Girl Helps Jock With Homework To Ward Off Bullies, Years Later He Offers To Buy Her A House
Many people have learned firsthand that bullies can make school a living hell. Redditor ‘pasanquecosas’ was no exception, but for her, things took a turn for the better when one of the popular guys started to defend her.
He didn’t do that out of completely altruistic motives, though, as she was expected to take care of his homework. After graduating, they never spoke again, until one day he messaged her with a rather unexpected offer—he wanted to buy her a house.
Bullies can make one’s years in high school a living hell
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This redditor’s classmate would defend her from the bullies in exchange for her doing his homework
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Many school-aged children have had to face bullying, be it at school or online
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It’s clear to anyone who’s ever stepped foot into a school that bullies can make the years there needlessly more difficult. And unfortunately, they do to quite many of their fellow students. Data from the US suggests that roughly one-in-five of students aged 12 to 18 have experienced bullying nationwide, usually by someone physically stronger or larger or by someone with more social influence or more money than them.
While the majority of bullying reportedly happens in the hallway and stairwell or the classroom, it tends to follow students outside, too, both on and off school grounds, ‘thanks’ to bullying online and over text. Pew Research Center emphasized that nearly half of US teens have experienced cyberbullying, and more than half of them say that it’s a major problem among kids of their age.
The grim statistics only prove that finding a bully is fairly easy, but stumbling upon someone who would ward them off is arguably far more difficult. Which is unfortunate, considering that having a defender can have a significant impact on the well-being of the person being bullied. Research suggests that defenders can mitigate the negative consequences of victimization by making the victims feel less anxious, less depressed, and increasing their self-esteem.
Acts of kindness can benefit both the receiver and the good doer themselves
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While the OP’s defender wasn’t exactly warding bullies off solely out of good will at the time, their “symbiotic” relationship seemingly benefited both sides. That might be one of the reasons the redditor didn’t feel like she “did something worthy of such gratitude”, as she pointed out in the comments, when she learned that her classmate wanted to buy her a house.
But such a gesture, too, can arguably benefit both sides—research suggests that kind deeds positively affect both the person on the receiving end and the good doer themselves. “Prosocial behavior—altruism, cooperation, trust and compassion—are all necessary ingredients of a harmonious and well-functioning society,” the lead author, research assistant professor at the University of Hong Kong, Dr. Bryant P.H. Hui, pointed out for the American Psychological Association. “It is part of the shared culture of humankind, and our analysis shows that it also contributes to mental and physical health.”
Moreover, the research suggested that a kind gesture of any proportion matters, as they add up to a significant impact at a societal level, and found that random acts of kindness seem to benefit people the most.
While the situation came as a shock to the redditor, it was seemingly well-thought out by her former classmate who paid for three years of her physical therapy when she politely refused the house—the same number of years she took care of his homework back in school. Fellow redditors seemingly paid notice to the fact and suggested that he knew exactly what he was doing, which is why they encouraged the OP to accept the classmate’s wholesome gesture of gratitude.
People in the comments shared their thoughts, they encouraged the OP to take the offer
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Pay it forward people, pay it forward. What starts as a smile or good morning to a senior citizen at the store or maybe a brew bought anonymously at the local coffee shop becomes a slightly better day for someone, they then take a little bit of belief in human kind onwards, it improves their outlook, if it ends there that’s cool, if it goes onwards though it builds a nicer town, state, county, region, and on and on. Pay it forward. ❤️
I helped a friend during one of the worst periods of her life. Not expecting anything other than making sure she made it through and knew she had support. To me it was just a simple gesture, but to her and her family it meant the world. They did something very kind for me because of what I did to help, I tried turning it down but they similarly did it where I couldn't. People remember your kindness cause honestly the world can be very cruel.
"You dont get to decide whether or not I do things for people that make me happy" is a weird asf thing to say to somebody who just said no to your gift.
Depends on what it was in response to. That's why when I do things for people and they demur, I tell them I'm doing it as much for me as much as for them.
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I came to a public middle school right after being in Catholic school since kindergarten. One of my first projects was to make a Golgotha sculpture out of clay for my Nana, because she was SUPER religious & the reason I went to said Catholic school (and church). I was teased about it, but then again, i was teased about everything back then. Fast forward to my early-mid 20's, and I ran into one of the former "popular" kids who stopped me to talk. He said that MY conviction of my faith stayed with him all these years, and when he was in a very dark place with d***s & alcohol, he remembered my faith & found God. I didn't have the hear to tell him by that time I was no longer religious, and I just congratulated him on getting his life together. You never know how your life will impact someone else.
What the guy did was very cool, because he most likely understood that they had an unequal relationship during school and he was exploiting OP. She writes he barely talked to her school and seemed angry whenever they talked. So my guess is, he desperately needed the better grades, but didn't really want to help her. But then he grew up and realised: he only did what everyone else should have already done, being fair to OP. He only gave her what she deserved! Dignity and peace are not privileges, they are basic decency. He should have stood up for OP no matter what and not expecting anything in return. But he let her pay for his protection. Still, it helped her and he was so young, so it's acceptable. But now as an adult he has grown and realised, had OP the support she deserves, that anyone would deserve really, she'd be in a much better place. And he's in a position to do that now and pay back her service during their school times. That's amazing growth there.
Pay it forward people, pay it forward. What starts as a smile or good morning to a senior citizen at the store or maybe a brew bought anonymously at the local coffee shop becomes a slightly better day for someone, they then take a little bit of belief in human kind onwards, it improves their outlook, if it ends there that’s cool, if it goes onwards though it builds a nicer town, state, county, region, and on and on. Pay it forward. ❤️
I helped a friend during one of the worst periods of her life. Not expecting anything other than making sure she made it through and knew she had support. To me it was just a simple gesture, but to her and her family it meant the world. They did something very kind for me because of what I did to help, I tried turning it down but they similarly did it where I couldn't. People remember your kindness cause honestly the world can be very cruel.
"You dont get to decide whether or not I do things for people that make me happy" is a weird asf thing to say to somebody who just said no to your gift.
Depends on what it was in response to. That's why when I do things for people and they demur, I tell them I'm doing it as much for me as much as for them.
Load More Replies... I came to a public middle school right after being in Catholic school since kindergarten. One of my first projects was to make a Golgotha sculpture out of clay for my Nana, because she was SUPER religious & the reason I went to said Catholic school (and church). I was teased about it, but then again, i was teased about everything back then. Fast forward to my early-mid 20's, and I ran into one of the former "popular" kids who stopped me to talk. He said that MY conviction of my faith stayed with him all these years, and when he was in a very dark place with d***s & alcohol, he remembered my faith & found God. I didn't have the hear to tell him by that time I was no longer religious, and I just congratulated him on getting his life together. You never know how your life will impact someone else.
What the guy did was very cool, because he most likely understood that they had an unequal relationship during school and he was exploiting OP. She writes he barely talked to her school and seemed angry whenever they talked. So my guess is, he desperately needed the better grades, but didn't really want to help her. But then he grew up and realised: he only did what everyone else should have already done, being fair to OP. He only gave her what she deserved! Dignity and peace are not privileges, they are basic decency. He should have stood up for OP no matter what and not expecting anything in return. But he let her pay for his protection. Still, it helped her and he was so young, so it's acceptable. But now as an adult he has grown and realised, had OP the support she deserves, that anyone would deserve really, she'd be in a much better place. And he's in a position to do that now and pay back her service during their school times. That's amazing growth there.
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