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We may live in a more progressive society, but the traditional notions about gender continue to exist. Men, for example, are expected to uphold their masculinity. The failure to do so may result in unjust criticisms, and the stories you’re about to read are proof of that. 

This recent Reddit thread highlighted how conventional gender ideas can be harsh, and the guys revealed how bad it can get. For some, it’s being judged for expressing affection toward a pet. For others, it’s the shaming they get for crying like a baby out of grief. 

Scroll through these anecdotes, a lot of which are sad. Feel free to share your own experiences.

#1

“My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard I adopted a cat a few weeks ago. I love this thing more than anything. I was starting to think I’m just a rock, incapable of having emotional stake in anything anymore…..but this lil guy is changing my life. I love him, and I would do anything for him. He’s currently lying on my neck as I type this.

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    #2

    Bearded man wearing sunglasses lying on grass, reflecting on thoughts men anonymously wish to reveal without judgment. I don't have a desire to advance on the career ladder, to have a prestigious job and a six-figure income (or whatever is the European equivalent to that).

    I just want an easygoing life. Just being able to enjoy the people and things that matter to me and do a job that gives me joy and purpose.

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    Lisa Sturgiss
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The older you get the more this means. At 42 all i want is a remote job that I can do while on the road, at my own pace seeing my amazing country (Australia) with my partner.

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    #3

    Close-up of a man with a tear on his cheek conveying deep emotions men wish they could say without being judged. I recently loss my wife to a horrible disease. I learned that nobody in my life was prepared or willing to see me cry. Literally not one person can sit with me in my grief. When I cry, they back away like I’m doing something perverted or shameful. It’s made the loss much, much worse.

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    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unhinged f***s must have been surrounding him. I mean what the f this is making me angry.

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    #4

    Young man sitting in stadium seats, looking pensive and thoughtful, representing men anonymously revealing secrets. I hate sports. I work in health care and I hate all the stupid sports injuries that set kids up for life times of pain and problems. I hate how it pulls money from actual important parts of education. I’m not anti exercise but I’m anti sport. I hate how sports gets more publicity than half the other issues in our society. I hate how it’s the “only way out” for to many people. I hate that a stupid ball is more important than a book.

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    Chich the witch
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never saw the point in sports. Plenty of other ways to keep fit without everything being a competition. Agree that it does take too much away from education, some univ the coach is amongst the highest paid . Why does that make any sense.

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    #5

    Man sitting on bed in a bedroom, looking thoughtful and reflective, expressing emotions men wish to reveal anonymously. That I have zero desire to have kids. The whole parental instinct thing is something that I've never felt.

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    #6

    A thoughtful man sitting on a bed, reflecting quietly in a modern bedroom, representing men’s anonymous revelations. That sometimes I’m not “fine” at all, I’m just scared that if I say I’m lonely, overwhelmed, or touch starved people will see me as weak or needy and pull away. A lot of us just want a hug, a genuine “are you okay?” and space to be vulnerable without it becoming a joke or a reason to respect us less.

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    Kirsten Kerkhof
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A male of colleague of mine has PTSD from this time in the airforce. I have worked with him for 20 years ands trust him completely, so I hug him when he needs comfort. The thing is, he is the only guy I do that for, even when it feels good for me as well to hug - I just cannot risk another guy misinterpreting my hug for something more ... Sad, isn't it?

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    #7

    Man holding toddler outdoors in autumn, representing 91 men anonymously revealing thoughts without judgment. I love kids but not in a creepy way. My neighbor was the house for all the kids during covid and I loved hearing them play outside every day. All my friends know that I'm a great babysitter (except for the part where we have ice cream for dinner). My genetics and job make it so I shouldn't have my own kids, so I just spoil my friends' kids with loud toys and sugar.

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    Beef Brisket
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is awful how society assumes simply being born male means you're a s****l predator.

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    #8

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard Here's a lighthearted one.

    I loathe the fact that playgrounds are socially acceptable only for children. Why can't I, a grown man, just chill on the swings or monkey bars for an afternoon?

    Someone should make adult-only playgrounds a thing!

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I often go sit on the swings if there's no kids around (don't wanna look like a creep). Get plenty of weird looks for it, being a 35yo woman, but I don't give a s**t. Swings are awesome.

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    #9

    Man sitting on bed with head down in a room, reflecting feelings men wish they could say out loud without judgment. I have a physically disabled 10 year old daughter. Mentally as sharp as a tack. I have 2 other children as well. I've had some serious caregiver burnout here lately and there are days where I just go through the motions. Other days, I just don't want to do it. I feel bad too because the way we connect is through physically caring for her and I don't take much time out to be her dad. I'd never stop doing it, but I'm worn out dudes. And my other kids deserve my love as well. IDK if I believe in God, but if he exists... he's kind of a [jerk].

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    Diane Tucker
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh dear. Being a caregiver is so depleting. I wonder if this man lives in a jurisdiction that offers what where I live is called respite care; it's a few days off for those who care for a person full time. I pray he at least has family and friends who could help share his burden.

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    #10

    A thoughtful man in a pink shirt looking out a window, reflecting on things men wish they could say anonymously. It hurts when women assume I mean them harm.

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    It makes me feel sad in a kind of powerless way. I am one of only 2 (remaining) men in 4 generations of my family so most of my social circle consists of women. I see how men's behaviours influence every aspect of their lives. I wish I could do more to make other men see women the way they are, as people: equal, strong, with a full and equal personality and sensible, developed brain and everything that comes with it. It is painfully clear that too many men don't see them that way, otherwise they wouldn't act the way they do. But I still feel sad when other women act towards me in the way they need to if they don't know me. 

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    #11

    Young man with beard sitting pensively on bed, reflecting on thoughts men wish they could say without judgment. I've been so damaged from military service/private security work AND just relationship betrayal, that I sincerely think I have a place on the spectrum of psychopathy.

    My emotions when alone are non existent, I've seen so much and lost so many connections that I legitimately don't care about anyone or myself anymore. I'm only pretending to have emotions.

    I'm not trying to sound cool, I'm seeking help as of earlier this year with both psychologist and psychiatrist.

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    LB
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds more like PTSD, no?

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    #12

    Man and child playing musical instruments together indoors, showing bonding and joyful moments among men anonymously. I'm a teacher. People hate teachers. Worse, I'm a man that teaches kindergarten. That automatically gets me the side eye.

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    The_Nicest_Misanthrope
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel sorry for teachers. What I hate is this new wave of entitled, lazy Millennial/Gen Z parents who give their kids main character syndrome. And before anyone comes for me, I'm a (happily child free) Millennial.

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    #13

    Young man wearing a beige sweater posing thoughtfully against a wall, representing men anonymously revealing secrets. I own a women’s sweater and three women’s T-shirts. They are comfortable as hell, especially the sweater. Got them because the options in the men’s section were ugly as hell and the items I got are not feminine looking, they could pass and pass for unisex.

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    Ben Aziza
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did buy a jacket like that. Went through the whole "Phantom pockets" saga...The two pockets that were not fake were so dam small you would think the makers found a way to collapse space itself into the negative...

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    #14

    A contemplative man in a green shirt sitting indoors at night, reflecting on anonymous thoughts men wish to share. I hate most men.

    I grew up with a total softie of a stay-at-home father, and I am forever grateful for it. It sickens me to see so many objectively bad men pumping out kids and gleefully passing their own trauma down generation after generation after generation. They are the poison of the world, and they've built it up so they're rewarded for it.

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    Stardust she/her
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad’s doing this to my little brother and it makes me so upset. He’ll yell at him for small things and then say s**t like ‘don’t cry in front of the girls’ ‘when Im gone you should be protecting the girls of the house’ ‘sports players don’t do that’ etc. I’m worried for him :(

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    #15

    Young man in a pink turtleneck posing thoughtfully against a pink background revealing emotions men wish to express anonymously I like wearing female clothes and wearing make up, and generally pressing “feminine” but I am not a woman, or trans. I’m essentially a reverse tomboy. I have no desire to transition, I’m in a loving marriage with a wife and two kids. I absolutely do NOT associate with LGBTQ+ or “drag queens” and I’m not a feminine man by any means. I do judo, i shoot guns, I’ve been to Afghanistan with the marine corps. I am a god fearing Christian.

    I just like the idea of being pretty, in the way you look at a sunset or a painting and go “oh that’s pretty!” And not in the way you go “she’s pretty because she’s a woman”.

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    David Paterson
    Community Member
    1 week ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good on you! You be you, and forget the labels that everybody tries to stick on you.

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    #16

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard I love Anne of green gables, pride and prejudice (the bbc miniseries with Colin firth is the best), kdramas, and so forth. 

    I hate watching sports. 

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    Karl
    Community Member
    6 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing bores me more than sport. Now music? Hell yeah!

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    #17

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard That I love my wife. The amount of weird looks I get from people after a group [complain]-fest about their partners, after I have nothing negative to say about my wife, is astonishing. It feels like the norm is, “that ol’ ball ‘n’ chain at home makes my life hell, she doesn’t cook, clean, and I never [get laid] anymore!” Hate my wife jokes and all that never made sense to me. Like, do people ACTUALLY not like their partners/spouses?

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's peer pressure, sadly. Complain about home, everybody chimes in. If you say how good it is, food, séx 'n all, nobody believes you

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    #18

    Man sitting on brown couch with hand covering face, expressing emotions men anonymously reveal without being judged. I recently found out my job will be ending in January. I need to move on and find new employment but I just feel paralyzed. My wife keeps telling me to "be a man" and it destroys me every time.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's cruel. Your partner is meant to uplift you, not belittle you.

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    #19

    Close-up of a man with a beard shedding a tear, expressing deep emotion and vulnerability without being judged. Probably that I cry a lot. I live by myself and most times when I watch a movie, I’ll cry if something resonates with me. Even a little. I don’t even know why, tbh. Sometimes I’ll lay in bed and tears will come.

    No idea what my damage is, but I certainly don’t want people I know knowing that I am a mess.

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    Papa
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find that I cry more easily, and am more emotional in general, as I've approached retirement age. I'm not sure why.

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    #20

    Man in a tan sweater sitting on a gray couch at home, representing men anonymously revealing personal thoughts. I don't want to work.

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    Data1001
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "...I just want to bang on the drum all day..."

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    #22

    Young man in a white shirt looking away thoughtfully, illustrating men anonymously revealing personal thoughts. That compliments actually mean a lot to me, even tiny ones.

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    man rarely get any - unless you move in gay areas (I am serious)

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    #23

    Man playing with a toy airplane with child in a grassy field, capturing moments men wish they could say out loud. I like kids, in that i think their energy and enjoyment of life is a welcome relief to the gray world we inhabit. Say this around certain people and they immediately think you're a [creep], sadly.

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    #24

    Young man in a blue plaid shirt covering his face while using a laptop, revealing thoughts men wish they could say without judgment I don’t want to be a provider or “man of the house”. I’m already struggling and stressing out providing for myself.

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    Disgruntled Panda
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Senjo, you're exactly why people are afraid to be honest. It's not necessary

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    #26

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard I like plushies.

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have plenty. In every room. They watch what I am doing

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    #27

    Man with beard choosing suits in a clothing store, reflecting the theme of men anonymously revealing personal thoughts. I'm jealous of the fashion variety women get to enjoy. They can wear pretty much anything a man can, but also get away with a huge variety of dresses, skirts, etc. and get judged far less for conspicuous makeup choices like heavy eyeshadow.

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    Diane Tucker
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, men in other historical periods seem to have had more range of choice in the male fashion department. I hope you wear what you want because it makes you feel good.

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    #28

    Man with striped shirt and boy sitting outdoors, symbolizing men anonymously revealing thoughts without judgment. I sometimes regret having children.

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    Lost Panda
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love my children, and I don't regret having them. What I do regret is that I had them so early that I didn't have time to prepare myself for everything else (financially, experiences, etc.)

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    #29

    That while I enjoy doing the dirty jobs a man will do, I love having manicures and pedicures. I also love a good romantic movie. Also, makeup isn't just for women. I can feel pretty if I want to.

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    #30

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard I'd like a hug, please. Something, anything to show that I matter to the people around me beyond a money/labour source.

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    David Paterson
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Say it. I was starved for hugs until my daughter said five years ago "you can ask people for a hug, you know".

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    #31

    “My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard How tired I am...

    I'm tired of working my life away and providing for a family that seemingly only cares if the wifi works, I'm tired of being everyone's rock, tired of getting phone calls or text messages from everyone asking me for help to do things or needing someone to talk to but incidentally when I call or reach out no one's available. I'm tired of pouring love, energy and attention into a partner that doesn't reciprocate even the slightest bit of affection in return, im tired of giving 2-3hour foot rubs but when i ask for any type of attention "shes tired", I'm tired of always feeling like life is a race I'm being forced to run and I'm always lagging behind regardless of the time, effort and energy I put into it. I'm tired of feeling like I'm banging on the walls screaming for someone to take notice that I'm losing a grip on things and no one seems to care. I'm tired of going to my pcp and telling them that my body is seemingly falling apart but all the test come back fine. I'm tired of telling them I need to see a therapist but my insurance doesn't cover that. I'm tired sleep doesn't fix how tired I am, I'm tired that being tired is tiring all in all I'm just tired.

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    #33

    I once opened up to my partner about how stressed I was being the sole support for her and our 4 children. I was in a dark place. It felt like the whole world was on my shoulders....


    She mocked me. Asked if I needed a "pitty party". During an argument a few weeks later, she used it to show that I wasn't a "real man".


    That whole "its ok to not be ok" is a great slogan, but i and many other men have seen it to be [nonsense]. Needless to say, I won't be baring my soul to other people again.

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    LB
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    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This really sad and divorce worthy.

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    #34

    I believe a Prius is a perfectly acceptable and logical vehicle to own.

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    Moving Enigma
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any car, apart from an Elon Twatface Musk car, is acceptable!.

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    #35

    That I also struggle with how to parent our special needs boys and you always telling me I'm not their dad when they're my stepchildren who everyone else has run away from makes me feel [awful].

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    Andrei Iepure
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds really heavy. Sorry you have to go through something like that. I bet you're a good dad

    #36

    I admit it, but it seems strange for some people to understand that I like being a dad and actually like playing with my kids because they're turning into cool individuals.

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    Belynda Young
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They are turning into cool kids because of your attention.

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    #37

    That taking care of my autistic son makes me not want to live.

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    David Paterson
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are few things in this world more soul destroying than taking care of a child with a severe mental disability.

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    #38

    Sometimes when I’m home alone I put on my girlfriend’s hoodie because it smells like her and I just sit on the couch hugging myself like a complete loser.
    I’m 32, 195 cm, 105 kg, deadlift 200 kg.

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    Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do not know how your size is relevant here unless you want sympathy for the poor sweater

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    #39

    Young man wearing a red jacket and green hoodie, listening to music with headphones on an urban street. My favorite type of music is what people would consider to be "white girl music", I turn that off when friends are over because I've been made fun of for the music I listen to enough times that it's easier to just let them choose the music.

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    Silberwolf
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mostly I listen to hard rock & metal, but sometimes Avril Lavigne is also a nice change..

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    #40

    I really like Disney/Pixar movies, I enjoy cookies and milk over beer.

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    Stardust she/her
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pixar is the GOAT when it comes to good heartfelt movies, there should be literally no shame in anyone of any demographic enjoying their films

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    #41

    That I am 28 years old and never been in a relationship.

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    #42

    That I as a man enjoy volunteering teaching children and teens. Teaching kids as a man gets you the side eye, doing it for free means you warrant extra scrutiny.

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    #43

    I don't have any desire to marry or have children. At all.

    I know I'm young. This won't change. I don't care. I don't like kids and I like my alone time.

    But no I get argued with anytime I say this.

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    nothing wrong with that. There should be a "club" for it

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    #44

    That when my wife goes away for 4 days to a week, the first couple nights are spent enjoying sprawling out in the bed...but the next two days are more "Ok, she can come home any time now" because it just feels...*wrong* that I'm going to bed without her.

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    #45

    That I fear losing the people I care about most, and it haunts me more than I ever admit.

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    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is quite reasonable. In fact, it would be troubling if it were not so.

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    #46

    I love powerful women, like strong body, strong mind, and confident in themselves.

    Like pick me up, throw me on the couch get on top of me and kiss me first type of [stuff].

    Surprisingly I've been judged for this.

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    Esmeralda Villalobos
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like that would be hot, regardless of 53x or gender. I can't pick up my man, but I can sure shove him and jump on him :D

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    #47

    I have like 50 stuffed animals from when I was a kid and if there's ever a house fire and I can only save one thing, it's them. I have a lot of emotional baggage that was softened by having stuffed animals in my bed when I was younger. The least I can do is be thankful to them.

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    #48

    Sometimes a lil nose pick booger extraction just does me right.

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    KrazyChiMama
    Community Member
    6 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with it! Just please dispose of any said pickings in a tissue and wash your hands when done, please :) (no booger wall! I swear I still have nightmares about that from my stepson lol)

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    #49

    Man looking thoughtfully out a window, holding a mug, representing men anonymously revealing personal thoughts. Being a submissive guy.

    There's a lot of negative responses to things like not being a bread winner or not being dominant in the relationship / bedroom. Ton of other stupid things too but if I was able to be transparent about things it would make finding a compatible partner a whole lot easier and I don't think from a girls perspective a partner who cooks cleans and is more attentive to needs is a bad thing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

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    Phantom Phoenix
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    3rd option. Partners. Equals. Neither partner dominant or submissive. Work out rhythms and systems that work for you. It's not emasculating if he does laundry and cooks dinner. It's not a "role reversal" if she has a higher paying job and maybe works longer hours. People aren't cookie-cutter clones in cookie-cutter relationships

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    #50

    It's scary to walk around alone at night regardless of [gender]. Not all men are tall and strong and I'm not at all confident to fend off an attacker that's serious about hurting me.

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    Doctor Strange
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    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't mean this sarcastically or in a mean way, but take self defense classes. I am an assistant instructor for women's self defense classes, but the same techniques would work for a man as well. Learning how to defend yourself will help you feel more comfortable and confident. And with a well taught style, the techniques are effective regardless of your size. The trouble is finding a good school, there are a lot of junk out there.

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    #52

    Man sitting alone by the water, reflecting quietly outdoors, representing anonymous men revealing personal thoughts. I'm fine being single and by myself but oh my god i miss feeling desired by someone. I miss having someone to talk to, to share in small cute intimate moments and I honestly feel that it may not be in the cards for a long time, maybe "my person" doesn't exist lol. Some days (or nights in this case) it gets very lonely.

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    #53

    Man with beard sitting on bed, hugging knees and looking thoughtful, reflecting things men wish to say anonymously. That I’m emotionally [empty] inside. Nothing in the tank. Everyone in my life comes to me for motivation, or emotional support. I do my best to give them what they need, and I’m told that they come to me became my solutions work, but there is nothing there, no spark.

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    Data1001
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hear that. Especially the last 5-10 years or so, I feel like I've lost my mojo. And I'm not sure how to get it back.

    #54

    I love decor and miss my cats when I’m gone for a while.

    I’m a mid forties burly straight dude.

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    Michael Largey
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    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So you're a visual person and like animals. Millions of guys just like that.

    #56

    A few things...

    1) that I dont drink. I quit because I drank too much, pretty simple. But there's this stigma that guys love to drink and get all messed up to have fun. I'm past that phase of my life but still feel judged when I say I dont drink

    2) I go to therapy. It helps tremendously to have someone paid to listen to your problems and offer advice in a non judgmental way. Sure you can always vent to a friend or family member, but that almost always comes with judgement. So I go to therapy instead and I feel like it really helps.

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    James016
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got a lot of c**p when I gave up alcohol in my 20s. A great way to shut the people up back then was to ask them why and how it was sad that I no longer drink alcohol

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    #57

    I would love nothing more than to be held for just a few minutes.

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    #58

    Man lighting a candle in a dim room, symbolizing men anonymously revealing their thoughts without being judged. I'm a big fan of candles. When Fall hits, you can find me sheepishly smelling 30 different scents and lying that they are for my wife.

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    Jocelyn Webster
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No need to lie OP. Enjoy the candles. They're meant for that, no matter your gender.

    #59

    Strawberry milkshake topped with whipped cream and berries with a focus on men anonymously reveal secrets concept. I enjoy drinking strawberry milkshake.

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    Emilu
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do people really care about what other people enjoy drinking (aside from alcohol; I've seen that peer pressure)? I mean, is the poster expecting people to turn around and call him a loser because he likes strawberry milkshakes? Frankly, if you're that invested in what somebody else likes to eat/drink, you're odd.

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    #60

    I love drinking hot drinks with two hands.

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this is also better if you only have that one cup! To avoid it falling and braking

    #61

    I absolutely despise this society and I hate the fact that I have to contribute to it in any form just to survive.

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    #62

    How much pain and how sick I truly am on any given day. My wife is not even aware of it. 🤷.

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    Senjo Krane
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why doesn't the op tell his wife how sick he is? What kind of a relationship is this?

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    #63

    I like quirky stuff and cute mascot characters. I'm 33 and work in engineering and construction and I like putting stickers on my work laptop to personalize it but can't help but feel i am getting judged heavily for that Chiikawa sticker when I pull that out at the jobsite.

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    #64

    I love being the little spoon with my wife.

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    #65

    I’m 54 and still scared of the dark.

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    Stardust she/her
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well this is a pretty basic human fear as fear of the unknown is what helped our ancestors survive for a while. What makes the dark scary is the fact that someone or something may be lurking just waiting for you to walk in

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    #66

    I still really really REALLY want an Easy-Bake Oven.

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    #67

    I miss Project Runway. One of the finest examples of TV completion ever. I would actually bone up on fashion and sewing terms to understand what was going on.

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    #68

    I prefer sweet drinks/cocktails.

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    Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭
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    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. Sweet is so much better and i doubt that many people who drink whisky really like it as much as they pretend. Apart from the fact that i can drink very little of it before i get really drunk, some nice vanilla Liquor i can allways enjoy. Or eggnog. Or Baileys 🥰

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    #69

    Being bisexual, but heteromantic.
    Basically everyone across the spectrum rolls their eyes or gives you a look of disgust lol.

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    Stardust she/her
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get you OP, I really do. People either tell me I’m confused or that I’ll realise I was straight all along when I get older even though I do like girls too

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    #70

    I love cutesy stuff. In the privacy of my own home, that is.

    The most anyone knows about it is that I love hamsters, and that's not even scratching the surface.

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    #71

    As a gay man ive found it difficult to remove myself from “gay best friend” typecasting with a lot of straight people. It’s a nuanced conversation and I’m not jaded about it but it is something that gets to me often.

    I feel like it’s hard to make friendships without my sexuality popping up in, what is to me, inauthentic ways. It makes me feel largely invisible and that I’m present to fulfill a role and not because of who I actually am.

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    Jack
    Community Member
    3 days ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep! And gay men aren't any easier to be friends with than anyone else.

    #72

    I haven't been in a serious relationship in almost 10 years.

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    #73

    I like baths.

    The truth is I like hot tubs and spas but I don’t want to drop the money on some huge fancy tub with a rain proof enclosure so I just take baths instead. My wife likes to tease me about it.

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    Data1001
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's really hard to find apartments with baths these days, and in the ones that do have them, the bath itself is so small it's practically useless for anyone 5'8" or taller.

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    #74

    Man wearing protective glasses and ear muffs working with a screwdriver on wall wiring, representing men anonymously revealing secrets. I think the mass market for "manly" things is stupid, and the reason men like the "manly" things are usually because they use to be made better or are more simple.

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    screwdriver shaft should be insulated... Even for a new installation

    #75

    I order multicolored sprinkles on all desserts whenever possible...at least I want to...not brave enough...I make my wife do it.

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    Data1001
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, OP, but you are definitely stuck in old-fashioned notions of masculinity if you can't even order multicolored sprinkles on your dessert. Who friggin' cares??

    #76

    Mean Girls is a great movie.

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    #77

    That I'm terrified of becoming a father. And I don't know how to get over this.

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    #78

    I cry easily. Very very easily.

    Even at stupid, obvious commercials designed to tug at the heart strings, things like that.

    My wife makes fun of me, but I'm used to it by now.

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    Senjo Krane
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as she makes fun of you with love it ok.

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    #79

    I have always enjoyed "girly" music. I was a teen in the early 00s, when my music taste became pretty well cemented. As much as I enjoy Tool Korn, and the other male oriented rock, when I'm in the car alone, I'll crank up Michelle Branch, Paramore, and My Chemical Romance.

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    #80

    I'm pretty open with people about a lot of things IRL. I've been told I'm easy to talk to in part because I am so willing to share my smile and my story.

    But I'm terrified of being truly vulnerable with people anymore. I feel like a fraud for saying that, considering I haven't been in a serious romantic relationship ever, but I've been hurt by friends so many times over my life that I feel actual adrenaline-laden terror when I try to imagine putting myself out there and getting to genuinely know people.

    I desperately want to be able to be a father someday, so there's a conflict between those feelings of fear and desire for expanding my family circle. But it's hard to talk to people about, double that when the few friends I do have treat it like a joke.

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    #82

    I can't do woodworking or any other handyman [stuff] and I have no desire to learn.

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    #83

    I don't like going to concerts with women friends because it's exhausting having to play defense and have random women hate you for being tall.

    Context: I'm 6'4" and my wife, her friends, and even their partners are max 5'6". They all love running to the fence leaving me playing defense as people are pushing up and I have to stand there. Also usually a drunk girl that will punch me in the back for blocking her view only to realize I have several people in front of me.

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    #84

    Young man sitting on bed, deep in thought, reflecting on personal feelings anonymously without being judged. I'm out as bi to a lot of people in my life, but not anyone I work with or most of my family and 2 close friends from grade school.
    I don't want them to rethink any interactions from years ago or view me as their bi friend. I just want to be their friend. And at work I don't want to have to deal with the mindset of "Sure bro, you're really gay!"
    I think of I came out as bi it would change preconceived notions these people in my life have (I have basically all the societal enforced masculine qualities one could think of). And it would be freeing. But I abhor attention and making things weird within a group and don't want to do something that would make my life harder and I couldn't put back in the bottle. If I was asked point blank I wouldn't lie, but don't think announcing it is something I could handle.

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    LB
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Straight people don't need to go around announcing their sexuality to everyone and neither do you. You're allowed a private life.

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    #85

    I’m in my mid 30s and I enjoy staying home playing video games watching horror movies and anime.

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    Doctor Strange
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not into horror movies, but the rest. And I'm in my 40's

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    #86

    Talking about my emotions and how i feel about things.


    Oh and that i lost my virginity to my now wife, with whom I've been married to for 15 years, at the age of 26.

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    #87

    I sometimes make mistakes and I am working on them. Pretty simple really. While I don’t “care”, it sure feels like everyone around me does.

    I’m not depressed about it and I’m pretty happy with who I am. But… could the rest of you men get over it? It’s always other men. Always.

    Why do we have to try to make people an example. Stumble in a speech? Why the hell is everyone so critical? All of you have imperfections too. Quit focusing on others’ and be a little more supportive.

    Oh and I don’t like sports. At all. It’s the most boring and unimportant thing to talk about. I know others like it and that just fine. But I really have a hard time pretending to be interested.

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    James016
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like motor racing and the Olympics as far as sports go. I have no real interest in other sports

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    #88

    I’m a straight male who loves ABBA!!

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    Rali Meyer
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    great band. Comes right after Pantera and Tina Turner :-)

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    #89

    I like Sanrio characters particularly Pochacco but rarely buy any merchandise for fear of being a weirdo.

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    Chilli
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love Keropi, he's my favourite

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    #90

    I am on dating apps with the intention of finding a partner. Someone to be with for the rest of my life... But in the meantime, I also wouldn't mind a couple hookups.

    Like. It might take me years to find the right person. I would also like to get laid a bit in those years.

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    Senjo Krane
    Community Member
    1 week ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the 'hookup' might just turn out to be the one...

    #91

    I liked the final season of Game of Thrones.

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