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Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor’s office. It’s where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding.
But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they’re now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup.
“He was an older man and I was intimidated by him,” the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable.
Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let’s see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee’s question “What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?”
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#1
I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15"
K Witmer 4 years ago
Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
The fact she had pain should've told the doc right off to shut his fuc*ing mouth, but even female docs will say stuff that stupid b/c the misogyny is built into the education ----- you absorb it from your professors. I saw it happen around me in med school. It was scarier than words can describe.
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K Witmer 4 years ago
My daughter was 2 when a doctor and a nurse forcibly inserted a catheter while she screamed and cried and so did I. She just went limp and gave up. I watched her little face lose hope it was so heartbreaking I couldn't sleep for weeks. I completely changed how I dealt w doctors after that day. This wasn't even an emergency it was for a test to see if she could be taken off primsol. She's now in therapy bc she's remembering that day. She thought she had been molested. When I went to therapy w her it all came out and she remembered it. I feel so sick to my stomach writing this. I tried to stop them. I reported it nothing came of it. I told her pediatrician he was horrified. This is medical rape doing things to women wo their consent I want to cry
SentimentAndBadJokes 4 years ago
That's horrible. I'm so sorry that both you and your daughter has to go through that, and I hope that you both recover from that. What a terrible thing to happen to a two-year-old
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NoDramaPartyLlama 4 years ago
I experienced something similar. I'd been raped and while my doctor was sympathetic the testing center wasn't. The nurse actually told me I had no reason to cry when this was all my choice and I needed to deal with it. Had an absolute sobbing breakdown and she traded me off to another nurse in disgust. The new nurse calmed me, heard me out, did the test, and left. Apparently she reamed the other women because I got an apology and she looked sick. Seriously think before you speak!
Mazer 4 years ago
OMG!! I don’t understand doctors like this where the hell is his compassion?? POS. Nobody deserves to be treated like that no matter what the situation was!! NOBODY!
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Honestly i don't consider these people doctors! Being in a medical field and lacking any compassion makes you completely useless! I'm a physiotherapist myself and one of the first things we learnt was how to speak to the patients and their relatives! If you don't gain their trust you are useless! It's like a stranger with no knowledge speaks to them! This is just horrible and that "doctor" should have no interaction with patients!
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Alexia 4 years ago
What an a**hole. Unfortunately, lack of empathy is quite common among doctors. A friend was pregnant and she was due any moment, so she went for a check. She was crying because she was in pain and was concerned for the baby. While she was on the table the doctor lashed out at her: "Stop crying! You did like it when you conceived the baby, didn't you?"
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Having empathy should be the #1 thing needed to become a doctor! You can learn all the rest but you will never be a good one without empathy and compassion!!
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cassiushumanmother 4 years ago
How you can say something like that. PERIOD. It's not Ok to say it at all.
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RadiatorAnkleSpider 4 years ago
And that’s all it takes people… one judge mental comment to put a person over the edge.
Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video.
“It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education,” Krista told Bored Panda. “Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are.”
The author also said that “obviously this isn’t true for all doctors, but I’ve had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!”
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#2
My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'.
Monday 4 years ago
That's probably why they flushed it. Get rid of the evidence and now all you've got is the woman's word that it's what happened. A medical exam will show she had a miscarriage, but they won't be able to prove when it happened. So mom says "They flushed my baby down the toilet", dad says "I didn't see it but I believe my wife" and the doctor says "She was hysterical after losing her baby at home and imagined the whole thing". He gets another doc or a couple of nurses to back him up and BAM, nobody believes mom and dad.
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Rissie 4 years ago
I'm wondering if it was not just a very early pregnancy and how she's imagining it being a real baby of notable size, when in fact it was nothing more than a tiny clump of cells which would not be easy to identify amongst all the tissue that came out. Making it something big to her and small to the doctor. And I can also imagine that she felt very scared after being dismissed, since it is a first pregnancy. But it's really important to come to terms and be realistic about what happened. That's if it is what I assume it is.
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Aisling Raye 4 years ago
So here's where I get called a heartless, soulless jerk and get a ton of down votes. In all honesty, if you had presumably urinated/defecated in the toilet (as I assume you did since you said you were in there to use the toilet) and there was no retrievable tissue, is there another solution? Early pregnancy miscarriage is more common than people are comfortable talking about. It really should be discussed more openly as women often blame themselves thinking they did something wrong. Your body knew the embryo would not be viable and did as nature intended. If this really went down as you said and the doctor flushed the toilet with you there... that's awful. In my experience in the medical field, I have never met a a provider that heartless. I'm so sorry for your loss
Pernille Dyre 4 years ago
It's not that unusal early in the pregnancy... however the heartlessness is chocking. I would take care of woman, foetus etc. This seems to cold and uncarring... ( not a doctor, a midwife)...
Rissie 4 years ago
If it is what you think (and what I think) then it's really heartless, but it's even more important to come to terms with it. By calling it a baby being flushed it becomes hard to ever trust people in healthcare. It was not a baby, it's likely it wasn't even a foetus but an embryo, which would be impossible to identify and many early miscarriages end like that. They should have given her proper care to begin with. That's for sure.
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Ozacoter 4 years ago
I hate most doctors due my experiences with then. But even I am surprised. How is this possible?
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
A sh*t hospital that can't afford another lawsuit of the ER, so the nurses and doctors just hide everything they can.
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#3
So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t.
Mazer 4 years ago (edited)
Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses
Tee Witt 4 years ago
My mother would have told me to not be so silly, that is why I never told her anything from the age of 7
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Lovin' Life 4 years ago
How inappropriate! I think I would have reported him. Who knows what other inappropriate comments he makes.
Fluffy Griffin 4 years ago
When I was around 18 years old I had a skin condition under my breasts, and I went to take my shirt off to show the Dr, he said "wait! " and called in a nurse as chaperone. I was a little surprised but appreciated the gesture.
T Lee Mac 4 years ago
My family doctor does that too. I’m thankful to have a great one. I don’t know what I’m going to do when he retires.
Load More Replies... Aisling Raye 4 years ago
You should have been asked to change into a gown. You should have had a chaperone there (or at least offered one.) Not a single bit of your interaction with that provider was near protocol. I hope you filed a grievance with whichever licensing board your country has. That sort of behavior is unacceptable no matter the situation but ESPECIALLY of you're a minor. (I'm only guessing that you are a minor because you had your mother there. You very well could be an adult. Legit no judgment if you are, I take my mom to most of my appointments and I'm *grumble mumble cough* years old lol)
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Went to a new Doctor (was told by female patient always wear a bra) had a tank top on- no bra- told him my knee hurt got out the stethoscope - told him my heart was ok without a word he whipped up my top and proceeded to "listen" to my heart for what seemed like a long time. I told him never to do that again because if he was close to my breasts I was close to his balls and it would be squeeze, twist and yank! Bye Doc!
#4
The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant.
JennyLaRue 4 years ago
That is so many examples of gross misconduct all in one case. Just awful
Miriam L 4 years ago
Every sentence of this story compounds the gross injustice and unethical, disgusting behaviour this so called doctor did. Each of these things is malpractice, if not in the strict legal sense than in the ethical sense, and the last bit punched the air out of me
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
Pretty sure this falls under malpractice. They didn't do a hCG so they f*ed up from step one. In any complication of an IUD, pregnancy is a big concern. When they did determine she was pregnant she was not informed, so I'm assuming no one went over risks/complications involved with surgical intervention. Following that logic, she was not given an informed consent form to sign prior to surgery. I'm not a lawyer but that sounds like a pretty solid malpractice case.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
I smell another malpractice suit here. Lots of them in this article, and I hope the patients won.
AspieGirl88 4 years ago
MEDICAL MALPRACTICE!! Sue them for the life of your unborn baby, because they robbed you of something more precious than gold or diamonds!! 😱⚖️😡
Flavia Slag 4 years ago
There is no way they didn't know. Too many ways to test and they test before you go into surgery or x-ray.
When asked if she’d handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. “I’ve been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I’m not being treated properly.”
“When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn’t know what I should say or do.”
Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. “I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn’t be speaking to women that way in this professional setting.”
#5
what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care?
Ozacoter 4 years ago
Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :(
Moosy Girl 4 years ago
Ditto, took almost dying from peritonitis caused by a ruptured cyst for the endometriosis to get discovered, then another 5 years to get proper treatment. 12 years total of being dismissed by both male and female doctors. It was a female doctor who told me I should take a painkiller and sleep it off right before I was carted off in an ambulance the last time, ER doctor said I’d have died if we’d waited another hour.
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littlesaresare 4 years ago
Doctors regardless of gender just don't give a s**t about endometriosis. I fought for 8 years to get treatment. "Women are supposed to be in pain - if we treat you then you won't be a real woman", "Just because you describe the pain as so bad that you're suicidal, doesn't mean it is. I don't believe you", "Just because you're already sterile, doesn't mean you have the right to remove your uterus - you deserve the pain regardless of whether it leads to children" are all things told to me by female doctors.
Vicky Z 4 years ago
Feminine issues also don't get researched enough! Which makes me wonder why noone wants to finance problems that affect more than the half of global population! Probably cause researchers are mostly men? Not having researches makes it even more difficult for doctors to help and care so they end up telling you to deal with it cause woman and pain go together apparently!
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Marika Miettinen 4 years ago
i'm so pissed off about the way that so many doctors and nurses ignore women's problems. I had painless periods for a year, and after that, for 14 years, I had absolutely horrible pain during my periods, sometimes outside of periods as well, and my periods lasted 7 days on average (yes, sometimes more than 7 days) and I had to use the big night time pads for several days because I was bleeding so much. "can't have that much pain, can't bleed that much". Well, turns out I have endometriosis. All it took was some internal bleeding for the doctors to finally take me seriously.
Rosie Hamilton 4 years ago
I would have only one week a month with minimal pain and a fortnight of agony so know what you mean. The pain is not just during a period. Also had to use tampons and massive pads both at the same time.... it is a nightmare for too many women. I am so pleased you were taken seriously, finally, even though it became way too serious before they did. Infuriating.
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Probably a combination of all three. Unfortunately, there are people in the medical, or medically-related, professions who have absolutely NO business being doctors, nurses, or even researchers, because they lack the key ingredient—-compassion. For all people, not just those they personally consider worthy of it.
Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
and yet House, MD is so popular with his terrible bedside manner and complete lack of compassion...go figure
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Calypso poet 4 years ago
I went to the ER because I had such terrible cramps and I couldn't feel the strings on my IUD. The MALE doctor that came in to do the exam didn't know what I meant by the strings. Why is this man looking in my vagina if he doesn't know how an IUD works? My IUD was fine, the nurse pointed out to him. My new Gynecologist put a Mirena back in, the Kyleena wasn't strong enough to stop my cramps and combined with IBS and stress.... the cramps are mostly gone again! No male Ob/gyns or GPS for me. My foot surgeon and neurologist, fine.
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
TBH I'm pretty sure that's an all of the above problem. It is so hard to get proper treatment for things like endometriosis. Not only is it hard to diagnose without laparoscopy, but docs (esp male docs...sorry not sorry) don't take many uterus owners seriously when it comes to gyn problems unless that is their specific specialty. Even when we do our best to advocate for ourselves, a lot of the time it feels like screaming into a void. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that for so long. I hope you're doing much better now.
Tazsxp 4 years ago
You hardly need laparoscopic intervention to diagnose endometriosis. Based on menstrual history and clinical examination, it is easy to diagnose. However, the severity of thr disease is for another discussion
Load More Replies... Sarah B 4 years ago
I had cancer that was not recognized for 2 years because i'm fat! I've always been overweight, even though I've always done sports. 3 years ago I ran out of tufts of hair, my period stopped and my testosterone level was way too high! i have been to 7 doctors who always said: "lose weight, then it will be better!" last year in june i coughed up bloody tissue and went to my new family doctor who diagnosed cancer! the oncologist found out that the cancer had to have grown for at least 2 years because so much tumor had formed in my lungs and in the rest of my torax! after chemotherapy I'm fine again and I've only defeated him once! but incompetent doctors almost cost me my life!
Lucas 4 years ago
Hi Sarah - I am so, so sorry that happened to you but so relieved that you are okay again now! What absolute fools you had for doctrors. They seriously need to look past the weight and not assume. Oh, and your English is fantastic.
Load More Replies... Tazsxp 4 years ago
In india endometriosis is taken very seriously and even the junior doctors diagnose it without any difficulty. Most of the obgyn, family medicine, housesurgeons etc are adequately trained to diagnose common OG problems. Being a man is not a factor to underdiagnose. It's the attitude of the doctor, quality of training that is limiting.
#6
"You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?"
Mazer 4 years ago
May the fleas of 1000 camels in fact his armpits OK let’s go a little further and just add his pubic area as well. He needs to find a different job.
Debrina Blackmoon 4 years ago
NO JOBS, no being let out in public, no internet!
Load More Replies... Lovin' Life 4 years ago
What in the name of God is wrong with doctors? I think I would have caught my first assault charge right their in the hospital.
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
This whole list has me pissed off. I've been in medicine 20ish years now and I'm appalled at these providers. Seriously WTF. How are these people in practice?
Sky Render 4 years ago
And here I thought one of the things they teach you in medical school is "keep your personal opinions to yourself; you're a doctor, not a pundit"...
#7
It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again.
JennyLaRue 4 years ago
It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients.
Helen Haley 4 years ago
Probably one of those 'crisis centers' masquerading as a medical facility.
Load More Replies... Andy Acceber 4 years ago
A lot of "clinics" that focus on pregnancy in the U.S. are actually hyper-conservative, Christian, "crisis pregnancy centers." They pretend to be legit medical facilities but are actually exempt from regulatory, licensure, and credentialing oversight. Their rampant misinformation is protected under the First Amendment, but they prey on a lot of vulnerable people -- particularly women and people who are low income.
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
These fake clinics are all over the place. They put up all kinds of ads saying they'll "help" young women with their "health" and actually have no physicians or nurses on staff, just a bunch of jesus freaks who literally lock them into a windowless room and scream at them about how "evil" they are for having sex in the first place.
Jennifer Matusiak 4 years ago
Very similar thing happened to me. I've had irregular and intensely painful periods since I began menstruating. Was always told it was because I'm overweight (I definitely am, no doubt about it). At 26 years old I finally got a doctor who listened after having a brief, but unbelievable, pain in my left abdomen. Yup, PCOS. I'd had a cyst rupture. Had someone listened to me when I was younger the PCOS could have been managed for the previous 12 years and saved me a lot of pain.
Rosie Hamilton 4 years ago
Isn't weight gain a problem caused by or at least exacerbated by PCOS as well? That should have been considered a potential symptom, not made them dismiss you. Sorry you went through that.
Load More Replies... Aisling Raye 4 years ago
Fuc* that. Religion does not have a place in medicine. Judgement does not have a place in medicine. ESPECIALLY when you work in a clinic dedicated to providing sexual health services. People like her need to work in a different profession.
Jenni Langlois 4 years ago
Wonder if this was one of those non-medical places that works really hard to look like they treat STDs and pregnant women, but really they're nothing more than a forced-birth shill center.
The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. “I wasn’t expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!”For anyone who’s wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: “I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed.”
Moreover, “If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it,” she concluded.
#8
OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together.
Mazer 4 years ago
I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker
Vicky Z 4 years ago
I'm guessing speaking about abortion was too mainstream for that doctor right? Cause this is the part where the doctor explains your options and not starting praying for a miscarriage i mean wtf? YOU ARE A DOCTOR FFS! You don't pray for God to take over from now! You explain the MEDICAL options!
Lynn Morello 4 years ago
Having been suffering stomach cramps for almost 2 months, I went to see my local GP, (Who I did not like or trust). He sent me off for X-Rays, which came back showing that I was Pregnant. He didn't state how far. Then told me, because I had not told him IU was pregnant, I would Have to have it terminated, due to the X-Rays. So now I am upset to Distraught, I have my husband and MIL on my back because it was my fault I was Pregnant. I deserved to lose this baby. I fought back, Kicked my husband out for not supporting me. and delivered a healthy Baby Boy 7 months later. So of course, Ex-hubby is now bragging that HE has had a boy, as if I had nothing to do with it. HE wants to exercise HIS rights to take MY son out to visit every man and his dog to show him off.
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
Happy ending. And I hope she never went back to that doctor again. At 18, you don’t always know what to expect or what is unacceptable from a doctor. I hope this woman has better care now.
Amanda Hunter 4 years ago
My friend got Chicken Pox when she was pregnant and was advised to have an abortion. She said she'd keep the baby no matter what health it had. Her son is now 20 and a wonderful young man.
#9
I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family
TmKhr 4 years ago
So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually.
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
Actually PCOS does MAKE you gain weight. I have no idea how it actually works, but one of the main symptoms of polycystic ovaries is weight gain. After I had a hysterectomy, I dropped 20 pounds.
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Nemo 4 years ago
In US prevalance of obesity and overweight in women with PCOS is as high as 80%. Outside the US, the prevalance of obesity in affected women is as low as 20%. This observation suggest that environmental factors, such as lifestyle, contribute to development of obesity in PCOS. Moreover obesity exacerbates many of the reproductive and metabolic abnormalities associated with PCOS.
Mewton’s Third Paw 4 years ago
It’s sugar. I have PCOS and I’m in America and it seems like that’s the big difference. PCOS fûcks up your insulin. American food is way more sugary, even normal stuff has tons of sugar. Probably why we fare worse.
Load More Replies... CatWoman312 4 years ago
Super skinny women can stop their periods too? Pretty sure weight isn’t always the go to for things. It’s annoying doctors do that a lot
Nemo 4 years ago
Eating disorders, especially anorexia nervosa, can impact your menstrual cycles and even cause your periods to stop
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ThatOneWriter 4 years ago
PCOS is so misunderstood and often ignored/not thought of. It's disgusting how easy it is to check for but "oh, you're just fat" is enough for most docs to not even bother.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
When you're fat, everything you suffer from will be chalked up to you being fat. I even had a an optometrist I went to because I needed new glasses tell me to lose weight. I stopped going to doctors, even when I'm in severe pain because I know what they'll say.
#10
One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs
DC 4 years ago
... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that.
Mishte Tine 4 years ago
I have heard from nurses that doctors are notoriously bad at drawing blood - they rarely do it. I did have a doctor years ago who “tried” to do it. After several painful, unsuccessful tries and my blood spattered on me and on her face, she finally gave up. Ugh. Something I recently learned: if you’re getting blood drawn, drink LOTS of water beforehand (unless your fasting and fluids are restricted). My veins like to hide, and it’s really stressful - being well hydrated made such a difference!
Tazsxp 4 years ago (edited)
Anesthesiologists and ER doctors are quite expert, to be honest. Interns are good too.
Load More Replies... CatWoman312 4 years ago
I scar easily and have needle marks on my arm due to all the times I’ve given blood over the years
Amelia Bedelia 4 years ago
Same here, I have a little scar from every IV or blood draw I've ever had.
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Brandy Grote 4 years ago
I do have "track marks" - because my drs draw blood every 3 or 4 months! 1 arm is pretty scarred, and I always request a "butterfly needle" so they don't go thru the vein entirely!
Katherine Boag 4 years ago
Guess what even if you did, it could be from DONATING BLOOD and usually they dont have any trouble getting blood from regular blood donors despite the scarring
Calypso poet 4 years ago
When I was waiting for my turn to get blood drawn for pre-op screening I was getting nervous because I could hear the nurse having a hard time with lady before me. I already get queasy with needles but have very visible veins. As she got a second nurse involved they talked more and it was because the woman was a former heroine addict and they were having a hard time finding a vein. I felt so bad for her. The nurses were really nice to her.
athornedrose 4 years ago
i always have to remind nurses and doctors that i regularly give blood. i know that i've got some marks. i've never done drugs in my life, but when you donate blood regularly, you can get scar tissue in spots that've been used over and over.
#11
I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Tell that babe to suck s**t! She probably doesn't know either!
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BetweenTheCracks 4 years ago
I am SO FVCKING TIRED of hearing some variation of "Doctors only get {.5 milliseconds} of training in _____________". Isn't medical school 12 years long-- or at the very least, a bit longer than it takes to get an Associate's? WTF are they doing that entire time, shucking off empathy and un-learning how to write longhand?!
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Amanda Lalonde 4 years ago
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope they were removed quickly. I ended up with a vitamin deficiency and using a wheelchair
Robyn Marsden 4 years ago
um, yeah, gallstones can f*cking kill you if they get lodged in your bile duct.
Anonymous 4 years ago
I have a bigger problem with doctors that tell me not to Google stuff. I have a list of medical conditions that were undiagnosed for 1.5 yrs until I figured them out myself using Google. Then, whenever I would mention Google to a doctor they would get all exasperated and tell me not to do that. Google helped me figure out my problems, not your medical degree
#12
My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you"
Freya the Wanderer 4 years ago
To say nothing of ignorance! A medical professional believing such B.S.?
Load More Replies... no_name 4 years ago
My doctor said something among the lines of "Please take of your mask, I don't like talking to people when I don't see their faces and we're not afraid of catching something".
Julie C Rose 4 years ago
What the actual f**k. I live in New Zealand and have worn a mask to my GP (PCP) while we’ve had no community cases at all (I live with more vulnerable people) and they’re STILL respectful about it.
Load More Replies... Rissie 4 years ago
My husband works at the hospital in IT and had doctors use this logic. Which is incorrect. They also wonder why he still wears his mask now that it's no longer mandated. Well, eeh, you know, he had two uncles get really sick from Covid, one of them passed away recently and you're being a jackass, dumbshit, that's why.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
My doctor would not wear a mask, if he did his nose was out and it bagged all over his face. I asked if I could remove my mask he said no. I reported him to our local Health unit. the College of Physicians and Surgeons ( don't laugh) the Minister of Health and the Boss of his clinic- she told me that she hand caught him numerous times without a mask and gave him hell for it. Our health unit apparently gave him hell too. But to no avail - this guy appears to be a wimp he whines to his patients. when I saw him he said he was off sick with COVID. I told him he came by it honestly and to FO as I said Good Bye. I got a letter from him saying I abused him by telling him to FO.
Robert Thompson 4 years ago
I want to upvote the post without upvoting the doctor or his comment that having it doesn't make him a carrier.
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
What. The. Actual. F**k. Sounds like that dumba$$ needs to go over his infectious disease notes. Even if he did previously have COVID, the virus can live on fabric up to 2 days and something like 6 on hard surfaces. If he's that nonchalant about taking his mask off, I wouldn't trust that he is washing his hands properly, not touching his face, changing PPE between patients, not touching his coat/clothes/scrubs with his gloved hands etc etc blah blah blah. People like him are why this plague is taking so damn long to control. Sorry for popping off, this sh*t just makes me mad.
#13
I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed
Mazer 4 years ago
Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
It's incredibly hard to report a doctor, "Dr. Death" sadly was no exception.
Load More Replies... Brandy Grote 4 years ago
Drs were bemused by my back pain - until the shingles blisters appeared... Then they ignored my OTHER back pain for 20 years. I had no disc between the vertebrae....
Pheebs 4 years ago
Had a doctor say you can only get scabies through sexual contact because it’s technically listed as an STD. So, he accused a 6 year old me of having sex when I got scabies. Spoiler, you can get it from things people touch - like gym mats. Also, having scabies and the flu at the same time is hell.
Lovin' Life 4 years ago
What does your income have to do with reaching out for help for your son? Is that the deciding factor of his treatment?
April Pickett 4 years ago
I want to know why all those admitting forms still ask if you are single, divorced, or married. Why is that pertinent patient information?
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
When will docs recognize shingles? OMG. This is misdiagnosed way too often. I don't even practice, tho' I do have my medical degree (I had to quit after pediatrics, long story, I can't hack blind dying children from measles).... and if I can tell it's friggin' shingles....
Lynn Biasini McElfresh 4 years ago (edited)
Herpes and Shingles are related. Herpes simplex is the genital variant, considered an STD, and Zoster is shingles on the skin. Both are painful.
Seabeast 4 years ago (edited)
No, herpes zoster is the chickenpox virus, which sits dormant on the nerves for decades after having chickenpox, and then comes out as shingles late in life. It isn't even remotely related to herpes simplex, it's a completely different virus. The only thing they have in common is the name "herpes".
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When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women.
Neil Bidle 4 years ago
Yeah, plus plenty of men DO like tall women so it's wrong in that respect too!!
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Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
Men date all types of women (the reverse is true, too). Unsolicited commentary like this is simply unprofessional at best. A single comment from a doctor can devastate a patients life.
Mazer 4 years ago
May the farts of 1000 patients impact his nasal passages every minute of every day of his working life
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
Yup. Men definitely don't fetishize tall, leggy, super thin super models. There is certainly no height requirement for fashion/runway work. *super slow and exaggerated eye roll* Girls are taught from a young age that men will judge their worth by their bodies and it makes me sick. To be told that by your doctor is disgusting. It's 2021. Can't we finally admit that people are people and every one of them is worthy of (at the very freakin' least) common decency. And, to be a bit crude, my best friend is very tall and her boyfriend is not. He has never once complained about how when she wears heels his face happens to be in a place he quite enjoys. No one gets to tell anyone what is or isn't attractive. There is something out there for everyone :) Love yourself.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
You know, asshole, height—-or the size of anything else, btw—-doesn’t matter a damn. It’s knowing what to do with what you have that’s key. Obviously you’re too incompetent in that way (and others as well, evidently) to understand that fine point.
Lynn Biasini McElfresh 4 years ago (edited)
HAHAHAHA!!!!! My mother used to tell me "men don't LIKE smart women". Both lies!!!
BetweenTheCracks 4 years ago
BOYS don't like smart women. MEN are just fine with 'em.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Yes, men do. Tall women gets dates all the time. Small-minded men, not so much....
#15
I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me.
James016 4 years ago
So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask......
Paula Marowsky 4 years ago
Standart procedure in my country. When I asked how in earth is this posssible the nurse said: otherwise these "poor uneducated and promiscuos" girls won't want any birth control and you'll have a lot of unwanted babies. It is the best for them
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Crazy Dog Lady 4 years ago
The depo shot gave me terrible side effects too. I started loosing my hair and gained ~40 lbs.
Mishte Tine 4 years ago
Another example of not seeing you as a fellow human. At least she honored your choices in the end.
Miriam L 4 years ago
I'm so glad you asked. Self-advocacy is hard when the other person is seen as knowledgable in an area and you're receiving service from them. But they can make mistakes, explain things poorly, or just downright assume they know best and eff up people's lives. It's important to speak up for yourself and if your doctor takes that as a personal offense rather than a sign that you want to be informed and involved in your own health - please try to find another doctor if you can
Parmeisan 4 years ago
I've learned this the hard way, you need to be really careful and not afraid to question them. Even the good ones can make mistakes, and they're not all good.... 10 years ago I had a reaction to penicillin and was told by numerous doctors afterward to avoid all beta lactam antibiotics. One doctor was prescribing an antibiotic to me and I said, "Is this beta lactam, I cannot have beta lactam." He asked what I knew about beta lactams and I stammered and said something like "Not much, just that I can't have them." He went ahead with the prescription and when I got to the pharmacy I asked them to confirm that this was not beta lactam. They said, "Oh, it is. What reaction do you have?" I told them: my kidneys shut down. They had to track down the doctor and make him give me a different prescription. Now I know I have to be a LOT more forceful. What do I know? That my nephrologist told me it could kill me. Also: ALWAYS double-check with pharmacists, they know what they are doing.
Load More Replies... ThoughtsAreNotFacts 4 years ago
Holy s**t, are you kidding! That is unbelievably wrong on so many levels. I really hope you reported this.
Lisa Chambers 4 years ago
Yeah and many of the women who did comply with DEPO ended up with serious fertility problems.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
My dicktor (not a spelling error) kept saying "There is nothing more I can do for you." So I figured I was either dying or he was supremely stupid. I went with the latter! Gave him the middle finger salute as I left for good!
#16
I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight.
Iggy 4 years ago
You could go in with broken spectacles and they'd blame your weight.
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Monday 4 years ago
Would losing weight have lessened the pain though? Less weight on the damaged disk might have lead to less pain. I'm all for loving your body but if your weight really is part of the problem it's the doctor's job to tell you that.
Mieke Mcdonald 4 years ago
I am a theatre scrub nurse, and see all sizes on the operating table ( I've trained in brain and spinal surgery, it's my speciality), and sadly, in this case it is very true. I'm sorry if I offend anyone, overweight patients just do not recover well, and being overweight puts huge pressure on an already diseased area. Losing weight (and I know how difficult that is, no one WANTS to be, nor chooses to be overweight) is the biggest gift you can give yourself in this situation.
Load More Replies... Neil Bidle 4 years ago
In fairness, a light person wouldn't have anything like the trouble with a damaged disc as a heavy person, and less fat means surgery for repair would be much safer and easier.
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
Plus, doctors don't want to have to do surgery around someone's spine in the first place. In the case of someone who's already overweight, recovery that would be easy for someone normal would be a lot faster.
Load More Replies... Aunt Messy 4 years ago
If you have back pain from a broken disk the fact is that losing weight WILL help the pain. You got basic, normal, nonintrusive advice from a professional.
Bookey 4 years ago
I have a lot of health challenges that I haven't sought professional help for because I know that instead of helping me, they will say I need to lose weight. I once had infected tonsils and this female doctor told me I needed to lose weight. What has my weight got to do with my tonsils?
LadyGrimm 4 years ago
I was in a hospital for my fourth surgery in a year. Floor doc came in and said "You're 42 years old and this is your fourth surgery this year. Maybe it's time to lose weight and take better care of yourself?" The first two surgeries were BRAIN surgeries, the third was for skin cancer and the fourth was an abdominal complication from the brain/neuro issue. Please explain to me how losing weight would have prevented ANY of that.
Mishte Tine 4 years ago (edited)
Doctors hate back pain, I think, because the issue is so varied and complex and very hard to treat. At least that’s been my experience - I’ve been in excruciating pain for years. I have osteoarthritis, psoriatic arthritis, an old cervical avulsion in my neck, disc degeneration, stenosis, mild scoliosis, and cannot do normal activities on a regular basis - not a single doctor has ever said anything about it or offered any type of treatment plan. If I’m active one day, I’m basically bedridden for two. I’m a little overweight, not much, not enough to have caused all those issues - I was very thing my whole life until I hit menopause. : ) I think back pain is the #1 reason people go to a doctor for. If not, it’s in the top five. Maybe that’s why they ignore it.
Brandy Grote 4 years ago
I've gained all this weight because exercise is EXCRUCIATING when you have Degenerative Disc Disease and your vertebrae are rubbing together for decades...
Mieke Mcdonald 4 years ago
There are very good exercises you can do with disc disease, I too, have severe spinal problems, am almost 60, but walk my dogs , ride a bicycle on natural paths, and do resistance training developed for me by a Biokineticist. I know severe pain - use morphine daily, but also know, when I don't exercise (ie:covid lockdown) I'm worse than when I don't exercise. Swimming is excellent - I'm just waiting for winter to pass, and will hopefully be able to swim again - a semi heated pool - above 26-28'Celsius, cold water causes severe spasm for me. Ps: I've fractured my spine 6 x already due to a bone disease that's not osteoporosis, it's more my bones are too hard, thus brittle, together with an autoimmune disease that attack
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Lucy Shupe 4 years ago
This happened to me also. Said lose weight, it will get better. Fast forward I had surgery lost weight. The pain didn’t go away. Found a new doctor, yea the last three of my vertebrae have very little or no cushioning left. It’s called Degenerative Disc Disease and he told me that losing the weight was good for my overall health, it’s not going to fix your problem.
#17
I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED
Mazer 4 years ago
OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Where I live in Canada doctors are few and far between but we seem to get the bottom of the barrel in our area. Some very minor investigations will throw the light on these bastards. Just ask some of his patients past and present!
Load More Replies... Lucy Shupe 4 years ago
Similar situation, my first pregnancy was easy, the delivery not so much. In labor for almost 24 hours. Finally my daughter was born and I was stitched up. Several months later my periods are horrible, heavy and very painful. Went to another doctor, decided I needed a DNC. Turns out that the doctor that had delivered my daughter didn’t do such a great job. Left behind a piece of my placenta, it attached to my uterus and was the reason I was having so many problems.
Jenny Pugh 4 years ago
That's disgusting! Hope it didn't cause any lasting issues.
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DetongLhamo 4 years ago
I had a d & c after a miscarriage and developed an infection. The nurse at the clinic didn’t take my temperature but DID try to use a speculum. I was crying in pain, so she said she’d try using a smaller one. That didn’t work either and so she said she’d try to get the doctor to see me, and walked out of the room leaving the speculum INSIDE ME. Days later and I passed what assume was my foetus when I was on the toilet.
Holes2Heaven 4 years ago
Just FYI it is recommended to wait at least three months to try again after a miscarriage. Your body needs time to build up tissue in order to not miscarry again
Bettye McKee 4 years ago
It's D and C, dilation and curretage. Medical isn't about people anymore, it's a business. When your wonderful doctor retires, it's really difficult to find a new doctor you can trust.
Maddie Star ⭐ 4 years ago
as heartless as this may sound / feel, it is the case that women are more likely to have a successful pregnancy on their next fertile cycle after a miscarriage. It's not a nice topic and she could have maybe been a little gentler. Loosing a baby is heart breaking. xx
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
This is too common. Please, everyone, if you or a loved one has a miscarriage.... demand that they check. I saw someone nearly die from an infection of tissue left behind.... and while she's lying there, the effing OB said, "You can try again in a month to six weeks".
Aisling Raye 4 years ago
"Sorry my gross incompetence gave you a horrible infection. Oh, and for good measure, here's an incredibly personal question about your sex life that has nothing to do with why I'm seeing you today." Dear lord, I don't think she could have been more out of line if she was actively trying to be offensive.
#18
Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me
Otter 4 years ago
I've heard more than kn person who works jn an ER say they hate dealing with the suicidal, and have no patience with them or their issues. I can kind of understand that, dont get me started on why. But YOU'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO SAY THAT TO THE PATIENTS NO MATTER HOW YOU FEEL!
Load More Replies... Deborah B 4 years ago
I call BS. "Sewer slide?" Doctors that won't admit you if you need IV antibiotics, and will instead let you die at home? IV antibiotics for mental health issues in the first place?
Rissie 4 years ago
Yeah, I'm calling BS on this one. This is inside their heads. No one would risk saying that even if they remotely meant it. And yes, if you refuse treatment, there's nothing more than can be done at some points, and they will be clear about that. That's not telling you to kill yourself, that's presenting the options. And yes I agree it's hard to get the right type of help, because medicine is very segregated. And that's something that needs to get better. But that's not saying they want you dead.
yellowphantom 4 years ago
You must not be in the US, because the attitude described above is woefully common in the US and very believable. Managed care, lack of insurance and unequal payment systems mean many with mental illness, and especially addiction, get treated like a waste of space.
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DragonsFox 4 years ago
I don't care what mental illness or illnesses you have. You have more right to live than those ************s and I'm proud of you for not giving up! You're needed here on earth for some reason or another and don't you let anyone make you feel otherwise! Keep fighting. <3
Nadine Debard 4 years ago
I am both sad, sorry and angry to read this so often. Mental health conditions are true diseases and people, including practitioners should be aware of it. Cuddles to this woman and everyone struggling with mental issues (and bad doctors).
Mazer 4 years ago
This is heart wrenching. And it goes to show you that medical professionals need to stay professional no matter what they feel, no matter what they think. It’s so hard not to take what other people say to heart but I’m gonna tell you something right now those people have crossed the line and they have said it to more than you. First thing arrogant narcissistic doctors do is blame patients, Especially when they can’t figure out what’s going on. It’s literally a slap in the face to every single professor who is ever taught them. I hope to God that you find somebody who can help you feel better about yourself. I think that after reading these we are a start recording appointments with doctors from now on.
Mishte Tine 4 years ago
This had to be reported. I hope it was. Is it just me or are all these anecdotes (bot for one, maybe?) from women only? Not surprised. There was no research done on women’s heart attacks, which they finally began to study not all that long ago. Turns out women are different and lives were saved because doctors weren’t just using the research on men. I believe this is true of other research matters, but Id have to look it up. There are books about it. Women are not seen as a fully equal person. They make laws that take away our physical autonomy, which can lead to damaging our financial autonomy and plans, pay us much less on average for equal work - What are we, 8/10ths of a person? Ugh.
Michael Beswick 4 years ago
One big issue is that women are sometimes emotional than men, which can cause those particular women to be not taken seriously. Displays of excessive emotion by men or women can result in complaints being taken less seriously, as it can come across that they are exaggerating. It's not just men that react that way to such behaviour, but women also.
Load More Replies... J. Normal 4 years ago
Not defending the "doctors", but having dealt with mental health issues. Sometimes it is beneficial to "slap" someone with a strong dose of reality. Make them verbally walk through their suicide and funeral - It actually has helped many people. Dealing with mental health is a lot of work. It can be exhausting for the patient and the medical professionals need to keep the patient trying to be well. The treatment is not always kind, but should never be cruel.
#19
1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!
2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what?
The Dave 4 years ago
Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
Give the other guy a kick in the balls so hard he won't be asking stupid question for a long time!
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Mazer 4 years ago
Gaslighting!!! Minimizing your!! Victimizing his patients!! Arrogant narcissistic jerk disguised as a doctor
Rissie 4 years ago
Woah, hold your horses. I always wonder with interactions like these if the anxiousness didn't screw up what actually was said. I mean, what kind of discussion is that? Most doctors just go about their day, they really want you to answer you're indeed anxious, because that means nothing is wrong. These tit bits always make me want to hear more about the experience.
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Rukkia 4 years ago
My son has a little crease on his outer earlobe. We were at a cosmetic surgeon due to his cleft palate. The doctor was like, "Well we could fix his ear as well". It was barely noticeable and doesn't cause any issues, and my son was only four at the time. Excuse me!! Told the doc exactly where he could shove that.
#20
I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect
Nadine Debard 4 years ago
Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant.
BlackestDawn 4 years ago
It's not always about nutrients, sometimes it's just about energy. Though I have to say there are way better ways to handle this.
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My guess is, the doc was concerned that she hadn't gained much weight by her 8th month (a totally valid concern btw) and probably made a little joke about the ranch on salad, then she blew that way out of proportion
Bob Stuart 4 years ago
There are no male medical people in my local hospital. When the head nurse hassled me for being late for an appointment, I got her to admit that the mistake was on her end. She then booked me for a distant specialist that only an ambulance could have gotten me to on time, to make me look like the problem. It got worse from there. I never did get my bone set, and trying to ruined my general health.
Diane Knight 4 years ago
As long as the baby is growing normally, it is fine. I lost 8 pounds while pregnant with my last child. I'd go for checkups, and was surprised each time ---I gained 27 with my first and hated it. then the next ones, not a problem, I ate what I wanted in a well balenced diet. Every one is different.
Debbie Burton 4 years ago
With my 1st pregnancy I actually lost over 15 lbs, to the point some Drs would say I was pretending to be pregnant :O
What do you think ?
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I have endometriosis, adenomyosis and other issues. I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life.
Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same.
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Lav Oravaf 4 years ago (edited)
I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying..
Miriam L 4 years ago
I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients.
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B 4 years ago
Male here and I had a similarly excruciating experience as some of the posters above. A friend (also male, but we're both straight) and I used to go clubbing together in Johannesburg (South Africa) in the 1990s and were perhaps a tad promiscuous. One day we decided, just to be safe, to get an HIV test. The doctor sat us down together afterwards and leaned across his desk, crossing his hands and looking grave. He shook his head and said, 'Guys, I have some bad news.' Then he laughed and said, 'No, I'm only joking.' We were so relieved that we just left and forgot to punch him in the face.
Iggy 4 years ago
He would have deserved that punch (and I'm not a violent person)! That was a horrible thing to do to you.
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GirlFriday 4 years ago
I had a doctor tell me that my sudden weight gain and abdominal pain was because I was being lazy. I explained that I still exercised regularly and ate healthy food and something was wrong. He laughed and told me to join a gym and when I lost weight, my abdominal pain would go away. After four months of strict diet and exercise, I gained 17 pounds. He told me I was lying and still eating fast food so he told me to get bariatric surgery. I cried my eyes out and went to see the bariatric surgeon and she ran some test on me. It turns out I had a mass in my intestines that was growing rapidly and stomach cancer. I had to have surgery to remove most of my stomach and lower intestines plus radiation and chemo. I am cancer-free now, but damn, that doctor should not be treating people.
Seabeast 4 years ago
That doctor should be reported to his governing board.
Load More Replies... Lovin' Life 4 years ago
I went to a doctor who specializes in weight loss. I was bulimic an. He prescribed the meds and shots which I took because I thought I was fat. I weighed 102 at 5' 4". He put his knees between my knees while on his stool and I was seated in a chair. He proceeded to tell me I needed to come back in a month and see how the meds were working and that i needed to wear dresses with no panties. So not only did he give me meds that i did not need, but he wanted me back pantiless. I never went back but in that month had lost down to 82 lbs. I was sent to a treatment facility for bulimia and am now very healthy. Tge doctor, not by me, was reported for sexual misconduct by several staff members and I think 17 patients. He is on probation.
Kira Okah 4 years ago
I don't remember what exactly the situation was, it was so long ago, but me and some type of medication didn't work too well together. Like making me sick and hallucinate to the point of if it hadn't worn off I would have probably hurt myself. Did nothing for the problem either. I stopped taking it and the issue went away on its own. It came back a few years ago and I went to the doctor, and got given a prescription for the same stuff as before. When I told her that I had a creepy reaction to it before and it did nothing about the issue either, her response was something along the lines of: "I don't care what you think, I don't care if you take it then kill yourself. The book says that this is used first and the book knows better than you. You take it, or you are a drug seeker and deserve to kill yourself. Get the f*ck out of my sight."
Pille P 4 years ago
I was told for years I have stress. Until a resident vacation replacement found out I have heart inflammation due to a chronic tonsillitis. At 27 I was unable to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling like I just ran a marathon. This led to a deep depression. After finally getting a diagnosis I was sent back to my family doctor for explaining the treatment. Well she gave me some herbal medicine and sent me away. Luckily the intern was there on next time and forwarded me to get my tonsils removed. This crap took 2 years of my life and as I could not even get an academic leave for medical reasons I dropped out of the teaching degree program.
K. Lange 4 years ago
Last year I was supposed to have an operation on my shoulder. In preparation, I should have an X-ray taken. Instead of his opinion on the shoulder, the doctor kept saying that there were conspicuous white dots on the bones and that I should clarify what can still be done there, how far the tumors had spread and that I should urgently see the appropriate specialist. He never used the word cancer, only ever spoke of tumors and metastases, but what else should he have meant! Thanks to my orthopedic surgeon, I got an appointment with the nuclear radiologist relatively quickly and he gave the all-clear. For 1 week I was afraid for nothing without end.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I have endometriosis, adenomyosis and other issues. I had periods so painful all my youth that I used to pass out from the pain. My father is a doctor and always found it normal. At 19 I got tired and went to a doctor. He didnt examined me and told me that "I needed to relax", refusing to even send me to the gyn. I have heard it all. "You are just anxious" "you need to be patient" (illneses dont dissapear by being patient) and my favourite "just a paracetqmol should be enough" (my pain gets so high that 200mg of tramadol dont help). It took me 11 years, 5 GPs and 4 gynecologists to even get a diagnosis while having textbook symptoms of those diseases. Now they are so bad that I am disabled and wont ever be able to have a normal life.
Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
Then it took me another year to find a gynecologist that could do surgery. This man refused to give me a hysterectomy (best treatment for adenomyosis) "because you will regret not having kids". He pushed me to have a less effective treatment (endometrial ablation) and also refused to sterilise me when I asked (salpingectomy). He took me to surgery without telling me that pregnancy after that operation is super dangerous. With about 26% morbidity and x3 chances of ectopic pregnancy. He refused to sterilise me and actively endangered my life just to preserve a minimal ammount of fertility! My consent to the surgery was not valid. When I spoke to his boss he didnt even blinked or apologized and my GP was the same.
Load More Replies... Lav Oravaf 4 years ago (edited)
I was 18 and quite overweight (depression and lots of school stress) went to a new gynecologist, who turned out to be the one who delivered me at birth. He looked at me and said "oh I didnt know I gave birth to whales". wow.. the grace, the professionalism. Unfortunately back then I was too weak to stand up for myself and tell him how pathetic he was, so I just took the hit and went home crying..
Miriam L 4 years ago
I just want to say - as a chronic patient who's met exceptional doctors, pathetic doctors and everyone in between, as well as socially knowing a heck-ton of doctors -- it's not always like this. It is very important that we do share the horror stories, the exceptions, the times where things do go wrong, so that future patients know that their doctors aren't infallible (and sometimes are just straight up unethical slimebags) and people feel comfortable speaking up and advocating for themselves. We can't sweep these stories under the rug if we want things to get better. But most doctors are good, kind people - not perfect but they'll do their best and they'll respect your wishes. Doctors as a whole are beginning to embrace the idea of informing their patients as much as possible, answering questions, offering options and generally giving as much autonomy to their patients as possible. Being a patient can feel powerless, but most doctors do their best
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I am glad that you had better experiences than me. I barely met one or two doctors in the last 12 years that showed any empathy for their patients.
Load More Replies... B 4 years ago
Male here and I had a similarly excruciating experience as some of the posters above. A friend (also male, but we're both straight) and I used to go clubbing together in Johannesburg (South Africa) in the 1990s and were perhaps a tad promiscuous. One day we decided, just to be safe, to get an HIV test. The doctor sat us down together afterwards and leaned across his desk, crossing his hands and looking grave. He shook his head and said, 'Guys, I have some bad news.' Then he laughed and said, 'No, I'm only joking.' We were so relieved that we just left and forgot to punch him in the face.
Iggy 4 years ago
He would have deserved that punch (and I'm not a violent person)! That was a horrible thing to do to you.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 4 years ago
I had a doctor tell me that my sudden weight gain and abdominal pain was because I was being lazy. I explained that I still exercised regularly and ate healthy food and something was wrong. He laughed and told me to join a gym and when I lost weight, my abdominal pain would go away. After four months of strict diet and exercise, I gained 17 pounds. He told me I was lying and still eating fast food so he told me to get bariatric surgery. I cried my eyes out and went to see the bariatric surgeon and she ran some test on me. It turns out I had a mass in my intestines that was growing rapidly and stomach cancer. I had to have surgery to remove most of my stomach and lower intestines plus radiation and chemo. I am cancer-free now, but damn, that doctor should not be treating people.
Seabeast 4 years ago
That doctor should be reported to his governing board.
Load More Replies... Lovin' Life 4 years ago
I went to a doctor who specializes in weight loss. I was bulimic an. He prescribed the meds and shots which I took because I thought I was fat. I weighed 102 at 5' 4". He put his knees between my knees while on his stool and I was seated in a chair. He proceeded to tell me I needed to come back in a month and see how the meds were working and that i needed to wear dresses with no panties. So not only did he give me meds that i did not need, but he wanted me back pantiless. I never went back but in that month had lost down to 82 lbs. I was sent to a treatment facility for bulimia and am now very healthy. Tge doctor, not by me, was reported for sexual misconduct by several staff members and I think 17 patients. He is on probation.
Kira Okah 4 years ago
I don't remember what exactly the situation was, it was so long ago, but me and some type of medication didn't work too well together. Like making me sick and hallucinate to the point of if it hadn't worn off I would have probably hurt myself. Did nothing for the problem either. I stopped taking it and the issue went away on its own. It came back a few years ago and I went to the doctor, and got given a prescription for the same stuff as before. When I told her that I had a creepy reaction to it before and it did nothing about the issue either, her response was something along the lines of: "I don't care what you think, I don't care if you take it then kill yourself. The book says that this is used first and the book knows better than you. You take it, or you are a drug seeker and deserve to kill yourself. Get the f*ck out of my sight."
Pille P 4 years ago
I was told for years I have stress. Until a resident vacation replacement found out I have heart inflammation due to a chronic tonsillitis. At 27 I was unable to walk up a flight of stairs without feeling like I just ran a marathon. This led to a deep depression. After finally getting a diagnosis I was sent back to my family doctor for explaining the treatment. Well she gave me some herbal medicine and sent me away. Luckily the intern was there on next time and forwarded me to get my tonsils removed. This crap took 2 years of my life and as I could not even get an academic leave for medical reasons I dropped out of the teaching degree program.
K. Lange 4 years ago
Last year I was supposed to have an operation on my shoulder. In preparation, I should have an X-ray taken. Instead of his opinion on the shoulder, the doctor kept saying that there were conspicuous white dots on the bones and that I should clarify what can still be done there, how far the tumors had spread and that I should urgently see the appropriate specialist. He never used the word cancer, only ever spoke of tumors and metastases, but what else should he have meant! Thanks to my orthopedic surgeon, I got an appointment with the nuclear radiologist relatively quickly and he gave the all-clear. For 1 week I was afraid for nothing without end.
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