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Dad Doodles All Over His Teen’s First Drawing, Says It’s No Big Deal But She’s Crushed
Everyone who considers themselves an artist or simply a person who creates something from time to time knows that sometimes their creations can be very precious to them. Whether it’s because it turned out to be better than expected, because it was created for someone in mind, or simply because it was your first time making something like that.
In this story, a beginner fan art artist finally finished the sketch she was very proud of, only for it to get ruined… by her dad. And the reason why he did it was only more infuriating.
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There’s no secret that artists tend to have a special connection with their art
Image credits: Freepik / Freepik (not the actual photo)
Just like this woman, who finished her first fan art sketch and was very proud of it
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Later, she found her precious painting doodled over, which broke her heart
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Turns out it was her dad, who thought it would be funny to add lashes to the character woman had drawn
Image credits: sapphicluizard
The woman tried explaining to her family why this destruction of her drawing was so heartbreaking, but they didn’t seem to care
Recently, the OP decided that she wanted to learn how to draw. Even though she never showed a particular talent in the art, she was always a fan of cartoons and wanted to learn to draw her favorite characters.
So, she finally made a drawing of Aang from Avatar: The Last Airbender and was really proud of it. She acknowledged that it might not be the best fan art ever, but it was meaningful to her, since it was the first she ever finished.
She showed her project to everyone at home and was planning to show it to her cousin, who is an artist. Before the cousin arrived, the OP left her sketch on a coffee table in the living room for a little bit. After coming to pick it up from there, she noticed that the painting was “enhanced” – the character she had drawn had lashes drawn on him.
With no surprise, the woman burst into tears – the sketch meant so much to her, but someone had ruined it. Soon enough, she learned that that someone was her father – someone who didn’t really care about what he had done.
Not only did he not care, but no one seemed to understand why these doodles were so hurtful for the woman. In fact, her family told her to stop whining and said that she could just draw it again, so it’s wasn’t a big deal. But that wasn’t the point – yes, she likely could draw it again, but the main thing was the sentimental value behind it. But no one recognized her hurt.
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Well, the thing is that the original poster is not wrong to acknowledge the sensitive nature of her art. After all, art itself is inherently sensitive. At its core, it is about tapping into the emotional landscape of your life, which means that artists usually create by being in touch with their emotions and in a way that their creations touch others’ emotions as well. Basically, encapsulating the human experience.
That’s why many people are against AI art – it just lacks humanity. Artificial intelligence never lived as a person, and hasn’t experienced emotions, thus it cannot replicate it in a way a person can. There’s just no authenticity – it’s just the result of already existing art collected and reshaped into a different form.
In addition to real art being based on emotions, there’s also a thing of feeling sentimental towards the things we own and create. That’s just how our brains are wired – objects become the extensions of our identity, thus losing them might feel like an actual injury to one’s body and soul.
And so, the woman losing the drawing that was so sentimental to her hurt her badly – it was very important to her identity. Thankfully, at least people online seemed to understand where her hurt came from and were able to offer some comforting words.
Do you agree that the dad shouldn’t have destroyed the sketch, or do you also think it’s not a big deal? Share your thoughts in the comments.
At least netizens did acknowledge her hurt and pointed out that her family was very much in the wrong here
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Lee Gilliland 20 hours ago
Some parents think they never need to apologize to their kids. Some parents are wrong. If you never apologize, how do you gain respect? Respect always goes both ways.
Dusty's mom 13 hours ago
It was a major failing of the Greatest Generation as well as my own fellow Boomers. We were taught that adults should never be corrected by children. So very, very wrong. We passed it on to the ensuing generation, much to our shame. No person is infallible.
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Squirrelly Panda 16 hours ago
The YTAs don't get it. A lot of emotions and feelings of worth get mixed into artistic endeavors. It feels like you are putting a part of your soul into it. So when you finally create something you feel proud of and someone damages/destroys it, it hurts. Hurts hard.
Mel in Georgia 1 day ago
How freakin' hard is it to apologize to someone when you've upset them by your words or actions? Who cares if you don't agree with it or didn't mean it or think it's silly. Just apologize!
S 3 hours ago (edited)
Wow so much s.h.i.t in reddit comments from people who don't understand what this is all about. Maybe it's them who should grow up enough to show some empathy
Tabitha 22 minutes ago (edited)
There’s a lot of context that they’re not getting. OP’s parents have probably always belittled what OP does, and think so little of it that they don’t consider doodling over it to be something to get upset about. I know what it’s like to grow up with little encouragement, even if you’re smart and have cool talents. If it wasn’t for my brothers and friends—-as well as getting TF out of that house as soon as I turned 18—I don’t know how I would’ve turned out. I hope OP’s aunt and cousin can help fill in that void their parents have actively, and cruelly, built. OP is also 19, an adult. I know they’re probably also in college, so maybe just gritting their teeth and greyrocking their parents until they graduate and get a job so they can leave home, all the while turning to their aunt and cousin for the encouragement they need t9 get through it, might be a good plan. A better one is to move in with aunt for the duration, but that might not be feasible, and the parents might pull funding for college. So flying under the radar and putting the parents on an information diet might be the plan. The, once out of the house, OP can just go NC with the parents and choose who is and isn’t family, whether related or not, from the people who actually care about them, consider them important, encourage them, and want them to be happy. You know, all the things parents are supposed to do.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 13 hours ago
I painted something that my mother praised highly, only to find it later with her "improvements" painted on. I get OP. I destroyed the work and my mom was all upset that I did it. I told her not to praise anything I do as I won't believe it's genuine. OP, your parents are dreadful, and I'm probably old enough to be their mother. Send them back to parenting class!
Sparky Hughes 18 hours ago
I thought my mom took the prize narcissism award, but nope. Poor thing.
Janelle Collard 16 hours ago
Dad absolutely deserved to be called out for ruining OP's drawing. OP is NTA and parents are @ssh0les.
Lee Gilliland 20 hours ago
Some parents think they never need to apologize to their kids. Some parents are wrong. If you never apologize, how do you gain respect? Respect always goes both ways.
Dusty's mom 13 hours ago
It was a major failing of the Greatest Generation as well as my own fellow Boomers. We were taught that adults should never be corrected by children. So very, very wrong. We passed it on to the ensuing generation, much to our shame. No person is infallible.
Load More Replies... Squirrelly Panda 16 hours ago
The YTAs don't get it. A lot of emotions and feelings of worth get mixed into artistic endeavors. It feels like you are putting a part of your soul into it. So when you finally create something you feel proud of and someone damages/destroys it, it hurts. Hurts hard.
Mel in Georgia 1 day ago
How freakin' hard is it to apologize to someone when you've upset them by your words or actions? Who cares if you don't agree with it or didn't mean it or think it's silly. Just apologize!
S 3 hours ago (edited)
Wow so much s.h.i.t in reddit comments from people who don't understand what this is all about. Maybe it's them who should grow up enough to show some empathy
Tabitha 22 minutes ago (edited)
There’s a lot of context that they’re not getting. OP’s parents have probably always belittled what OP does, and think so little of it that they don’t consider doodling over it to be something to get upset about. I know what it’s like to grow up with little encouragement, even if you’re smart and have cool talents. If it wasn’t for my brothers and friends—-as well as getting TF out of that house as soon as I turned 18—I don’t know how I would’ve turned out. I hope OP’s aunt and cousin can help fill in that void their parents have actively, and cruelly, built. OP is also 19, an adult. I know they’re probably also in college, so maybe just gritting their teeth and greyrocking their parents until they graduate and get a job so they can leave home, all the while turning to their aunt and cousin for the encouragement they need t9 get through it, might be a good plan. A better one is to move in with aunt for the duration, but that might not be feasible, and the parents might pull funding for college. So flying under the radar and putting the parents on an information diet might be the plan. The, once out of the house, OP can just go NC with the parents and choose who is and isn’t family, whether related or not, from the people who actually care about them, consider them important, encourage them, and want them to be happy. You know, all the things parents are supposed to do.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 13 hours ago
I painted something that my mother praised highly, only to find it later with her "improvements" painted on. I get OP. I destroyed the work and my mom was all upset that I did it. I told her not to praise anything I do as I won't believe it's genuine. OP, your parents are dreadful, and I'm probably old enough to be their mother. Send them back to parenting class!
Sparky Hughes 18 hours ago
I thought my mom took the prize narcissism award, but nope. Poor thing.
Janelle Collard 16 hours ago
Dad absolutely deserved to be called out for ruining OP's drawing. OP is NTA and parents are @ssh0les.
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