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“Divorce – Next Question”: Husband Thinks Wife Will Get Roasted Online, He Gets Destroyed Instead
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“Divorce – Next Question”: Husband Thinks Wife Will Get Roasted Online, He Gets Destroyed Instead

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Sharing a home with someone often means having to pick up not only after yourself, but after them, too. Or cook for not only yourself, but them, too. Or clean not only… well, you get the idea.

For this netizen, going on TikTok by ‘vivianbb11’, that someone was her mother-in-law. While the OP wasn’t responsible for providing care for her, living under the same roof often meant helping the woman out with certain tasks. Eventually, with work, and doing most of the chores at home, it all became too much; but when she told that to her husband, he called her delusional. Scroll down to find the full story and Vivian’s video below.

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    For this woman, living with her mother-in-law became too much

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    But when she complained of the situation to her husband, he called her delusional

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    Many adults share their home with a parent

    Sharing your space with someone else is not always easy. That’s why even moving in with someone you love can require adjusting to, not to mention with someone you weren’t planning on living with in the first place.

    For this redditor, the person she was likely not planning on sharing a home with was her husband’s mother; and that is arguably not that uncommon of a scenario. Elderly parents often move back with their children, be it for companionship or care-related reasons.

    According to the Pew Research Center, back in 2017, close to 79 million (31.9%) adults in the US lived in a shared household – a household with at least one “extra adult” who is not the household head, their spouse or unmarried partner, or a student aged 18-to-24. This marks quite a significant increase from 2004 (27.4%) and 1995 (28.8%).

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    Out of all the “extra adults” back in 2017, 14% were parents of the household head (marking an increase from just 7% in 1995). So clearly, the OP’s mother-in-law is far from the only one having moved in with her adult child. Though, nowadays, the opposite is a common scenario – known as the “boomerang kids”, adult children are increasingly moving back in with their parents, often with their own kids in tow.

    Image credits: Getty Images / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

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    A large share of people believe they will have to take care of an elderly family member in the future

    According to the World Health Organization, by 2030, as much as one-in-six people globally will be aged 60 years or over. During this time, the population aged 60 and over is expected to increase from 1 billion in 2020 to 1.4 billion. By the year 2050, it is expected to reach 2.1 billion.

    With the share of the elderly population growing quite rapidly, it’s safe to assume that many people will require caring for or assistance in the future. As a matter of fact, many people already do, and it often falls on the shoulders of their children. Pew Research Center reveals that as much as 14% of adults in their 40s and 50s have already cared for an aging parent (or other elderly family member). Almost 70% say that it’s “very” or “somewhat” likely that they will have to do it in the future.

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    Data shows that married people are more likely to say that they expect to care for an aging family member than those who are unmarried, likely because they have parents-in-law, in addition to their own parents, who might need taking care of.

    Some studies suggest that a 20-year-old person might expect to spend on average 5.1 years of their lives caring for an older adult with an activity limitation. But most people seem to believe that it’s the adult children’s responsibility to care for their elderly parents. Surveys show that as much as 66% percent of adults in the US say grown children should have “a great deal” or “a fair amount” of responsibility to provide caregiving for an elderly parent who needs it.

    In her video, the OP shared that she wasn’t responsible for providing care to her mother-in-law. However, the woman was responsible for most of the chores around the house, which likely included taking care of the mess created by all of the household’s residents. Moreover, she would often have to help her MIL with meal prepping, which, together with work and chores, can get pretty tiresome. Though, her husband didn’t seem to realize that, as, in his eyes, the woman wasn’t taking care of his mother. He suggested his wife tell her story to the online audience to see just how “delusional” she was, but it was his wife and not him that said audience ended up showing support to.

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    Vivian’s husband told her to share her story on TikTok, so she did

    @vivianbb11#fyp#inlaws#husbandwife♬ original sound – pardonmoivivian

    But the netizens didn’t side with the husband, as he likely thought they would

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    Canadadreams
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. He asking u to post it online with an intent of getting u roasted speaks volumes. He thinks he is giving you life and thinks he is the master and u r the slave when in reality u both should be equally responsible for the house. He is not doing u any favour dear. Ditch him and live ur life on ur own terms. Life is really short… please don’t waste it on a******s like him!

    Hidalgo
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A 70 yr old person, unless disabled, should be able to do a lot more around a house. Including cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. especially when staying somewhere for free. Regardless, if she needs care then the son should be doing most of it.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, my mom is 74 and my dad is 77. My dad has a thing with his knee and back, but other than that they’re completely as capable as they were 30 years ago.

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    Canadadreams
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. He asking u to post it online with an intent of getting u roasted speaks volumes. He thinks he is giving you life and thinks he is the master and u r the slave when in reality u both should be equally responsible for the house. He is not doing u any favour dear. Ditch him and live ur life on ur own terms. Life is really short… please don’t waste it on a******s like him!

    Hidalgo
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A 70 yr old person, unless disabled, should be able to do a lot more around a house. Including cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. especially when staying somewhere for free. Regardless, if she needs care then the son should be doing most of it.

    Nikole
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, my mom is 74 and my dad is 77. My dad has a thing with his knee and back, but other than that they’re completely as capable as they were 30 years ago.

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