Dad Figures Out How To Make Woman On Plane Uncomfortable After She Refuses To Move Her Hair Away
Hair is, for the most part, considered a pretty personal thing. It’s not like we let just anyone touch it, and if we ever feel tense, it’s one of the first things we touch (and then fondle) in order to comfort ourselves and to alleviate all that stress.
However, there’s a contingent of people who like to live dangerously and throw their beautiful luscious hair over their airplane seat-rest only to be creeped out by the dad of the kid whose in-flight movie was blocked as a result.
It always seems more deliberate than anything whenever passengers throw their hair over the seat-rest on a plane
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One thing they don’t expect, though, is a dad, whose kid couldn’t watch a movie because of said hair, putting an end to the obnoxiousness
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No, he didn’t cut the hair—rather, he swapped seats with the kid and creeped out and shamed the passenger with sarcasm
A Redditor was recently flying with his wife and kid to Mexico when the lady sitting in front of his daughter threw her goldie locks over her seat rest, thus blocking the Trolls movie the kid was enjoying.
Talking didn’t help, so he instead swapped seats with his daughter. When she asked why, he explained he just wanted to take a closer look at the woman’s hair because he thought it was pretty.
No more of the woman’s hair was seen throughout the rest of the flight.
The reason why this ended up on r/AITAH was that his wife thought it was rude. Not Redditors, though—they thought the dad was the hero here. Folks thought the resolution was quick and smooth, all while keeping it civil.
If anything, they paid for a hairless seat. They deserved one.
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When it comes to plane etiquette, there are no specifics in terms of hair, but it is generally expected that folks keep to their own space
Everyone who flew at least once understands how cramped airplanes can be and there is little room for personal space. But that doesn’t mean someone else has to suffer while you overcompensate for it. Yes, that includes hair.
Instead, the most sensible solution to keeping everyone else out of your hair is to tie it up. There is no point in trying to look beautiful on a plane because it’ll still look like you’ve just gotten out of bed.
But if you insist on looking the part of a dashing swordsman, take a small dry shampoo bottle on board and go wild on your hair before you land.
However, if you see someone who flat out refuses to keep their hair in line, do not meddle with it: don’t tie knots, don’t cut it, don’t tangle, nothing. Instead simply ask the flight attendants to help (if talking doesn’t work), or do what the dad did—if it’s an issue of not being able to see the screen, and there is an opportunity to swap seats, go for it. It doesn’t hurt anyone.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Are you team dad or team Goldie Locks? Share your takes and stories in the comment section below!
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Folks online were all confident that the dad was not the jerk
Some folks shared similar stories of hair-filled flights
There were a couple of people who played devil’s advocate and sided with the missus
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People calling OP the AH are so dumb. She was asked to move her hair and decided it was easier to try bullying a child. Hopefully she'll think harder about it next time.
Yeah exactly. Makes me think the YTA people are the sort who'd drape their hair over the seat behind them and annoy other people.
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YTA people, once again, being ridiculous. He shouldn't have had to ask, let alone ask more than once. Is he supposed to summon a FA for help every 15 minutes for the entire flight? Also, "fear for her safety"? While I agree with that sentiment in general for women, it's pretty over the top for this case. The YTAs and OP's wife is why people like that rude a*s lady continue to do rude a*s things. They shouldn't have to be asked and if they continue to be a******s then any REASONABLE action taken is their own fault.
I often have very long hair. I've heard some pretty obscene comments from dudes, and been subject to a great deal of unwanted touching and sniffing. (I grow my hair long to donate; it grows fast, so it's something I can do for others). Saying "I like it and I want to look" when she's deliberately hanging it in front of them to inconvenience them is nothing. If he'd touched or sniffed, that's gross. But when she was using it as a weapon to harass his kid... sorry, honey, you're going to hear something."
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Why would someone drape their long hair over the back of a seat? Are they not concerned that it might get caught when someone lowers and then raises the tray?
As someone who frequently has long hair... yeah, that's just stupid. It's an invitation to unwanted touching and getting it tangled in something. She was making a power play there, showing those people that she thought she was more important than them.
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Totally on board with those suggesting fake sniffing it 🤣🤣🤣. And the YTA bunch who say he made her feel unsafe...get a grip. She was asked politely by a little girl. If she had shown a little respect (and sorority), none of it would have happened.
She was using her hair to harass a child. She was using it as a weapon. The father was fighting back, in the least invasive way he could. I've had my long hair sniffed, and I hate it. But I also don't use it to cover a child's tv screen.
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It's disgusting how some people think being polite means letting rufe people get away with their bs as soon as the only way to make them stop might make them feel uncomfortable. Wake up! Selfish people don't give a hoot for other's needs. They'd step over you and let you die if helping you would stop them getting coffee. If they're never stop and everyone caters to them... Well, you just have to look around and you'll see what that does. Nasty people deserve to feel the consequences of their callousness. They'll never stop being AHs if everyone caters to them.
And the little girl deserves to know that nobody has the right to bully her. She will see this as her dad defending her.
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I would justike to point out "he should have involved the flight attendants" HE DID.
Yeah, don't understand why that was a poll option when it obviously didn't achieve anything in his particular case...
Load More Replies... It's funny, but it also shows his restraint and wisdom. He knows not to harass women. He chose the mildest comment possible to get his point across because he doesn't like being pervy and disrespectful.
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NTA. That obnoxious passenger sounds like the type of moviegoer that puts their feet up on the occupied seat in front of them. No class at all. OP handled the situation like a duck--quack quack, put your hair back. I'd be proud to sit in his row if I should fly again.
I often have my hair to my waist. I grow it out to donate it to trans women whose hair isn't growing in well... they make extensions and feel better about themselves. During my long-hair phases, there is nothing I hate more than people touching it. I don't mind a compliment if it's polite. To throw your hair in someone's face like that is rude AF and a total power play. The man just said he wanted to look, and he did it to make a point of how it was in their way. He didn't touch and he didn't say anything dirty. I think he was fine.
I'd have said in a voice loud enough to hear, "Oh no kiddo, we're gonna have to get you a new drink that hair is draped in your chocolate milk! Oh NO! Now it's on your peanut butter sandwich!"
People who said YTA: what is your problem?? OP found a non-violent way to solve this problem. If it was me, i would've done something worse.
This is the kind of clever solution I'm trying to cultivate in my daughter and her friends- when someone is rude to you (hair lady), don't call names, don't get violent, just MAKE IT WEIRD! They go away, you have fun, problem solved!
She was lucky, if it was me, I would have cut it {I got lil scissors as part of medical supplies I'm allowed to take on with me} here and there, then gave it to her as we got off, Or leaned over and said "Sorry to tell you this but I just saw some lice on the seat...Be careful!". . . . . . . . . . But Did her mother not teach her not to be a rude Bi*ch? My mom and mother taught me to put my hair inside my shirt/coat when I sat in a chair or seat in the Doctor's office or taxi because you never know WHO SAT THERE Before, Like..What if someone did that too but had Lice? {I am Male but had almost butt-length hair most of my life} . . . . I hope she did get lice from it . . . .
What would have been mean is to loudly ask the flight attendant for a pair of scissors.
I heard another story like this where the person quietly put a bunch of random, messy braids in the person's hair.
YTA People didn't seem to read the account. They did ask her, and they did ask the Flight staff. Women ignored both, she deserves a little bout of self-consciousness.
I hope to see a long-haired person pull the same stunt on those saying YTA. See if they like having their screen view obscured by somebody else's long locks for a few long hours. OP was creative in his approach. She can't say she wasn't warned because 3rd time's the charm.
I don't have long hair myself, but i've traveled on several planes with a friend who has extremely long hair, and not once did she flip it over the seat back.This makes me think that the women who do this just want attention, it is not necessary to spill their hair over the seat back, and they deserve whatever backlash they get from doing so.
Open table. Let hair fall in. Close table. Pretend to sleep through the screaming.
In my opinion, one of the main roles of flight attendants after their safety responsibilities should be to monitor people for rude behavior. Everyone all cooped up like that is a bad situation. And the customers can't make much of a fuss. The entire industry would be better if the attendants would nip every thing like this in the bud. No putting your feet on other people's arm rests, no hair over the back, no listening to something without headphones, etc.
Those claiming YTA.....only if it was pubic hair would it have seemed creepy
This has happened twice to me and I just grab the hair and throw it back over with a comment to keep her hair in her own space.
It was Passive Agressive and I LOVE it. I can see the wife's point, but I don't care, and it's better than my solution - I would have given the kid some chewing gum "to stop her ears popping".
Or maybe just loudly offer my kid a craft activity... here are your scissors honey.
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Them YTAs failed to realize that she didn't correct her rude behavior when he was being nice about it ... WTF did his wife think she was going to do after the seat change if she wasn't aware of it ... GTFOOHWTBS ...
YTA ppl missing that he DID ask her to move her hair (she said no) and involved the FA (that lasted 15 mins). So what would involving the FA do again? Teach ppl manners. The row behind you isnt YOUR space.
my hair is very long and curly, like butt length, so at least as long as this woman's judging by how far it went down to the girl's video... when i travel any distance, even in a vehicle, you can bet it's braided. it keeps everything out of my hair, my hair getting into anything, somewhat tamed(lol!) and from getting caught in anything. hair this long takes effort and i don't get why she would even do that... i really think how he dealt with it was epic. she was clearly listening and deserved it, he didn't actually do anything or even touched it, and it was clear she was being deliberate with the listening in when the daughter returned.
What is it with all those people who think they own the world and the others, who think they are not allowed to „make someone uncomfortable“ for being an absolute a**hole?
As someone with rather long hair, I really do not understand putting hair over the seat on a shared public transportation system. The only time I put my hair over the top of a seat is my personal gaming chair at home, to dry my hair after a shower (with towel over seat, of course). Other than that, absolutely no reason to drape hair over a high backed seat.
See, I am probably most certainly the AH, because I'd be pulling out a pair of scissors.
I just close the tray on their hair. They figure it out eventually.
You are a genius! You were so much nicer than I would have been. I would have loudly asked for a pair of scissors to cut something out ...
SHE was making HIM and HIS DAUGHTER uncomfortable. He used politeness and assertiveness; she ignored it, making it abundantly clear that she was going to be deliberately spiteful to a little girl just because she could. She was counting on "oh, I can get away with this because I'm a woman and he's not allowed to say anything rude to me." She was weaponizing her gender to get away with bullying a little girl. When you are deliberately making a child uncomfortable, then it's within someone else's right to make you uncomfortable if that's all that will make you stop. He chose the mildest comment possible. He showed his daughter "you are important enough that I will defend you even if it means not being polite." He showed his daughter that her comfort was more important than that of the person who was being spiteful to her. That's a good message.
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People calling OP the AH are so dumb. She was asked to move her hair and decided it was easier to try bullying a child. Hopefully she'll think harder about it next time.
Yeah exactly. Makes me think the YTA people are the sort who'd drape their hair over the seat behind them and annoy other people.
Load More Replies... YTA people, once again, being ridiculous. He shouldn't have had to ask, let alone ask more than once. Is he supposed to summon a FA for help every 15 minutes for the entire flight? Also, "fear for her safety"? While I agree with that sentiment in general for women, it's pretty over the top for this case. The YTAs and OP's wife is why people like that rude a*s lady continue to do rude a*s things. They shouldn't have to be asked and if they continue to be a******s then any REASONABLE action taken is their own fault.
I often have very long hair. I've heard some pretty obscene comments from dudes, and been subject to a great deal of unwanted touching and sniffing. (I grow my hair long to donate; it grows fast, so it's something I can do for others). Saying "I like it and I want to look" when she's deliberately hanging it in front of them to inconvenience them is nothing. If he'd touched or sniffed, that's gross. But when she was using it as a weapon to harass his kid... sorry, honey, you're going to hear something."
Load More Replies... Why would someone drape their long hair over the back of a seat? Are they not concerned that it might get caught when someone lowers and then raises the tray?
As someone who frequently has long hair... yeah, that's just stupid. It's an invitation to unwanted touching and getting it tangled in something. She was making a power play there, showing those people that she thought she was more important than them.
Load More Replies... Totally on board with those suggesting fake sniffing it 🤣🤣🤣. And the YTA bunch who say he made her feel unsafe...get a grip. She was asked politely by a little girl. If she had shown a little respect (and sorority), none of it would have happened.
She was using her hair to harass a child. She was using it as a weapon. The father was fighting back, in the least invasive way he could. I've had my long hair sniffed, and I hate it. But I also don't use it to cover a child's tv screen.
Load More Replies... It's disgusting how some people think being polite means letting rufe people get away with their bs as soon as the only way to make them stop might make them feel uncomfortable. Wake up! Selfish people don't give a hoot for other's needs. They'd step over you and let you die if helping you would stop them getting coffee. If they're never stop and everyone caters to them... Well, you just have to look around and you'll see what that does. Nasty people deserve to feel the consequences of their callousness. They'll never stop being AHs if everyone caters to them.
And the little girl deserves to know that nobody has the right to bully her. She will see this as her dad defending her.
Load More Replies... I would justike to point out "he should have involved the flight attendants" HE DID.
Yeah, don't understand why that was a poll option when it obviously didn't achieve anything in his particular case...
Load More Replies... It's funny, but it also shows his restraint and wisdom. He knows not to harass women. He chose the mildest comment possible to get his point across because he doesn't like being pervy and disrespectful.
Load More Replies... NTA. That obnoxious passenger sounds like the type of moviegoer that puts their feet up on the occupied seat in front of them. No class at all. OP handled the situation like a duck--quack quack, put your hair back. I'd be proud to sit in his row if I should fly again.
I often have my hair to my waist. I grow it out to donate it to trans women whose hair isn't growing in well... they make extensions and feel better about themselves. During my long-hair phases, there is nothing I hate more than people touching it. I don't mind a compliment if it's polite. To throw your hair in someone's face like that is rude AF and a total power play. The man just said he wanted to look, and he did it to make a point of how it was in their way. He didn't touch and he didn't say anything dirty. I think he was fine.
I'd have said in a voice loud enough to hear, "Oh no kiddo, we're gonna have to get you a new drink that hair is draped in your chocolate milk! Oh NO! Now it's on your peanut butter sandwich!"
People who said YTA: what is your problem?? OP found a non-violent way to solve this problem. If it was me, i would've done something worse.
This is the kind of clever solution I'm trying to cultivate in my daughter and her friends- when someone is rude to you (hair lady), don't call names, don't get violent, just MAKE IT WEIRD! They go away, you have fun, problem solved!
She was lucky, if it was me, I would have cut it {I got lil scissors as part of medical supplies I'm allowed to take on with me} here and there, then gave it to her as we got off, Or leaned over and said "Sorry to tell you this but I just saw some lice on the seat...Be careful!". . . . . . . . . . But Did her mother not teach her not to be a rude Bi*ch? My mom and mother taught me to put my hair inside my shirt/coat when I sat in a chair or seat in the Doctor's office or taxi because you never know WHO SAT THERE Before, Like..What if someone did that too but had Lice? {I am Male but had almost butt-length hair most of my life} . . . . I hope she did get lice from it . . . .
What would have been mean is to loudly ask the flight attendant for a pair of scissors.
I heard another story like this where the person quietly put a bunch of random, messy braids in the person's hair.
YTA People didn't seem to read the account. They did ask her, and they did ask the Flight staff. Women ignored both, she deserves a little bout of self-consciousness.
I hope to see a long-haired person pull the same stunt on those saying YTA. See if they like having their screen view obscured by somebody else's long locks for a few long hours. OP was creative in his approach. She can't say she wasn't warned because 3rd time's the charm.
I don't have long hair myself, but i've traveled on several planes with a friend who has extremely long hair, and not once did she flip it over the seat back.This makes me think that the women who do this just want attention, it is not necessary to spill their hair over the seat back, and they deserve whatever backlash they get from doing so.
Open table. Let hair fall in. Close table. Pretend to sleep through the screaming.
In my opinion, one of the main roles of flight attendants after their safety responsibilities should be to monitor people for rude behavior. Everyone all cooped up like that is a bad situation. And the customers can't make much of a fuss. The entire industry would be better if the attendants would nip every thing like this in the bud. No putting your feet on other people's arm rests, no hair over the back, no listening to something without headphones, etc.
Those claiming YTA.....only if it was pubic hair would it have seemed creepy
This has happened twice to me and I just grab the hair and throw it back over with a comment to keep her hair in her own space.
It was Passive Agressive and I LOVE it. I can see the wife's point, but I don't care, and it's better than my solution - I would have given the kid some chewing gum "to stop her ears popping".
Or maybe just loudly offer my kid a craft activity... here are your scissors honey.
Load More Replies... Them YTAs failed to realize that she didn't correct her rude behavior when he was being nice about it ... WTF did his wife think she was going to do after the seat change if she wasn't aware of it ... GTFOOHWTBS ...
YTA ppl missing that he DID ask her to move her hair (she said no) and involved the FA (that lasted 15 mins). So what would involving the FA do again? Teach ppl manners. The row behind you isnt YOUR space.
my hair is very long and curly, like butt length, so at least as long as this woman's judging by how far it went down to the girl's video... when i travel any distance, even in a vehicle, you can bet it's braided. it keeps everything out of my hair, my hair getting into anything, somewhat tamed(lol!) and from getting caught in anything. hair this long takes effort and i don't get why she would even do that... i really think how he dealt with it was epic. she was clearly listening and deserved it, he didn't actually do anything or even touched it, and it was clear she was being deliberate with the listening in when the daughter returned.
What is it with all those people who think they own the world and the others, who think they are not allowed to „make someone uncomfortable“ for being an absolute a**hole?
As someone with rather long hair, I really do not understand putting hair over the seat on a shared public transportation system. The only time I put my hair over the top of a seat is my personal gaming chair at home, to dry my hair after a shower (with towel over seat, of course). Other than that, absolutely no reason to drape hair over a high backed seat.
See, I am probably most certainly the AH, because I'd be pulling out a pair of scissors.
I just close the tray on their hair. They figure it out eventually.
You are a genius! You were so much nicer than I would have been. I would have loudly asked for a pair of scissors to cut something out ...
SHE was making HIM and HIS DAUGHTER uncomfortable. He used politeness and assertiveness; she ignored it, making it abundantly clear that she was going to be deliberately spiteful to a little girl just because she could. She was counting on "oh, I can get away with this because I'm a woman and he's not allowed to say anything rude to me." She was weaponizing her gender to get away with bullying a little girl. When you are deliberately making a child uncomfortable, then it's within someone else's right to make you uncomfortable if that's all that will make you stop. He chose the mildest comment possible. He showed his daughter "you are important enough that I will defend you even if it means not being polite." He showed his daughter that her comfort was more important than that of the person who was being spiteful to her. That's a good message.
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