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Man Needs To Leave The Room Anytime Wife Puts On ‘RuPaul’s Drag Race’, She Continues Doing It
Basically, relationships with other people are never-ending compromises. That might sound a little harsh, but it’s true, isn’t it? After all, we have to learn to be a little inconvenienced for the sake of other people, just as they have to learn the same for our sake.
Yet, this fact is a very tough pill to swallow for some. Seemingly, the OP’s husband is one of these people. We say so because of how badly he reacts to the fact that his wife wants to watch her favorite TV show on Friday nights — exiling himself to the basement and then complaining about it. Doesn’t seem like a healthy way to deal with a compromise, does it?
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On Friday nights, this woman loves to watch RuPaul’s Drag Race, as it’s her favorite TV show
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Her husband hates it, so any time she turns it on, he goes to the basement and sits there until it ends
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He also likes to point out how unfair it is that he has to go there just so his wife can watch some TV, despite it not being his only option — he could go to the bedroom instead
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The woman, feeling that he’s the one being unreasonable here, went online to ask for netizens’ opinions on it
The OP and her husband live in a relatively small house, so naturally, their area to watch TV is not so big either.
So, they have to figure out ways to compromise on what and when they want to watch, something that many couples have to deal with, which is made apparent by discussions on forums like this one.
Some solve this by introducing their significant others to new genres, so they can watch the same things together, or trying out new genres together, while others like the original poster and her husband let each other watch TV separately.
Yet, what is also apparent is that in the author’s case, such an arrangement is causing a bit of problems for them.
Every Friday night, the OP likes to watch RuPaul’s Drag Race, a reality competition series, which has been airing since 2009. Ever since its debut, the show has become an undeniable global phenomenon, having successfullyexpanded beyond the American market due to a huge fan base. And, well, the original poster is certainly in this fanbase.
Her husband is the opposite of that. He dislikes the show so strongly, he feels the need to leave the room any time she watches it. So, during this hour and a half, he usually goes to their basement, which holds their area for working out, laundry, and storage.
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At some point, it started causing quite some trouble for their relationship. The man feels he shouldn’t be exiled to the basement after a hard day at work just so his wife can watch some TV show.
Yet, the woman refuses to record the show to watch it later, as she doesn’t want social media to spoil it. Typically, when watching fiction, people hate spoilers because they like to experience the emotions of finding out what happens while doing so, not before. And since, more often than not, reality TV shows tend to bestagedto some extent, this explanation works for them too.
She thinks she’s being reasonable enough – she just wants an hour and a half to enjoy herself. After all, her husband doesn’t even have to go to the basement, he could simply go to the bedroom, but he chooses differently.
So, the woman went online to ask which of them is being unreasonable here. Well, to the majority of netizens, the man seemed like the jerk here. To some, it seems like he either simply doesn’t know how to share or has some expectations of his wife spending time with him on Friday night, but he doesn’t properly communicate it.
Well, it sounds like maybe he needs to work on his communication skills, and we don’t mean the whining kind. After all, as the saying goes, “communication is key”, meaning that expressing your actual thoughts and feelings can often prevent a situation from getting worse. That definitely should apply here, shouldn’t it?
What do you think, which of the spouses in the story is being unreasonable? Share your take in the comments!
Folks online supported her and pointed out that the man might have some expectations about his wife spending time with him instead of the TV, but doesn’t properly communicate them
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Janelle Collard 10 months ago
Hubs is an only child. The word "share" is not in his vocabulary. I'd ignore his pissy little tantrums on Friday nights. Nobody is *forcing* him to exile himself to the basement. He's trying to manipulate OP into NOT watching her show. Don't let him! Get him a blankie + a binkie to make his basement stays more tolerable. 😁
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I'm also baffled by the husband's pouty self-exile. So he doesn't have ANY hobbies? He can't go for a walk? Go hang out with friends? He can't do ANYTHING other than pout in the basement for an hour and a half?
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Heather Menard 10 months ago
Why doesn't he finish the basement while down there for 90 minutes?
Sandra Lappan 10 months ago
Two Christmas ago I was in the Philippines to celebrate with my parents their 50th wedding anniversary where they got married. I was staying in the house that my parents had built. like many homes in the barangay there is only 1 TV in the house. I am a big drag race can so a chance to see Drag Race Philippines was something I could not pass up. My father can't stand drag race with the same amount I love the show. When Drag Race Philippines was on, my father went to his room so I could enjoy the show and later explain it to my cousin when she came home from mass.
A S Mora 10 months ago (edited)
It's not about Ru Paul's Drag Race, it's about him testing you to see how much of your personal joy you will sacrifice to placate his entitlement, and that's what it is! He feels ENTITLED to ask you to sacrifice a small happiness so that he can capriciously decide at some point he doesn't like something else you enjoy and pout till you give it up. He doesn't want to see you happy because happy people have the capacity to see and leave toxicity. I learned the hard way from watching how deliberately miserable my mom would make my and from my own tragic dating history that toxic people love spoiling and stealing joy. Run, lady, run!
Janelle Collard 10 months ago
Absolutely! He trying to *make* her do stuff!
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Ginger ninja 10 months ago
He’s intentionally throwing a strop. Why does he want the living room so badly?
Otto Katz 10 months ago
Why is no one saying it? HE DOESN'T LIKE GAY PEOPLE. He assumes these Queens are gay, and doesn't like his wife watching that. He is homophobic.
RedBadgerCan'tSwim 10 months ago
Not necessarily. While I wouldn't sulk in the basement, I also would not stay in the room for that show, or top model, or idol, or really any show where people are competing for judges. Just not my cup of tea. He is definitely being childish, but homophobic is a stretch.
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Karina 10 months ago
Dude sits in his unfinished basement and sulks.. Instead of actually doing something to finish it. And a grown man who cant stand other men have fun in a non traditional (havent watched the show, but im guessing) way sounds like red flags to me, since she clearly likes it and sees no problem with "spending time" with those men.
V 10 months ago
Eh, drag has been around as long as theatre, after thousands of years I feel we can say it's traditional at this point.
Load More Replies... Paul Rabit 10 months ago
I don't think there is a show I hate so much that I couldn't be in the same room as someone watching it. That is bizarre....
trixiefly11 10 months ago
Not super surprising with some people. I know multiple people who's spouses won't allow them to watch something that they don't like. They won't allow it unless they aren't home, if they come home it has to be turned off. I always thought it was selfish of them. Go do something else if it something you really don't want to see, but don't stop the person you are supposed to love from watching it. But the people I know who are like this are incredibly selfish in most things. All food has to be what they like. All vacations and dates have to be what they enjoy. They don't really care about their spouse, just what they want/need.
Maisey Myles 10 months ago
I think he’s a homophobe which is why he hates the show- and he’s a selfish brat boy
Shaggy 10 months ago (edited)
I leave the room, Not that the concept bothers me, but because I have seen them all... When they were new, it was interesting and it is something she likes, so win win... Ru gives the challenge, they make s**t, they perform, then they get judged, throw in alittle cattyness and there you are. Same as all the other reality dress up shows. The best one was faceoff or whatever where they made the scifi props, makeup and masks etc.. That one got old too... She leaves during Deadliest catch so we are even... LOL. Plus, a new 72" tv is under 500 bucks(just bought one)so cost should really not be an issue..
Meagan Glaser 10 months ago
His behavior makes me think he doesn't just dislike the show, he's offended by it. It being aired in his home is irking him in a way he might not even realise conciously.
Meowzers! 10 months ago
I watch films/series on my phone with my headphones in whilst my fella uses the tv for his Xbox. We really should get another tv as he's on the Xbox all night, every night, so I don't get to use it at all, but with me watching stuff on my phone instead we get to be in the same room whilst doing different things.
Joanne Wright 10 months ago
Right now this ia a lose lose situation that will never work. You need to find a way to compromise. Why can't you watch the live broadcast every other Friday, and tape the ones in between? That way you each are in control of 2 Friday evenings a month, which seems much more fair ot me.
Ace 10 months ago
Insane comments. Sharing works both ways. Despite her comments it would be perfectly reasonable for her to record it and watch later. It's what I always did for things that my wife did not like, motor racing and stuff and she would do the same for property programs and other stuff I don't like. It's not difficult, so despite everyone else's comments I'm going with a YTA here.
Nice Beast Ludo 10 months ago
He gets mad if she watches later as well. She would have to wait an entire week because apparently he only works on Fridays.
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Amy S 10 months ago
One show once a week isn't exactly owning the remote.
Load More Replies... Janelle Collard 10 months ago
Hubs is an only child. The word "share" is not in his vocabulary. I'd ignore his pissy little tantrums on Friday nights. Nobody is *forcing* him to exile himself to the basement. He's trying to manipulate OP into NOT watching her show. Don't let him! Get him a blankie + a binkie to make his basement stays more tolerable. 😁
LakotaWolf (she/her) 10 months ago
I'm also baffled by the husband's pouty self-exile. So he doesn't have ANY hobbies? He can't go for a walk? Go hang out with friends? He can't do ANYTHING other than pout in the basement for an hour and a half?
Load More Replies... Heather Menard 10 months ago
Why doesn't he finish the basement while down there for 90 minutes?
Sandra Lappan 10 months ago
Two Christmas ago I was in the Philippines to celebrate with my parents their 50th wedding anniversary where they got married. I was staying in the house that my parents had built. like many homes in the barangay there is only 1 TV in the house. I am a big drag race can so a chance to see Drag Race Philippines was something I could not pass up. My father can't stand drag race with the same amount I love the show. When Drag Race Philippines was on, my father went to his room so I could enjoy the show and later explain it to my cousin when she came home from mass.
A S Mora 10 months ago (edited)
It's not about Ru Paul's Drag Race, it's about him testing you to see how much of your personal joy you will sacrifice to placate his entitlement, and that's what it is! He feels ENTITLED to ask you to sacrifice a small happiness so that he can capriciously decide at some point he doesn't like something else you enjoy and pout till you give it up. He doesn't want to see you happy because happy people have the capacity to see and leave toxicity. I learned the hard way from watching how deliberately miserable my mom would make my and from my own tragic dating history that toxic people love spoiling and stealing joy. Run, lady, run!
Janelle Collard 10 months ago
Absolutely! He trying to *make* her do stuff!
Load More Replies... Ginger ninja 10 months ago
He’s intentionally throwing a strop. Why does he want the living room so badly?
Otto Katz 10 months ago
Why is no one saying it? HE DOESN'T LIKE GAY PEOPLE. He assumes these Queens are gay, and doesn't like his wife watching that. He is homophobic.
RedBadgerCan'tSwim 10 months ago
Not necessarily. While I wouldn't sulk in the basement, I also would not stay in the room for that show, or top model, or idol, or really any show where people are competing for judges. Just not my cup of tea. He is definitely being childish, but homophobic is a stretch.
Load More Replies... Karina 10 months ago
Dude sits in his unfinished basement and sulks.. Instead of actually doing something to finish it. And a grown man who cant stand other men have fun in a non traditional (havent watched the show, but im guessing) way sounds like red flags to me, since she clearly likes it and sees no problem with "spending time" with those men.
V 10 months ago
Eh, drag has been around as long as theatre, after thousands of years I feel we can say it's traditional at this point.
Load More Replies... Paul Rabit 10 months ago
I don't think there is a show I hate so much that I couldn't be in the same room as someone watching it. That is bizarre....
trixiefly11 10 months ago
Not super surprising with some people. I know multiple people who's spouses won't allow them to watch something that they don't like. They won't allow it unless they aren't home, if they come home it has to be turned off. I always thought it was selfish of them. Go do something else if it something you really don't want to see, but don't stop the person you are supposed to love from watching it. But the people I know who are like this are incredibly selfish in most things. All food has to be what they like. All vacations and dates have to be what they enjoy. They don't really care about their spouse, just what they want/need.
Maisey Myles 10 months ago
I think he’s a homophobe which is why he hates the show- and he’s a selfish brat boy
Shaggy 10 months ago (edited)
I leave the room, Not that the concept bothers me, but because I have seen them all... When they were new, it was interesting and it is something she likes, so win win... Ru gives the challenge, they make s**t, they perform, then they get judged, throw in alittle cattyness and there you are. Same as all the other reality dress up shows. The best one was faceoff or whatever where they made the scifi props, makeup and masks etc.. That one got old too... She leaves during Deadliest catch so we are even... LOL. Plus, a new 72" tv is under 500 bucks(just bought one)so cost should really not be an issue..
Meagan Glaser 10 months ago
His behavior makes me think he doesn't just dislike the show, he's offended by it. It being aired in his home is irking him in a way he might not even realise conciously.
Meowzers! 10 months ago
I watch films/series on my phone with my headphones in whilst my fella uses the tv for his Xbox. We really should get another tv as he's on the Xbox all night, every night, so I don't get to use it at all, but with me watching stuff on my phone instead we get to be in the same room whilst doing different things.
Joanne Wright 10 months ago
Right now this ia a lose lose situation that will never work. You need to find a way to compromise. Why can't you watch the live broadcast every other Friday, and tape the ones in between? That way you each are in control of 2 Friday evenings a month, which seems much more fair ot me.
Ace 10 months ago
Insane comments. Sharing works both ways. Despite her comments it would be perfectly reasonable for her to record it and watch later. It's what I always did for things that my wife did not like, motor racing and stuff and she would do the same for property programs and other stuff I don't like. It's not difficult, so despite everyone else's comments I'm going with a YTA here.
Nice Beast Ludo 10 months ago
He gets mad if she watches later as well. She would have to wait an entire week because apparently he only works on Fridays.
Load More Replies... Amy S 10 months ago
One show once a week isn't exactly owning the remote.
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