Just like no two couples are the same, neither are two weddings. Each has its own unique moments that reflect the bride and groom’s love story, creating an unforgettable experience for everyone involved.
However, in the case of Reddit user Vivid_Promise_8476, the memories that she brought back from her best friend’s ceremony are quite bitter.
In a post on the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘, the woman explained that she had gotten into a fight with the man’s partner over her attire. However, people who have read it pointed out that there might be more than meets the eye.
When it comes to weddings, the dress code can be a sensitive subject
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Unfortunately, this woman experienced it firsthand
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After her story went viral, the woman issued an update on the situation
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It sounds like the bride may have found a way to confront the groom’s friend no matter what she wore
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Wearing white to a wedding has long been deemed bad taste by etiquette experts as it distracts from the bride on her big day.
However, other colors might also be unwelcome. “When you’re a guest … the most important thing to keep in mind is not to upstage or upset the bride,” wedding dress designer Madeline Gardner told The Knot.
“It’s safe to stay away from any outfits that are predominantly white, cream or ivory.”
Before you buy a new wedding outfit, it’s a good idea to poll a few friends to see what they think of the fit (you get bonus points if they’re engaged or married so they know what it feels like to be on the other side).
If no one else seems to have a problem with it, you’ve probably got a winner.
But this time, it sounds like even if the Redditor would have worn a perfectly muted gown, the bride still would have found a way to get rid of her.
However, if I was to play the devil’s advocate, I would ask this question: if the groom knew his bride didn’t approve of his opposite-gender friend, maybe he should have taken extra steps to avoid any potential conflict?
Psychologist Dr. Jennice Vilhauer says your intimate partner has a right to choose who he/she wants to be friends with, and if your partner doesn’t want to spend time with your opposite-sex friend, don’t try to force this on them or it will likely backfire.
“Sometimes protecting your relationship means giving up some of your own personal freedom or choice so that you build something that is greater than the sum of its parts,” Vilhauer wrote. “If you are unwilling to do this, then perhaps you aren’t ready for the relationship.”
People have had a lot of strong reactions to the whole ordeal
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I feel sorry for OP, This isn't a conservative thing, this is a coercive control thing. She isolating him, wearing him down emotionally and now legally making it more difficult to leave. She is at the least emotionally abusive, and its going to get worse. It almost always does after marriage. She may be physically abusive, or become so, the predictors are all there. OP needs to tell the friend she will help him get out when he's ready, that he doesn't deserve this and start drip feeding him info on spousal abuse in a way that won't close the conversation. Edited: typo
I feel sorry for OP, This isn't a conservative thing, this is a coercive control thing. She isolating him, wearing him down emotionally and now legally making it more difficult to leave. She is at the least emotionally abusive, and its going to get worse. It almost always does after marriage. She may be physically abusive, or become so, the predictors are all there. OP needs to tell the friend she will help him get out when he's ready, that he doesn't deserve this and start drip feeding him info on spousal abuse in a way that won't close the conversation. Edited: typo
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