Tired Of Getting Ghosted, This Woman Made A Survey So That She Can ‘Improve For The Next Candidate’
Online dating can be a very tricky ordeal. From misleading photos to dealing with complete idiots or rude people, there are hundreds of hoops one needs to jump through to find someone right for them. Unfortunately, as promising as some conversations might be, often people leave each other on read without giving much of an explanation. Guess that could be considered a milder form of ghosting—after all, the relationships aren’t exactly established yet if two people are only communicating through texts, right?
Well, one woman decided to do something fun about situations like this. After spending some time in self-isolation and getting quite bored, Hannah decided to create a survey for all those people who left her on read and send it out to them. Pretty genius!
The survey included such questions as “how would you rate your overall experience communicating with Hannah” and “if you followed me on Instagram, was there something that discouraged you from continuing conversation with Hannah?” And the possible answers she offered were quite funny, too.
Bored Panda reached out to Hannah for some additional information and she gladly provided some commentary. “25, recently out of a long term relationship and looking for someone who can hold a conversation for at least 15 minutes before they ask me for my Snapchat so they can send me a dick pic at minute 16,” the woman said. “This has turned into me being a little jaded about the process and started kind of messing with guys online who seemed to ignore my direct words I was looking for a relationship”.
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Not having much to do while in quarantine, Hannah shared her survey on Twitter
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When asked how did she come up with the idea of a survey, Hannah revealed that her sister was the co-creator of it and gave a little story about it:
“My sister and I are both on dating apps and she is having the same bad experiences as me. Typically we talk to a man for a few days and then they lose interest or start taking longer and longer to reply. When matching on a dating app, you clearly are attractive to the other person so the issue in things not going well is going to be from personality differences. Being two perfect women with no personality flaws whatsoever we were puzzled by this. I had recently gone on a date with someone at least two points below me on the hot scale. I had showed up to his apartment to watch something on TV which was an interesting date idea on his part but i arrived to an apartment without a TV or working WiFi to stream it on a computer. I laughed at all of his jokes and was polite despite my fear of him really enticing me to his nearly empty apartment to turn my skin into a lampshade. In the end, he was the one who didn’t ask me out again after. Furious and confused, we created the exit interview together”.
“I have only received three replies so far which is disappointing to say the least,” the woman revealed. “I sent it first to “Guy who didn’t realize he didn’t own a tv” and he refused to take it,” Hannah went on, “I took this as his possibly still being interested in me and as a person desperate for any attention, continued talking to him until he stopped replying”. Despite this occurrence, however, it seemed like hope was just around the corner for Hannah:
“The next morning I woke up Empowered by my new feminist approach to telling men where they can shove it via a Google Form, I sent it to Ed who had stopped only 10 hours earlier. He was thoroughly confused as he had not lost interest, he just lives in the real world and not on his phone more frequently than I do. He filled out the survey. His answer was the reply saying he was sorry and he would try to learn my communication preferences. We’re going out in a few days”.
Other than Ed’s message, it seems like Hannah received two types of responses from her correspondents:
“Outside of Ed the gentleman, receiving the survey has either 1) really pissed people off or 2) reignites their interest in me. Several men have read it and responded saying they thought I was really funny and then tried to keep talking to me. By this point they are dead to me and I reply politely but keep nudging for them to fill it out. They don’t. Filling it out is accepting defeat with someone they now realize if they had tried a little harder with, could be making them laugh while I cook for them in my underwear or whatever men on dating sites think relationships are like.”
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Here’s how people reacted to the survey
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Share on FacebookI think people need to get over rejection a whole lot better. Maybe be more worried about the people who like you rather than those that are indifferent. If somebody is giving one word responses, it's a polite way of saying 'I'm not into you'. They could be a little less polite and just ignore them altogether. The third is the uncomfortable 'I'm not into you' option which isn't nice for nobody and yet honest. As funny as Hannah's post is, I wouldn't recommend harassing others to explain why they are not into you on anything other than a humourous level.
Or maybe people need to grow the f**k up and just tell people they aren't interested. Stop making excuses. Stop blaming people who are ghosted for other people's immature behaviour.
Load More Replies...WHO was ghosting her?? Ive had more experience with being either unread or just read. This girl isnt being ignored by guys
1. Doesn't get responses. 2. Sends out survey "why didn't I get responses?" 3. Goto 1...
Load More Replies...My names Hannah too, so I definitely need a copy of her form to give out
This is funny and all, but it sounds like she sent it to a lot of people who didn't earn it. In my experience, one word answers is not you being ghosted, it is the other person having things going on. If you receive a one word answer and never send another message, they might well be wondering why. You are the one who stopped the conversation, after all. She sent this to a guy who hadn't replied in 10 hours? I think if I were him that might have been the end of it. Who wants to date someone who gets butthurt if you don't text them for a day? Also, and this is a completely different point, but the guy with no TV was probably hoping for sex.
If she sent this to a guy who “ghosted” her 10hrs earlier because he has a life, I would be wary of her, perfect a*s be damned.
JustinBeckman? Usually its cuz they aren't bein honest (even though they swear they are) or have something 2 hide or their wants/needs/emotions /,feelings r the only thing that matters 2 em! After I told my x what I wanted/needed from him 2 stop r fighting n told him I was tired of him putting me down,he used this same exact response n said he was done when I asked hm 4 these things 2days later. My requests if hed cared n had nothing 2 hide were unblock me from fb,delete the dating app on ur fon in front of me,as hed already told em weeks b4 that he met somebody n spend more time w me. Simple enough requests if some1 cared oh n I pointed out his dishonesty w the dating website being done w n now back on phone n that's wen he said I just put hm down, n accuse him of lying n cheating so its over! excuse me but 1st time u pushed me away n ignored me 5days then texted wantn me back,u told me ur penis was sore w puss n I was the only girl you'd slept I went 2 dr n was cleared!Hm?
I think people need to get over rejection a whole lot better. Maybe be more worried about the people who like you rather than those that are indifferent. If somebody is giving one word responses, it's a polite way of saying 'I'm not into you'. They could be a little less polite and just ignore them altogether. The third is the uncomfortable 'I'm not into you' option which isn't nice for nobody and yet honest. As funny as Hannah's post is, I wouldn't recommend harassing others to explain why they are not into you on anything other than a humourous level.
Or maybe people need to grow the f**k up and just tell people they aren't interested. Stop making excuses. Stop blaming people who are ghosted for other people's immature behaviour.
Load More Replies...WHO was ghosting her?? Ive had more experience with being either unread or just read. This girl isnt being ignored by guys
1. Doesn't get responses. 2. Sends out survey "why didn't I get responses?" 3. Goto 1...
Load More Replies...My names Hannah too, so I definitely need a copy of her form to give out
This is funny and all, but it sounds like she sent it to a lot of people who didn't earn it. In my experience, one word answers is not you being ghosted, it is the other person having things going on. If you receive a one word answer and never send another message, they might well be wondering why. You are the one who stopped the conversation, after all. She sent this to a guy who hadn't replied in 10 hours? I think if I were him that might have been the end of it. Who wants to date someone who gets butthurt if you don't text them for a day? Also, and this is a completely different point, but the guy with no TV was probably hoping for sex.
If she sent this to a guy who “ghosted” her 10hrs earlier because he has a life, I would be wary of her, perfect a*s be damned.
JustinBeckman? Usually its cuz they aren't bein honest (even though they swear they are) or have something 2 hide or their wants/needs/emotions /,feelings r the only thing that matters 2 em! After I told my x what I wanted/needed from him 2 stop r fighting n told him I was tired of him putting me down,he used this same exact response n said he was done when I asked hm 4 these things 2days later. My requests if hed cared n had nothing 2 hide were unblock me from fb,delete the dating app on ur fon in front of me,as hed already told em weeks b4 that he met somebody n spend more time w me. Simple enough requests if some1 cared oh n I pointed out his dishonesty w the dating website being done w n now back on phone n that's wen he said I just put hm down, n accuse him of lying n cheating so its over! excuse me but 1st time u pushed me away n ignored me 5days then texted wantn me back,u told me ur penis was sore w puss n I was the only girl you'd slept I went 2 dr n was cleared!Hm?
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