Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors

I can’t upvote this enough. My stepdad born in the 1930’s remembered a time when he was with father and saw a man whipping a horse. He said his father lit into that guy like the wrath of God and started whipping him ! I don’t advocate violence but that guy had it coming.

1000% red flag if they are mean to animals!

I knew a girl who didn't like dogs. As a toddler one had bitten off her upper lip requiring plastic surgery. I give her a pass on not liking dogs. Everyone else? Evil!

No, 1,000,000,000,000% a red flag!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Animals are better than a lot of people. Be nice to them!

Another if they're rude, obnoxious and are a""""""""""es to hospitality, retail and service staff.

Unless it is mosquitoes

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I hope you're vegan.

My son is an adult and has always regarded our cats as his brothers and sisters. And when pass on to heaven, he is the one to help bury them and we say our last rights.

I'm not gonna lie, occasionally I scare my cats for fun. But, since 99% of the time I treat them with gentle respect, they don't take it personally. It's just so dang easy to spook them and make them jump.

Even if you’re not very hungry, just take a dab of everything on the table—-barring allergies and conditions, of course, which your host should understand and respect as well. Then at least TRY some of every dab of food you’ve taken. No need to insult your host.

I wouldn't want my guest to eat something he doesn't like ''out of respect'' for me. I don't care if you like my food, I just want you to have a good time.

I have an eating disorder but in situations similar to that I try my best to not be insulting about things.

My MIL insulted my food more than once - needless to say she doesn't get invited to our house anymore. There's never any need to be that rude.

Absolutely. And who doesn't like pierogies??? Oh I would've been happy :--)

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is give the person cooking lessons cause it sucks that much. That said be gentle when approaching this topic, you don't want to bruise their ego too much.

It took my mother-in-law years to learn I hate eating fish! She didn't serve it often, and I'm too much of a Southerner to say anything.

All you did was plagiarize the posts first sentence.

A man invites his Muslim neighbor to lunch. Wife serves him a bbq pork sandwich and tops it with bacon. Wife brings her Indian colleague over for dinner, husband adds some kurry to the beef stew. Sons new girlfriend is lactose intolerant. Mom serves her lasagna, a tall glass of whole milk and then tosses a heaping spoon of iced cream on top of her butterfly apple pie crust. You're a vegan and you travel to see your daughter and and new granddaughter. Your son in law welcomes you to their home with a half pound bacon cheeseburger and a side of bacon wrapped asparagus. Hope you ate on the plane cuz that jar of pickles and that slice of lettuce and 4 asparagus chutes are the only veggies that you don't have to pick out of the lawn.

Even if it is vegetables and you suffer with every bite and have a hard time eating it?

Agreed, although if you have certain allergies you can politely tell your host. That guacamole looks delicious, but I'm unfortunately severely allergic to avocado. ( or what ever you happen to be allergic to. )

Exactly! I can't tell you how many emails I had to choke down with a smile growing up at my best friend's house. Runny scrambled eggs with ketchup? Check. Liverwurst sandwiches with miracle whip? Check. The fact it's been 50 years and I still remember these meals like it was yesterday tells you a little bit about how I felt eating.

Yes!!

At least throw it in the bathroom trash.

As someone who absolutely loves lemon pie (the, I would have happily helped you eat a few more slices! I can imagine his smile though!

It's fine to decline food that you truly can't eat for whatever reason. It's how you say "no" that matters. And of course, polite people will always respect a polite "no thank you."

So wasteful of your money and the food especially since she ordered it

We're polar opposites. I blame myself for everything

Well done for realising and making a change.

This is so wonderful to hear, Stardust. I too was raised in a household with a victim mindset and am always working to take more responsibility in my life. We can get better and become more like the people we want to be!

Excellent personal growth :)

Good for you! :)

You are ready to see your mistakes and make changes, and that requires a lot of courage

Keep it up! We're rooting for you!😁👏🙏👍♥️

Also please accept that a person — any person — is not always to blame. Stuff happens.

The root of that often starts in childhood if you were neglected or invalidated by parents or family members. Glad to hear you are managing to move past it.

"If its going to happen to someone its going to happen to me." Has been one of my life mottos since childhood. Its wonderful you (Stardust) have taken note of your previous behavior and quite glorious to take steps to change it. Its like trying to heal from addiction and will be a life long process or fight. There will be many frustrating times when you want to fall back into the old behavior but this is something so worthwhile to accomplish. The strength and self empowerment you are giving yourself is grand indeed. Keep it up. Keep trying. People will treat you better and you will have greater respect for yourself and from others.

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Well done Stardust!

That’s big - a real breakthrough. And the next step is to forgive ourselves for our own choices which caused much of our problems.

Yay for personal growth! 😁

Take responsibility for what you do but don't let other's gaslight you.

Good for you. It is NOT easy.

Yea, I do the same. I also have realised that a lot of the time, it is my fault, and do own up to it. I have realised how bad it is, and I’m trying to stop it.

Climbing up that hill every day builds character... ; (

Huge congrats for making it to this point! That takes true power, strength, and self-control.

I've been working on this.

The fact that you can admit your character defects goes a long way and shows you are working to change it

That's awesome that you're trying to grow as a person! I know how hard it is to really strive to improve aspects of yourself that you don't like. Being raised well is the easy route. Seeing a flaw and improving it yourself is strength.

I thought I had everything figured out and I was pretty generous, but what I didn't realize is having the unfailing support of my father is what gave me my confidence. Once he died, my marriage ended up failing (not directly related but it did) and then I had no father and no husband, resulting in 7 years of hell. Takes a long time to figure oneself out.... Now I understand.

It's a sign of narcissism in general. But yes, avoid them if you can. 😬

And if you can spill popcorn on the floor, you can pick it up.

That's exactly what a person like us would think apparently, but many people are out to prove us wrong... it's loathsome behavior to leave behind your trash at any time. I hope I taught my children better than their father's behaviors did. Edited to add, my ex-husband.