40 Women Share Something Completely Offensive A Man Told Them Thinking It Was A Compliment
Whatever happened to simple compliments? Like, your “you look lovely today” and “you’ve done a great job” or “you look like a dude who can lift two oxen.” No, everyone has to ruin it by not thinking what they say and being too elaborate for their own good.
Incidentally, women of Reddit have been recently sharing all the dumb stuff men complimented without realizing it’s not a compliment, but rather an offensive statement.
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I don't like men complimenting me by bringing other women down. I work in a male dominated field and a lot of men seem to think it's a compliment to say "most women couldn't do this" or "wow, you drink beer, I'm glad you're not a fruity drink girl!"
Women can like whatever they want without it changing their personality and the best way to compliment someone is to compliment them, not put down other people.
Omg when I was a skimpy (topless waitresses for parties etc), you’d get guys pulling you aside and saying stuff like “you’re so much hotter than her, she got *insert insult such as cellulite etc* and you don’t ‘ not knowing we were friends and telling each other out back during breaks 😂 they are so lame, those kind of guys,
It's only a matter of time before the guy will put you down to someone else--if he isn't doing it already.
Certain dudes (not all men) seem to want to jockey for position in ALL conversation, leading with fascinating stories about large fish, outrageous salaries, the importance of every accomplishment they've ever done... and there is always the implication that they have somehow bested others in these feats. It seems ingrained to interact in this way.
Did you mean "back-handed compliment"?
Load More Replies...Yea right. Only heard women judging men’s drinks. Never the other way
Probably the most disgusting would be stuff similar to "i can't wait until you're legal".
When I was 17 a man in his 50's told me "we can't f**k until you're 18, but we could date until then". 1, creepy 🤢, 2nd, was he expecting me to be like 'what a law abiding gentleman, let's grab a milkshake' 🙄
"I can't f**k you yet, but we can fool around until you turn 18. Oh, and my name is Steve. So... we're a couple now?" And to a 17-YEAR-OLD GIRL. I'm so sorry this happened to you
Load More Replies...Most women heard this at some point. So very creepy. i know we don't want to scare the youth or whatever, but I think we need to teach kids/adolescents phrases or intentions to watch out for.
It's sad, but you're right. I work in a restaurant with a busy bar and just last week I had to tell one of the bussers, she's 17, to avoid a certain customer that set off my creep alarm. This is not the first time this has happened.
Load More Replies...I never get it why these creeps think they are attractive for so much younger girls
They're in denial - appropriate, since that's what they're gonna get.
Load More Replies...The nationwide countdown in the United States waiting for the Olsen twins to turn 18 was absolutely appalling.
The Sun "newspaper" published pictures of singer Charlotte Church on holiday in a bikini under the strapline "Charlotte's Looking CHEST Beautiful!". Church was fifteen at the time. It's astonishing the amount of noncery the tabloids will peddle while simultaneously encouraging their idiot readers to throw rocks through a paediatrician's window.
Load More Replies...Got that for the first time at six years old. Guy said he was going to marry me. He was in his 30s.
Was part of an adult marching band in my teens - had members from mid teens to 60s. We had to go out of town for shows/competitions, so lots of time spent on travel buses. When I was 15, I was seated back with a late 20s/early 30s dude who had recently replaced another person from the drum line. Seemed nice enough. Post show, I was doing stretches so my legs wouldn’t cramp after 3 days of marching. Dude looks at me and says to look him up when I turned 18. Not sure who smacked him first - his 17 year old niece, or the group of boys who had claimed me as fam. The niece was quick to point out how inappropriate he was. I’m not sure it was better or worse that he thought I was 17 and not 15.
I was 8 months pregnant at a Flea Market in Florida. Walked by a dude with my ex and he looked at us and said “Both white, done right” “Keeping the white breed alive”, “beautiful”. My ex immediately said “Oh I’m not the dad, he’s black.” The look on the dudes once confident face….
What is WRONG with those people???? Not the preg girl and the ex, the others!!! I am REELING!!!
Load More Replies...Honestly, No one is actually fully white, and no one is actually fully black, we are all a sort of pale pinkish beige to a dark brown beige color. Like who cares!?! Racists are so stupid it just makes no dang sense.
Its just an excuse to cut people out of their hearts so they dont have to care for/about them/live side by side peacefully with them. Horrendously inhumane!
Load More Replies...A racist a*****e came into the donut shop where I used to work and went on a racist tirade about black people. I shut him down by saying my stepfather was black and told him he should leave. I was fired because he was a regular.
But why did you have to have mention your relationship with a Black person to say anything? Just call him out on his racism point blank.
Load More Replies...So, a Redditor asked ladies of Reddit to share things that were absolutely offensive to them despite the guy genuinely (seemingly) thinking it’s a compliment. Otherwise they wouldn’t have said it, right?
The post reached 7,000 upvotes and generated a conversation of 4,400 comments.
Basically everything that's followed by "for a woman".
I used to drive a huge black dually truck and at gas stations I got a lot of "that's a big truck for a little girl." F*ck you. It's just driving. It doesn't require a d*ck.
At work, I once had a father, with his young child, say "You're pretty brave for a women" while I was bringing a cockroach (on a paper) outside. Don't get me wrong, I hate cockroaches, but I can handle myself around them, thank you very much!
I'm trying to find a way it works, but I'm struggling, lol. How about, "You're pretty dumb for a woman, because women are usually really smart." Seems like a stretch.....
I didn't know he was behind me until I heard him next to my ear. "You smell so good I could kidnap you." The tone froze my blood. He was a truck driver and older than dirt. I hope he drove off a cliff into a frozen lake.
"Use physical violence if you don't like what someone says." Great idea. 😒😒
Load More Replies...I had a neighbor who moved into my units and came knocking as I got out of the shower on my door to introduce himself, I said I wasn’t cool with opening the door etc as I had only a towel on and his answer was ‘it’s not like I’m gonna rape you! Just let me in!’ And I was told him to go away 😂 his brother had to come apologise as he just inherited him to look after, after meth abuse
Call the police... Technically that's a kidnap threat. At the very least it'd serve him right and he'd be spending a few hours in a police station being asked about it.
When I was 14 I sat at a bus stop, a man sat down next to me and said "you know, I'm 68 now but I'm still into young pretty girls like you".
Made the hair at the back of my neck stand up and I immediately took off. Since then I could never view an old man as just a cute grandpa.
Nope - just a pervert. Pedophiles go for pre-pubescent children.
Load More Replies...So many of us share the same experience. They somehow acr like their old age gives them the right to say icky things to young girls.
And they seem to think it's some kind of compliment. 🙄 🤮
Load More Replies...When I was 19 I went for a job interview as a junior secretary (1973). At the end of the interview I thanked the man for his time and said something like how much I would enjoy working there. He replied "with those legs you don’t have anything to worry about. I just know we’ll be very good friends." When he called to offer me the job, I told him I had accepted a job elsewhere. I lied.
Ugh. I've always been distrustful of old men, no matter how nice they could be. I've had similar experiences, and it just totally changes how you see a certain type of person.
In all fairness, I have heard some old ladies/women saying some really inappropriate things to boys/young men. I don't think they get a pass either.
If we were to consider this from a psychological perspective, there are three kinds of people: those who think before they speak, those who speak before they think, and those who can do both at an equal speed.
The rarest breed of folks is definitely that last one, and you might not have met any such individual, but they exist, rest assured.
I will literally never forget it:
"You're not conventionally like, a hot girl. But you're still like, pretty. Which is so much better."
The sprint I spranted.
That profile update is legendary. Kudos.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of the time, actually times a guy said to me "you're pretty for a fat girl". Thanks motherf***er 🤨
we need to remedy that. You’re an amazing and beautiful person!
Load More Replies...I need explanation please, because it sounds like something I would blurt out to.
His first sentence was insulting. He could have just not said that part at all. A simple "you're pretty" would have been better than...all of that.
Load More Replies...I can actually understand what he's trying to say here tho, unlike some of the others
“You look less fat today”.
The two worst ones I've been told: I was about 14, at my brother's wedding when an older male relative, around 45-50 years old, tells me I should really watch what I eat otherwise I'd end up chubby like my mom. The other one was when my dad's best friend (then also around 50M) told me when I was 16 that I had a back the size of a ping pong table. That stuck with me well into adulthood.
I’m 5’ 2" and chunky. I also wear a size 5 shoe. I once had a male co-worker say to me "it’s a wonder those little feet can hold you up".
Not me but I heard a colleague say "I bet you were a stunner when you were younger" to our COO at a staff party.
I knew he meant it as a compliment but ouch.....
My boss is a woman and I would never say such things to her. I do appreciate her sense of style but I express it in a appropriate manner
I think the issue here also is saying she WAS a stunner 😧
Load More Replies...Someone needs to write a book about appropriate things to say to the opposite sex. Particularly for men, I am a man and I don't ever say anything like this to any women. Like what's the goal here with these idiots? Do they actually think women are gonna be like oh wow thank you so much for kind of insulting me! Let me strip down so you can impregnate me right here and now!
Yes, yes this - we need more poets a la "Cyrano" to help all of us out - c'mon poets, spring is here and summer is coming up - what say you???
Load More Replies...I get the intent but I wouldn't say something like that out loud. But it was true for my grandmother. She was always just my grandmother and a great one and she died at 93. She was cute enough I guess but to me she was just an old lady that was my grandma I loved. But I was looking back through some really old photos when she was young and she was pretty hot. Not 'sexy' pics because this was back in like the 20s but as a young lady she was very pretty.
I wonder how long he remained at the firm before being given the sack.
It all boils down to how one’s brain and tongue are wired. Human nature expert Andrea Kihlstedt exemplified this with her husband. He’s a thinker before a talker—so much so, in fact, that sometimes whenever Andrea engages him in a conversation and asks him a question, he takes so much time to come back with an answer that she thinks he might not have heard her.
That he wishes he could fuse my head on my best friend's body. I'm more conventionally attractive, but she's petite and I'm sturdier, like my strong fisherman ancestors lol. Dude genuinely thought he was complimenting us both. 🤣.
"Awe you want to decapitate me and sew my head onto a different decapitated body?! So sweet!" 😨🙄
Load More Replies...Because we all just love being reduced to body parts. Mix and match the parts, build your dream girl! Nevermind that you're objectifying two whole real women in the most wildly self-centered way possible...
he seriously thought he was at build-a-bear or smth
Load More Replies...Ahh...perchance to throw HIS head away and to screw on one that knows better....
I think that is happening as s natural consequence - i hope his conscience said, "Dude, what was THAT???" And he remembered to try again in a less self-centered way the next time
Load More Replies..."And I wish that I could fuse your friend's junk onto you. It would be SO much more satisfying."
A bloke came up to my wife and said” you’re too pretty to be in a wheelchair”.
Well tell that to my legs. They aren't aware that attraction and mobility are related.
My reply - "Watch what you're saying. My right hook arm is level with your crotch..."
Gotten a few “too bad about the body, your face is pretty”, or some variation about how I’d be almost good looking if I was skinnier. I’ve always been “fluffy”, but not morbid. I have issues with water retention in my legs, regardless of playing sports and being active, so svelte was never in the cards.
One time a cab driver told me I looked “kidnapable”.
Orange and handcuffs, not everyone can pull of that look, but that taxi driver...
Load More Replies...“And I think you’d look good in a body bag.”
Load More Replies...Get the description, cab number and name of cab company, then call the police.
Well, he did—he was just considering his words before answering carefully. Thoroughly.
Conversely, Andrea also has a friend who speaks before she thinks. Sometimes her speech gets so fast that she begins answering a question that her brain registered halfway through the conversation, but that wasn’t the actual one.
«How do you not have a boyfriend? You’re so pretty!» Five min later: «You’re very pretty.» Said to me when I was 21, by my 50m psychologist.
I know, right? A 50 meter tall anybody sounds scary af.
Load More Replies...When I was little, my best friend's parents were having marriage trouble and went to see a counselor. Next thing you know, his mom's left his dad to marry the marriage counselor... he always creeped me out a little, even before I learned the backstory. He strikes me as a smooth manipulator. Wish he'd have lost his license to practice, at least.
Load More Replies...I hate being told that. It's always the most inappropriate man that says it as a veiled 'being nice' creepy statement.
I mentioned to a psychologist on my first visit that a problem I had - not the main problem but down the list - was weight gain and wanting to lose weight, to which she replied "Tell me about it, and I'm bigger than you" (or words like that). This is about me, I wanted to scream at her. Instead, I never went back to see her.
Highly unprofessional, even if it had been the patient who brought up the subject of anxiety about looks.
That’s a breach of ethics. Report him for it. He could lose his license, and you will have saved so many other vulnerable young women in his “care” from having their progress totally torpedoed by him making such creepy comments like that to them. Cripes. Think of how much damage he did in his career, if he was always like that.
Same exact thing happened to me when I was 20. He elevator eyed me and said the same.
Not a woman but recently heard a guy (customer) say to a woman (clerk) "You're so pretty if knew where you lived I'd totally watch you with my drone".
Now I wonder, is it legal to shoot down a drone that's hovering over your dwelling?
Just use a makeshift slingshot and keep some rocks handy 👍
Load More Replies...I'd give them an address.... Of course, it's the police station, but still... lol
A customer saw me sweeping the floor. Looked at me with hungry wolf eyes, nearly salivating, and said “You’re sure gonna make a great wife one day”. P R I C K.
Lmao. My Grandma said that to me when I was about 10 or 12. I was cleaning house, and she said "You're going to make someone a good wife one day." I'm a guy.
Back in '15 I moved to a new place. Had a technician from Telekom come over to install my internet access thingamajig. Place was dusty and messy because I had literally moved in a day before. Dude said I needed a girlfriend to clean the place up. I didn't have anything witty to say then, but damn, that was dumb.
This douchy Russian guy I used to work with couldn't stop praising me for using a screwdriver to put a mailbox on our office door. Like he couldn't have imagined a woman could figure out how to do it. I wanted to kick him in the nuts. Hard.
Those sound like two extremes, but they signify one’s thinking patterns and the way their brain processes information. The easier approach to this is to adapt to it. By that, she means that you can train yourself not to jump in immediately with your response to a response. Which, when you think about it, is a good thing—patience, and not cutting off someone mid-way.
'You're pretty! For an Indian' 💀.
dude can go to frickin' hell! Us indians are real pretty!
Load More Replies...So racist! And wtf, does this guy live in a hole? Some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen are Indian!
The heck, Indians are really pretty alright?! All humans are and the only that could change this is this kinda attitude
Even if you're indian or not, everyone's pretty in their own way. Except for that guy. That guy's butt-ugly.
now listen here you so called "man" :narrcistic as* you deplorable excuse for life you utter disgrace to humanity you uncultured egregious nincompoop you little bastard ( please continue the line of insults)
There was an adopted girl from Sri Lanka in my school when I was young. She was voted Lucia (Swedish pre-Christmas tradition, i.e. the prettiest girl in town). I know India isn't Sri Lanka, but they are pretty close. Lucia-661b...0e4542.jpg
"You have a face that would do well in trafficking."...by this random guy walking past my car while I was sitting in a parking lot, waiting for my daughter.. I rolled up my window.
How come no one tells me they want to kidnap me and sell me into slavery as a prostitute 🙄
You have a face that would do well meeting a closed fist 🤔
“I feel like we are already in a relationship but if you promise to lose weight we can make it official”.
Maybe the dude thinks that she’s lucky for “a man like him” (in his eyes not mine) to “give her a chance”
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Load More Replies...“If you let that nasty gash under your nose heal shut, I’ll consider it.”
You know, you could lose a tiny bit of weight too. Your tongue weighs about 99 grams. Let's remove that, that should fix the problem!
Argh! My old roommate was seeing a woman, and told her she'd be "wife material" if she lost 15 lbs. I ran into him years later and went to shame him. They're married. She lost 25 lbs.
If you go away and never come anywhere near me again, I will have lost whatever it is you weigh.
Some people process their thoughts as they speak while others need to think what to say before they say it. And understanding that in yourself will help you identify the same thing in others.
Ask yourself, do you respond quickly while your mind is still thinking about it? Or do you wait to muster a thought and then execute it with your noise-hole?
“You have horse legs”
(Guy intended to compliment my leg musculature but instead left me envisioning myself as a literal centaur).
I mean… this one is quite nice, a little bit confused, but not too bad compared to the other ones on this list
possibly it was a horse rider and horses were what came to his mind first
Load More Replies...I would never say that out loud but I did make a similar mental comparison once. For a while back in the 90s I had a female gym trainer who used to be a professional body builder, placing first in some national competitions. Retired now but someone you could easily find online. She was well muscled and wore a tighter style of sweats in the gym. I found myself looking at her leg muscles and thinking how they reminded me of the muscling you see when they walk a high end race horse.
"And on top of a horse's legs is a horse's a*s. Which brings us to you."
So you can easily kill him with one kick or at least shatter his jaw?
My friend got a horsy "compliment" too: "Your a$$ looks like a good draft horse mare's behind"
"I've always wanted to have sex with a black woman".
Sorry off topic but I need to express my envy and adoration of the clothing in the pic. What a breath of fresh air , IMHO! ❤️🔥 Here in rural Germany nobody ever makes colourful++chic+feminine clothes. // people here tend to almost uniformly wear bequem (German for "cozy/inhabitable/snuggly/ not restricting/nice to move in") +drab+ conservative + unisex stuff.
"I've always wanted to f*** a fat girl" said a married guy trying to get me in the sack!
This one is off-putting for sure. It would, however, go from creepy to funny if the OP was NOT a black woman.
"Bill Clinton would have loved for you to be his intern" - said to me back in the late 90s and still disgusted by this comment to this day.
Poor Monica...she was just 20/21 when all this happened. A young woman and the president of the United States. Come on y'all.
And howhe denied it, but still nodded his head during the answer.. 🙂↕️
Load More Replies...The rule of thumb, however, is to always try to think before you speak. While the other approach is definitely an option—you need to hear yourself think and whatnot—but not everyone is ready to hear your wild thoughts. The world is ripe with people looking to misinterpret and misunderstand things. So, train yourself to think first, and speak later. We’ll wait.
"just so you know I really like brown women, I can handle the heat" - some random dude Like what are you even talking about ☠️ go home ☠️.
“I can handle the heat” Bet you can handle a broken nose as well. Your face is the exact thing I have been training to punch all these years
When I was younger and didn't know about being gay, I used to think this girl must've met a lot of really stupid guys and just needed to be gay just to escape men like these!!!
Heat? If he's referring to people who got brown because they fried themselves in those humanfriers they ... to get some tan ... some people did this excessively, and they're called Solariumneger at times in germany ... if that, by any means, is what he means, it's somewhat reasonably done so, but otherwise ... hm ...
For a girl, you really seem to understand Science.
My (majority female) chemistry class, (female) science teachers and all of the literal (all female) scientists I work with would have something to say to this bloke. I just want to speak to him. (like mate in high school I was in an advanced biomedicine workshop at the hospital labs for high school students, like the best of the best... out of 30 odd students, two boys. And all of the other extracurricular science things I did in high school, once you got to the really advanced things, it was mainly girls.)
Wow! It would have been reversed when I was in school...(more males). And if you, a girl, wanted to matriculate, you obviously weren't looking for a husband! It. Was. Awful.
Load More Replies...My astrophysics major daughter would like to knee you in the balls, if she can find them.
My biochemist older sister (doctorate's degree, black belt in taekwondo) would probably like to join.
Load More Replies..."Yes, please step to this window so I can show you what I understand about gravity."
Again, no guy is ever going to say woman. It will always be 'female' or 'girl'. Let's just start calling men penis-heads.
Ngl, I would either punched him or come up with a backhanded "compliment" of my own to throw back at him.
"You mean like Ada Lovelace, Heddy Lamarr, Marie Curie and her daughter?"
“It’s pretty impressive how hard you’re working to become a philosopher when youre pretty enough to just go find some rich guy and live off him for the rest of your life.”.
🤣thank you, I needed a good reason to cackle and snort right now 😍
Load More Replies...When she graduates from philosophy school and becomes a professional philosopher, and goes to work at a philosophy firm, she won't need a rich guy.
If you are a philosophy major, you will need a second job. Maybe consider it a little?
I was told many times in my youth that I was too pretty to work and should just find a rich man and live off. Looking back, I now realize that most of the men saying this meant they wanted to be that man, and were probably offended when I laughed and said that was never going to happen!
Huh? That's confusing. I thought they were supposed to hate women who do that not encouraging them to that direction.
It’s pretty impressive how you don’t have to work at all at being a misogynistic pig
It helps to evaluate your answer in terms of whether what you’re about to say is true, helpful, important, necessary and kind. Incidentally, that spells think. You’re welcome.
But it is true—telling someone lies might hurt them, let alone ruin your reputation. Telling someone something helpful will actually bring good to them.
"You're too pretty to be in pain" ... Thanks pal I'll put in a complaint for incorrect punishment.
So looking into the mirror didn't fix my aching ankle, so either physical beauty and pain are entirely unrelated or I'm ugly. Well, I know what I'll choose to believe.
I choose to believe your back hurts AND you're beautiful 😁
Load More Replies...In almost all comments men dwell to exterior beauty way to much. It's depressing how swallow they are. If I was that beautiful I would be probably stay single. I am not interested be seen as a mannequin.
ohhhh well, you must really hurt to the core., looking at you is the only pain I have fella! .
I think the worst thing was a question: '*How much are you*?' This was quickly followed by a sneering laugh, his mates joining in.
That’s when you act confused and make him explain that he wants to purchase another human being. If he has any shame AT ALL he’ll hear himself and be embarrassed.
I've tried that in real life, it didn't work. The guys start to get mad, start insulting you (the woman) for not being smart enough to get their crude joke, then they get handy, they want to show you what they were talking about. When you walk away rather than risk getting SA'd, they all have a good laugh at your expense.
Load More Replies...This happened to me...when I was 16. It was asked to my male friend in regards to me. I was wearing a vintage dress w genuine 60s gogo boots. I thought I looked nice. My friend, after the awkwardness wore off and finally got rid of the guy and and his friends (they did not want to take "no" for an answer), laughed hysterically at the audacity and said he would never have let then take me. He was a 6'4 skinhead (my friend)and I was a 5'6 115 pnd girl. "They" were what looked like extremely rich middle easterners. My friends kept a close eye on me the rest of the night. Made me so scared to ever try and be "pretty".
"Sweetheart, even if I was? Just by looking at you? (quick distainful sweeping looking him up and down) I would never lower my standards that far."... Turn around and walk off.
I wouldve given him an expensive price with a completely straight face and watch him panic
I was talking about dieting with a coworker and he said “don’t lose any weight, girls your size are the most fun to eat out” 🤢.
Ewwwww 🤢 If I'd managed to get past my revulsion a good reply could be it's because he's having to make up for his penis 🙄🤢
Generally when phrased that way, that's a VERY sexual comment.
Load More Replies...Same goes for whether it’s important and necessary—especially in this day and age where we filter out the information based on how important and necessary it is to us.
If a person speaks the opposite, however, that will immediately put you on that Reddit list as someone who is hateful, hurtful or plain old dumb.
"Your eyes are pretty and big for an Asian".
NGL I am so confused about where the racist slant eye c**p came from. They are no different from any other ethnic group in my experience.
I live in Japan and have seen a LOT of diversity in how Japanese people look. Interestingly, there's a kind of subtle favoritism that gets shown to those Japanese who have lighter skin and rounder eyes. It's really sad, and I think a lot of people don't even realize they're doing it.
Load More Replies...okay what 😭 I’m Asian and I’ve heard a lot of things but WHY must you put FOR an ASIAN
So much depends on your environment while growing up. I went to school with a large "mixed bag" of kids from all kinds of backgrounds. Asian kids I've known since grammar school don't stand out so much except for their achievements and friendships. I'm not saying I'm "color blind", but young kids don't really care. And we carried it all through school and university. And in the workplace as adults.
Maybe someone should explain to him that facial characteristics are different when two different races mix together. It's biology dude.
"Not having a job looks great on you" - said to me by an ex after I'd been unemployed for a month and had lost considerable weight due to stress & etc.
Because they are men and no one has ever called them out for inconsiderate behavior. It's ingrained in men to be aggressive, impolite bullies while women are taught to be nice at all costs.
Load More Replies...I lost my job a year after we had moved to a new town, where I only knew the people at work. Before we moved, I had lost 16 kg of weight with the help of Weight Watchers. After I lost my job, I spent 9 months comfort eating and gained it all and then some. Then I got my old job back again.
Not a woman and didn't happen to me but i witnessed it. Guy and girl giving it big licks on the dance floor for a few songs. After they were finished he said "You don't sweat much for a fat burd".......that has been seared in my memory for the best part of fifteen years. Still gobsmacked when i think about it.
Unrelated, but as a 'fat burd', or any 'burd', please do not ask why or comment that I am sweating alot... in August... running around working in a restaurant... getting you another lemonade. Just, please don't!
sweating is normal. I personally prefer it that the cigarette smell.
Load More Replies...This joke was old when I was not, although the traditional phraseology is "lass" not "bird"
It's 'bird', and this has been a traditional anecdote for decades so OP probably didn't witness it at all.
That is a very old joke, very old and not funny, but a joke none the less.
IDK... I have heard "You don't sweat much for a fat girl" used a joke between baby boomers. (FY I am Gen X) I do not know if it was a reference to some movie or something but I have definitely heard it said ironically a few times.
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Ever got an inappropriate compliment that could make this list? Share them in the comment section below!
I got a new sports car last year & when a man saw it he asked if my husband let me drive his car. My husband drives a truck.
When I was earning my private pilot’s license, both men AND women asked me, “What does your husband think of that?”
Well, to be fair, sports cars are classic midlife crisis territory
Load More Replies...Talking to a lady in an estate sale line, she was "quite amazed that my husband would let me go to a major 1 day antique sale with a male friend. Her husband would never allow her to do that" (this was in 2013). I did my "innocent question" thing- "why would it be a problem? my husband and his wife didn't want to go and my husband was glad I had company". She couldn't answer that one.
Have to admit I stared too long at "my husband and his wife" not realizing you meant your husband and your FRIEND'S wife
Load More Replies...I had the opposite. I’ve always driven trucks, and I get comments about my husband letting me drive his truck. It got much worse when I went up to a full size instead of mid. I always responded that my hubs hated driving MY truck (since I’ve been married - and very true, he hates big vehicles). Before I got married, I didn’t need a man to own a truck.
When I was about 12, my mom thought we ought to move to a larger house, so she went around and looked at different properties (my dad wasn't against it, he was just busy with work). At one house, the real estate agent looked behind her and asked "When is HE coming?", meaning my dad, as in "the one who makes the decisions". Mom just turned in the door and never checked out any houses he was advertising. (We did move to a larger house, which my parents are still living in, 42 years later.)
“You’d be so pretty with makeup on.”.
I mean...kinda...but everyone can still hear what he's saying, so perhaps some duct tape too?
Load More Replies...Or my mom, "now that you're over 40, you really should cut your hair, long hair doesn't look right on older women".
"And a running mouth doesn't look good on anyone. How about setting an example by having yours sewn shut?"
Load More Replies...Women shouldn’t have to put chemicals on their face so a******s like you think they’re actually worth something.
When I was in my late teens/twenties, I tried just about every brand of makeup on the market; all of them made my acne worse. I hated (and still do) anyone who told me I’d be pretty with makeup on.
In my defense I was trying to flirt with her ok lol
I once told my crush while we were flirting that "I feel like I lose a braincell talking to you" but what I meant was that I can be myself around her and I'm usually pretty smart but for some reason when I talk to her I don't think things over I just go for it but noooo my brain was like f**k it we ball with that sentence lol.
This kind of reminds me of my boyfriend when we first started dating haha. Been together 12 years and he's since became less awkward.
This is just verbally tripping on your shoelaces, not repulsive cringe. Don't sweat it.
I am fervently hoping that all the speakers in these examples hear themselves later and try to be less creepy next time!!!
Load More Replies...A friend who stayed a friend but was being considered for the bf role once gave me this compliment. " Wow,you look like a purple truck!" Now I was wearing a purple skirt that WAS the exact shade of my beloved dodge Dakota 4x4 truck, plum tart purple. He knew I adored my truck. So purple truck = compliment in that moment. I told him this. " since you know me and you know that I love my truck, instead of punching you, I'll accept the compliment. But dude, don't go around telling women they look like trucks! They might not take it as well!" We still are best buddies.
Nice guys honestly go through this, Your heart races and you end up saying stuff like, You have hair. That's a nice thing. I saw a dog today. Have you seen one before? Okay well bye.
Tbh I think my boyfriend said a similar thing to me. It’s not really offensive in the right context, kinda endearing
“If you had a d**k, you’d be perfect” Sir… what?
Just because he's gay doesn't mean it's any less gross
Load More Replies..."Youre too pretty to do that" (cutting) (Emt) "I dont think youre depressed I think youre just a cute fun girl" (guy who wanted to date me).
*wtf* ? Any phrase that begins with “you’re too pretty” or “you’re too handsome” should not be said.
However, "I'm too rich and pretty to walk, let's take a taxi" is completely valid when I say it to myself 😁
Load More Replies...EMT: I don't think that the compliment was creepy, just meant to be encouraging. It was their way of saying, "You're better than this. Don't destroy yourself to please someone else." Guy: He wanted someone he could manipulate and control. He most certainly would have used her issues against her to get her to bend to his will. Just my opinion.
It was extremely creepy and demeaning. The last thing a depressed person wants to hear is about how they couldn’t possibly be that sad because [insert shallow reason here].
Load More Replies...Okay. The person in question has been cutting themselves to the point where she needs an ambulance, that means possibly an extreme loss of blood. EMT is an Emergency Medical Technician. The "You're too pretty to do that" comment was probably because they wanted to say to her that she IS worthy of Living because they may think that she's tried to "unalive" herself (BP censors there) Note that the gender of the EMT is not specified... Would you have a "cringe" reaction if it was a motherly type older lady EMT?
YES. It doesn’t matter who it comes from or how well they meant it. Don’t belittle someone’s depression just because they’re attractive, or “have so much to live for”, or any other meaningless platitude.
Load More Replies...Yeah. Emts aren't doctors. Wouldn't listen to their "diagnosis".
“you’re beautiful on the inside”.
"Inside of me is someplace you'll never be, so I'm glad you take it on faith."
How is this bad. How many of us have met really attractive people who were just s**t? Being beautiful in the inside is what ultimately matters
Context. While I agree that the inside is more important it still HURTS to be called ugly. And context depending that might be whats being said "your ugly but hey atlesst your kind."
Load More Replies...“I had a great time with you tonight even tho I didn’t get to have sex. “.
I won an award at work. At the time I was a supervisor of my department and had 5 people reporting to me. One of the VP’s told me it was nice to see the ‘little people’ get recognized.
That's just basic upper management boys club hires. Trust me guys get that c**p too.
One doctor I worked with thought he was complimenting me by saying "it's hard to find good help". I'm a professional with a Master's degree you twat - I'm not "the help".
That 90 percent of men “would” sleep with me.
90 percent of men would f*ck a tree if you lubricated it enough.
Err... As a park ranger, I do love nature, but... not THAT much.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of the old Irish expression: 'He'd go for a rip in a fur coat.'
But only 5% of women would sleep with you... And I'm not in that group...
As the man said, "You never know what lonesome is until you get to herding cows".
Gotta love straight men go b********y before gay. Lol masculine my a**e.
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I see you drinking 1%. Is that cause you think you're fat? Because you're not. You could be drinking whole if you wanted to.
This is from a movie. Had to Google it to make sure I was right. It's from Napoleon Dynamite.
If a guy is using pickup lines from Napoleon Dynamite, he's got serious social problems.
If a guy uses pick up lines from napoleon dynamite you should marry him
Load More Replies...A boyfriend once told be, "When you try hard enough, you know, wear makeup and fix your hair, you're actually close to beautiful." My first unspoken response to him was, "Coming from you and your gargantuan hook nose, that's RICH!" His last name was Rich, but I chose to be kind, tilted my head slightly and said, "Gee, thanks, I think." Not long afterwards he became an ex-boyfriend.
An ex informed me that he had cheated on me and had gotten the other girl pregnant. A few months later he called and if I wanted to get back together because she had lost the baby. He was shocked when I declined. I guess I was supposed to feel blessed that he had come back to me. So so sick...
When I was in college, one drunk guy at a party told me that I looked like "an ugly version of Sheryl Crow". Another time a drunk lesbian told me that I "looked like Alanis Morissette, but not as pretty." I took the Sheryl Crow comment as a compliment, but laughed at both of them. 😆
I hope you said, "Isn't it ironic, don't you think?" and "All I wanna' do is have some fun!" 😄
Load More Replies...Worked at a mfg plant 10 years out of high school. QA. 5 years in, sitting in my office checking parts. Janitor stands in doorway (had worked with him 5 years at this point) said "I could come in and rape you right now". Early 1980s. Reported him to plant manager. Talked to, advised to stay away from me, but kept his job. 😵 😲
I was fresh out of high school when my boss, a man in his 50’s, said to me, “What’s the name of the perfume you’re wearing? I want my wife to smell like you.”
Hmm, that one doesn't sound as bad. Or rather, it sounds bad, but maybe wasn't intended to be. That just sounds like he was hamfisted when it came to asking the question.
Load More Replies...Standing at a bus stop with no shelter, in the rain, a gentleman in his 50s-ish came up to me GENUINELY trying to by nice/compliment me: Here, share my umbrella.... SH*T! Unless you're working (pr*stituting)... You're pretty enough, you could be working. I don't assume." First of all, ya kinda just assumed. Second of all, AYFKM?!
When my sister lived in a big city, she was waiting for a bus and had come from the gym (probably in tights and a big T-shirt or sweatshirt) and a guy ask her if she was working, she was just very confused for a second before realizing what he meant 🤢
Load More Replies...Every compliment refering to looks. I am a pretty smart, but not very pretty woman and I am perfectly aware of that and fine with it. Just stop thinking lying in my face with a fake compliment would make me feel better. Beauty is not what's making my personality, all of the rest is.
A few of us were chatting after a meal. I was complaining about the severity of my period pain. A male said "Well, having a baby could help". Great advice, from a doctor, except I was 15 and he was my brother-in-law. Years later I wanted to say to him "I've had the baby and my periods are still bad".
Most "doctors" are quacks and mengeles. Don't take no for an answer if you still have pain and haven't been diagnosed. Constant pain is not "normal".
Load More Replies...'You should smile more', especially from the (male) global head of HR, though heard plenty of variations on it over the years. Not that long ago; this century, anyway.
An ex informed me that he had cheated on me and had gotten the other girl pregnant. A few months later he called and if I wanted to get back together because she had lost the baby. He was shocked when I declined. I guess I was supposed to feel blessed that he had come back to me. So so sick...
When I was in college, one drunk guy at a party told me that I looked like "an ugly version of Sheryl Crow". Another time a drunk lesbian told me that I "looked like Alanis Morissette, but not as pretty." I took the Sheryl Crow comment as a compliment, but laughed at both of them. 😆
I hope you said, "Isn't it ironic, don't you think?" and "All I wanna' do is have some fun!" 😄
Load More Replies...Worked at a mfg plant 10 years out of high school. QA. 5 years in, sitting in my office checking parts. Janitor stands in doorway (had worked with him 5 years at this point) said "I could come in and rape you right now". Early 1980s. Reported him to plant manager. Talked to, advised to stay away from me, but kept his job. 😵 😲
I was fresh out of high school when my boss, a man in his 50’s, said to me, “What’s the name of the perfume you’re wearing? I want my wife to smell like you.”
Hmm, that one doesn't sound as bad. Or rather, it sounds bad, but maybe wasn't intended to be. That just sounds like he was hamfisted when it came to asking the question.
Load More Replies...Standing at a bus stop with no shelter, in the rain, a gentleman in his 50s-ish came up to me GENUINELY trying to by nice/compliment me: Here, share my umbrella.... SH*T! Unless you're working (pr*stituting)... You're pretty enough, you could be working. I don't assume." First of all, ya kinda just assumed. Second of all, AYFKM?!
When my sister lived in a big city, she was waiting for a bus and had come from the gym (probably in tights and a big T-shirt or sweatshirt) and a guy ask her if she was working, she was just very confused for a second before realizing what he meant 🤢
Load More Replies...Every compliment refering to looks. I am a pretty smart, but not very pretty woman and I am perfectly aware of that and fine with it. Just stop thinking lying in my face with a fake compliment would make me feel better. Beauty is not what's making my personality, all of the rest is.
A few of us were chatting after a meal. I was complaining about the severity of my period pain. A male said "Well, having a baby could help". Great advice, from a doctor, except I was 15 and he was my brother-in-law. Years later I wanted to say to him "I've had the baby and my periods are still bad".
Most "doctors" are quacks and mengeles. Don't take no for an answer if you still have pain and haven't been diagnosed. Constant pain is not "normal".
Load More Replies...'You should smile more', especially from the (male) global head of HR, though heard plenty of variations on it over the years. Not that long ago; this century, anyway.
