I recently lost my mother. 58 years old. I'm lost so I am wondering if you had one more thing to say to someone you have lost, what would it be?
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom suddenly when she was 57. I would tell her that she was the most dynamic, loving, brave, wonderful mother and person that I could have ever hoped for, but I think she already knows that. I like to think she’s my family’s guardian angel and I pray to God I will be with her in heaven someday. The pain and hurt will subside but you never forget. It just gets easier to get through each day. I just like to think she’s around, being as awesome as she was on this earth. I say hi to her and tell her I miss her inside my head and that helps. Wish you the best!
That is really beautiful. Thank you ♡ Yeah, I lost her suddenly as well. Christmas day she was sick with the flu, the next day, Sunday, ems had to take her to the er bc her pulse was so low. She spent Monday in the icu on life support and she died Tuesday morning at 8 am. Apparently she had late stage lung cancer and no one knew. She went into septic shock and complete organ failure in such a short time. She had lost weight, and kept a bellyache but no one suspected she had cancer. If she did, she didn't tell anyone. She is so loved and so missed. I feel her absence in everything I do bc she was a huge part of mine and my families everyday life. I have realized tho, with this being my first loss in my 34 years, you can't have great love without suffering great loss. Its the price you pay for loving so deeply. The thing that has helped me the most was this... "Heather, even if you BEGGED her to come back, she wouldnt." That gives me peace bc she wouldn't. She is pain-free and happy now. ♡
I lost my beautiful mum on 20/1/2008 and it took so very long to stop crying and for my heart to start mending enough to want to carry on. I’d want to tell her that I loved all the times we just sat and talked, that simply sitting with her and watching the old movies brought me so much joy and now I watch those same movies and still think of her. I’d give anything, absolutely anything to be able to call her one more time of a morning for our daily chat even when I was seeing her later that day. That we all still miss her so much; not just me but my husband and our grown sons. That my sister misses her so much too. That I wouldn’t be the person I am now without her love and guidance. That I carry her in my heart every single moment of every single day and always will, and I hope she’s standing at the gate waiting for me when it’s time for me to go home to my maker.
Losing your mum is so hard, but remember your mum raised you to survive and so be the person your mum knew you could be, and no matter what, you can still talk to her every day.
I teared up reading this bc it reminded me so much of my relationship with my sweet momma. ♡ she was the easiest person to talk to bc she had been through so much in her 58 years, she would never think of judging or looking down on me. She would encourage, love and believe in me like no one else. I too, wish I could have our daily talk just to chat and then meet her at Ingles later that day for Starbucks 😕 I am sorry you lost yours too. I am thinking of you and hoping both of our mommas are waiting at that same gate. ♡ xo's to you ♡
A friend recommended I read Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman. Losing a mother at any age is devastating as we are not taught to deal with that type of grief. My mother passed when I was 5 from Cancer and if I could say one thing it would be ‘I know you loved me and would have stayed if you could.’
Thank you for the recommendation. I have heard the same thing so I'm definitely going to read it now. The thing that has given me the most comfort the past 5 weeks is this- someone told me "Heather honey, I know you miss her but the truth is, she wouldn't come back. Even if you BEGGED her, she wouldn't come back. She is in the most perfect of places now." That has been the most peaceful thought. Hoping all of us that have lost our mommas too soon can have some relief from the awful amount of grief. Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry about your mom. 5? Wow. I can't imagine. I'm thinking of you. ♡
I would want to fit a lifetime into a few words so I think I would simply say " I never knew loving you so greatly would lead to a loss this heartbreaking. I would love you harder and deal with a pain 10x greater if it meant I got to hug you longer, feel you kiss my forehead once more and see you light up hearing your grandkids say your name. You are so terribly missed, I started living for Christ in the hopes that one day I will see you again."
