“He Screamed, Cried, Accused, Name-Called”: Son Has A Tantrum After Mom Finally Snaps
There comes a time when we have to take responsibility for our lives and start making decisions that contribute positively to our own well-being. Not just rely on the kindness of others.
But in a post on the subreddit ‘Entitled People,’ platform user Archi_Femme10 said that her brother — despite being 26 years old — still hadn’t realized it.
It had gotten so bad that their mother, who sounds like a pleasant, conflict-avoidant lady, decided to teach the guy a lesson and took matters into her own hands.
Grown-up siblings are supposed to be on each other’s side
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But when this woman learned that her mother was kicking her brother out of the house, she was quite ecstatic
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Experts say parents should prioritize their own financial security and set clear boundaries when providing financial support to their grown children
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According to a 2024 Savings.com survey, 47% of parents with grown children provide them with some form of financial support (not including adult children with disabilities).
On average, these parents are shelling out $1,384 a month, the research found.
Compared with their parents at this age, Gen Zers — the cohort to which the guy from the story belongs — are more likely to have a college degree and work full-time. So in this sense, he’s more of an outlier.
However, of the adult children who are still living at home, 61% don’t contribute to household expenses at all.
As the situation we just learned about illustrates, supporting grown children can be a substantial drain, especially to those whose own retirement security is at risk.
Savings.com discovered that 58% of parents have sacrificed their financial security for the sake of their adult children, a jump from 37% of parents a year earlier.
Therefore, Carolyn McClanahan, a certified financial planner and founder of Life Planning Partners in Jacksonville, Florida, believes that first and foremost, parents should have a good financial plan for themselves, and only then budget how much they can give their kids.
“You need to create boundaries and figure out a balance,” she told CNBC commenting on the issue, adding that as a rule of thumb, you should set aside money for your retirement and emergency fund first.
So judging from the post, it sounds like the lady is doing the right thing.
After her story went viral, the woman joined the discussion in its comments
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The horrible thing is - this sad sack will now go and find some poor woman (most likely a 'good' one because that's what these leeches need) and he will proceed to make her life a nightmare. :( :(
You are so right. While reading this post, I had to spare a thought for the poor woman who's going to find herself playing "Mommy" next.
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The mother is NOT helping her son by letting him stay; she will be helping him by kicking him out so that he can start to live and learn. He might not like it, but the things that are good for you are not always the things you like.
Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do for a person is to tell them "no".
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Honestly, the parents created the monster, that behavior didn't start at 27......
OP has a future problem to consider. At some time, hopefully distant future, mom is going to pass away and brother will inherit a share of the house. Fix this now before it's too late.
Not necessarily, depends on where they are really
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Of course this man is upset and throwing a fit. His entire life his parents and everyone around him have made threats and not once followed through, how dare they expect him to be a productive member of society? Toss his c**p on the lawn, change the locks, block his number.
OP and mom need to be sure to change locks and upgrade security system once he is out. Don't need his entitlement!
if Mum was willing to absorb his costs while he saves up, a better way of doing it would be to say to him, fine. carry on paying your bills as normal, but I will put half (or all if she's that generous) of it into a savings account until it has enough for your moving out costs. deposit, moving van, etc. and then the money can be used for that. I've heard of a lot of comfortably off families that will charge their children rent when they get a job, but if they don't NEED the money, they put it aside for when their child is ready to move out, to help them cover the costs, but by then they're already used to having to budget some of their pay for bills, which to me seems like the best way to go about it, if you can afford to
Because of changes to tenancy laws the last couple years she may actually have a really hard time legally evicting him if he resists. Tons of people have been evicted that just refused to leave and keep the court busy with months of appeals. Because he gave her money he can claim he’s a paying legal tenant and that gives him some rights. She needs something from a lawyer and that’s dated or this could go on for months while he trashes the place too. Laws right now do not favor landlords.
My bro and sis in laws son is in mid 40s an doesn't work or have any income. Is still married to his first wife. She's out of state now. Has a kid w another girl in another state and had one with a gf while married but broken up. She's in jail now too. So he spends all day ignoring his kid that live w him at his folks while playing video games. He's a bully and mentally sociopathic with rage bouts. His kid is starting to get into if he treat his folks bad she can do that too. It's bad. If they would kick his a*s out their lives would be so much better raising his kid without him around. Since they do it all anyway.
Not sure why someone gave you a down-vote for calling out your beyond-spoiled bro's *wretched* parenting "skills" & *horrid* treatment of your parents. He's doing *everyone* harm, including himself. My up-vote *removed* that dumb down-vote, but I *wish* I could give you 100 more up-votes, b/c you're *absolutely correct* in your views on this matter. As for your folks' sad situation - spending their "Golden Years" STILL raising a Giant Toddler prone to tantrums - it's tragic indeed. But it's *also* what they've created for themselves (& him) by never setting healthy boundaries. Best you can do is (maybe) take your niece to lunch & have a l-o-n-g, empathetic chat w/ her about the evils of elder-abuse, as well as what it takes to succeed in Life. Doesn't seem like anyone else in her orbit is as qualified as you are for that task, even if you're not the person actually responsible for raising her. Of course, it's likely to go over like a lead balloon. But if you have *any* kind of positive relationship w/ her, she *might* take heed. That'd make it worth the risk of further upset. Your call entirely - you know them all Best. Good luck to your whole family. Hope your Babied Bro manages to *finally* Grow TF Up. For everyone's sake... esp. his own child's.
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Mother won't kick him out until sibling stops enabling the mother to keep him.
The horrible thing is - this sad sack will now go and find some poor woman (most likely a 'good' one because that's what these leeches need) and he will proceed to make her life a nightmare. :( :(
You are so right. While reading this post, I had to spare a thought for the poor woman who's going to find herself playing "Mommy" next.
Load More Replies... The mother is NOT helping her son by letting him stay; she will be helping him by kicking him out so that he can start to live and learn. He might not like it, but the things that are good for you are not always the things you like.
Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do for a person is to tell them "no".
Load More Replies... Honestly, the parents created the monster, that behavior didn't start at 27......
OP has a future problem to consider. At some time, hopefully distant future, mom is going to pass away and brother will inherit a share of the house. Fix this now before it's too late.
Not necessarily, depends on where they are really
Load More Replies... Of course this man is upset and throwing a fit. His entire life his parents and everyone around him have made threats and not once followed through, how dare they expect him to be a productive member of society? Toss his c**p on the lawn, change the locks, block his number.
OP and mom need to be sure to change locks and upgrade security system once he is out. Don't need his entitlement!
if Mum was willing to absorb his costs while he saves up, a better way of doing it would be to say to him, fine. carry on paying your bills as normal, but I will put half (or all if she's that generous) of it into a savings account until it has enough for your moving out costs. deposit, moving van, etc. and then the money can be used for that. I've heard of a lot of comfortably off families that will charge their children rent when they get a job, but if they don't NEED the money, they put it aside for when their child is ready to move out, to help them cover the costs, but by then they're already used to having to budget some of their pay for bills, which to me seems like the best way to go about it, if you can afford to
Because of changes to tenancy laws the last couple years she may actually have a really hard time legally evicting him if he resists. Tons of people have been evicted that just refused to leave and keep the court busy with months of appeals. Because he gave her money he can claim he’s a paying legal tenant and that gives him some rights. She needs something from a lawyer and that’s dated or this could go on for months while he trashes the place too. Laws right now do not favor landlords.
My bro and sis in laws son is in mid 40s an doesn't work or have any income. Is still married to his first wife. She's out of state now. Has a kid w another girl in another state and had one with a gf while married but broken up. She's in jail now too. So he spends all day ignoring his kid that live w him at his folks while playing video games. He's a bully and mentally sociopathic with rage bouts. His kid is starting to get into if he treat his folks bad she can do that too. It's bad. If they would kick his a*s out their lives would be so much better raising his kid without him around. Since they do it all anyway.
Not sure why someone gave you a down-vote for calling out your beyond-spoiled bro's *wretched* parenting "skills" & *horrid* treatment of your parents. He's doing *everyone* harm, including himself. My up-vote *removed* that dumb down-vote, but I *wish* I could give you 100 more up-votes, b/c you're *absolutely correct* in your views on this matter. As for your folks' sad situation - spending their "Golden Years" STILL raising a Giant Toddler prone to tantrums - it's tragic indeed. But it's *also* what they've created for themselves (& him) by never setting healthy boundaries. Best you can do is (maybe) take your niece to lunch & have a l-o-n-g, empathetic chat w/ her about the evils of elder-abuse, as well as what it takes to succeed in Life. Doesn't seem like anyone else in her orbit is as qualified as you are for that task, even if you're not the person actually responsible for raising her. Of course, it's likely to go over like a lead balloon. But if you have *any* kind of positive relationship w/ her, she *might* take heed. That'd make it worth the risk of further upset. Your call entirely - you know them all Best. Good luck to your whole family. Hope your Babied Bro manages to *finally* Grow TF Up. For everyone's sake... esp. his own child's.
Load More Replies... Mother won't kick him out until sibling stops enabling the mother to keep him.
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