“Living In Hawaii”: 30 Things People Dream Of Until They Actually Get It

Periods have no redeeming features.

I was mortified when I got mine and wished I hadn't. None of my friends had it yet and I felt like a freak. Because I was only 11.

I know it's not the same thing, but I remember looking forward to when my beard started growing. Then I had to start shaving regularly.

How about just being and adult in general!

I got my period on April Fools day. Trying to get help from my mother was one abject failure after another. Worse, the next two days, when I woke up, it was like the horse head scene from “The Godfather.” My poor mother. (That never happened again in my whole life. It’s as if my body had been saving it up!)

While it's true that no one is truly prepared for parenthood, most parents still very much want their children once they have them. I know my children make my life more complicated but infinity better

I totally do not regret it, my kids are amazing people and the best thing in my life.

I had about 16 years of marriage to prepare before we had a child. I read every book about parenting and child development I could find, and talked to and observed all the good parents in our lives. I got counseling to work out old childhood stuff of my own. Even with all that, I still felt like a deer in headlights many times while raising our son. No regrets, though. He's an amazing person.

I also work in education (sort of) and even parents who should not have had kids- who don't seem to be prepared or even capable of caring for them still love their kids deeply. It's rare to see people who genuinely don't give a sh*t about their kids.

My one and only is now 25, I had him, unexpectedly at 21 and raised him on my own. No welfare or child support. He is an awesome, upstanding and hardworking man. He also has to, unfortunately, now help support me because I suffered a stroke in my 40s. I wasn't prepared to be a mom and I think we are all just winging it to some extent. No books or classes can prepare you for what it's really like to be a parent. It's something you just naturally do with love and patience and a learning curve. There are people who should not be parents, I agree but i am sure that most people don't regret it.

I want a tiny house so I can hold a banana next to it for scale.

Unfortunately, for the majority of us, the "dream" of owning even a modest house will never come true and we will be renting for the rest of our lives.

I live in a fairly small Cape in New England. The heating costs in the winter are astronomical - I don't know how people who live in McMansions afford to heat them in the winter. I don't want to pay to heat fifteen rooms when I basically live in four. I'm sure it's the same trying to cool a giant house in the south during the summer.

TRUE. My house is modest (mobile home) but I'm on 5 acres. I LOVE the privacy but as I get older the property is more effort to maintain. And I don't mean 'fancy' stuff. Just routine stuff like mowing the lawns and cutting up trees that feel during winter storms and stuff like that. Also house maintenance but again - less than if I had a big fancy house. My neighbor's house is worth more. Where I live you can see property info online. His property tax is more than double what I pay and I've thought how I'm glad I don't have to pay his.

Love my little 915 sq ft 2bed/1.5 bath condo, no maintenance on outside to worry about. LOVE IT

I miss the perceived immortality of youth. Once I hit a certain age, the inevitability of old age hit me. Like: Oh c**p... I'm really going to get old and die. Damn.

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I'm fine getting older. I could do without backpain from "sleeping in thr wrong position" though

About 25 forever would be nice.

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Once I'd got to 18 that was old enough.

Not me. I am 64 and I don't want grow up in this time period of mankind the way everything is so expensive.

I know someone who walked away from a six figure job she'd had for years. She was second in command in the whole company and did very well at it. They hired two (or possibly it was three or 2 1/2) people to fulfill the roles she left. It just got to be too much stress and BS. She left it and works at Lowes for a very big drop in pay. She misses the money but is much happier in the actual job. There came a point where her mental health was worth more than the money.

That's why after 17 years, I'll continue to stay at the bottom of the totem pole.

You can be paid well and still have a great work/life balance. It's the company and corporate culture that determines that.

A high paying job with work-life balance. Other solution : work something what you would do when nobody would pay for it. It's possible :)

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The grass is only greener on the other side because its fertilised with bullsh*t