What would you say if someone asked you what it means to be a good man? Some may say it’s caring, others would say it’s about being honest. But what if the question were a little different—what does it mean to be a real man? Taking charge and risks, suppressing weaknesses, and talking like a man may pop into your mind.

This is in fact the real test Prof. Michael Kimmel, a leading scholar on masculinity, runs on his students when the classes start. The simple warm-up activity shows how confusing the messages that boys get from society about manhood are. And it’s not just boys, the notion of masculinity in our society often represses men, claiming that strength is manly, and emotions are weak.

In order to see how truly damaging these narrow cultural ideals of manliness can be, we have to look at the real-life stories from men who experienced it firsthand. So when someone asked on r/AskMen “What was the worst reaction to letting down your emotional shield?” the unsettling responses came in one after another, as they shed light on just how lonely and misunderstood some men really are.

#1

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings You guys must have pretty terrible girlfriends. My wife and I share most things we feel vulnerable about. I am not going out of my way to be emotional, but I'm not hiding it behind some shield either.

If you show your true colors to a partner and she breaks up with you, it wasn't meant to last anyway.

KtG_80 , Kim Siever Report

Foxxy (The Original)
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4 months ago

Exactly this.

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#2

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings In college a couple friends (both f) noticed I (m) was having a bad week and insisted I tell them what was going on.

After 15 minutes of me ranting about my grades, professors, my job, my family, I was starting to feel better getting it all off my chest. But then one of them, making no attempt to hide it, leans to the other and says “damn I wish we never asked” and they both start laughing with each other about how much they didn’t want to be there listening to me.

Now whenever people ask how I’m doing I just say I’m fine or I’m tired to save the time and energy.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
4 months ago

Thats low. Dont ask unless u genuinely want to know. And dont diss other ppl when they open up:bring down ur wall is hard, and if it has to go back up it's fortified now

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#3

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I don’t like opening up to anyone even today, after two years of anti depressants and six months of therapy. I can’t open up to my mom because she would end up using it against me, maybe immediately, maybe later. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom. She’s been through a great deal and tried her level best to not let that [stuff] reach us ( my brother and I),but to err is human. My dad is what your typical Indian dad is, a stoic guy, not expressing himself( kind of like the meme of that dog sitting in a room on fire). Add to that his emotionally distant parents and him joining the army at 17 to become an officer and you have this absolutely thick exterior that doesn’t let anything through. I work as a doctor in Delhi. Everyone around is dying. Bright eyed juniors I knew, people I said goodbye to not knowing it would be the last opportunity I’d get, patients and their hapless families, grieving mothers/ fathers/ wives/ husbands/ parents/ children. None of them deserved it and I feel that somehow I’m to blame. I can’t just man up every time. Sorry I started this diatribe. Had to get it out somewhere.

trastmaanus , Mulyadi Report

K Witmer
Community Member
4 months ago

So so so sorry. I feel so awful for you. I hope you heal from this and find a person you trust enough to confide in soon.

Wandaluzt
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3 months ago

This was posted on Reddit. They will not see your comment.

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Nat Hedley
Community Member
4 months ago

I found the original post on reddit and OP had come back to his post and added this: "Edit: Returned to this thread today morning. I never knew you could find love in strangers on the Internet. Stay safe all of you. Hope I never get to meet you when I’m working." Nice going, Internet :-)

Night Owl
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4 months ago

That's really nice :D Thanks Nat and thanks internet 👍

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CP
Community Member
4 months ago

I feel so sad, covid making doctors life hell and the death happening all around, almost unbelievable. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, you can reach out if you feel like it, I'm in jaipur

Wandaluzt
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3 months ago

They posted this on Reddit. There's no point trying to talk to them here.

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LottieH
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4 months ago

It's going to take a long time for many to heal after this pandemic, physically and mentally, I just hope the people who saw the worst will get the help they need.

Jane Dorothy Warner
Community Member
4 months ago

I am so sorry all this is happening around you, and I pray it doesn't happen TO you.

Wandaluzt
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3 months ago

It was posted on Reddit. They won't see this.

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bonnyatlast
Community Member
4 months ago

Here we will always listen. I hope you get to read the posts here too. Bless you for what you are doing. May you stay safe from the storm around you.

Wandaluzt
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3 months ago

They posted it on Reddit. So they're not likely to even know their post has been ripped off for content here.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

That would take its toll on most people. Fingers crossed he can find some support.

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
4 months ago

No one is to blame. We've all done our best times ten. Survivors' guilt plus medical-person guilt is not a burden anyone deserves, either, but we're feeling it, down to the level of volunteers like me. Doctors aren't gods. THey're not able to conquer everything. Grieve for your losses. It's okay. It's absolutely okay. And don't take on the guilt of surviving. It means you are there to help OTHERS.

enby from hell
Community Member
3 months ago

Do not dare to be sorry for feeling normal, human emotions. You don't need to be sorry. I hope this helped, at least a bit.

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
4 months ago

There are quiet ways to be heard - if this helps keep doing it.

Patzpie
Community Member
4 months ago

I feel for this man, especially considering what is happening in India as I write this. Where is the humanitarian aid? This saddens me so much😢

Judy Nowiski
Community Member
4 months ago

Please try to think instead about all of those people that you have helped and kept alive and who are so very grateful to you. Bless you.

Judy Nowiski
Community Member
4 months ago

Please think instead, about all of the people that you have helped and how very grateful they are to you. Bless you.

Laura Watts
Community Member
4 months ago

The job you do is hard enough but at the moment it's probably the hardest job in the world. Your doing an amazing job looking after others but your not a robot you have a right to feel and you should have someone to talk to. If you want to talk let me know I'm a good listener and never judge xx

Petina Stevens
Community Member
1 week ago

Hugs to you .Things are really hard everywhere and the strong will survive .you sound strong your here for a reason .Try to imbrace every happy moment you have no matter how small it is ,Warm hugs

Deb Dedon
Community Member
1 week ago

The problem with being a doctor under present pandemic circumstances is that you are expected, even pressured, to be super-human. You aren't. No one is. Do the best you can for your patients but make sure to take care of yourself. Being a responsible adult can bring burdens that are not your own. Don't accept anyone's baggage and drop as much unnecessary baggage as you can. I wish you strength to carry you through the storm. It will end.

Sandra Boyd
Community Member
2 weeks ago

No, how can you be to blame? You are the strong one using all your skills to save people. It must be so depressing for you while the epidemic goes on and on with no real lessening, despite you doing your best. Writing it all out truthfully like you have done could help you, admit you're only human and you are doing your best in a tragic situation. Do you have an interest that you could use to totally distract you from your working life? God bless you. I hope you are able to maintain your strength and find someone to discuss it with.

Susan Widomski
Community Member
2 weeks ago

I think we can really feel for you in this. We are in a particularly devastating time in history and unless you are as close as folks like you are to the pain and suffering, we can only be thankful it is not us in the same position. Far from being to blame, you and others are the heroes that are taking the bullets to the heart so the rest of us can go do our daily thing. We miss those we have lost, but are fortunate to not be hands on to watch them die. Please hang in there and tell yourself we really do care and really wish we could lift the burdens from your hearts.

Celena Camps
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Thank you so much for all of your hard work.. i also hope that you are able to find a good support network..

Luuta
Community Member
3 months ago

Sometimes intelligence and empathy are curses. Easier said than done, but you have to learn to switch your brain off to all the usual emotional responses you would normally give. Actors do this with a mental trick, where they can create a space for themselves to inhabit while they're acting, subsuming themselves while they're in that space. Surgeons should be able to do when they're operating, fooling themselves that the tissue they're working on has nothing to do with the patient. A deliberate blanking off of experience that would make doing their jobs very hard. You can do this, too. It's a knowing and temporary ability, not a schizoid split with reality. You need a long break first, though. Put yourself first so when you return you work you are much more able to do your job and do it well and keep your own health. You're not paid to be a martyr.

Mickie Shea
Community Member
4 months ago

That's ok. We were listening. Thank you.

Lady Cadaver
Community Member
4 months ago

I am proud of you for speaking about it, even if it here. Sharing your feelings, especially for a man, without fear of judgement, is scary. I would like to thank you for what you are doing as a doctor and I cannot even come close to understanding or comprehending what you must be suffering in your profession right now. It is not easy to always be strong, so instead, just take one day at a time. focus on getting through one day at a time. Please take care and be safe <3

Cheri Aline Sydney
Community Member
4 months ago

Just know that your heartache is felt by many who wish there was a way we could help make things better. I am glad you felt expressing your feelings on this site would provide you with some comfort. I pray more comfort and understanding will come your way. I am so sad for the devastation your country is going through, as well. I hope you find your profession, as a Doctor, fulfilling in knowing that each person you help means so much to all the people that their lives have touched, as well! Wishing you Heaven's blessings ~

Sawmang007
Community Member
4 months ago

I hope you find someone who deserve you, to listen to you..you are a strong person.

Monica Klint
Community Member
4 months ago

That sounds so hard… and you know its completely okay to say that. Just get it out…

Hollysmom
Community Member
4 months ago

The term "man up" is toxic masculinity

Pernille Dyre
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

You need a big for beeing such a hero 🤗❤

BensMom
Community Member
4 months ago

We hear you.

Robin Childers
Community Member
4 months ago

Get it out of your system. Write it down and then burn it if you don't want it found. Just express it somehow.

Miryam Alva
Community Member
4 months ago

God bless you always. 🌹Stay safe.

Bettie-Jean Neal
Community Member
4 months ago

I tell my mom NOTHING. She uses any and everything against me at some point. She can NOT be trusted. EVER.

Casey Burns
Community Member
4 months ago

This might get said a lot. But I'm here personally for you. Anytime.

Sheila McEnany Markowitz
Community Member
4 months ago

Thank you for your priceless work. True bravery is expressing one's feelings and vulnerabilities, and I hope you feel the support of so many who recognize and respect you for doing so.

Lunar Bicycle
Community Member
4 months ago

You’re carrying a tremendous weight on your shoulders. I wish I could do something to help you. I could never have the strength to bear what you do.

Amy Begun Saab
Community Member
4 months ago

I'm so sorry

Shalini Pabreja
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

We feel you, we see you, we are with you. What you’re going through is something no one ever can be trained for, I don’t care how many years of experience they have. It’s not on you and all of us know you’re doing the best you can. The system failed you, your patients and your loved ones. On behalf of an entire nation of grateful citizens, we thank you and salute you. You’re amazing, you’re brave and really strong for enduring where many would have given up. God bless you and we all love you. Your fellow Indians 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Crystal Pearson
Community Member
4 months ago

Wish I could give you my info so you can vent to me anytime you need someone to talk to

Rei
Community Member
4 months ago

There is always someone who will listen to you as much as you need it, give you comfort and peace, and heal your inner wounds if you let him. His name is Jesus. Sounds cheesy but its the truth. I would be a human wreck today without His transformational healing power and true love in my life.

Sue Bradley
Community Member
4 months ago

We all need to be kind to ourselves and look after ourselves - but many of us don't (me included) please let's all try Xxx

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#4

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings In my family I - as the father - am the rock and immovable point where everything hinges on. The stoic calm eye of the storm.

I once started to open up to my wife about what worries me and she almost had a nervous breakdown and I ended up consoling her for an hour. And it was some of the rather tame [stuff] I deal with all the time.

I stopped opening up about my worries towards her after that. I have a friend or two I can share heavy stuff with, but not with my partner. I tell her about stuff once it is solved.

"You should open up to me more!"

No.

Example of something current? The smell of desinfectant triggers painful memories of the death of my first daughter (NICU, 27 days old). Luckily you can't see my face under the mask in public, where there is a desinfectant station at every shop. I barely flinch at the pain anymore.

"You look grumpy today?"

"Grocery shopping was... exhausting. Everything is fine."

Horst665 , Polycart Report

Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

How heartbreaking for 2 reasons. One for not being able to open up to your wife and two for the loss of your daughter.

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#5

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Told my dad I was on brain meds for anxiety.

“Mental weakling” were the words I believe.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

No wonder men's suicide rates are so high when men get reactions like this. Things need to change.

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#6

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I went to therapy and my therapist advised me to let down my guard to my girlfriend. She lost all attraction to me, shared my issues with her whole friend group for “her support”, and then broke up with me. Life will teach you lessons the hard way whenever possible.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Wow, that's pretty low.

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#7

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I opened up to my mother twice about how I feel about my life and she is still using it against me 5 years later. I’ll never forgive her for that

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Sarcastic Cow
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4 months ago

One of the biggest fears - tell something painful about yourself and they will use it against you.

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#8

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I opened up about my home situation in primary school to my teachers. it was about how my dad has a fuse the size of a microbe and can be verbally..abusive. my teacher told my parents what I told her. needless to say my dad was pissed and I didnt dare to talk about this stuff to “trust persons” till last year (16 years later)

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
4 months ago

What a teacher! :/

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#9

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My mother passed when I was 15, cried my eyes out to my girlfriend at the time – she called me a little b**** and said she didn’t get why I was crying – behind my back to her group of friends, and my best friend, who told me. So I broke up with her, then she spread a bunch of rumors about me. Yep, Teenagers are [messed] up

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Wtf, being a teenager is not an excuse to be heartless.

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#10

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings The one person I looked up to and wanted to be proud of me told me how worthless I was to him in a way that left no room for doubt.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

How devastating.

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#11

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My ex never reacted well to me opening up to her. I think it scared her or something. Getting a real, raw glimpse inside someone who is struggling with mental health issues can really freak people out, especially when they have this idea of who their partner should be or, how they want their life to be.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

We need to stop picturing men to be these robotic, emotionless beings. They have emotions just like everyone else and deserve to be heard.

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#12

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My biological father is a [jerk], and a lot of my depression and self esteem issues stem from my relationship with him. I tried opening up to a college girlfriend about it, and she called me “Captain Daddy Issues” and laughed at me. I laughed it off at the time, but it seriously broke my heart and led to me shutting down emotionally until I met the women I wound up marrying.

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I'm lay sheep in China
Community Member
4 months ago

Glad! He found someone who will understand him

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#13

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Grew up in the hood. Lost friends to violence or prison, lost people to drugs, saw some [stuff] that really [messed] me up.

Met a girl who told me I could tell her anything and she was always there if I needed to talk. One night it got to me and I opened up to her and you could just see all the attraction leave her face. She ended up distancing herself from me afterwards and we lost contact.

Learned a harsh but blunt truth that night. When women say they want you to open up, what they really mean is the romanticized version their favorite romance flicks show, not what it actually looks like to open up.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

I'm sorry she did that. Just know not every woman is like that. If I tell someone that I am here for them and that they can open up to me, I mean it. Even if I find some situations awkward and don't know what to say, I will still be there to listen.

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#14

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My wife started sleeping with someone else. Lesson learned.

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Alyssa Sweat
Community Member
4 months ago

There is no excuse for something like this happening.

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#15

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My grandfather who was like my father died. Then for the next 3 weeks I was very sad and aloof. My girlfriend at the time just found another guy because I couldn't be fun.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

What a way to kick a man when he's down. I know it's not much consolation but at least you found out the kind of person she was before you committed a lifetime with her. You deserve better.

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#16

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings For me, it was when I needed her to be the strong one. Got super stressed out from first deployment, expressed that I needed a day or two of my own time to chill out from my gf at the time due to her insatiable desire to either be horny or problematic or how she would constantly express her horniness and then dump a really tough conversation on me (she was very back and forth about wanting kids, huge topic for me). Like she’d butter me up and then mention her mother wants us to date for 7 years before marriage and that’s the only way it could happen like wHAT. So. During the time I needed to clear my head, I didn’t do anything that’d hurt her I just went to work and focused on me and coping. Turns out, she lost interest in me pretty much immediately and then left me the two days later once I felt okay again because I wasn’t good enough. It’s cool, I was fine all alone out there and I learned that I am not dating a manipulative wreck who uses relationships to feel better about themself and uses me as a therapist. I’m a grown ass man and sometimes if I’m really stressed I need space away from the stress and not more crying or problems or complicated shenanigans.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

stress can be a big mental problem and the last thing anybody needs is having more added to it.

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#17

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I found out the person I wanted to be proud of me was just using me for their own personal gain. It was one of two people I fully let my guard down and man it stung.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Not nice when someone you look up to kicks you down just when you needed them.

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#18

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings A friend of mine told me I should open up more, and to share more with her. She promptly decided to drop all her problems on me, while also telling me to [sod] off when I had my own problems because “you should go deal with your problems yourself, I’m not your therapist”. She then used my issues to try and gaslight me into thinking I was insane. Nice gal, we ain’t friends anymore.134

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Good for you. Who needs friends like that?

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#19

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My wife asked me what I said at counselling and I told her about my suicidal thoughts. She wondered aloud what else I hadn’t told her, and why I was keeping secrets, and does she really know me, and how can she trust me…

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Sue Hazlewood
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4 months ago

Yeah, because it is all about her

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#20

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings When I've opened up to women about my abusive childhood (because they ask me to "open up more"), they 9/10 times attempt to win gold in the "Victim Olympics". They compare traumas and somehow make it about them. Yet when they tell me about their struggles/traumas I always listen, show compassion, and validate them if applicable. I never compare.

My ex even got mad at me after I opened up. Not in the moment. It was about 3 weeks later. She said "I feel like I can't even open up to you anymore". When I asked why? she said "When I think about what you've been through, I feel like I can't complain about my situation". She was upset at me for this and wanted me to apologize for having "worse" (it's all subjective) trauma than her own.

I've found that many women want more for you to communicate how something made you feel. As opposed to hearing what actually happened. I've had the most success when I omit details and only discuss the feeling. For example "Childhood I felt helpless and alone but I'm good now". Rather than "When I was 11 my brother held a metal fork to the stove and branded me with it for fun".

Less details the better. Oh and for the record, you'll never out victim them.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

Why do so many people have to make things into a competition. Especially about who is the biggest victim. I'm sorry but that is just f****d up. We all have our stories and we all deserve someone to hear us and I don't mean just listen but to actually acknowledge what they are saying and showing compassion.

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#21

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I got my ass beat for trying to talk to my mom about being abused. Then getting s**t on every time I’ve tried to relate to someone since. I don’t really want to live in a world like this but I guess I don’t have a choice.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
4 months ago

You are worthy, you just haven't found the right people to have in your life, to listen, love and support you.

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#22

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Once, I told my friends about my high insecurities regarding my physical appearance and my “attractivness” (or lack of thereof in my case), and they laughed at me and made joke about it not being a “big deal” and implying that I was acting/thinking like a girl. I never shared anything more with those friends lol.

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Everything AGR
Community Member
4 months ago

this is terrible, no one should laugh at someones insecurities.

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#23

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings The number of times I’ve been told “Ah you’re like a girl” and ignored is pathetic.

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
4 months ago

You´re like a girl - you have to be strong in a world full of a**holes. That´s true, innit?

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#24

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Opened up about how I felt about being dumped to a close friend that I was there for when they were in the same situation. My feelings and emotions were dismissed. The conversation left me feeling like an idiot for having these perfectly normal post break up feelings.

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Raine Soo
Community Member
4 months ago

How quickly people forget things. So-called friends can be selfish. "I'm going through some heavy stuff. I need help. You have to listen to me." When it comes to you and your time of need: "Yeah, just get over it. It's no big deal."

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#25

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings My ex GF,I was going through a rough patch slight depression. Told her I was looking to improve our relationship and understanding. She decided to break up with me.

Even if I was the rock, helped her earn some money, drove her everywhere. Helped her sister when she got beat up by exhusband (yeah awful). Helped her sister with the kids by finding them diapers and food. Helped the dad find oil and gasoline (my country for a moment there was none). And drove her to medical school when she couldn’t find transport. Paid for a trip to another country when our country was failing so we could be safer (later returned).

I said “you know i was not in a good place, i have not been my best for like 3 months. Ive supported you in everything, just give me a small chance”.

She responded “ don’t kill yourself, if you feel bad call your best friend”. “ you dont deserve this”.

Found out she cheated and the new boyfriend appeared a month later. Still hurts even after a year.

I’m still awestruck the way she did everything, a 3 year relationship meant that little.... but i have been better.

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Billy The Kid
Community Member
4 months ago

Everything that you have done for her and her family you sound to me to be a good man. If this is how she treated you then you are better off without her. Her loss big time!

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#26

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings That was my experience with my first girlfriend. She was really pushy about knowing my deepest, most irrational feelings, but got insecure, defensive and hurt over them when I shared instead of being remotely supportive.

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
4 months ago (edited)

Tell me all about yourself, but leave out the details that I might find offensive, hurtful or too emotional for me to handle. [Sarcasm:Off]

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#27

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I tested the waters with my old college friends by telling them how sad I’ve been lately, but I was ignored.

It just hurt and made my feelings invalid. So, I pretended I was super chill, like I’ve always been doing and everything was ok again. Not really

Edit: This doesn’t sound so bad compared to everyone else, but I never share my feelings. I thought it might be a time where I can come out and try to share my emotions with people I thought would understand, but it wasn’t meant to be.

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Hilary Mol
Community Member
4 months ago

I appreciate you sharing this with all of us. I'm sorry you felt ignored and rejected by the people who were supposed to be your friends.

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#28

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Went through an ugly domestic violence experience and relationship breakdown. Restraining order. Divorce. Whole shebang.

Tried to reach out to my only family member. Was told "I don't have the emotional capacity to support you".

K. Thx. [screw] me right.

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H Edwards
Community Member
4 months ago

In this case I have some sympathy for the family member. Not everyone is emotionally capable of giving the type of support that is needed. It's not necessarily personal, and probably better that they just tell them up front. I hope the guy managed to find support elsewhere.

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#29

30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings I was honest with friends when I was younger and it just made me a target. If you show weakness you open yourself up to abuse. I think there's only 3 options really.

Therapy. Find an outside person with no social connection to you.

Work out to burn off those emotions.

Take ecstasy and overshare with people who are also on ecstasy. It's the only time in my life I've been able to do that and not be judged for it.

farlos75 , Polina Zimmerman Report

Logic and Reason
Community Member
4 months ago

Therapy- yes, if you can afford it. Exercise- totally! Ecstasy- Terrible idea. There are outlets to share your feelings without being on dangerous and illegal drugs.

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30 Men Share The Worst Reactions They've Received After Showing Their True Feelings Divorce

fourpanelwindows , Karolina Grabowska Report

Justin G
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4 months ago

Oh

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