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Tina Turner’s Second Marriage Brought Her Happiness, And People Online Are Remembering The Couple’s Love Story
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Tina Turner’s Second Marriage Brought Her Happiness, And People Online Are Remembering The Couple’s Love Story

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Tina Turner, the world-renowned “Queen of Rock ‘n’ Roll” known for her legendary singles like “The Best,” “What’s Love Got to Do With It,” “Proud Mary,” and “We Don’t Need Another Hero,” has taken her last breath at the age of 83 after a long illness.

Many of us will remember her raw talent – however, the star’s personal strength will also never be forgotten! Tina endured years of abuse from her first partner, Ike Turner, before finally finding her true happiness in Erwin Bach, with whom she shared a whopping 38-year-long romance.

More info: Victoria Jeffries

The late music legend found true happiness in Erwin Bach after suffering years of abuse from her first partner, Ike Turner

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Before settling with her long-term sweetheart, Erwin Bach, Tina Turner went through hell with her first husband, Ike Turner. The late American musician and bandleader physically assaulted the singer, used manipulation to control and dominate, and even had complete power over her career earnings.

The couple had four children together, including Ike’s son from a previous marriage, whom Tina later adopted. Following their separation in 1976, when the music icon finally gathered the courage to exit the abusive marriage and fled their home with nothing but a couple of belongings, she became the primary caregiver to all their children.

Erwin Bach, a German actor and producer, was 30 years old when he met Turner, who was 47

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Thankfully, in mid-1980, Tina’s personal life took a better turn. The woman met her number one supporter, Erwin Bach, who turned her world upside down and offered nothing but the best

The lovebirds started dating in 1985, and after 27 years together, they held a private ceremony near Zurich and finally tied the knot. The star had always gushed about her partner and how he was her beacon of hope! The couple then moved to Switzerland, and Tina even officially relinquished her U.S. citizenship. 

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Turner claimed it was love at first sight when they first laid eyes on one other in Dusseldorf Airport

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Following her retirement, the Queen of Rock ‘n’ Roll endured some health issues, including intestinal cancer, strokes, and kidney cancer – however, Bach stepped in and decided to donate his beloved partner his kidney, as her survival chances were so slim that the star had even contemplated euthanasia, and they eventually underwent successful surgery in April 2017! If this isn’t the definition of true love, people!

She always praised the music exec for helping her discover real contentment

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Now, unfortunately, abuse spares no one; from your high school sweetheart to one of the most famous musical marriages in history – it can happen to anyone. So, to gain a deeper understanding of the issue’s significance and perhaps offer assistance to those who might be struggling, Bored Panda decided to reach out to a professional. Victoria Jeffries, a BACP accredited psychotherapist and counselor with a Master of Science degree in Therapeutic Counseling, works with both individuals and couples. She is based in North London but works with people all over the UK via Zoom, specializing in helping people overcome the effects of emotionally abusive relationships.

First things first, we wondered what the signs of abuse in a relationship are, to which Victoria answered: “Abuse within a romantic relationship can take many forms; there are the more obvious signs of physical violence (such as punching and slapping) which often leave a bruise, but also emotional abuse which tends to leave a psychological scar. Some general signs of an abusive relationship would be feeling controlled by your partner – for example, they may dictate how you should spend your money or control who you socialise with. Feeling scared or having a sense as though you are walking on eggshells while in their company is another major sign. Criticism and undermining are other signs of abuse – for example, continuously putting you down and chipping away at your confidence, leaving you with very low self-esteem. When on the receiving end of an abusive relationship, it is common to feel afraid of your partner. It is often the case that the abuser has taken complete control of their partner’s life – for example, their finances and social life.”

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After 27 years of blossoming romance, the couple eventually tied the knot in Switzerland in 2013

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BP then wondered how to get out of it, and why some people don’t: “It is important to remember that it is very possible to leave an abusive relationship. The first step to getting out may be confiding in a trusted friend as to what is happening, who may give you the support and strength you need. Another important step would be to speak to a specialist domestic violence organisation (such as Women’s Aid) who can help you come up with a plan to safely leave the abuser. I would also recommend getting professional emotional support to help you rebuild your self-esteem and enable you to move forward with your new life.”

“The person at the receiving end of the abuse can start to feel so worn down they may feel as though they don’t have the energy to leave, and they may question their own right to a happy and fulfilling life after being made to feel as though their wants and needs don’t matter for so long. It is also very common to question yourself while in an abusive relationship – for example, by thinking ‘Is this really wrong? Maybe I do deserve this?’ Furthermore, an abuser tends to isolate their partner from friends and family, meaning that when the time comes that they finally feel they want to take the plunge and leave the relationship, they don’t have anyone to turn to for help and support. This can be an incredibly daunting prospect. The fact that abusers tend to take control of their partner’s life financially is another major reason as to why they may feel as though they cannot leave the relationship; they may feel that realistically, their options are very limited and it may be too difficult to start a new life alone.”

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Turner made her last album in 1999 and gave her final performance in 2009

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“While it is understandable that you will be cautious entering a new relationship (and this is by no means a bad thing), it is important to learn how to trust again and understand that not all future partners will treat you like you were previously treated. It may be useful to ask yourself what you want from a new relationship and check in with yourself regularly and ask yourself whether your needs are being met. For example, ask yourself ‘Am I being respected in this relationship? Does this person build me up? Am I feeling supported and cared for?’ And more importantly, ‘Are there similarities between this relationship and the past abusive one?’ It is important to let yourself be loved, and remind yourself that, despite what your previous partner may have told you, you deserve and are worthy of love. Be aware that it may initially feel uncomfortable to finally be loved and respected; this is totally normal after leaving an abusive relationship as it is something that you are not used to,” Victoria said when we pondered how to enjoy a healthy relationship after experiencing abuse.

Last but certainly not least, the expert added: “Tina Turner is a wonderful example of how it is possible to leave an abusive relationship and go on to not only have a fulfilling life, but a healthy, happy, loving relationship. Tina didn’t let the fact she had been in an abusive relationship colour the rest of her life; she bravely built herself up again (whilst no doubt at her lowest ebb) and eventually took a risk and opened herself up to love again. Tina showed that you cannot only survive after abuse, but you can thrive and live the life you deserve.”

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No matter how cliché it might sound – no one deserves to be abused. Check up on your family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and distressed passersby; sometimes just reaching out and telling someone that you’re there for them can do a lot.

Now go blast a couple of Tina’s songs and celebrate her amazing talent!

Fellow online users have penned heartfelt tributes to the music icon and expressed their love toward Erwin Bach

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donaldberry avatar
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tina was truly the Queen of Rock and Roll. She was an incredible performer and a wonderful person and role model. She will be missed.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember the start of their relationship years back. A few thought that Tina Turner was robbing the cradle. She pointed out that the wee lad of 30 was a grown man. May Erwin Bach have the support of family and friends in this difficult time.

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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tina Turner was a joy. This woman was funny, friendly, and radiated the sort of beauty that is earned through steely determination to survive. When she talked to her stage crew, there was genuine interest and appreciation, never rushed or flippant. Her voice was mesmerizing. Her story was equally mesmerizing. Ike was on stage in a local bar, and this cheeky teenager just started singing and blew him away. Her family was not crazy about him, but she was determined to sing on stage. He was the ticket out. Heck of a price to pay, because he was a violent, mean spirited jackass. She put on a show even when battered and bleeding. He almost broke her. Almost. This magnificent woman refused to be broken. She set an example that I followed. No one's desires are more important than your needs. REST IN PEACE and GLORY, woman. You earned it.

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DBear
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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tina was truly the Queen of Rock and Roll. She was an incredible performer and a wonderful person and role model. She will be missed.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember the start of their relationship years back. A few thought that Tina Turner was robbing the cradle. She pointed out that the wee lad of 30 was a grown man. May Erwin Bach have the support of family and friends in this difficult time.

bobbyrowe avatar
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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tina Turner was a joy. This woman was funny, friendly, and radiated the sort of beauty that is earned through steely determination to survive. When she talked to her stage crew, there was genuine interest and appreciation, never rushed or flippant. Her voice was mesmerizing. Her story was equally mesmerizing. Ike was on stage in a local bar, and this cheeky teenager just started singing and blew him away. Her family was not crazy about him, but she was determined to sing on stage. He was the ticket out. Heck of a price to pay, because he was a violent, mean spirited jackass. She put on a show even when battered and bleeding. He almost broke her. Almost. This magnificent woman refused to be broken. She set an example that I followed. No one's desires are more important than your needs. REST IN PEACE and GLORY, woman. You earned it.

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