What would you say if someone asked you what it means to be a good man? Some may say it’s caring, others would say it’s about being honest. But what if the question were a little different—what does it mean to be a real man? Taking charge and risks, suppressing weaknesses, and talking like a man may pop into your mind.

This is in fact the real test Prof. Michael Kimmel, a leading scholar on masculinity, runs on his students when the classes start. The simple warm-up activity shows how confusing the messages that boys get from society about manhood are. And it’s not just boys, the notion of masculinity in our society often represses men, claiming that strength is manly, and emotions are weak.

In order to see how truly damaging these narrow cultural ideals of manliness can be, we have to look at the real-life stories from men who experienced it firsthand. So when someone asked on r/AskMen “What was the worst reaction to letting down your emotional shield?” the unsettling responses came in one after another, as they shed light on just how lonely and misunderstood some men really are.

#1

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings You guys must have pretty terrible girlfriends. My wife and I share most things we feel vulnerable about. I am not going out of my way to be emotional, but I'm not hiding it behind some shield either.

If you show your true colors to a partner and she breaks up with you, it wasn't meant to last anyway.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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4 months ago

Exactly this.

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#2

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings In college a couple friends (both f) noticed I (m) was having a bad week and insisted I tell them what was going on.

After 15 minutes of me ranting about my grades, professors, my job, my family, I was starting to feel better getting it all off my chest. But then one of them, making no attempt to hide it, leans to the other and says “damn I wish we never asked” and they both start laughing with each other about how much they didn’t want to be there listening to me.

Now whenever people ask how I’m doing I just say I’m fine or I’m tired to save the time and energy.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
4 months ago

Thats low. Dont ask unless u genuinely want to know. And dont diss other ppl when they open up:bring down ur wall is hard, and if it has to go back up it's fortified now

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#3

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I don’t like opening up to anyone even today, after two years of anti depressants and six months of therapy. I can’t open up to my mom because she would end up using it against me, maybe immediately, maybe later. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom. She’s been through a great deal and tried her level best to not let that [stuff] reach us ( my brother and I),but to err is human. My dad is what your typical Indian dad is, a stoic guy, not expressing himself( kind of like the meme of that dog sitting in a room on fire). Add to that his emotionally distant parents and him joining the army at 17 to become an officer and you have this absolutely thick exterior that doesn’t let anything through. I work as a doctor in Delhi. Everyone around is dying. Bright eyed juniors I knew, people I said goodbye to not knowing it would be the last opportunity I’d get, patients and their hapless families, grieving mothers/ fathers/ wives/ husbands/ parents/ children. None of them deserved it and I feel that somehow I’m to blame. I can’t just man up every time. Sorry I started this diatribe. Had to get it out somewhere.

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K Witmer
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4 months ago

So so so sorry. I feel so awful for you. I hope you heal from this and find a person you trust enough to confide in soon.

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#4

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings In my family I - as the father - am the rock and immovable point where everything hinges on. The stoic calm eye of the storm.

I once started to open up to my wife about what worries me and she almost had a nervous breakdown and I ended up consoling her for an hour. And it was some of the rather tame [stuff] I deal with all the time.

I stopped opening up about my worries towards her after that. I have a friend or two I can share heavy stuff with, but not with my partner. I tell her about stuff once it is solved.

"You should open up to me more!"

No.

Example of something current? The smell of desinfectant triggers painful memories of the death of my first daughter (NICU, 27 days old). Luckily you can't see my face under the mask in public, where there is a desinfectant station at every shop. I barely flinch at the pain anymore.

"You look grumpy today?"

"Grocery shopping was... exhausting. Everything is fine."

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Foxxy (The Original)
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4 months ago

How heartbreaking for 2 reasons. One for not being able to open up to your wife and two for the loss of your daughter.

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#5

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Told my dad I was on brain meds for anxiety.

“Mental weakling” were the words I believe.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

No wonder men's suicide rates are so high when men get reactions like this. Things need to change.

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#6

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I went to therapy and my therapist advised me to let down my guard to my girlfriend. She lost all attraction to me, shared my issues with her whole friend group for “her support”, and then broke up with me. Life will teach you lessons the hard way whenever possible.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Wow, that's pretty low.

Queen Jackson.
Community Member
4 months ago

I mean, dodged a bullet I guess.

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Nomadus Aureus
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm so sorry that has happened to you. If it's any consolation, she did you a favour. She's disgusting and so are her friends for not telling her to stop revealing your secrets. Unless those secrets could have potentially caused her harm, she has no business telling anyone about them. Maybe her therapists, if she's unsure of how to react, but couple's therapy exists for a reason.

Ellie
Community Member
4 months ago

That just speaks to her as a person. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being vulnerable with the ones you love and who love you. If they truly do you will find a way to make things work. If letting out your true feelings and she walks away from that then that is her lost and your gain.

Kevin Erdős–Bacon
Community Member
4 months ago

I hope the lesson was that some people are simply dirt, not not to let your guard down again

Rei
Community Member
4 months ago

What kind of normal human being does that in a relationship?!

VeryDarkMatter
Community Member
4 months ago

It shows what kind of person your gf truely is and that you should not waste any more time with her. I am sorry that it turned out that way. But maybe you can see a small bright side to this thinking you really dodged a bullet there. There are good people out who care. But the truth is, that there also plenty of people who are not worth 1 minute of your precious life time.

Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

The one person you are close to and put your trust in them and that happens...hmmm

DKS 001
Community Member
4 months ago

she obviously wasn't right for you anyway.

Petro Roos
Community Member
4 months ago

I don't understand how people react this way when men show their emotions. They're HUMAN and are "allowed" to show HUMAN emotions. When woman are angry or not "reacting" they way society thinks a woman should, then she's a bitch or must be PMSing, is it not at all possible that she could just be having a run of the mill shitty day... Same with men, if men aren't always perceived as being "strong" or confident or if they ever dare share their feelings, then they're weak and unattractive? 'Cause heaven forbid they ever show anything resembling human emotions? It sucks that this guy's girlfriend didn't acknowledge his emotions and just listened, because chances are, he won't be likely to open up to another woman again, because being shot down was the lesson he learned. Maybe he should find someone who will rather support him when he opens up - maybe that's the lesson.

Robin Childers
Community Member
4 months ago

At least you found out BEFORE you were married.

Kathryn Baylis
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Some people prefer the illusion to the reality—-and this can go both ways. Men tend to focus on the superficial in women and ignore the rest. Good test of the relationship.

Philly Bob Squires
Community Member
4 months ago

You didn't need her around anyway. Find someone who really cares for you and not some toxic hen.

Tame panda
Community Member
4 months ago

You should be happy because that happened. At least you broke up with a girl friend who really doesn't care about your emotions.

Vorknkx
Community Member
4 months ago

Good riddance! She was obviously not suitable to be your partner.

Hollysmom
Community Member
4 months ago

She was garbage and not worthy of you

TheKingOfTheLlamas
Community Member
4 months ago

Totally agree. I never speak much to my mother because everything I say has to be shared with everyone she knows, plus a handful of those she doesn't too.

kennedy1209
Community Member
4 months ago

cold hearted.

Deb Dedon
Community Member
3 weeks ago

That was a lesson on who to 'date' or let into your life, not a lesson on 'opening up'.

Susan Widomski
Community Member
3 weeks ago

There are things you can say to each other and things you should say to someone not emotionally involved with you. She didn't deserve you.

Fieke Engelen
Community Member
2 months ago

Wishing for your next girlfriend to be more supportive.

Luuta
Community Member
4 months ago

Normally, this advice would have been sound. Sadly, the relationship itself wasn't. Painful, but better to find out how shallow and disingenuous she is then and not twenty years later

Katinka Min
Community Member
4 months ago

That was not a real girlfriend.

Christine M Quigley
Community Member
4 months ago

Better she's gone... what an unkind witch..

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
4 months ago

She's not the right one, then. You gotta start with that card - and that isn't to say that every person should share every little thing with their partner - but be available to be vulnerable if you need to be - and find a woman who is strong enough to listen.

elfin
Community Member
4 months ago

Tough to go throw, but I think you dodged a bullet here.

Patzpie
Community Member
4 months ago

That is sad and I hope Karma comes back and bites that evil woman where it hurts the most😡

Marnie
Community Member
4 months ago

The only lesson there should have been that she s**ked and was horrible!! I hope the lesson was NOT to never let your guard down again.

Judy Nowiski
Community Member
4 months ago

You’re lucky to be rid of her!

Billy Maguire
Community Member
4 months ago

Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

HammerzToe
Community Member
4 months ago

Not every woman out there is like that. If she reacted like you say she did then you are better off without her. Even if you loved her, and it hurt to have her leave, you really are better off without that kind of toxic person in your life.

Janet Knox
Community Member
4 months ago

She was the wrong girl. Next one will be better.

Ruth Beaty
Community Member
4 months ago

I would say the girlfriend was the major issue.

Gregory Nyambu
Community Member
4 months ago

Definition of a sh*t girlfriend

Andrew Hamblin
Community Member
4 months ago

That is a win!, ¤&#(! that person, you're way better without that shallow excuse of a person.

Bama Belle
Community Member
4 months ago

What in the world did were his issues?

Suzanne Haigh
Community Member
4 months ago

In a way this was a blessing, you know for sure she is not worth your time and energy. Move on to someone who is warm and caring

Agnes Jekyll
Community Member
4 months ago

She is a terrible person. This is all about her and says nothing about you except you would never have been able to be yourself around her....I'm glad you are free of her, and there are MANY women out there who will love you for all that you are--the sad and the happy.

Gwen Parker
Community Member
4 months ago

People who are able to dismiss other people's feelings so easily and put THEIR OWN feelings front and center as a default, should NOT be in a relationship in the first place. These kinds of narrow-minded, weak-minded selfish individuals don't even know how to love and support themselves, let alone another human being. So sad people like this exist.

Elizabeth Molloy
Community Member
4 months ago

The lesson is, she was not worth your time.

Telmo Belo
Community Member
4 months ago

i hope you fired your therapist

thegolfball
Community Member
4 months ago

Better she's gone

Community Member
4 months ago

I know it's bad, but this is kind of a good thing. You figured this out before you got farther. It still must hurt though.

deanna woods
Community Member
4 months ago

That girlfriend was a low person and you are blessed to be free of her.

El Dee
Community Member
4 months ago

I hope he still feels able to share but there's no accounting for the selfish actions of some. At least he is rid of her now..

Nikki Sevven
Community Member
4 months ago

Wow. My attraction would increase, knowing you experienced human emotions and experiences.

Dan Buczynski
Community Member
4 months ago

I think that says more about your girlfriend than opening up.

kjorn
Community Member
4 months ago

yeah... why do you think men don't share. because we know s**t like that happen A LOT!

*me*
Community Member
4 months ago

Oof

CP
Community Member
4 months ago

At least he dodged a bullet

Emme Magnolia
Community Member
4 months ago

Honestly though, you dodged a bullet.

Wilf
Community Member
4 months ago

Doesn't mean the girl was bad, it probably just demonstrates how much girls are brought up to EXPECT men to behave in certain ways, and how even sexual attraction is defined by men playing up to those values. Society is a very powerful tool for conditioning behaviours. Toxic masculinity isn't just an issue for men, it's an issue women need to be able to deal with too.

Daria B
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm a woman, and let me tell you - there's no excuse for that... I won't say bitch because that would be an insult to dogs. Even if you're not committed into a serious relationship, even if you do lose attraction, there's better ways of handling these issues. It's not easy, but a bit of respect you can show.

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Losferatu
Community Member
4 months ago

Better off without her

Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
4 months ago

That was a sh.tty advice! What the therapist knows about her - and about your relationship?

Logic and Reason
Community Member
4 months ago

If his girlfriend was a decent person it would be great advice, but alas. The therapist couldn’t have known his girlfriend was like that, even he didn’t know.

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#7

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I opened up to my mother twice about how I feel about my life and she is still using it against me 5 years later. I’ll never forgive her for that

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Sarcastic Cow
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4 months ago

One of the biggest fears - tell something painful about yourself and they will use it against you.

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#8

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I opened up about my home situation in primary school to my teachers. it was about how my dad has a fuse the size of a microbe and can be verbally..abusive. my teacher told my parents what I told her. needless to say my dad was pissed and I didnt dare to talk about this stuff to “trust persons” till last year (16 years later)

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Sarcastic Cow
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4 months ago

What a teacher! :/

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#9

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My mother passed when I was 15, cried my eyes out to my girlfriend at the time – she called me a little b**** and said she didn’t get why I was crying – behind my back to her group of friends, and my best friend, who told me. So I broke up with her, then she spread a bunch of rumors about me. Yep, Teenagers are [messed] up

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Wtf, being a teenager is not an excuse to be heartless.

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#10

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings The one person I looked up to and wanted to be proud of me told me how worthless I was to him in a way that left no room for doubt.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

How devastating.

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#11

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My ex never reacted well to me opening up to her. I think it scared her or something. Getting a real, raw glimpse inside someone who is struggling with mental health issues can really freak people out, especially when they have this idea of who their partner should be or, how they want their life to be.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

We need to stop picturing men to be these robotic, emotionless beings. They have emotions just like everyone else and deserve to be heard.

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#12

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My biological father is a [jerk], and a lot of my depression and self esteem issues stem from my relationship with him. I tried opening up to a college girlfriend about it, and she called me “Captain Daddy Issues” and laughed at me. I laughed it off at the time, but it seriously broke my heart and led to me shutting down emotionally until I met the women I wound up marrying.

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I'm lay sheep in China
Community Member
4 months ago

Glad! He found someone who will understand him

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#13

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Grew up in the hood. Lost friends to violence or prison, lost people to drugs, saw some [stuff] that really [messed] me up.

Met a girl who told me I could tell her anything and she was always there if I needed to talk. One night it got to me and I opened up to her and you could just see all the attraction leave her face. She ended up distancing herself from me afterwards and we lost contact.

Learned a harsh but blunt truth that night. When women say they want you to open up, what they really mean is the romanticized version their favorite romance flicks show, not what it actually looks like to open up.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

I'm sorry she did that. Just know not every woman is like that. If I tell someone that I am here for them and that they can open up to me, I mean it. Even if I find some situations awkward and don't know what to say, I will still be there to listen.

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#14

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My wife started sleeping with someone else. Lesson learned.

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Alyssa Sweat
Community Member
4 months ago

There is no excuse for something like this happening.

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#15

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My grandfather who was like my father died. Then for the next 3 weeks I was very sad and aloof. My girlfriend at the time just found another guy because I couldn't be fun.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

What a way to kick a man when he's down. I know it's not much consolation but at least you found out the kind of person she was before you committed a lifetime with her. You deserve better.

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#16

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings For me, it was when I needed her to be the strong one. Got super stressed out from first deployment, expressed that I needed a day or two of my own time to chill out from my gf at the time due to her insatiable desire to either be horny or problematic or how she would constantly express her horniness and then dump a really tough conversation on me (she was very back and forth about wanting kids, huge topic for me). Like she’d butter me up and then mention her mother wants us to date for 7 years before marriage and that’s the only way it could happen like wHAT. So. During the time I needed to clear my head, I didn’t do anything that’d hurt her I just went to work and focused on me and coping. Turns out, she lost interest in me pretty much immediately and then left me the two days later once I felt okay again because I wasn’t good enough. It’s cool, I was fine all alone out there and I learned that I am not dating a manipulative wreck who uses relationships to feel better about themself and uses me as a therapist. I’m a grown ass man and sometimes if I’m really stressed I need space away from the stress and not more crying or problems or complicated shenanigans.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

stress can be a big mental problem and the last thing anybody needs is having more added to it.

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#17

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I found out the person I wanted to be proud of me was just using me for their own personal gain. It was one of two people I fully let my guard down and man it stung.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Not nice when someone you look up to kicks you down just when you needed them.

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#18

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings A friend of mine told me I should open up more, and to share more with her. She promptly decided to drop all her problems on me, while also telling me to [sod] off when I had my own problems because “you should go deal with your problems yourself, I’m not your therapist”. She then used my issues to try and gaslight me into thinking I was insane. Nice gal, we ain’t friends anymore.134

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Good for you. Who needs friends like that?

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#19

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My wife asked me what I said at counselling and I told her about my suicidal thoughts. She wondered aloud what else I hadn’t told her, and why I was keeping secrets, and does she really know me, and how can she trust me…

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Sue Hazlewood
Community Member
4 months ago

Yeah, because it is all about her

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#20

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings When I've opened up to women about my abusive childhood (because they ask me to "open up more"), they 9/10 times attempt to win gold in the "Victim Olympics". They compare traumas and somehow make it about them. Yet when they tell me about their struggles/traumas I always listen, show compassion, and validate them if applicable. I never compare.

My ex even got mad at me after I opened up. Not in the moment. It was about 3 weeks later. She said "I feel like I can't even open up to you anymore". When I asked why? she said "When I think about what you've been through, I feel like I can't complain about my situation". She was upset at me for this and wanted me to apologize for having "worse" (it's all subjective) trauma than her own.

I've found that many women want more for you to communicate how something made you feel. As opposed to hearing what actually happened. I've had the most success when I omit details and only discuss the feeling. For example "Childhood I felt helpless and alone but I'm good now". Rather than "When I was 11 my brother held a metal fork to the stove and branded me with it for fun".

Less details the better. Oh and for the record, you'll never out victim them.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Why do so many people have to make things into a competition. Especially about who is the biggest victim. I'm sorry but that is just f****d up. We all have our stories and we all deserve someone to hear us and I don't mean just listen but to actually acknowledge what they are saying and showing compassion.

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#21

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I got my ass beat for trying to talk to my mom about being abused. Then getting s**t on every time I’ve tried to relate to someone since. I don’t really want to live in a world like this but I guess I don’t have a choice.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

You are worthy, you just haven't found the right people to have in your life, to listen, love and support you.

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#22

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Once, I told my friends about my high insecurities regarding my physical appearance and my “attractivness” (or lack of thereof in my case), and they laughed at me and made joke about it not being a “big deal” and implying that I was acting/thinking like a girl. I never shared anything more with those friends lol.

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Everything AGR
Community Member
4 months ago

this is terrible, no one should laugh at someones insecurities.

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#23

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings The number of times I’ve been told “Ah you’re like a girl” and ignored is pathetic.

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
4 months ago

You´re like a girl - you have to be strong in a world full of a**holes. That´s true, innit?

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#24

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Opened up about how I felt about being dumped to a close friend that I was there for when they were in the same situation. My feelings and emotions were dismissed. The conversation left me feeling like an idiot for having these perfectly normal post break up feelings.

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

How quickly people forget things. So-called friends can be selfish. "I'm going through some heavy stuff. I need help. You have to listen to me." When it comes to you and your time of need: "Yeah, just get over it. It's no big deal."

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#25

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My ex GF,I was going through a rough patch slight depression. Told her I was looking to improve our relationship and understanding. She decided to break up with me.

Even if I was the rock, helped her earn some money, drove her everywhere. Helped her sister when she got beat up by exhusband (yeah awful). Helped her sister with the kids by finding them diapers and food. Helped the dad find oil and gasoline (my country for a moment there was none). And drove her to medical school when she couldn’t find transport. Paid for a trip to another country when our country was failing so we could be safer (later returned).

I said “you know i was not in a good place, i have not been my best for like 3 months. Ive supported you in everything, just give me a small chance”.

She responded “ don’t kill yourself, if you feel bad call your best friend”. “ you dont deserve this”.

Found out she cheated and the new boyfriend appeared a month later. Still hurts even after a year.

I’m still awestruck the way she did everything, a 3 year relationship meant that little.... but i have been better.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Everything that you have done for her and her family you sound to me to be a good man. If this is how she treated you then you are better off without her. Her loss big time!

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#26

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings That was my experience with my first girlfriend. She was really pushy about knowing my deepest, most irrational feelings, but got insecure, defensive and hurt over them when I shared instead of being remotely supportive.

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Tell me all about yourself, but leave out the details that I might find offensive, hurtful or too emotional for me to handle. [Sarcasm:Off]

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#27

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I tested the waters with my old college friends by telling them how sad I’ve been lately, but I was ignored.

It just hurt and made my feelings invalid. So, I pretended I was super chill, like I’ve always been doing and everything was ok again. Not really

Edit: This doesn’t sound so bad compared to everyone else, but I never share my feelings. I thought it might be a time where I can come out and try to share my emotions with people I thought would understand, but it wasn’t meant to be.

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Hilary Mol
Community Member
4 months ago

I appreciate you sharing this with all of us. I'm sorry you felt ignored and rejected by the people who were supposed to be your friends.

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#28

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Went through an ugly domestic violence experience and relationship breakdown. Restraining order. Divorce. Whole shebang.

Tried to reach out to my only family member. Was told "I don't have the emotional capacity to support you".

K. Thx. [screw] me right.

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H Edwards
Community Member
4 months ago

In this case I have some sympathy for the family member. Not everyone is emotionally capable of giving the type of support that is needed. It's not necessarily personal, and probably better that they just tell them up front. I hope the guy managed to find support elsewhere.

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#29

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I was honest with friends when I was younger and it just made me a target. If you show weakness you open yourself up to abuse. I think there's only 3 options really.

Therapy. Find an outside person with no social connection to you.

Work out to burn off those emotions.

Take ecstasy and overshare with people who are also on ecstasy. It's the only time in my life I've been able to do that and not be judged for it.

farlos75 , Polina Zimmerman Report

Logic and Reason
Community Member
4 months ago

Therapy- yes, if you can afford it. Exercise- totally! Ecstasy- Terrible idea. There are outlets to share your feelings without being on dangerous and illegal drugs.

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30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Divorce

fourpanelwindows , Karolina Grabowska Report

Justin G
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4 months ago

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