Woman Defended By Fellow Passengers After Random Guy Tries To Sit Next To Her On Empty Bus
Public transportation is great, honestly. It’s efficient, safer than driving, and far cheaper. But there are, of course, two sides to every coin. And with public transport it’s usually the fact that it’s public. There’s strange smells, loud people, pushing and shoving, just to name a few.
Today’s article is about a video of a woman who was seemingly being hit on by a guy, who came over to sit down next to her on an empty bus. She decided she wasn’t going to put up with it and called him out, leading to a shouting match on the bus.
More info: TikTok
Traveling on public transport is great, but not without its downsides
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The man in the video berated a fellow passenger after she told him that it’s weird to sit down next to someone on an empty bus
Image credits: @ceowally
A commuter stepped in to defend the woman, saying “she wants you to move away from her,” but he started arguing with the defender as well
Image credits: @ceowally
The video ends with the aggressor and defender stepping out of the bus to “sort it out,” potentially fighting, but there is no way to know without part 2
Watch the original video here:
@ceowally Who goes and sits next to a woman whos on her own seated on a empty bus? THE AUDACITY 😂 #fyp #ukbus ♬ original sound – Wally🧑🏽🎄
The original poster teased a part 2 in the comment of a different video, but nothing so far
The video, posted on TikTok by ceowally, opens with two people fighting. The fight apparently started when the man came over and sat down next to this woman while the bus was nearly empty, with hints in the video that he attempted to hit on the female commuter. She says it’s weird of him to sit next to someone he doesn’t know on purpose.
This caused the man to start berating the woman, with other passengers stepping in attempting to defend the woman, but the man also started assaulting them too.
The video then ends with the antagonist of the video and another man stepping off the bus to “figure it out” outside, with the cameraman in tow.
Droves of commenters were eagerly requesting part 2 of the story, unable to contain their curiosity about what happened. Although the poster hasn’t made any comment on the original video, he said that he’d upload the second part soon. He also mentioned that he has been hesitating to post the follow up as fights are not allowed on TikTok.
If you’re thinking you wouldn’t know what to do in such a situation, there are lots of resources. The RAINN anti-sexual violence organization defines street harassment as any unwanted comments, gestures or acts in a public places without consent.
RAINN includes staring, persistent requests for someone’s name, number or other information, and telling them to smile as examples of street harassment.
Right To Be suggests trusting your instincts – if a situation feels off, it could be a sign that something dangerous will happen.
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The Settlement website suggests several things that you should do if you’re the one being harassed. You should first reclaim your space, telling your harasser to stop what they’re doing and move away from you. Do not engage in conversation after that, as the harasser may be attempting to instigate a confrontation.
If you’re alone, attempt to move away, especially if you can find a group of people and explain the situation to them. Ask them if you could stay with them until you reach your destination or feel safe again. If alone with the harasser, attempt to move closer to the transit driver or other staff.
Ask people for help, describe the perpetrator to them and attempt to stay with them until it is safe or you can get help from the authorities.
Finally, a good way to protect yourself is to record the situation or ask for others to record as it may scare the perpetrator or provide evidence for the authorities to apprehend them.
If you’re the one witnessing harassment, you can also do a lot of good, depending on the situation. According to WebMD, you should make it known that you are aware of the situation, if you feel safe enough, you can even place yourself between the harasser and the victim.
You can talk to the victim, explaining to them that you’re here to help, ignoring the harasser instead, which may make them lose interest and leave.
If you feel safe doing so, you could also address the harasser directly, telling them to stop their behavior. Make sure to document the situation and report the harasser if possible.
It’s important to never be the silent bystander as that will only allow for the harassment to continue.
The video, posted a mere 3 days ago, has collected more than 7 million views with upwards of 500k likes and 15k comments. The overwhelming majority of the commenters were asking for a second part to the video, while others made fun of the guy, praising the woman for her composure. Share your own public transit horror stories below!
People made fun of the harasser, especially for the cheap bottle of energy drink he had, while supporting the woman and defender
That last comment suggesting you can sit wherever you want on a bus and she didn't have to start an argument over it. Is this the line men play in their head when they tell themselves they are within their rights to get in a woman's personal space? And then what's the next piece of c**p they tell themselves? Well she did let me sit next to her so she must like me and she's just playing hard to get now......as the poor woman begins to fell real terror and possibly begins to physically struggle....
As a woman, this is where you assert power, dominance, and control, because this is what it's all about anyway. It's not about attraction, or rather, any attraction is being weaponized to make her feel uncomfortable, so in the end, it's nothing but a d**k power move. Get loud, get assertive, stand up, make a scene, make it deeply uncomfortable and awkward. Men like this count on women's ingrained, trained niceness. If I'm going to get called a b***h anyway, fine, let my Inner B***h Goddess come to the fore and make that scene. All I want is my personal space and random dude not in it. I am a b***h. I am a queen goddess b***h. FAFO. (For the record, I'm 55, widowed, and just utterly unconcerned with being nice to creeps for my entire time on earth.)
This happened to me once. I didn't say anything when he sat down, but was totally creeped out. Then he put a hand on my knee. I yelled "Don't touch me!", and got up and sat down by the bus driver. The bus driver asked what had happened, and I said loud enough for the guy to hear "He should keep his hands to himself.". At the next stop, the driver yelled "Ok buddy! You're getting off the bus!". The guy started to protest that he had paid his fare, and the driver said "You're getting off the bus right now, or I'm going to lock you in until the police get here.". The guy got off the bus. I was relieved, because I didn't want to know where my stop was.
Some years ago I was riding MARTA (Atlanta transit) and this man sat next to me on a nearly empty train. I wouldn't have minded normally, but he was filthy and stank to the stratosphere! I moved to a different seat, and he sat next to me again. The creep made a comment suggesting I was racist. Mister, your skin color (and mine) had nothing g to do with it - you smelled like a sewer and were dirtier than Pig Pen.
The whole thing is depressingly familiar. The guy who sits beside you in an empty bus, crowds you and then won’t let you out - we’ve all had to deal with that guy. If you protest, you get a chorus of you b***h. Good on her for not having it. And kudos to the guy who stood up to him. Generally, everyone on the bus pretends you are invisible.
Bless this defender and every defender out there who stands up for others rather than look the other way. I don't mean to shame all people who don't help, as I realize sometimes people are simply too afraid to have the ability the speak up, but I want to acknowledge and appreciate the heroes out there who take risks when they see wrong.
He honestly realized how much he needed her. (She’s a hair stylist)
DO NOT DO THIS. I consider this the height of rudeness, poor taste and has an overarching threatening vibe. If you are able to keep distance between yourself and others in a public setting please do so.
Not to distract from the main issue here, but I wonder if they got those seat covers at Dan Flashes.
Just assume you're ugly, then, and stop bothering people. What kind of ego do you have to think women want to be flirted with when they're trying to go about their own business? A bus isn't a bar or dating app. Creep.
Load More Replies...That last comment suggesting you can sit wherever you want on a bus and she didn't have to start an argument over it. Is this the line men play in their head when they tell themselves they are within their rights to get in a woman's personal space? And then what's the next piece of c**p they tell themselves? Well she did let me sit next to her so she must like me and she's just playing hard to get now......as the poor woman begins to fell real terror and possibly begins to physically struggle....
As a woman, this is where you assert power, dominance, and control, because this is what it's all about anyway. It's not about attraction, or rather, any attraction is being weaponized to make her feel uncomfortable, so in the end, it's nothing but a d**k power move. Get loud, get assertive, stand up, make a scene, make it deeply uncomfortable and awkward. Men like this count on women's ingrained, trained niceness. If I'm going to get called a b***h anyway, fine, let my Inner B***h Goddess come to the fore and make that scene. All I want is my personal space and random dude not in it. I am a b***h. I am a queen goddess b***h. FAFO. (For the record, I'm 55, widowed, and just utterly unconcerned with being nice to creeps for my entire time on earth.)
This happened to me once. I didn't say anything when he sat down, but was totally creeped out. Then he put a hand on my knee. I yelled "Don't touch me!", and got up and sat down by the bus driver. The bus driver asked what had happened, and I said loud enough for the guy to hear "He should keep his hands to himself.". At the next stop, the driver yelled "Ok buddy! You're getting off the bus!". The guy started to protest that he had paid his fare, and the driver said "You're getting off the bus right now, or I'm going to lock you in until the police get here.". The guy got off the bus. I was relieved, because I didn't want to know where my stop was.
Some years ago I was riding MARTA (Atlanta transit) and this man sat next to me on a nearly empty train. I wouldn't have minded normally, but he was filthy and stank to the stratosphere! I moved to a different seat, and he sat next to me again. The creep made a comment suggesting I was racist. Mister, your skin color (and mine) had nothing g to do with it - you smelled like a sewer and were dirtier than Pig Pen.
The whole thing is depressingly familiar. The guy who sits beside you in an empty bus, crowds you and then won’t let you out - we’ve all had to deal with that guy. If you protest, you get a chorus of you b***h. Good on her for not having it. And kudos to the guy who stood up to him. Generally, everyone on the bus pretends you are invisible.
Bless this defender and every defender out there who stands up for others rather than look the other way. I don't mean to shame all people who don't help, as I realize sometimes people are simply too afraid to have the ability the speak up, but I want to acknowledge and appreciate the heroes out there who take risks when they see wrong.
He honestly realized how much he needed her. (She’s a hair stylist)
DO NOT DO THIS. I consider this the height of rudeness, poor taste and has an overarching threatening vibe. If you are able to keep distance between yourself and others in a public setting please do so.
Not to distract from the main issue here, but I wonder if they got those seat covers at Dan Flashes.
Just assume you're ugly, then, and stop bothering people. What kind of ego do you have to think women want to be flirted with when they're trying to go about their own business? A bus isn't a bar or dating app. Creep.
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