Sometimes life takes an unexpected turn and things turn out differently than we hoped. Melissa McCabe was just 14 when her life changed forever – she found out she was pregnant. Instead of giving up, she decided to continue pursuing education to provide for her baby boy. And now, despite some snide remarks from teachers, she collected her BTEC diploma and is ready for the bright future ahead of her.
Melissa was just 14 when she found out she was pregnant with her baby boy
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Melissa was just a regular teenager from Tranmere, England. She, like any other teens her age, enjoyed spending time with her friends, going to school and scrolling on social media. But in 2020, her life changed when she took a pregnancy test and it showed two distinct pink stripes, indicating that she was carrying a child. Such news can be overwhelming to anyone, let alone a 14-year-old girl. Melissa took the news as a blessing and eagerly prepared for the arrival of a new family member.
In November 2020, her adorable baby Arthur was born. Like any mother, Melissa knew that she would do anything in her power to provide the best possible life for her baby boy. Motherhood can be challenging – sleepless nights, pain, beauty, and hormones raging wild in a postpartum body. It is a time of rest and easing into a new role, but Melissa, like most moms, didn’t have the luxury to do so.
On top of caring for her new baby, Melissa had tons of schoolwork to do. She figured that if she wanted to ensure Arthur has a bright and happy future ahead of him, she had to stay in education so she could eventually get a good job. This was a challenge, but Melissa knew she could persevere.
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In November 2020, Arthur was born and he changed his mom’s life forever
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Melissa’s journey wasn’t an easy one. She gave birth in 2020, a year when the pandemic drastically changed everyone’s life, forcing people to live in times of uncertainty and fear. Add caring for a young child and the burdens of full-time education!
Being a teen mom comes with a hefty dose of judgement from people, even the ones that don’t know the mom. Most of them just assume the worst. Some of her peers at Ridgeway High School also whispered behind her back. Luckily, the strong mom didn’t let it affect her as she pushed forward towards her goal.
Soon, her dedication bore sweet fruits when she received her exam results. She was delighted to find that she achieved an impressive trifecta of passes in Animal Care, Business, and Travel and Tourism. Hopefully, she had a big cake to celebrate.
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Determined to provide a better life for her son, Melissa decided to stay in education, despite judgement from other people
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Melissa shared “When I first found out I was pregnant, I was filled with worry about my future and thought I might have to give up my education to care for Arthur. But I made the choice to continue my studies, and I couldn’t be happier that I did. It’s been a journey filled with hard work and sacrifices, but it was all worth it.”
But Melissa isn’t going to stop just there. She has big plans for further education as she intends to enroll into college to study Health and Social Care. On top of that, she is also seeking a part-time job to support her family. Moms are true superheroes!
It is said that it takes a village to raise a child. Fortunately, Melissa has a very supportive village of her own – her family, particularly her brother Kyle and his wife, Amy, who help to take care of adorable baby Arthur. The grateful mom also mentioned the importance of the support she has received from teachers.
Her efforts paid off when she received her exam results – a trifecta of passes
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Arthur accompanied his mommy to her prom – both looked dashing in their evening attire
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The internet can be a dark place sometimes, but Melissa has received an overwhelming amount of support from people on social media, especially from her TikTok followers that leave supportive comments under all her videos. Her video of her taking her son to prom went viral with a whopping 1.3M views. Who wouldn’t love to see an adorable toddler in a suit?
Unfortunately, not everyone has been as nice to the young mom. A lot of people questioned her capabilities to take care of her child and criticized her for receiving benefits. But Melissa has a strong resolve to break the negative stereotypes of teen moms.
To those who leave negative comments, Melissa has a firm answer: “People need to start minding their own business, and if they don’t have anything positive to say, they should keep it to themselves. I’m doing my best to be the best mom and person I can be.” Just like our moms taught us when we were little – if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
As she moves forward with her education, Melissa continues to break negative stereotypes of teen moms
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Melissa’s story is a hopeful example of resilience, determination, and a mom’s love for a child. Little Arthur is a beacon of hope and source of inspiration for his young mom. When he’s older, he’ll be able to appreciate all her efforts. For now, he’ll be enjoying a carefree childhood with loads of love from his mom and her family. We hope that in a few years, we’ll be writing an update about Melissa graduating college with Arthur by her side.
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It looks like she's from a middle or upper-class family. I can't imagine doing this while living in poverty and not having all that financial support from family. Either way, kudos to her for her own efforts to improve both of their lives 👍
It's great that she comes from a family with the time and financial resources to help her succeed.
Well done! I think it's kind of funny how she says she considered giving up her education for her son when that's literally illegal here in England (mandatory education until you're 18.) And in case anyone is confused about what BTECs are, they're basically technical/vocational subject GCSEs, so a much easier workload than the actual GCSEs and less chance of failing. But good on her, Arthur is adorable and it's impressive she managed to keep on going.
Mandatory education?! Good grief! That’s AWESOME! Tell me something: what’s the punishment for NOT getting your education (like dropping out)? How is it enforced? I’m delighted to hear it, and wish we had the same in the US. Too many idiots running around (as the world well knows by now).
You can still technically leave school at 16, but you are strongly encouraged to apply for further education college (age 16+), or training schemes, or employment with apprenticeship opportunities. Every child in the UK is entitled to monthly child benefit payments from the government to support the cost of bringing up a child. These stop at 18 OR when a child leaves full time education or training schemes, so if the child still lives at home it makes sense to have that payment still coming in as long as possible by attending further education. Training schemes also pay the young person. In reality, there's very little punishment for those who choose not to have an education between 16-18 (or their parents) as the resources to follow up just aren't there.
Using the word “scheme” as in “training schemes” strikes me as kinda funny, as the word is used more often negatively in my experience. ☺️ I didn’t know ANY f this, but have been to the UK a dozen times as I have a lotta friends there. (Now that I think about it, ne has a child, though, so maybe that’s why it never came up.) The benefit payments also sounds incredible! It’s as if people there are thinking about the welfare of children! It’s such a novel idea, I can barely wrap my head around it! Thanks so much for enlightening me, Sian! 💋
I’m not quite sure (never had it happen to me or anyone I know) but here’s a link I found that explains it: https://www.gov.uk/school-attendance-absence/legal-action-to-enforce-school-attendance
😳 Wow; that’s AMAZING! When I was in high school, some kids stopped showing up altogether, and there were some who attended only spottily, and I remember asking and being told that nothing happened to them. I gather no one gave a c**p. It’s very cool tome that there are places (well, one place, anyway) when’re someone is paying attention and trying to MAKE kids attend school. Thanks so much for educating me today, Straw! (I’ve always wondered why someone/thing doesn’t study what every country does and then collate the best parts and hand it out to all the countries in case they inspire others. Maybe other places would look at the report, say “That’s a TERRIFIC idea! Let’s implement it here!” You know what I mean? Every country would share how they handle things, and other countries could emulate the better/best ideas. I doubt it’d work (because of NIMBY, or “Our way is better,” but I like to think about it.)
Uh...what...part of UK? Lol...UK is 4 countries u know...
Sorry, I meant to say England! Thanks for pointing it out, I'll change it.
You say "well done", but then proceed to immediately criticize and minimize Melissa's accomplishments. You diminish her success at passing the BTECs by saying they're "a much easier workload" and that one has "less chance of failing" them. You also belittle her staying in school by basically saying "lol it's not like she could have ACTUALLY quit, education is mandatory in England!" You completely invalidate your "well done" sentiment by disparaging what Melissa DID do.
I didn't mean to be rude and I'm sorry. I just meant to explain what BTECs are - easier than GCSEs. In no way does that mean Melissa didn't do extremely well to pass them all - I probably wouldn't have been able to in her situation! But how am I belittling her staying in school? It literally wasn't her choice to make, I'm just stating that it's the law.
"I think it's kind of funny how she says she considered giving up her education for her son when that's literally illegal here in England." - maybe I am overly-sensitive to tone (or lack thereof) on the internets, but that (in my head) boils down to "She said she considered giving up her education for her son, but she knew that wasn't something she COULD do, legally, since education is mandatory in England!" which means, to me, that disparages and downplays Melissa's efforts to both stay in school AND raise her son. Meaning, she had no choice at all in regards to her schooling - rendering her efforts in educating herself meaningless as she'd "HAVE" to do it anyway, legally. Perhaps I'm just viewing it in an improper POV, but it just sounds like it makes her efforts in continuing her education while pregnant as nothing special.
Having mandatory education doesn't automatically mean it wasn't hard for her - that's not what I'm saying at all! She worked hard and did well, hence passes, and she should be very proud of herself for persevering through a demanding situation. I'm not entirely sure what you're reading into here.
She'd still have at least basic qualifications in maths science and English as they're core subjects. And any post 16 educational setting usually wants you to sit a basic skills course in maths and English so they can work out if you need extra support (if you have an Education and Healthcare Plan due to a diagnosed learning disability, you're put on a different pathway depending on the severity of the disability, with a focus on independent living life skills).
It looks like she's from a middle or upper-class family. I can't imagine doing this while living in poverty and not having all that financial support from family. Either way, kudos to her for her own efforts to improve both of their lives 👍
It's great that she comes from a family with the time and financial resources to help her succeed.
Well done! I think it's kind of funny how she says she considered giving up her education for her son when that's literally illegal here in England (mandatory education until you're 18.) And in case anyone is confused about what BTECs are, they're basically technical/vocational subject GCSEs, so a much easier workload than the actual GCSEs and less chance of failing. But good on her, Arthur is adorable and it's impressive she managed to keep on going.
Mandatory education?! Good grief! That’s AWESOME! Tell me something: what’s the punishment for NOT getting your education (like dropping out)? How is it enforced? I’m delighted to hear it, and wish we had the same in the US. Too many idiots running around (as the world well knows by now).
You can still technically leave school at 16, but you are strongly encouraged to apply for further education college (age 16+), or training schemes, or employment with apprenticeship opportunities. Every child in the UK is entitled to monthly child benefit payments from the government to support the cost of bringing up a child. These stop at 18 OR when a child leaves full time education or training schemes, so if the child still lives at home it makes sense to have that payment still coming in as long as possible by attending further education. Training schemes also pay the young person. In reality, there's very little punishment for those who choose not to have an education between 16-18 (or their parents) as the resources to follow up just aren't there.
Using the word “scheme” as in “training schemes” strikes me as kinda funny, as the word is used more often negatively in my experience. ☺️ I didn’t know ANY f this, but have been to the UK a dozen times as I have a lotta friends there. (Now that I think about it, ne has a child, though, so maybe that’s why it never came up.) The benefit payments also sounds incredible! It’s as if people there are thinking about the welfare of children! It’s such a novel idea, I can barely wrap my head around it! Thanks so much for enlightening me, Sian! 💋
I’m not quite sure (never had it happen to me or anyone I know) but here’s a link I found that explains it: https://www.gov.uk/school-attendance-absence/legal-action-to-enforce-school-attendance
😳 Wow; that’s AMAZING! When I was in high school, some kids stopped showing up altogether, and there were some who attended only spottily, and I remember asking and being told that nothing happened to them. I gather no one gave a c**p. It’s very cool tome that there are places (well, one place, anyway) when’re someone is paying attention and trying to MAKE kids attend school. Thanks so much for educating me today, Straw! (I’ve always wondered why someone/thing doesn’t study what every country does and then collate the best parts and hand it out to all the countries in case they inspire others. Maybe other places would look at the report, say “That’s a TERRIFIC idea! Let’s implement it here!” You know what I mean? Every country would share how they handle things, and other countries could emulate the better/best ideas. I doubt it’d work (because of NIMBY, or “Our way is better,” but I like to think about it.)
Uh...what...part of UK? Lol...UK is 4 countries u know...
Sorry, I meant to say England! Thanks for pointing it out, I'll change it.
You say "well done", but then proceed to immediately criticize and minimize Melissa's accomplishments. You diminish her success at passing the BTECs by saying they're "a much easier workload" and that one has "less chance of failing" them. You also belittle her staying in school by basically saying "lol it's not like she could have ACTUALLY quit, education is mandatory in England!" You completely invalidate your "well done" sentiment by disparaging what Melissa DID do.
I didn't mean to be rude and I'm sorry. I just meant to explain what BTECs are - easier than GCSEs. In no way does that mean Melissa didn't do extremely well to pass them all - I probably wouldn't have been able to in her situation! But how am I belittling her staying in school? It literally wasn't her choice to make, I'm just stating that it's the law.
"I think it's kind of funny how she says she considered giving up her education for her son when that's literally illegal here in England." - maybe I am overly-sensitive to tone (or lack thereof) on the internets, but that (in my head) boils down to "She said she considered giving up her education for her son, but she knew that wasn't something she COULD do, legally, since education is mandatory in England!" which means, to me, that disparages and downplays Melissa's efforts to both stay in school AND raise her son. Meaning, she had no choice at all in regards to her schooling - rendering her efforts in educating herself meaningless as she'd "HAVE" to do it anyway, legally. Perhaps I'm just viewing it in an improper POV, but it just sounds like it makes her efforts in continuing her education while pregnant as nothing special.
Having mandatory education doesn't automatically mean it wasn't hard for her - that's not what I'm saying at all! She worked hard and did well, hence passes, and she should be very proud of herself for persevering through a demanding situation. I'm not entirely sure what you're reading into here.
She'd still have at least basic qualifications in maths science and English as they're core subjects. And any post 16 educational setting usually wants you to sit a basic skills course in maths and English so they can work out if you need extra support (if you have an Education and Healthcare Plan due to a diagnosed learning disability, you're put on a different pathway depending on the severity of the disability, with a focus on independent living life skills).