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Mom Wonders If She’s A Jerk For Wearing Jeans To Daughter’s Wedding To Prove A Point, Gets A Reality Check Online
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Mom Wonders If She’s A Jerk For Wearing Jeans To Daughter’s Wedding To Prove A Point, Gets A Reality Check Online

Some days are bigger than us. They demand putting our ego aside and just sucking it up. But when Reddit user BallFinal2037‘s daughter’s wedding came around, the woman couldn’t be happy for her. For whatever reason, she thought of it not as a celebration of love, but rather as an opportunity to get revenge on the bride.

However, it was the woman’s husband who confronted her about it, stirring up doubts in her mind. So she turned to the subreddit r/AITAH (which is a lot like the popular r/AITA) to describe the situation and ask its members for unbiased opinions on the matter. Here’s what she wrote.

Instead of celebrating her daughter’s wedding, this mother wanted to get back at her for all the times she disrespected her with her attire

Image credits: Ayşenur (not the actual photo)

So the woman purposefully put on a pair of jeans

Image credits: Olena Bohovyk (not the actual photo)

Image credits: u/BallFinal2037

According to Elaine Swann, lifestyle and etiquette expert and founder of The Swann School of Protocol, it’s usually better to overdress for a wedding than underdress. However, before one makes their final decision, they should read the room. For example, don’t wear a tux or a ballgown to a backyard wedding—in that case, it’s better to keep it a little more low-key.

Swann also thinks the location has a lot to do with what you should wear. If it’s a destination wedding, then you know that you’d be wearing resort-style attire. But if it’s going to take place at a high-end hotel, then that’ll give you another idea of the theme.

The other indicator that helps determine your style is the time of day the ceremony is taking place. Earlier in the day, you’re going to find that the attire is going to be less formal, which means more bright colors and flowy fabrics, while later in the evening is when you’ll get to that formal attire where you have black and gold hues, beads, and sparkles.

Of course, this is all generally speaking, but these are good guidelines to follow, and judging by them, the author of the post really did miss the mark.

Yes, pettiness is part of being human. In fact, the 2019 Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) Pettiness in the Workplace survey found that 97 percent of people report having engaged in petty behavior. However, we should be able to rise above it, especially when we’re talking about the people closest to us.

People thought the woman was acting like a spoiled child

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LH25
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I love is the daughter showed that her not dressing up wasn't malicious or personal. It didn't matter to her

Renegade
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Girl's already learned how to deal with her mother's narcissism. I can't imagine trying to punish one of my kids for some minor offense they committed at 17.

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The Starsong Princess
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suppose the daughter was just thrilled that her narcissist mother didn’t show up in a wedding dress as she probably expected.

Carol Emory
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do you need to get all fancy and dressed up to go out to a Birthday dinner? Did you ever think that the reason she never dressed up is because she didn't want to go? YTA and you did it to get back at her for being a typical teen. No wonder your husband was furious.

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LH25
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I love is the daughter showed that her not dressing up wasn't malicious or personal. It didn't matter to her

Renegade
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Girl's already learned how to deal with her mother's narcissism. I can't imagine trying to punish one of my kids for some minor offense they committed at 17.

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The Starsong Princess
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suppose the daughter was just thrilled that her narcissist mother didn’t show up in a wedding dress as she probably expected.

Carol Emory
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2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do you need to get all fancy and dressed up to go out to a Birthday dinner? Did you ever think that the reason she never dressed up is because she didn't want to go? YTA and you did it to get back at her for being a typical teen. No wonder your husband was furious.

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