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30 People Share Adult Problems They Didn’t See Coming
Interview With Author
Adulting is hard and we sometimes (read: very often) wish we were cats. We wouldn’t have to worry about paying rent, breaking our backs at work, making dinner every night, the horrors of inflation, and the looming financial Apocalypse. Even if cathood is off the table, we’d love to be kids again and enjoy life without worrying about every tiny little thing. Unfortunately, you can’t turn back the clock to a simpler time in our lives.
Being responsible for yourself and for others can be overwhelming. And redditors opened up about the things they dislike the most about adult life in a very candid thread on r/AskReddit, started up by u/RowBowBooty.
From major financial pressures and never having enough time for leisure to something as simple as figuring out what to eat for every gosh-darned meal for the rest of your life, adults have it hard. Scroll down for the biggest adulthood challenges, as shared by these redditors. Once you’re done upvoting the posts that you agree with the most, drop by the comment section and tell us about what you absolutely loathe about being a grown-up, dear Pandas.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the thread, redditor u/RowBowBooty, to get their perspective about adulthood and its challenges. He was kind enough to answer all of our questions. "It’s not always a bad thing to be an adult and responsible, but it’s just not what I imagined as a kid and wanted to know how others feel about adulthood. I wanted to commiserate with those who were somewhat frustrated with adulthood like I was." You'll find our full candid interview with the author of the thread below.
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#1
Figuring out what to make/eat for dinner every day of your life
Kris 3 years ago
A good trick is to make a huge meal once in a while. put leftovers in the freezer. So on the days you dont want to cook, just heat it up :) I have several meals in my freezer
Kate Jones 3 years ago
...and realizing you're going to be eating the same stuff a lot. I live in a smaller city and take out is always pizza, chinese, subs, ...that's about it. I don't cook especially exciting food because I can't afford it a lot of the time. So I tend to eat the same meals each week. I have my Friday meals, my Sunday meals, etc. I go grocery shopping and then I go to my fridge and stare, then close the door because I don't want any of it, but I also don't know what I want. I walk around the grocery store looking for some eureka of 'oh this is what I want!' I'm rarely aware of what I'm in the mood for but the one thing I know for sure is most of the time I don't feel like cooking. LOL.
L1z 3 years ago
Cooking at home is far cheaper than eating out. You could buy the ingredients used in your "pizza, chinese, subs” and make them for yourself.
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I Am LoKitty Of Meowsgard 3 years ago
Well, if you don't have much money, or live in an area where grocery stores and food are scarce, figuring out what to eat every day can be a real struggle. Not everyone is fortunate enough to not struggle with this. Just because you don't, doesn't mean you get to judge those that do.
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madeleine f 3 years ago
Totally agree. Sometimes I have no inspiration at all and my ‘dinner’ is what I can grab without having to cook. Like a slice of cheese, a carrot, a bisquit, spoon of peanut butter and so on…
Donna Sweeney 3 years ago
I cooked dinner for 44 years of our marriage. When the pandemic hit, my husband said he'd cook his own meals. After 4 months, he whined at me about how hard it is to plan meals and cook! I love just cooking for myself.🤣
Ja'Nice Christine H. 3 years ago
Who says you have to eat "dinner" every night? This routine meal time is B.S. Eat when you're hungry... not at this scheduled make believe meal time. Who invented this meal-time time-frame anyway? It's dumb.
Anna Banana 3 years ago
Are you, by any chance, stoned? Most people I know do eat when they're hungry, that doesn't mean they can't call the evening meal a "dinner". As far as I know the definition of "dinner" doesn't say you have to eat it at the same time every day.
Load More Replies...Redditor u/RowBowBooty was very honest about the inspiration behind the question on r/AskReddit. "I asked the question because the older I get, the more I realize that adulthood is not what I imagined it would be. Sure, as an adult you have to work hard, but as a kid, I was always a hard worker. What I wasn’t prepared for was the heavy weight of responsibility for yourself and your family," he told Bored Panda.
"I’m only 24, but I’m married and we are planning a family. My wife has been having medical issues and can’t work. Now I’m responsible for my family’s well-being. I have to worry about getting good health insurance, paying bills and putting food on the table, even little things like doing our taxes right add to the pressure," the redditor explained that all of this responsibility can sometimes feel utterly overwhelming. And that was what prompted him to turn to Reddit to get other people's perspectives.
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#2
Having the knowledge, but not the time, energy or enthusiasm to learn all the cool stuff you always wanted to know how to do as a kid.
iseefractalz 3 years ago
I mean....at a certain point you start to realize there isn't any real point to pursuing some things. Practicality takes a more prominent role. Like, you have time to pursue one hobby. You've always wanted to learn how to sculpt...but you also almost burned your apartment building down trying to boil a pot of water so maybe take a cooking class instead.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
There's a lot of "teach yourself" stuff. So what's holding you back. You're on the computer, learn something, read something, connect to something. And TV/computers will suck the life right out of you if you let it. How long are you on the phone? And you get what out of that exactly? And pay how much? I'm sure there's a app to analyze your life -- use it! And you're still a kid at heart . . . feed the wonder
Bayou Billy 3 years ago
I love how your advice is contradictory... Get off the computer and phone but use an app. Most learning is done online even in the lecture hall now. No escape from tech my friend.
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Chores… they take up so much time if you don’t want to live like your in a pig pen.
Shiny1 3 years ago
I should've been a copy editor the way grammar mistakes make me grind my teeth. And it's TOO, not TO. But we're all on this trip for a short time and really the intent is more important than the method.
Load More Replies... Kris 3 years ago
lol. Just chuck it in the closet :) I often clean my apartment before I get visitors. it is more motivating. And dont forget a good sountrack in the background!
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Simplify your life, clean as you go. Most people fill their life, house and car with clutter. And this also means wasted money. Do you really need table settings for 6 or 8 people? How many drinking glasses do you use? How many towels in your house? People are obsessed with buying more, more, more! And have things ready for the morning to cut down on wasting time. Make a list -- daily, weekly, monthly. This includes grocery list, to do list, things due list. Organization is the key. It will take a bit to get started, then you can find more free time when things are done, instead of dreading going back to finish something that cuts your time short. And kids can be trained in this, too!
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
And unless, you embrace nudity, it never really ends. Nudity is too cold in Tasmania!😂
Xerastraza Lecrutia 3 years ago
Maybe I am an outlier here... But I don't need to use up tons of time on chores? I cook and clean at the same time so my clean up for dishes is minimal at best because a dishwasher does the bulk. Laundry isn't that hard throw in take out. I vacuum once a week and it takes maybe 20 minutes? The biggest chores are my monthly like deep dive cleaning and that's maybe 1-3 hours of my time in a month. Now maybe I your Ignoring chores or are creating tons of unnecessary mess its worse. Might help I have no children I suppose.
"As a kid, I had to work hard but at the end of the day getting food and housing and taking care of us weren’t my responsibility," the redditor explained that hard work as a kid and an adult are two vastly different things. However, the author of the thread doesn't believe that he'd give up adulthood to be a kid again.
"Even though adulthood is tough, I don’t think, given the choice, that I would ever choose to go back to being a kid again. The people I have met and now love and the sometimes painful lessons I have learned are not things I would ever want to give up," he said that he wouldn't want to let go of all the important connections and experiences.
#4
Knowing the fact that one day, you won't have your parents to help you anymore, you could easily wind up broke and homeless and you're nearing closer and closer to your own death.
K Witmer 3 years ago
I don't have any parents anymore my dad died 13 yrs ago my mom died a year ago last week, my brother died in October. I feel extremely untethered like I don't belong to anyone anymore. No one left that loves me my whole entire life and knew me when. It's really hard to put into words. I imagine it's like floating in space all by yourself. Especially my mom being gone. No one knew me like her and no one will ever protect me like she did ever again. I just keep telling myself im this person for my daughter and I do my best.
dieFledermaus 3 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. The day this happens to me I plan to sell everything I have, buy a van I can also sleep in and just hit the road. Never stop traveling. A place isn't roots. People are roots.
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TonyTee 3 years ago
This hit me right in the feels. I already lost my father back in November, my world isn't the same without him. Now I live in fear, worrying about losing my mother too. Just knowing that day is coming has me so God damn stressed tf out, and depressed. This one stresses me more out than anything. As selfish as I may sound, if I had it my way, both my parents would outlive me.
TonyTee 3 years ago
They say a parent's worst nightmare is having to bury a child. But what they don't seem to understand is a child's worst nightmare is having to bury their parents.. 😣
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Tor-Arne Hjellen 3 years ago
Yep, being the only child, no spouse/girlfriend, no children.. and aging parents... Knowing that when I get old, there's no one to get old with.. and when dead & gone, no one will remember me. On the lighter side, we're all only 2-3 stupid decisions away from being broke and homeless...
May 3 years ago
Huh. I'd have guessed you were Norwegian with that name. As a Norwegian myself, I'd have to make a lot more than 2-3 stupid decisions to end up homeless. If I can't afford a home, my government will provide one for me.
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Kris 3 years ago
I will spam you with my positivity today: Hopefully your parents raised you right and not with cusions under your arms. And when they die, you will keep living and your parents would be happy for you.
Paola Barbosa 3 years ago
This. This is my worst fear I don't care if I lose all my money, my house or anything else. This will completely destroy me one day. Should I go to therapy lol?
#5
I think the toughest part is realising that Life can be absolutely f*cking brutal for no reason and out of nowhere. I think many of us were raised to believe that if we did things a certain way or achieved certain things that we’d have a level of protection against the worst life can throw. Like, working hard or getting a decent job or finding a good partner. And the next thing you know, boom, you’re in an accident and bed ridden for months. Or boom, someone you love gets a terrible addiction. Or boom, miscarriage. Boom, fire. And the older I get the more I see it happen to others too - no one is exempt. I was lucky my first “boom” happened fairly early so I’m a little more resilient now (though f*cking tired). My sister had her first big “boom” in her late 30s and it almost destroyed her. I think she thought she had life figured, and suddenly her world got flip turned upside down. It’s brutal and no one escapes, I don’t think. Maybe solitary Buddhist monks.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
Imagine graduating from college in 2008... right as the recession was getting into full swing.
Adam Lutes 3 years ago
Bart- "This is the worst day of my life!" Homer- " The worst day of your life so far. "
LakeMonster 3 years ago
The benefits of civilization mask the reality that life is still random and nothing is guaranteed.
Zara 3 years ago
tbf this isn't an adult problem. Many people have their first major life crisis in childhood. Others get all the way to adulthood before being hit with their first serious trauma. I agree that the experience builds a resilience you don't have otherwise
Rachel Ainsworth 3 years ago
And dealing with people who have no empathy because they have never experienced anything bad. They think that it was due to their "good decisions" rather than pure luck.
Cwc Connie 3 years ago
Or think that you are contagious or did something wrong
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Jaycee Delarosa 3 years ago
This hit home. I remember thinking to myself, I did everything right, I'm a good person. How'd i end up here? I was so innocent
Flabuless-Jaye 3 years ago
I've had a few booms: redundancy, miscarriage, redundancy, sexual harassment, redundancy, then at 36 big Boom, stage 2 cancer, swiftly followed 2 years later by the big Boom of stage 4 cancer. The booms are still coming, but I'm still standing, albeit with a lot of metalwork holding me together. My Gran had a motto which was "Keep on, keeping on" The stage 4 cancer boom obviously has repercussions for me and my family and that will ultimately cause a boom when the time comes, until then, keep on, keeping on.
Samantha Mitchell 3 years ago
Ugh, my life has been nothing but a series of booms, thank Bob I have a great husband to help lessen aftermath (he's a walking boom magnet himself, so it's give and take)
Moezzzz 3 years ago
My BOOM was in my 30s. Now in my 40s, things are "better", but still feeling the effects (divorce, major surgeries, spinal issues, addiction to the meds I was given). I remarried and only dealing with the spinal issues, but everything else has gotten tremendously better. No longer taking meds that messed up my life for awhile. No one warns you of this other than to shun and speak terribly of those that "get sucked in". It's an awful place to be and NO ONE wants to be there, and it's so hard to get out of. But I did it. And I'm here for anyone else going through it as well- just message me
#6
Dealing with other emotionally incompetent adults just pisses me off.. like seriously my kids are more mature than some of my colleagues..
Lara Verne 3 years ago (edited)
Maturity doesn't came with age, and being older does not mean being more mature. I had two coleagues, both ladies in early thirties. Working with them really sure brought back memories from elementary school. It was like dealing with 13 years old brats. Then again, I was once supposed to supervize few students, who were working during summer break. They were all around 18. I thought I was doomed, but no, everything was fine.
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
More like people who just don't care about it. Its really frustrating. I mean the whole "i am how i am - deal with it" instead of working to solve issues/conflict etc. How do you even work with that when its just like talking to a wall? They just seem to lack all the emotional tools and just don't care. I dont get that.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
Especially when THOSE people become parents and you know they don't even have the emotional intelligence to cope with their own life, let alone teach an innocent child how to do that!
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Neill Powell 3 years ago
Completely disagree: "Maturity" has zero to do with income, standard of living or the depth of your relationship. "Maturity" is a wasteful term to compartmentalize people as being "adults". I still wear Metallica and Rick & Morty T-shirts to work I've been living on my own without financial assistance since i was 19, yet, the wife and I still consider a relationship goal to by a new gaming console. Being professional at work, maintaining a high-profile salary, and still being a complete joker outside of work is a personal prerogative of mine. Not "growing up" has paid off 10 times over
Rahul Pawa 3 years ago
I don't think OP was using hobbies, income or standard of living to define maturity. I read it as equating immaturity with a lack of emotional intelligence.
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Cynthia Carter 3 years ago
I realized I was fully adult when I saw childish behavior in other adults!
Steven John 3 years ago
One of the most mature people I know is my 18 year old daughter, and yeah, she tops 99% of my coworkers!
Kylie Mountain 3 years ago
I open boxes in a retail stockroom. My coworkers have yelling fights with our supervisor on a weekly basis over who gets to use which workstation. Which is because they all think everyone else is taking all the small boxes and shoving the big ones to the last workstation. You haven't seen petty until you've seen three middle aged-to-elderly bottom-rung retail minions fighting over who gets to open 'the best' cardboard boxes.
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Trying to diffuse an argument between my (then & brief) husband and 13 year old son. At one point we all realized said son was smarter than the husband. Literally, a light went on in all of our eyes. Total embarrassment.
"Sometimes, I wish I could say things to my past self, teach him things I wish I had known and tell him to do things I wish I had done, but I wouldn’t go back. Even though adulthood is tough sometimes, and responsibility and worry increase, it comes with a deeper understanding of life and, ideally, greater satisfaction. Sacrificing certain things is hard, but I think it also gives life more meaning."
Some of the biggest problems that come with being a grown-up include a lack of energy and time to pursue the things that make life worth living. No matter if you’re sitting in front of a computer screen in your tiny cubicle/open-plan office or lifting crates at a warehouse all day, you might come back home 50 different shades of exhausted.
According to financial expert and author Sam Dogen, the founder of Financial Samurai, it’s important to work smart, not just hard. He explained to Bored Panda during a previous interview that the people who tend to brag about working overtime tend to want validation.
“Working long after your colleagues are gone means nobody will see your hard work. Hence, you need to tell people about it because the results often take time to manifest. The irony is, if you have great results, there’s no need to tell anybody how hard you work,” Sam said.
#7
Like…the kitchen is just always dirty. I clean and clean and I look up and the sink is full of dishes again. It never ends.
Joan Bohlmann 3 years ago
especially if you live with someone whose concept of "clean" differs a lot from yours, and you get called "OCD" if you bring it up.
Pizzagirl 91 3 years ago
I had to install the "put stuff in the dishwasher right away and wipe the surface when you spill sth" - rule with my husband because I ended up doing that and cleaning the counter BEFORE I could cook for us while I was pregnant. Now he's glad he's already used to it, because our twins have an incredible reach at 16 months old, and it's hard enough to keep the stuff that has to be hand washed away from them (sharp knives, big pots) without worrying about a plate standing too close to the edge, as well. (His system was collecting dishes on the counter top until he could load the dishwasher "properly" all at once - that worked fine up to a point.)
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Ruth Meszaros 3 years ago
Discipline. Wash the dishes right after using them. Get others in the house to adhere to same routine. Or use a dishwasher and be sure everyone does their bit.
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
When my husband is ill in hospital( he has a recurring infection), is the only time the kitchen is clean and tidy, sadly.
Heather Vandegrift 3 years ago
In that case you need to have a serious talk with the other people in your home about division of responsibility, and make sure everyone is cleaning up after themselves or contributing to the condition of the home equally. My boyfriend's domain is the kitchen (former chef for 25 years), so he does the dishes and keeps the kitchen clean, but I clean the counters and put things away too, and I keep the bathroom clean and vacuum the floors and take care of the dog, but he takes the dog out of he's home and I'm busy. It's about balance and respect, and if your housemates don't help, get a set of dishes and pans for just you, use and wash your stuff, and put any dirty stuff they make and don't clean in their room!
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
I don't even understand how it gets dirty when I order takeout! I take a plate to eat it on, maybe a fork if it's needed, next thing I know they've all multiplied and invited cups and bowls!
Cynthia Carter 3 years ago
One of the happiest days of my adult life was when we installed a dishwasher in 1983. I was 32 with 2 small kids and always hated washing dishes! 2nd one is from 2002 when we remodeled the kitchen. Still works!
#8
Money. Money sucks and I hate having to worry about it all the time.
TonyTee 3 years ago
People affiliate money with happiness. People affiliate money with stress. People affiliate money with death. I affiliate "money" with Pink Floyd 😎
Josh 3 years ago
Money is genuinely the worst. The fact we rely on someone else's evaluation of our time or effort in order to live? That's genuinely awful.
Freddy H 3 years ago
Hey, I just mowed your yard. In my evaluation, that was worth $800. Pay up.
Load More Replies... Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Having friends who do not make as much as you sucks. Automatically they expect you to pick up a tab, leave the tip, help them out. And think about what you are buying. Large ticket items are just the start, insurance and maintenance can really add up. Rather than buy a washer/dryer for $1000, at my laundromat I have everything done in an hour, space in my house where they would have gone, no spike in the electric bill. And if/when I move, no heavy lifting.
Chel Bolin 3 years ago
Money is the root of all evil. Thats why churches and governments love it.
#9
Feeling pressured to have sex.
I’m a virgin, not because of any religious/moral beliefs but because I simply haven’t found the time and the right person to do it with. I don’t want to do something so intimate with someone if I can’t trust them and/or connect with them. Society’s way of talking about sex and including sex in media so often makes me (21 F) feel unnecessarily ashamed for not having done it yet. I have been shamed at by men for saying “No” to their offers, and their “small” gestures to lure me in don’t help either.
pusheen buttercup 3 years ago
Don't feel ashamed :) an experience having sex when you don't want to or just to get it out of the way isn't the same as one you're happier with. Unhappy sex is not worth having and good sex is worth waiting for.
Erin r Jones 3 years ago
Having sex isn't something we are supposed to do FOR someone else, it's for US. if you ain feelin it, there is no need to proceed.
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Sam J 3 years ago
I mentioned this on Reddit the other day, about how I planned to wait for marriage, and I got replies saying not to and that it'll leave me wondering, basically just saying being a virgin until marriage or until you're ready is a bad thing. It's ridiculous to shame someone for that.
Wintermute 3 years ago
I waited for religious reasons. Then I lost the religion and realized that I'd passed up on great life experiences for something that I no longer found important. It's not so much what you do or don't do, but WHY you do or don't do it. As long as you're okay with yourself and your own decisions, then there's no shame in it either way. It comes down to respecting yourself first.
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Alethea Brock 3 years ago
F those men. They're thinking of themselves, not you. Your body, your life and your timeline. Screw then.
HarriMissesScotland 3 years ago
No, don't screw them! Sorry...the smartass in me just came out
Load More Replies... TonyTee 3 years ago
She feels unnecessarily ashamed for being a virgin at 21. She should only feel my pain at 25.. 😅🤣 In a twist now I feel even worse for Christ's sake! 🤦🏻♂️
Arunei Shade 3 years ago
35 and still going strong. Being asexual probably has something to do with it, along with an extreme aversion to having kids (never wanted kids, never will, and the best way to not have any is to not do the thing that causes them). Society can go screw itself if it can't handle that there are plenty of us who aren't controlled by our groins.
Eliza May 3 years ago (edited)
I am 55 and married and I feel that way. I don't want to see people doing more than affectionate kisses in media - Sex i shouldn't be just an itch scratched agsinst the nearest tree for all to see. People wonder why humans are so disconnected, lonely, catfished, stalked & abused - because even though sex is a primary drive of life, it is attached to a PERSON, who should be treated with value, respect. Sex is a gift, and you value yourself enough to give it like the fantastic irresistable treasure it is and everyone wants - to those deserving of it who'vd proven themselves worthy of it through attention, committment & trust. Remember, the m9re desperate people are for something, the more it must be of value. Treat it, and yourself, that way.
Tamara Kroonen 3 years ago
Feel the same way. You don't see people go to the toilet, take a dump and whipe their asses, right? So I do not want to see other people doing other private things.
Load More Replies...“In your 20s and 30s, you need to work BOTH smarter AND harder, especially if you are of average intelligence. The world is a brutally competitive place with some of the smartest people also working the hardest. So working long hours while you’re still young and learning is a matter of practicality,” the financial expert said that the world is a very tough, very competitive place.
“You can’t expect to go straight to the corner office without putting in your dues. At the same time, you can’t expect to outperform your peers simply through hard work. You have to be strategic by building a strong network of relationships internally and externally (clients) who will pull to get you promoted and help you get paid at your next job.”
Meanwhile, when it comes to fighting burnout, Sam suggested taking sick days and mentally recharging. “Don’t just think being ill is just a physical thing. There are plenty of mental illnesses. They are just not as visible. There is no better time than right now to take sick days due to the pandemic and the greater awareness of mental health issues. There is simply no shame in healing the mind!”
#10
It's not adulthood that sucks. It's that "the future" as promised never came. Growing up in the '80s and '90s, we were told that we'd have flying cars and no one would work who didn't want to. Instead, we got economic stagnation and social backsliding, thanks to one of the literal worst generations of leadership in recorded history, if not the worst.
We were promised the Moon, literally. We were told we'd be able to go there someday. What we actually got was the free fall of an empire and third-world working conditions due to botched globalization.
The West's "winning" the Cold War was actually a disaster for both sides. It led to poverty all over Eastern Europe, which in turn led to the extreme militarism of Russia's ruling class today... but, at the same time, the "death of communism" meant that capitalism no longer needed to prove itself a morally acceptable system, which led to removal (starting in the 1980s and '90s, and accelerating after 9/11) of all the restraints that prevented it from becoming its worst possible self.
Escapist Panda 3 years ago
My brain parsed this as "Animal Farm" at first glance and I was wracking my brain trying to remember when one of the piggies might have said that.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 3 years ago
I grew up in the 80's & 90's and don't ever remember being promised flying cars, or that 'no one would work who didn't want to'. We were not promised the Moon, we were promised short tourism flights into space, which is now a reality. Otherwise OP is pretty bang on point.
Matt Smith 3 years ago
Because Russia winning the Cold War would have been so much better? >_>
Sander 3 years ago
I get the sentiment, but you would only have to look at one history book, of any period, and realize that those "promises" are nothing more than fairy tales. The history of the world is an endless cycle of tragedies, why would our generations' be any different? But also, is it all doom and gloom?
Zenozenobee 3 years ago
For the flying cars part... I'm kind of glad it never happened. Watch people drive on the roads, now imagine the sh***y drivers in the sky, crashing you because they were: looking away/in a hurry/juste d*cks.
Bayou Billy 3 years ago
This should be the top one. The fact it isn't screams as to why this is so. No one still wants to bother making a difference (other than a few outliers). Gods forbid we have to pay more tax...(even though despite whining gov gets better pricing than any company does due to buying power and the ability to squeeze companies).
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
Who actually believes that they will not have to work or that there will be flying cars? I just enjoy each day s it comes, be it hard, easy , whatever, it’s still a gift.
#11
After awhile it all starts to blend together like the movie Groundhog's day.
iseefractalz 3 years ago
This is because when you're a child, you have no point of reference regarding the passage of time. Most don't remember much of anything the first 3 or 6 years they're alive, so when you're 5, 6, 7 years old, having to wait an entire year for something represents (from your perspective) most of your life. it's FOREVER. By the time you're in your 30's you realize how quickly 20 years passed, and you're more aware of how quickly the next 20 will go. It's all just a matter of perspective. Unless you're in space...when you're in space time gets weird.
Load More Replies... Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Not if you do it right. Towards the end of Groundhog Day, he got the hang of reading, sculpting, music . . . you don't have to wait that long. Start now!
Lorrie Rothstein 3 years ago
Yes exactly. I can't even remember how many years ago something happened.
#12
I hate having to work. I’m not against the concept, I fully understand why you have to seek gainful employment. I just hate it.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
Work wouldn't be so bad, if it didn't involve getting up early... or being 5 days a week (it used to be 6 days in the past, but the work week was reduced thanks to those "evil" liberals that get blamed for everything nowadays).
Josh 3 years ago
We libs are coming for your fear of no job security next. Watch out or unions will be a big thing again too.
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Joan Bohlmann 3 years ago
we spend an inordinate amount of time working, with not enough breaks to recharge. something's got to give.
ButFirstCoffee 3 years ago
Me too. I’d rather do anything more productive for my well being than work.
Stephan Henkel 3 years ago
Wow... I am a lucky bastard, I guess... I actually like going to work. More fulfilling that doing household chores over and over again without any progress. Work is like a little 10 hour vacation from the house & kids. And house and kids is a 10 hour vacation from work. The remaining 4 hours of sleep is a vacation from both. I am still worried what that extended amount of sleep deprivation will do to my body in a couple of years, though.
JensenDK 3 years ago
The older I get, the more I love the job. Great colleagues are my second family. My job is meaningful (work at a hospital) and my kids are so old, they don't need me around all the time anymore, which gave me bad conscious all the time earlier. So, I also hated the first, say 30 years of my work life and swore to stop working as soon as possible. Now I'm not sure I'd stop if I won the lottery.
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
No one really wants to work. Often though, the thought is worse than the deed. I still enjoy my work, even after 43 years of it.
Fitness expert and entrepreneur Jack Bly stressed to Bored Panda that it’s vital to prioritize our health and wellbeing. “To increase our work output, the #1 place I look at is health. Better health leads to more energy, more focus, and more productivity. To improve our health and ultimately our output, we need to make sure we’re doing things like sleeping 7-8 hours consistently, [having] good nutrition, [and maintaining] consistent exercise,” he told us earlier.
Eating well, getting enough sleep and movement, and taking care of the basics of what our bodies need make a “night and day difference in our output.” Jack said: “Prioritizing things like workouts actually gives us more energy rather than take energy.”
In the fitness expert’s opinion, the most important thing isn’t the number of hours that people work but the results that they get. In his view, people should focus on working smart.
“What truly matters is true output/results you can get. Person A: works 8 hours to get X work done; Person B: works 3 hours to get the same X work done. Which person would you rather be?”
#13
It's frustrating how people expect you to have your sh*t together, even though we all know none of us truly have our sh*t together all the time
TonyTee 3 years ago
Seriously though xD I'm still trying to get my s**t together, and I expect to have a long road ahead of me before I get there. The key is to NEVER give up, just keep on truckin 🙏
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AnnaBanana 3 years ago
I always wondered what age you reach and suddenly realise you feel like an adult. I'm 52 now...still haven't reached this magical age...
Bored Birgit 3 years ago
I'm 62. I feel old, but I don't feel like an adult. Something went wrong, obviously.
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Dough Puddle 3 years ago
Get your sh!t together. Get it all together. And put it in a backpack. All your sh!t. So it's together. - Morty
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
I've been pretending for a very long time. To the point where a former boss asked me if I was OK and it started a breakdown. I'm not.
#14
Giving up becomes more appealing every year I get older.
Beck 3 years ago
Sounds weird but growing up my mom always said she cant wait to be put in a nursing home. Everything would be right there, hair dresser, meals...i thought she was crazy. Here I am at 43, thinking damn...a nursing home sounds great! Food cooked, meds, TV and bingo allday, asleep by 8. CHAIR IN THE SHOWER! Sounds like a nice life to me!!
Ozacoter 3 years ago
Giving up is not bad like society paints it. For many its positive. I struggled for years with unemployment, xenophobia and depression plus later with chro ci health issues. I was really unhappy seeing all my dreams fading away. But since i gave up on all dreams and know that i wont ever have the life i want i am less hurt. Not happy but more content
Mahogany Eclipse 3 years ago
Honestly, I feel this vibe a lot. One just gets mentally tired of the constant grind. And when I say 'giving up', I mean living in a cheap place, like a tent, with a barely road worthy car because its paid off and shopping at thrift centers for clothes and furniture because its just easier than maintaining the facade that one isn't burnt out as f**k 😮💨
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
You are overwhelmed by impossible expectations. Everything pulls at your time. Pick & choose. You cannot do everything. Do you even want to? You are probably doing things you don't even like. How often do you need to see family? Most people have more than 1 TV -- that sucks your life out. Fake an illness for a couple of days off at work, go outside, travel, do something for yourself. No one ever complained their hobby takes too long. Find what makes you feel alive, then figure out how to do it. And it's not a difficult as you have built up in your mind . . . it's the change that scares most people.
AnnaBanana 3 years ago
No way!! I'm fighting old age with everything I have in me! It's not working, but I'll never give in to old.
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
I always said I’d have all my teeth out the week before I retired. Now, closer to that magical moment, I’m not so sure.😄
Samantha 3 years ago
I can't tell you how much I don't want to get old. I've lived with chronic pain for >25 years, I'm unable to work and feel like a drain on my husband, and just the thought of doing this for another 25 makes me want to curl up in a ball (a crampy, achy ball) and cry til I've got nothing left.
#15
The unlearning of the lessons drilled into us as kids about fairness and equality
Kevin Camp 3 years ago
Third Rule of Life: Nothing is Fair. Just because you work hard to do the right thing as often as possible doesn't mean others will see it and reciprocate. But it does make you a better human being.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Yes. Here for this. The hardest thing in the world is realizing that the bad guy does not always get a karmic retribution. You can do everything right and be the good guy and you can end up in a gutter. I'm not religious but there is a part of me that really wishes I was because I have to believe that someone who rapes a child or destroys your life will get some sort of comeuppance if not in this life then at some point. But logically I know that might not happen. There are murderers who will get away with what they've done. Billionaires who make money off the backs of slaves who won't ever have to pay for that. Doing right/following the rules doesn't mean you won't get screwed. And people who do break the rules might go to jail and get out early, get free health care, job assistance, etc. And your a good honest person who's life is now obliterated. I wish someone had taught me that being evil often times had a great payoff with no consequence.
Bayou Billy 3 years ago (edited)
You just hit the nail(and the glaringly obvious scientific reasons) as to why I'm a militant atheist. If God exists he makes the devil look kind. Who gives kids brain cancer for crying out loud...
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Loty 3 years ago
How about instead of unlearning lessons about fairness and equality we make our world more fair and egalitarian?
Chris M 3 years ago
I think they mean that life isn't fair, and people are not treated equally.
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Jonathan Taunton 3 years ago
My parents weren't the greatest, but the three things they made sure learned are; 1. Life isn't fair. 2. Nothing is free. 3. The only person you can rely on is yourself.
Sebastian Killin 3 years ago
That's exactly my issue. There's so many movements to make the world equal to all and you just realize that it's never gonna happen because not everyone agrees. I want to live in that world, but I never will.
D. Pitbull 3 years ago
I'm considered technically "Middle-Aged" and to this day the high-school popularity rule STILL impacts everything... conventionally good-looking individual bullies, insults and mistreats the plain, trying-to-be-helpful person? Oh, that's alright... everyone forgives them... surely they're just meaning well....... If the plain person dares to say "no. This person is being a jerk" - suddenly "How DARE you say that!?? APOLOGIZE to them IMMEDIATELY!"
Eliza May 3 years ago (edited)
Don't unlearn them, but understand that even if others don't apply them, YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN **YOU** do. You can't buy good character, good will, respect & trust from others, or being able to sleep at night with a clear conscience, knowing you did what was right. People with loads of money /goods kill themselves /addict themselves all the time. Gangsters are always on the lookout/can never rest, waiting for a knife in the back or for someone they love to be harmed.
#16
There's never enough time off, it's work, work, work almost the whole year with a couple of weeks where you can relax for a second and catch your breath.
Adam Chang 3 years ago (edited)
work, dinner, parenting, cleaning. Doing laundry (hiding in laundry room) is the highlight of the week now, so peaceful
Iggy 3 years ago
Anywhere in the EU has minimum four weeks' holidays. Time for you to emigrate!
Bayou Billy 3 years ago
Denmark, Norway have routinely topped the charts for everything from healthy economy to education to how they treat the poor. However no country still tries to be like them. Just sneers and calls them commies ... It's hilariously sad.
Load More Replies... BasedWang12 3 years ago
Weeks to relax? No those few weeks are for the s**t you COULDNT get to all year
J-Yogi-Temp-Mom 3 years ago
and when you have kids, kiss those couple weeks to breathe away. They will use up all your time being sick, or going to the ortho or playing sport games you must attend.
lazy panda 3 years ago
If I could afford it, I would be there in a heartbeat.
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Heather Vandegrift 3 years ago
Weeks off?!? You must not live in the US! The great thing about vacation is that when you return, there's twice as much work to be done in the same account of time to catch up from when your are done! (Sarcasm)
#17
People have abandoned their inner child and replaced it with sex, celebrity gossip, and judging others who live their truth.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
I haven't. A while ago I actually fulfilled one my childhood dreams and it felt sooooo good, I could feel my inner child crying with joy.
happycamper 3 years ago
that's really cool! what was the dream, if you don't mind sharing?
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Kevin Camp 3 years ago
This is the bulk of society today. So many literally worship people who wouldn't bother to piss on them if they caught fire.
Chel Bolin 3 years ago (edited)
My father told me to "Be a child at heart as long as I can. Because we're adults the majority of our lives." He still did the gopher dance to Kenny Loggins at 82. RIP
Liz Reece 3 years ago
I often hear my fiancee say "Oh my God, I'm in love with a 5 year old", which I take as a compliment. I am in my 40s and I still climb trees, play in the creek by our house, have a 'fort' in the woods and -=LOVE=- coloring in my coloring books! I think it's perfectly acceptable to eat cake for breakfast and donuts in fact are *real* food. And there is nothing funnier than farting in the car and not telling my fiancee,and then waiting to see the look on his face when it finally hits him!
Sherri Mantooth Bagwell 3 years ago
My adult daughters and I regularly go see kid movies (Harry Potter, Disney princess stuff, etc) When my kids were little we would have picnics on the LR floor & have dessert first. I have my own set of Lego Duplos that I allow my grandbabies to play with once they can respect the Lego (no chewing nor throwing) Stay young at heart as long as possible!!
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#18
The powerless feeling over everything.
TonyTee 3 years ago
We are ALL strong. We may have our moments where we feel like we're powerless, but we all have remarkable power, that's why we're all still here going strong after going through very hard times. We need to believe in ourselves at all times. When we have moments we don't feel ok, that in itself is ok. We just have to remember we'll make it through like we always do
Remedy 3 years ago (edited)
Humans can be strong AND powerless at the same time. We might have the power to make it through life's hurdles, but that doesn't mean that most of life hasn't been/won't be a constant painful slog through nearly endless problems and situations. Just saying...
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Bored puppy dog 3 years ago
THIS!!!! I thought I was the only one who somehow lost complete & total control of my life!!
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Power comes from knowledge and resources. If you don't have the answers, find someone who does, or learn more. Just don't stop.
#19
Realizing the impermanence of everything you do.
That is, as a child, things seem truly permanent. But as you get older, everything you create has a shelf life to it, and will degrade. As a child, maybe you work with a parent to build a little treehouse fort, and from your perspective, it will last forever. As an adult, you pay 1-2 months' income to replace your furnace or your car's transmission or etc., and realize that you'll just have to do this again in 10-20 years, because everything wears out.
And this doesn't even touch the big impermanence issues - realizing that everything you do at work is a 2- or 4-year product/solution that will become garbage in the near future; or that no one will know a single thing about your life other than maybe your name in just a couple generations.
Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
I understand what you're saying. But in a way that can be liberating. To know that nothing is permanent can relieve some of the pressure to be "good enough" or accomplish certain things. You can ask yourself "in a year, will this matter?" 5 years? 10? 50?
Anne Kelly 3 years ago
We all are wearing out: both the physical & the mental parts of us. I'm just 6 weeks from turning 70, an age I never conceived of attaining. I look back and realize how much of that time I wasted. It's all going downhill at a rate I can't believe. Taking joy in the small moments of life keeps me sane.
lakitha tolbert 3 years ago
In the immortal words of Angel: When nothing you do matters, all that matters is what you do!!!
#20
Cost of living and supporting myself on minimum wage. I just recently moved out 5 months ago and I haven’t graduated college yet. I make enough to survive but my meals are always a struggle. Whatever I can find that’s edible, I’m eating. I can’t buy in bulk and I only spend money when I absolutely have to. I just barely get by.
Carl Galante 3 years ago
Imagine being foolish enough to Have a few kids when you can't support them.
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Diane Bryce 3 years ago
Realizing that bored panda is for 20-30 somethings and nothing for people over 50. like me..all these issues are for young people. older Americans have issues also.
Neill Powell 3 years ago
You can "live rich" without actually being rich. Close to 80% of our household appliances are 2nd-hand. A bit of vinegar and some elbow grease can turn something dusty into an appliance that will give you another 5-10 years of a second-life. Upper-end appliances will still cost less than new mid-tier ones, and you may find there's still a good warranty. They tend to have spares available. But forget about incomplete 2nd-hand goods, that's why they're in there
Chich 3 years ago
I started out late 70's/early 80's. Contrary to popular belief it was not a bed of roses. Double digit inflation and unemployment. You were lucky to have this months rent saved up. People were losing their houses if they had them and finding work was not easy.
Panda-riffic 3 years ago
I'm here for that! Remember gasoline rationing and literally NO ONE was hiring? Interest rates for buying a house was over 12%. Those were crazy times! Now that we're nearing retirement age we have to keep working because healthcare is so expensive!
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Mahogany Eclipse 3 years ago
And then some businesses expect you to dedicate your every waking moment to them on said minimum wage. I worked at a place that nearly rolled over and died because they decided (I'm not sure if they HAD to but that was the impression I got) to give every employee a 10 cent raise to combat the rise in cost of living (this was in the 2000-teens).
Xerastraza Lecrutia 3 years ago
I wish it was an actual Law to have to keep up with inflation. When got my condo I had a car payment and no roommate and was making it on my own just fine. fast forward 10 years and I have no car payment and a roommate and I am struggling to stay afloat with the exact same lifestyle, I have even cu back on things I enjoyed.
Bob Stuart 3 years ago
Found food can be great, but if you are buying, always think value. Buy ingredients, not snacks, and split a bulk purchase with others.
Bored Birgit 3 years ago (edited)
Times will change, hopefully. And it's educating going through rough times when young. Nearly everybody's fate. It's great to achieve something out of that what you can be proud of.
#21
Filing taxes every year. Like, the gov knows how much I make. Why make me report it? It would be easier for all of us if they just sent a bill of how much we owe instead of doing a bunch of- sighh...stupid, corrupt modafu-
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
The best solution is for the government to take the correc5 amount out in the first place, so we don’t have to file tax forms in the first place—-to correct all the errors of their shitty math skills.
Kevin Camp 3 years ago
But then they cannot grift their way with my money all year long.
Load More Replies... iseefractalz 3 years ago
They know exactly how much you owe. Other countries do just send a bill, or deduct ahead. But companies like TurboTax, lobby to keep this from happening so they can continue to rake in big bucks. Oh they also make it very difficult to take advantage of the fact that you can file your taxes, for free.
Trevor Nicholson 3 years ago
Well, that's not actually true and is just a falsehood people constantly repeat on the internet. While the tax system could be better, the government doesn't know all of your income, your deductions, etc. It's why you need to provide documents. Taxes aren't just your income tax. But if your taxes really are so simple, like mine are, it's actually really fast and easy. But also, the government can't "take the right amount" because it's impossible to know exactly how much you will earn in a year, because of time off, raises, or even job loss. While there could definitely be improvements, I'm tired of people being mindless parrots repeating the same things without actually thinking about or understanding what is happening
Neill Powell 3 years ago
My S**t-hole 3rd world country does that fully automatically, and I can't see how a country like the USA has to make such a screw-up of it.
Adam L 3 years ago (edited)
Technically, the IRS could easily send us each a personalized document that all we would have to do is verify the numbers and add our deductions with proof, sign it, and send it back. The problem is the tax service companies changed it so they can make money and the government allowed it.
Arunei Shade 3 years ago
And now look where we are, in the US at least, with millions of tax returns being delayed for who knows how many months because the IRS is so far behind on their crap. I filed my taxes online for free in fricken FEBRUARY and my return is STILL being processed. Trying to call to make sure there's nothing actually wrong is impossible because they're so swamped with calls you can't get through. It literally just says all the associates are busy and to call again, and then it automatically hangs up on you.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
My accountant friend said to do away with the IRA altogether and just add a 1% tax on every purchase. Done and done. Massive amounts of paperwork gone, support to the government immediately. The country doesn't want to do simple things.
Freddy H 3 years ago
Have no idea who your accountant friend is, but a 1% sales tax wouldn't even begin to cover it. Latest figures I've seen on this hypothetical is about 29.5%. Might be worth considering, but first we have to be honest about how much it will be.
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LakeMonster 3 years ago
Wow. There are really good reasons NOT to have the feds just send you a bill.
#22
People/jobs expect you to not have a life outside of work.
J-Yogi-Temp-Mom 3 years ago
yes!!! I literally got a stern talking to about using my sick time too much, the time I was given... to use when sick or have a sick child. I have three children, of course I have to use it- I also have my own doc appointments on top of theirs.. I was under the impression that is why we are given sick time, not that I needed to stockpile it to appear as though I'm a good empoloyee.
Ray Arani 3 years ago
Actually, I feel like this expectation is set up by how school works. 6-8 hours per day, 5 days per week, then 2-3 hours of homework each night, more on the weekends, and anytime you fall short or mess up everyone tells you how it will negatively impact your entire future. School/life balance doesn't exist, why should work/life balance?
Vorknkx 3 years ago
I suppose this mostly relates to the US. I am glad to say that my workplace (a university) respects our right to have a private life.
Viktor 3 years ago
I left academia last year. not necessarily because of work conditions but it’s certainly not ideal either. When conferences are coming up, everyone is doing overtime and there is no way and no budget to get compensated for that. And if you go to a conference, you have 12-hour days for a week or so. If you’re lucky you can take a day off afterwards ‚to make up for it‘ but it’s not a given because there are usually no clear rules for it. But yeah, otherwise your time off is really time off.
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Chioma Cobb 3 years ago
Yeah this is not an option for me anymore I set my expectations up front if it doesn't work for them it doesn't work for me either ✌🏽
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
A job is just that. They are not your life coach, they are in business and if you are there, they are not your therapist or friend. People I have known at work are not my friends, but it's easy to put up with stuff when you are paid. You can still make friends and do things. Know when to separate yourself -- no one owes you a life but you.
#23
My childhood sucked so I enjoy the freedom that comes with adult hood. I cant really think of anything I dislike tbh.
Candace Patterson 3 years ago
Agree 100%. I had a bad childhood with a lot of trauma and neglect. I would never want to go back to having no control over my life.
Ann Katrin R.P 3 years ago
My adult hood sucks, cause of all my childhood traumas. So its a lose lose situation... Im happy to hear your adult hood is much better💜
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Yea, I hate that. But a loving family does NOT prepare you for the real world that doesn't care. Adversity builds character. Thanks, dad, like I need more character . . .
#24
I really hate those moments where I get a reality check about my childhood/teenage years. Since becoming an adult, I’ve been noticing problems in my family I would have never been able to see with my childhood naivety. Also, a certain music scene used to be a big part of my life. I’ve been an adult for close to a decade now, and half of the people I admired turned out to be very sh*tty people — with some even convicted and stuff. Gives me a really bad feeling about what/who used to give me a feeling of belonging and comfort in my teenage years
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I've been having the opposite. I always remembered my childhood as being very hard. The constant fights with my father, the corporal punishment at school, the overbearing expectations and indoctrination of religion, being institutionalised... But in actuality it wasn't so bad. I had a family that loved me despite my obvious issues. I had great family holidays, supporting parents that never pressurised me into thinking or believing a certain way. Religious pressure never came from home and I was always free to choose what to take from it (if anything). The reason so much of it seemed bad was my own interpretation based on my own mental disorder.
Question everything 3 years ago
I'm happy that you realised your home was supportive... but think about it. If your situation was the other way around, if your school system was supportive and your home life was filled with corporal punishment, overbearing expectations, indoctrination etc., you would not dismiss the trauma. As children we spend a large amount of time in the educational system and it sure as hell leaves an imprint on our minds and mental health. It seems to me someone tricked you into believing that you had it good growing up. I'd say you were bullied because of, or despite, your mental disorder. Either way it's horrible but I'm glad you are happy now.
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Weim Central 3 years ago
I wish "growing up" meant "growing better" like I expected for everyone.
Evelyn Ann 3 years ago
Loving music has nothing to do with agreeing with the character of the performers, especially if it was music you loved as a teen and the people did something decades later. Nothing to feel bad about there. My parents always thought I'd outgrow punk and death metal lol but now i embarrass my teens by still having a mohawk. No need to "grow up"... You be you and the rest falls into place.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
Yeah, I was a huge fan of Linkin Park during my teenage years (I still love their music nowadays). Hearing the news about Chester was like a stab to the chest.
BasedWang12 3 years ago
But we always knew Chaz's demons and that was something we confided in. Doesn't mean he was a bad person
Load More Replies... LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago (edited)
I remember half my childhood with the wish to repeat it. My grandparents were wonderful people and I'd give anything to have that time back. But my parents.... I love them, I do, they've helped me out a lot over the years, but as an adult I realized that there were things they wanted that were screwed up. My parents were not emotionally ready for kids, they cared too much what other people thought of them so that meant my sister and I had to be exactly who they wanted. I moved away to another time zone and realized that I didn't know who I was. As an adult I have no idea how to properly express my emotions because I was taught to keep it inside. As a child I was quiet and never caused problems, but I never saw that as a bad thing. As an adult, I see what my parents wanted was wrong. For the wrong reasons.
Kevin Camp 3 years ago (edited)
If there is anything you can teach your child in life is to be analytical about everything and realize most peoples actions and decisions are based on their own greed and pettiness. Its simply human nature. Smart people know how to see these things and negotiate the potential land mines.
Jennifer Dibble 3 years ago
That's a really sad and cynical way to go into all interactions with people. I try to force myself to look at people from a different perspective. I try to look at them as imperfect, like me. Afraid, like me. Just trying to survive this world, like me. They don't all make the best choices, and I definitely don't always do a good job of not getting judgy and cynical myself from time to time, but if I start off assuming other people are only motivated by greed and pettiness, that's 100% all I'm going to see. I don't think it's "smart people" who view the world this way. And it's definitely not truly analytical, because those would be individuals who view others' intentions without preconceived bias. This method just teaches a child to be simply judgemental. That's sad.
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#25
How hard it is to relax
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
You can do it, you just can't take everything with you when you do it. Life is clutter.
#26
How much i would need to lie on the floor to make my back feel better
Stephen Steve Stephenson III 3 years ago
Walking helps significantly with a bad back. Sitting is the killer. For me anyway
AnnaBanana 3 years ago
Walking makes me worse. I have scoliosis and once my lower back locks up, nothing helps. I just have to wait it out.
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I swear by yoga. Stretching helps me so much. (Tons of issues, even spinal surgery)
B S 3 years ago
i have the hybrid bad back stemming from gimpy leg. standing and walking too long hurts, then sitting is a relief then sitting or laying too long starts to hurt. it really sucks.
Leslie Crittenden 3 years ago
B S I have the same thing. I can sleep on bed for two hours, then I have to move to the chair for two hours. Then back to bed, rinse and repeat. My back won't tolerate more than that amount of time in any one position. You have my sympathies, it's frustrating.
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Huddo's sister 3 years ago
My sister often comments on how much time I spend lying on my stomach on the couch and I have to remind her how bad my back pain and restless legs get otherwise. It's not so bad if I've done the right amount of exercising during the day, but too little or too much and it is a problem!
Stephan Henkel 3 years ago
Started doing deadlifting and squats. THAT was a game changer. My back feels so incredibly strong
Laurie Livingston 3 years ago
Not to sound like an ad, but my copper-fit back brace has been a wonderful addition to my wardrobe!
Cindy Irvin 3 years ago
I'm 61, and have been sleeping on a pallet on the floor for three years. Why? Because it helps my back. I sleep far better there than on any mattress.
#27
The next step seems so far away. There was always the next grade level, or next school (middle school, then high school, then college). The next graduation, the next step up. Suddenly, retirement is the next step, which is 40 years away.
Susie Elle 3 years ago (edited)
That's because we look at life as though it's a journey, but it's actually a dance - to be enjoyed while it's going on, not as a means to get somewhere. You start a journey to get somewhere in the end, but you don't start a dance just for it to be over. You start a dance because you want to dance and enjoy doing it.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Have to be in the moment. The future will NEVER be what you think it should be.
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
But suddenly retirement is just around the corner. Everyone starts to look as young as your kids, or escapees from high school. People say to you’ you look so young’ when you tell them your real age, or, ‘ oh , but you are so wise, you have life experience’!
Panda-riffic 3 years ago
You are young. Start investing now!!! Put away as much as you can afford to each month. You'll thank me in 30 years when you get set to retire early!!! :-)
Hunter 3 years ago
Life is a book. Only short stories have a single chapter. Love your life a chapter at a time and enjoy the characters as they develop. You have the opportunity to live many "lifetimes" in your own story and in the end you'll be the biggest critic, so write something amazing.
Cindy Irvin 3 years ago
It will be here before you know it, then you'll wonder where the time went.
#28
Honestly, a big one is having to relearn a lot of things that I thought I’d never need in school when I was younger. Turns out, you do end up using a lot of it, just not in the ways you expected.
Josh 3 years ago
While the obvious basic math, reading comprehension and such is used a lot (and the more obscure math is the usual fall man for things we won't need in school) it's not the content of the lessons so much as problem solving abilities that get carried over. And your day to day mundane adult stuff may not need a lot of things. But a lot of jobs and hobbies you take up could! Even the Pythagorean Theorem (for things like woodworking, diorama building, etc)
Donkey boi 3 years ago
Ah yes, I was just thinking about how handy Pythagoras Theorem has been in my adult life... until I realised I haven't used it once since school.
Rosemary Moreland 3 years ago
The best ting I ever mastered, apart from easing, was my times tables and being able to add and subtract in my head.😄. Both of which my Dad thought me
Bethany Brookes 3 years ago
Still don't see why I need to memorise all these difficult equsions when in a workplace where I might actually need them, I can just look them up. It's nor hard to print out a prompt sheet of equsions, and what units each part is in, and how to rearrange it, but no, the exam board says we have to learn them off by heart as a pointless exercise.
Vladimíra Matejová 3 years ago (edited)
memorising poems and definitions is mostly for training your memory for later. math is for teaching you how to analyze things and using your current knowledge. history to understand how ppl think, what different perspective they have, what mistakes they do and not to repeat them. sciences and geography should give you basics of how the world works. it all makes sense later. no one expects you to remember definitions or solving math equasions in real life ( for most of the jobs)
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Lara Verne 3 years ago
Well...I graduated 12 years ago. I use basic math every day, but guess how many times I needed algebra...
v 3 years ago
You may not have used algebraic formulas that often but I'd be willing to bet that you've encountered many situations which was presented in the abstract and you were able to puzzle your way through.
Load More Replies... #29
No summers off. I would cut my salary in half for that.
Vorknkx 3 years ago
Depends on the workplace. We get 39 days of PTO per year and I can honestly say that this is more important to me than the salary. I have learned that free time is more valuable than money.
Nicole Weymann 3 years ago
Depends on how much money you have/need, too. Some people really don't have a choice.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
But don't do it expecting to have the whole time off. You will usually go in at least a few times during the summer and/or work from home. You can just rock up on the first day and wing it, but it's much better to be prepared :)
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Nightshade1972 3 years ago
My mother was an elementary school music teacher for nearly 25 years. At one point, the head of music education for her entire school district was about to retire. She was friends with my mother, and she recommended my mother to take her place. As a teacher, my mother got 2-3 months off every summer. When she looked into the requirements for the district head's job, she realized she'd only get two *weeks* off every year, since it was an administrative role, not educational. My mother immediately decided she didn't want to apply for that job after all.
Xerastraza Lecrutia 3 years ago
I get 14 days a year to relax... I'd love more but I could never lose my pay for free time or I'd never be able to enjoy free time or a life in general.
Jill Chambers 3 years ago
I'm sure there are jobs you can do for just 6 or 8 months. Maybe only temp work, but if it's important enough to you that you're willing to take a big cut in money I'm sure you could work it out. A few (very rare) employers will let you take unpaid leave on top of your holiday allowance.
#30
Taxes. On top of paying for everything yourself, you also need to pay for simply existing in a society.
MiriPanda 3 years ago
That's short sighted. The taxes I am paying now will help me in the future when I am sick or unemployed, because I will get financial help funded by those taxes then (Europe).
jon gilbertson 3 years ago
i don't mind paying taxes, because i like nice roads, clean water, social security is like a retirement account. i just wish i wasn't losing 25% of my check when the rich don't pay any taxes in some cases.
Sander 3 years ago
25%?! Try 37% (The Netherlands) or even 49% for anything you earned over 69.398 euro that year.
Load More Replies... Susie Elle 3 years ago
You don't pay for existing, you pay for services and (in Europe) a social security system that helps you when you yourself are having trouble doing so. There's lots of things that can be improved about social security, but an aid system for people in trouble is always better than not having an aid system for when people are in trouble.
Tigerpacingthecage 3 years ago
I like paying taxes (live in Sweden). I see it as insurance. If I need help or get sick I know I will get help regardless of income. And same with others if they need help. Maybe not the help you want but the help you need. And that way we can all, as a society, work for having at least a semi-good place to live.
Chris M 3 years ago
I wouldn't mind if my taxes went towards helping people rather than hurting them. As they say, meals not missiles.
M Rob 3 years ago
Imho right now those missles are helping the people of Ukraine, so I don't mind.
Load More Replies... LakeMonster 3 years ago
You are not paying for "existing." You are paying for roads, the CDC, food inspection, airport security, education, public drainage, medical research, defense, air traffic control, etc. Most Americans don't realize it but we get a TON of value for the taxes we pay. Sure, there are problems - and the BP user community loves to complain - but overall it's a pretty good deal.
Kylie Mountain 3 years ago
Only in a country where you don't feel like you're getting services back for those taxes (hello, United States!) I don't think there's any known large-scale human society that hasn't had some form of taxation, it's just how you pay for public services, but I'd feel a lot better about paying taxes if, for example, I was getting free health care or government funded state college out of it, as opposed to billions of dollars being funnelled into ridiculous, inefficient military projects.
Mahogany Eclipse 3 years ago
Kind of a two way street, this one. Honestly, listening to a course in Ecomonics 101 has given me a vast understanding of why this is and I'm not nearly as frusterated by such things as much as I used to be.
#31
Bills, Rent, and the stress of driving.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
I don’t mind driving unless I’m tired. What I DO mind are most of the OTHER drivers I have to get away from to avoid an accident. You know, people who are texting, who are drunk, who drive in a heavy snowstorm like it’s sunny and 70 (Fahrenheit), amongst a whole slew of others who should never be allowed to drive. It’s the reason why I prefer the backroads to the highways.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
If people are renting, why don't they move close to their work? If you hate your job, find what works and move there. Most people make their life VERY difficult, and then throw in a big dog. Sorry, can't sympathize.
#32
I can barely think of one thing I do like
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Try small likes . . . ice cream? The ocean? cats? It's a gradual thing. Sometimes you only appreciate something when it's gone.
J-Yogi-Temp-Mom 3 years ago
up hill. Found out I have said that wrong my whole life. Going down hill is easy, going up hill is hard. so it makes sense I suppose. it's all up heal from here on up!! ugh lol
Load More Replies... #33
Yard work. It’s the absolute worst. Why do we all have to have grass and plants in the front our house? It serves no purpose, but it just adds another layer of responsibility onto your life. You constantly mow/trim, hire someone else to do it, or you feel shame for being THAT HOUSE on the block. Can we all just agree it’s a waste of time and repurpose that front yard space for something else?
JustAnother Soul 3 years ago
Repurpose it for growing your own food. All that wasted space could actually be of great use there.
Matt Smith 3 years ago
Be glad you don't live in an HOA, if the stories I've heard are accurate.........
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
What would you repurpose it for? Please don’t pave it over or put another building on it. Having grass, flowers and trees is preferable to concrete or another useless structure. Yes, yard work is a chore, but have a little pride in your home and yard. Plus, you get a great workout without having to drive to the gym.
M Rob 3 years ago
Grass is an environmental waste. Plant flowers, clover or anything that would be great for pollinators
Load More Replies... jon gilbertson 3 years ago
i used to garden, mostly potatoes, lots of vegetables, and herbs. saved a ton of money. Very relaxing hobby
Kate 3 years ago
I love my yard, but I hate the grass. I seriously want to rip out that useless, expensive stuff.
Judes 3 years ago
So why don't you rip it out? We got rid of all our grass a few years ago. The front yard is full of native plants and the back yard is a veggie garden
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Tarryn Louise 3 years ago
Because it looks nice I guess. You can also prevent mould from growing if you don't have an overgrown forest in your front / back yard.
#34
Bills
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
Ugh. F**k. Bills. They keep going up and coming due. It’s never ending.
#35
We used to brag about which Hotwheels car we had... now we brag about recipes. YAWN!
Wintermute 3 years ago
Screw this! The only thing more dope than my childhood comic collection is my meatloaf recipe. And I've still got em both!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
For me it's art supplies and self-crusting quiche :)
Load More Replies... Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Choose better friends! Get into something that stirs your passion. Fairy Godmother is out doing something else -- change your own life!
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I had a '71 Sugar Caddy. Almost impossible to find in the UK and Ireland. It was a glittery reddish-pink and apparently quite valuable now.
#36
Making adult decisions
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Easy. And even if you get things wrong, go do it over. YOU get to call the shots.
#37
How confusing everything is and how much of it exists in the first place
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Narrow your field. What directly concerns you, what do you have NO control over. Then learn what you need to know to make your life (maybe someone else's) easier. Don't just be a victim.
#38
Can’t give up no matter how sh*tty life gets.
iseefractalz 3 years ago
You can in Belgium, they have people whose job it is to help you give up. Doesn't mean you should, but you can.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
As long as you keep doing things, you'll have a great story. What's better than telling tales with great friends?
#39
My fear of Dying
iseefractalz 3 years ago
Why? It's like a dreamless sleep that you never wake up from. You won't be aware or it, so why be afraid of it?
Susan 3 years ago
I had a crippling fear of dying until I purposefully turned to Jesus and asked for help. Now I know that death is just a momentary sleep (as stated over and over in the bible). There are over 400 verses in the bible that tell us not to be afraid. If you earnestly ask for help, it will be given.
Tarryn Louise 3 years ago
I fear dying, because I don't want to lose the family I have in this life. I was born poor, but I love my family either way. I hope if I am re-born I get to be reconnected to the souls that I am connected with now.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
You are wasting brain power and life on this right now. It's there, can't do anything about it. Use what you have.
Nora Petricien 3 years ago
I don't get why people are afraid of dying ? Is it because their lives are so great that they don't want to leave them ? Because of the people they leave behind ?
Loki Orie 3 years ago
I don't want to be separated from the people I love. I don't want them to miss me the way I miss my deceased loved ones. I don't want to let go of all the beautiful and nice things in this world. I don't want to be forgotten. I don't want everything to be for nothing. I don't want to face the terrifying, crippling uncertainty.
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Responsibility.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
Most responsibility comes from your choices. Kids? Buying a house or car? Life direction. It will always be there, how much you take on is up to you.
What do you think ?
Voodoops_13 3 years ago
Depression and anxiety diagnoses are hitting an all time high, especially in the 18 - 65 year old bracket. It shows in these posts. The American work ethic is toxic, sh*t wages, few/no benefits, ridiculous work schedules, and 2 or 3 weeks off a year are killing us. It needs to be reformed into a European style system. Question the status quo and these outdated systems that will never get you to "The American Dream" your grandparents got to enjoy. Vote for change and those that give a crap about the working class. Sure, we'll all still have to clean the kitchen and pay bills, but we can learn to work to live. Not live to work.
Sean 3 years ago
nowadays im actually seriously considering living in a hut in some random forest or joining some kind of monk school. im actually sick of this lifestyle even though im young and didnt go through that much
Dr. Carlos Dangercat 3 years ago
In my family, people seem to take a long time to die. It's awful for them and exhausting to be a caretaker, especially for someone with dementia. I've started to question the American wisdom of extending life, no matter the quality. Fortunately, with some time after a death, you go back to remembering the person they were throughout their life, not just the person they were in the final stages.
Ivy la Sangrienta 3 years ago
Dust. It seems like every surface is always covered in dust as soon as I finish. It's never ending.
big mama of 3 3 years ago
We are 'self-employed', no days off, no health insurance, we are responsible for everything.
Voodoops_13 3 years ago
Depression and anxiety diagnoses are hitting an all time high, especially in the 18 - 65 year old bracket. It shows in these posts. The American work ethic is toxic, sh*t wages, few/no benefits, ridiculous work schedules, and 2 or 3 weeks off a year are killing us. It needs to be reformed into a European style system. Question the status quo and these outdated systems that will never get you to "The American Dream" your grandparents got to enjoy. Vote for change and those that give a crap about the working class. Sure, we'll all still have to clean the kitchen and pay bills, but we can learn to work to live. Not live to work.
Sean 3 years ago
nowadays im actually seriously considering living in a hut in some random forest or joining some kind of monk school. im actually sick of this lifestyle even though im young and didnt go through that much
Dr. Carlos Dangercat 3 years ago
In my family, people seem to take a long time to die. It's awful for them and exhausting to be a caretaker, especially for someone with dementia. I've started to question the American wisdom of extending life, no matter the quality. Fortunately, with some time after a death, you go back to remembering the person they were throughout their life, not just the person they were in the final stages.
Ivy la Sangrienta 3 years ago
Dust. It seems like every surface is always covered in dust as soon as I finish. It's never ending.
big mama of 3 3 years ago
We are 'self-employed', no days off, no health insurance, we are responsible for everything.
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