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Mom’s Genius Selfie Trick Is Going Viral, And Kids Probably Already Hate Her For Revealing It
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Mom’s Genius Selfie Trick Is Going Viral, And Kids Probably Already Hate Her For Revealing It

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“I think it’s safe to say my mom doesn’t trust me,” 18-year-old Kaelyn Demmon told Twitter on July 29th as she shared a text conversation with her mom, Heather Steinkopf. She was only watching movies with a friend, but her mom wanted to be 100% sure of that – and did so by requesting selfies that couldn’t be “photo-cropped.”

Steinkopf knows that teens keep a camera roll full of seemingly-innocent photos specifically for occasions like these, so she finds creative ways to get the proof she needs. “Get on her back and take another selfie,” she demanded of Kaelyn and her friend, Stevie Holbrook. The high school graduate has been burned before. “There have been times when I’ve said I’m at Stevie’s when I’m at a bonfire or something,” she told Buzzfeed News.  Steinkopf insists, however, that sometimes it’s just for her personal enjoyment, as she does trust her daughter. “I knew she was where she said she was, but it was more fun to keep her doing different things.”

Some people were quick to relate to the story, and thought of their own moms, and kids, immediately. Others, however, had mixed opinions on Steinkopf’s surveillance. See it all for yourself below, and tell us what you think at the end!

18-year-old Kaelyn Demmon and her mom, Heather Steinkopf, have recently gone viral – here’s why

Like any mom, Steinkopf likes to keep tabs on her daughter, but in a more ‘creative’ way

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Some people are relating seriously hard to this girl and her detective-level mom

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Others, however, felt Steinkopf’s actions were a little excessive

What do you think? Was this mom justified or just too much? Tell us in the comments below!

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, this is sad, all the seeming fun included in these tweets notwithstanding. Trusting your children is the way to go – for they trust you through all their childhood. And in this case, we are not even speaking of a child, but of a adolescent, even legally being of age.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aww but Hans, you are forgetting one thing that an old and famous Russian expression points out so clearly. And that is "Доверяй, но проверяй", which is pronounced "Doveryai, no proveryai". Reagan used it in dealing with the Russians, and it means "TRUST BUT VERIFY". What the mother here was doing was saying, "Hey, I trust you dear, but I also want you to verify my trust". Its perfectly logical AND necessary for teaching young girls about what it means to be a caring, and loving, mother. Kaelyn will learn to appreciate this when she has her own little ones to raise. ;D

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my mom had done that to me in my youth it would seriously break up our relations, make me feel embarassed in front of my friends and really uneasy to the point I'd stop going out. C'mon, seriously? Fun? My definition of fun with children is quite different then :/

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

http://honey.nine.com.au/2017/08/02/10/14/mum-makes-daughter-send-selfies-to-prove-shes-not-lying-where-she-is Here we have an explanation - the dauther was caught by her mom on lying, saying she was at Stevie's, when she was really at a bonfire or something. So this whole thing isn't only a "fun way to keep an eye on my kid" but came out of damaged trust.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ahh, you have done some research, which changed things, and for that I applaud you. Knowledge is a wonderful thing, isn't it? ;D

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Oksana Bastrykina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen the same kind of post but about a crazy boyfriend, who was forcing his girlfriend to send him pictures like these to check where she's at, and then everyone called him psycho, controlling, abusive , but now it's suddenly a cute and caring mother for everyone. Logic 404

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Lau Brooke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's an article that is disturbingly like this one, except it's about a husband that seriously abused his wife. He'd make her take all sorts of photos like this to prove she wasn't lying and cheating. I don't think it's any less abuse because it's a mother-daughter relationship. It's plain wrong.

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Emma Perkins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does anyone else think this seems really similar to the article where a woman revealed how her abusive husband treated her? He made her take pictures like this to prove she was at her mother's house and whatnot, which is beyond creepy and horrible. If my mother tried to do this to me, especially since the girl is legally her own boss now, I'd be pissed.

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Szabolcs Galambos
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Setting one: I'm at at a party having fun. Mom calls, I sincerely say i'm at the party. Resolution: Im punished for being at a party. Setting two: I'm at a party having fun. Mom calls, I lie Im at my gf to avoid punishment. Resolution: Im punished for lying. Setting three: I'm at my gf. Mom calls, Im sincerely say i'm at my gf. Yet I'm punished for being at my gf and saying the truth... Moral of the story: whats the point of telling the truth if my mom is so paranoid and overcontrolling that i'm punished anyway?

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Amina Hays
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People saying she's untrustworthy are idiots. She wants to know where her kid is but she's being silly about it. How is that not obvious.

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Luna Kittenwarrior
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A horrible boyfriend forces a woman to take pictures. Called creepy, controlling and psyco. A horrible mom forces a woman to take pictures. Called cute, sweet, and caring. Welcome to the Internet.

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Maria Born
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3468708/domestic-abuse-victim-shares-sickening-texts-from-controlling-husband/ The difference? No.

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Jessica Hepler
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its way too much nobody likes to feel like they don't have any freedom. I honestly can't believe that she even complied bc I would never

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Sarah Lennie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps at the age of 15, but not 18. At 18 yrs the girl is legally an adult, mum needs to cut the apron strings!

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Angela Braithwaite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well then, when mum cuts the apron strings, daughter aught to move out and support herself.

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Steffi Eff
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex boyfriend used to do this to me... where are you? - at home, in bed?! - send me a selfie with a fork so i know it's real.. needless to say it didn't last very long...

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Joe Sauer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think every parent/child relationship is different, and we were all raised differently. Could this be taken as overbearing, of course, however it also shows how much she cares and does worry about her daughter. They obviously have a good relationship and in my book, thats good enough. Let them live their lives, and let us have a good laugh at the post.

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Allie Orona
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To not trust your children makes the child not trust themselves or the parent. It's not healthy at all, and what the mom did was not very healthy for the child, at all.

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Pilar Covington
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think her mom does this EVERY SINGLE TIME, she probably trusts her 18 yr old. And if not, the 18 yr old has probably given her a reason NOT to trust her. Nevertheless, this could be used on kids younger that aren't adults.

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Wendy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, she is 18 and it shouldn't even been done once. She is a legal adult. She shouldn't have to give her mom any reason at all, really. It should be a moot issue.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The girl is 18,a legal adult.My kids are 25,22,19 and 18.The only one still living at home is the 19 year old.The others are all at uni,living in the city(the eldest since she was 17).They are functional adults...Just as this girl would be, if her overly controlling Mother trusted her enough to give her a chance.Geez,she's ok with her driving a car for god's sake.

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Ashley Fernandes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is actually horrible. I wasn't a great teenager and sure, I lied to my parents but never resulting in anything that would have put me in danger so there was a level of trust. There is clearly no trust between these two. Either the mom is super suspicious for who knows how many reasons (could be because of the s**t she pulled as a teenager therefore knowing what the possibilities are) or the daughter has overtly broken that trust and can't be relied on to follow rules. Either way. It's sad.

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Sherlock Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember moms and dads; helicopter parenting makes kids into good liars, not good children.

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fubukifangirl
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's 18 years old. Her mom has NO business in sticking her nose into her daughter's activities.

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Aessidhe Eclipse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad I didn't have a cell when I was a kid and when I had I couldn't send pics anyway (no camera) xDD

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Katinka Min
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaaaaand lighting one more candel in thanks that I was born in the 70s. Thank you, universe!!

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Stille20
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's a terrible idea, if your kid is 16, but she's 18. Still if it is only playful, no harm done.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stille, she is still officially a dependent of her parents, because she is living under their roof. That's what matters most. When she goes out on her own, then she will be her own boss, but until then.........................

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Leni
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pff I'd hope by that time I've instilled enough sense in my kid that I don't need to watch her every move... isn't it enough that they need constant vigilance when they're small xD

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Louiiiise
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mother should be ashamed of herself. I'd tell her to f*ck off if I were her daughter.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Louiiiise, go back and read Alusair's posts from start to finish. She can teach you all about how to educate one's self through research and knowledge. Also remember, that as long as the daughter lives in mom's home, she is a dependent, which makes her age secondary. Obviously you never grew up in a military family, where responsibility rests at the top of the food chain.

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foxlover05
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need some advice.. I'm 17 and pregnant-due on January 1st. I'm going to keep my baby girl, as I think that's the best thing to do. I know a lot of people will be reading this and will be disappointed in me. Before you judge me, know that this is because of rape. I need names for my baby girl, and advice for being a teen mom.

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Susan Osborn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this depends on whether or not the 18 year old still lives in the mom's home and whether or not trust has been broken. I have a son that will be 18 for 1/2 of his senior year and he has definitely broken some trust with the freedom we've given him so I'm sure he'll be getting some of those texts from me: at least until he graduates. :)

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Kiki Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abusive partners also do this to their significant others - it's a form of control...emotional abuse :(

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Deb Roberson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Trust, but verify." It's cool that she's making it fun. As for, "the kid is 18" well, as long as she is living at home, she is subject to the Rules of the House. Knowing where family members are headed isn't unreasonable, if the worst happens and they don't come home, you at least know where to start looking.

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Jeannie Carle
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's great and she makes it fun. MY Mom would simply have assumed the worst. THIS would have been SO much better :-)

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Louise White
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i think what everyone who disagrees is forgetting...she does trust her daughter....she has said that, this is just a fun thing that she does with her daughter.its not saying that she mistrusts her at all. i think this is amazing bonding between parent and child. im 23 and my parents are both like this, not because they dont trust me, but because we have the same sense of humor. i live at home and me and my brother who is 21 go out together regularly and always send our parents selfies. it also keeps parents in the "Modern World". just think about how many parents in this day and age actually know what a selfie is?! it wasn't until last that my parents knew. so don't judge this woman for wanting to have a little fun with her daughter in a "Trust" Exercise. So Heather Steinkopf...keep doing what your doing :) its obvious your daughter enjoys it as much as you do..else she wouldnt be replying XD

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TheMsLollidella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Haha my mom calls me every so often to see if I did anything like cook or clean. Sometimes she says "I see u" I'm like "where !?" Lol in my 20s now and she still does the same, but it's fun imo nvr felt restricted. I chill at home anyways, rather lay in the Jacuzzi than go out

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Grim Reaper NZ
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol im 23 and a gamer lol my dad keeps tabs by trying the games i play xD its funny as hell cause we end up co-oping alot of stuff

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Joey Merritt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is wonderful. We have already instituted a way for her to tell me if she's in trouble without her friends knowing. This is just a fun way to stay in touch and give my daughter some freedom (she's 16) without pressuring her. These pictures are a way to keep kids safe. It's not like they aren't on their phones doing selfies all the time any way. Or like I am going to check in every hour!!

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Anna Secoria
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It all depends on the relationship you have with your kid. My daughter and I are super close and I totally do this to her but she thinks it's a lot of fun, waiting to see what I come up with. I love my daughter and I trust her, only to a point. She's still a kid and makes dumb decisions.

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Brittney Espeland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's a mom who loves her child, nothing wrong with that! I wish my mom would just text me once lol so enjoy it!! She loves you

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well as I said before they decided to share the story on the internet... Dont people have opinions? And nobody knows best we can all learn.

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Diana
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? I did this 9 years ago with my daughter. And I thought I was technologically slow.

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Pablo Tirado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't be the only one to think that both Kaelynn and Stevie look super high.

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Michelle Wyatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what I think: why does everybody care so much about what other people think? Do what's right for you. The rest of them can do what's right for them.

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Bethlehem
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mom is awesome. When you are 18, or so, trouble tends to find you. Standing O for you, a mom who cares, the world needs more parents that do.

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Jessica Nussbaumer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's good that she indeed cares - but this is caring to the point of being overbearing and controlling.

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Robert Buxwin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Age doesn't really matter if a child is still living at home. If you want independence, get your own place and otherwise conduct your life like an adult. If you are 25 and still living with your parents, you might s well be 15.

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Paladin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I'm gonna say is, we don't know this mom, her daughter, or their circumstances. It's easy to be an armchair quarterback/driver/whatever from a distance

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what you mean, but this mom & daughter shared their story (with a lot of details). Opinions will ensue ...

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Debra Starr Moon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a mom, I can relate to the positive comments. As a former teen, I can relate to the negative comments. But if given the choice, I'm going to err on the side of caution every time. Age is a number and children mature at different levels. There are some 13 year olds out there who are more mature than some adults I know, and some 23 year olds who make me wonder how they've gotten through life thus far. You have to factor individual maturity (as well as past behavior) into parenting decisions, not just age. Letting kids make mistakes is part of life and how they learn and grow, but some 'mistakes' carry way too high a price tag and can ruin the rest of their lives. As long as my kids are under my roof, I will always be an active and involved parent. Once they're out on their own, I will pray they make good decisions, respect the decisions they make, and be here for them if they need me.

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Brian Devine
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's great ,Kaelyn knows her mum will call so she will obviously be where she said ,i think its love not distrust and in the world we live in is it not better to be safe ,

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Phyllis O'Conor
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! It is truly amazing how many of you parents have had the perfect children. I wish we had cell phones when I was raising my children. I may have had a heads up that they were hanging with the wrong crowd and getting involved in drugs. My husband and I were hard-working upper middle-class folks who took our family on vacations etc. I see nothing wrong with making a friendly game of trusting. The young lady said herself that she had lied about where she was on occasion. Although in this case it may have been harmless, very often it is not.

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Jennifer Wigert
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 16 year old just got raped in Sweden hanging out with a few, knowing one of them alittle- she have had a mother like this, making sure she is in a safe situation. LET your parents care about you, you are their world <3

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Larry Melton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about all of you minding your own affairs, IF you even have kids. Bottom line: none of your business how a Mom interacts with her Daughter...

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Sank Same
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is very funny. Mom and daughter should bond like this more often. It's what decent society does. Notice how nobody pulled a gun or a Knife? Instead it was all good-natured hijinx.

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well that is extreme, if families don't do this then it will all turn into a shitshow with guns and knifes?!? What?!

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Necee Lynn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See this overbearing suppressive parenting is why my first lover and i had so much forrest and public bathroom quickies . It wasnt a kink, there was no safe place, there was no acceptance of normal human development. This creates a prison and once free you genuinely feel you gotta make up for it. I dont regret the fun, i regret the drugs. Dont cage your children guys, teach them good decision making.

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Andey Hawes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get a grip u idiots. Gd on the mum bit of tongue in cheek humour nothing more

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get being worried about your kid but not the not trusting your kid. Especially not at that age. Does she have so little faith in the education she gave her daughter?

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She does, cause the kid lied to her. look for this stroy on other portals. I did, and BoredPanda didn't write the full story here.

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Zori the degu
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there's nothing wrong with this "GPS" technique. Worrying about your grown-up children, especially if they are mature from a relatively short time is not something to be ashamed of. Some people might say that it's stupid to check the whereabouts of your children like that but ever since both the daughter and the mum find it amusing, I don't see what's the problem. It's actually a good idea and everyone who haven't thought of it and get worried about their kids easily should try it.

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Hans
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, this is sad, all the seeming fun included in these tweets notwithstanding. Trusting your children is the way to go – for they trust you through all their childhood. And in this case, we are not even speaking of a child, but of a adolescent, even legally being of age.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aww but Hans, you are forgetting one thing that an old and famous Russian expression points out so clearly. And that is "Доверяй, но проверяй", which is pronounced "Doveryai, no proveryai". Reagan used it in dealing with the Russians, and it means "TRUST BUT VERIFY". What the mother here was doing was saying, "Hey, I trust you dear, but I also want you to verify my trust". Its perfectly logical AND necessary for teaching young girls about what it means to be a caring, and loving, mother. Kaelyn will learn to appreciate this when she has her own little ones to raise. ;D

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my mom had done that to me in my youth it would seriously break up our relations, make me feel embarassed in front of my friends and really uneasy to the point I'd stop going out. C'mon, seriously? Fun? My definition of fun with children is quite different then :/

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

http://honey.nine.com.au/2017/08/02/10/14/mum-makes-daughter-send-selfies-to-prove-shes-not-lying-where-she-is Here we have an explanation - the dauther was caught by her mom on lying, saying she was at Stevie's, when she was really at a bonfire or something. So this whole thing isn't only a "fun way to keep an eye on my kid" but came out of damaged trust.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ahh, you have done some research, which changed things, and for that I applaud you. Knowledge is a wonderful thing, isn't it? ;D

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Oksana Bastrykina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen the same kind of post but about a crazy boyfriend, who was forcing his girlfriend to send him pictures like these to check where she's at, and then everyone called him psycho, controlling, abusive , but now it's suddenly a cute and caring mother for everyone. Logic 404

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Lau Brooke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's an article that is disturbingly like this one, except it's about a husband that seriously abused his wife. He'd make her take all sorts of photos like this to prove she wasn't lying and cheating. I don't think it's any less abuse because it's a mother-daughter relationship. It's plain wrong.

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Emma Perkins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does anyone else think this seems really similar to the article where a woman revealed how her abusive husband treated her? He made her take pictures like this to prove she was at her mother's house and whatnot, which is beyond creepy and horrible. If my mother tried to do this to me, especially since the girl is legally her own boss now, I'd be pissed.

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Szabolcs Galambos
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Setting one: I'm at at a party having fun. Mom calls, I sincerely say i'm at the party. Resolution: Im punished for being at a party. Setting two: I'm at a party having fun. Mom calls, I lie Im at my gf to avoid punishment. Resolution: Im punished for lying. Setting three: I'm at my gf. Mom calls, Im sincerely say i'm at my gf. Yet I'm punished for being at my gf and saying the truth... Moral of the story: whats the point of telling the truth if my mom is so paranoid and overcontrolling that i'm punished anyway?

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Amina Hays
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People saying she's untrustworthy are idiots. She wants to know where her kid is but she's being silly about it. How is that not obvious.

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Luna Kittenwarrior
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A horrible boyfriend forces a woman to take pictures. Called creepy, controlling and psyco. A horrible mom forces a woman to take pictures. Called cute, sweet, and caring. Welcome to the Internet.

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Maria Born
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3468708/domestic-abuse-victim-shares-sickening-texts-from-controlling-husband/ The difference? No.

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Jessica Hepler
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its way too much nobody likes to feel like they don't have any freedom. I honestly can't believe that she even complied bc I would never

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Sarah Lennie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps at the age of 15, but not 18. At 18 yrs the girl is legally an adult, mum needs to cut the apron strings!

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Angela Braithwaite
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well then, when mum cuts the apron strings, daughter aught to move out and support herself.

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Steffi Eff
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex boyfriend used to do this to me... where are you? - at home, in bed?! - send me a selfie with a fork so i know it's real.. needless to say it didn't last very long...

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Joe Sauer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think every parent/child relationship is different, and we were all raised differently. Could this be taken as overbearing, of course, however it also shows how much she cares and does worry about her daughter. They obviously have a good relationship and in my book, thats good enough. Let them live their lives, and let us have a good laugh at the post.

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Allie Orona
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To not trust your children makes the child not trust themselves or the parent. It's not healthy at all, and what the mom did was not very healthy for the child, at all.

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Pilar Covington
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think her mom does this EVERY SINGLE TIME, she probably trusts her 18 yr old. And if not, the 18 yr old has probably given her a reason NOT to trust her. Nevertheless, this could be used on kids younger that aren't adults.

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Wendy
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, she is 18 and it shouldn't even been done once. She is a legal adult. She shouldn't have to give her mom any reason at all, really. It should be a moot issue.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The girl is 18,a legal adult.My kids are 25,22,19 and 18.The only one still living at home is the 19 year old.The others are all at uni,living in the city(the eldest since she was 17).They are functional adults...Just as this girl would be, if her overly controlling Mother trusted her enough to give her a chance.Geez,she's ok with her driving a car for god's sake.

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Ashley Fernandes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is actually horrible. I wasn't a great teenager and sure, I lied to my parents but never resulting in anything that would have put me in danger so there was a level of trust. There is clearly no trust between these two. Either the mom is super suspicious for who knows how many reasons (could be because of the s**t she pulled as a teenager therefore knowing what the possibilities are) or the daughter has overtly broken that trust and can't be relied on to follow rules. Either way. It's sad.

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Sherlock Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember moms and dads; helicopter parenting makes kids into good liars, not good children.

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fubukifangirl
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's 18 years old. Her mom has NO business in sticking her nose into her daughter's activities.

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Aessidhe Eclipse
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad I didn't have a cell when I was a kid and when I had I couldn't send pics anyway (no camera) xDD

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Katinka Min
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaaaaand lighting one more candel in thanks that I was born in the 70s. Thank you, universe!!

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Stille20
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's a terrible idea, if your kid is 16, but she's 18. Still if it is only playful, no harm done.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stille, she is still officially a dependent of her parents, because she is living under their roof. That's what matters most. When she goes out on her own, then she will be her own boss, but until then.........................

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Leni
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pff I'd hope by that time I've instilled enough sense in my kid that I don't need to watch her every move... isn't it enough that they need constant vigilance when they're small xD

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Louiiiise
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mother should be ashamed of herself. I'd tell her to f*ck off if I were her daughter.

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John L
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Louiiiise, go back and read Alusair's posts from start to finish. She can teach you all about how to educate one's self through research and knowledge. Also remember, that as long as the daughter lives in mom's home, she is a dependent, which makes her age secondary. Obviously you never grew up in a military family, where responsibility rests at the top of the food chain.

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foxlover05
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need some advice.. I'm 17 and pregnant-due on January 1st. I'm going to keep my baby girl, as I think that's the best thing to do. I know a lot of people will be reading this and will be disappointed in me. Before you judge me, know that this is because of rape. I need names for my baby girl, and advice for being a teen mom.

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Susan Osborn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this depends on whether or not the 18 year old still lives in the mom's home and whether or not trust has been broken. I have a son that will be 18 for 1/2 of his senior year and he has definitely broken some trust with the freedom we've given him so I'm sure he'll be getting some of those texts from me: at least until he graduates. :)

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Kiki Brown
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abusive partners also do this to their significant others - it's a form of control...emotional abuse :(

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Deb Roberson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Trust, but verify." It's cool that she's making it fun. As for, "the kid is 18" well, as long as she is living at home, she is subject to the Rules of the House. Knowing where family members are headed isn't unreasonable, if the worst happens and they don't come home, you at least know where to start looking.

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Jeannie Carle
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's great and she makes it fun. MY Mom would simply have assumed the worst. THIS would have been SO much better :-)

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Louise White
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i think what everyone who disagrees is forgetting...she does trust her daughter....she has said that, this is just a fun thing that she does with her daughter.its not saying that she mistrusts her at all. i think this is amazing bonding between parent and child. im 23 and my parents are both like this, not because they dont trust me, but because we have the same sense of humor. i live at home and me and my brother who is 21 go out together regularly and always send our parents selfies. it also keeps parents in the "Modern World". just think about how many parents in this day and age actually know what a selfie is?! it wasn't until last that my parents knew. so don't judge this woman for wanting to have a little fun with her daughter in a "Trust" Exercise. So Heather Steinkopf...keep doing what your doing :) its obvious your daughter enjoys it as much as you do..else she wouldnt be replying XD

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TheMsLollidella
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Haha my mom calls me every so often to see if I did anything like cook or clean. Sometimes she says "I see u" I'm like "where !?" Lol in my 20s now and she still does the same, but it's fun imo nvr felt restricted. I chill at home anyways, rather lay in the Jacuzzi than go out

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Grim Reaper NZ
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol im 23 and a gamer lol my dad keeps tabs by trying the games i play xD its funny as hell cause we end up co-oping alot of stuff

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Joey Merritt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is wonderful. We have already instituted a way for her to tell me if she's in trouble without her friends knowing. This is just a fun way to stay in touch and give my daughter some freedom (she's 16) without pressuring her. These pictures are a way to keep kids safe. It's not like they aren't on their phones doing selfies all the time any way. Or like I am going to check in every hour!!

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Anna Secoria
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It all depends on the relationship you have with your kid. My daughter and I are super close and I totally do this to her but she thinks it's a lot of fun, waiting to see what I come up with. I love my daughter and I trust her, only to a point. She's still a kid and makes dumb decisions.

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Brittney Espeland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's a mom who loves her child, nothing wrong with that! I wish my mom would just text me once lol so enjoy it!! She loves you

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well as I said before they decided to share the story on the internet... Dont people have opinions? And nobody knows best we can all learn.

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Diana
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? I did this 9 years ago with my daughter. And I thought I was technologically slow.

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Pablo Tirado
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't be the only one to think that both Kaelynn and Stevie look super high.

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Michelle Wyatt
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what I think: why does everybody care so much about what other people think? Do what's right for you. The rest of them can do what's right for them.

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Bethlehem
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mom is awesome. When you are 18, or so, trouble tends to find you. Standing O for you, a mom who cares, the world needs more parents that do.

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Jessica Nussbaumer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's good that she indeed cares - but this is caring to the point of being overbearing and controlling.

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Robert Buxwin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Age doesn't really matter if a child is still living at home. If you want independence, get your own place and otherwise conduct your life like an adult. If you are 25 and still living with your parents, you might s well be 15.

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Paladin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I'm gonna say is, we don't know this mom, her daughter, or their circumstances. It's easy to be an armchair quarterback/driver/whatever from a distance

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what you mean, but this mom & daughter shared their story (with a lot of details). Opinions will ensue ...

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Debra Starr Moon
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a mom, I can relate to the positive comments. As a former teen, I can relate to the negative comments. But if given the choice, I'm going to err on the side of caution every time. Age is a number and children mature at different levels. There are some 13 year olds out there who are more mature than some adults I know, and some 23 year olds who make me wonder how they've gotten through life thus far. You have to factor individual maturity (as well as past behavior) into parenting decisions, not just age. Letting kids make mistakes is part of life and how they learn and grow, but some 'mistakes' carry way too high a price tag and can ruin the rest of their lives. As long as my kids are under my roof, I will always be an active and involved parent. Once they're out on their own, I will pray they make good decisions, respect the decisions they make, and be here for them if they need me.

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Brian Devine
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's great ,Kaelyn knows her mum will call so she will obviously be where she said ,i think its love not distrust and in the world we live in is it not better to be safe ,

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Phyllis O'Conor
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! It is truly amazing how many of you parents have had the perfect children. I wish we had cell phones when I was raising my children. I may have had a heads up that they were hanging with the wrong crowd and getting involved in drugs. My husband and I were hard-working upper middle-class folks who took our family on vacations etc. I see nothing wrong with making a friendly game of trusting. The young lady said herself that she had lied about where she was on occasion. Although in this case it may have been harmless, very often it is not.

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Jennifer Wigert
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A 16 year old just got raped in Sweden hanging out with a few, knowing one of them alittle- she have had a mother like this, making sure she is in a safe situation. LET your parents care about you, you are their world <3

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Larry Melton
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about all of you minding your own affairs, IF you even have kids. Bottom line: none of your business how a Mom interacts with her Daughter...

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Sank Same
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is very funny. Mom and daughter should bond like this more often. It's what decent society does. Notice how nobody pulled a gun or a Knife? Instead it was all good-natured hijinx.

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Rivkaka
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well that is extreme, if families don't do this then it will all turn into a shitshow with guns and knifes?!? What?!

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Necee Lynn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See this overbearing suppressive parenting is why my first lover and i had so much forrest and public bathroom quickies . It wasnt a kink, there was no safe place, there was no acceptance of normal human development. This creates a prison and once free you genuinely feel you gotta make up for it. I dont regret the fun, i regret the drugs. Dont cage your children guys, teach them good decision making.

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Andey Hawes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get a grip u idiots. Gd on the mum bit of tongue in cheek humour nothing more

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get being worried about your kid but not the not trusting your kid. Especially not at that age. Does she have so little faith in the education she gave her daughter?

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Alusair Alustriel
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She does, cause the kid lied to her. look for this stroy on other portals. I did, and BoredPanda didn't write the full story here.

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Zori the degu
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there's nothing wrong with this "GPS" technique. Worrying about your grown-up children, especially if they are mature from a relatively short time is not something to be ashamed of. Some people might say that it's stupid to check the whereabouts of your children like that but ever since both the daughter and the mum find it amusing, I don't see what's the problem. It's actually a good idea and everyone who haven't thought of it and get worried about their kids easily should try it.

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