Woman Gets Screwed Over By Narcissist BF, Ruins The Single Thing He Cares About As Revenge
Dating can be hard as it is, but if you get involved with a pathological narcissist, their manipulative behavior can push you to the point where you begin to question not only your worth but also sanity.
So when Reddit user TermGeneral6456 realized just how much emotional turmoil her toxic ex-boyfriend had caused her, she decided to hit him where she thought he’d hurt the most — his reputation.
After she executed her plan, the woman shared what happened on the subreddit ‘Petty Revenge,’ celebrating her rediscovered confidence and closure.
This woman was dumped by her boyfriend and learned that he had been unfaithful to her
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So she set out to get revenge
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People who go through such things can suffer from PTSD-like symptoms
You can understand the woman’s hurt. Of all of the threats to a committed relationship she has treated in four decades of working with couples, clinical psychologist and marriage counselor Dr. Randi Gunther found infidelity to be the most difficult to heal from.
“The partner who has been betrayed is emotionally tortured and humiliated when knowledge of the infidelity emerges,” Gunther writes. “They are clearly in trauma and experience the same array of symptoms that professionals now describe as post-traumatic stress disorder.”
Similar to others who have suffered threats to their physical or emotional well-being and security, they are disoriented and confused by what has happened and, according to the psychologist, may experience:
- Repeated intrusive thoughts;
- Unstable emotional regulation;
- Out-of-body experiences;
- Alternating between feeling numb and striking out in retaliation;
- Inability to stop scanning for any new data that might cause more distress;
- Feeling overwhelmingly powerless and broken;
- A need to regain self-worth by assigning blame;
- Confusion and disorientation.
While some people might argue that revenge isn’t the healthiest way to recover, Gunther highlights that the trauma of betrayal can also trigger memories of buried or unresolved emotional and spiritual damage from the past. “When those prior traumatic experiences are triggered and re-emerge, they significantly complicate the healing process,” she explains.
As psychotherapist Tonya Lester points out, people often see recovering from a relationship as binary—you’re either over someone or profoundly suffering. But that’s not how it works. For example, you might think you’ve moved past a breakup and then find yourself bursting into tears after a first date with another person because you miss the level of comfort you had with your ex. Our feelings can be confusing and contradictory.
After her story went viral, the woman joined the discussion in its comment section
People have been expressing their support for her and sending the woman their best wishes
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I am in aw of this woman. This is EXACTLY what should happen. (regardless if the problem is a man or a woman) --- they need to be called out
I dated someone similar. When it ended, I had the audacity to return his suits, except I returned them to his sister's best friend (she lived close), therefore we had a drink and I told her all about his cheating. He'd done the same to his ex, his sister of course found out and berated him for months. All because I... told the truth.
I finally found the sense to tell off someone who would disappear and reappear in my life for years, and it occurred to me I never told anyone what he was like, so I had some trusted friends review the messages from our last conversation, and they all read him for filth. I took screenshots and made him a nice eff-off PowerPoint. I wish I told someone sooner. When an individual, group, institution, or government is being sh***y, tell on THEM.
Y'all if this ever happens to you, take your car to a mechanic to scan for GPS tracking devices. This guy is escalating and I wouldn't rule out his intent to end the next one's life.
In Sweden it is slander regardless of the truth. Similar cases has had people brought to court and sentences. I recommend checking you local laws before copying the method.
Yep. You don't even need to have the intention to slander the person, you can't tell people about what someone did if it might disrespect their reputation. You can't point out a convicted person, no matter what they've done, you dont even have to name the person - it's slander if there's a risk that someone will be able to figure out who the person is. Though it's up to the person who been slandered to file charges. The law is very fuzzy regarding what's justifiable slander and what is regarded as grave defamation and not. A person can't point out a person who sexually assaulted them to others even if they've been in prison for it, you can't warn others about that person. You can't point out a violent person to warn others because that might make others look at them badly, even if it's true.
Load More Replies...I wonder if this is the same guy that was on here a few months ago for wanting to sue 50 women for slandering him on social media
Nothing is more sanitizing than the clear light of day. You go girl!
I wish social media was as big as it is now. I'm old so I couldn't do this. Though I totally would have. I will never use his name to address him in the unlikely event we see each other I call him P.I.T.A and have for the past 15yrs approximately. I tried to warn wife number 5. She said I was jealous. LMAO. To long of a story. You do rock OP. I hope you covered dating apps. If not hit them next.
Why? What has made a woman so insecure that she would willingly stay with someone like that?
Manipulation is extremely powerful on the brain. Hypnotism and placebos are real things. Abusers use this to control their victims and play it off as the victim’s lies to cover up.
Load More Replies...I am in aw of this woman. This is EXACTLY what should happen. (regardless if the problem is a man or a woman) --- they need to be called out
I dated someone similar. When it ended, I had the audacity to return his suits, except I returned them to his sister's best friend (she lived close), therefore we had a drink and I told her all about his cheating. He'd done the same to his ex, his sister of course found out and berated him for months. All because I... told the truth.
I finally found the sense to tell off someone who would disappear and reappear in my life for years, and it occurred to me I never told anyone what he was like, so I had some trusted friends review the messages from our last conversation, and they all read him for filth. I took screenshots and made him a nice eff-off PowerPoint. I wish I told someone sooner. When an individual, group, institution, or government is being sh***y, tell on THEM.
Y'all if this ever happens to you, take your car to a mechanic to scan for GPS tracking devices. This guy is escalating and I wouldn't rule out his intent to end the next one's life.
In Sweden it is slander regardless of the truth. Similar cases has had people brought to court and sentences. I recommend checking you local laws before copying the method.
Yep. You don't even need to have the intention to slander the person, you can't tell people about what someone did if it might disrespect their reputation. You can't point out a convicted person, no matter what they've done, you dont even have to name the person - it's slander if there's a risk that someone will be able to figure out who the person is. Though it's up to the person who been slandered to file charges. The law is very fuzzy regarding what's justifiable slander and what is regarded as grave defamation and not. A person can't point out a person who sexually assaulted them to others even if they've been in prison for it, you can't warn others about that person. You can't point out a violent person to warn others because that might make others look at them badly, even if it's true.
Load More Replies...I wonder if this is the same guy that was on here a few months ago for wanting to sue 50 women for slandering him on social media
Nothing is more sanitizing than the clear light of day. You go girl!
I wish social media was as big as it is now. I'm old so I couldn't do this. Though I totally would have. I will never use his name to address him in the unlikely event we see each other I call him P.I.T.A and have for the past 15yrs approximately. I tried to warn wife number 5. She said I was jealous. LMAO. To long of a story. You do rock OP. I hope you covered dating apps. If not hit them next.
Why? What has made a woman so insecure that she would willingly stay with someone like that?
Manipulation is extremely powerful on the brain. Hypnotism and placebos are real things. Abusers use this to control their victims and play it off as the victim’s lies to cover up.
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