One of the scariest things that can happen to someone you know is for them to go missing. One minute, they’re in your life. The next—they’re gone. Sometimes, without the faintest trace. And you don’t know whether they’re okay or badly hurt. The brutal reality is that huge numbers of people disappear every single day.
User u/cbebr sparked an enthralling discussion on r/AskReddit when they asked everyone to share their stories about the people who went missing in their lives. We’ve collected some of their most hard-hitting posts. Scroll down to read them. But be warned, some of these stories are utterly terrifying.
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Girl from my middle school class. This was when we were all older, in college. I heard about it through the grapevine from other folks, and there were news stories about it, too, far as memory serves. I’ll call her Jen.
Jen had been clubbing with friends. I don’t remember exactly why she left the club alone—there was some reason—but, drunk and disoriented, she ended up wandering down the road alone in the middle of the night. She was missing for a couple of days, but it was worse when they found her. Dismembered, body parts shoved into trash bags, in a dumpster.
A famous conservative talk show host did a hit piece about it. Saying the way she was dressed, she deserved it. This will probably allow people to find her, but it was Bill O’Reilly back in the days of his radio show. I don’t think I’ve ever truly, viscerally hated anyone like I hate that man.
I knew Jen because she was the first person to invite me to her birthday party after I transferred into her school. I was a weird, dorky kid with no friends and she included me. I had so much fun that day, it’s one of my happiest memories. And she gave that to me. Boils my blood to this day, what happened to her, the media spin around it. She deserved so much better. Rest in peace, Jen.
My best friend vanished on her way to her early morning work shift several years ago. Her van was found abandoned in a field, and she never was found despite the massive search response, snd the fact her family were all cops. There’s also been some rumors about her stepmother interfering with evidence, but aside from that, it’s been radio silent. The FBI was involved, last I heard.
Three days after she vanished, I had a dream about her. She said goodbye to me and told me that she loved me, and since then, I’ve known in my heart she’s dead.
I miss you, Sara.
I had a friend go missing at 17 years old. She took a walk with her dog and her dog made it home but she vanished seemingly without a trace. There was a massive search for weeks, her picture made it to national news channels with video of her parents crying and begging for information.
The dark truth was that her parents were quiverful fundamental Christians in the worst way and she was the oldest daughter. She couldn't live as a parentified slave anymore so she ran away. Her father was always extremely controlling and I don't fault her at all for vanishing in the way she did. She got caught awhile later because she logged on to Facebook at a public library.
As far as I know, she got emancipated and as she brought so much "public shame" to her parents, I expect they didn't want her back. I never saw her again and I hope she's out there living her best life.
According to data collected by the World Population Review, globally, kidnapping is the most common reason for missing person reports. Most often, the victims are children under six. Very often, the perpetrators are the kids’ parents who don’t have custody. In many cases, the child is recovered safely.
Due to the size of the United States population, as well as the systems in place to report disappearances, the country has the highest number of missing person reports on the planet. In the US, 2.3k children are reported missing every single day.
My cousin (who I barely knew) disappeared along with his car, leaving behind a large blood stain in his apartment. Right from the start his roommates were suspects but several years passed and his body was still missing. The case was featured on unsolved mysteries or America's most wanted or one of those and a tip came in giving the location of his car in a nearby river. His body was found in the trunk, and the roommates confessed and went to prison.
I saw this one on Nightline or one of those shows. It's a crazy story. The roommates tried to make it look like he was involved in a cult.
Her name was Scarlet Jean Russo. She went missing in 1986 in Jacksonville, Florida. She was a sex worker and my best friend. Her car was found with the interior bloody. There wasn't much of an investigation. Girls like her... you know the excuses. She has never been found to my knowledge.
She deserved so much better. That kind of treatment by law enforcement is inexcusable.
When I was a kid a friend of mine was kidnapped by his dad. The mom got custody and the dad just showed up one day and took him. It was devastating for everyone, especially the mom and brother (yeah idk why he only took one kid). After about 5 years of police investigations and the mom having to change her legal name and go into hiding, they finally found him and got him back home. He was safe, but he was really quiet for a few years after he got back. I have no idea what happened during that time. What I do know is that he seems incredibly well adjusted now and last I heard he's happily married.
Aside from kidnapping (whether due to personal motives, for ransom, human trafficking, or due to political reasons), other reasons why someone might go missing include forced disappearance, going missing in action, voluntary disappearance, and involuntary disappearance.
Forced disappearance is when criminals or corrupt government agents abduct you. Those who go missing in action are usually either in the military or disappear during civil unrest. Voluntary disappearance means that someone chooses to run away, whether to escape a bad situation at home, to get away from their overwhelming debts, or to hide from either law enforcement or criminals.
Meanwhile, involuntary disappearance usually means that someone may go missing due to their poor mental health or when they suffer an accident alone and away from home.
My best friend.
She was abandoned by her mother when we were in middle school, then her previously absent father reappeared and suddenly took her away. Nobody was able to get into contact or find their location. Basically disappeared into thin ait.
We reunited when we were 21. My friend had been in an abusive situation for many years. When she escaped, she had to lay low until she was sure she was safe and wouldn't be found. Only then could she reach out to me. .
A family friend went to a Metallica concert, during intermission she went out to have a cigarette and the venue wouldn’t let her back in. There’s footage of her walking through the parking lot and then she wasn’t seen again. The ended up finding her body a year or so later, and through DNA, connected it to another r*pe/murder. Because of that DNA they found the guy who did it. It was awful. Morgan was her name and she was beautiful and talented and had her whole life ahead of her.
A neighbor's son vanished while jogging in our neighborhood. He was an avid runner and it was unlike him to not come back on time. Days turned into a frantic search involving the entire community. Unfortunately, his body was found in a nearby river. An investigation revealed he had been struck by a hit-and-run driver and his body was dumped to hide the crime. The perpetrator was eventually caught, but it was a devastating loss for his family.
In the US, over 521.7k people were reported missing in 2021. More than 93.7k of them were still actively missing at the start of 2022.
On the other side of the globe in India, more than 2.1k people go missing every day. This amounts to around 88 women, children, and men missing every hour.
In the United Kingdom, around 180k people disappear every year. However, the real number is thought to be significantly higher, as 353k missing person files are opened every year. 80% of these cases in the UK involve missing children. Most are found within 24 hours of the report being filed.
My coworker, her sister and her niece went missing from a campground in the mountains for 12 days. They had left their campsite to go for a short day hike and got lost somewhere along the way. Both my coworker and her sister were found dead of exposure. Miraculously, her neice survived. Everyone at work was devastated. She was an incredibly kind and wonderful nurse.
My stepsister went missing about a year after my stepdad married my mom. We had just moved into our new house a couple states away from where I grew up and I didn’t know anybody. My stepsister was three years older and helped me make friends at school.
We lived about a mile from school and walked there and back a couple days a week when my mom had to go to work early.
One day I walked back home from school alone because my stepsister had basketball practice. There had been some robberies in the area so my mom had us carry pepper spray with us, and I remember feeling weird that day.
I got home fine, and a few hours later, we hadn’t heard from my stepsister, so my stepdad called the basketball coach to see if practice went late (we didn’t have phones).
The coach said my stepsister had left the school a couple hours before.
A few months later, after a lot of searching, her body was found in the woods near the school. There was pepper spray residue all over her skin.
They never caught the person who did it, but she was killed with the rock the police found near her body.
My mom was in the same Girl Scout troop as Amber Hagerman, the girl in which amber alert is named after. They spent the 4 days it took to find her putting up posters and searching nonstop, where she was eventually found in a ditch. Unfortunately, her abductor was never found.
That poor helpless child was yanked, screaming, off her bike in front of her grandmother's house. Now many children's safety classes teach kids to tightly hang on to their bike if somebody approaches them, and not to let go. Very difficult to drag a kid and a bicycle. Hopefully buys the child time for someone to hear their screams and intervene. May Amber rest in peace and may her family have some comfort knowing that this horrific tragedy changed our world to help better safeguard other children.
A friend from high school. She was skiing and got separated from her party during the day. Sadly she was found deceased in a tree well. She died at 19.
I still think of her often. She was such a bright light and had an amazing future.
My brother. He was 52 years old. He left his house one night and never came back. His car was found abandoned in the woods about a week later. That was four years ago. There have been terrible rumors about what happened to him, but nothing more.
When men showed this kind of behavior they usually committed suicide.
I went to the same elementary school as Michael Dunahee. He was kidnapped off the playground and still not found to this day. I remember after it happened every parent showed up to walk the entire school of kids home. I also remember running ahead of the pack for whatever reason and all the parents were screaming at me to get back. They were terrified.
I grew up in the same city and I think as an adult somehow it's more terrifying knowing how easily it happened. His mom was playing a ball game and he wanted to play nearby, she agreed and never saw her little boy again.
A friend of mine’s sister went missing in the early 80s. We always suspected she was a victim of Gary Ridgeway the Green River Killer. We found out a couple of years ago that she is in fact on his list of suspected victims.
I knew someone who's mom was almost one of his victims. He was talking to her at a bar and tried getting her to go with him but she said no and had a security guard walk her to her car. He ended up taking one of her coworkers instead. She had really bad survivors guilt after she found out what happened and who he was.
My cousin ran away when he was 16 years old (1976). He learn how to get a new identity by watching a “60 minutes” (US) episode.
I did searches from time to time during the early days of the internet. Way before Google. One day, his name popped up.
I called the number but the person did not know who or what I was talking about. I mentioned that I was his cousin and left my name & phone number.
A couple of days later, he called me. Good conversation. With my cousin permission, I reached out to his brother & dad. They all had hours long conversations and we all had a nice family reunion.
My cousin had an interesting life and passed away last year.
My aunt went for a solo hike in 2001 while on holiday. She was never seen again and her body was never found. After 7 years she was declared legally dead. It devastated my grandpa and my dad until they died.
A family friend went for a hike on Thanksgiving day years ago. He was an experienced outdoorsman and wanted to get a quick hike in before dinner. An unexpected snowstorm rolled in that day and he became disoriented in the storm. He called 911 for help and was instructed to stay put for them to send search and rescue to try to find him. When they went out on the trail, he was nowhere to be found. The storm was so bad they suspended search efforts. They looked some after it ended but didn’t find him anywhere. The next spring, search and rescue was training cadaver dogs in a steep canyon and came across human remains which ended up being my friend. He had taken a tremendous fall from a cliff and perished.
At least you know what happen to him. A lot of these post, people really don't know what happened to their friend or relatives.
A girl I knew in high school went missing in 2021 while we were in our 30s. The last known location of her was waist deep in a spring that is known to have alligators. She was in the background of random people’s video and they handed it over to the police during the search. She still hasn’t been found.
My great-grandfather disappeared when his youngest child (my grandfather) was a toddler. Records were finally found, decades later, showing he had moved across the county, changed his name, remarried, and had additional kids.
My brother's middle school teacher. He just didn't show up to school one day, which was very unusual. The school scrambled to find a substitute for him, because they had no notice. We had a whole-school meeting like two days later when he was officially missing where they told us all about it. He left the house that morning as usual, according to his wife later said. He was never seen again. Many search parties were organized, and people looked for months, but they never found him. He is still officially missing today.
Guy I went to school with and kind of grew up around (his mom is one of my mom’s best friends), went missing in 2010 on his way home. Police and search parties searched everywhere looking for him and his truck. He had to pass over a bridge to get to his house, so it should be noted that the lakes were searched by divers and dragging the lake as well. 4 years later (2014) the water levels were very low and someone called in saying they saw a tire sticking out of the surface of the water near the bridge he would have had to cross to get home. It was him and his truck.
At least the family got some closure after 4 long, excruciating years.
Up until about a couple of years ago, never even heard of a car being pulled out of the water. I always thought that if a car crashed into the water, people would notice. It would be noticeable. But with the extreme drought and improvements of diving equipment and amateur online investigators, there have been dozens of cars pulled out of dried up lakes and rivers. People missing for 20, 30, 40 or more years found in their car in the water. Tragic, stupid, messy and sad.
Family we went camping with a lot, the dad went missing for weeks.
Turns out he'd run off with his secretary. His male secretary. This was in the 80s, so it was a huge scandal for a small town. I don't think he ever came back to the town again, and I'm not even sure if his kids have any contact with him. It kind of makes me sad to think maybe he was gay the whole time and felt like he just couldn't. It's a pity he had to wreck his whole family's life to get away.
When my cousin and her husband (and kids) went on a vacation to Curaçao (around 35C that time of year) a few years ago. The area is covered in thick jungle, and it was made clear to everyone who went there that you ***needed*** (or was required) to stay on the paths. He decided to go for an evening stroll while the rest stayed at their cabin. Took a one liter bottle of water and his phone with him (nearly no reception as soon as you walked into the bush), some gum and went off path anyway (because he probably got curious.) Search and rescue were busy doing their searches (along with volunteers) around a large area, and he was found five days after he went missing about two kilometers from where he went off path. He died from a heat induced heart attack, but was probably already completely unconscious before that happened due to dehydration. He was 47.
My cousin was kidnapped on her way to school. It was over 20 years ago and she’s not been found.
My sibling ran away in the middle of the night summer before our senior year of high school. Woke up and saw they were gone, called the police and filed a report. Found out they had been picked up by one of their (adult) internet friends they met on discord, and then flown across the country to live with their other adult internet friends. Was a total of 6 months before we could get them out of there (went absolutely radio silent for the last 4 months), and they ended up missing the entirety of senior year. Fortunately they're doing well now.
My friend went missing right after Christmas 2017 in FL and is still missing.
He called me the week prior and sounded panicky. I was super busy at work and told him I'd call him back when I got home in an hour. Well, I got busy with kids, dinner and the normal family stuff and totally forgot to call him back. To this day I feel like he was calling for help and I let him down.
A friend and coworker, we went to a bar after work. Toward the end of the night, he met up with a cousin and left for a party with them. He didn't show up for work the next day, then the next. Police showed up at work asking questions, as his girlfriend had reported him missing. Investigation revealed that he was last seen leaving the party after a small fight. His cellphone was found in a garbage truck that had been emptying dumpsters. His body was found a month and a half later in the river. It was ruled an accidental drowning. So many questions and not many answers...
Miss you Bug.
If the cellphone was in a dumpster, it probably wasn't an accident.
My friend in college. We were athletes on the track team together. Her car was found crashed into a snow bank the next state over. That was 20 years ago and to this day I think I see her in random places on public transit etc… I still can’t accept that she’s most likely dead.
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It is, mainly because people have forgotten how dangerous and unpredictable nature can be. But in general it's like living in a big city: traffic is dangerous, but by and large you know how to manage it. Still, accidents happen, even without anyone's fault. Same goes for hiking. You learn the rules, you go prepared = you are much more likely to survive.
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Some of these stories were heartbreaking. I feel so bad for the families of the people that died and feel sad knowing how scared the people who died were before they perished. It's sad to think someones life can end just like that. You go on living,doing the things you love and suddenly you're dead.
My stepmom went missing in February. She was bipolar and had been having a very rough time with her mental health, so when I got the call she was missing, I knew I'd never see her alive again. Sure enough, 5 days later she was found dead in her car in a random parking lot. She had shot herself. Rest in peace, Karen.
It is, mainly because people have forgotten how dangerous and unpredictable nature can be. But in general it's like living in a big city: traffic is dangerous, but by and large you know how to manage it. Still, accidents happen, even without anyone's fault. Same goes for hiking. You learn the rules, you go prepared = you are much more likely to survive.
Load More Replies... Some of these stories were heartbreaking. I feel so bad for the families of the people that died and feel sad knowing how scared the people who died were before they perished. It's sad to think someones life can end just like that. You go on living,doing the things you love and suddenly you're dead.
My stepmom went missing in February. She was bipolar and had been having a very rough time with her mental health, so when I got the call she was missing, I knew I'd never see her alive again. Sure enough, 5 days later she was found dead in her car in a random parking lot. She had shot herself. Rest in peace, Karen.
