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Wife Breaks Back Acting Like A Housemaid As Per Hubs’ Demands, Gives Up After Work-Wife Confession
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Wife Breaks Back Acting Like A Housemaid As Per Hubs’ Demands, Gives Up After Work-Wife Confession

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Can you ever be the “perfect” partner? You bend, you compromise, you rearrange your entire life to meet an ever-shifting set of demands. You do it all because you love them, and you assume your sacrifice is for the good of the relationship.

But what happens when you discover the blueprint for this “perfect” partner wasn’t a shared dream, but a carbon copy of someone else? For one woman, the impossible standards she was struggling to meet had a secret, and very human, origin: her husband’s coworker.

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    One husband suddenly expected impossible demands from his wife, imposing 50s housewife standards on her

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    She became exhausted and confused by her husband’s new, cruel expectations, and she decided to take a  much-needed vacation to her parents

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    As she was leaving, he confessed that he had been seeing a coworker and his new standards were a blueprint of her efforts for her own husband

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    After his shock confession, he sent her off and disappeared completely, leaving her confused and vulnerable

    A woman’s once-stable marriage began to crumble under the weight of her husband’s bizarre new demands. He, who had once been an equal partner, suddenly expected her to become his 1950s-era servant. She was to wake him up, lay out his clothes, and have his meals prepared, all on top of her own night-shift job and caring for their daughter during the day. Her life became a sleep-deprived, burnout-fueled nightmare.

    She finally got a long-overdue vacation to visit her parents. As her husband was escorting her and their daughter to the bus, he chose this exact moment of departure to deliver a devastating confession. He had been “seeing a coworker,” and her wifely habits were his new “ideals.” But, he added with a flourish of satisfaction, “I still choose you since you’re my wife,” as if she should be grateful for this crumbs-of-comfort prize.

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    Stunned into silence, she could only watch as he walked away, a man so cowardly he couldn’t even face her reaction to his own confession. After days of radio silence from him, she discovered through his father that he had gone on a trip to “cool down.” Meanwhile, her own parents, instead of offering support, told her to “work it out” for the sake of her daughter.

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    She returned home to an empty house, a ghost of a marriage, and the crushing realization that she had tormented herself for months to compete with another woman. Both sets of parents are pressuring her wait for him to return. But she has had enough. She is ready to file for divorce, choosing to protect her own sanity over a relationship with a man who so casually and cruelly revealed his own betrayal.

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    The husband’s confession of an emotional affair with a coworker is, unfortunately, a statistically common scenario. According to Forbes, a staggering 57% of people admit to having had a workplace romance at some point in their career. This environment often blurs professional and personal boundaries, making it a fertile ground for the kind of emotional infidelity that the husband initiated.

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    His decision to confess and then immediately disappear is as cowardly as it gets. A true confession is meant to open a dialogue and begin the process of accountability. Instead, he used his confession as a parting shot, a way to unload his guilt and then run away from the consequences, leaving his wife to deal with the emotional shrapnel completely on her own. We see zero remorse and no respect for her feelings.

    The parents’ advice to “work it out” for the sake of the child ignores the severity of the betrayal. Therapist Asma Rehman says a key factor in deciding when to walk away after infidelity is whether the cheating partner is genuinely remorseful and willing to do the hard work of rebuilding trust. The husband’s actions make it clear that that is not on his agenda at the moment.

    The wife’s jump to divorce is understandable, and honestly, applaudable! Her husband has not only betrayed her with another woman but has also spent months subjecting her to a cruel psychological game, all while showing a complete lack of empathy. Let’s just hope she can get out before he pulls any more juvenile antics!

    Do you think there is something worth saving here? Or should she get out while she can? Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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    While the parents urge her to stay with her husband, the internet, however, is celebrating her decision to divorce the man who broke her spirit and then abandoned her

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    Tabitha
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    7 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Husband has been redpilled, and is holding up someone else’s cheating almost-trad wife (because she’s gainfully employed outside the home)—-who he’s cheating with—-as an example for OP? F**k that noise. Divorce him, tell his employer about the fraternization (your call to tell the side piece’s husband or not), and take him to the cleaners so he has nothing left to make him attractive to his side piece. Believe me, if he gets the chance to be with her, he’ll find out the grass is not greener on the other side of that fence because if she’ll cheat with him, she’ll cheat on him (and vice-versa), and he will try to come back to OP and beg her to reconcile and remarry. She needs to remind him that HE was the one who blew up his life, her life, and their daughter’s life, so HE needs to live with that decision. OP will have moved on and maybe even found another man who is a REAL man who is a REAL partner to his wife, and does his half of the housework and childcare.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If being in your marriage doesn't make your life better, get divorced. You don't need any justification other than that is it a net positive? Nothing in this post even hints at it improving OP's life. Husband is inconsiderate at best. OP needs to show her daughter that if someone treats you badly you leave. Staying will only teach her the opposite.

    Tyke
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two things stand out to me - why on earth should you have to ask your husband if you can go on vacation with your own parents? And if you're doing everything round the house, Mummying your own husband, and bringing in money from your job... what exactly does he think he's contributing to this marriage? I'm with the others on divorce I'm afraid - he's too broken to fix, and OP and her daughter deserve better.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So I agree with everything but the first point. When you coordinate schedules and share caring responsibilities, it's pretty normal for either party to ask if it's ok to plan a trip it's clear English isn't her first language so I was reading the situation as making sure it was ok/discussing travel not actually Saudi style permission. If my partner or I are thinking of travelling with or without a pet, we both "ask" the other one, as in discuss it before booking, and that's less complicated than with a human child.

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    Tabitha
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    7 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Husband has been redpilled, and is holding up someone else’s cheating almost-trad wife (because she’s gainfully employed outside the home)—-who he’s cheating with—-as an example for OP? F**k that noise. Divorce him, tell his employer about the fraternization (your call to tell the side piece’s husband or not), and take him to the cleaners so he has nothing left to make him attractive to his side piece. Believe me, if he gets the chance to be with her, he’ll find out the grass is not greener on the other side of that fence because if she’ll cheat with him, she’ll cheat on him (and vice-versa), and he will try to come back to OP and beg her to reconcile and remarry. She needs to remind him that HE was the one who blew up his life, her life, and their daughter’s life, so HE needs to live with that decision. OP will have moved on and maybe even found another man who is a REAL man who is a REAL partner to his wife, and does his half of the housework and childcare.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If being in your marriage doesn't make your life better, get divorced. You don't need any justification other than that is it a net positive? Nothing in this post even hints at it improving OP's life. Husband is inconsiderate at best. OP needs to show her daughter that if someone treats you badly you leave. Staying will only teach her the opposite.

    Tyke
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two things stand out to me - why on earth should you have to ask your husband if you can go on vacation with your own parents? And if you're doing everything round the house, Mummying your own husband, and bringing in money from your job... what exactly does he think he's contributing to this marriage? I'm with the others on divorce I'm afraid - he's too broken to fix, and OP and her daughter deserve better.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    7 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So I agree with everything but the first point. When you coordinate schedules and share caring responsibilities, it's pretty normal for either party to ask if it's ok to plan a trip it's clear English isn't her first language so I was reading the situation as making sure it was ok/discussing travel not actually Saudi style permission. If my partner or I are thinking of travelling with or without a pet, we both "ask" the other one, as in discuss it before booking, and that's less complicated than with a human child.

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