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Psychology is a great discipline all around. Even if you don’t plan on being a psychologist, you’re bound to partake in this thing called socializing, so knowing how to properly talk to people, read their body language or to just know how to properly present yourself and make a good impression is always a nice thing.

TikToker and mental health coach Karissa Wampler has not too long ago shared 10 ways you can use psychology to your advantage when talking to people. This includes everything from ‘forcing’ someone into finishing a conversation to making them stop staring at you to increasing your chances of getting a positive response regarding an idea you’re pitching.

Wampler’s list of videos is neatly divided into 10 days, which you can find transcribed below. Vote and comment on the psychology tricks you enjoyed the most, and why not let us know some of your psychological tricks in the comment section at the bottom!

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#1

Day 1

“If somebody is ever staring at you in public, don’t acknowledge them, but look straight at their shoes and don’t look away. Without even acknowledging them, you will make them so uncomfortable and concerned with what’s wrong with their shoes they will either turn away from you or walk away completely.”

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lemsip
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great advice. I usually look away or stare back with raised eyebrows.

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Liz Johns
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try giving a quick smile. Now that really does make a difference. Mostly the person will smile back then look away. Others will just look away.

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AlmightyOne
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like to just give them the dead-eyes stare, where I gaze at them without blinking until they look away

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Rissie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just stare right back into your face. With a blank stare. Oh I see you.

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Wubaluba Dubdub
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This only works for females probably. Most men like me own the AJ's so I don't think I'd feel uncomfortable when someone stares at my shoes 🤣

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Brie Sansotta
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stare at the hair on the top of their head until they stop staring at me. I don't feel embarrassed by looking directly at their eyes, but they aren't sure...

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Yasmin Janette
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 80 years old and when I was a teenager I was told if it is a woman staring at you look at her shoes, if it is a man stare as his crotch area and smirk, he will think his pants are not done up etc and he will look away and try to see if they are all ok.

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Roberto Durante
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry looking down show your subservience, look right in his eyes and ask if you have something from him/her, never look down, keep your integrity

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Mimi M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not their shoes. Look at a spot just to the side of, or over, their head. It will totally unnerve them and they will look away.

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Chris Challis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dont agree, looking downward suggests submission. Just stare right back until they look away.

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Chris Challis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dont agree, a downward look suggests submission....I find staring right back works better. I

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

while i dont deny this likely works, i prefer a good old fashioned WTF you looking at pal. then stare like mad.

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Danjal Jannik TIndholm
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he's a cutie I stare back. If not I ignore him. Looking at their shoes is still acknowledging them. Also, not everyone who looks is a bad person, you could remind them of someone they once knew, etc.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Psychology: How to make people uncomfortable! Seriously?!

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Day 2

“Want to throw someone off? Next time somebody is trying to manipulate you, look at their forehead mid-conversation. It makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable. Switch between looking at their eyes and their forehead. They’ll either end the conversation completely, or lose their train of thought.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this one works - My wife does it to me all the time (not on purpose - just a habit) and it still throws me off when she does it.

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Day 3

“A tactic used in business, sales, and law that has probably been used on you. If you are pitching an idea or delivering an argument that you want someone else to accept, nod subtly while you deliver your main points. Mirroring is a natural human behavior. People will naturally nod along with you, making them more likely to agree with you, and give you an affirmative answer.”

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Day 4

“Next time you meet someone and you want to make a good impression, try this: as the conversation starts, pay attention to their eye color. Not only will this ease some anxiety that you might have surrounding the conversation, it will naturally lead you to hold eye contact longer and give you something to remember about this person.”

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Day 5

“If you want people to trust you, be open and honest about your minor mistakes. The times that you do really stupid stuff, like wear your shirt backwards. People who we see as perfect threaten and intimidate us. So, when you are open about these small details, it helps others to see that you are a safe, honest person that they can share their imperfections with. It sends the subconscious message that you are safe and trustworthy, and they can be real with you.”

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Day 6

“You actually have to be very careful how you talk about people who aren’t in the room when you’re with friends. And here’s why. It might seem harmless to talk poorly about people because they’ll never know, but you’re actually sending the subconscious message to your friends that you’ll talk poorly about them when they are not with you. So, be careful that you don’t sabotage yourself to make conversation.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is so true. Not just friends - in all parts of your life - neighbors, business etc.

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Day 7

“Next time you’re stuck in a conversation you don’t want to be having, here’s what you’re going to do: instead of making up a lame excuse or just walking away, you can actually use psychology to make them end the conversation for you. While you’re talking, switch among looking at the left and right eyes and the forehead. Looking at the forehead makes the subconscious incredibly uncomfortable, which will lead people to believe that they need to exit the conversation. And you don’t have to say anything.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relax my eyes, making it look like I'm looking into _both_ eyes at the same time. Really freaks out some people. Can end conversations really fast! :D

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Day 8

“Next time someone tells you something that you’re already aware of, do everything you can to refrain from saying ‘I know.’ Not only does it devalue what they are saying, but it can trigger a defense response. To avoid that altogether, simply replace it with ‘you’re right.’”

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Day 9

“Next time somebody is upset with you, and they are going to get aggressive, but you want them to go a little easier on you, position yourself directly next to them. It’s been proven that confrontation is much more difficult when you are in such close proximity, so sit next to your angry boss, or mom.”

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Day 10

“If you want to achieve a super lofty goal, put it down on paper! (I like to write mine in the self journal). As soon as you physically put it down on paper, you are 43% more likely to achieve it.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Write down today: "I will not listen to unsubstantiated advice onTikTok again."

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