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“Crumple Your Raffle Tickets”: 30 Life Moves That Work So Well They Feel Like Hidden Game Glitches
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While it’s always admirable to be self-sufficient, to learn as you go and get creative, you’d have to be pretty block-headed to ignore the experiences of ideas of people separate from yourself. Other folk’s mistakes aren’t the only thing you can learn from.
Someone asked “What are the real-life cheat codes that work almost every time?” and people shared their useful tips, tricks and secrets. We also got in touch with the netizen who made the post to learn more. So make sure you take some notes, get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to post your own ideas and examples in the comments below.
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#1
Don’t listen to criticism from someone you would not ask for advice.
sofacushionfort 7 months ago
So you’re suggesting we use the same standard that men traditionally used on women?
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#2
Had a young woman working for me. We worked closely together on a number of projects, so we got to know each other, warts and all. She was a very capable person, but there were times when she could be a PITA. But EVERYBODY at work, from the CEO to the loading dock, LOVED her. I asked her one time why everyone loves her the way they do. She said that whenever an interaction with someone else is ending, no matter what it was about, even if it was contentious, she always said/did something nice to/about that person. That way, she said, the last thought they had of her was a positive one. Now that I knew that was her trick, I started looking for it when we were in larger meetings/groups. Sure enough, she did it, and did it sincerely. Real life application of Angelou's "They may not remember what you say, but people will remember how you made them feel.
#3
I had a boss who would always make a show of turning her phone over and physically turning away from her computer screen when I came to ask her something. Always made me feel valued and that I was important enough to commit 100% of her attention to. I committed to copy this in my personal and business life - it’s a game changer. I now never hold my phone when anyone asks me a question.
Problem Solvered 5 months ago
Unlike my boss who will continue to stare at her computer screen for 30 seconds before she even acknowledges your presence in her office. Took me a couple of times to realise it's just a power play.
Bored Panda got in touch with the person who asked this question the first place and they were kind enough to share some more details with us. We were curious to hear what prompted them to make the post.
"Lately, I’ve been down the rabbit hole of real-life cheat codes on YouTube, and a bunch of them actually worked. I figured the Reddit community would have some great ones to share, so I posted the question out of curiosity."
#4
When a task seems too big to start and kind of overwhelming, I’ll give myself a five minute assignment of working on it before I do something else. Five minutes of prep work, five minutes of research, five minutes of cleaning… It’s easier to be overwhelmed by an entire task than it is to be overwhelmed by just working on it for five minutes at a time, And sometimes you get to the end of that five minutes and find a little bit of gas in your tank you didn’t have before.
Verena 7 months ago
When the pressure is too high, bullshitting some jobs are totally fibe. Just hoover the main area, skip the nooks. Wash clothes, put them in the dryer and just fold them - they will be clean and unless it is business shirts/blouses, nobody will notice that they are not pressed.
#5
Never, never, never be rude to a secretary (or receptionist). ALWAYS be nice to the secretary. No matter if it is at a company you work for or one you are visiting. The secretary can make or break you.
Need to cut through red tape? Who do you think manages most of it? Your paperwork can go through quickly or can sit on a desk for a few days... or even get "lost".
Back in university, I needed a paper signed by several faculty. I knew some didn't like each other and some were only in at certain times of the day. I asked the department secretary for advice on who to approach and when - rather than give me that info, she said "just leave it with me, come back this afternoon". Saved me a lot of time (she really did not need to do this, but we were friendly), and every one of the faculty would sign anything she told them to.
I've also seen a guy destroy himself. I was working and we were doing interviews. I walked in to the CEO's office - he was just finishing an interview with a candidate. Never found out how it went - the CEO's secretary walked in and told him "if you hire the guy that just left, I quit.". The CEO gave her a questioning look, but she simply put up a hand to indicate "not saying any more". CEO tore the guys resume in half and theatrically put it in the garbage. Secretary walked back to her desk. I never did find out what he had said or done to her, but he trashed his interview before it even started.
Zaach 7 months ago
I think it is because many people see the secretary as a drone rather than a person and behave badly towards them
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Andi 7 months ago
Always be friendly to the ones with the keys - cleaners, porters, whoever. It's the decent thing to do, and they know everything and every short cut in getting things done. We were interviewing for a manager's post - some really good candidates but we gave veto to the to receptionists ( one male, one female, both relatively young). Two candidates were described as 'rude' or 'condescending' and one tried to go all alfa on my male colleague - three out of the running.
Mabelbabel 7 months ago
Being nice to someone just because you want something from them isn't the flex the OP seems to think it is. You should be polite and pleasant anyway, because they're human beings who deserve to be treated respectfully no matter what strings they can pull for you.
WindySwede 7 months ago
My first work after uni there was a lady hwo could fix anything. She must have known where the bodies where buried, cause she could fix anything.
Wendy Miller 7 months ago
The reason you don't want to be rude to the secretary/receptionist/admin is because we are the gatekeepers. We are also the ones who do the work that keeps the business running. We often have the ear of higher ups or their assistants. We also know all the janitorial staff, mail carriers, delivery drivers, etc. It pays to be nice to us. We also can tell if you are a jerk or not simply by how you treat us.
Lorraine Matson 7 months ago
My daughter was a receptionist and then office manager, and she told me the same thing that if someone was rude to her when they'd arrive for an interview or while trying to make a sale, she could guarantee they'd be blackballed.
Verena 7 months ago
Be polite to everybody. But be especially polite to the people in the basrment and get forgotten. The print shop, the supplies magazine, the maintenance technicians, the cleaners and janitors, the chauffeurs... they will come to the rescue and will let you look good if you need it.
Cindy Brick 7 months ago
Probably asked her -- in a very autocratic tone -- to get him a coffee. I HATED that as a secretary.
#6
When you are walking somewhere at work, carry a piece of paper, glance at it occasionally like it’s important. Everyone will assume you are doing something.
This can also work as a student in HS btw.
Zaach 7 months ago
when I was in C&E battalion I learned the art of carrying a clipboard and looked pissed - I was often left to my own devices
Doug FM 3 months ago
YES this totally worked, I was a big fan of that one.
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The thread ended up with thousands of comments, so we wanted to hear why they thought it was so popular. "I think it resonated with people because everyone loves the idea of having an edge in life, and there's another reason — many experienced redditors uses little tricks like these in their lives, and this post was a great way to ask for them and start implementing them."
#7
I think I just found one by accident for travel. Trains
Hear me out. I hate flying, the stress of getting to the airport waiting in line TSA. Uncomfortable seats and the rushed nature of the whole experience.
I’m on an Amtrak right now. They have full dining and bedrooms you can take. The cafe I figured would have little snacks, nope they’ve got burgers breakfast sandwiches and a menu bigger than I’ve seen at actual food places for reasonable prices.
Seats are comfortable, like first class comfortable on a plane for a fraction of the cost, and I’m the cheapest one. There’s chargers where some airlines I’ve taken didn’t have them. The ONLY downside is it takes longer to get where you’re going but it’s so enjoyable I wish my trip was longer and it’s 5 hours. I may never fly again.
Gingersnap In Iowa 7 months ago
I've traveled on Amtrak from Iowa to California twice. Yes, it takes longer than flying but it's cheaper and seating is better.
LuckyL 7 months ago
If it's a 5 hour train ride, I doubt that you'll be that much faster by plane - when you calculate being early for the flight and getting to and from to airport in (they are often more remote than train stations)
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White Sauce Hot Sauce 7 months ago
I'll remember this tip when they finally build a rail line from North America to Europe and Asia.
Cora Van der Gaag 7 months ago
You then watch the fishes if you do that. Unfortunately there is a lot of water between.
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Jack Sonol 7 months ago
EXTREMELY limitedly useful advice. I'm trying to help my mother plan her next vacation and taking an Amtrak would take three days and it's almost the price of a plane ticket. Flight would be three or four hours. Driving would be two days and cheaper. This is only good advice if you're going directly from one major city to another over a relatively short distance. The longer the trip, the more time you lose on the train.
Harry Gondalf 7 months ago
Concur. See bbd0d0007a...b1fe63.jpg 
Public transportation (as well as housing, health care, etc) is something the USA could really stand to improve.
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
I've been on 2 Amtrak trains - opposite ends of the spectrum. One was crowded, loud, dark and grimy, no space for bags and had a vending machine type "dining room" . The one coming home was quiet, clean, had room for our bags. I didn't dare look for dining. It's also MORE expensive than flying.
Kathleen Pearlman 6 months ago
I once took a Amtrak from Newark to Washington DC. Going was a terrible experience - worse than any flight I've taken - the food was simply terrible and the seats were like a plane -and impossible to fit luggage in the "overhead". The trip back was a dream, although We were afraid to try the food. Depends on where and when you are traveling - and how much you are willing to pay, I guess.
#8
Being really nice to customer service reps. Sounds basic, but it’s wild how often you get upgraded, refunded, or helped way faster just by being cool to the person who deals with everyone’s anger all day.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
I know their day probably sucks so I always leave them laughing. It has much the same effect, although I do it for the person, not the bennies.
Zaach 7 months ago
When I worked the phones for the IRS, I always tried to get them to laugh; one called, very angry so I made a joke (about black helicopters) and he started to laugh then got angry that he laughed
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Rafael 7 months ago
I learned this sooner in my adult life. Later on I learned that being nice is its own reward - hear me out: lashing out costs energy and takes a toll on your mental health - a tiny one, but think of all the interactions you have during your day. Being nice takes less energy, but it lifts your spirit - again, often a tiny fraction, but it adds up.
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
According to science, it also makes tiny permanent changes in your brain. It might feel good in the moment to be a dpuchebag but in the long run you'll basically be accumulating brain damage.
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I work as customer service. Just today had lady calling to complain about something, not being resolved for few weeks. Yes, this falls on is. All while I tried to get some more information or explain to her what's going on, she kept talking and berating whole department. I politely asked to let me speak, after second sentence again interrupted me. It ended up her calling me an a-hole and slamming phone. I could do a little to help resolve her case, but with that attitude you won't get anywhere.
Cora Van der Gaag 7 months ago
Those sort of people only try to make you scared. They think that gives them power.
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Spidercat 7 months ago
Again nonsense. Be really nice to everyone... Which would include the limited strata of society who work in customer service.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
The point is that many people are nice to those they view as having power or influence while being rude, disrespectful, or dismissive towards those they view as peons such as customer service reps or secretaries. So, no, it isn’t “nonsense” to remind people to be nice to them, too.
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JayWantsACat 7 months ago
Unless they're just overtly bad, lying, etc. I always understand that it's company policy, not them, and they've probably had dozens of really bad calls already that day. So, I'm polite, kind, understanding, and try to make a joke or two. Customer service sucks so I never want to be another customer who sucks.
Peter H 7 months ago
One thing I realized a long time ago - I'd already figured out to be nice to customer service folks. But one time, I was seriously angry. I'd already been given the run around and then hung up on by the previous rep before I could even get started. So I explained "Before we start, I want you to know that I'm really frustrated right now, and it really has nothing to do with you. I apologize in advance if I get snippy." We had a great call, and she was committed from the start to make whatever she could right. If I'd just been angry AT her, I'm sure it would have gone differently!
Kate Johnson 6 months ago
My husband and I have always done that. I'm angry, and there's a problem, but I'm not mad at them and I'm sorry that there is a problem in the first place, because I hate bothering people to begin with.
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I'm on the spectrum and sometimes get very frustrated. If I'm rude or mean I always apologize.
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
I'm pretty nice to customer service reps, but give up niceness when they keep giving me the same script and "apologizing" for making me wait. The accents bother me, too, because I find them increasingly harder to understand.
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
I do this but have never gotten anything out of it but satisfaction. My first few jobs were customer service and I know how big of a difference it makes when someone is kind and patient while you try to help them.
Uncle Schmickle 7 months ago
Being nice / funny at supermarket check - outs, livens up the poor operator's day.
#9
"You can't control other people, you can only control your response" is a mantra I breathe daily.
ChickyChicky 7 months ago
"Tim you said we were going to the biker bar, not the beach!"
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tom (bat/man) 6 months ago
black top red pants, red top black skirt......wake up to a brand new day, to find your dreams are washed away INXS (unofficial lyrics)
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
This! I try (as many parents do) to instill many lessons in my kids, but if there's just one, this is it!!
"That's why I got a lot of valuable comments, and I'm definitely going to use them. The variety and quality of responses definitely helped boost its popularity, and I think a lot of readers appreciated how surprisingly insightful these answers were. And these cheatcodes can work for most of the people, I think that is also the reason for its popularity," they shared with Bored Panda.
#10
Crumple your raffle tickets, slightly uncrumple them before dropping them in, I win a lot of raffles.
Cindy Brick 7 months ago
Fold and crease your business card when dropping it in a "win a free lunch" bowl at a restaurant. Also helps a lot!
Lulu Waters 7 months ago
So now everyone is going to crumple their tickets and yours won’t be special anymore lol
Mark Kelly 4 months ago (edited)
I heard the opposite if you sign a form for an entry and put it in you keep it big so it's easier to grab because some people fold there's small.
Mike Beck 7 months ago
Lay a sheet of paper flat on the counter. Lay a crumbled ball of paper on the counter. Which one is easier to grab? Especially blindly.
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Go out of your way to ensure you get enough sleep, it is the secret seasoning of life.
Billo66 7 months ago
About 6 months after being diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma I started waking up at 3am on the dot every single day. Does not matter when I go to sleep. I finally decided that must be when the experiments are over and the aliens put me back to bed. I might pin a note to my shirt saying as long as I'm here, can you please fix this cancer sh1t?
Marleina Hershberg 7 months ago (edited)
LMFAO; IF ONLY IT WERE THAT EASY!!! I don't keep waking up on purpose, sweetheart!! I don't choose to have disturbing dreams or random headaches, and I don't choose to have allergies that pop up whenever they want to!!
#12
Quickly build a meaningful relationship w someone:
1.) Compliment them on something they do well. Be as specific as possible.
2.) Ask them for advice on how you can also do this thing well, just like them.
3.) Actually listen intently to their advice and apply it.
4.) Follow back up with them and share the great results you experienced by applying their advice.
5.) They will love you, root for you, go out of their way to help you, and will always give you the benefit of the doubt when you f**k up. Hell, they may even offer their daughter's hand in marriage. So, only do this w people who you want a genuine relationship with. Its that powerful.
There is not a single person on this planet who is impervious to this tactic if done sincerely.
Phantom Phoenix 7 months ago
"Hawkeye" (Alan Alda) on MASH... "Sincerity? I can fake that"
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Uncle Panda 7 months ago (edited)
"Oh look, a fake intro. I wonder where she's going with this."
Andreas Deml 7 months ago
Sounds very awkward to me, unless you are a real good actor. Then it sounds just normally awkward.
Mike Beck 7 months ago
I strongly dislike people in general (not really the people, just that they're in my perception), pick apart ads for the things they aren't quite saying and when they appear to be lying, am cynical about compliments in general but this tactic would probably even adjust my viewpoint if it seems sincere. It wouldn't make me any warmer towards you but it would cause hesitation before I got colder.
Lastly, they shared their favorite comment and some parting thoughts. "One that stood out to me was someone saying, "When you do hard work, you get luckier", I'm amazed how people think so creatively. I’m really honored the post reached so many people—over 7 million views! It’s amazing how a simple question turned into a massive pool of life advice. I’m glad it brought value to so many readers."
#13
Something I learned as a teenager
When complimenting women you don't know or perhaps just aren't close to, as a man, compliment something they had active control over. Say, a choice in eye-makeup. Or perhaps color-coordination of their outfit. Even a logo.
Complimenting body parts is risky as you don't really know in what ways that person might feel insecure about themselves, AND, it shows you're actively creeping.
Every time I tell a woman her nails look cool, their faces light up. I like being remembered as the guy that noticed something she went out of her way to do.
DrBronxx 7 months ago
It wouldn't even enter my head to compliment someone's body parts in this sort of situation. What an incredibly intimate thing to do.
Deborah B 7 months ago
Even complements on things like eye colour and hair colour can be offputting for women.
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Kate Priestley 7 months ago (edited)
How about complimenting them on something they've said or done instead of just the way they look?
Trophy Husband 7 months ago
If you aren't dating or married to them, you should not compliment their body.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
Yep, one boss I had always complimented a woman's shoes - and it was always well received!
tom (bat/man) 6 months ago
kind of like........"your eyelashes are amazing, you look like a giraffe"...."i like the way you told me to get lost for being a creep"
Kate Johnson 6 months ago (edited)
There was a guy who noticed my nails after I'd done them, and my husband had said that nobody will notice if they aren't done. No, but writing twenty feet of our door, a young guy complimented my nails! Said his girlfriend did nails so he always made a point of looking at nails and complimenting people with nice ones. Talked for like five minutes, never saw him again, but boy did that made me feel good!
#14
Being kind, patient and polite is far more effective at getting what you actually want when compared to being abrasive and rude.
Juade C 6 months ago
If you want to catch fruit flies put cider vinegar in a cup covered with plastic with a few small holes. They’re very attracted to vinegar. They will go into the holes but can’t get out.
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#15
When dealing with an angry customer the best thing you can do is actively listen. Let them have their say, make notes and then go over their grievances when they run out of steam (they will eventually, I promise). Most angry customers just want to be heard. I've had customers go from shouting to cheerfully shooting the breeze after a few minutes.
Rafael 7 months ago (edited)
Related to my other comment elsewhere in this list, I worked in a customer facing job a few times. One of those times I worked alongside two older guys. We were located across a hall where people would often mistake us for some other department that was very obviously not us. The first colleague was short with every dúmb soul that reached us by mistake - and so was I, young and impatient. The second one was cheerful, helped them along and chit chatted when possible. A few months in, I asked the second fellow why was he so nice with those dimwits. "Everyone that comes here will see me once and move along, but I'll see hundreds of them. Being rude will make them fight back, being nice will make them move along faster. Besides, I prefer to end my day with 100 good interactions, instead of 100 fights". I never forgot that. Changed my tune, and now I value not fúcking up my day with pointless rudeness when nice work so much better for everyone.
Paulette Morrison 4 months ago
I spent some time as executive assistant to the Mayor of the Council. My job meant every irate ratepayer who demanded to speak to the Mayor was put through to me. They started out wanting to rip my head off. My technique was to quietly and thoroughly listen to their complaints. I told them I wasn't sure if I could get things changed for them but I would honestly try my best. I assured them I would call back with the results. They went away contented that I would try. I always rang them back, preferably within 2 hours to update them with a yes, no, or I'm still working on it. We mostly ended up friends.
tom (bat/man) 6 months ago
excuse yourself politely and say that you really have to got to the toilet before something bad happens in your pants
Uncle Schmickle 7 months ago
My Dad taught me how to defuse a confrontation, is to agree with the person. They simply don't know what to do or say. Then you can gradually get them around to listening to your side of the story. Also, there are ALWAYS 2 sides to every story.
#16
If you act confident — even if you’re faking it — people rarely question you. Confidence is basically the human version of pressing “up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A, start.”.
The Majestic Opossum 7 months ago
This is the worst advice. I did that for years in my 20s and I don't recommend it. Candor and humility works much better to form bonds and actually make you more confident. Not just faking it through life.
Lady Eowyn 7 months ago
This always reminds me of the time, back in the 80s, when I was photographing a friend at the Washington International Horse Show. I had a camera with a long lens and flash attachment (turned off) and a handbag as large as some of the equipment bags of the pros. I was not authorized to be where I was, but acted like I belonged there and nobody bothered me. A kid with a point-and-shoot tried to stand next to me but security gently told her she couldn't be there. I smiled at the security guy and shook my head, like, some people. And he smiled. And my friend liked her pictures.
Cindy Brick 6 months ago
Act like you know what you're doing -- do the research and practice -- and eventually you will.
Andreas Deml 7 months ago
Yeah, could work, if the person you interact with, doesn't know anything about the issue. Will backfire hurtfully if they do though.
Uncle Schmickle 7 months ago
My late Aunt said don't feel or act as someone who lacks confidence or feels inferior. " Walk into a place as though you own it ". But be polite too.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago (edited)
Having retired after 50 years and ~7 occupations, I realized that I never really knew what I was talking about. When asked, I say I retired from the Imposter Syndrome Industry. It was mostly confidence and that I talk faster than other folks could follow, so they assumed I knew what I was doing.
#17
The s**t people talk about others behind their back always has a way to get back to the victim of the s**t-talk. I realized this and, though I’ve never been one for backbiting, I actively started saying nice things about people behind their back.
I’m not sure I have a good metric of whether it works as a “cheat code”, but personally I would sure feel great if somebody told me something nice a co-worker or colleague or friend said about me when I wasn’t around.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
Say nice things about people behind their backs and you will get a reputation as a good friend. Say the 'nasty' things to their face in private and get any bad blood out of the way.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
"I don't like to gossip. It makes me wonder what you say about me when I'm not around." I have never had to repeat that to an individual. 100% effective.
patricia patricia 7 months ago (edited)
I think we have to be sincere. Only say good things about people if you really feel them, and only say bad things about people if those things are facts that could affect other people. If you don't have anything relevant to say, don't say it. Keep your opinions and judgements to yourself. I mean, if a know a person will harm you, I'll tell you. But if I don't like like a person for whatever subjective reason, I won't say anything to other people, and perhaps, depends on the situation, I'll talk to that person and see if we can work it out. However, if I know somebody is talking behind my back, they'd better be ready for retaliation, because I'll discredit them as much as possible.
Little Bit 7 months ago
When my daughters were at primary school there was one mum who seemed to be so friendly and so popular. She always wanted to be the centre of attention among all the other mums and they flocked around her. The thing about her was that she was very vocal and you usually heard her before you saw her. I didn't like her that much so I kept to myself and kept out of her groups. One day I was in the grocery store and I overheard her and one of her mates b******g and sniping about all the other mums. She didn't have a good word to say about anybody. In reality she was nobody's friend.
#18
Be kind, be gentle, be nice. Then in the rare occasion when you *do* get upset, people will notice.
People who get upset or are belligerent often, we tend to just tune them out. Their baseline is 'a*****e', they're always yelling and cussing, so it's not even noticed, just background noise, like "boy who cried wolf".
But when a nice, quiet person starts yelling and cussing...*everyone* notices.
Sweet Deborah, who's always cheerful and nice and pleasant to everyone - when she gets upset and starts crying, everyone thinks "that is **wrong**" and immediately drops whatever they're doing to try to set it right.
Not just yelling and cussing, either. When the quiet man who never speaks does speak up, people listen. Because it's unexpected.
DrBronxx 7 months ago
That's the kind of parent my father was to us growing up, and it's something I'm trying to emulate, to varying degrees with success. When he finally got angry at us - raising his voice or whatever - you knew things were serious.
Rosecat 1 month ago
My husband is a very quiet and polite man. Last year at our daughter's birthday, my father and brother started fighting and it soon turned into a s*******m (this was so predictable, that my husband and I had set up a plan beforehand, what to do if it happens). I kept telling everyone to stop, it's our daughter's birthday, the kids are getting scared etc. Nothing. Then my husband yells, at the top of his lungs, in perfect Greek "EVERYONE, EITHER STOP FIGHTING OR GET OUT!" Everyone got quiet, looked at my husband, and stopped. My brother started to leave but he ended up staying.
Mike Beck 7 months ago
That was my grandmother; always soft-spoken with a core of iron. She was taking a smoke break at work one day when she noticed her lighter missing. "D*mn" under her breath was all. The most hateful co-workers you ever did see were crawling around on hands and knees to look under EVERYTHING to find that lighter.
#19
I am nearly 40 years old, trying to become a professional author, in the process of querying. A development editor I hired (someone who is paid to tell me in no uncertain terms exactly what's wrong with my story & not BS me) that she loved it and it has a serious chance of getting published.
I may not be Stephen King or Brandon Sanderson, but I am a competent writer.
I got there by writing s**t work and reading great work and accepting criticism and people telling me my work was s**t. I did this for thirty years.
Whatever you want to be good at, keep doing it. Everyone who is great at something got good at it by being s**t at it.
**So put in the practice regularly, even if you suck at it.**.
Phantom Phoenix 7 months ago
Hello competent writer. Overall, I like your inspiring message. It's true, while learning to do something, you'll likely be terrible at it. But if it's something that you consider worthwhile doing, then it's worth sucking at it while you're learning. I also love that you accept criticism, because your first paragraph needs to be reviewed by a grammar editor before republishing. Thank you
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
You have a superfluous period at the end of your last sentence. Keep practicing!
Rafael 7 months ago
Where I come from, "dad jokes" are "big uncle jokes". Username checks out :-)
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QueerAxolotls 7 months ago
Brandon Sanderson being the "good author" example is amazing. I love that dude's books, the worldbuilding is INSANE.
Mike Beck 7 months ago
I was so worried when he took over for Robert Jordan writing the Wheel of Time but he did good enough. It was a little off but his ability to mimic another writer is almost surreal.
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The only difference between a competent writer and a professional author is the fact that the professional gets paid...that's what professional means. I used to write social media content for companies on Linkedin...You could say I authored the content...I got paid...eh voilà, professional author. What this person means is they want to publish a novel.
#20
This is a big one.
You know when you’re walking along a narrow street and there’s someone coming toward you, and you end up doing that awkward little ‘will I go this way or that way’ dance with them until you finally get the f**k out of eachother’s way?
Excruciating right?
Well, I’ve not had to do that s**t for decades. Because instead of looking that person in the face on approach, I very purposefully look over one of their shoulders, indicating without words on which side I intend to pass them.
That easy little visual cue works every f*****g time.
Lindsay A 7 months ago
I do the Scottish equivalent everytime; ye dancin'? 9 time out of 10 I get the correct reply; ye askin'? Please note you must exaggerate the accent for full effect
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Child of the Stars 7 months ago
Or how about we just adhere to sidewalk etiquette? Always walk on the right and wheeled vehicles have the right-of-way. It's really not that hard.
Problem Solvered 5 months ago
Except in Australia where we walk on the left 😆
Load More Replies... Uncle Schmickle 7 months ago
That's alright unless the bastards have their eyes glued to their d**n mobile phone.
Cindy Brick 7 months ago
Be sure to look them full in the face and smile, as well. A sort of nonverbal "excuse me."
Paul Jayne 7 months ago
Just turn your head slightly in the direction in which you intend to walk.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
I learned to skip the first shuffle step (it wasn't easy) and they still do it, so we flow right passed each other without incident. This only fails if it's somebody like me heading in my direction.
#21
When you meet someone new for the first time and they tell you their name, immediately use it in a sentence. For some reason this tricks your brain into remembering their name at a much higher rate than if you didn't do it.
Rafael 7 months ago
For sure. My son is less than two years old. I've met him more than 600 times, and he is still new!
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SouthernGal 7 months ago
I miss the days when most people had business cards. Didn’t have to worry about remembering or writing down anything.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
Again, in no way is this “nonsense.” You keep using that word but it does not mean what you think it means. Some people have difficulty remembering names of people to whom they were just introduced and it does help to repeat their name immediately, as in, “Nice to meet you, Mark.”
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Wherever you go in life and whatever you do, always make friends with the cook.
#23
I found that just being sincere with people about my feelings is almost like a cheat code. For example, I might interact with someone and say something like “I’m apologizing in advance that I’m kind of worked up about this and this is why“ and then continue. They really seems to get people‘s attention when you just tell them where you’re coming from and why.
Spidercat 7 months ago
This isn't a cheat code....this is called honesty. It is a very basic thing.
#24
Learn to ask for help... normally we want to solve all situations, issues, tasks, jobs ourselves, but it is not always possible, most of the time we require help from others but we are incapable of accepting or asking for it, analyze the situation and if you think it may be beyond you, ask for help.
ManBlob 7 months ago
Sometimes I feel bad for asking help, especially at work. I feel like my colleagues think I'm incompetent 😆
Daune Tullina 7 months ago
I doubt they think you're incompetent! I'd suggest when you're asking for help you should say something eith a compliment on their skill at the task you need help with. "HeyBrad, I need help figuring out how to (task). Its something you're really knowledgeable/smart about. Do you have a minute to walk me through it?" He'd probs be more willing to help becasue you are acknowledging his skills, and he may be more willing to help you. Also try the blog askamanager.org
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SouthernGal 7 months ago
Asking for help can be hard, as we all tend to fear rejection. Nobody likes to be vulnerable.
Little Bit 7 months ago
I found years ago that whenever I asked for help, everybody ran for the hills so I got used to doing everything and figuring out everything for myself. I think I'm too set in my ways now to change. At least if anything goes wrong I only have myself to blame.
#25
If I'm waiting for my wife to get off the phone or stop texting or get dressed - all I have to do is start up a video or a game and she's instantly done and wants attention. Works every time.
Phantom Phoenix 7 months ago
I was a smoker when I was younger, and that was long enough ago that it was legal to smoke on the platform at the train station. Somehow, trains were very often delayed by the exact amount of time that it took for me to get annoyed about it, get out the ciggies, and light one. "The train arriving on Platform One is the..."
Jeremy James 7 months ago
Yes! We used to joke about summoning busses that way.
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Sam Trudeau 7 months ago
The fun part I imagine doing if I become a server at a restaurant: Being the type to wait until they take a bite before I start asking questions
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
That's what usually happens with me at doctor's or any other thing where I have to wait. I have a Kindle book fired up on my phone and before I get a paragraph done, they call me and I frantically try to put in a bookmark. Today, I finished a book.
Kathleen Pearlman 6 months ago
Same thing happens to me when I'm waiting for an appointment - the minute I start reading a book or something on my phone, I'm called in it's my turn. I'm not sure that's why but it seems to work everywhere...
#26
Be quick to apologize. I struggle to say I'm sorry when I'm mad but if I can say it quickly I can change my mindset and get out of that anger state.
Kyra Noelle 7 months ago
THIS! Why is it sinful now to apologize or admit you were wrong, especially the higher up people get?!?! I think people would be more forgiving if that happened. Admit you are human!
DrBronxx 7 months ago
There is a fine line on this, though. If you're quick to apologise, you might end up apologising too much, and people will start to walk all over you.
SouthernGal 7 months ago
You can be generous with apologies and still hold firm boundaries.
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Avoid most financial problems by spending less than you earn.
Little Bit 7 months ago
Good advice in general but anybody from any walk of life can fall on hard times through no fault of their own; redundancy, bereavement, illness, accident, divorce, unforeseen circumstances or a run of bad luck. It is not always through reckless spending.
Debby Keir 7 months ago
But, say, you go to the shop yourself (and find the bargains) avoid that takeouts and door dash, then the few dollars/pounds you save can build into a nest egg for the hard times. Agreed that's not going to help for dire emergencies, but if eating ramen means you can afford meds for your cat, it helps.
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Owen 7 months ago
Avoid car crashes by not driving. Avoid SA by being less attractive. Avoid depression by being happy. Avoid death by not dying.
Spidercat 7 months ago
Thank you for saying it. Most of these are nonsense pieces of advice. They sound good but are essentially just nonsense. Avoid all pain and suffering by kïlling yourself would be the logical ending point for this one.
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Along with not getting sick, injured, fired, or having your car break down, need any repairs on your home, move, get a ticket, vacation, have kids, or do anything else that may require large sums of money or unexpected loss of income.
Jane Dorothy Warner 7 months ago
“Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery” — Charles Dickens
Andrew Keir 7 months ago
Dickens had a version of this in one of his books, said by a character he called "Mr Micawber". I call it "Micawber's Law". It works.
Hollerfloozy 7 months ago
Most of us earn too little to spend less. It takes every cent and we are still gasping for air by mid-month.
#28
Whenever I feel flustered, tired, run down, irritable, or just a bit ‘off’ in a way I can’t explain, I smash down a big glass of water. Then another. Suddenly I feel much better. I think sometimes our bodies don’t effectively pass on the signal of being thirsty, you just have to look for clues.
Apatheist Account2 7 months ago
I'm guessing "smash down" means "drink quickly"...my first image was stress-relieving violence.
Rafael 7 months ago
And you say that NOW that I'm in the ER getting my fist sutured?
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Gavin Johnson 7 months ago
Drink when you are thirsty, drink when you aren’t. Little and often is better than a big dose of water when your hydration level drops.
#29
I'm an attorney and sometimes I have cases in counties where I am not totally familiar with local rules. I have found that when you ask questions of court staff, they are usually helpful. However, if I tell them that I am a first year attorney and I'm just trying to figure it out so my boss doesn't get mad at me...well 90 percent of the time those kinds folks will try and move heaven and earth for me lol.
Pandaodboredem22 7 months ago
Too lazy to do the research themselves, so they fake being new to the job despite having years on the job, and take advantage of good willed people to do their job for them. Definitely the lawyer I want
Jac Carr 7 months ago
I've been an Executive Secretary for years now but I regularly tell people I've messed up so could they help me to get whatever it is I need quickly & on the downlow - people like thinking they're helping the "little" people get one over on the boss and they'll rush it through so you don't get in trouble
#30
Trying random area codes and then 8675309 at gas stations for reward cards that give me 5 10 15 or sometimes even like 30 cents off a gallon if I'm really lucky. For those that don't understand it's the famous phone number from the song and people use it as a throwaway all the time so it's basically activated everywhere. I've been using the successfully for the last 2 years since I found out and it's been incredible I try to tell everybody I can.
#31
Mm the top three that come to mind are:
1) You can rewire your neural pathways into whatever you want -- just decide and enforce it and eventually your brain will make new main paths that you chose while the old ones fade away/get replaced.
2) When you wake up in the morning, try to purposefully feel the emotion of having achieved the greatest thing ever. Remember when you got your degree, or finally got the girl of your dreams to say yes to a date? Remember the bliss of that moment? Well, now overlay it at the start of your day. Your brain can't tell the difference between real/imagined achievement. If you want, you can set the brain's happy juice on high by doing literally nothing lol
3) If you want to curate a specific desired outcome to repeat in your favor, say at work, don't ask for it. Instead, act happy and excited anytime you get that thing. People tend to want to make others happy, and doing this will condition the person you're working with to give you the thing that you want because they want the happy response you give them when they give you the thing. They feel good, you get the thing you want, and it's harmless.
#32
When I find something that triggers me, instead of reacting, I take a moment to contemplate why it affects me. I then try to see a positive in it and then move on. Therefore, not letting it affect me negatively.
my sox are in flux 1 month ago
Wow! Just making a decision not to let serious trauma from my past pop up and affect me! Why didn't I think of that! 😒
SouthernGal 7 months ago
Let’s not ignore the fact that serious trigger points often require therapy to work through.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
This takes a lot of practice, but it can change everything. If you can pinpoint the emotion that's attached to the trigger, then sometimes you can unpick a huge mental block.
#33
Whenever I meet someone new, rather it's as a friend, a potential date, or work relationship, and I get their number, I always use the notes section under their contact info to put any little tidbits I learn like their birthday, likes/dislikes, food/drink they like. That way the next time I'm meeting up with them, I have topics of conversation, things to order at the restaurant that impress them that I "remembered". People LOVE when you remember the little things.
#34
Being friendly and easy going with people, especially your coworkers. It'll get you a long way.
#35
Being articulate and brief are like superpowers.
#36
Please and thank you go a long way, even on deaf ears.
#37
Before ending a work session, always do three things: leave a peeled orange on your desk, hide one sock in the freezer, and flip a random object upside-down. Future you will remember exactly where you left off.
DrBronxx 7 months ago
Maybe I'm stupid, but I feel like these two sentences are completely disconnected from each other. Both the sentences and the words used in them feel random.
LG ML 7 months ago
It's like a memory trick. When you see one of those things, you'll also get reminded of where you've left off in the task/work you were working on. I think that's what they meant...
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Joanna Kaufman 7 months ago
In my case, I'd eat the orange, forget about the sock, and knock the random object off my desk, and of course it would be breakable.
#38
The rate of return on even small amounts of time (e.g., 2x25min per week) spent doing resistance training is a real-life cheat code to unlock years' worth of physical health and mental health. Invest minutes, reap years = cheat code.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
And balance! Balance training will change your future in ways you cannot begin to comprehend. It doesn't need to be much, and it's so easy that you can do it in front of the tv without breaking a sweat. If possible, walk on uneven ground regularly too; it has a disproportionately large benefit for the effort involved.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
It is if you’re training specifically for it. The vast majority of those that live in the developed world don’t do a lot of resistance or strength-based activity and even those that do frequently do those activities in ways that can cause injury. It’s called “training” for a reason.
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Amber L. 7 months ago
Strength training is frequently overlooked. Women who are afraid you’ll “bulk up”: that hardly ever happens with women! It’s more likely you’ll improve your metabolism and protect your bones & joints from injury and bone density loss.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
Most men won’t bulk up unless they’re specifically training and eating to do so.
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Dress slightly better than the occasion demands, boost confidence and people perceive you differently and with more respect...
#40
If you want a response from someone, especially via writing (like if you don’t want an email to be ignored) ask for advice.
People LOVE giving advice, and then they’ll often address whatever else you’d written about too.
Bonus: if they give you advice then you can follow up by asking for feedback/reviews. Once they’re invested, people tend to be a lot freer with positivity.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
Or state a 'fact' confidently but incorrectly. People just love correcting an inaccurate statement. This works brilliantly if you want help online. Redditors (ugh) will completely ignore or mock a question, but state something as a fact and they will pile in to comment and give you the correct answer. I swear if you posted that 2+2=5 you would get 1,000 responses.
#41
When in public, I make sure I don't block other people's way, am courteous and patient, don't hold up lines, don't cough or sneeze with mouth open etc
The magic is, it seems to reduce the number of hassles I encounter.
DrBronxx 7 months ago
So........good manners is a "cheat code"? People consider GOOD MANNERS to be a shortcut to something? People, we should just have good manners regardless of what it gets us.
Nicole Weymann 7 months ago
Not only good manners, but also awareness. They should go hand in hand, but many otherwise polite people can be blithely oblivious to their surroundings, like taking an escalator and standing at the end to have a good look around and orient themselves - instead of stepping to the lee of the flow of pedestrians and not obstruct people.
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If you go to a takeaway, find out the nationality of the guys serving you. Next time you go, if English isn't their first language, say thank you in their language. It's like two minutes to Google and memorise this. Maybe thank you, goodbye, something like that. Not every time, but probably more than half the time, you get free stuff, and the world is a little bit more welcoming.
June 7 months ago
It sounds a bit tricky imo, people can feel insulted depending on their personnal context. Only way it feels ok to me is if you get to chat with the person, and ask them directly to teach you how to say 'thank you' in their mother language, and you'll see how they feel about it. On the other hand, learning some basics in sign language is always a win. Not to get free stuff, but just to be able to interract with deaf folks. It brings joy to both parties 😊 Had a friend who worked in a bakery and had a deaf customer who came regularly, she asked me to teach her a few basics to be able to handle the interaction in sign language. It gave a boost to her self-esteem and she was so happy that the customer looked pleased with her initiative 😄 Also, a lot of deaf folks are able to communicate with us but don't want to put the effort as it's always one way. Show them you make efforts to connect with them and they will gladly do the same 🙂
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
I once helped a Russian woman who was having trouble with her English, so when we were finished, I thanked her in Russian (got it from an episode of ARROW). She broke into such a smile! I also ASL thanked a man when I saw his son "interpreting" for him.
Rosecat 1 month ago
At an old job of mine, we had lots od customers from the country my husband is from. I asked him to teach me a few key phrases that would help at my job. The customers were delighted that I spoke their language, one even told me he was in love with me because I said "Thank you very much" in his language 🤣 The only kinda downside was that some people started full on speaking to me in their language thinking I would understand, and I had ro explain that I only knew certain phrases.
#43
Boldly admit when you don't know something and show genuine curiosity to learn. People will respect you for your candor and be excited to share their knowledge.
How I learned this: College lecture with 250 people. The professor segues into Keynesianism. "You all know about Keynesianism, right? John Maynard Keynes?... Is there anyone here who doesn't know what I'm talking about?" My lone hand goes up. "Good! Good for you! They don't know what I'm talking about either." I still know what Keynesianism is 30 years later.
DrBronxx 7 months ago (edited)
When I teach a class, I generally know in advance what my students will or won't know about it. However, they are generally too shy to tell me. So, I will say "Please raise your hand if you don't know what 'XXXXXX' means", and a large number will raise their hands. They're much more willing to admit as a member of a collective group that they don't know something than to stick out from the rest.
June 7 months ago
Especially when you tend to know and share a sh!tload informations about random topics (AuDHD here, and it makes some people insecure that you seem to know so many things because they feel inferior and think you just want attention. If you show them that you actually love to learn and share, the dynamics change)
#44
On a daily basis, think about how you can help someone or make their lives better without them ever finding out. Makes one a better person, the world a little better, and gives me a reason to giggle when it works out.
#45
I've ended up being a trainer at every job I've ever had.
Anytime someone messes something up that you've taught them on more than one occasion.
"No problem make the same mistake all the time"
They don't get hung up on it. Next time I get to that step "remember this is the thing I've messed up before". BOOM they get it right. Thing learned.
#46
My best advice is what ever you have to do and can do, do it NOW and stop postponing.
Kim Kermes 7 months ago
Easier said than done. I have 847 things to do. Sometimes it's overwhelming to prioritize. Somethings can't be done until something else is done first. Some things that should have been simple have become inordinately difficult, leading to fear of doing other things that may be simple, or may suck up half the day.
June 7 months ago
Well, this really sounds like my AuDHD self. The "Somethings can't be done until something else is done first" : just factually or also "mentally"? Like "I need to cross this box to get the mental space to do this specific thing next" ? Anyway, sounds like you've got executive dysfunction issues, which is 0% character flaw and 100% putting your game in "hardmode"
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#47
It's so simple: just be nice to others, especially those who are in a position to help you.
I see people call into support or something and immediately start throwing profanity at the first agent to pick up the call. If I were in that position as the employee, you automatically go to the lowest possible service I can offer you while keeping my job and I will do nothing as a courtesy to skirt a policy or a charge.
Be nice and courteous, explain the situation, and ask the agent if they wouldn't mind helping you out to clear up the issue. Guaranteed you will get farther.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
Minor point - being nice because that's who you are is a virtue. Being nice because it gets you stuff, not as much.
#48
When u get a speeding ticket, request a new court date from the one listed on the ticket. All cops set the same appearance date for the tickets they write. It's usually one of their days off. If you change the date it is unlikely the officer will appear at traffic court on the day you choose.
Other cops will offer you a reduced charge to get you to plead guilty to an infraction at the clerk's desk to avoid going b4 the judge to cover for the missing officer. If you go b4 the judge he might just toss the charge without the officer present to affirm the facts.
Nicole Weymann 7 months ago
I'm guessing this is a US specific thing...? I'm also curious as to why policemen would set a job related date on a day they're off duty. Are they compensated at a higher rate than their usual wage when they work on their day off?
Johanna Carney 5 days ago
In the U.S., the court date on the ticket is just the day that you can show up to court and say that you'd like to dispute the ticket. At that point, you are then given a court date by the judge, and the officer is given a subpoena for that court date. The officers don't choose the court dates. If they did, they definitely wouldn't choose one that falls on their day off.
#49
Just called my Internet company and told them I wanted to cancel my service. Immediately got a human. They dropped the price $25/month without me arguing anything else at all. Took about 10 mins on the phone. Annoying you have to call in the first place, but def worth making the call.
June 7 months ago
Depends where you are, I guess. In France best way is swapping companies every year or two as your current company won't offer better than what they do for new customers, and you'll always reach a point where the concurrence offers a better deal than yours (like lower price for 1 year then increase in price, hence the swapping)
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
Didn't work for me. But my customer rep wasn't in this country, I think...
#50
If you're having a panic attack: run ice cold water over your wrists. I take it as a chance to check in on my breathing too, while bracing myself on the sink.
If you're not sure if you're having a panic attack: give it a try and see if it helps.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
Then follow up with carbs. Panic burns through blood sugar like nobody's business. Something sugary will get you back on track quickly.
#51
My dad once told me if you’re going to bullsh*t something and you know you’re bullsh*tting it, go full send.
I once forgot about a paper until the evening before it was due for one of my English classes in college. I wrote some sh*t about archetypes and a full in-depth character analysis of Obi-Wan Kenobi and Darth Maul’s love/hate relationship because I was power-marathoning the Clone Wars animated series at the same time.
Not only did I get an A, but my professor complimented me on the originality of my work and how it invited new perspectives on the concept of antiheroes and how strict moral codes can often be lacking important concepts.
My dad laughed so hard when he read it.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago (edited)
Going “full send” on BS is how we got Trump. Somehow, I doubt we come out of this era with anything more than a D-
#52
Honestly - read the instruction manuals of things you own. Especially cars and consumer electronics. Learn what all the buttons do and test all the features. Why on Earth people don’t know how all the things in the cabin of their car work is beyond me. Coming from a satellite operator myself - know your “knobs”!
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
To learn every feature in my new car would take months. The instruction manual is 400 pages long. I don't want to do the equivalent of a college degree to learn how to change the radio station and set the sat nav, which are probably about the only things I do on a regular basis. If I want to know how to change the preset tire pressures I can look it up on my phone.
DrBronxx 7 months ago (edited)
Nope. I will live in ignorance with the vain hope that one of the buttons in my car is for an ejector seat.
Barbara Gorman 3 months ago
It's right next to the donut dispenser in mine
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You can get just about anywhere with a clipboard and a high-vis vest.
It's actually your confidence that gets you in, but the vest and the clip board help you convince yourself to have that confidence, and they discourage others from questioning you.
#54
Change that stern look you have all day for a slight smile. Suddenly, people will smile back, even greet you.
#55
1 Invest in yourself (skill sets/health)
2 Surround yourself with like minded people
3 Set boundaries (friends/family/acquaintances)
4 When you've arrived give back to those in need/helped you along the way.
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
#2 is good but it’s also important to hear from those who don’t think like you
#56
If someone's in your blind spot, signal that you're lane changing and they will always speed up instead of slowing down.
#57
The “rule of yes”, or “the yes method”.
A very tried and true sales technique, used to prime someone to agree with you.
All you have to do is get people to agree with you on little things and work up.
So you might state opinions you know they agree with. Or you might make small requests you expect agreement to like “can I borrow a pen?”
Then you work your way up to getting them to say yes to what you really want them to agree to.
This works in reverse: the more someone has disagreed with you recently primes them to disagree with you more.
#58
Be like really, really, ridiculously good looking.
Becky Samuel 7 months ago
And then spend your whole life not knowing if any job you get is on your merits or just because you're 'eye candy'. Prepare for séxual harrassment, objectification, stalkers, never being able to have a trustworthy friend of the opposite gender (or the same in many cases). Also be ready for the huge emotions of grief and loss associated with the inevitable ageing process. The grass is always greener.
#59
Smile at people.
Kathleen Pearlman 2 months ago
I was at a Trader Joes for the first time. All the clerks and "stockboys" were constantly smiling. It was a little unnerving.
#60
#Retention Department.
Say this during a phone call to your ISP or Cellular provider to get cheaper bills.
#61
Spritz everything you put into an air fryer with compressed olive oil. It's a cheat code for sure.
#62
As a male, I don't care about fashion, so when shopping with a woman, they would get upset when I didn't have an answer to "what do you think of this outfit"?
Honestly, I cannot tell the difference. But I eventually realized that she wanted validation, but definitely did not want me to love everything. So I came up with an awesome plan that has served me well ever since.
I will only like one outfit out of every three. I mix up the order, so they don't realize that I am just using math.
So, if I like outfit one, I will hate the next two, by saying something like, "the first one was better", or "that one is definitely your color". Whatever.. means nothing to me, but it makes her feel better and validated that I am an active participant with an opinion.
I am not being a jerk, she chooses her own outfits, and she looks fine in all of them. I am just trying to survive this and get it over with, in the most efficient possible way.
DrBronxx 7 months ago (edited)
There is an argument that you *are* being a jerk. You may be making her feel validated, but you are not actually validating her, because you don't care; you're "just trying to survive this and get it over with". Imagine how she would feel if you told her that's what you were doing. Obviously I do not know her, but I imagine she would be hurt by it. F**k that.
azubi 7 months ago
Your point is fine as long as you don't consider which possible alternatives there could be.
Load More Replies... Kim Kermes 7 months ago
Your first sentence makes no sense. My dad and brother loved going clothes shopping with my mom and sister in law, respectively. Put in a little effort. Does the color make her face bright or washed out? Does it make the most of her figure, does it fit in the right places, does it have bulges or wrinkles? Ask if it's comfortable!
Nicole Weymann 7 months ago
I dislike OP's "I just do this to survive"-attitude, when they're really not interested at all and have no idea what to look out for. On the other hand I can't fathom why people "force" their partners to endure hours of an activity that only one of them loves, while it's a chore for the other. Imagine if he was into football/soccer and she had to go to the stadium every other weekend. (Just for the files: I hate clothes shopping AND football, and would have a hard time "enjoying" more than 20 minutes of either activity - and most of the fun would be the "it's nice how happy this makes him/her" kind)
Load More Replies... The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
My wife generally has good fashion sense but I will tell her when I don’t think something works. If she asks me to choose between two outfits that both look good, I’ll just pick one.
Uncle Panda 7 months ago
I called it the shoe game and learned the same thing. Pick one and stick with it. The fundamental issue was that by the time she'd winnowed her items down to two or three, she was miles beyond my ability to know which was more stylish.
Apatheist Account2 7 months ago
My wife has told others that I know what suits her - that's what you have to aim for. If she likes it and knows that you like it, she'll feel confident. Just be honest.
#63
You see a 1 2 1 pattern in minesweeper, the mines are in front of both 1s. Every time.
Barbara Gorman 3 months ago
Sure, if you think they are actually talking about Minesweeper...
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DrBronxx 7 months ago
I can't believe how many of these "cheat codes" are simply "be a nice person" or "have good manners". It sounds like you should be nice because of what it can get you, not because you should just...be nice.
Rafael 7 months ago
Agreed, BUT - sometimes you become the mask. Being nice out of interest will make most people realize that being a decent person is itself the reward. Worked for me (or at least I try).
Load More Replies... Mere Cat 7 months ago (edited)
How to stop/prevent yourself from crying: try to figure out which of your eyes is tearing up more. Somehow this completely stops the tearing up! (At least for me, been using this trick since childhood.)
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
You're tricking your brain into an analytical mode and out of the emotional one. Good tip!
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DrBronxx 7 months ago
I can't believe how many of these "cheat codes" are simply "be a nice person" or "have good manners". It sounds like you should be nice because of what it can get you, not because you should just...be nice.
Rafael 7 months ago
Agreed, BUT - sometimes you become the mask. Being nice out of interest will make most people realize that being a decent person is itself the reward. Worked for me (or at least I try).
Load More Replies... Mere Cat 7 months ago (edited)
How to stop/prevent yourself from crying: try to figure out which of your eyes is tearing up more. Somehow this completely stops the tearing up! (At least for me, been using this trick since childhood.)
Jack Sonol 7 months ago
You're tricking your brain into an analytical mode and out of the emotional one. Good tip!
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