No matter how self-confident we may present ourselves to the outside world, everyone has chinks in their armor. You know, these little flaws we find when our inner critic takes control to pick our features apart one by one. Unfortunately, our insecurities can get the better of us and sometimes even start to control us.
Women especially feel pressure to achieve perfection we all know doesn’t actually exist. Many have been lured into believing they have to be secure about their looks, personality, intellect, career, and every other aspect of their life. So sometimes, all we need are little reminders to give us a bit of a boost to conquer any self-doubts we may have.
Recently, user naruturtle created a post on the Ask Reddit community and asked men to share the things women and girls shouldn’t be insecure about. The thread received hundreds of comments that remind ladies to stop needlessly obsessing over imperfections and feel confident in their own skin. Below, you’ll find some of the most illuminating answers from the thread, so upvote the ones you agree with and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!
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I asked my husband this question, so here's his answer:
Weight gain. Not seriously obese or lack of caring for health, but don't worry about a little extra fluff. So go ahead, eat that pizza slice(s) you're secretly eyeing!
This one is a big one for me because I gained due to birth control and a couple years of poor eating when we went through money struggles. Now we're having our second and final child, so I've been extra insecure with all these body changes and gaining weight. Of course he's on board with me wanting to lose weight and get back to where I was, but he always tells me I'm beautiful and he loves every bit of me. He has never made me feel bad for my body
This is probably the number 1 insecurity, and should be number 1 on this list. Incels and the idiots who get rejected on Tinder are the ones who call out women for their weight, but most mature men don't really care. Be yourselves and love yourselves, ladies.
I personally want to find the person that told women freckles should be covered up and I don’t want to hurt anyone so I’ll just have a strongly worded conversation with them. Maybe it’s just me, but I have a serious weakness for freckles. From a dusting across the bridge of a woman’s nose to head-to-toe ginger freckles. I think they’re gorgeous.
The number of ads I get on Youtube about cosmetics that cover up 'facial impurities' is staggering and all of them are dumb because why are you not allowed to have a mole or something along the line?
To learn more about female insecurities and how needless obsessions over them affect our lives, we reached out to psychotherapist Sheri Heller, LCSW who specializes in the treatment of complex trauma, narcissistic abuse syndrome, and addictive disorders. "How we criticize ourselves is predicated on whether or not we have a realistic assessment and sense of acceptance of who we are," she told Bored Panda.
Heller explained that when our relationship with ourselves is mired in rejection, perfectionism and self-loathing critical scrutiny of who we are and what we do is a constant source of distress. Way too often, women find fault within themselves and worry about how other people perceive them. And even when they hear words of encouragement to stop self-doubting themselves, learning how to overcome it is challenging.
Ovulation and periods. It’s completely natural, and only weirdos and teen boys get grossed out by you talking about it.
Before Boredpanda I assumed everybody would think ike that
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I have endometriosis and thankfully my husband asks questions and learns about it so he can try and understand. Even that is comforting.
Don't know why you were downvoted so here's an upvote :-) endometriosis is truly awful - I suffered with it for years and the different meds they tried me on. Ended up having to have a hysterectomy (for other reasons) in my 20s. So totally understand and sympathies with you. Really hope you can find a sympathetic ob gyn/doctor and get some proper help ((((gentle sympathetic hugs)))
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I don't care if boys know that I am leaking blood. I'm more upset about the fact that I just stained my favorite underwear and that I feel like I'm wearing a wet diaper as Satan hammers at my lower back.
3 step-daughters, a wife, 3 female cats, and a female dog. I think I'm good with handling anything female related.
My partner started to ask questions because 'we might have a daughter some day' and he wanted to understand it better
My father would pick me up from school. Carry me to the car where the seat was laid back and a hot water bottle waiting. I miss him.
I've bought pads plenty. Even bought the kind she uses to keep at my place just in case.
Being, at one time, a single father of 3 girls... buying things like tampons and other feminine hygiene stuff never phased me. I also grew up with 2 younger sisters and a Mom who happened to be an OB-GYN!
My sweet hubby is in the house with three daughters and a wife that have periods and he has no issue talking about it. He has issues with all the hormones but that's to be expected. In the end he babies all of us and is very kind about it!
My son is now 19. He's picked up pads and tampons for his sister since he was about 12 if she ended them and I wasn't home. He doesn't care. Unlike their father..
My hubby knows before I do that I'm going to start he goes to the store gets my pads midol dark chocolate and energy drink he also runs me a bubble bath with lavender 😊❤️
Not ALL boys (cliche, I KNOW! but FRFR!!) !!!!! MY two, 12 and 13, have NO issues. Have bought in my absence, w my presence, handed me on the toilet, sympathized w my cramps, ETC ETC ETC!!! w NO probs!!! We just don't make it a big deal and that has worked for us! I just see the trope so often- "only lil boys are bothered etc etc by periods'' and several of other variations; I felt COMPELLED to brag (juuuuust a lil, scuse my pride)on my guys♥️
Unfortunately, I used to live with a grown ass man who would get grossed out, he had other more egregious flaws so it made it super easy to get him to leave.
Americans are raised to view most things about women with distaste, especially menstruation. Without even addressing it directly, period sex is definitely put in that category of "it's gross, unnatural, don't even talk about it and assume it's off the table so no need to ask." Women usually believe that a guy is either teasing them or really messed up if they're fine with it. This automatic taboo, without even a discussion at any time in our lives, really bothers me.
I really do not understand what being American has to do with any of this. Honestly it is a guarantee that somebody will find a way to bash America on every bp post but this is a bit much. IDK where you grew up but period sex was never taboo. Just very rarely you would get the one odd person that didn't like blood that you would hear about from your friends, that's it, and I am older millennial so it's not some new thing.
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Absolutely true. I've bought pads, liners and tampons many many times. When I was a teenager I felt weird about it but it was because I didn't know what to buy and was confused by the plethora of products. Once I knew exactly what I was looking for it didn't bother me at all.
Let me know when the "weirdos" are being shut down and teen boys learn that blood is blood regardless of where it escapes from
If I started talking about how I took a massive dump, you’d think that is gross right? BUT it’s normal. So apply the logic from this post to my example. I can talk about my massive dump at any time if you can talk about your period because normal=not gross
@Andrew Newsome, poop (and fart!) conversations are fn hi-lar-i-us! Talk away if you're around me! 😅😉💩
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I had a really gross incident happen to me/us after I started trying our period discs. I guess thanks to mom brain, I forgot I put the last one in because it was at the end of my cycle when I was pretty much totally done, I just used it as “insurance”. I can’t feel it so I had no clue I had left it in. There was literally no evidence of it being there. Well one night, things got intimate. My husband said he could feel something and I told him he was crazy. He said he could pull it out and I said “go ahead! There’s nothing there!” HUGE MISTAKE. There WAS something there. He still wanted me after that. I was humiliated but he acted like it didn’t bother him at all. We laughed about it a week later and I make sure I check now just to be sure I’m not forgetting! So embarrassing 🥺💔😫
It's not even guys getting grossed out that gets me embarrassed. It's the immature jokes, menstruation insults and slack-jawed comments that does it for me. It makes periods seem like a joke and something to be ashamed of.
Unless if you talk about it on dinner. In front of new guests. Elderly ones. While serving lasagna and spaghetti meatballs. Oh and the guests bring their grandchildren.
I buy for my wife and 16 yo daughter. It's not my favorite thing, but I do it lol
i have a friend that seemed like she was in alot of pain, so i asked whats wrong and she was all like "you dont want to hear about that" my reply was "why not its natural, need any painkillers or anything" then we got to talking, this is when i realized that women go through a lot, not only are they expected to be cheery all the time, they are also expected to be nicely looking while also having at least 1 week pr months with excruciating pain, i take my hat off to women all over the world you dont have easy.
It's far past time we normalized periods, it's a natural process women go through. The sad part is, even women are uncomfortable talking about it. I went into the restroom at work one morning, and a woman said I should "hide my pad" like it was shameful or embarrassing.
Sometimes not even teen boys. My boyfriend in middle school supported me a lot when I was menstruating.
Haha I've always wondered about this. It's been a trope on sitcoms for years that the guy is grossed out to be going down "that isle" or something. Who cares? Are you afraid the person will think you are buying them for yourself? The only thing I would be worried about is just getting the right thing(s).
OMG my brother has 4 sisters and cannot hear about our periods or genitals or breasts! It's hilarious, he covers his ears and leaves the room.
Sadly this is not true. There are LOTS of semi-normal men out there who are anxious when these things are discussed. The thing is, the good ones know they should try to get over it, the d***s just tell you it's not nice to talk about in public.
Semi-normal is the operative bit of your comment... (Although I would have preferred "semi-well adjusted" or "semi-mature", lol)
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Not a man, but a lesbian, so I think I can provide some input here.
Anything genital related - pubic hair grooming standards, labia size, shape, colour, etc.
Everyone is a little different, and I nor any woman I've ever slept with, or any man in any of the guy talk I've been privy to as a lesbian (always a little weird to be a part of), has ever cared about any of it. Whatever you were born with is completely natural and beautiful. And if you want to rock a full bush, or go completely bald, or do a landing strip, or whatever your little heart desires, you do you and anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position.
Being a total dork, plenty of guys want a goofy girl that we can be ourselves around
According to a report by Weight Watchers, females are indeed highly self-critical — they were found to criticize themselves at least eight times a day. The survey of more than 2,000 women revealed a worrying trend with one in seven admitting to being regularly judgmental of their body, personality, relationships, money, or career success every day.
An estimated 46 percent admitted having negative thoughts at least once before 9:30 AM. Moreover, a staggering 89 percent revealed they prefer complimenting their friends but not themselves, and 88 percent even said they would never criticize them in the same way.
"Women often get caught up in one-dimensional prescriptives that superficially measure a woman’s worth," Heller said. "This runs the gamut from measures of beauty to degrees of selflessness, popularity, and image."
Being bad at sex. If a guy says you’re bad at sex, he’s a piece of s**t. Real good sex comes from an emotional connection. It’s not you, it’s them. They suck.
Wearing the same dress again. Nobody cares except other insecure women.
Approaching/getting rejected by guys. We'd say yes to a tree if one approached us first
"Likewise, there are cultural demands placed on women to not only embody mothering attributes and live up to markers of vanity, but also to achieve success in the marketplace. This do all, be all paradigm sets many women up to be self-conscious about falling short of the impossible," the psychotherapist added.
When self-consciousness finds its way into every aspect of our lives, it can significantly affect our well-being. Heller told Bored Panda that being plagued by insecurities causes a person to live an inauthentic life. "One may attempt to conceal their fragility and wounds and aspire to be someone they are not."
"Moreover, one may go into hiding and not realize latent potentials. Psychologically and emotionally, the person afflicted by insecurities feels alienated and alone. They are disconnected from themselves."
Lack of long eyelashes. Literally, no dude has ever cared about eyelashes.
Yup, honestly those long fake eyelashes can kinda be odd looking
I like girls who can be real around me. When they feel comfortable and say whatever dumb s**t is on their mind, I feel like I’m actually connecting with someone. Cliche, but I think being yourself and losing the insecurity, in general, is the most attractive thing someone can do.
Brains. Being a nerd is the new sexy.
Brains should be a point of attraction regardless if you are a man or a woman. I am a man, but I find it very condescending to conclude that smart women are "sexy", as if they are some rare, extravagant breed, while it is supposed to be some kind of a natural state of men, who are actually proven to be, throughout history, the supreme idiots of humanity.
It's troublesome enough to feel doubtful about yourself, but often these thoughts seep into our relationships as well. When asked how big of an impact they have on our connection to others, Heller told us, "When we are not at peace with who we are, we cannot adequately engage with others. The inability to authentically express oneself with others leads to co-dependent maneuvering. One might succumb to fawning, people-pleasing, manipulating, and controlling to fulfill dependency needs."
Things I/most men don't care about:
Stretch marks.
Uneven breasts
Breasts that hang/sag (That's actually sexy, in my opinion).
Veiny breasts
It's perfectly fine if you aren't shaved down below.
Your round belly is actually cute.
I love the way you look in the morning.
Imperfections make you unique, and aren't something to be self-conscious about.
In short, if you treat me/most guys with respect; give lots of affection; are dependable; trustworthy; kind; honest; and make us feel good about ourselves, whatever insecurities you have, we likely find endearing/cute/sexy.
Breast size. A good portion of us don't give a s**t about that.
Gray hairs, I love when you own it. Plus the silver streak kinda reminds me of Rogue from X-Men.
To avoid bringing other people down, everyone should think twice before making unsolicited comments about a person’s looks, characteristics, or qualities. "When men (or women for that matter) highlight things in women which they view as 'problematic', it exacerbates shame," Heller explained and added that a common example of this is body image. Pointing out or shaming perceived physical flaws diminishes self-regard and self-worth.
Wrinkles. Every wrinkle is a scar of a thousand smiles.
Burping or farting around us. I know too many girls that have said they think it is rude or going to turn us off of them. Personally, I would want you to let go of any gas because I know how uncomfortable that is and I couldn’t imagine if you were holding that in on top of period pain or other things. Please just pass your gas and don’t let it be something you think will turn us off.
Being the one to make the first move. Especially in today's age, it can be very complex for a man to know if it's even ok to ask anymore...
When our confidence is low and fragile, we have a hard time believing in ourselves. This might lead to ditching our dreams or even cause serious health issues. "Often, this sort of wounding leads to self-destructive behavior such as eating disorders and sexual compliance," the psychotherapist noted.
Luckily, threads like this one remind us how important it is to raise awareness about self-worth issues women face every day. You see, shrinking others' faith in themselves is never the right way, and people should be encouraged to embrace their bodies and silence those inner critics that limit their lives.
Honestly, damn near everything. It’s sad seeing beautiful women treat themselves like s**t because their cheekbones aren’t right or their thighs are slightly red or whatever. Ladies: guys DO NOT CARE IN THE SLIGHTEST about these things. They will love you for who you are. And the guys that do make a big stink about physical 'abnormalities' aren’t worth chasing after in the first place.
Small breasts, contrary to what most would have you girls think, there are plenty of guys out there that love, if not even prefer, smaller breasts over larger breasts.
I grew up with older sisters. There were so many things they would be insecure about but I always assured them they shouldn't. Please dont be so stressed about your hair first of all. Your weight, please don't be so hard on yourself. Your clothes, please. The differences are small to notice to most men when you stress about those little things. Please, take it easy
Intelligence.
Some of the smartest women I know will too often concede the room to loud but dumber men.
Being afraid to make the first move. I can't tell you how fantastically guys would respond if women just dropped this "men have to make the first move" mentality. If they just walked over and said "hey you're cute and I like your personality, wanna go out sometime?" Men would go nuts. A lot of Women, not all, act like this is an insane idea, but tbh it's very refreshing and a really attractive quality. Fuck the bs of norms.
Oh yeah.This! Ladies, if the guy you like inexplicably won't ask you out, it could be they like you, but are afraid it would ruin your friendship if you say no. Also, obvious hints aren't as obvious as you think, especially for guys who haven't had a girlfriend yet.
How much sex they’ve had. As long as it’s done responsibility and you’re loyal to your established SO, I couldn’t care less how many came before.
Cellulite, stretch marks, anything that might be seen as a 'blemish.' My girlfriend has all of the above and I never noticed any of it until she said something about them.
Blame Photoshop and all the media that sets the standards and expectations for what women should look like. Throw in pron magazines and we're up against impossible images. I realise many, many men can tell the difference between the false images and reality, but a lot of the damage to our self worth happens in our teen and pre-teen years from boys who *haven't yet* worked out the difference and make us feel less worthy. (And pre-teen magazines aimed at girls)
Their body hair. It's natural to have body hair.
My wife said it's weird that body hair on women doesn't bother me in the slightest, but on men I find it disgusting. I couldn't care if my wife grew her hair like Cousin It, but I'm shaving my armpits, I'm waxing my chest, I'm trimming my pubes!
Acne on the face, back, or wherever. None of us really care. I had bad acne growing up and at some point, I learned that any respectful person will not judge you for it because you can’t really control it.
I had a GF who was insecure about the shape of her breasts. To me they were fantastic.
Yeah society has taught us that National Geographic boobies are just not ok. Must be Playboy boobies or else! Pretty freaking shallow.
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I think this list is very sweet, but the fact of the matter is that many women are absolutely brutal towards each other and even more brutal with themselves. We need to learn to lift each other up and also love ourselves.
True... a lot of people complain about the "beauty standards", but most of the time it is other women who are judgmental, and the women's magazines that are setting the standards... half the time the men are completely oblivious to the things that women are told to be self conscious about.
Load More Replies... can't we just say that all women can or could be beautiful instead of insulting the other spectrum : "don't care about thigh gap it's only good the other wy, big labia is better than barbie doll looking having wrikles/stretch marks/fat makes you look human i.e. not having those makes you look not human, not makeup better than make up, small boobs better than ugly big boobs........ no need to insult the opposite spectrum!
I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.
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these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities
Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.
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The general public tends to be rather judgemental towards women. You can be neat, clean, and well-behaved, but if your hair is just natural, not styled and colored, you don't wear makeup, and your clothes aren't fashionable, people tend to ignore you or even be a little suspicious of you. Maybe they think that since you don't care how you look to them, you don't care about them and therefore aren't a nice person.
Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.
The idea of this is nice, I guess, but it still comes down to whether or not women are found to be attractive by men. Wouldn’t it be much better if people could be happy with themselves, and other people, completely regardless of their looks?
Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.
Load More Replies... To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.
Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming
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I clicked on this thinking it would be boring and I really forget why I even clicked but I really like it! I agree with most of these and I am in fact, a woman! It’s very sweet and I think making this question was a really good idea :)
I agree with this entire list. Don't let the IG models and magazines be the ones to set beauty standards. Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. It's what's inside that makes you the most unattractive.
And the biggest problem with those are that they aren't even real. Most of those models have entire teams of people doing makeup/hair/etc and then photoshopping the pics on top of it. It's literally an impossible standard.
Load More Replies... I had to stop at #5 because 4/5 of the top 5 is complete bullshjt. Yes, freckles are fine. But also, NO, we actually DO care if you're fat and bad at sex and have bad hygiene and grooming, especially down there. Stop with the echo chamber and go take care of your life.
There's a lot of repetition in this list. it's more like 15-20 things. One that I've thought about is comfortable shoes. Has there ever been a guy outside of the fashion industry who cared if women wore heels or some other type of uncomfortable footwear? You certainly can if you want, but I know I would rather see a woman wear something comfortable versus something that makes their feet sore. I feel like that's one of those that's much more for other women than guys. I doubt most guys even notice or care.
Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.
About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.
This list is great but there are still too many men who treat women horribly for not meeting beauty standards. I know women can do the same but it's all because of society brainwashing that teaches humans to hate women and look down on us. Fortunately more and more women nowadays are getting better at being supportive and loving toward each other.
Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.
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Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever
The myth of vaginal tightness. As a rather ordinarily-endowed male of 68 years (and who was a traveling nightclub musician during the sexually-permissive '70s), I've been with a few ladies over the past 53 years and have never really noticed the "fit" of any particular person. So don't let anyone tell you differently; it's all wonderful!
My girlfriend has very obvious stretch marks down the back of her legs, on her breasts, on her arms, on her stomach… she cares about it way more than I do. Women tend to be their own worst critics because society is so harsh that they internalise it.
If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them
So then, I am going to be practical, well realistic actually...these things matter to some men and to some women. They matter to some degree to everyone in different ways. These are opinions expressed and supported by those who agree...let's face it: it different strokes for different folks. It is extremely unrealistic to say that men collectively don't care about the things listed. Then there are the many women who care about these things for themselves. There is also the fact that men and women have left their SOs for someone else for the above mentioned... In an ideal world and all that jazz...as it is, people like what they like and don't what they don't. The bigger issues are what happens as you age, have children, or get sick and are looked at differently...
I think this list is very sweet, but the fact of the matter is that many women are absolutely brutal towards each other and even more brutal with themselves. We need to learn to lift each other up and also love ourselves.
True... a lot of people complain about the "beauty standards", but most of the time it is other women who are judgmental, and the women's magazines that are setting the standards... half the time the men are completely oblivious to the things that women are told to be self conscious about.
Load More Replies... can't we just say that all women can or could be beautiful instead of insulting the other spectrum : "don't care about thigh gap it's only good the other wy, big labia is better than barbie doll looking having wrikles/stretch marks/fat makes you look human i.e. not having those makes you look not human, not makeup better than make up, small boobs better than ugly big boobs........ no need to insult the opposite spectrum!
I think the message was wholesome but got a little mixed up. Nothing is better or worse. There's someone for everyone.
Load More Replies... these men are talking for themselves; not evry single men; they're all different with different tastes and personalities
Yes, and those men that have juvenile or idiotic standards are, guess what, juvenile idiots, not men, so you you should not care about their opinion, they are not worth dating.
Load More Replies... The general public tends to be rather judgemental towards women. You can be neat, clean, and well-behaved, but if your hair is just natural, not styled and colored, you don't wear makeup, and your clothes aren't fashionable, people tend to ignore you or even be a little suspicious of you. Maybe they think that since you don't care how you look to them, you don't care about them and therefore aren't a nice person.
Ok but I don’t spend time on my hair, makeup, outfit etc for men. I do it for me.
The idea of this is nice, I guess, but it still comes down to whether or not women are found to be attractive by men. Wouldn’t it be much better if people could be happy with themselves, and other people, completely regardless of their looks?
Yes, I agree. I actually have a problem with the "everyone is beautiful" movement... because it still promotes the myth that being beautiful is important in the first place.
Load More Replies... To sum up everything I find attractive in people (regardless of gender) in one word: imperfections.
Yes! I love crooked teeth, i find them endlessly charming
Load More Replies... I clicked on this thinking it would be boring and I really forget why I even clicked but I really like it! I agree with most of these and I am in fact, a woman! It’s very sweet and I think making this question was a really good idea :)
I agree with this entire list. Don't let the IG models and magazines be the ones to set beauty standards. Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes. It's what's inside that makes you the most unattractive.
And the biggest problem with those are that they aren't even real. Most of those models have entire teams of people doing makeup/hair/etc and then photoshopping the pics on top of it. It's literally an impossible standard.
Load More Replies... I had to stop at #5 because 4/5 of the top 5 is complete bullshjt. Yes, freckles are fine. But also, NO, we actually DO care if you're fat and bad at sex and have bad hygiene and grooming, especially down there. Stop with the echo chamber and go take care of your life.
There's a lot of repetition in this list. it's more like 15-20 things. One that I've thought about is comfortable shoes. Has there ever been a guy outside of the fashion industry who cared if women wore heels or some other type of uncomfortable footwear? You certainly can if you want, but I know I would rather see a woman wear something comfortable versus something that makes their feet sore. I feel like that's one of those that's much more for other women than guys. I doubt most guys even notice or care.
Can we also get the 'Male Insecurities' one? I think we need to hear about both sides.
About the whole boobs comment... Most men would probably notice big boobs but they sure as hell don't turn me on.
This list is great but there are still too many men who treat women horribly for not meeting beauty standards. I know women can do the same but it's all because of society brainwashing that teaches humans to hate women and look down on us. Fortunately more and more women nowadays are getting better at being supportive and loving toward each other.
Eh? I couldn't give a s**t if a woman has scars. I have scars. If you have scars & anyone has a problem with that, then they aren't worth your time.
Load More Replies... Pretty much all men be like: woman sexy lol idc about most stuff also wtf is louis Vuitton or whatever
The myth of vaginal tightness. As a rather ordinarily-endowed male of 68 years (and who was a traveling nightclub musician during the sexually-permissive '70s), I've been with a few ladies over the past 53 years and have never really noticed the "fit" of any particular person. So don't let anyone tell you differently; it's all wonderful!
My girlfriend has very obvious stretch marks down the back of her legs, on her breasts, on her arms, on her stomach… she cares about it way more than I do. Women tend to be their own worst critics because society is so harsh that they internalise it.
If a guy doesn’t like you simply due to breast size, leave them. You’re better than them
So then, I am going to be practical, well realistic actually...these things matter to some men and to some women. They matter to some degree to everyone in different ways. These are opinions expressed and supported by those who agree...let's face it: it different strokes for different folks. It is extremely unrealistic to say that men collectively don't care about the things listed. Then there are the many women who care about these things for themselves. There is also the fact that men and women have left their SOs for someone else for the above mentioned... In an ideal world and all that jazz...as it is, people like what they like and don't what they don't. The bigger issues are what happens as you age, have children, or get sick and are looked at differently...
