Nerdy Couple Wants A Fantasy Wedding, Guests Say They’re Uncomfortable With The Theme
Themed weddings can be a lot of fun! The happy couple might decide that they want their Big Day to have a certain aesthetic, and they might ask the people nearest and dearest to them to dress up accordingly. However, some guests feel incredibly uncomfortable with being handed a mandatory dress code that doesn’t fit in with their understanding of wedding attire.
One anonymous bride-to-be went viral after turning to the AITA online community for their collective wisdom. She asked them whether she was in the wrong for organizing a fantasy and Renaissance-themed wedding that includes cosplaying. Read on for the story in full, as well as to see the wide range of opinions that the internet had.
Some couples decide on a theme for their wedding, and they expect everyone to have fun
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However, one bride shared how some of her guests were less than thrilled by the mandatory dress code she imposed
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There are arguments for and against mandatory dress codes for themed weddings
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Unfortunately, the author of the post deleted her account since her story went viral, so we were unable to reach out to her for comment. At the time of writing, her post has 4.1k upvotes and 3.6k comments.
There are no easy answers in a nuanced situation like this. Both sides, the ones all for and against themed guest costumes, have a point.
Most readers thought that the bride did nothing wrong by having a theme. However, some internet users did point out that making the fantasy dress code optional instead of mandatory might have been the right way to go.
It’s a wonderful thing that the marrying couple took the time and energy to put together a list of tips for budget-friendly costume options, no doubt. That being said, there will always be some folks who are very new to cosplaying and might not feel comfortable doing this at such a public event.
Not to mention that even budget-friendly costumes are still going to set some people back quite a bit in terms of money and time.
Meanwhile, some guests might spend more on more ‘traditional’ clothes for the wedding, but their main issue is with how they look. Some of them want to avoid looking goofy or making fools out of themselves.
However, cutting back and letting loose once in a while might be a good thing. And dressing up for a themed wedding (especially such a relatively tame one) may be a way to have fun in an entirely different way.
There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ wedding, so having some flexibility can help you avoid a lot of stress
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While the happy couple shouldn’t organize their wedding in a way that makes all of their guests uncomfortable, they also shouldn’t stress out that some folks aren’t in love with every single detail of the celebration.
If they were to consider every guest’s opinion and preferences on every single aspect of the wedding, then they’d only get overwhelmed. What do you do when so many people have different ideas about what your Big Day should look like?
Though it’s a good idea to listen to your family and friends’ opinions, it doesn’t mean that you have to do what they say. If your dream wedding is a fantasy/Renaissance event, then you should embrace that and go through with it.
At the same time, you may want to have a bit of flexibility when it comes to the small handful of guests who don’t cosplay. You may want to talk to them about any issues they have and explain exactly why the theme is so important to you. You don’t have to be defensive, but it always helps to have a friendly but frank conversation.
At the end of the day, if a couple of folks decide not to dress up according to the theme, it’s really not the end of the world. It won’t break the sense of immersion if it’s only a small handful of people walking around in modern-day clothing. They can always thematically be visitors from a faraway land with a sense of style that’s eerily similar to that of Planet Earth in 2024!
Have you ever been to a themed wedding, dear Pandas? What was that like? Would you ever like to have a themed wedding of your own? How do you feel about mandatory dress codes for such events? What would you have done in the story author’s place? Share your thoughts in the comments!
The internet had various opinions about the situation. Most readers were on the bride’s side and thought she was being decent
A few people thought that nobody was to blame
However, some internet users thought the bride could have been slightly more reasonable
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Those that refuse and kick off - and not say anything to your face, even though you offered to talk to any who has concerns - ask them to let you know if they are still coming (re: food/Seating) and then just continue on and do your thing. It's you and your Fiancée's wedding, not theirs, so don't let them change what you want - even if it means fewer people. The MIL & SIL should be ashamed of themselves. IMO, these moan-behind-your-backs are acting like GuestZillas.
I went to a similar themed wedding a few months ago and it was easy for me to dress to the theme. Some guests went all out and some just made a token gesture to it (like a floral dress which OP mentioned in the edit). Everyone had fun and enjoyed the day despite the dress code and their various feelings towards dressing up. I suspect that MIL and SIL actually have a totally different idea in mind with this wedding (maybe the stock standard big white wedding) and are miffed that is not happening. Another wedding I went to recently there was a fairly strict dress code of floral for the ladies and a few select colours for the gents. Again people had options and found ways to make what they had work for the theme. To each their own.
I’m not normally pedantic, but it’s not “her” wedding. It’s “the couple’s” wedding and they both are on board with this as they SHARE this interest. It isn’t “her” rules, it’s rules they both want. I agree with your last sentence, but it’s an important distinction to make that the dress code isn’t just something OP wants that her fiancé is “just” rolling with.
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A friend of mine did exactly that. Just that she provided clothes to change into, and made it completely optional. Most of the guests who never had to do anything with renfair happily used the dresses and cloaks provided. even her grandmother. It can be so easy...
I had a similar themed wedding (Halloween of 2003), and some people dressed up, and some people didn't. Some totally understood the assignment, and some showed up in scary masks. It 1000% did not matter, it was one of the coolest, most beautiful, and most fun weddings anyone had been to. I even had 19-year-old men coming to me afterward to thank me for inviting them and tell me, "I'll remember this for the rest of my life." Was I a little hurt at first that my grandmother, my MiL, and my religious uncle refused to wear costumes? At first, yes. But it turned out not to be a big deal, and the pictures were epic and beautiful. Tl;dr I get where you're coming from, but I think you're worried about the wrong things.
Ive been to a few themed weddings. When I was in the wedding party, I dressed in theme, and when I wasnt, I just wore something nice and bought a cheap prop. I also agree that the OP is overthinking it, and overestimating how much everyone enjoys dressing up. A simple: "Its a RenFaire theme! You are invited to dress in theme (pictures atrached as examples), but welcome whatever you wear" would have been much simpler.
Load More Replies... Just ignore them, they will look silly when they are the only ones not dressed up. It's such a normal thing, either you buy something new for a wedding or you spruce up something you already have, so their arguments are ridiculous. But not worth fighting. Maybe have a table of props for guests who didn't make the effort- crowns etc. It sounds like a beautiful ceremony, don't waste energy on pretentious people.
I wonder if we called it a costumed ball rather than themed wedding if anyone's feelings would be different... Your invited to a party, there's a theme, period, stop imposing your societal norms on others, otherwise RSVP no and move in with your life
This is one "Your wedding, your rules" I will happily stand by. You and your spouse want a Ren Faire wedding? DO IT!! My folks (who are NOT Ren Faire folks in the slightest) went to one years ago for the daughter of some close friends and they had a fantastic time sourcing costumes and dressing up. It was super out of their comfort zone but was really important to the couple so they played along. You are NTA for this any more than you would be if you wanted a black tie affair people would have to dress for.
The most reasonable solution is to make the ren-faire dress code optional and have some on-theme accessories available.
That dress code could have gone badly wrong, but the couple made it just right with the added info and examples. Also ren faire looks can be really simple, and even if you don't want to dress in "costume" you can still fit the theme with simple touches. I would absolutely love to attend this wedding. Also I'm super shy and fear sticking out in any situation, especially if I don't know most of the people. I would probably dress in a bit vintage-lookin dress, pick accessories and add them on after a quick peek that other quest have also dressed according to theme.
Then don't go. The people getting married get to choose, not you or other manipulators.
Load More Replies... NTA, and anyone that "has a problem" with this ~IS~ an Ash Sole. They're selfish ash soles demanding she have a "traditional wedding". Dressing for a Renaissance Faire IS NOT EXPENSIVE, and the bride-to-be clearly states people can pick low cost options. If I were invited, I'd be wearing my Elven archer costume. [ ....................... ] One possibility is to tell the tight@$$es "wear regular clothes if you want". But when it comes time to post the wedding photo album, only include those who made the effort. Make sure the photographer knows to focus on the willing participants.
I'm not likely to ever get married, but if I were, I'd be torn between a Hallowe'en wedding and a Goth wedding ("wear Art Deco if you don't want to dress Goth!"). Or maybe have two ceremonies.
Load More Replies... There's a reason I don't dress up in Ren Faire clothing. Make it optional.
1. This is one of the very, very few AITA's that sounds like it may have happened in real life. 2. Not a big fan of the reasoning that "it's THEIR day, just do what THEY want!" I would go, and I would dress up, but in my book weddings aren't about the wedding couple. By the time you're actually having a wedding, you're already married, and the purpose of the wedding is to celebrate it with your friends and family. When I was planning my wedding, I don't remember either of us talking about what WE wanted. Everything we talked about was centered around how could we make it enjoyable for our friends and family.
This is true and was the same thought process my husband and I had for our wedding. We DID however have a medieval/ fantasy wedding. 🤣 Why? We are deeply entrenched in the medieval/ fantasy/ LARP community in our country. Started one of the first LARP organizations. Almost all people invited (asside from immediate family) were from the "scene". It probably would have shocked people into silence to see me in a white wedding dress 🤣😅
Load More Replies... All the Debbie Downers with YTA, bet they wouldn’t be happy if their wedding guests turned up in beachware and sandals , and not follow wedding clothes protocols. I say those who don’t want to participate in the theme wedding can STAY HOME The wedding is for the COUPLE not boring AF relatives
I can't help but noticed that a lot of those folks who think the OP is the a*****e didn't even read her post. She mentioned that her and her partner didn't want gifts and instead asked that any monies be used towards the outfit. Also tieing a belt around your waist is going to make you feel uncomfortable or wearing a floral dress is a bridge too far. Some of these folks sound like a******s to honest and I wouldn't want them at my wedding anyway.
The whiners are demanding "traditional", trying to dictate what the couple does. As another commenter described them, they're guest-zillas.
Load More Replies... I would tell her to go to an event like a Mittelaltermarkt (Renaissance faire) as often as she pleases, if she likes to dress up in renaissance dresses, but to spare her wedding party the dress-up games. Honestly.
Okay, people love themed weddings but they don't want to put effort into the theme if they feel obligated to go (such as family). I think it's definitely reasonable to want a fully themed wedding. I am no longer but I was marries long ago and it was at a medieval fair. We did have a request that guests didn't dress in purple as we, the couple, will be in those colors for "royalty". But there were costumes to rent at the faire. The majority of my guests flew in for the wedding, so I didn't want to add a cost of a special outfit. But, if I had more local guests, I'd most definitely ask for a range of costume! I'd also like to add that it is insulting that family said Renaissance garb is stupid/idiotic.
I went to a theme wedding years ago. Honestly I wouldn't have gone if not for my roommate lending me her outfit. I don't want to spend the money or extra work to diy. So yes, if I receive an invitation like that, I'd not go and depending on my relationship with the couple, I'd tell them why.
I would be so excited to attend a themed wedding like this! Everyone can have a normal celebration with a white dress and a suit and festive clothes for the guests. But hey, most people buy new clothes for a wedding party anyway so they can look for a costume. If I had planned this wedding, the costume would be optional but I would have some simple clothes at hand just for courious guests. But there are sooo pretty options! Hm, maybe some sewing weekends would be nice for those who have the imagination, but not the money or the skills. And what about flower crowns instead of the arrangements and bouquets so everyone can wear one? They can sit on the table until then.
I was part of a 5 person ensemble playing authentic Renaissance music at a themed wedding. A guest PAID for our performance as their wedding gift to the happy couple. Some people wore costumes some just in nice clothes. At a golf course banquet room. Really nice roast beef dinner. What did the musicians wear!?! Longish old fashioned dresses. All women. Recorders and viola da gambas. A special memory for me.
BP - Good job choosing an AITA story! By the poll, there are 3 legitimate groups all over 20%. Its nice to see one of these where there's genuine discussion and different views so we can all grow by seeing how others see the world.
I spent $2600 on my brothers wedding. Clothes for my husband n I, gifts, travel expenses, tailoring, hotel & pet sitter. I would have much rather had this happen than what we dealt w/. It was all formal attire n fairly strict. The brides mom was pissed bc I wore a suit instead of a dress. But I am covered in tattoos n wanted to avoid the judgy looks n the rude old ppl n not take any attention off the bride... this has happened at weddings before. F**k it happened at my own wedding... old ppl hate tattoos n they especially hate women w/ tattoos. So yeah. It was not fun for me. At all. I wasn't even in the wedding n it still cost more money than we could afford to spend. So a fun, casual themed wedding sounds great! Especially when OP said they're not asking for gifts n they're not like... enforcing it as if it's mandatory. N they even said to use stuff you already had n would wear again. I will probably never wear my suit again. Some ppl are Debbie downers. This sounded fun!
This is why, in the unlikely event I ever find someone willing to marry me, I would likely do a 'normal' wedding for the families, but then plan a second event for the people closest in my life who would enjoy and get into the theme. I'm a big cosplayer, so have a second wedding at a convention with people in cosplay, for instance. Low budget on the second event, of course. No gifts required from the attendees, things like that. Just to have the fun and the experience. Though my primary plan is still to get married on a pirate ship in the middle of a sword fight.
Damn. Everyone's acting like she demanded something complicated. I don't think she did. I have a few spring dresses that I already own. That I've ALREADY WORN AND WILL WEAR AGAIN, a dollar store/party america place down the street if I need something to go with it. That being said - the idea of providing a few costume-y things is a good one and I hope they do that and ignore the haters. No where did it say that she wouldn't allow someone in if they weren't dressed to her standards. It also says that people are shelling out for a gift? So THOSE guys didn't even read the whole original post where she said NO GIFTS, PLEASE.
I have friends and family that would totally get a kick out of a geek-con wedding and those that wouldn't. If they do dress in costume, great! If they don't, okay. If half of the guests do dress up, and the others don't, I still think it would be a win win and a great time all around!
They don't have to attend. It doesn't seem like a lot to ask but if they're so turned off by it then they can stay home. No harm no foul. Why can't people just communicate?
This is a YTA. I've worked at ren faires, and the "Low Cost" option... is still expensive as hell. That low cost dress type she described, starts at around three hundred bucks.... I don't know what bridezilla thinks 'low cost' is, but that ain't it.
A floral dress is a hundred dollars? Or a linen shirt? Where do you LIVE? I live in one of the most expensive city in my country and even I can find a plain floral dress or linen shirt with a scrap piece of fabric for under 30$
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Oh come on! Putting on a scarf in place of a belt or a flower crown to your summer dress is hardly going out of ones way! They did not demand fully fledged costumes! On the contrary, they had several low key suggestions! In fact, their suggestions are much easier to manage then telling people to dress in formal attire or in a specific color! They did it right!
Load More Replies... Those that refuse and kick off - and not say anything to your face, even though you offered to talk to any who has concerns - ask them to let you know if they are still coming (re: food/Seating) and then just continue on and do your thing. It's you and your Fiancée's wedding, not theirs, so don't let them change what you want - even if it means fewer people. The MIL & SIL should be ashamed of themselves. IMO, these moan-behind-your-backs are acting like GuestZillas.
I went to a similar themed wedding a few months ago and it was easy for me to dress to the theme. Some guests went all out and some just made a token gesture to it (like a floral dress which OP mentioned in the edit). Everyone had fun and enjoyed the day despite the dress code and their various feelings towards dressing up. I suspect that MIL and SIL actually have a totally different idea in mind with this wedding (maybe the stock standard big white wedding) and are miffed that is not happening. Another wedding I went to recently there was a fairly strict dress code of floral for the ladies and a few select colours for the gents. Again people had options and found ways to make what they had work for the theme. To each their own.
I’m not normally pedantic, but it’s not “her” wedding. It’s “the couple’s” wedding and they both are on board with this as they SHARE this interest. It isn’t “her” rules, it’s rules they both want. I agree with your last sentence, but it’s an important distinction to make that the dress code isn’t just something OP wants that her fiancé is “just” rolling with.
Load More Replies... A friend of mine did exactly that. Just that she provided clothes to change into, and made it completely optional. Most of the guests who never had to do anything with renfair happily used the dresses and cloaks provided. even her grandmother. It can be so easy...
I had a similar themed wedding (Halloween of 2003), and some people dressed up, and some people didn't. Some totally understood the assignment, and some showed up in scary masks. It 1000% did not matter, it was one of the coolest, most beautiful, and most fun weddings anyone had been to. I even had 19-year-old men coming to me afterward to thank me for inviting them and tell me, "I'll remember this for the rest of my life." Was I a little hurt at first that my grandmother, my MiL, and my religious uncle refused to wear costumes? At first, yes. But it turned out not to be a big deal, and the pictures were epic and beautiful. Tl;dr I get where you're coming from, but I think you're worried about the wrong things.
Ive been to a few themed weddings. When I was in the wedding party, I dressed in theme, and when I wasnt, I just wore something nice and bought a cheap prop. I also agree that the OP is overthinking it, and overestimating how much everyone enjoys dressing up. A simple: "Its a RenFaire theme! You are invited to dress in theme (pictures atrached as examples), but welcome whatever you wear" would have been much simpler.
Load More Replies... Just ignore them, they will look silly when they are the only ones not dressed up. It's such a normal thing, either you buy something new for a wedding or you spruce up something you already have, so their arguments are ridiculous. But not worth fighting. Maybe have a table of props for guests who didn't make the effort- crowns etc. It sounds like a beautiful ceremony, don't waste energy on pretentious people.
I wonder if we called it a costumed ball rather than themed wedding if anyone's feelings would be different... Your invited to a party, there's a theme, period, stop imposing your societal norms on others, otherwise RSVP no and move in with your life
This is one "Your wedding, your rules" I will happily stand by. You and your spouse want a Ren Faire wedding? DO IT!! My folks (who are NOT Ren Faire folks in the slightest) went to one years ago for the daughter of some close friends and they had a fantastic time sourcing costumes and dressing up. It was super out of their comfort zone but was really important to the couple so they played along. You are NTA for this any more than you would be if you wanted a black tie affair people would have to dress for.
The most reasonable solution is to make the ren-faire dress code optional and have some on-theme accessories available.
That dress code could have gone badly wrong, but the couple made it just right with the added info and examples. Also ren faire looks can be really simple, and even if you don't want to dress in "costume" you can still fit the theme with simple touches. I would absolutely love to attend this wedding. Also I'm super shy and fear sticking out in any situation, especially if I don't know most of the people. I would probably dress in a bit vintage-lookin dress, pick accessories and add them on after a quick peek that other quest have also dressed according to theme.
Then don't go. The people getting married get to choose, not you or other manipulators.
Load More Replies... NTA, and anyone that "has a problem" with this ~IS~ an Ash Sole. They're selfish ash soles demanding she have a "traditional wedding". Dressing for a Renaissance Faire IS NOT EXPENSIVE, and the bride-to-be clearly states people can pick low cost options. If I were invited, I'd be wearing my Elven archer costume. [ ....................... ] One possibility is to tell the tight@$$es "wear regular clothes if you want". But when it comes time to post the wedding photo album, only include those who made the effort. Make sure the photographer knows to focus on the willing participants.
I'm not likely to ever get married, but if I were, I'd be torn between a Hallowe'en wedding and a Goth wedding ("wear Art Deco if you don't want to dress Goth!"). Or maybe have two ceremonies.
Load More Replies... There's a reason I don't dress up in Ren Faire clothing. Make it optional.
1. This is one of the very, very few AITA's that sounds like it may have happened in real life. 2. Not a big fan of the reasoning that "it's THEIR day, just do what THEY want!" I would go, and I would dress up, but in my book weddings aren't about the wedding couple. By the time you're actually having a wedding, you're already married, and the purpose of the wedding is to celebrate it with your friends and family. When I was planning my wedding, I don't remember either of us talking about what WE wanted. Everything we talked about was centered around how could we make it enjoyable for our friends and family.
This is true and was the same thought process my husband and I had for our wedding. We DID however have a medieval/ fantasy wedding. 🤣 Why? We are deeply entrenched in the medieval/ fantasy/ LARP community in our country. Started one of the first LARP organizations. Almost all people invited (asside from immediate family) were from the "scene". It probably would have shocked people into silence to see me in a white wedding dress 🤣😅
Load More Replies... All the Debbie Downers with YTA, bet they wouldn’t be happy if their wedding guests turned up in beachware and sandals , and not follow wedding clothes protocols. I say those who don’t want to participate in the theme wedding can STAY HOME The wedding is for the COUPLE not boring AF relatives
I can't help but noticed that a lot of those folks who think the OP is the a*****e didn't even read her post. She mentioned that her and her partner didn't want gifts and instead asked that any monies be used towards the outfit. Also tieing a belt around your waist is going to make you feel uncomfortable or wearing a floral dress is a bridge too far. Some of these folks sound like a******s to honest and I wouldn't want them at my wedding anyway.
The whiners are demanding "traditional", trying to dictate what the couple does. As another commenter described them, they're guest-zillas.
Load More Replies... I would tell her to go to an event like a Mittelaltermarkt (Renaissance faire) as often as she pleases, if she likes to dress up in renaissance dresses, but to spare her wedding party the dress-up games. Honestly.
Okay, people love themed weddings but they don't want to put effort into the theme if they feel obligated to go (such as family). I think it's definitely reasonable to want a fully themed wedding. I am no longer but I was marries long ago and it was at a medieval fair. We did have a request that guests didn't dress in purple as we, the couple, will be in those colors for "royalty". But there were costumes to rent at the faire. The majority of my guests flew in for the wedding, so I didn't want to add a cost of a special outfit. But, if I had more local guests, I'd most definitely ask for a range of costume! I'd also like to add that it is insulting that family said Renaissance garb is stupid/idiotic.
I went to a theme wedding years ago. Honestly I wouldn't have gone if not for my roommate lending me her outfit. I don't want to spend the money or extra work to diy. So yes, if I receive an invitation like that, I'd not go and depending on my relationship with the couple, I'd tell them why.
I would be so excited to attend a themed wedding like this! Everyone can have a normal celebration with a white dress and a suit and festive clothes for the guests. But hey, most people buy new clothes for a wedding party anyway so they can look for a costume. If I had planned this wedding, the costume would be optional but I would have some simple clothes at hand just for courious guests. But there are sooo pretty options! Hm, maybe some sewing weekends would be nice for those who have the imagination, but not the money or the skills. And what about flower crowns instead of the arrangements and bouquets so everyone can wear one? They can sit on the table until then.
I was part of a 5 person ensemble playing authentic Renaissance music at a themed wedding. A guest PAID for our performance as their wedding gift to the happy couple. Some people wore costumes some just in nice clothes. At a golf course banquet room. Really nice roast beef dinner. What did the musicians wear!?! Longish old fashioned dresses. All women. Recorders and viola da gambas. A special memory for me.
BP - Good job choosing an AITA story! By the poll, there are 3 legitimate groups all over 20%. Its nice to see one of these where there's genuine discussion and different views so we can all grow by seeing how others see the world.
I spent $2600 on my brothers wedding. Clothes for my husband n I, gifts, travel expenses, tailoring, hotel & pet sitter. I would have much rather had this happen than what we dealt w/. It was all formal attire n fairly strict. The brides mom was pissed bc I wore a suit instead of a dress. But I am covered in tattoos n wanted to avoid the judgy looks n the rude old ppl n not take any attention off the bride... this has happened at weddings before. F**k it happened at my own wedding... old ppl hate tattoos n they especially hate women w/ tattoos. So yeah. It was not fun for me. At all. I wasn't even in the wedding n it still cost more money than we could afford to spend. So a fun, casual themed wedding sounds great! Especially when OP said they're not asking for gifts n they're not like... enforcing it as if it's mandatory. N they even said to use stuff you already had n would wear again. I will probably never wear my suit again. Some ppl are Debbie downers. This sounded fun!
This is why, in the unlikely event I ever find someone willing to marry me, I would likely do a 'normal' wedding for the families, but then plan a second event for the people closest in my life who would enjoy and get into the theme. I'm a big cosplayer, so have a second wedding at a convention with people in cosplay, for instance. Low budget on the second event, of course. No gifts required from the attendees, things like that. Just to have the fun and the experience. Though my primary plan is still to get married on a pirate ship in the middle of a sword fight.
Damn. Everyone's acting like she demanded something complicated. I don't think she did. I have a few spring dresses that I already own. That I've ALREADY WORN AND WILL WEAR AGAIN, a dollar store/party america place down the street if I need something to go with it. That being said - the idea of providing a few costume-y things is a good one and I hope they do that and ignore the haters. No where did it say that she wouldn't allow someone in if they weren't dressed to her standards. It also says that people are shelling out for a gift? So THOSE guys didn't even read the whole original post where she said NO GIFTS, PLEASE.
I have friends and family that would totally get a kick out of a geek-con wedding and those that wouldn't. If they do dress in costume, great! If they don't, okay. If half of the guests do dress up, and the others don't, I still think it would be a win win and a great time all around!
They don't have to attend. It doesn't seem like a lot to ask but if they're so turned off by it then they can stay home. No harm no foul. Why can't people just communicate?
This is a YTA. I've worked at ren faires, and the "Low Cost" option... is still expensive as hell. That low cost dress type she described, starts at around three hundred bucks.... I don't know what bridezilla thinks 'low cost' is, but that ain't it.
A floral dress is a hundred dollars? Or a linen shirt? Where do you LIVE? I live in one of the most expensive city in my country and even I can find a plain floral dress or linen shirt with a scrap piece of fabric for under 30$
Load More Replies... Oh come on! Putting on a scarf in place of a belt or a flower crown to your summer dress is hardly going out of ones way! They did not demand fully fledged costumes! On the contrary, they had several low key suggestions! In fact, their suggestions are much easier to manage then telling people to dress in formal attire or in a specific color! They did it right!
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