Some see weddings as a wonderful union between two loving parties. Others see it as a literal party, one of those ever-rarer opportunities as an adult to just let loose. These are not necessarily mutually exclusive goals and desires, but drama can arise when wedding guests don’t have their expectations met.
A woman decided to get worked up over her brother’s dry wedding, calling it tacky and “rude” only to end up being called out online. We reached out to the sister in the story via direct message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Every wedding ends up looking a bit different
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But one woman decided that her brother’s decision to have a dry wedding was, somehow, offensive to her
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Despite some folks opinion, drinking isn’t a prerequisite for fun
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First and foremost, it basically should go without saying, the bride and groom are the only ones who get to make decisions about what their wedding will look like. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but let’s face reality, you can’t just go to another person’s wedding and start making demands. There are already enough “happy couples” who have a dream wedding so ridiculous that it has become completely disconnected from reality.
Thinking there absolutely has to be a bar or drinks available is about the same as disregarding their catering and instead yelling at them for not getting your favorite comfort food. For some reason, there is a subset of people online who think that alcohol is simply a must and the entire thing won’t make sense otherwise.
Setting aside the fact that this sounds like a case of developed alcoholism, the sister also seems to be confused about what will and won’t be provided at the wedding. She herself states that she and the other folks in the pro-alcohol crowd would only want a glass of wine or two, not to get completely wasted. Overlooking the bride and groom’s particular rules is a lot more tacky than any random decision they may have made.
So why the sparkling wine that would be provided isn’t enough is beyond comprehension. The fact that she went online to “vent” about this would indicate that she truly believes she is in the right. This suggests that she and the “others” she mentions really do believe that to enjoy a social event, one must be able to drink. This is equal parts sad, as it is concerning.
There are good reasons to have dry events
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Similarly, she is very quick to disregard the happy couple’s intentions, as she thinks drunk driving is something that happens to other people. To put this into perspective, around 37 people die from driving under the influence every single day in the United States. While it’s possible to argue that everyone can choose what risks they will subject themselves to, drunk drivers don’t just kill or injure themselves, they can cause all sorts of collateral damage.
Similarly, she seems to be fully overlooking the sparkling wine which isn’t exactly the same as a few cocktails, but is still noticeably alcoholic. The sister seems to have an extra large dose of entitlement without any imagination. If she wanted to drink a little more, she could have perhaps asked her brother for more sparkling wine. Similarly, there would no doubt be at least one person at the event who wouldn’t want their wine and could share with her.
So if you were inspired by the brother and, hopefully, not the sister, one alternative to a “wet” wedding would be to serve mocktails. If you have the budget for it, hiring a bartender to make the drinks could add that festive feeling, without the risks of alcohol. Entitled brides and grooms are bad enough, but entitled guests are even worse.
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So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.
And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad
Load More Replies... Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.
While I agree that liquor and beer are totally unnecessary, a single glass of wine with dinner isn't going to make anyone plastered. I do agree that drinking "culture" has gotten completely out of hand, especially at weddings. Nobody NEEDS or requires or is entitled to alcohol at someone else's wedding.
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If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.
My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.
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Please correct me if I'm wrong, but is it usual to send everyone a menu of the food and drink that will be served at a wedding? So that they can opt out if they don't like the food? Seriously though, I always thought you went to someone's wedding because you wanted to share in their joy, but now I see you just attend a wedding for the free booze afterwards. Apparently no one is capable of having a good time without alcohol and no, I'm not a recovering alcoholic. I do like the occasional glass of wine, but people come before alcohol.
Oh, and spare me your saying that 'others thought so too'. It just means that there were a lot of people wanting free booze, that's all.
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Seriously, OP should really ask themselves, "how important is it?". If the alcohol is so important that they're talking to other guests, complaining to the host, calling the host names (tacky and rude), and then taking the time to post about it on the Internet and talk to strangers about it....if the alcohol is really that important, they have a problem. Alcoholism is not about how many drinks or how often. It's about the obsession and needing to have that drink. Edit to Add: and if the alcohol truly isn't that important, then move on with your life. It was one dry wedding. It's in the past. Let it go.
And if they want alcohol SO BADLY, they can just do their own after party at a local bar after the send off.
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>thinking about a recent wedding which was completely kick a$$ and off the hook with pyrotechnics and live drummers and everyone dancing even some suit pants getting split with over-enthusiastic jumping around and not a. single. drop. of. alcohol. on. the. premises.< If you can't celebrate without alcohol, the lack of alcohol isn't the problem, you are.
I don't like alcohol and I can't stand drunk people. I would love a dry wedding.
YTA. A BIG one. Did you forget that this was not YOUR wedding, but your brother and hid fiancé's wedding? Just wondering.
You are overreacting and making too big of a deal of it. They did not want to spend money for people to get drunk. The last dry wedding I was at was because the bride’s cousin had gotten married the previous year and some guys got into a fight. The police were called and it was a mess. She decided no booze at the wedding and told me it was a much happier occasion than her cousin’s wedding.
Sounds like the people invited to this wedding were the a$$holes. I mean, c'mon. It's someone's special day. Celebrate with them and go to the bar on your own dime. What a bunch of weirdos.
I would love to know how many people "left early" because there wasn't any alcohol served at the reception. People may have left for other reasons, depending on the season, driving in the dark on a country road you are not familiar with; maybe they had kids, babysitters can be expensive. Also did anyone else besides OP complain about the lack of booze?
Bro non-alcoholic cocktails are delicious! All the fruity flavours and stuff without getting drunk? Plus I was 13 at my sister’s wedding so it wasn’t like I had a choice either, besides I don’t plan on ever drinking lmao.
i was 3 when i was at a wedding, the drunk adults (adult is relative, they were all 18 to 19) thought it was funny to give german egg liqueur to me (i live in germany) i almost had alcohol poisoning. my mother didn't know what was wrong with me and i threw up all night. if my mother had found out who had given me the egg liqueur, they could have dressed warmly.
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I'd say YTA because it didn't deserve more than a moment's thought and yet here you are, still looking for a clue.
Glad to see so many YTA on this one. People can be so entitled when it comes to being a guest at a wedding. It's pretty outrageous. We had a dry wedding, and while we did inform people it would be dry, it really was only a handful of people who even cared. I grew up in a very traditional family so it was not until I was an adult that I was even at a wedding with any alcohol at all. And I've found that people are intensely offended by this fact and it just boggles my mind.
OK, so the wedding was in Canada. In Canada, if you get drunk on someone else's dime (like at a wedding), and you cause an accident driving under the influence, the person who bought the alcohol also faces legal charges because they served you the booze. Anyone with half a brain either has a cash bar (because then you're buying your own and hosts are not responsible, provides buses from the event venue to the homes and hotels, or has a dry wedding. I have lived here 40-some years, been to countless weddings, and have never seen someone complain or leave early because there was no booze available. You go to the wedding to celebrate the couple. If you cannot have fun without alcohol, you have a problem.
Yeah I see this not only at weddings but believe it or not also at funerals, baby showers, kids birthday parties. The entitlement and expectation that alcohol should be served at all of these is unbelievable. And I don't get. You can't go to one event without alcohol? And then try to claim your not an alcoholic? I'm also amazed when I go out with people even to lunch and how people are concerned that they can't get a drink somewhere. If every interaction your first thought is what am I going to order to drink is, you've got a big problem. ... Now if we're talking I can't dessert now I have issues lol.
Why is booze expected? Why are people dissapointed there isnt alcohol? Since WHEN was alcohol an important part of celebrating two peoles love? Sounds like a lit of these people are the kind who are physically incapable of havung fun without booze, and the couple aren't like that.
When people like OP start complaining about something so trivial, they always have to say that they aren't the only ones who felt that way, no Karen, it's just you being a damn Karen. Grow up, you can go without a damn drink for a few hours, maybe AA is in your future.. I also like how the Karen, I mean the OP is only really responding to people who agree with her. Classic Karen.
I do not get it, not at all. First: this was your brother's wedding, NOT YOURS. You get to plan your own wedding (or other event) the way you want. Your brother and his bride get to decide and then hold the event they want. Second: Where did people get the idea that they must have alcohol or they cannot party? Does anyone else see the problem with that attitude Third: If you have such a huge problem with not having alcohol then perhaps, just perhaps, you have some issues around alcohol. Not worth going to a wedding if there is not alcohol? Yeah...that's a problem and yes..AITA.
The clown asking is definitely and ash sole, and probably compares this to a "vegetarian only buffet". Since when is concern about people's safety "selfish"? A dry wedding has the advantage of people less likely to say something stupid.
Maybe they didn't want to worry about the possible consequences of people driving drunk after their wedding and didn't trust some of them enough to not do that, and that would be a perfeclty valid reason. Also a good reason to not warn them in advance, because 100% OP would have brought their own alcohol if they knew, so I suspect that OP was pretty much part of the reason.... 🙄
No event is obligated to provide alcohol, and there doesn’t have to be a religious reason for not having it. If you can’t stomach attending an event without alcohol, YOU are the one with a problem, not the host(s).
Imagine thinking it's tacky that you didn't get your drink of choice on someone else's dime.
Communication from the bridegrooms would have been considerate, but not absolutely necessary. Apart from that they did nothing wrong, it's their wedding, they can serve whatever they like. Its about celebrating the people getting married, as someone here said. I enjoy the occasional drink, but if the people around me don't want to drink, I'm fine with a dry party. OP should be, too.
She sounds like she’s an alcoholic in need of rehab or a child in need of maturity.
Alcohol is not a necessity, nor is it a normal food or drink. Alcohol is an addictive d**g and a poison that isn't healthy in any amounts. It is extremely strange that our society accepts this as part of any celebration. Nothing else that has similar or even weaker mind altering effects is even remotely as accepted as alcohol. Yet people make such a fuss when they can't have it at just one occasion and still claim they're not addicted. I do drink alcohol occasionally, while being fully aware that it is unhealthy. But since I'm not an addict, I don't have any problems with a celebration as OP described without alcohol. One one hand, OP claims no one would have gotten drunk, but on the other they whine as if there was nothing to toast with. They had sparkling wine at dinner. It just didn't have alcohol. They had mocktails, alcohol free beer and other drinks aplenty. So if they're really not addicts and wouldn't have drunk more than one glass for dinner anyway, why would that matter?
The only thing tacky is your complaint that there was no alcohol. YTA. If anyone can't enjoy a celebration without alcohol, they (you) have a problem whether or not you think you don't.
She's probably referring to sparkling non-alcoholic wine. So sparkling juice in a wine bottle. Very popular at dry weddings.
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I would have mentioned it was an alcohol-free wedding on the invites, but otherwise I don't see the problem--it's their wedding, they can have it the way they want it. If you feel the need to get smashed that's on you, feel free to go get smashed afterwards. I enjoy a good glass of mead or two, but I'm not going to complain too much if there isn't any at the shindig--as long as there's something to drink I'm good, even if it's just water.
Maybe it's because I grew up super religious, but I HATE weddings with alcohol.
I'm surprised at the amount of people who think it's rude! Personally I probably would have stated it on the invite but it's the couples choice. I myself wouldn't have had a dry wedding but nothing against them either. One of the best weddings I've been at was actually dry. That OP needs to get his priorities straight. It was his brother and his husbands day and a celebration of them. And if some people were complaining he should have had the couples back.
Sounds like sister is an aspiring alcoholic if she was that upset about this.
To me it seems as a cultural thing. In my country if there were no alcohol not even beer, 90% of guests would leave after the first meal or send someone to a liqor shop/pub to bring stg to drink
Imagine thinking it's tacky that you didn't get your drink of choice.
If your wedding will be alcohol free that's fine- say it ahead of time. Otherwise YTA
guests should absolutely have been informed. have these people never been to a wedding? I think everyone, even kids, expects there to be some kind of alcohol or "silly juice". I went to a wedding once that was first advertised as having a cash bar. Cheap, but fine. Then they changed it to BYOB, also annoying, but at least I know i'll like what's there if I bring some. Then, as we were walking in with a 12 pack of beer, they turn us away because they suddenly changed the idea to no alcohol at all. Like, I like you guys, but i dislike your planning strategy and it was incredibly rude to keep changing their mind like that. everyone calling this OP a druggie or alcoholic is ridiculous. get off your sober horse and have one.
I attended a wedding of my daughter's friend. She was the bride's personal attendant. The maid of honor left as soon as dinner was over. The bar served beer and setups which the invitation stated. The reason the MOH left, was, "I can't get drunk on beer." So everyone is not at receptions to celebrate the wedding.
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Surefire way to make sure the reception ends early. A dry wedding sounds tedious. Unless its immediate family, i wouldnt go.
If you cannot enjoy yourself without booze, you either have an addiction issue or you severely lack social skills. There are hundreds of ways to have fun whilst sober. Some of the most fun weddings I've ever been to were dry. People danced and laughed and played games and did skits and all sorts of things.
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Weddings can be a great deal of fun. Dancing, getting to know people, celebrating the union of loved ones... booze is totally unnecessary. If you need alcohol to talk to people, you have a problem.
Load More Replies... So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.
And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad
Load More Replies... Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.
While I agree that liquor and beer are totally unnecessary, a single glass of wine with dinner isn't going to make anyone plastered. I do agree that drinking "culture" has gotten completely out of hand, especially at weddings. Nobody NEEDS or requires or is entitled to alcohol at someone else's wedding.
Load More Replies... If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.
My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.
Load More Replies... Please correct me if I'm wrong, but is it usual to send everyone a menu of the food and drink that will be served at a wedding? So that they can opt out if they don't like the food? Seriously though, I always thought you went to someone's wedding because you wanted to share in their joy, but now I see you just attend a wedding for the free booze afterwards. Apparently no one is capable of having a good time without alcohol and no, I'm not a recovering alcoholic. I do like the occasional glass of wine, but people come before alcohol.
Oh, and spare me your saying that 'others thought so too'. It just means that there were a lot of people wanting free booze, that's all.
Load More Replies... Seriously, OP should really ask themselves, "how important is it?". If the alcohol is so important that they're talking to other guests, complaining to the host, calling the host names (tacky and rude), and then taking the time to post about it on the Internet and talk to strangers about it....if the alcohol is really that important, they have a problem. Alcoholism is not about how many drinks or how often. It's about the obsession and needing to have that drink. Edit to Add: and if the alcohol truly isn't that important, then move on with your life. It was one dry wedding. It's in the past. Let it go.
And if they want alcohol SO BADLY, they can just do their own after party at a local bar after the send off.
Load More Replies... >thinking about a recent wedding which was completely kick a$$ and off the hook with pyrotechnics and live drummers and everyone dancing even some suit pants getting split with over-enthusiastic jumping around and not a. single. drop. of. alcohol. on. the. premises.< If you can't celebrate without alcohol, the lack of alcohol isn't the problem, you are.
I don't like alcohol and I can't stand drunk people. I would love a dry wedding.
YTA. A BIG one. Did you forget that this was not YOUR wedding, but your brother and hid fiancé's wedding? Just wondering.
You are overreacting and making too big of a deal of it. They did not want to spend money for people to get drunk. The last dry wedding I was at was because the bride’s cousin had gotten married the previous year and some guys got into a fight. The police were called and it was a mess. She decided no booze at the wedding and told me it was a much happier occasion than her cousin’s wedding.
Sounds like the people invited to this wedding were the a$$holes. I mean, c'mon. It's someone's special day. Celebrate with them and go to the bar on your own dime. What a bunch of weirdos.
I would love to know how many people "left early" because there wasn't any alcohol served at the reception. People may have left for other reasons, depending on the season, driving in the dark on a country road you are not familiar with; maybe they had kids, babysitters can be expensive. Also did anyone else besides OP complain about the lack of booze?
Bro non-alcoholic cocktails are delicious! All the fruity flavours and stuff without getting drunk? Plus I was 13 at my sister’s wedding so it wasn’t like I had a choice either, besides I don’t plan on ever drinking lmao.
i was 3 when i was at a wedding, the drunk adults (adult is relative, they were all 18 to 19) thought it was funny to give german egg liqueur to me (i live in germany) i almost had alcohol poisoning. my mother didn't know what was wrong with me and i threw up all night. if my mother had found out who had given me the egg liqueur, they could have dressed warmly.
Load More Replies... I'd say YTA because it didn't deserve more than a moment's thought and yet here you are, still looking for a clue.
Glad to see so many YTA on this one. People can be so entitled when it comes to being a guest at a wedding. It's pretty outrageous. We had a dry wedding, and while we did inform people it would be dry, it really was only a handful of people who even cared. I grew up in a very traditional family so it was not until I was an adult that I was even at a wedding with any alcohol at all. And I've found that people are intensely offended by this fact and it just boggles my mind.
OK, so the wedding was in Canada. In Canada, if you get drunk on someone else's dime (like at a wedding), and you cause an accident driving under the influence, the person who bought the alcohol also faces legal charges because they served you the booze. Anyone with half a brain either has a cash bar (because then you're buying your own and hosts are not responsible, provides buses from the event venue to the homes and hotels, or has a dry wedding. I have lived here 40-some years, been to countless weddings, and have never seen someone complain or leave early because there was no booze available. You go to the wedding to celebrate the couple. If you cannot have fun without alcohol, you have a problem.
Yeah I see this not only at weddings but believe it or not also at funerals, baby showers, kids birthday parties. The entitlement and expectation that alcohol should be served at all of these is unbelievable. And I don't get. You can't go to one event without alcohol? And then try to claim your not an alcoholic? I'm also amazed when I go out with people even to lunch and how people are concerned that they can't get a drink somewhere. If every interaction your first thought is what am I going to order to drink is, you've got a big problem. ... Now if we're talking I can't dessert now I have issues lol.
Why is booze expected? Why are people dissapointed there isnt alcohol? Since WHEN was alcohol an important part of celebrating two peoles love? Sounds like a lit of these people are the kind who are physically incapable of havung fun without booze, and the couple aren't like that.
When people like OP start complaining about something so trivial, they always have to say that they aren't the only ones who felt that way, no Karen, it's just you being a damn Karen. Grow up, you can go without a damn drink for a few hours, maybe AA is in your future.. I also like how the Karen, I mean the OP is only really responding to people who agree with her. Classic Karen.
I do not get it, not at all. First: this was your brother's wedding, NOT YOURS. You get to plan your own wedding (or other event) the way you want. Your brother and his bride get to decide and then hold the event they want. Second: Where did people get the idea that they must have alcohol or they cannot party? Does anyone else see the problem with that attitude Third: If you have such a huge problem with not having alcohol then perhaps, just perhaps, you have some issues around alcohol. Not worth going to a wedding if there is not alcohol? Yeah...that's a problem and yes..AITA.
The clown asking is definitely and ash sole, and probably compares this to a "vegetarian only buffet". Since when is concern about people's safety "selfish"? A dry wedding has the advantage of people less likely to say something stupid.
Maybe they didn't want to worry about the possible consequences of people driving drunk after their wedding and didn't trust some of them enough to not do that, and that would be a perfeclty valid reason. Also a good reason to not warn them in advance, because 100% OP would have brought their own alcohol if they knew, so I suspect that OP was pretty much part of the reason.... 🙄
No event is obligated to provide alcohol, and there doesn’t have to be a religious reason for not having it. If you can’t stomach attending an event without alcohol, YOU are the one with a problem, not the host(s).
Imagine thinking it's tacky that you didn't get your drink of choice on someone else's dime.
Communication from the bridegrooms would have been considerate, but not absolutely necessary. Apart from that they did nothing wrong, it's their wedding, they can serve whatever they like. Its about celebrating the people getting married, as someone here said. I enjoy the occasional drink, but if the people around me don't want to drink, I'm fine with a dry party. OP should be, too.
She sounds like she’s an alcoholic in need of rehab or a child in need of maturity.
Alcohol is not a necessity, nor is it a normal food or drink. Alcohol is an addictive d**g and a poison that isn't healthy in any amounts. It is extremely strange that our society accepts this as part of any celebration. Nothing else that has similar or even weaker mind altering effects is even remotely as accepted as alcohol. Yet people make such a fuss when they can't have it at just one occasion and still claim they're not addicted. I do drink alcohol occasionally, while being fully aware that it is unhealthy. But since I'm not an addict, I don't have any problems with a celebration as OP described without alcohol. One one hand, OP claims no one would have gotten drunk, but on the other they whine as if there was nothing to toast with. They had sparkling wine at dinner. It just didn't have alcohol. They had mocktails, alcohol free beer and other drinks aplenty. So if they're really not addicts and wouldn't have drunk more than one glass for dinner anyway, why would that matter?
The only thing tacky is your complaint that there was no alcohol. YTA. If anyone can't enjoy a celebration without alcohol, they (you) have a problem whether or not you think you don't.
She's probably referring to sparkling non-alcoholic wine. So sparkling juice in a wine bottle. Very popular at dry weddings.
Load More Replies... I would have mentioned it was an alcohol-free wedding on the invites, but otherwise I don't see the problem--it's their wedding, they can have it the way they want it. If you feel the need to get smashed that's on you, feel free to go get smashed afterwards. I enjoy a good glass of mead or two, but I'm not going to complain too much if there isn't any at the shindig--as long as there's something to drink I'm good, even if it's just water.
Maybe it's because I grew up super religious, but I HATE weddings with alcohol.
I'm surprised at the amount of people who think it's rude! Personally I probably would have stated it on the invite but it's the couples choice. I myself wouldn't have had a dry wedding but nothing against them either. One of the best weddings I've been at was actually dry. That OP needs to get his priorities straight. It was his brother and his husbands day and a celebration of them. And if some people were complaining he should have had the couples back.
Sounds like sister is an aspiring alcoholic if she was that upset about this.
To me it seems as a cultural thing. In my country if there were no alcohol not even beer, 90% of guests would leave after the first meal or send someone to a liqor shop/pub to bring stg to drink
Imagine thinking it's tacky that you didn't get your drink of choice.
If your wedding will be alcohol free that's fine- say it ahead of time. Otherwise YTA
guests should absolutely have been informed. have these people never been to a wedding? I think everyone, even kids, expects there to be some kind of alcohol or "silly juice". I went to a wedding once that was first advertised as having a cash bar. Cheap, but fine. Then they changed it to BYOB, also annoying, but at least I know i'll like what's there if I bring some. Then, as we were walking in with a 12 pack of beer, they turn us away because they suddenly changed the idea to no alcohol at all. Like, I like you guys, but i dislike your planning strategy and it was incredibly rude to keep changing their mind like that. everyone calling this OP a druggie or alcoholic is ridiculous. get off your sober horse and have one.
I attended a wedding of my daughter's friend. She was the bride's personal attendant. The maid of honor left as soon as dinner was over. The bar served beer and setups which the invitation stated. The reason the MOH left, was, "I can't get drunk on beer." So everyone is not at receptions to celebrate the wedding.
Load More Replies... Surefire way to make sure the reception ends early. A dry wedding sounds tedious. Unless its immediate family, i wouldnt go.
If you cannot enjoy yourself without booze, you either have an addiction issue or you severely lack social skills. There are hundreds of ways to have fun whilst sober. Some of the most fun weddings I've ever been to were dry. People danced and laughed and played games and did skits and all sorts of things.
Load More Replies... Weddings can be a great deal of fun. Dancing, getting to know people, celebrating the union of loved ones... booze is totally unnecessary. If you need alcohol to talk to people, you have a problem.
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