Thread With 290k+ Reactions Explains Contrast Between Reactions To Male And Female Violence Against Each Other In Media
Sadly, double standards are more often than not a reality with many things in our society. Tumblr has been discussing one such standard, but one that not many would expect. And an important one nonetheless.
One Tumblr user shared their thoughts on the idea of how it’s not all that shocking for men to see males expressing acts of violence towards women in various media, but when the tables turn and women start being violent against men, it suddenly becomes absolutely horrifying.
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Sadly, double standards are a thing, and here’s a more or less unconventional one that certainly needs to change
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Tumblr has been discussing the issue of violence, specifically how different people react to men-against-women violence compared to when the roles are reversed
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Tumblr user bau-liya pointed out one interesting thing: women are supposed to ‘grin and bear’ the various media showcasing abuse and violence against women and that being declared a ‘high art,’ yet when the roles reverse, it’s suddenly taboo and barbaric.
This inspired another Tumblr user, jujubiest, to share their experience and thoughts on the matter, leading to a now-viral thread on the social media platform.
This Tumblr user shared some of their insights and conclusions on the matter
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Juju took a course in modern horror films and had to watch a lot of them. During some of these screenings, they noticed how other family members were cringing and being shocked by a particular context of violence: when women are overly aggressive towards men.
They also provided other examples—one being how even the academics for the thesis were reluctant to discuss certain aspects that involved said violence and the various backlash by men on the topic.
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This led the Tumblr user to reach a conclusion that most men are fine and/or desensitized to male-on-female violence, but are intensely bothered by the opposite. Even the mere idea of it presented in the media is loathsome, let alone actually experiencing something like it.
Now, violence of any kind should not be a thing in any society in the first place. But the thread does raise a good point—how many are actually desensitized to violence towards women, but as soon as it’s vice versa, it becomes “fresh” and hence shocks us more, despite it being the same violence.
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The thread managed to go (very much) viral, gaining a staggering 290,000+ notes on the media platform alone. This is besides all of the reshares on other social media and news sites.
And as it turns out, the issue has been around for a while, as evident from a newspaper comic from 1993
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What are your thoughts on this? Feel free to discuss the issue in the comment section below!
I loved this piece. It is a perfect example of male fragility. The idea that men are outraged by violent, empowered women on-screen, while finding media violence against women palatable infuriates me. The hypocrisy is so blatant. I witnessed a flame war on Reddit in response to a posted video where a woman admitted to being sexist against men. She was merely stating her opinion that she didn't like men "as a whole". Men responded by calling her a whore and with death threats. Disliking men as a group does not equate to advocating for violence against men, yet the men responded as if it did. Male fragility endangers women.
Call it what it is: guilt. It's like cops who shoot innocent black people or those guys who claim all rape accusations are false. It's a confession. They're afraid of tables turning because they have skeletons in their closets. Also, ever notice that the guys who scream, "Women do it TOO!" are ONLY interested in women attacking men? Never women vs. women or male vs. male? Or how they'd rather bitch about how women owe them rather than ACTUALLY help men? We had a guy in my city found a shelter for battered men. Every ex wife and child of his had a restraining order against him. He had been violent---only toward women and children---his whole life. And now that I'm actually far off topic, batterers like to claim that they need shelter so they can find out where the shelters and their victims are.
The irony of it is that their reaction to her (berating, encouraging violence, trying to change her mind etc) only cements her belief that men are bad. Basically they proved her right.
Don't know many men that think violence against women is okay. Films are films, the characters are meant to be monsters. Maybe the reason some men cringe more when watching a man get his nuts chewed off is because it's more relatable to them. And they can imagine it being excruciating. The same men probably don't cringe if a woman just shoots a man or hits him. Because they see that every day in films men to men. Makes no difference if its a woman doing it. And vice versa if a bloke crushed another blokes nuts then I expect they'd cringe at that. Isn't just cos its a woman
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Edward, can you imagine how people would react if some man said he didn't like women "as a whole". People would be calling him a misogynist and making all sorts of negative assumptions about how he couldn't get a date or is an abuser. Why are you excusing a woman for being sexist when you wouldn't excuse a man who is?
You definitely missed the entire point of what Edward was actually trying to get at, didn't you?
There actually are a lot of men who don't like women as a whole and openly admit it. They're called "incels".
That's more MGTOW than incels and there's a reason they stick mostly to their own discussion forums.
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no one is "outraged" retard. Movies just have corny and lame "tough" women for years. Like shes trying to prove her self as manly.
That's a lot of words to say you're the lousiest f**k in the world, and likely a Trumpie.
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oi. don't be sexist. don't be abelist. don't be weird.
What did she say?
You're an abusive man. You should seek therapy. You don't have to hate yourself so much that you lash out at women and children. Things get better in therapy and don't be homophobic about therapy either. When a man is a misogynist they're also likely to be homophobic ableist an abuser of children and animals too. It's all the same side of the coin.
Incoming incels!
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You could use your own "clever" reply here too "That's a lot of words to say you're the lousiest f**k in the world, and likely a Trumpie." I like this kind of intelligent humor of you
Aww did your little incel feelings get hurt.
Oh honey of course you get raped it's sweet you don't think that though and as for hurt feelings you wouldn't comment if they weren't hurt. Poor little insecure male. Therapy is for everyone it will really help w all that fear you have of women. Look into it.
Wait. Are you talking about me or your daughter now? Because i read about projection today maybe i might jump to that conclusion a bit too fast. Is that a description of how men should be so you could feel safe and powerful?
off course not. i'm a man. we don't get hurt feelings, we don't get raped, we don't get hurt by our spouse. life is grand. But we do appreciate more original insults.
Your second comment makes no sense so I'll say it again if you don't understand. Men get raped by men like you that's another reason you should get into therapy. Men that hurt women will also hurt children if you hurt children you will also hurt animals that's the road you're going down. I feel sorry for anyone that's ever close to you bc idk if you're a narcissist or a run of the mill abuser. If you're a narcissist there is no hope for you and hopefully you'll be imprisoned the very first time you beat or hurt a women a child or animal. If you have already I hope to god they turn you in. I hope you're not a josh Duggar
Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha... Rarely have I read more BS.
In teeth what set her off is how she was raped by a guy she trusted and then every guy she assaulted after that was trying to hurt her in some way. It’s not like she went out looking to assault men (except the poor doctor who was by all means an accident), she only assaulted the ones who hurt her. It’s a really good movie, but very graphic
That Dr. wasn't innocent...he was fondling her.
He was examining her. She went there to see what was wrong with her. While examining her the teeth cut off his fingers.
No he was totally finger-raping her and perving with creepy questions.
He took his glove off!
The Dr was sexualy assaulting her. What he was doing was not part of any normal practice and definitely would have gotten him arrested if anyone had known. He deserved what happened just as much as any of the other guys.
The doctor took his glove off so he could finger her. They showed his intent in the movie.
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Can you imagine how people would react if there was a movie about a man who killed a group of women who were abusing him? People would say that it was sexist because it painted women in a bad light, that it glorified violence against women, ect. Why don't people react the same when there is a movie about a woman killing men?
I would totally watch a movie about a man killing his female abusers. Men being raped is not acknowledged in our society and that would be an awesome horror movie. The Baby (1973) is about women abusing a man and (SPOILERS) they are all killed for it. The trouble is that some men can watch American Psycho (one of my favorites BTW) and think it's cool but in Teeth (also a favorite) a women mutilates a man who is raping her and the same men consider it over the line not because she's being raped, but because the man is mutilated.
You mean like Misery...
This is what the post was saying. My god did you not read it? It's a millennia of men doing these things to women in film but as soon as a man sees a women do it in film is horrible. It's bc it's a crime and you feel violated. This is what feeling violated feels like. Women are violated sexually in some way statistically by the age of 11. 3 out of 4 11 yr old girls will be violated sexually in some way. Really think about that. 97% of all women will be violated sexually in their lifetime criminally violated. When I tell you I'm so Fing sick of seeing women being raped in movies to further the mans plot or have to read it in books I want to scream. I had to watch the queens gambit on the edge of my seat just waiting for the scene where some man will definitely rape her. It didn't happen and it was so frigging unbelievable that I actually cried.
I loved this piece. It is a perfect example of male fragility. The idea that men are outraged by violent, empowered women on-screen, while finding media violence against women palatable infuriates me. The hypocrisy is so blatant. I witnessed a flame war on Reddit in response to a posted video where a woman admitted to being sexist against men. She was merely stating her opinion that she didn't like men "as a whole". Men responded by calling her a whore and with death threats. Disliking men as a group does not equate to advocating for violence against men, yet the men responded as if it did. Male fragility endangers women.
Call it what it is: guilt. It's like cops who shoot innocent black people or those guys who claim all rape accusations are false. It's a confession. They're afraid of tables turning because they have skeletons in their closets. Also, ever notice that the guys who scream, "Women do it TOO!" are ONLY interested in women attacking men? Never women vs. women or male vs. male? Or how they'd rather bitch about how women owe them rather than ACTUALLY help men? We had a guy in my city found a shelter for battered men. Every ex wife and child of his had a restraining order against him. He had been violent---only toward women and children---his whole life. And now that I'm actually far off topic, batterers like to claim that they need shelter so they can find out where the shelters and their victims are.
The irony of it is that their reaction to her (berating, encouraging violence, trying to change her mind etc) only cements her belief that men are bad. Basically they proved her right.
Don't know many men that think violence against women is okay. Films are films, the characters are meant to be monsters. Maybe the reason some men cringe more when watching a man get his nuts chewed off is because it's more relatable to them. And they can imagine it being excruciating. The same men probably don't cringe if a woman just shoots a man or hits him. Because they see that every day in films men to men. Makes no difference if its a woman doing it. And vice versa if a bloke crushed another blokes nuts then I expect they'd cringe at that. Isn't just cos its a woman
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Edward, can you imagine how people would react if some man said he didn't like women "as a whole". People would be calling him a misogynist and making all sorts of negative assumptions about how he couldn't get a date or is an abuser. Why are you excusing a woman for being sexist when you wouldn't excuse a man who is?
You definitely missed the entire point of what Edward was actually trying to get at, didn't you?
There actually are a lot of men who don't like women as a whole and openly admit it. They're called "incels".
That's more MGTOW than incels and there's a reason they stick mostly to their own discussion forums.
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no one is "outraged" retard. Movies just have corny and lame "tough" women for years. Like shes trying to prove her self as manly.
That's a lot of words to say you're the lousiest f**k in the world, and likely a Trumpie.
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oi. don't be sexist. don't be abelist. don't be weird.
What did she say?
You're an abusive man. You should seek therapy. You don't have to hate yourself so much that you lash out at women and children. Things get better in therapy and don't be homophobic about therapy either. When a man is a misogynist they're also likely to be homophobic ableist an abuser of children and animals too. It's all the same side of the coin.
Incoming incels!
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
You could use your own "clever" reply here too "That's a lot of words to say you're the lousiest f**k in the world, and likely a Trumpie." I like this kind of intelligent humor of you
Aww did your little incel feelings get hurt.
Oh honey of course you get raped it's sweet you don't think that though and as for hurt feelings you wouldn't comment if they weren't hurt. Poor little insecure male. Therapy is for everyone it will really help w all that fear you have of women. Look into it.
Wait. Are you talking about me or your daughter now? Because i read about projection today maybe i might jump to that conclusion a bit too fast. Is that a description of how men should be so you could feel safe and powerful?
off course not. i'm a man. we don't get hurt feelings, we don't get raped, we don't get hurt by our spouse. life is grand. But we do appreciate more original insults.
Your second comment makes no sense so I'll say it again if you don't understand. Men get raped by men like you that's another reason you should get into therapy. Men that hurt women will also hurt children if you hurt children you will also hurt animals that's the road you're going down. I feel sorry for anyone that's ever close to you bc idk if you're a narcissist or a run of the mill abuser. If you're a narcissist there is no hope for you and hopefully you'll be imprisoned the very first time you beat or hurt a women a child or animal. If you have already I hope to god they turn you in. I hope you're not a josh Duggar
Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha... Rarely have I read more BS.
In teeth what set her off is how she was raped by a guy she trusted and then every guy she assaulted after that was trying to hurt her in some way. It’s not like she went out looking to assault men (except the poor doctor who was by all means an accident), she only assaulted the ones who hurt her. It’s a really good movie, but very graphic
That Dr. wasn't innocent...he was fondling her.
He was examining her. She went there to see what was wrong with her. While examining her the teeth cut off his fingers.
No he was totally finger-raping her and perving with creepy questions.
He took his glove off!
The Dr was sexualy assaulting her. What he was doing was not part of any normal practice and definitely would have gotten him arrested if anyone had known. He deserved what happened just as much as any of the other guys.
The doctor took his glove off so he could finger her. They showed his intent in the movie.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Can you imagine how people would react if there was a movie about a man who killed a group of women who were abusing him? People would say that it was sexist because it painted women in a bad light, that it glorified violence against women, ect. Why don't people react the same when there is a movie about a woman killing men?
I would totally watch a movie about a man killing his female abusers. Men being raped is not acknowledged in our society and that would be an awesome horror movie. The Baby (1973) is about women abusing a man and (SPOILERS) they are all killed for it. The trouble is that some men can watch American Psycho (one of my favorites BTW) and think it's cool but in Teeth (also a favorite) a women mutilates a man who is raping her and the same men consider it over the line not because she's being raped, but because the man is mutilated.
You mean like Misery...
This is what the post was saying. My god did you not read it? It's a millennia of men doing these things to women in film but as soon as a man sees a women do it in film is horrible. It's bc it's a crime and you feel violated. This is what feeling violated feels like. Women are violated sexually in some way statistically by the age of 11. 3 out of 4 11 yr old girls will be violated sexually in some way. Really think about that. 97% of all women will be violated sexually in their lifetime criminally violated. When I tell you I'm so Fing sick of seeing women being raped in movies to further the mans plot or have to read it in books I want to scream. I had to watch the queens gambit on the edge of my seat just waiting for the scene where some man will definitely rape her. It didn't happen and it was so frigging unbelievable that I actually cried.