No matter how self-confident we may present ourselves to the outside world, everyone has chinks in their armor. You know, these little flaws we find when our inner critic takes control to pick our features apart one by one. Unfortunately, our insecurities can get the better of us and sometimes even start to control us.
Women especially feel pressure to achieve perfection we all know doesn’t actually exist. Many have been lured into believing they have to be secure about their looks, personality, intellect, career, and every other aspect of their life. So sometimes, all we need are little reminders to give us a bit of a boost to conquer any self-doubts we may have.
Recently, user naruturtle created a post on the Ask Reddit community and asked men to share the things women and girls shouldn’t be insecure about. The thread received hundreds of comments that remind ladies to stop needlessly obsessing over imperfections and feel confident in their own skin. Below, you’ll find some of the most illuminating answers from the thread, so upvote the ones you agree with and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!
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I asked my husband this question, so here's his answer:
Weight gain. Not seriously obese or lack of caring for health, but don't worry about a little extra fluff. So go ahead, eat that pizza slice(s) you're secretly eyeing!
This one is a big one for me because I gained due to birth control and a couple years of poor eating when we went through money struggles. Now we're having our second and final child, so I've been extra insecure with all these body changes and gaining weight. Of course he's on board with me wanting to lose weight and get back to where I was, but he always tells me I'm beautiful and he loves every bit of me. He has never made me feel bad for my body
This is probably the number 1 insecurity, and should be number 1 on this list. Incels and the idiots who get rejected on Tinder are the ones who call out women for their weight, but most mature men don't really care. Be yourselves and love yourselves, ladies.
I personally want to find the person that told women freckles should be covered up and I don’t want to hurt anyone so I’ll just have a strongly worded conversation with them. Maybe it’s just me, but I have a serious weakness for freckles. From a dusting across the bridge of a woman’s nose to head-to-toe ginger freckles. I think they’re gorgeous.
The number of ads I get on Youtube about cosmetics that cover up 'facial impurities' is staggering and all of them are dumb because why are you not allowed to have a mole or something along the line?
To learn more about female insecurities and how needless obsessions over them affect our lives, we reached out to psychotherapist Sheri Heller, LCSW who specializes in the treatment of complex trauma, narcissistic abuse syndrome, and addictive disorders. "How we criticize ourselves is predicated on whether or not we have a realistic assessment and sense of acceptance of who we are," she told Bored Panda.
Heller explained that when our relationship with ourselves is mired in rejection, perfectionism and self-loathing critical scrutiny of who we are and what we do is a constant source of distress. Way too often, women find fault within themselves and worry about how other people perceive them. And even when they hear words of encouragement to stop self-doubting themselves, learning how to overcome it is challenging.
Ovulation and periods. It’s completely natural, and only weirdos and teen boys get grossed out by you talking about it.
Not a man, but a lesbian, so I think I can provide some input here.
Anything genital related - pubic hair grooming standards, labia size, shape, colour, etc.
Everyone is a little different, and I nor any woman I've ever slept with, or any man in any of the guy talk I've been privy to as a lesbian (always a little weird to be a part of), has ever cared about any of it. Whatever you were born with is completely natural and beautiful. And if you want to rock a full bush, or go completely bald, or do a landing strip, or whatever your little heart desires, you do you and anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position.
Being a total dork, plenty of guys want a goofy girl that we can be ourselves around
According to a report by Weight Watchers, females are indeed highly self-critical — they were found to criticize themselves at least eight times a day. The survey of more than 2,000 women revealed a worrying trend with one in seven admitting to being regularly judgmental of their body, personality, relationships, money, or career success every day.
An estimated 46 percent admitted having negative thoughts at least once before 9:30 AM. Moreover, a staggering 89 percent revealed they prefer complimenting their friends but not themselves, and 88 percent even said they would never criticize them in the same way.
"Women often get caught up in one-dimensional prescriptives that superficially measure a woman’s worth," Heller said. "This runs the gamut from measures of beauty to degrees of selflessness, popularity, and image."
Being bad at sex. If a guy says you’re bad at sex, he’s a piece of s**t. Real good sex comes from an emotional connection. It’s not you, it’s them. They suck.
Wearing the same dress again. Nobody cares except other insecure women.
Approaching/getting rejected by guys. We'd say yes to a tree if one approached us first
"Likewise, there are cultural demands placed on women to not only embody mothering attributes and live up to markers of vanity, but also to achieve success in the marketplace. This do all, be all paradigm sets many women up to be self-conscious about falling short of the impossible," the psychotherapist added.
When self-consciousness finds its way into every aspect of our lives, it can significantly affect our well-being. Heller told Bored Panda that being plagued by insecurities causes a person to live an inauthentic life. "One may attempt to conceal their fragility and wounds and aspire to be someone they are not."
"Moreover, one may go into hiding and not realize latent potentials. Psychologically and emotionally, the person afflicted by insecurities feels alienated and alone. They are disconnected from themselves."
Lack of long eyelashes. Literally, no dude has ever cared about eyelashes.
Yup, honestly those long fake eyelashes can kinda be odd looking
I like girls who can be real around me. When they feel comfortable and say whatever dumb s**t is on their mind, I feel like I’m actually connecting with someone. Cliche, but I think being yourself and losing the insecurity, in general, is the most attractive thing someone can do.
Brains. Being a nerd is the new sexy.
Brains should be a point of attraction regardless if you are a man or a woman. I am a man, but I find it very condescending to conclude that smart women are "sexy", as if they are some rare, extravagant breed, while it is supposed to be some kind of a natural state of men, who are actually proven to be, throughout history, the supreme idiots of humanity.
It's troublesome enough to feel doubtful about yourself, but often these thoughts seep into our relationships as well. When asked how big of an impact they have on our connection to others, Heller told us, "When we are not at peace with who we are, we cannot adequately engage with others. The inability to authentically express oneself with others leads to co-dependent maneuvering. One might succumb to fawning, people-pleasing, manipulating, and controlling to fulfill dependency needs."
Things I/most men don't care about:
Stretch marks.
Uneven breasts
Breasts that hang/sag (That's actually sexy, in my opinion).
Veiny breasts
It's perfectly fine if you aren't shaved down below.
Your round belly is actually cute.
I love the way you look in the morning.
Imperfections make you unique, and aren't something to be self-conscious about.
In short, if you treat me/most guys with respect; give lots of affection; are dependable; trustworthy; kind; honest; and make us feel good about ourselves, whatever insecurities you have, we likely find endearing/cute/sexy.
Breast size. A good portion of us don't give a s**t about that.
Gray hairs, I love when you own it. Plus the silver streak kinda reminds me of Rogue from X-Men.
To avoid bringing other people down, everyone should think twice before making unsolicited comments about a person’s looks, characteristics, or qualities. "When men (or women for that matter) highlight things in women which they view as 'problematic', it exacerbates shame," Heller explained and added that a common example of this is body image. Pointing out or shaming perceived physical flaws diminishes self-regard and self-worth.
Wrinkles. Every wrinkle is a scar of a thousand smiles.
Burping or farting around us. I know too many girls that have said they think it is rude or going to turn us off of them. Personally, I would want you to let go of any gas because I know how uncomfortable that is and I couldn’t imagine if you were holding that in on top of period pain or other things. Please just pass your gas and don’t let it be something you think will turn us off.
Being the one to make the first move. Especially in today's age, it can be very complex for a man to know if it's even ok to ask anymore...
When our confidence is low and fragile, we have a hard time believing in ourselves. This might lead to ditching our dreams or even cause serious health issues. "Often, this sort of wounding leads to self-destructive behavior such as eating disorders and sexual compliance," the psychotherapist noted.
Luckily, threads like this one remind us how important it is to raise awareness about self-worth issues women face every day. You see, shrinking others' faith in themselves is never the right way, and people should be encouraged to embrace their bodies and silence those inner critics that limit their lives.
Honestly, damn near everything. It’s sad seeing beautiful women treat themselves like s**t because their cheekbones aren’t right or their thighs are slightly red or whatever. Ladies: guys DO NOT CARE IN THE SLIGHTEST about these things. They will love you for who you are. And the guys that do make a big stink about physical 'abnormalities' aren’t worth chasing after in the first place.
Small breasts, contrary to what most would have you girls think, there are plenty of guys out there that love, if not even prefer, smaller breasts over larger breasts.
I grew up with older sisters. There were so many things they would be insecure about but I always assured them they shouldn't. Please dont be so stressed about your hair first of all. Your weight, please don't be so hard on yourself. Your clothes, please. The differences are small to notice to most men when you stress about those little things. Please, take it easy
Intelligence.
Some of the smartest women I know will too often concede the room to loud but dumber men.
Being afraid to make the first move. I can't tell you how fantastically guys would respond if women just dropped this "men have to make the first move" mentality. If they just walked over and said "hey you're cute and I like your personality, wanna go out sometime?" Men would go nuts. A lot of Women, not all, act like this is an insane idea, but tbh it's very refreshing and a really attractive quality. Fuck the bs of norms.
Oh yeah.This! Ladies, if the guy you like inexplicably won't ask you out, it could be they like you, but are afraid it would ruin your friendship if you say no. Also, obvious hints aren't as obvious as you think, especially for guys who haven't had a girlfriend yet.
How much sex they’ve had. As long as it’s done responsibility and you’re loyal to your established SO, I couldn’t care less how many came before.
Makeup
Most girls I’ve know look better without it
it makes me feel more confident because the last time i didnt wear ppl called me out and called me ugly. But i realised i looked ok without it, now i just prefer to wear it because i personally like it, not bc others do.
The only ugly thing is the personalities of the people who made fun of you. And you can't hide that behind a layer of makeup.
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Women don't necessarily wear make-up for men. They wear it because they enjoy it. So "most girls I know look better without it", no. The whole point of make-up is to look better. So if you go out with a woman, and she's spent a lot of effort to look good FOR YOU (because you're going out), that's a big compliment, and you should accept it as such.
I've heard women say "I look weird without make-up" and honey it's all a matter of habit. After a while without make-up you'll start to feel like you look weird WITH make-up on.
I've had so many boyfriends in the past tell me that I look better without makeup on... And then yet only tell me I look beautiful when I had makeup on 🤦🏼 I don't know if guys can actually tell what the difference is... I mean I never wore garishly bright makeup I liked the natural tones instead... So I would do those things and then he would say God you look so beautiful today... But when I didn't do that he wouldn't... And sometimes they would even ask me if I was feeling okay because they would say that I looked sickly. Most men don't know whether or not you look better with makeup or without... If you want to make a woman feel comfortable without makeup you need to make certain that you are complimenting her when she doesn't actually have any makeup on... Such as fresh out of the shower! If you're not looking her straight in the eye and telling her how beautiful she is... When you are certain she has no makeup on... Then You're making that mistake 🤷🏼♀️
I don't wear makeup to look pretty, I like the way I look without makeup just as much as the way I look with makeup but I do it because I enjoy it. It's fun and exciting.
I like wearing make-up sometimes, but I generally don't because it makes me break out and my eyes water within half an hour of putting liner and/or eyeshadow on them, and I think not wearing it all the time has helped me look younger than I am. XD
Definitely agree. If it makes you feel more confident, by all means wear it, but for me, it's not necessary
People always ask me if I'm not feeling well when I don't wear makeup. The older I get, the less I care. But it has come in handy when I need a sick day from work. Skip the makeup and no one second guesses me.
Nah. Imma have to agree to disagree on this one. My late mom says that classy women need to know how to do classy make-up. She always looks dignified and respectful on every occasions. So yeah, don't wear like pornstar 5 inches makeup, but just enough to respect the people you're meeting. I love women who know how to do makeup when they need to have one on.
Makeup = false advertising! LOL! I wanna see my gem when she first crawls outta bed in the morning! She's actually kinda hot then!
This would depend first of all on the health of your facial skin in general, exactly how much makeup is applied and if it's applied properly. I worked in cosmetics and I can tell you that there are so many women out there with such beautiful skin that they don't need any makeup at all. But others have skin issues so they feel more comfortable with themselves using makeup. It's really about personal preference and what makes you feel good about being you...
If someone doesn't like and accept you without your makeup, they certainly don't deserve you with your makeup.
I stopped wearing make up like 5 years algo due to depression first, then the amount of time it took me to get ready in the morning. I just wanna sleep a lil bit more. Nor my bf neither any of my male friends ever commented on that. Only my girl Friends asked me about it. Also, at least for me, it's gotten physicaly uncomfortable wearing it.
Less is more with most guys. I know I’m going to get we do it for ourselves but honestly we prefer the hour long daily makeup times could be better spent like going for a walk together
i think most women dont wear makeup for the men, but for themselves, if it is a confidence booster, go for it, if you want to wear it because it makes your eyes pop or whatever or your cheekbones stand out, then by all means, i just think its better to do for your own sake then for everyone elses sake.
Please stop calling women "girls". Once a female is over the age of 18, she is a woman. Not a girl.
I think we should add that its okay to wear or to not wear it. I love wearing makeup and some people can make you feel bad for wearing it or wearing their idea of too much of it. I'm going to do whatever makes me happy and comfortable and so should everyone else
My family always asked if I was sick when I went without makeup. It took my husband to get me to realize I'm just fine without it.
How many women have gone into work without makeup only to have everyone in the office ask them if they are ill?
So true. Plus half look totally different without it. Not bad but different.
100% true. Most women who obsess over makeup end up looking like clowns. We want to see the REAL you. Freckles, blemishes, and all. Get your mother out of your head ladies!! "Put on some lipstick and you'll feel better." is such crap. Feeling better is loving everything about who you really are and what you really look like. When someone says something negative about your lack of makeup, they are simply projecting their own triggered insecurities upon you. They are hating it that you have the confidence to walk around loving yourself for who you are. Nothing but jealous hatin' is going on. LOL. Own it and pity them.
I could never get myself to spend daily time, money and effort into that
I get this. So many ladies I see without make up are so beautiful. But so many of these same ladies will tell you they don't feel attractive or good without it? Society sucks for that!
I wore makeup religiously until just after I turned 19 years old. Then I was hit by a car while riding my bike (my fault--- I was riding on the wrong side of the road). I broke my right thumb and shattered two of my upper front teeth, part of which I later found lodged in my upper lip, developing scar tissue around it before discovery a week later (incompetent ER staff asked me if I had a piece of tooth on my lip--- how would I know?--- instead of X-raying my face). The next day I looked at my swollen face in the mirror--- I looked like a gorilla. I told myself out loud, "I will never look worse than this. Why bother wearing makeup?" And for the most part, I stopped wearing makeup except for photos and dates. Gradually I stopped wearing it even for that. I don't even remember the last time I wore any. As long as I have lip balm (uncolored), I'm happy.
I've found the only people who care about a woman wearing make up is other woman. Only my female coworkers have asked if I was tired when I didn't wear it, and "Are you going anywhere special?" when I was wearing it. Normally I don't wear make up, so I don't know why they questioned if I was tired or why they cared. Super insulting and offensive.
I wish so much that I looked better without it but it just isn't the case :(
I think I look fine without makeup, but if I don't wear it, people either tell me I look tired or ask me if I'm feeling well....
Literally every time I don’t wear makeup people ask if I’m sick. And then are like “wHy dO yOu aLwAyS wEaR mAkEuP??”
I married a girl from high school in 1996 and I loved the fact she never wears make-up, I thought it was phoney and gross actually to wear make-up. if you pick-up a woman at a bar and bring them home trying to make out and tasting make-up and getting it smeared everywhere, no thanks I'll pass
I live in a hot climate and makeup is a waste of money when you sweat it off by noon. At the most I'll use a bit of powder or sunscreen and maybe don't look as put together but I'm not constantly checking a mirror to see if I've melted. Nobody has ever commented on my lack of makeup or complimented me when I happen to wear it.
My husband and all got guys I know say the same. Makeup industry is a scam. Brainwashing these kids these days to wear 10 layers of makeup. it’s CRAZY!!!!
I'm to the point where I barely wear makeup at all anymore and I can get ready faster. My skin's clearer than ever. I needed to love myself without makeup. It was hard.. but I'm okay with my body and face. I wouldn't go so far as to say I love my body, but I love myself more than I ever thought. I truly thought EVERYONE felt the same about themselves. I thought it was completely normal
Wife never wears makeup and I love it. She looks beautiful without it, and it is one less thing for her to have to do.
I think most women have a skewed view on what men find attractive, and hence they aim for some wrong ideals (which has most likely been installed by people trying to sell certain product). In my opinion makeup should be used for minor corrections and small enhancements, and not to paint an entirely different face that makes you completely unreconiseable. I prefer the discrete and natural looking makeup, that you would not nessesarily notice if you weren't actively looking for it, e.i. no inch long blue lashes, green eyelids, purple libs, or eyebrow that are completely removed and painted on instead. But that is only my opinion. Use it as guide if you like to, but all in all do what makes you feel comfortable - that is far more important than what attracts me, (unless that is what you aim for).
Hear, hear! I think old vs new pictures of Alicia Keys is a good example of this. She was always beautiful but damn.
I wear it when I'm feeling down in the morning it does help bring me up some days, but 98% I don't it just makes my skin horrible to deal with after and I look great without it so y ruin my skin
Yeah, too much makeup makes a person look manipulative. A little makeup can be just right, too.
Cellulite, stretch marks, anything that might be seen as a 'blemish.' My girlfriend has all of the above and I never noticed any of it until she said something about them.
Blame Photoshop and all the media that sets the standards and expectations for what women should look like. Throw in pron magazines and we're up against impossible images. I realise many, many men can tell the difference between the false images and reality, but a lot of the damage to our self worth happens in our teen and pre-teen years from boys who *haven't yet* worked out the difference and make us feel less worthy. (And pre-teen magazines aimed at girls)
Their body hair. It's natural to have body hair.
My wife said it's weird that body hair on women doesn't bother me in the slightest, but on men I find it disgusting. I couldn't care if my wife grew her hair like Cousin It, but I'm shaving my armpits, I'm waxing my chest, I'm trimming my pubes!
Acne on the face, back, or wherever. None of us really care. I had bad acne growing up and at some point, I learned that any respectful person will not judge you for it because you can’t really control it.
I had a GF who was insecure about the shape of her breasts. To me they were fantastic.
Yeah society has taught us that National Geographic boobies are just not ok. Must be Playboy boobies or else! Pretty freaking shallow.
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I think this list is very sweet, but the fact of the matter is that many women are absolutely brutal towards each other and even more brutal with themselves. We need to learn to lift each other up and also love ourselves.
True... a lot of people complain about the "beauty standards", but most of the time it is other women who are judgmental, and the women's magazines that are setting the standards... half the time the men are completely oblivious to the things that women are told to be self conscious about.
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can't we just say that all women can or could be beautiful instead of insulting the other spectrum : "don't care about thigh gap it's only good the other wy, big labia is better than barbie doll looking having wrikles/stretch marks/fat makes you look human i.e. not having those makes you look not human, not makeup better than make up, small boobs better than ugly big boobs........ no need to insult the opposite spectrum!
I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.
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these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities
Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.
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The general public tends to be rather judgemental towards women. You can be neat, clean, and well-behaved, but if your hair is just natural, not styled and colored, you don't wear makeup, and your clothes aren't fashionable, people tend to ignore you or even be a little suspicious of you. Maybe they think that since you don't care how you look to them, you don't care about them and therefore aren't a nice person.
Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.
The idea of this is nice, I guess, but it still comes down to whether or not women are found to be attractive by men. Wouldn’t it be much better if people could be happy with themselves, and other people, completely regardless of their looks?
Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.
Load More Replies... To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.
Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming
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I clicked on this thinking it would be boring and I really forget why I even clicked but I really like it! I agree with most of these and I am in fact, a woman! It’s very sweet and I think making this question was a really good idea :)
I agree with this entire list. Don't let the IG models and magazines be the ones to set beauty standards. Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. It's what's inside that makes you the most unattractive.
And the biggest problem with those are that they aren't even real. Most of those models have entire teams of people doing makeup/hair/etc and then photoshopping the pics on top of it. It's literally an impossible standard.
Load More Replies... I had to stop at #5 because 4/5 of the top 5 is complete bullshjt. Yes, freckles are fine. But also, NO, we actually DO care if you're fat and bad at sex and have bad hygiene and grooming, especially down there. Stop with the echo chamber and go take care of your life.
There's a lot of repetition in this list. it's more like 15-20 things. One that I've thought about is comfortable shoes. Has there ever been a guy outside of the fashion industry who cared if women wore heels or some other type of uncomfortable footwear? You certainly can if you want, but I know I would rather see a woman wear something comfortable versus something that makes their feet sore. I feel like that's one of those that's much more for other women than guys. I doubt most guys even notice or care.
Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.
About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.
This list is great but there are still too many men who treat women horribly for not meeting beauty standards. I know women can do the same but it's all because of society brainwashing that teaches humans to hate women and look down on us. Fortunately more and more women nowadays are getting better at being supportive and loving toward each other.
Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.
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Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever
The myth of vaginal tightness. As a rather ordinarily-endowed male of 68 years (and who was a traveling nightclub musician during the sexually-permissive '70s), I've been with a few ladies over the past 53 years and have never really noticed the "fit" of any particular person. So don't let anyone tell you differently; it's all wonderful!
My girlfriend has very obvious stretch marks down the back of her legs, on her breasts, on her arms, on her stomach… she cares about it way more than I do. Women tend to be their own worst critics because society is so harsh that they internalise it.
If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them
So then, I am going to be practical, well realistic actually...these things matter to some men and to some women. They matter to some degree to everyone in different ways. These are opinions expressed and supported by those who agree...let's face it: it different strokes for different folks. It is extremely unrealistic to say that men collectively don't care about the things listed. Then there are the many women who care about these things for themselves. There is also the fact that men and women have left their SOs for someone else for the above mentioned... In an ideal world and all that jazz...as it is, people like what they like and don't what they don't. The bigger issues are what happens as you age, have children, or get sick and are looked at differently...
I think this list is very sweet, but the fact of the matter is that many women are absolutely brutal towards each other and even more brutal with themselves. We need to learn to lift each other up and also love ourselves.
True... a lot of people complain about the "beauty standards", but most of the time it is other women who are judgmental, and the women's magazines that are setting the standards... half the time the men are completely oblivious to the things that women are told to be self conscious about.
Load More Replies... can't we just say that all women can or could be beautiful instead of insulting the other spectrum : "don't care about thigh gap it's only good the other wy, big labia is better than barbie doll looking having wrikles/stretch marks/fat makes you look human i.e. not having those makes you look not human, not makeup better than make up, small boobs better than ugly big boobs........ no need to insult the opposite spectrum!
I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.
Load More Replies... these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities
Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.
Load More Replies... The general public tends to be rather judgemental towards women. You can be neat, clean, and well-behaved, but if your hair is just natural, not styled and colored, you don't wear makeup, and your clothes aren't fashionable, people tend to ignore you or even be a little suspicious of you. Maybe they think that since you don't care how you look to them, you don't care about them and therefore aren't a nice person.
Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.
The idea of this is nice, I guess, but it still comes down to whether or not women are found to be attractive by men. Wouldn’t it be much better if people could be happy with themselves, and other people, completely regardless of their looks?
Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.
Load More Replies... To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.
Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming
Load More Replies... I clicked on this thinking it would be boring and I really forget why I even clicked but I really like it! I agree with most of these and I am in fact, a woman! It’s very sweet and I think making this question was a really good idea :)
I agree with this entire list. Don't let the IG models and magazines be the ones to set beauty standards. Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. It's what's inside that makes you the most unattractive.
And the biggest problem with those are that they aren't even real. Most of those models have entire teams of people doing makeup/hair/etc and then photoshopping the pics on top of it. It's literally an impossible standard.
Load More Replies... I had to stop at #5 because 4/5 of the top 5 is complete bullshjt. Yes, freckles are fine. But also, NO, we actually DO care if you're fat and bad at sex and have bad hygiene and grooming, especially down there. Stop with the echo chamber and go take care of your life.
There's a lot of repetition in this list. it's more like 15-20 things. One that I've thought about is comfortable shoes. Has there ever been a guy outside of the fashion industry who cared if women wore heels or some other type of uncomfortable footwear? You certainly can if you want, but I know I would rather see a woman wear something comfortable versus something that makes their feet sore. I feel like that's one of those that's much more for other women than guys. I doubt most guys even notice or care.
Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.
About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.
This list is great but there are still too many men who treat women horribly for not meeting beauty standards. I know women can do the same but it's all because of society brainwashing that teaches humans to hate women and look down on us. Fortunately more and more women nowadays are getting better at being supportive and loving toward each other.
Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.
Load More Replies... Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever
The myth of vaginal tightness. As a rather ordinarily-endowed male of 68 years (and who was a traveling nightclub musician during the sexually-permissive '70s), I've been with a few ladies over the past 53 years and have never really noticed the "fit" of any particular person. So don't let anyone tell you differently; it's all wonderful!
My girlfriend has very obvious stretch marks down the back of her legs, on her breasts, on her arms, on her stomach… she cares about it way more than I do. Women tend to be their own worst critics because society is so harsh that they internalise it.
If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them
So then, I am going to be practical, well realistic actually...these things matter to some men and to some women. They matter to some degree to everyone in different ways. These are opinions expressed and supported by those who agree...let's face it: it different strokes for different folks. It is extremely unrealistic to say that men collectively don't care about the things listed. Then there are the many women who care about these things for themselves. There is also the fact that men and women have left their SOs for someone else for the above mentioned... In an ideal world and all that jazz...as it is, people like what they like and don't what they don't. The bigger issues are what happens as you age, have children, or get sick and are looked at differently...
