“Divorce – Next Question”: Husband Thinks Wife Will Get Roasted Online, He Gets Destroyed Instead

Sharing a home with someone often means having to pick up not only after yourself, but after them, too. Or cook for not only yourself, but them, too. Or clean not only… well, you get the idea.

For this netizen, going on TikTok by ‘vivianbb11’, that someone was her mother-in-law. While the OP wasn’t responsible for providing care for her, living under the same roof often meant helping the woman out with certain tasks. Eventually, with work, and doing most of the chores at home, it all became too much; but when she told that to her husband, he called her delusional. Scroll down to find the full story and Vivian’s video below.

For this woman, living with her mother-in-law became too much

Young woman in a car wearing a pink Columbia jacket, reacting to husband saying wife is delusional and does nothing for his mom.

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But when she complained of the situation to her husband, he called her delusional

Screenshot of a wife defending her housework and work hours after husband calls her delusional for not helping his mom.

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Text excerpt showing a husband complaining his wife does nothing for his mom and cooks rarely, highlighting family conflict.

Text about the challenges of assisting a senior relative and managing housework, highlighting tension in family care dynamics.

Text excerpt showing a wife explaining her struggle caring for husband's mother while he accuses her of doing nothing.

Text conversation showing a wife questioning her role, while husband accuses her of doing nothing for his mom.

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Text discussing a husband’s claim that his wife does nothing for his mom, sparking online backlash and calling her delusional.

Text about husband calling wife delusional for not helping with his mom, sparking strong online reactions.

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Many adults share their home with a parent

Sharing your space with someone else is not always easy. That’s why even moving in with someone you love can require adjusting to, not to mention with someone you weren’t planning on living with in the first place.

For this redditor, the person she was likely not planning on sharing a home with was her husband’s mother; and that is arguably not that uncommon of a scenario. Elderly parents often move back with their children, be it for companionship or care-related reasons.

According to the Pew Research Center, back in 2017, close to 79 million (31.9%) adults in the US lived in a shared household – a household with at least one “extra adult” who is not the household head, their spouse or unmarried partner, or a student aged 18-to-24. This marks quite a significant increase from 2004 (27.4%) and 1995 (28.8%).

Out of all the “extra adults” back in 2017, 14% were parents of the household head (marking an increase from just 7% in 1995). So clearly, the OP’s mother-in-law is far from the only one having moved in with her adult child. Though, nowadays, the opposite is a common scenario – known as the “boomerang kids”, adult children are increasingly moving back in with their parents, often with their own kids in tow.

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A large share of people believe they will have to take care of an elderly family member in the future

According to the World Health Organization, by 2030, as much as one-in-six people globally will be aged 60 years or over. During this time, the population aged 60 and over is expected to increase from 1 billion in 2020 to 1.4 billion. By the year 2050, it is expected to reach 2.1 billion.

With the share of the elderly population growing quite rapidly, it’s safe to assume that many people will require caring for or assistance in the future. As a matter of fact, many people already do, and it often falls on the shoulders of their children. Pew Research Center reveals that as much as 14% of adults in their 40s and 50s have already cared for an aging parent (or other elderly family member). Almost 70% say that it’s “very” or “somewhat” likely that they will have to do it in the future.

Data shows that married people are more likely to say that they expect to care for an aging family member than those who are unmarried, likely because they have parents-in-law, in addition to their own parents, who might need taking care of.

Some studies suggest that a 20-year-old person might expect to spend on average 5.1 years of their lives caring for an older adult with an activity limitation. But most people seem to believe that it’s the adult children’s responsibility to care for their elderly parents. Surveys show that as much as 66% percent of adults in the US say grown children should have “a great deal” or “a fair amount” of responsibility to provide caregiving for an elderly parent who needs it.

In her video, the OP shared that she wasn’t responsible for providing care to her mother-in-law. However, the woman was responsible for most of the chores around the house, which likely included taking care of the mess created by all of the household’s residents. Moreover, she would often have to help her MIL with meal prepping, which, together with work and chores, can get pretty tiresome. Though, her husband didn’t seem to realize that, as, in his eyes, the woman wasn’t taking care of his mother. He suggested his wife tell her story to the online audience to see just how “delusional” she was, but it was his wife and not him that said audience ended up showing support to.

Vivian’s husband told her to share her story on TikTok, so she did

@vivianbb11#fyp#inlaws#husbandwife♬ original sound – pardonmoivivian

But the netizens didn’t side with the husband, as he likely thought they would

Social media comment telling a wife’s husband to marry his mom, related to husband and wife online conflict.

Comment on social media discussing marriage partnership and defending wife against unreasonableness claims in online debate.

Comment from Sheila defending wife, calling husband delusional, urging to leave him, with 555 likes on social media post.

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Comment from user Warrior supporting wife, stating husband should hear and respect her, with 18.1K likes.

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Online comment criticizing husband for saying wife is delusional and does nothing for his mom, sparking strong reactions.

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Comment suggesting faking an emergency to expose a wife accused of doing nothing for husband's mom in an online debate.

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Comment supporting wife against husband calling her delusional for not helping his mom, urging to protect peace online.

Comment on social media accusing husband of gaslighting wife amid online dispute about his mom and her behavior.

Online comment criticizing wife as delusional and not helping husband's mom sparks heated debate.

Comment from Maryam defending wife against husband’s dismissive claim about caring for his mother and cleaning efforts.

Comment advising to stop doing things for husband’s mom as he disrespects and takes advantage, relating to wife conflict online.

Comment expressing frustration over emotional abuse and caretaking duties in a husband-wife-mother dynamic online discussion.

Comment about husband working 60 hours and doing chores while wife’s workload is reduced, discussing husband wife and mom care issues online.

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Online comment about wife being delusional and accused of not helping husband’s mom, sparking backlash and criticism.

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