Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

#1

Imma Use This One Sometime

Imma Use This One Sometime

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Fish Boden
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1 month ago

Yes. She is dumpster juice.

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#2

Photographer Shaming A Guest

Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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#3

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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Pamela24
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1 month ago

It's not. But don't worry, everyone will be thinking that anyway.

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

#4

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Raine Soo
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1 month ago

The cat lady needed a plus one. Or two.

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#5

Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Vorknkx
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1 month ago

Hold on a second... they have a "wedding website"???

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#6

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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Downunderdude
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1 month ago

Nice one. Donation's a good touch.

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

#7

This Is Terrible

This Is Terrible

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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#8

What A Hilarious Prank!

What A Hilarious Prank!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Kick that man of the bridal party

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#9

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

I’m All For Using An Uber Sure But Come On

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Princess Procrastination
Community Member
1 month ago

The audacity!!

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

#10

Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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#11

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

A: No.

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#12

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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#13

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Full of Giggles
Community Member
1 month ago

A glass of red wine and a fake misstep would easily rectify this situation.

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#14

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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Rose the Cook
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1 month ago

A live painting is a lovely idea and worth the price.

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#15

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

My thoughts exactly.

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#16

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

Mother Of Bride Wearing Bridal Gown!

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Amy Pattie
Community Member
1 month ago

Oof not cool mum

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#17

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

Ekate
Community Member
1 month ago

I would send a photocopy of a cheque for $1000, saying "As much as I would like to give you this money, sadly, my money is not for everyone. I'll be sure to keep you in my heart while I send it to someone who cares about me enough to want me to share in their life"

Zoe's Mom
Community Member
1 month ago

BRILLIANT EKATE, BRILLIANT!!

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Blackheart
Community Member
1 month ago

Much as I would like to contribute, my wallet cannot accommodate everyone... and please use spell check

Beezel Palomar
Community Member
1 month ago

We are sure to keep you in our hearts and our money in our wallets

A Random Panda
Community Member
1 month ago

LOL.

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AndyR
Community Member
1 month ago

I got a very similar card from my cousin. Gave in as the rest of my family decided to chip in. Didn't get a thank you card. Same when they had a baby, though we did get a thank you card just in time to remind us it would be baby's 1st birthday soon.

Jennifer Crompton
Community Member
1 month ago

Yuck. What a disgusting person

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

Money grab!

Becca Gizmo the Squirrel
Community Member
1 month ago

Miss Manners would say send them money. She says you aren't paying for a seat at the wedding, you are gifting them for the occasion. I don't agree.I think begging for money because you got married is tacky.

Azziza
Community Member
1 month ago

Miss Manners would say NO SUCH THING. Have you ever even READ her books? I've read every single one and she *always* says that wedding gifts are optional, you do NOT have to give a gift if you don't want one and the couple should never require or ask people for gifts, money or even put where they are registered on the invitation/announcement.

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TickingEmotionBomb
Community Member
1 month ago

In unformal terms: We don't like you, but we're sending a card to ask for money to let us go on a trip for a crappy wedding that you weren't invited to.

Linda Harms
Community Member
1 month ago

Send them Monopoly money.

Ashley Wright
Community Member
1 month ago

Probably THE RUDEST I’ve ever seen a soon-to-be-married couple. I’d have to think on this one, but I’d definitely respond—and it would not be nice! P.S. tell your friends they misspelled “cannot” and “acccommodate” 😂😂😂😂

Kat Hoth
Community Member
1 month ago

How gauche!

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
1 month ago

Ummmm - anyone not attending the wedding or reception is not obligated to give a registry gift, or anything else. To SUGGEST otherwise is just ... We saved all year so we could have a beautiful honeymoon - and we did.

Mark Johansen
Community Member
1 month ago

Wow, rude enough to send someone a card telling them they're NOT invited. But then to close it off by asking for money. Just wow.

Azziza
Community Member
1 month ago

Sheesh that's what post-wedding Wedding Announcements are for. And you DO NOT put anything about gifts, money or registries on there. If someone wants to give you a gift they will either find out about the registry by asking or will get you the gift of THEIR CHOOSING. You don't get to force people to buy you what you want.

Jeff Requier
Community Member
1 month ago

Sent a non-invite

JD
Community Member
1 month ago

No shame at all...

Daria B
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

The money part isn't so unusual or inappropriate in Korea. It's not written within the invitation, of course, but it's culturally implied. So much it's embarrassing not to give any money.

Nomadus Aureus
Community Member
1 month ago

Same in my culture. Until a couple of years ago, they would read out the name of the person and how much money they gave. I always thought it was cringe.

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Karen Loftus
Community Member
1 month ago

Ugh. Just 🤮. Is this how people want to start off their marriages these days? So tasteless. Lacking in culture and class. Ugh 😑.

Lynn Greene
Community Member
1 month ago

Disgusting, gouging, nasty. Please find enclosed $500 in monopoly money. Unfortunately, the bank was too small.

Stan Chung
Community Member
1 month ago

ha ha ha no just no

elfin
Community Member
1 month ago

I will be sure to keep your beautiful honeymoon in my heart in this celebration of greed.

madmickx
Community Member
1 month ago

This is cringeworthy but, maybe with some venues limiting numbers due to coronavirus numbers had to be culled? The basic idea would have been nice if they had left the last paragraph out and people who cared enough would have at least sent them a card, possibly with some cash.

Clove Kentwell
Community Member
1 month ago

I got a card like this a few months ago.

Dave Emilio
Community Member
1 month ago

People are rotten. This makes me hate World

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

People are not rotten, hate is self destructive. So don't think a whole world is bad just because we like to gossip and make a mountain out of a mole hill. Make it a point to make the world a better place by kind deeds and words yourself.

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Sonika Schroeder
Community Member
1 month ago

disbelief!!!

Mumof1
Community Member
1 month ago

Bloody cheek!

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
1 month ago

That is tacky beyond belief.

Gricelda Jacquez
Community Member
1 month ago

hope your honeymoon in under a bridge!

Lisa Anne
Community Member
1 month ago

In. Bad. Taste.

amanda strachan
Community Member
1 month ago

And they cant spell "accommodate"

IZama
Community Member
1 month ago

So tacky.

Jennifer Crompton
Community Member
1 month ago

They obviously care more about money than their marriage so they should have just waited until the restrictions have lifted. Of course, they probably saw the opportunity to get cash from people that they didn't even have to pay for as wedding guests. This is so gross

David Herz
Community Member
1 month ago

Wow, how about a promissory note or a Russian bond from the 1998 default?

Annette Rainbow
Community Member
1 month ago

While reading through the comments 1 at a time, I could feel my blood pressure rising. It rose to the point that I missed some key and my reply was nowhere to be found. So much for that post. If you find it do what you want. It basically said and agreed with something along the lines of, sending them a photo copy of a check for a thousand dollars, but they decided . Look I give up I think you all know what I'm trying to say. Just ignore this, and read something of interest, like how to delete your so called friend/relative and have nothing more to do with them. If you are still reading this you are very nice. I just can't find the words to describe my anger, and I don't know these people.

Eulalie Grace
Community Member
1 month ago

Find a Monopoly game and send that money

Janine Hunt-Jackson
Community Member
1 month ago

TACKY much?!!

Lindy Mac
Community Member
1 month ago

I can't figure out if I should up vote or down vote here.... this is awful. Maybe send them $1 and a note saying : I was nice knowing you before this card came to us.

Stacy Robbin
Community Member
1 month ago

The entitlement of some people!

M Kate McCulloch
Community Member
1 month ago

hahahahaaaa! An announcement should just be an announcement end of story.

Barbara Vandewalle
Community Member
1 month ago

tacky

Sabrina Fisher
Community Member
1 month ago

Here's 50cents for the stamp you used to mail me this, I hope you enjoy Motel 6 in the shady part of town

von Funnyname
Community Member
1 month ago

no bullshit, my girlfriend just told me about a "friend" of hers on the book of faces that did that for a baby shower. "we can't meet in person, but we're accepting paypal!"

Michelle C
Community Member
1 month ago

I wonder if I can do this with all occasions....hmmmm

Selena4life
Community Member
1 month ago

As much as I'd love to give you money, sadly, my money can not be for everyone. I am sure to keep my money in my wallet during your celebration of love.

jay grant
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't think this is that bad if they are having a small wedding

K.
Community Member
1 month ago

Sure, here’s my check for $0.60. Don’t spend it all in one place. Aside from the awful/mean/lame joke, it’s up to the recipient to donate to their honeymoon fund if they want to or not. **i think it’s okay to ask for a honeymoon/ home fund in lieu of a registry, especially if it’s people who you are on the same page with and it’s easier. Some couples already have furnishings and whatever usually goes into a registry.

Dorothy Parker
Community Member
1 month ago

Crass.

KT
Community Member
1 month ago

How utterly tacky!!

Christian Bradshaw
Community Member
5 days ago

If there really isn't enough room, uninviting them is a LITTLE understandable. Uninviting them AND asking for money IN THE SAME CARD? Definitely not

serge
Community Member
2 weeks ago

Excuse me but this is the sort of thought train one would expect from Trump.....I would like to know and understand what goes on in people's minds when they come up with things like this. I mean this is done by both of them,

grace koncsicsv
Community Member
1 month ago

ok this could also be because of Covid though in which case i understand

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
1 month ago

Return to sender.

Leisa K
Community Member
1 month ago

That's ballsy.

Rebeka Terry
Community Member
1 month ago

jesus

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
1 month ago

f**k that s**t!!!! and they're off my xmas card list too.

Marty BlackEagle-Carl
Community Member
1 month ago

wow, i didn't know this thing auto censors... wussies

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Jo Ellen Washburn
Community Member
1 month ago

Bahahahahahaaaaaaaaaa!

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
1 month ago

Okay...WTF IS WRONG WITH PPL?!

NWB
Community Member
1 month ago

yeah...nope!!

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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MellonCollie
Community Member
1 month ago

Excellent reply to that BS.

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#19

Gahhh This Is Bad

Gahhh This Is Bad

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Hmmm. That's going to last...

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#20

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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#21

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Hańka
Community Member
1 month ago

Horrible!

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#22

Wedding Guest Shaming

Wedding Guest Shaming

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

COVIDiot.

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#23

Yikes Yikes Yikes

Yikes Yikes Yikes

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

That's really sad. Animals aren't fricking decor

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#24

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Oooo. Creepy much?

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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#26

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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Tahani
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1 month ago

She is nuts

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#27

$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Raine Soo
Community Member
1 month ago

This is a great example of "champagne tastes on a beer budget".

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#28

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
Community Member
1 month ago

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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#29

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
Community Member
1 month ago

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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#30

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Holly D
Community Member
1 month ago

What kid? Theres just a man standing on his own

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