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With spring pouring blossoms and warmth on us more and more with each coming day, it's not surprising that many lovers could be found sitting at parks, watching birds building their nests. Love is in the air and as cliche as the saying sounds, it does bear some truth to it. New couples show up like mushrooms after good rain while old ones are reminded of their love once more. And although young love is perhaps the sweetest, many people believe that true love can only be secured with a marriage proposal. While some might argue about that prospect, others share their firsthand experiences with proposals.
One Reddit user zp1995 recently asked people who declined a proposal why they did that. And within the next 24 hours, replies flowed non-stop with some acquiring as many as 31k likes. From simply sad to somewhat bizarre, people shared many stories where a marriage proposal was the main focus. So, scroll down to read some of the best ones and don't forget to comment and vote for your favorites!
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#1
My mom had been dating a guy for a few weeks after his wife had just died from cancer his daughter was at college and he was paying for her education/boarding/food. I had just turned 18 and started paying my mom rent money , he proposed but said that I needed to move out because he didnt like me and thought that I was a free loader. my mom told him that she loved me more than him and that he could shove his dead wife's ring up his ass and left him.
mild anxiety! at the disco 6 years ago
As opposed to a figurative savage?
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Rebekah 6 years ago
"dating a guy for a few weeks after his wife had JUST DIED FROM CANCER..." and the freeloading comment was the straw that broke the back?
Daria B 6 years ago (edited)
I think the mother saw it as a "red flag", but decided to give him a chance anyway, he probably seemed nice, and well, things can happen. Then when he proposed under those conditions, she had a real reason to say good bye.
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Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
Good for this mom. She's got her priorities straight. There are so many things wrong with this guy, including using his dead wife's ring to propose to his new girlfriend. Wow!
KCN 6 years ago
That's the way moms should behave! There was a story on BP a few weeks ago, a 13 year girl was pushed out of her house because the stepfather didn't want her and the mom got rid of her saying she wanted to keep her husband. The girl ended up sleeping in a park for a few weeks until her grandma could pick her up. Sheesh.
Jacqueline R. 6 years ago
Your mom rules. A good man would make her daughter part of his life as well. Good for your mom to dump him. He didn't deserve either one of you.
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#2
I proposed to my boyfriend of three years. He told me he loved me but just wasnt ready because his parents had a really bad marriage and frankly, he didnt know if he could ever get married. I cried my eyes out and he held me but he was (gently) adamant. I accepted after a while that we wouldn't get married and to be happy that we were together and loved each other. Two years later he proposed to me. Married 12 years so far!
Ashley Harrold 6 years ago
Fantastic story, love that even though they were sad they understood. That's probably what made the boyfriend realize marriage would work
Kusotare 6 years ago
The beauty of this is that, despite his misgivings, he continued to work on his feelings.
BC 6 years ago
And perhaps his partner has helped him change his heart about marriage. I have cousins, good men, but because of their parents’ bad marriage they have a very cynical view about marriage.
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Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
When my husband and I first started dating, we discussed everything. Couples should be comfortable asking questions, stating opinions, discussing beliefs, etc. The subject of marriage came up. He said he had no desire to get married. I didn't either. We were both divorced and didn't want to do it again. Later on, we decided marriage was actually a wise decision for several reasons. We've been married for 13 years. So many hurt feels could be avoided by simply talking about stuff.
#3
He literally only proposed because i caught him cheating. He thought i would say "yes! Omg of course! I forgive you! Please, continue to cheat on me after we both sign a legally binding contract!" Dude was dumb.
Master Markus 6 years ago
I'm guessing he tried this soon after as like... a "bribe".
Load More Replies... Pseudo Puppy 6 years ago
"dude was dumb" is definitely right. Glad you were smart enough to realise. :)
Sophia Daily 6 years ago
At least you caught him before you two married! It would have been worse if you were married.
María Hermida 6 years ago
"Dear" David, cheating is cheating. I don't need to hear the other side. There are no "sides" in cheating. No excuses. If you have problems with a person you try to solve them, or you leave him/her; but cheating is despicable and coward. A cheater deserves whatever happens to him/her. The funny thing is that they usually end up with the worst scumbags.
#4
I was in my first few years of teaching and one of my nine year old students brought his sister’s play ring to school, got down on one knee when the class was on the field, and he proposed to me. It was very sweet. I declined saying that he was a little young for me.
Jeff Christensen 6 years ago
It is said that the composer Mozart proposed marriage to Marie Antoinette (later Queen of France) when he was 5 and she was 6. She also declined.
deanna woods 5 years ago
I got proposed to by a classmate during lunch in the 3rd grade. He just popped the question out of the blue. I obviously declined. We were nine years old after all.
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#5
I’m on the opposite side of this story, but it’s still a good one. This was years ago. My girlfriend and I were at a friend’s wedding, and I got caught up in the romanticism of it and wound up blurting out a proposal at the reception. She said no, and explained that this wasn’t the memory of a proposal that she wanted. It felt tacky to tie this important moment to someone else’s special day, and she told me to ask her again later, in a different setting. Literally five minutes later, they announced that the bride was going to throw the bouquet. All the girls lined up, it went into the air, and sailed straight into my girlfriends arms. She laughed, turned to me, and said, “That moment is pretty good. Okay, I guess we’re engaged.”
Neurotic_Octopus 6 years ago
That's stinking adorable. I hope you're super happy together, sounds like a made-to-be situation!
#6
We were on the verge of a breakup when he asked. We'd been having problems for a few years. His idiot friend told him it was a good idea to propose and that it would make everything magically better. I told him no, we broke up and I moved away for a while. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder..it was true in our case. We were able to work things out. I moved back and 2 years later, we got married. We've been together for 24 years, have 2 daughters and 1 grandchild!
TheExtremeSmell 6 years ago
Proposing doesn’t fix a relationship. Having a child does duuuuhhh
Gracie Mae 6 years ago
sometimes you need to distance yourself, whether it's to be able to see things objectively, or just grow/mature some
#7
A coworker of mine, happily married for a good long while, told me that the only man she dated before her husband was obsessed with her, and pursued her even after she broke up with him and had proposed multiple times before and after they broke up. He just had this unhealthy obsession with her for some reason. The last time he proposed to her was the day before her wedding to her husband. She of course turned him down, and he finally moved on and married a different girl. I told her jokingly that he sounded unhinged and she really dodged a bullet there. She went quiet for a moment and then said, "Well, he killed the woman he DID end up marrying."
PandaLover 6 years ago
Well... this is dark. She DEFINETLY dodged a bullet there. quite literally
Monika Soffronow 6 years ago
An overly "enthusiastic" courtship may well be a sign of future abuse.
#8
He was that weird stoner patron that came in just to talk to me even though I wasn’t interested. He told me he was the heir to the commonwealth and should be king after Elizabeth dies, because he had the 3 out of the emblems of the United Kingdom, and once he got the 4th it would secure his position. He would also make airplane noises when I had my attention turned to other tasks. That’s a no Jason.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I worked at a gas station in Alaska. So many stoners! Some of them told me weird stories like this. The weirdest one was actually true. A young man came in whom I thought I recognized - army grunt, always in trouble. He told me I looked like his bosses wife (I was), he said he was high as f*ck (so true), he and his buddy had just stolen a car (yep), they were going to drive the car till it ran out gas (that happened), then they were going to swim across the channel and live in Russia so the army couldn't find them (unfortunately, that did not happen). He told me since I was pretty, I could go with them. I said I would have to pass on that. I told him I needed to see his ID before I could sell him beef jerky (not true). He showed me his military ID (he was who I thought he was). After he left, I called my husband's office. They were found later that day. I thought it was hilarious; the army did not share my laughter.
#9
Because she was like 30 years younger than I was, and I already married her mother, who gave birth to her 5 years ago. I love her 3000 so there’s that.
AloofFox 6 years ago
This took me a while to get, but it’s cute!! (The step-daughter/daughter “proposed” when she was 5)
Liesa Yopp 6 years ago
its a movie reference from Avengers: Endgame. I won't explain it because its a pretty big movie spoiler.
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better version of alex 6 years ago
Was the 3000 necessary i mean it is adorable but you've got me about to get weepy again
love life you only live once 6 years ago
my sister proposes to my dad and asks him if he will be her daddy forever (he always says yes)
Master Markus 6 years ago
What's a 3000? I totally get the overall joke, but I don't get the phrasing of that last bit.
FatBaby 6 years ago
(spoilers on Avengers End Game are included) In Avengers End Game, Iron Man would tell his daughter, and vice versa, that he loved her 3000.
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#10
My mother was engaged to a man while she was in college. The wedding plans were well underway and as the wedding got closer, her fiancé started acting super clingy and possessive. She called it off a few months before getting married. He has lived locally their whole lives so she's run into him a few times. Apparently he's the super jealous type who doesn't let his wives have male friends and he has been married three times. My mom definitely dodged a bullet.
earringnut 6 years ago
Wives as in more than one. I'm guessing he's been divorced a few times.
#11
My abusive girlfriend tried to get me to marry her. Then, she beat me with a chair for slightly overcooking the Thanksgiving turkey. Yeah, turns out that beating somebody so bad that you break their arm is a good way to get your proposal turned down.
tuzdayschild 6 years ago
Then presses charges, sticks to them and puts her sorry butt in jail where it belongs.
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Brobro McDuderson 6 years ago
There’s this assumption out there that men are always the abusers. While men probably are more than women, I bet the odds are surprising. I wonder what the actual %age of male vs actually.
Uwe Theiss 6 years ago
The dark figure will be much higher. Cause many still see a man as the strong sex. So, if a women gets beaten by hey bf, everyone believes it. If a man says his gf is beating him, many make fun of him. Cause he should be a "real man" and fight for himself. It is pretty hard for men to get some help in cases like that.
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Walkus-Andrew Andrea 6 years ago
I can't stand anyone, male or female, that uses their fists or other ways to physically attack someone. I think they will get theirs eventually. This big guy who beat on my son, because my son gave his cheap phone to a kid as he was buying a more expensive one, now has terminal cancer
#12
My now wife asked me to marry her. I told her I needed to think about it and eventually told her no. I thought I would had held her back. my store was closing down and 2 months before that happened, I turned down a different offer to stay. so, I knew I was gonna be without work for some time. She didn't take it well and we didn't speak for a couple years. Eventually though our paths crossed again and we both missed each other tons. One night she tells me "so molecule, you make up your mind yet?" i instantly broke down laughing and 2 weeks later we were married.
Carol Emory 6 years ago
My grandfather proposed to my grandmother 2 weeks before the stock market crashed in October of 1929. When they realized the financial devastation they were facing, my grandmother insisted that my grandfather sell her engagement ring to get money. He refused, worked like mad to keep them afloat and they were married a couple of years later. When he passed away in '95, he had nearly half a million saved up. It was a good thing too since my grandmother required round the clock care due to Alzheimer's. They were made for each other. I'm just glad she was in the later stages of the illness because she was unaware that he was gone most days. I think if she had known he'd died before her...she would have spent the rest of her days heartbroken. That's why I'm appreciative of the fact that my own marriage is as strong as theirs, even though I know in the end, one of us will end up heartbroken....
Maci Mae 6 years ago
Not everyone has a big wedding, some people just get the papers signed and spend the money elsewhere.
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#13
Proposed to my college girlfriend when I was 20 and she was 21. We had been dating for a year and she got pregnant. I thought we were in love because everything was great and I genuinely loved her. I had a great job and so I proposed because I wanted to marry her and start a family. She then broke down and started crying, she told me she had been sleeping with her ex boyfriend for the past month. She then said that she didn't know who the baby belonged to so went and got an abortion without consulting me or him. She got back together with him and I spiraled into alcoholism for the next few years. Im about to turn 30 now, went back to college 2 years ago and no longer use drugs or alcohol (besides weed sometimes). I'm starting life over again at 30 after all that, and having to take care of my grandfather who had a stroke.
CrunChewy McSandybutt 6 years ago
Okay, there's a lot more going on here than a rejected proposal. Oof!
Monika Soffronow 6 years ago
Things happen in life. There will always be another "situation" that we can do nothing about. We cannot change what has already taken place but WE CAN ALWAYS CHOOSE THE WAY WE REACT! The answer to self pity never ever comes in a bottle.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
This is so messed up! I'm glad the guy got his life back on track.
ALL-R-EQUAL 6 years ago
I truly know how you feel. Same thing happened to my mothe r(´cept the girlfriend and ex and baby part)
Victoria Rey Piuma 6 years ago
Wow that sucks.really cool that you're going back to college and your life. Good luck!
#14
My husband proposed one month into dating. I declined because, you know, one month. A year later we moved in together and he proposed and I declined because I wasn’t ready. Almost three years later and two more declined proposals I said yes on the 4th time. I finally felt ready. We have been married 11 years. In retrospect, his instincts were probably better than mine :)
Kiss Army 6 years ago
My husband proposed less than three months after we met and I said yes. My mother begged us to wait at least 6 months more since we barely knew each other. We got married almost a year to the date after we met and we just celebrated our 26th anniversary. When you know, you know...
AloofFox 6 years ago
At the same time, you don’t want to force something to happen. Let people be ready in their own time.
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Anna Ledwońska 6 years ago
My school best friend parents met and proposed after one week of knowing each other. They were engaged to others. They married after two weeks and their parents did not talk to them for more than year, Then both girls was born. They lived insanely happy together for 36 years. Till husband died. I met them many times. They behaved a bit like teenagers in love. Looking each other in the eyes with awe and hugging a lot... Amazing!
Ann Abdelzaher 6 years ago
My husband proposed to me 2 1/2 months after we met in person for the first time... we only saw each other face to face 2 times before he proposed. We married 2 years later... we celebrate 20 years next month.
Trisha Wheeler 6 years ago
Met my husband in college in November, engaged in February, married in August. Married 42 years. And they said it wouldn't last 😂
Nami Tantrum 6 years ago
marry me? no. how about now? not ready, yet. you ready, yet? still a no. what about this time? yes, now im ready... what a patient person :D
Aileen Grist 6 years ago
My husband proposed after 2 weeks - I'd just moved in with him - we booked the wedding 2 weeks later and got married 3 months after. 4 months from first date - I found him in the looking for love/friendship column of the local paper. Been together 28 years now.
#15
Well, he proposed as I was breaking up with him, which was awkward and for some reason he thought it would make me change my mind. Also he had threatened to kill my family the day before (hence the breakup) so there’s that.
Elizabeth 6 years ago
Imagine what he would have done if you had gotten married then divorced...
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
I'm sure he thought it was a flawless plan... "B*tch, I'm gonna kill your whole family, but I love you, please don't leave me, let's get married"
Sophia Daily 6 years ago
Um, he thought he could fix a breakup because of a murder threat with a proposal? Is he sane?
Alex Craig 6 years ago
People are so weird sometimes. Guy or Girl, people who are controlling and obsessive really don't understand how toxic they are.
ChickyChicky 6 years ago
That's like when I tell my kids no about something, and they whine and throw a fit. Like I'm going to say "well, since you threw that big fit, okay sure..."
#16
He was very bold about it, calling it out loudly in public so others would hear him. I felt the weight if people staring at us, and it was too much. I said no. I mean, some people are into the homeless look, but 17 year old me just wasn't ready to make a cardboard home with the first hobo on the street who hollered at me. I had to find myself first. Joking aside, I was visiting my cousins in Cali and a homeless man with a huge scruffy beard, Hagrid style, asked me to marry him at the top of his lungs. I froze, shook my head, and then hurried along. He yelled after me that I was missing out. Maybe I was, old man. Maybe I was.
Stannous Flouride 6 years ago
A former co-worker (tall, blonde, very pretty, in her early 20s) would respond to any yelling or ranting street person with, "DADDY? DADDY, IS THAT YOU?!" It never failed to shut them up and never failed to make me crack up.
#17
He asked me, on condition that I changed myself into something that he wants, so he can fulfill his dreams. All this while ignoring all my dreams. So... I chose to go forward alone
Jim Steele 6 years ago
a foolish heat will call on you to toss your dreams away, then turn around and blame you for the way you went astray. Grateful Dead 1989
#18
He told me he wouldn't say that he loved me until we were married. Big red commitment flag
AloofFox 6 years ago
Not a bullet, not even a firing range but a nuclear meltdown. That’s what you dodged.
Sophia Daily 6 years ago
And I thought you had to love each other to get married... This dude had other plans apparently.
#19
I was 29 and had been with my boyfriend four years when he "proposed." I put scare quotes around it because he didn't actually say anything - he just got down on a knee and showed me a ring. Every time we had talked about marriage, I told him I wasn't ready. Our relationship was solid, but I felt sort of listless in it and like we never really fully connected, or had real talks of any depth. I always felt like it was me talking and him listening but not giving much back. We never ever fought. The proposal felt like a microcosm of that dynamic: instead of having a real talk about what he wanted, which would have been hard, he just bought a ring (a diamond, btw, which I told him I didn't want but he didn't believe me) to try to sidestep dealing with any difficult feelings or conflicts. We stayed together after that, though - I felt so confused, he seemed so devoted, I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. A year and a half later, I found out he had been pursuing other women through much of our relationship, including my best friend, who he was infatuated with (she did not realize), and was having an emotional affair with a woman at his work. He acted like a complete crazy person after this all came to light, and all the resentments he had secretly buried came up (culminating in a letter to my parents where he essentially blamed me for his cheating, based on offenses like my doing my laundry separate from his and not accepting his money/liking to keep our finances separate). I felt validated about the vague unease I had had for so many years and was glad I listened to that intuition that there was something not right, though I wish I had sooner. About a month later, I met my now-husband, and we married a year and a half later - I never hesitated with his proposal, even though it was only a few months in. It's been three years now and I am so happy with him - we're expecting our first child in November!
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
this guy sounds a lot like my mean crazy ex boyfriend. I'm glad I didn't marry him!
KT Trondsen 6 years ago
I don't know how anyone could stay so long in a relationship like that where you feel so uneasy and the guy never talks much, that's just such odd behaviour
Carol Emory 6 years ago
I had a girl that I worked with that came in on a Monday morning and said her boyfriend of 4 years had proposed to her. She said she wasn't sure if she should say yes. I said "If you're questioning if you should say yes after four years, the answer is no. There should be no doubt in your mind that he's the one. And if there is doubt, it will not go away after the wedding vows." She said "But I have four years invested in the relationship." I said "It doesn't matter if it's four years of four months..if you don't feel that connection, you never will." She broke up with him a few weeks later. By the end of the year, she'd met a guy that she could not stop thinking/talking about. I knew that HE was the one....
Walkus-Andrew Andrea 6 years ago
sometimes, early relationships are just stepping stones to the real thing. when the real thing happens, there is no hesitation, no questions.
Janice Seagraves 6 years ago
Sometimes you have to follow your gut. I'm glad you followed yours.
P.Brux FHell 6 years ago
he just bought a ring (a diamond, btw, which I told him I didn't want but he didn't believe me) - oh so he was listening, but not really paying attention, then. brbrbrbrrrr... that was a close one.
#20
Gorgeous 19 year old girl I worked with. We had been a little flirtatious with each other but were just close work friends. I was under 25 (m) She got knocked up by a guy she wasn’t dating seriously. She was opposed to abortion so was planning to keep the baby but wanted to end it with that guy She took me aside and slowly and seriously proposed marriage with me. Her rationale being that we loved each other even though we were just friends and that I would be a wonderful father, so we should give it a shot. She was sincere, but seeing as her proposal was insane (though oddly tempting) I said no She married the father of her child shortly after. They’re still married, going on 20 years now. Only one child So I suppose I said no because I was a young man and that wasn’t my child. I do wonder what would have happened if I’d said yes... but that would have been insane... right?
JV 6 years ago
Yes that would have been insane. She just wanted to get married for financial security (as it's unfortunately too often the case). Marriage should be for love, not money.
Kururi.Orihara 6 years ago
As long as both are aware and okay with marriage being for financial security, then I really don't see the problem with it. I mean, marriage for love is actually a extremely new concept. Of course, forced marriages and all are wrong, but as long as they both agree on everything and all, then why not?
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tuzdayschild 6 years ago
She told you she did not want to be with the other guy because she was scared and desperate. She obvious did want to be with that guy. 20 years prove that. You definitely did the right thing.
#21
It was our first date. He showed up drunk and called me somebody else's name
Pseudo Puppy 6 years ago
I had to upvote this, simply due the sheer absurdity of it. I think I may have met that guy myself.... or his doppleganger. :o
ALL-R-EQUAL 6 years ago
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Sorry, just, that is so stupid. Reminds me when one dude decided to propose by to the person, who, BTW, was about 30 feet away, and MOUTHING ¨Will you marry me?" and held up the ring... She said yes.
#22
I was going through post-partum depression and I had no support system to speak of. I was a teenager and my mom just kept repeatingly telling me to give my son up for adoption because no one would ever want me and you're nothing without a man. That being said, there was one meathead jock who had been asking me out for years that I always turned down because we had nothing in common. We had never even had a conversation before yet he would religiously ask me out for almost every dance and Valentine's. Well that Valentine's when he asked me out again, I just gave up and said yes. We dated for a year, the whole time him telling me he had always admired me from afar, loved my creativity and individuality; but also telling me to stop dying my hair and grow it out, to get manicures and wear make-up, to lose weight and wear designer clothing. After a year, he proposed. We were 19 and he said he was ready to start a family with me. That we would perfect and our kids would be perfect. It was like I snapped out of a fog. I realized that if I married him I would be unhappy for the rest of my life. So we broke up. A year later I met the man that I did eventually marry.
Sophia Daily 6 years ago
If he didn't like you for you then he should just find someone else like him to date.
#23
I met him at an art opening, he flew back to his home state a couple days later. We spent a month talking on the phone every day, and he asked me to come with him to Italy while he produced some paintings for a patrons new villa. I started getting everything together to renew my passport and prepare for the trip. He told me he was going to propose to me in Italy. I told him this was too much for me and I wasn’t feeling like we were on the same level in the relationship. He lost his shit, called me 50 times through the night, but after the first time I didn’t answer anymore. A few years later I found out he had gone to prison- statutory rape of one of his art students.
Hugo Raible 6 years ago
Just to make it clear - "statutory rape" can mean having sex with a "consenting" 17 year old. Just that they cannot legally consent.
Anna Repp 6 years ago
Depends on a state. Some states have the age of consent at 16.
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Esther 6 years ago
You dodged a nuclear bomb w/ poop in it, You don't want a reputation as the wife of a pedo
FatBaby 6 years ago
It's not about the reputation though...this guy is fr sick
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Sophia Daily 6 years ago
That would have been you if you had gone... Good job for not going! *clap clap clap*
ALL-R-EQUAL 6 years ago
HOLY C**P. That´s something you don´t hear everyday. It happens, but you don´t hear it.
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#24
Got asked in college by a close female friend. We weren't dating, I hadn't ever felt an attraction to her, and I knew she just wanted a husband more than she wanted me, the actual person. 100% yikes
Master Markus 6 years ago
I have no idea what that is like or what a person who wants "a husband, but not a specific person" could think like.
Sophia Daily 6 years ago
I had always liked my friend but I was scared of ruining our relationship by telling him so I didn't. But this story makes me question if she was a good friend after all...
CrunChewy McSandybutt 6 years ago
I know women like this, who are so obsessed with the idea of marriage that any partner would do. I don't get it.
#25
I was fresh out of high school and dating a guy in the military that I went to school with. We had been dating about three months when he proposed. He was nice, and I could have seen a future with him but three months was just too soon for me, even though we had been friends for quite some time. I told him I wasn't ready and he never spoke to me again.
Monika Soffronow 6 years ago
You said no and he never spoke to you again. He really, truly cared for you, eh?
Christina Sersif 6 years ago
He just wanted that extra money soldiers get paid when they're married
Master Markus 6 years ago
It just seems doubly sad and weird that they were apparently friends beforehand so you'd think he wouldn't just be selfish.
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 6 years ago
Too soon? My husband and I were married 7 weeks after we met. We will be celebrating 29 years this May..... Too soon, too long means nothing if you've found your soulmate. Many people saying love at first sight does not exist. Me and my husband are proof that it does....
Anna Repp 6 years ago
I'm happy for you, Carol, but unfortunately a lot of times someone proposing marriage early into a relationship is just a controlling abuser who wants to securely tie his/her prey. Speaking from experience - seen this too many times.
Load More Replies... Sophia Daily 6 years ago
If someone declined me, I'd wait a year or two (or more) and then ask again, not ignore them! If you love them you would wait. And no doesn't mean never!
#26
I thought my ex had anger management issues, and I didn’t get along with his mother. He was too attached to her. He later became a violent alcoholic—years after we broke up. He also stole quite a bit of money from me to give to his mother for bills... I was not aware of this until months after the fact. I feel like I dodged a huge bullet there.
Kelly Grace 6 years ago
Mommy issues...never good. You want a guy who has a good relationship with his mom but not overly attached or let's her run his life!
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
#27
I was scared and "selfish". As a veteran, they were suffering from severe PTSD, had already attempted suicide, and were using drugs to self medicate. As much as I loved and adored him (and still do), I knew there were things I wanted for myself and it wouldn't be possible if I had to be the caretaker all the time. If I had said yes, I would be a widow now. I know I did the right thing for me but I don't feel like I did right by them. I wish I could have been stronger.
Bettina Jansen 6 years ago
In my opinion, you did right by them. If you aren't ready but force yourself, there's a big chance that you'd become bitter and/or resentful. That would've been bad for the both of you.
Master Markus 6 years ago
I feel like it's TECHNICALLY selfish, but you have a right to be selfish. The alternative was being too selfless and probably having to put him before yourself and taking on more than you could handle.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago (edited)
Damn, this one hits close to home! My husband is a veteran with severe PTSD. His third and last deployment sent him over the edge. I left him for a while because I felt unsafe. I cried and blamed myself, because I couldn't blame him. I'm not "enabling", but it really wasn't his fault. He didn't abuse me; he didn't even know where he was or who I was. He understood why I had to leave, but it still hurt him. He needed help and I wanted to help him, but I could not. Over time, he did get the help he needed. Once he regained some mental clarity, he reached out to me and told me he was sorry for the pain he had cause. I cried and said, "I'm so sorry I left you when you needed me. I didn't know what to do." He said, "You did the right thing. I took a dark path and you could not follow me. I had to deal with my own demons." We are still together, and we are still dealing with his demons. While I would not trade him for anything in the world, I would never wish this sort of life on anyone.
Leodavinci 6 years ago
You weren't selfish. You aren't obligated to someone because you love them.
Leslie Tollefson 6 years ago
You stayed true to yourself by telling some you care abut something the don’t want to hear. That’s pretty freakin’ strong.
Birma Gustafsson 6 years ago
A woman does not need to feel obligated to be caretaking just because she's a woman. She has the same right to be fulfilled in her life as a man does. I wish girls and women today think of that. It's so archaic to expect a person of a certain gender to automatically give up on her dreams and future life, just because someone need a nursemaid.
#28
He was pissed as a newt and we had only been dating a year. 10 years later he did it properly. We’ve been married 6 years.
Hard 2 Guess 6 years ago
Thank you. Which country slang its from? I am guessing Aussie.
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When he asked, my future flashed in front of me and I hated it. He was a good guy and I did love him, but we wanted different things. We had been together for many years but the proposal was still a surprise. I think he proposed to try and save a sinking relationship.
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago
Sometimes, it's just not the right time; sometimes, it's just not the right person.
Giraffes Inc. 6 years ago
Thank you for that! I think I'm experiencing that right now.
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#30
I was getting ready to move to Japan. We weren’t even dating and I had been upfront that I only thought of him as a friend. He spent our junior and senior years of university trashing me because that’s the mature thing to do when people are honest, right? Out of the blue, he texts me a proposal. Says I need a strong man to protect me (so much lol- 1. It’s Japan 2. He was your standard neckbeard). I just texted back a simple “no” and didn’t hear from him again for years. I come to hometown for my sister’s wedding. He texts out of the blue asking if I need a date. I had a boyfriend at the time. “Sorry, no.” I get married a few years later. He starts whining about never getting a girlfriend and getting sympathy. I want to believe it was a coincidence, but he raged about stupid bitches when I got pregnant. So, who knows?
Frozengeckolover 6 years ago (edited)
I always kept crazy guy contacts in my phone, silenced the ringtone and added BSC to their name (Bat S**t Crazy), just in case they decided to contact me. For example: One time BSC-Hans attempted to call me, after two years, out of the blue. If I hadn't kept his info, I might have ignorantly answered the phone, found out who it was, told him to f*ck off and then I would have been in an ill mood the rest of the day.
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roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
What do you think ?
Elizabeth 6 years ago
Why do people try to propose or get pregnant to save a bad relationship?
Daria B 6 years ago
Yeah, that's what I noticed too. Lots of guys trying to propose while she was being mad at them? Where did they get that from? Not even romantic comedies are like this anymore.
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Serbob 6 years ago
My mom was with a man for 7 years and engaged. His family didn't like her. They had money and she was "just" a hairdresser in the 60s. They told him that if he married her they would disown him and he wouldn't get a penny. He went to her and said he didn't know what to do. She told him that she would decide for him. She left Denmark and moved to Canada where she met and married my dad. Thanks to that s****y family and weak boyfriend I'm here today.
Carol Emory 6 years ago
My son was 5 years old and going to an after school daycare in a woman's private home. She had 3 daughters (3, 5 and 7 years old) that took and instant liking to him. They would constantly try to get his attention, but being a five year old..he was more interested in games, coloring and rolling in mud puddles. One day, I pick him up and the lady that runs the daycare said she had to separate the girls in time out because, apparently, each of them had declared that they would be the one to marry my son and proceeded to get into a physical fight over who was right. Problem was, none of them asked my son...who was oblivious to the commotion he had caused. I finally talked to the girls and told them he was entirely too young to get married and that we would see what happened in the next 15 years. Somehow..they were ok with that...''\_("-)_/''
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
at least this post is making me feel a bit better about the fact that I'm less likely to get married than a dead pope
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
Load More Replies... Gracie Mae 6 years ago
when i was barely 18 and dating a "bad boy" (complete with arrest record) when he gave me a dozen roses on our 1 month anniversary and asked me to marry him. he was already showing signs of being clingy and jealous, so it was a hard and fast no. i broke up with him before our second month anniversary. no idea whatever became of him, but i'm happy with my decision.
TC 6 years ago
A year ago -after 40 years- I met my 15 year old high school crush. She was divorced and so was I. We're more or less going out together (we live in different cities). She's tough but I'm almost certain I'll make the move sooner or later.
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
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Thalia Lovering 6 years ago
His father was cheating on his mum but it was ok because "he bought her jewellery". That's a huge NO sign for me.
Aroha 6 years ago
His biggest dream in life is to have kids. His eyes light up when he speaks of his future family. He is just a natural dad, even now when he doesn't have children yet. I on the other hand was never sure. And then suddenly I got told that my chances to get pregnant were very low and if I wanted to have kids, I'd have to try immediately. He proposed and I just knew that my answer was no; to both questions.
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
Load More Replies... Elizabeth 6 years ago
Why do people try to propose or get pregnant to save a bad relationship?
Daria B 6 years ago
Yeah, that's what I noticed too. Lots of guys trying to propose while she was being mad at them? Where did they get that from? Not even romantic comedies are like this anymore.
Load More Replies... Serbob 6 years ago
My mom was with a man for 7 years and engaged. His family didn't like her. They had money and she was "just" a hairdresser in the 60s. They told him that if he married her they would disown him and he wouldn't get a penny. He went to her and said he didn't know what to do. She told him that she would decide for him. She left Denmark and moved to Canada where she met and married my dad. Thanks to that s****y family and weak boyfriend I'm here today.
Carol Emory 6 years ago
My son was 5 years old and going to an after school daycare in a woman's private home. She had 3 daughters (3, 5 and 7 years old) that took and instant liking to him. They would constantly try to get his attention, but being a five year old..he was more interested in games, coloring and rolling in mud puddles. One day, I pick him up and the lady that runs the daycare said she had to separate the girls in time out because, apparently, each of them had declared that they would be the one to marry my son and proceeded to get into a physical fight over who was right. Problem was, none of them asked my son...who was oblivious to the commotion he had caused. I finally talked to the girls and told them he was entirely too young to get married and that we would see what happened in the next 15 years. Somehow..they were ok with that...''\_("-)_/''
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
at least this post is making me feel a bit better about the fact that I'm less likely to get married than a dead pope
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
Load More Replies... Gracie Mae 6 years ago
when i was barely 18 and dating a "bad boy" (complete with arrest record) when he gave me a dozen roses on our 1 month anniversary and asked me to marry him. he was already showing signs of being clingy and jealous, so it was a hard and fast no. i broke up with him before our second month anniversary. no idea whatever became of him, but i'm happy with my decision.
TC 6 years ago
A year ago -after 40 years- I met my 15 year old high school crush. She was divorced and so was I. We're more or less going out together (we live in different cities). She's tough but I'm almost certain I'll make the move sooner or later.
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
Load More Replies... Thalia Lovering 6 years ago
His father was cheating on his mum but it was ok because "he bought her jewellery". That's a huge NO sign for me.
Aroha 6 years ago
His biggest dream in life is to have kids. His eyes light up when he speaks of his future family. He is just a natural dad, even now when he doesn't have children yet. I on the other hand was never sure. And then suddenly I got told that my chances to get pregnant were very low and if I wanted to have kids, I'd have to try immediately. He proposed and I just knew that my answer was no; to both questions.
roy clitton 3 years ago
It's Not By Chance That You Have Found Me - OBIGHO The spell caster. I'm blessed to cast powerful Spells with the help of my powerful spiritual powers, my spells are done unique ways to fulfill my clients goals. If you are new or you have been disappointed by other spell casters and healers who have failed to provide you with the results they promised you and you're stuck with no option of achieving or solving your problem, its time you contact me via: 08026571864 or email: dr.obighouguosa@gmail.com, the most powerful and spiritually gifted spell caster. I have experience in African traditional healing Native Healing Herbal medicine The spirit world The paranormal Ancestral healing African rituals or Witchcraft Psychic powers. Doctor OBIGHO, affectionately known as "OBOESAN", means Traditional Healer or Witch Doctor Traditional healing is "holistic".Certain people in each tribe are recognized as Traditional healers or Wicca. They inherit special teachings and powers. Healing tradition
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