30 Women Ask Their Crushes Out On A Valentine’s Day Date And Post Their Reactions On Twitter
Seems like everything can be turned into a 'challenge' these days, with Twitter in particular the place to be if you wish to test yourself out and upload the results for the entertainment of others. Just recently we had women freaking out their boyfriends by randomly texting “I want a baby” to them. And then of course there was the 10-year challenge, which the cynic in me felt was a bit of a 'humblebrag,' and a convenient excuse to share yet another selfie.
The next challenge to go viral is the Valentine's day challenge, started by London-based author and podcaster Oloni. She asked ladies to confess their feelings to their crush, and ask them out on a date for Valentine's day. Because sometimes we all need a little push to get out of our comfort zones, don't we?
Image credits: Oloni
Many women, inspired by others taking control of the situation rather than waiting passively to be noticed, took on the challenge. The results were... varied. Some ended in a cute and heartwarming affirmation of mutual attraction, while others were just plain hilarious. And as you can imagine, there were plenty of awkward moments too.
According to reports, Oloni started the challenge as a way for women to break the stereotype that women shouldn't make the first move when it comes to finding love. She hopes that the challenge can help to prove that there is nothing to be afraid of, and women can be confident in asking out anyone that they fancy. Bored Panda has contacted Oloni for further comment.
I am all for these types of challenges if they give people courage to do things they would normally not do.
U know this movie, the Ring, where the girl crawls out of the tv and scares the $#it out of people? Well, Joshua's answer just flew out my monitor and punched me on the nose. Really hurts.
when "who's paying"'s the very first reaction to being asked out - RUN
Are we just going to ignore the fact that there are 327 UNREAD messages?!?!?
I don't know... maybe I'm too old fashioned. I've seen a few "challenges" like this now and they were all done by girls. On ond hand we want guys to be able to be more honest about their feelings, but on the other hand we make it look like their feelings are a game to us. I know, I'm not a man so it's likely that my impression about this is wrong, but in my opinion acting like this is not fair towards guys. At least I wouldn't want to be treated like that, publishing such private things about me for a laugh...
Good point.
In this challenge though the point is that the asker really does have a crush though.
I'm not a fan of these challenges but I think it's ok if played by the 'rules': it has to be your crush, you want to have a date. Otherwise stupid and bit cruel too
I don't think it's fair to anyone. I wouldn't ask a girl out because of someone on Twitter, not that I'd have the nerve to do it for real, anyway. And if a girl said that to me, I'd know instantly that I was on the receiving end of a prank, and end the conversation, or friendship if we had one. Having said that, I will make jokes about those posted here, because I can.
I think to some of them it was just a prank or joke but to some the challenges gave an excuse and/or courage to ask or tell what they wanted to anyway (even without the challenges)
Night Owl, but that motivation or courage doesn't require screen shots of the replies- or even that it be done on Valentines day. that's where for me it cross the line into being used.
I don’t think it’s the challenge that’s fucked up. It could have been motivation to just admit your feelings. It’s the twitter hoes that are the problem. They do shit for attention and retweets and DMs from random people saying they’re pretty. It’s the people who are the problem, not necessarily the challenge.
Sei Ichirou. Yes I agree.
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I agree. Guys doing this will be referred to as fuckboys
Well, it is not AS stupid as similiar post about having babies. And, in some cases, it worked. Still, I would feel strange and sorry, knowing that someone invited me on a date just to fulfill the Twitter task. For me, details from my personal life, like dating, babies, relationships, are not something to play with and to share with strangers. It seems kinda like betraying the other person and their feelings, doesn't it?
I agree with you wholeheartedly and I think the same. But to each their own, I guess... *shrug*
The challenge can be the final motivation to make someone do what they have been wanting for years. If it encourages people to open up it’s a good thing.
Why would you assume they did it to fulfill a Twitter task? I think most if not all did it because they genuinely liked the person but were too scared to ask them out, and the Twitter challenge just inspired them to take the risk. Peer pressure can inspire positive actions not just negative ones. 🙂
because they went and then posted the replies on twitter, where BP found them and posted them here.
I agree with you Enuya. It's great if this worked to push some people into doing something they hadn't done yet but they could have done it without making the conversation public.
As long as they're not playing, whatever reason they find courage to ask is fine. It's a great compliment to hear someone has a big crush on you. only it would suck if you didn't "like" them back. How do you say "go back to the friend zone?" without crushing them?
The words "crush" and "date" - would put me right off. Something like - Hey - Am not doing anything Valentines night - if you aren't either, how do you fancy meeting up for a couple of drinks so we can both cheer ourselves up?" Kind of sounds more casual.
This could end up being such a terrible idea for some people.
I don't know... maybe I'm too old fashioned. I've seen a few "challenges" like this now and they were all done by girls. On ond hand we want guys to be able to be more honest about their feelings, but on the other hand we make it look like their feelings are a game to us. I know, I'm not a man so it's likely that my impression about this is wrong, but in my opinion acting like this is not fair towards guys. At least I wouldn't want to be treated like that, publishing such private things about me for a laugh...
Good point.
In this challenge though the point is that the asker really does have a crush though.
I'm not a fan of these challenges but I think it's ok if played by the 'rules': it has to be your crush, you want to have a date. Otherwise stupid and bit cruel too
I don't think it's fair to anyone. I wouldn't ask a girl out because of someone on Twitter, not that I'd have the nerve to do it for real, anyway. And if a girl said that to me, I'd know instantly that I was on the receiving end of a prank, and end the conversation, or friendship if we had one. Having said that, I will make jokes about those posted here, because I can.
I think to some of them it was just a prank or joke but to some the challenges gave an excuse and/or courage to ask or tell what they wanted to anyway (even without the challenges)
Night Owl, but that motivation or courage doesn't require screen shots of the replies- or even that it be done on Valentines day. that's where for me it cross the line into being used.
I don’t think it’s the challenge that’s fucked up. It could have been motivation to just admit your feelings. It’s the twitter hoes that are the problem. They do shit for attention and retweets and DMs from random people saying they’re pretty. It’s the people who are the problem, not necessarily the challenge.
Sei Ichirou. Yes I agree.
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I agree. Guys doing this will be referred to as fuckboys
Well, it is not AS stupid as similiar post about having babies. And, in some cases, it worked. Still, I would feel strange and sorry, knowing that someone invited me on a date just to fulfill the Twitter task. For me, details from my personal life, like dating, babies, relationships, are not something to play with and to share with strangers. It seems kinda like betraying the other person and their feelings, doesn't it?
I agree with you wholeheartedly and I think the same. But to each their own, I guess... *shrug*
The challenge can be the final motivation to make someone do what they have been wanting for years. If it encourages people to open up it’s a good thing.
Why would you assume they did it to fulfill a Twitter task? I think most if not all did it because they genuinely liked the person but were too scared to ask them out, and the Twitter challenge just inspired them to take the risk. Peer pressure can inspire positive actions not just negative ones. 🙂
because they went and then posted the replies on twitter, where BP found them and posted them here.
I agree with you Enuya. It's great if this worked to push some people into doing something they hadn't done yet but they could have done it without making the conversation public.
As long as they're not playing, whatever reason they find courage to ask is fine. It's a great compliment to hear someone has a big crush on you. only it would suck if you didn't "like" them back. How do you say "go back to the friend zone?" without crushing them?
The words "crush" and "date" - would put me right off. Something like - Hey - Am not doing anything Valentines night - if you aren't either, how do you fancy meeting up for a couple of drinks so we can both cheer ourselves up?" Kind of sounds more casual.
This could end up being such a terrible idea for some people.