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Woman Wants To Become A Stay-At-Home Mom, Husband Then Tells Her That She Would Have To Cover All The Housework While He Works, An Argument Ensues
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Woman Wants To Become A Stay-At-Home Mom, Husband Then Tells Her That She Would Have To Cover All The Housework While He Works, An Argument Ensues

Being a stay-at-home parent has its pros and cons as it provides a person with the possibility to spend some more time with their kid, seeing them grow and change in front of their eyes. But often times it does mean that a person has to sacrifice their career or a workplace that they perhaps really enjoy and want to invest more of their time in for better benefits in the future. It does seem like a hard decision to make, as many know that it’s a tough call. Having this in mind, Reddit user @u/nnsnekdnd decided to ask others online what they think about the situation that he and his wife got themselves into. The post that received 23.5k upvotes soon was filled with various points of view and experiences that other people online thought were worth sharing.

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Many parents would give a lot to be able to spend as much time as possible with their kids

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The author of the post revealed that his wife wants to quit her job and become a stay-at-home mom because of their 4-year-old daughter. The woman shared that she wants to spend some more time with their daughter instead of just leaving her at a daycare. While the man was quite supportive of this decision, it made him think about the practical side of this deal, realizing that if he becomes the sole breadwinner of the family, it means that he would have to take more hours at work in order to earn more money and his wife would have to take on more responsibilities at home. 

Reddit user wanted to know if he was wrong to expect his wife to cover all the work at home while being a stay-at-home mom

Image credits: u/nnsnekdnd

Once the man’s wife shared that she wants to stay at home with their daughter, he started thinking about how this would work, suggesting she would then have to take care of the house

Image credits: u/nnsnekdnd

When the husband shared his concerns with his wife, telling her that she would then have to take care of the household and not always rely on him doing some of the chores as he will be at work, the woman said that she isn’t going to be “a housekeeper”, blaming her husband for being “lazy and discriminative against women”. The man was quick to assure her that he isn’t like that, it’s just that he already knows that he won’t be able to be useful at home because of all the extra work he will have to put in to make this deal work.

The woman didn’t like his plan, as she thought that she shouldn’t be treated as a “housekeeper”

Image credits: u/nnsnekdnd

This whole situation made the man think about the way he said things and the whole conversation in question, thinking that perhaps he wasn’t actually right in this case. But a lot of people online agreed with his thoughts, assuring him that when a person decides to stay at home and take care of the kids, they usually also make sure that the house is taken care of. Some even noticed that at this point, their 4-year-old daughter shouldn’t be considered so little that she can’t do anything herself and needs intensive care. What are your thoughts on this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!

The husband only suggested this because he knew that with his extra hours at work, he won’t be able to help much around the house

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So what are the rest of the pros and cons that would help people to make a decision to become a stay-at-home parent? According to Verywell Family, by choosing to raise their kid and stay at home, a parent contributes to their kid’s better performance at school because of their involvement in their son’s or daughter’s education. Its also noted that kids who have spent more time with their parents feel less stressed and are more comfortable with others. Being around your child leads parents and kids to have better, more honest and involved relationships. A choice to become a stay-at-home parent also serves as a great example for other, more hesitant parents.

Now the Reddit user is curious to know if what he said was really that bad

Image credits: u/nnsnekdnd

What are some of the cons that follow being a stay-at-home parent? While one of the main factors that stops people from staying at home is the lesser amount of income, there are other things that might make a person second-guess their decision. For those who put a lot of effort into starting a successful career or wanting to achieve certain personal goals, taking time to raise a kid might seem like a burden or a thing that stops them from fulfilling their dreams. The isolation that a parent might feel when left taking care of a household and raising a child can even lead them to depression or unwanted bursts of anger.

This post encouraged a lot of other people online to share their own thoughts on the situation

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Many people sided with the husband, stating that what he’s asking is a normal thing

However, some people thought that the man’s desire not to do any chores during the work week seemed silly

Image credits: u/nnsnekdnd

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Darth Starfish
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. No, you're not being sexist, you're not being lazy; in fact you'd be taking on about a dozen extra hours a week for her to even do this....... I mean, does she not think you deserve some rest and also an opportunity to spend quality time with your daughter? I'd say she takes that arrangement or she continues to contribute income to the household.

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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with this too. I think the wife is the one being lazy. He's going to have to put long hours in a single day and sometimes during the weekend. Surely she can clean the house, prepare meals and get the washer/dryer going. A 4 y.o. is almost ready for kindergarten and needs minimal attention from a parent. Unless they have more children, what is she going to do? I was a SAHM for 13 years. I was either pregnant, breastfeeding or both. My husband cleaned the floors, which I didn't like doing but he didn't mind. But he also took care of the car, trash, etc.

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laura edwards
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You want to know an ahole. My former spouse had me drop.the baby at daycare so he could play video games at home. When I returned home I was expected.to cook and clean. That's an ahole.

Kensi
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He really sounds like a big selfish a*****e. Hope you are doing good now.

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Helena
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is 4 and school bound. Just how relevant is this fight? One kid who will soon be in school.

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Darth Starfish
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. No, you're not being sexist, you're not being lazy; in fact you'd be taking on about a dozen extra hours a week for her to even do this....... I mean, does she not think you deserve some rest and also an opportunity to spend quality time with your daughter? I'd say she takes that arrangement or she continues to contribute income to the household.

Hey!
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with this too. I think the wife is the one being lazy. He's going to have to put long hours in a single day and sometimes during the weekend. Surely she can clean the house, prepare meals and get the washer/dryer going. A 4 y.o. is almost ready for kindergarten and needs minimal attention from a parent. Unless they have more children, what is she going to do? I was a SAHM for 13 years. I was either pregnant, breastfeeding or both. My husband cleaned the floors, which I didn't like doing but he didn't mind. But he also took care of the car, trash, etc.

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laura edwards
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You want to know an ahole. My former spouse had me drop.the baby at daycare so he could play video games at home. When I returned home I was expected.to cook and clean. That's an ahole.

Kensi
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He really sounds like a big selfish a*****e. Hope you are doing good now.

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Helena
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is 4 and school bound. Just how relevant is this fight? One kid who will soon be in school.

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