was a Laa Laa one. I paid $200 for it to give to a friend's son, only to find that my friend got him the exact same plushy! Your parents weren't trying to overlook what you wanted, they probably scrambled trying to find any Teletubby plushy anywhere, and were thrilled when they could buy Laa Laa for you (even if they probably, like me, didn't see the difference between Laa Laa and Po).
I thought they were both pretty, but only the hummingbird was a sun catcher.
Sooooo you decide to just ignore everything just because she states a fact at the end? Are you going to pretend that she didn't get dozens of sexist comments son her post? Obviously this isn't the original reddit post, so we will not see the entire comment section, but it's pretty clear you're a man and that you even see anyone call out mens awful behavior, you get tunnel vision and focus on that. Cope, I guess?
Load More Replies... Seems like communication is the simplest, and most obvious, answer... but please(!) let's make a derogatory post about how this "man" is incompetent. Yet, if she gets called out for her incompetence at communication, it's misogyny. (I fully expect, and accept, all the downvotes that are coming... because if there is two things I know about BP: any challenge toward a woman is misogyny and the definition of misandry is lost here.)
You missed a lot. I think that's why the downvotes. She called out not the people who said she was the jerk but the people who were being jerks to her in her reply. And yes she did use the wrong terms. But they've worked it out now and now she knows to be careful with her terms. And when talking to her BF she didn't make a big thing of it. Idk but that sounds like a happy ending to me. All sides are heard, he knows she doesn't like birds now (I hope) and she knows he genuinely tried but was mistaken. Ended well. But, again, sorry, no. The misogyny part wasn't calling her out, it was how some of them called her out; namely with a lot of insults or intended ones. Maybe next time go to the full post? Might help.
Load More Replies... "echo chamber of woman hating losers..." did you tell this story / make up this story / just because you wanted to use these words? -- Oh an also let's not forget, "weaponized incompetence" - grow up
Just backing up this whole story, you started dating (or whatever it's called these days) your boyfriend when you were 16 and you're living together. You need time to grow up, work or go to school, and learn about life. Get to know different guys before you move in together and see what qualities are important to you. Something like this item will not be so important in the big picture. BTW, I really like the one he bought you, but it's not for me, so I guess it's a really big deal for you.
That escalated quickly!!! "you all criticize me cause I'm a woman" is too much. It's reddit, what did you expect? People are encouraged to downvote, and YOU post on AITAH subreddit, where people flock for drama. And then you realise you don't like drama?!?!? Know yourself and the meduim you're using.
Wow. Okay, so it's kinda weird to get a gift that's not what you asked for when you asked for something super specific, but it's WAY WORSE to make inferences as to the REASON for that without first talking to your partner and then not only doing that, but POSTING IT ON REDDIT so the whole world can judge him before you even talk to him using something so charged as "weaponized inference"? That's a breach of trust. Especially since I'd bet dollars to donuts she didn't tell him she posted this in the first place and just let Reddit have at him.
Should Bored Panda change its name to Angry Females and clueless men? I always love the "am I the a*s**** for being an assh***" yes Karen you are.
strange how my father gets a gift from my mother every year and my mother doesn't get a gift from my father 🙃 this sort of dynamic is incredibly normalized to the point that people joke that women only get kitchen appliances as gifts from their husbands
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