40 Times Weddings Were So Bad, They Deserved To Be Shamed On This Facebook Page
Passionate, enduring love, forever and ever. An adventure through life with a partner you trust with your heart and soul. Someone who gets your quirks and loves you for your silly jokes. That’s the happily ever after that many of us Pandas dream of having. And whether or not you plan on getting married yourselves, you can’t deny that weddings are beautiful celebrations of love. Well… sometimes.
Other times, they’re more of a disaster than a fairytale. But there’s always humor to be found, even in the darkest of places. And that’s the silver lining we’ll be focusing on today. The ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ Facebook page documents the most “hilarious bridezilla and tacky wedding stories’ to amuse and entertain the net. We’re featuring some of their best of the worst posts to show you just how bad things can actually get.
Scroll down, upvote the posts that grabbed your attention the most, and be sure to send this list to all of your friends who are planning on getting married this year! If you enjoyed the content, be sure to give ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ a follow. Meanwhile, read on for Bored Panda’s interview with wedding experts Anna and Sarah, team leaders at The Wedding Society, about keeping things running smoothly.
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Props to the photographer, but damn imagine being this petty.
Over 21.5k Facebook users follow the ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ page, and they can’t wait for the latest updates and juicy gossip to pop up on their feeds. There’s tea being spilled by the gallon here, and it’s all anonymous to protect everyone’s feelings.
If your new husband can’t be bothered enough to at least wear a button up shirt and slacks...then you may need to throw him back to the trailer park and go fishing for a better catch
Imagine if weddings were a celebration of love, and she happened to love how casual and laid back he is, and he happened to love that she accepted him that way. That'd be neat.
One of the most talked about wedding shames we’ve had...redneck mud wedding
Florida in a picture.
Florida, never change. Edit: I changed my mind. Florida, please change.
If you have a weird wedding story or some fiery drama to share, you can join the community and get in touch with the founder of the page. You never know, it might be your post that’s amusing everyone next week. Tacky doesn't have to mean unfunny.
The fact of the matter is that it’s far from just brides and grooms who cause drama and create situations that everyone will be gossiping about for years and years to come. There are some truly peculiar people out there who end up being invited to celebrations of love, only to try and ruin them. Some folks simply take pleasure in causing chaos wherever they go. Weddings are no exception.
Anna and Sarah, team leaders at The Wedding Society spoke to Bored Panda about unruly and rude guests, and how to manage them. In short, it’s important to let go of the idea that weddings can be ‘perfect’: some things will go wrong no matter what. So it’s vital to be able to adapt and not take any minor flaws in the plan personally.
you lost me in three words. didnt take much. I'm sending your mom telepathic therapy.
“Some people just want to watch the world burn, and as hosts to an event, it's just something that wedding couples will have to accept,” Anna and Sarah explained to us that the happy couple has to be realistic about the fact that not everyone will be well-behaved and polite on this happy occasion. No matter how much we might want them to.
Herbalife as a wedding theme? If I were invited to this wedding, I would walk out
“Not everyone is going to fall in line, especially your anarchist uncle Jerry with the overgrown beard. That said, try to fall back on your vendor support system as leverage,” the experts pointed out that the marrying couple shouldn’t have to do everything themselves. They can’t worry about every tiny detail or mishap. They should turn to the venue’s staff to help them handle all the issues.
Oh baby.
Yeah but does grandma really need to know about it?
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Not kink shaming. Same category as any sex stuff on wedding mementos. Like the blow job cake topper in this list. Just kinda, mmm hmm ok.
Oh that's what that cake topper was. My brain wouldn't connect the pieces
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Shame them for a kink or laugh at them even if it was just a joke? Either way seems sad. I respect safe, sane and consensual sex. ;) Life is short. No reason to snub what you don't get.
If it's an invite to a kinky ceremony, then sure. If it's a boomer "I'm getting married therefore my life as I know it is over" joke, then no. Thing is, we can't say from just one picture, so I agree with you - too little context to shame it.
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If it is a kink thing, I have no problem with it as long as the guests know what they’re in for. If it’s just another version of “marriage is a trap for the man”, then *barf*.
Are you also okay with the blowjob cake topper higher up on the page?
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Nothing wrong with kinks, but I really hope there weren't children at the wedding.
If there were no children at the wedding, would you be okay with the blow job cake topper higher up the page?
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I feel like I would be forced to passively participate in their kink without consenting to it. This invite would be a no for me.
If this is an S&M kink: it's awesome they've found this level of comfort with their kink and found someone to share it with comfortably. If this is "lulz women be enslaving men amirite???" they can bippity boppity right the f'ing boop off!
Are you equally okay with the blowjob cake topper higher up on the page?
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I don’t if this one’s bad. That depends on what kind of wedding it is. Some people don’t have a bunch of guests at their wedding. They just have family and close friends. If is the second kind I think it’s okay.
After 11 years of marriage I have to admit. Totally inappropriate. Where's the pile of his money burning? Where is the 2 inches of space he gets in the bathroom?
It’s crass, uncouth (old word), adolescent desperate grab for attention.
From the fact that this was shared on the wedding-shaming page, i'm guessing this event wasn't just a collaring ceremony where only the leather community was invited (bc if it were, then nobody would have posted it on a wedding-shaming page), which makes me think possibly it's in the vein not of kink but of 'haha getting married is so terrible if you're a man' jokes, which... I have never understood.
I can only see this as problematic if it wasn't a "no children allowed" wedding.
Are you equally okay with the blowjob cake topper higher up on the list?
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I used to know a Dominatrix named Michaela. If this is her, Congratulations!
I don't think it's kink, I think it represents he's now her servant and will cow-tow to her.
Michaela caught thomas and is wrangling him to the altar. Why is everyone's mind going to sexual or kink
Would you be okay with the blowjob cake topper higher up the page?
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“Simply saying, ‘The venue has rules’ or, ‘Our caterers have agreed to only..’" is an easy way to take the blame off yourself but still enforce hard rules,” the wedding expert shared how couples can shut down some bad behavior among guests. It’s a way to misdirect some of the havoc-wreakers’ negative emotions elsewhere.
I bet they thought he had a keyboard. Or a big truck and a couple of guys from a moving company
According to the experts, they stressed that they would be “utilizing the professionals” around them for help if they were ever in a situation where disaster’s looming either during the ceremony or the reception afterward.
You cannot convince me that a trampoline in someone’s backyard holds that much sentimental value to any couple getting married
“By now you will have developed a relationship with them [the professionals] and they'll often be more than happy to put the foot down on your behalf—especially venue staff,” they pointed out that the people the wedding couples have hired are there to help in any way that they can.
I think this one is actually a creative dress design. It’s well made and infused with taco scent.
Giving D&D a whole new meaning! Denim and Diamonds, coming to a Brides magazine near you.
“Have a quiet word with your coordinator or someone else more emotionally removed from the individuals involved and ask them to help you manage,” they shared what you can do if some of your guests start behaving in a way that’s over the line. It’s one thing to cause a bit of chaos accidentally, it’s something else entirely when you’re trying to derail everything because you want all the attention.
I would say what this looks like, but y'all probably already know.
I don’t even know where to start...but y’all should probably get off those train tracks before an actual train wreck happens, instead of the metaphorical one happening with those outfits.
Sadly no alien facepalm emoji, so I'll have to settle for this: https://images.app.goo.gl/QGNXUJKtNA4VFS2t7
Yes, this is a cake. No, they didn't drop it on the floor.
It’s a bit busy, but flowered garnish aren’t bad for wedding cakes.
I might not choose to wear these but why do these deserve to be shamed?
Note: this post originally had 101 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes.
I had to stop. Some of these are crazy for sure. I'm not arguing that. But some of these people are doing what they can with what they have. They just want to be with the one they love. Bad behavior should've been the focus here. Like the lady wearing white to her son's wedding. That's mean. But the rest? Just let people like stuff. Even those horrifying wedding crocs.
If we called it something else 'quirky wedding choices that aren't for everyone' or something, I'd have enjoyed those parts a lot more, too. Because it is neat to see, just...why shame people for doing what they love?
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I've said it in previous posts and I will say it in future posts. No, they don't "deserve to be shamed". As long as they are not causing harm, or humiliating people or something like that, let them have their wedding any damn way they want. Live and let live.
Totally agree, most of these were totally fine. (Apart from like, the confederate flag sash) we shouldn't shame people for doing what makes them happy
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some are poor and do the best they can. some have a peculiar taste but hey, it's their day. and some don't know how to behave. the latter deserve to be shamed.
Exactly, a third of those posts are just shaming any wedding which doesn't have a white & beige theme with colour-coded everything. I'd much rather go to a quirky wedding than a stuffy one. (Disclaimer: I've been to a lot of more traditional weddings which were not stuffy at all, and quite fun. It's about the attitude.)
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What a snobby post. Not everyone has money to spend on “classy” weddings, and frankly, I’ve been to fancy weddings and they were all boring as h**l. Most of these look a lot more fun.
A lot of these were just people not spending tens of thousands of dollars on a one day party. Who cares if someone wears jeans to their wedding? A few of these (like the woman with the confederate flag sash) should rightly be judged, but people having fun with their own wedding and wearing camo, or having funny cake toppers? GTFO of here with your judgement.
It wasn't a confederate flag, it was a criss-cross hatch pattern, the fabric is on the floor at her feet. It was an unfortunate accident and she doesn't deserve the harassment she got from this.
Load More Replies... Most of these are the couples taste and style. It's their weddings, let them have it how they want it. This is a very Liberal site and shaming these people for being themselves is very hypocritical and narrow minded. Y'all discuss me!
Anyone else getting backflashes to the wedding shaming Facebook group where a lot of the things aren't bad but just being shamed for being a non-typical wedding
I believe all of these are actually from that very same Facebook group. I've tried to look at it & it's a "private group". If this kind of shaming & punching down is how it operates, I'm definitely not 'joining' it.
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They don't throw the bouquet everywhere. Lots of places the bouquet is preserved and displayed, so those "alternative" shamed bouquets make sense if you think about that.
Stop judging people just so you can be hateful and intentionally trying to be the worst version of yourself. It's really not that hard to be decent to your own kind. This stuff is not ok.
I think most of these are just matters of taste, and to each his own. Years ago I went to a very upscale wedding with an open bar. The bar opened hours before the actual ceremony, so by the time they were ready to start, at least half of the attendees was pretty well lit. I left when the drunk father of the bride salaciously grabbed a bridesmaid and was pulled off by an equally drunk groomsman, resulting in fight #1. Mother of the bride heard the ruckus and came running out to wail on her husband, fight #2. At the same time, groomsman and groom were having words about the fight with father of the bride, and I later heard it devolved into fight #3. I was told next day that the cops showed up and three people were arrested for drunk and disorderly, and two for assault. The most valuable lesson I learned was if you are having an open bar... don't open too early, or keep it open too long.
I thought it would be fun; not. Then I realized that in each and every case these folk probably knew what was coming. They didn't transform into bad meme's overnight. Years ago there was a wedding shamed and laughed at because they weren't a "main stream" couple. Some time later there was a follow-up and they were still happily married and had a child. We're being snobby. I'm just not letting the world know I am by advertising it.
Some of these were perfectly fine, not everyone wants a fancy shmancy white wedding
My MIL "boooooo"ed when I walked down the aisle. Loudly. Tried to pass it off as a "joke." I should say, "my EX-MIL."
My sister-in-law got married to a guy whose brothers made the DJ at the reception play "Put Another Log on the Fire" at least a dozen times before I left the building to puke (No, I WASN'T drinking.)...
Not everyone can afford to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. I admire and respect the resourcefulness some of these people have. No shame.
I'll give you one. My dad cheated on my mom and she left him. Came back after all of his pleas that "I'll change". He did not. She left again. After 30 years of him calling her a "door mat", she moved back in with him and then asked for her wedding ring back. (I'd been wearing it around my neck for 30 years). So they were remarrying. My only request was that my sister and I (who totally experienced this divorce), would be included in the remarriage. My father hates any kind of happiness, so we promised no flowers, party, festivities of any kind. So I said, just a nice lunch after the courthouse ceremony. My mom agreed. My dad figures out a way to "remarry" via fax. My sister and I never married. Wonder why.
I had to stop. Some of these are crazy for sure. I'm not arguing that. But some of these people are doing what they can with what they have. They just want to be with the one they love. Bad behavior should've been the focus here. Like the lady wearing white to her son's wedding. That's mean. But the rest? Just let people like stuff. Even those horrifying wedding crocs.
If we called it something else 'quirky wedding choices that aren't for everyone' or something, I'd have enjoyed those parts a lot more, too. Because it is neat to see, just...why shame people for doing what they love?
Load More Replies... I've said it in previous posts and I will say it in future posts. No, they don't "deserve to be shamed". As long as they are not causing harm, or humiliating people or something like that, let them have their wedding any damn way they want. Live and let live.
Totally agree, most of these were totally fine. (Apart from like, the confederate flag sash) we shouldn't shame people for doing what makes them happy
Load More Replies... some are poor and do the best they can. some have a peculiar taste but hey, it's their day. and some don't know how to behave. the latter deserve to be shamed.
Exactly, a third of those posts are just shaming any wedding which doesn't have a white & beige theme with colour-coded everything. I'd much rather go to a quirky wedding than a stuffy one. (Disclaimer: I've been to a lot of more traditional weddings which were not stuffy at all, and quite fun. It's about the attitude.)
Load More Replies... What a snobby post. Not everyone has money to spend on “classy” weddings, and frankly, I’ve been to fancy weddings and they were all boring as h**l. Most of these look a lot more fun.
A lot of these were just people not spending tens of thousands of dollars on a one day party. Who cares if someone wears jeans to their wedding? A few of these (like the woman with the confederate flag sash) should rightly be judged, but people having fun with their own wedding and wearing camo, or having funny cake toppers? GTFO of here with your judgement.
It wasn't a confederate flag, it was a criss-cross hatch pattern, the fabric is on the floor at her feet. It was an unfortunate accident and she doesn't deserve the harassment she got from this.
Load More Replies... Most of these are the couples taste and style. It's their weddings, let them have it how they want it. This is a very Liberal site and shaming these people for being themselves is very hypocritical and narrow minded. Y'all discuss me!
Anyone else getting backflashes to the wedding shaming Facebook group where a lot of the things aren't bad but just being shamed for being a non-typical wedding
I believe all of these are actually from that very same Facebook group. I've tried to look at it & it's a "private group". If this kind of shaming & punching down is how it operates, I'm definitely not 'joining' it.
Load More Replies... They don't throw the bouquet everywhere. Lots of places the bouquet is preserved and displayed, so those "alternative" shamed bouquets make sense if you think about that.
Stop judging people just so you can be hateful and intentionally trying to be the worst version of yourself. It's really not that hard to be decent to your own kind. This stuff is not ok.
I think most of these are just matters of taste, and to each his own. Years ago I went to a very upscale wedding with an open bar. The bar opened hours before the actual ceremony, so by the time they were ready to start, at least half of the attendees was pretty well lit. I left when the drunk father of the bride salaciously grabbed a bridesmaid and was pulled off by an equally drunk groomsman, resulting in fight #1. Mother of the bride heard the ruckus and came running out to wail on her husband, fight #2. At the same time, groomsman and groom were having words about the fight with father of the bride, and I later heard it devolved into fight #3. I was told next day that the cops showed up and three people were arrested for drunk and disorderly, and two for assault. The most valuable lesson I learned was if you are having an open bar... don't open too early, or keep it open too long.
I thought it would be fun; not. Then I realized that in each and every case these folk probably knew what was coming. They didn't transform into bad meme's overnight. Years ago there was a wedding shamed and laughed at because they weren't a "main stream" couple. Some time later there was a follow-up and they were still happily married and had a child. We're being snobby. I'm just not letting the world know I am by advertising it.
Some of these were perfectly fine, not everyone wants a fancy shmancy white wedding
My MIL "boooooo"ed when I walked down the aisle. Loudly. Tried to pass it off as a "joke." I should say, "my EX-MIL."
My sister-in-law got married to a guy whose brothers made the DJ at the reception play "Put Another Log on the Fire" at least a dozen times before I left the building to puke (No, I WASN'T drinking.)...
Not everyone can afford to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. I admire and respect the resourcefulness some of these people have. No shame.
I'll give you one. My dad cheated on my mom and she left him. Came back after all of his pleas that "I'll change". He did not. She left again. After 30 years of him calling her a "door mat", she moved back in with him and then asked for her wedding ring back. (I'd been wearing it around my neck for 30 years). So they were remarrying. My only request was that my sister and I (who totally experienced this divorce), would be included in the remarriage. My father hates any kind of happiness, so we promised no flowers, party, festivities of any kind. So I said, just a nice lunch after the courthouse ceremony. My mom agreed. My dad figures out a way to "remarry" via fax. My sister and I never married. Wonder why.
