“I Was Livid”: Man Puts Himself In Financial Jeopardy With $87K Truck, GF Refuses To Move In Anymore
There’s definitely more than one way to destroy a relationship. Classics involve cheating, lying, immaturity, and, probably the best of them all—stupidity.
More can be thrown in there, but, regardless, it would be a tad bit difficult to categorize throwing $87,000 into a truck without consulting your partner of 2 years right before you’re due to move in.
While it is tempting to buy a new toy to drive around in, it’s important to not lose sight of one’s financial priorities too
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That, alas, wasn’t the case when this boyfriend spent $87K on a truck behind his girlfriend’s back and now there’s issues
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For the time being, the woman decided to back out and take a break before it’s all sorted out
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The story goes that a woman recently found out that her boyfriend of 2 years went behind her back and bought an $87,000 truck.
For context, this was in light of the fact that they were moving in together very soon, and there were plans on marriage and all that jazz. Needless to say, that money would’ve been very helpful. He didn’t even need a truck.
Well, the woman wasn’t impressed when he showed her the truck. An argument ensued, leading to a break in the relationship. The guy’s friends tried to talk OP into “being more supportive”, but you can probably see how redonculous that sounds.
And folks in the comments were pretty much of the same opinion. Many praised OP for recognizing a bad situation when she saw it and putting herself first. Some suspected that the guy was hoping she’d cover the other expenses while he pays off the truck. And it’s behavior that leads to a Ferrari one day.
Finances are a huge part of any committed relationship and impulse buys to that degree have no place in them
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Family finances and budgeting are a huge topic that’s widely discussed by many. If that part is not sorted out by the couple, it can leave them feeling stressed and financially vulnerable.
Budgeting and being smart about family money is the surest way to ensure financial stability because knowing your realistic monetary numbers means being sure the family needs, savings and emergencies are all covered. Future goals too.
Approaching this transparently is a must. Open communication on the topic is a way for families to bond, voice opinions, be heard, and reach decisions together. This in turn can foster a financial discipline that can serve as a great way to teach the kids about financial commitments and responsibility.
But you gotta talk about it. That is key.
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Folks online were quick to support the woman, expressing their thoughts and suggestions on how to proceed
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Wow, she was so very lucky he did that before they moved in an not a few months down the line when she would have felt a bit trapped. Very smart woman to not go through with the move
I was thinking the same. It's good when they wave their red flags before you're too committed.
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Yes, but, what is with men and big expensive trucks that they don't need? Even if they do need a truck for their job, I'm sure they could buy a used, moderately sized, no frills one. It's just a, "Hey, look at me and my big expensive truck. I want all my man baby guy friends to "ooh and aah." If I met a guy with a truck like that and he said he works in an office, I think I would nope out. He would have to have a good reason to have a truck like that.
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"You're going to pay for me to live, so I can pay for my toys!" Boy, bye!
The type of woman who tries to shame another for having healthy boundaries... is never a credible source of support.
Unless he makes >$300K or so a year that's a completely moronic purchase. I'll bet he gets to meet a repo man in person relatively soon.
OP dodged a nuclear missile with this one. Buying an $87,000 truck isn't a red flag, it's the whole darn parade! Had OP moved in with this loser, her credit rating would have been c**p, her finances drained, and she would be living from hand to mouth. Let the fool enjoy his new toy; it'll be lots of fun--until the bills start piling up.
I hope for him that he can bang his multi function truck, because he's an idiot and if she's smart, OP will dump his sorry a*s.
You can not buy a vehicle at a dealership and then return it, they will not take it back. They may offer to buy the vehicle back at a used car price, but you will not get the price you paid. Source: My husband has been the General Manager of a car Dealership for 20 years.
This was my question too. Thanks for clarifying. Also in California, there is a lemon law. That's only if something is wrong and you only have 3 days to return.
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Yes, since they're not married, it's his money, and he can do whatever he wants to do with it, even it's making stupid decisions with it (and this qualifies). Now that I have that out of the way, she is absolutely doing the right thing by breaking up with him. He has shown he's not ready to be in a long term relationship. Maybe some day he'll grow up and make better decisions, but he's not there yet.
Glad she found this out now before they possibly got married. he would forever be doing things like this with "our" money
I have the utmost respect for you. If you had moved in, he would have saddled you with crippling debt, I'm sure. As for people saying 'stand by your man', only when the truck had been a mutual decision and it wasn't. It's his decision, his responsibility, his mess to clean up. Just cut him loose.
What an idiot. You could argue that *technically* he was right in that it was his money. I mean, at that point they weren't living together and they weren't married. However, being technically right means absolutely nothing here. There is a lot of selfishness and a complete absence of common sense on his part. It's good when the red flags come out before any big steps have been taken.
It was his money that he could spend because he was counting on her money. That is not how ownership works.
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Ok, so I have not driven in 12 years. 87k, 60k, um....are these normal prices for vehicles nowadays?! WTAF?!
According to OP, this is a truck with all the trimmings and special features this a*****e could think of.
Load More Replies... You are a very wise, wise girl! Stick to your guns! Do not give in to this, you won't have a life. He is NOT thinking things through, and more important, this is not someone you can build a steady life with (which is very much needed if you would go on and have kids). Stay strong!
If it was an $8.70 truck from Hot Wheels or Mattel, then yes, perhaps OP would be over-reacting. But in this case, OP would be right to break up with that impulsive imbecile and tell him to truck off out of her life. Those that supported that manchild can go move in with him and pay the lion's share of everything while having to look at an 87k mistake out in the driveway, see how they like it -_-
He is a fool to spend that much money on anything that someone else will run into in a parking lot, but she should have picked up on his immaturity long before this happened.
This could be the first time he was this immature with his money though. I don't think it's fair to say she should have noticed sooner. Sometimes people pretend to be more mature than they are while dating but you see another side of them when things get more serious and you move in together.
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I would love to see what all these friends of his and their womenfolk would have said to him had the GF gone out on a shopping spree and bought 87k worth of clothing, jewellery, shoes, make-up, lingerie. Methinks they would have had a very different reaction and told him to end things pronto
Smart of her not to move in with this guy! The people defending his moronic behavior are more than welcome to live with him and supplement his lifestyle because he "needs" a big truck. My gross income is about $12K less than what this truck costs but I would never spend that much on a vehicle unless I win the lottery because I'm not an idiot. I was driving a 19-year-old car until it got too expensive to fix until about 6 months and now, I drive a 10-year-old car that is in good condition. Anyway, this guy's problems are self-inflicted and OP is wise to break up with him and not mingle her finances with him.
I did this, and it almost destroyed our marriage. It put us in debt for years. Our first Christmas together, living over 1,000 miles from our home state, I decided to get everything on my wife's dream list. I spent over $20,000 (in 1988), running up debt like there was no tomorrow. Huge regret now, but we got through it. I'm incredibly lucky she didn't kick me out.
Wow, she was so very lucky he did that before they moved in an not a few months down the line when she would have felt a bit trapped. Very smart woman to not go through with the move
I was thinking the same. It's good when they wave their red flags before you're too committed.
Load More Replies... Yes, but, what is with men and big expensive trucks that they don't need? Even if they do need a truck for their job, I'm sure they could buy a used, moderately sized, no frills one. It's just a, "Hey, look at me and my big expensive truck. I want all my man baby guy friends to "ooh and aah." If I met a guy with a truck like that and he said he works in an office, I think I would nope out. He would have to have a good reason to have a truck like that.
Load More Replies... "You're going to pay for me to live, so I can pay for my toys!" Boy, bye!
The type of woman who tries to shame another for having healthy boundaries... is never a credible source of support.
Unless he makes >$300K or so a year that's a completely moronic purchase. I'll bet he gets to meet a repo man in person relatively soon.
OP dodged a nuclear missile with this one. Buying an $87,000 truck isn't a red flag, it's the whole darn parade! Had OP moved in with this loser, her credit rating would have been c**p, her finances drained, and she would be living from hand to mouth. Let the fool enjoy his new toy; it'll be lots of fun--until the bills start piling up.
I hope for him that he can bang his multi function truck, because he's an idiot and if she's smart, OP will dump his sorry a*s.
You can not buy a vehicle at a dealership and then return it, they will not take it back. They may offer to buy the vehicle back at a used car price, but you will not get the price you paid. Source: My husband has been the General Manager of a car Dealership for 20 years.
This was my question too. Thanks for clarifying. Also in California, there is a lemon law. That's only if something is wrong and you only have 3 days to return.
Load More Replies... Yes, since they're not married, it's his money, and he can do whatever he wants to do with it, even it's making stupid decisions with it (and this qualifies). Now that I have that out of the way, she is absolutely doing the right thing by breaking up with him. He has shown he's not ready to be in a long term relationship. Maybe some day he'll grow up and make better decisions, but he's not there yet.
Glad she found this out now before they possibly got married. he would forever be doing things like this with "our" money
I have the utmost respect for you. If you had moved in, he would have saddled you with crippling debt, I'm sure. As for people saying 'stand by your man', only when the truck had been a mutual decision and it wasn't. It's his decision, his responsibility, his mess to clean up. Just cut him loose.
What an idiot. You could argue that *technically* he was right in that it was his money. I mean, at that point they weren't living together and they weren't married. However, being technically right means absolutely nothing here. There is a lot of selfishness and a complete absence of common sense on his part. It's good when the red flags come out before any big steps have been taken.
It was his money that he could spend because he was counting on her money. That is not how ownership works.
Load More Replies... Ok, so I have not driven in 12 years. 87k, 60k, um....are these normal prices for vehicles nowadays?! WTAF?!
According to OP, this is a truck with all the trimmings and special features this a*****e could think of.
Load More Replies... You are a very wise, wise girl! Stick to your guns! Do not give in to this, you won't have a life. He is NOT thinking things through, and more important, this is not someone you can build a steady life with (which is very much needed if you would go on and have kids). Stay strong!
If it was an $8.70 truck from Hot Wheels or Mattel, then yes, perhaps OP would be over-reacting. But in this case, OP would be right to break up with that impulsive imbecile and tell him to truck off out of her life. Those that supported that manchild can go move in with him and pay the lion's share of everything while having to look at an 87k mistake out in the driveway, see how they like it -_-
He is a fool to spend that much money on anything that someone else will run into in a parking lot, but she should have picked up on his immaturity long before this happened.
This could be the first time he was this immature with his money though. I don't think it's fair to say she should have noticed sooner. Sometimes people pretend to be more mature than they are while dating but you see another side of them when things get more serious and you move in together.
Load More Replies... I would love to see what all these friends of his and their womenfolk would have said to him had the GF gone out on a shopping spree and bought 87k worth of clothing, jewellery, shoes, make-up, lingerie. Methinks they would have had a very different reaction and told him to end things pronto
Smart of her not to move in with this guy! The people defending his moronic behavior are more than welcome to live with him and supplement his lifestyle because he "needs" a big truck. My gross income is about $12K less than what this truck costs but I would never spend that much on a vehicle unless I win the lottery because I'm not an idiot. I was driving a 19-year-old car until it got too expensive to fix until about 6 months and now, I drive a 10-year-old car that is in good condition. Anyway, this guy's problems are self-inflicted and OP is wise to break up with him and not mingle her finances with him.
I did this, and it almost destroyed our marriage. It put us in debt for years. Our first Christmas together, living over 1,000 miles from our home state, I decided to get everything on my wife's dream list. I spent over $20,000 (in 1988), running up debt like there was no tomorrow. Huge regret now, but we got through it. I'm incredibly lucky she didn't kick me out.
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