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Kids Bummed Out They Weren’t Invited To “The Best B-Day Party Ever,” Their Moms Get Rowdy
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Kids Bummed Out They Weren’t Invited To “The Best B-Day Party Ever,” Their Moms Get Rowdy

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It’s no secret that kids in school nowadays tend to deal with quite a lot of pressure. But so do their parents, despite their days of schooling being long gone.

This redditor felt peer pressure from other parents for not inviting her son’s entire class to his birthday party. Since money was tight, the OP decided to only invite five of his closest friends, but that left other kids, as well as their moms, quite unhappy, and the latter didn’t keep it to themselves.

Kids’ birthday parties tend to be quite costly

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This mom couldn’t afford to invite her son’s entire class to his birthday, leaving some people quite unhappy

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While peer pressure can help one stay on track, more times than not it can also have a strong negative influence on them

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Few people are unbothered by peer pressure, which tends to accompany nearly every stage of a person’s life. In school, it’s fellow students that might make things needlessly more difficult, at work it’s often the co-workers who do, and if one becomes a parent, other parents might be quick to jump on the pressure bandwagon, as the OP’s example illustrates.

According to health psychologist Shilagh Mirgain, our peers—no matter the age—can be both a positive and a negative influence, depending on whether they are making sure that we’re sticking to our values, for instance, or holding us back instead of encouraging us.

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“The metaphor I use is a crab in a bucket. Whenever one of the crabs tries to climb out and escape, the other crabs will grab hold and pull him back down,” Mirgain explained, discussing the latter scenario. “If we don’t know how to deal with the pressure, we can internalize it and self-sabotage by giving up our goals and reverting to old habits.”

Parenting can be stressful enough even without the pressure coming from other adults with children

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Expecting their kids to be invited to every function is just one of the many examples of parental peer pressure adults might put on others with children. To make matters worse, it often starts within the very first months of someone becoming a mom or a dad, be it because of certain products—or lack thereof—they use with their newborn or how they choose to feed the little one.

Needless to say, the pressure others put on parents, in addition to that they often put on themselves, does more harm than good. Parenting can be—and is, in most cases—stressful enough as it is, and it’s no surprise that stress can take a toll on their mood, parenting behavior (consequently influencing the child’s development) and even their marital satisfaction.

According to Pew Research Center’s data, nearly one-in-three parents find their role stressful most or all of the time. While the majority of them say it’s rewarding and enjoyable, too, that does not mean that the stress, be it the daily hassles or pressure from other parents, affects their well-being any less.

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For the OP, the moms in her son’s school seemingly became an additional source of stress, still existing even six months after the party. However, fellow redditors in the comments supported the mother and her effort in making sure her little one had a great time on his birthday.

The OP discussed the situation with fellow netizens in the comments, they didn’t think the mom did anything wrong

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FreeTheUnicorn
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is crazy, the party is for a kid, not a class field trip. Inviting close friends is the right thing to do. Maybe it would be different if the entire class was invited except one child, but even then, it's the kid's birthday, invite who he wants within his parents' means. Great job mom for planning a kick a*s party.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! I got some really weird responses 25ish years ago when I sent out invites to my older son's birthday party saying "No presents". I'd arranged for all the kids to go to the snow, sledge, throw snowballs etc then back to mine for pizza and hot chips. I chucked all their wet clothes in the dryer and lit the fire for an in house pizze party. Not everyone can afford presents for every birthday their child is invited to. For me, personally, this was a way of including all the kids my son called friends.

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Susie Elle
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids are going to have to learn that the world does not always cater to their will. Sometimes you're just not part of a thing.

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Alexandra
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The thing is, children accept that more easily than their parents. No, your child isn't the centre of the universe and no, he/she isn't unique because there are many more like him/her. Yes, the rules apply to everyone, including your precious whatever. No, other children aren't obliged to invite your child to their party if they don't want to, It was OP's child's party; they decide who gets to be invited and she also deliverd the invitations at the home of the invited children.

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Charles McChristy
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, if this is what the parents are like, you can imagine how well their little hellions behave.

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FreeTheUnicorn
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is crazy, the party is for a kid, not a class field trip. Inviting close friends is the right thing to do. Maybe it would be different if the entire class was invited except one child, but even then, it's the kid's birthday, invite who he wants within his parents' means. Great job mom for planning a kick a*s party.

jacquihowe avatar
Spencer's slave no longer
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! I got some really weird responses 25ish years ago when I sent out invites to my older son's birthday party saying "No presents". I'd arranged for all the kids to go to the snow, sledge, throw snowballs etc then back to mine for pizza and hot chips. I chucked all their wet clothes in the dryer and lit the fire for an in house pizze party. Not everyone can afford presents for every birthday their child is invited to. For me, personally, this was a way of including all the kids my son called friends.

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Susie Elle
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids are going to have to learn that the world does not always cater to their will. Sometimes you're just not part of a thing.

de-snoekies avatar
Alexandra
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The thing is, children accept that more easily than their parents. No, your child isn't the centre of the universe and no, he/she isn't unique because there are many more like him/her. Yes, the rules apply to everyone, including your precious whatever. No, other children aren't obliged to invite your child to their party if they don't want to, It was OP's child's party; they decide who gets to be invited and she also deliverd the invitations at the home of the invited children.

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Charles McChristy
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, if this is what the parents are like, you can imagine how well their little hellions behave.

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