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Hosting Christmas can be a lot of work, yet most families choose to celebrate at home. In the UK, 42% of Brits say they will host Christmas dinner themselves. People say that celebrating Christmas at home brings a cozy, relaxed atmosphere and feels more personal and meaningful.
But it can also be so tiresome that the designated family host would like to refuse. That’s exactly what this sibling did when family members asked them to host for the eighth year in a row. When they refused, the family ganged up on them, calling them “selfish” and accusing them of ruining the holidays for the kids.
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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.
Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.
I don't understand why almost the first thing she talks about is the cost of hosting. I mean, all the effort involved, the lack of help, the unrealistic expectations etc. sure. But if it's only about the cost all she needs to do is ask all the guests to chip in a bit to help cover it.
I don't think that's the heart of the matter. The heart of the matter is the entitlement to someone else's home and money. Just because you happen to have a big enough room and a decent income it does not mean you are the designated extended family venue and wallet.
OP mentioned all the other things in the same sentence, immediately after the expense of hosting/buying all the food ("Every year it costs me a fortune, I do all the cooking, buy all the extra food, stock the house with drinks, and everyone else turns up empty handed.") It's clearly NOT just about her family members chipping in some $$$.
Crystal - this is not an exclusively US entitlement thing - it happens everywhere. Even the UK which you somehow think is terribly superior to the US - newsflash, we bloody well are not.
They're not in the USA. This was posted to Mumsnet, which is UK-based. OP uses words like "pub Christmas" (not a thing we have in the US.) Try actually reading the article before you turn on your American-hating firehose and spray it everywhere.
I don't understand why almost the first thing she talks about is the cost of hosting. I mean, all the effort involved, the lack of help, the unrealistic expectations etc. sure. But if it's only about the cost all she needs to do is ask all the guests to chip in a bit to help cover it.
I don't think that's the heart of the matter. The heart of the matter is the entitlement to someone else's home and money. Just because you happen to have a big enough room and a decent income it does not mean you are the designated extended family venue and wallet.
OP mentioned all the other things in the same sentence, immediately after the expense of hosting/buying all the food ("Every year it costs me a fortune, I do all the cooking, buy all the extra food, stock the house with drinks, and everyone else turns up empty handed.") It's clearly NOT just about her family members chipping in some $$$.
Crystal - this is not an exclusively US entitlement thing - it happens everywhere. Even the UK which you somehow think is terribly superior to the US - newsflash, we bloody well are not.
They're not in the USA. This was posted to Mumsnet, which is UK-based. OP uses words like "pub Christmas" (not a thing we have in the US.) Try actually reading the article before you turn on your American-hating firehose and spray it everywhere.
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