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The feeling of your identity being threatened is a vicious one. Whether someone makes a flawed assumption about your religion, questions your sexual orientation, or just insults your favorite sports team, being attacked on a personal level really gets our blood pumping. And that's natural. But there are better and worse reactions to it.

People online come together and share pictures of men trying to protect their masculinity in the most toxic and unnecessary ways. The screenshots and pics provide an interesting glimpse into what triggers these insecurities and add a bit of satire to point out some of the most irrational examples.

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Thought Of This Sub When I Saw This

Thought Of This Sub When I Saw This

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Paulo Freitas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao, this is hilarious, and this woman's brother is a genious.

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(Facebook. Not My Screenshot)

(Facebook. Not My Screenshot)

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Nicole Weymann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm a big supporter of women's rights I have a wife" Someone please explain to this dumpster fire of a traditionalist how correlations work. Might as well reason "Of course I love animals! I'm a butcher!"

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Many of these, let's call them, statements seem to stem from men's frustration with communicating with women, especially romantically. A majority of the fellas we see in the pictures view it as some sort of power struggle where they must have the upper hand. While this dynamic might be suitable to some couples, by thinking that everyone must acknowledge it they're setting themselves up for conflict as often people are looking for the complete opposite.

"Vulnerability is the key to intimacy," Robert Taibbi, who is a licensed clinical social worker with nearly five decades of experience, told Bored Panda.

"It is about stepping outside your comfort zone and saying what is difficult to say. It is not about the content—what you actually say, but stepping up and saying what is difficult. Often the other person doesn't realize the risk you are taking, so you need to talk about this as well."

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Welcome To Reddit, Where Not Hating Women Is A Crime

Welcome To Reddit, Where Not Hating Women Is A Crime

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Welp

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RoanTheMad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and just to prove a point, look ad the downvotes. there's only a select few subreddits I stay on, and for good reason. Reddit is a cesspit.

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According to Taibbi, "too many men feel hurt but hold it in—it eventually builds up causing some explosion that they feel bad about and then try to sweep under the rug."

"The key is to talk about problems as they arise, to talk about you and your emotions, avoid the blame and getting into the weeds of whose reality is right," the author of Doing Family Therapy, said. "Help the other person know what you are most sensitive to and what you need most from the beginning, and not sweep problems under the rug — solve them."

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The Rock Is Apparently Not A Real Man Anymore

The Rock Is Apparently Not A Real Man Anymore

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Mistiekim
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is crying because The Rock punched you in the face one of the six “approved” reasons?

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My Post On Unpopular Opinions Got A Lot Of People Pretty Angry

My Post On Unpopular Opinions Got A Lot Of People Pretty Angry

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Not From Reddit But I Thought It Fit Here

Not From Reddit But I Thought It Fit Here

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Taibbi thinks that some of the most common insecurities men experience in romantic relationships revolve around not feeling accepted, feeling rejected, or doing something wrong that will cause the other person to pull away or end the relationship: "If I am honest and vulnerable will you listen and hear what I am saying?" "Can you appreciate what I'm doing for you?"

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Nowadays, however, 63% of young men (ages 18-29) report being single, compared with 34% of women in the same age group.

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Fellas, Is It Gay To Lean In For A Photo?

Fellas, Is It Gay To Lean In For A Photo?

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Jenn C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He has to lean because he's so much taller than her. Stupid thi g to worry about.

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#11

Man Gets Offended Over A Image Of A Tampon

Man Gets Offended Over A Image Of A Tampon

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Mari Murphy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone save this poor person from the scary drawing of a unused cotton roll!

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#12

A Feminine Man? The Horror

A Feminine Man? The Horror

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Psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, writer, and social critic Susie Orbach, agress that vulnerabilities unaddressed, often unknown or unnamed by the individual, can end up being expressed in brittleness and toughness.

"Being able to acknowledge uncertainties to oneself and to others is ... an aspect of strength," she wrote in The Guardian. "Cleaving to something unnamed that was missed can produce anger or despair. Boys didn't anticipate that there would be a rupture in nurture as they became adults; in other words, ... they wouldn't be able to simply rely on women's solicitations and [comfort] without showing more of themselves. Girls knew that they were 'supposed' to give support but were growing up to think of economic and emotional equality, not protection."

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#14

I Decided To Look Through The Sub Cause I Heard How Toxic It Is. Holy Shit

I Decided To Look Through The Sub Cause I Heard How Toxic It Is. Holy Shit

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Abby da great
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More proof that Reddit is filled with people who say stuff like “a need for sex”

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#16

It's Not The 23 Women, Deshaun Watson Is The Real Victim!!

It's Not The 23 Women, Deshaun Watson Is The Real Victim!!

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Tomasz Jackowski
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh no, not the accountability! Not the concequences of their own actions!

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Adultery And Psychopathy Were Minor Details, I'm Sure

Adultery And Psychopathy Were Minor Details, I'm Sure

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Furthermore, Orbach believes that machismo doesn't achieve the desired effect of putting women in their place.

"That ship has sailed," she said. "It has offered a fundamentalist pull which endangers all of us; men, women, children, non-binary and trans people. It's time for a new conversation that opens the door to speaking of vulnerability and nurture as essential for all of us, and as an aspect of strength – as an antidote to toxicity."

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Man Refuses To Stop Comparing Women To Objects

Man Refuses To Stop Comparing Women To Objects

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Susie Elle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if he's aware of the fact that men who sleep around experience penis-shrinkage due to it shrivelling away because of the mileage? /s

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#19

The “Egalitarians” Are Mad That A Woman Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Filming Sex Scenes For Male Directors

The “Egalitarians” Are Mad That A Woman Doesn’t Feel Comfortable Filming Sex Scenes For Male Directors

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Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She also doesn't want to do them if there's no reason for them, plot-wise!

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#20

Haha Woman Bad Man Funny Gamer

Haha Woman Bad Man Funny Gamer

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Jiminy
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In contrast to the guy SHE probably know you cannot play Animal Crossing on the PS5...

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#21

Calling Out The Hypocrisy Of Fragile Men On The Internet

Calling Out The Hypocrisy Of Fragile Men On The Internet

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When it comes to how men view themselves, 31% say they are very manly or masculine, 54% describe themselves as somewhat masculine and 15% say they are not too or not at all masculine.

At the same time, relatively few men (9%) say it’s very important to them, personally, to be seen by others as manly or masculine, while 37% say this is somewhat important to them. 

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R/Whiteknighting Is A Sub For Fragile Male Redditors Apparently

R/Whiteknighting Is A Sub For Fragile Male Redditors Apparently

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Chris Hutchinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having a d**k and balls is only a crime when they belong to someone else and you've taken them away in a box...

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#24

Talking About Marie Curie

Talking About Marie Curie

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Donkey boi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Didn't they originally say that the Nobel prize was just for him and he made a complaint saying that the work wouldn't have been possible without her input, and that it was a joint effort so they deserve equal praise? I understand that they also declined to accept the prize in person.

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#25

Until She’s On Her Best Behaviour, She Deserves Nothing

Until She’s On Her Best Behaviour, She Deserves Nothing

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Nat Blinsk
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine using this many words to show the world you can't make a woman orgasm.

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#26

The Only Thing Redditors Hate More Than Women Is Women That Want Equal Rights

The Only Thing Redditors Hate More Than Women Is Women That Want Equal Rights

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Rule Number 4 Says No Sexism, What Did He Expect??

Rule Number 4 Says No Sexism, What Did He Expect??

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Jared Robinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women should absolutely have the right to vote, and they should absolutely be forced to sign up for the draft.

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#28

Guy Is Upset That Sending Dick Pics To Strangers Makes Him Unfairly Labeled As “Sex Obsessed”

Guy Is Upset That Sending Dick Pics To Strangers Makes Him Unfairly Labeled As “Sex Obsessed”

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Little Wonder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call me old fashioned but I think the "initiating sex" thing should happen a little bit later than the first conversation.

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#29

“I Forgive Ellen Page’s Deception For Promoting Herself As A Heterosexual Woman”

“I Forgive Ellen Page’s Deception For Promoting Herself As A Heterosexual Woman”

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F**k Women Who Don’t Change Their Name!!!

F**k Women Who Don’t Change Their Name!!!

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EarthGrowl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women should keep their own names. I hit so many deadends in a genealogy search because the mother was just Jane or Sara. Some records from Europe in the 1600s or 1700s don't even list a mother in the official birth records, just the father. The woman was just a uterus to give the man heirs. It's maddening, those women have no record of their existence, women were basically disposable. If a man's wife died he would just replace her like he replaced a cow or a horse. So men today need to stop acting like a woman doesn't have a family or an identity.

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Imagine Being This Fragile About A Girl Buying A Home

Imagine Being This Fragile About A Girl Buying A Home

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Got A Lot Of Angry Replies For This One Like "Do You Even Have A Dick" And People Saying I Had No Balls Lol

Got A Lot Of Angry Replies For This One Like "Do You Even Have A Dick" And People Saying I Had No Balls Lol

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Little Wonder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are the same dudes who insist that if a woman doesn't want to date a man shorter than her, then she's a b***h (and worse). [Just to add my personal opinion on that - height isn't a factor in hotness. You go short kings! You go!]

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Something
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People have the right to not be attracted to someone for any reason. The problem is when people mistreat people based on perceived attractiveness or loudly announce their "preferences" in contexts where it's not called for. This is something that is done to women at least as much as it's done to men, but these dudes don't see it because women they're not attracted to are invisible to them.

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Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband rubs my bald head and kisses it, giggling because it "feels funny" lol. So screw that guy, I did it and my husband still loves and wants me.

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Kate Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't get me wrong...you can't force attraction. I get if someone makes a drastic change to themselves that makes it difficult to continue your attraction. You aren't a monster and we shouldn't tell people that they have to be attracted to someone. But love is different. If you married someone I assume you love them. That doesn't just go away over a bad haircut and if it's enough to make you think about leaving someone then you didn't love them, you loved their image.

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ginny weasley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You do know they actually warn women going through cancer treatment their husbands will likely leave them right? Apparently losing your hair and requiring a bit of help and other bodily changes are a deal breaker for LOT of men.

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Carbonel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH, early on in our relationship, got a mullet. Thankfully it didn’t last. My FIL once grew a moustache specifically to annoy my MIL. I think it’s perfectly possible to utterly hate a partner’s new look. Does it mean you’ll split up with them? Depends on the strength of the relationship.

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JP Purves
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this man's wife may have shaved her head for the very reason he mentions. She doesn't want his attention any longer and will do whatever it takes to push him away.

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SirWriteALot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, sorry, this is not a "men are a******s" thing. To completely change one's appearance, maybe not for the better, does not mean everyone else is supposed to be okay with. I'm assuming we're not talking about an illness, but bald heads do not fit everyone. On guys they may be a little better than a comb-over, but MOST people look better with hair than without. So no, you cannot *expect* someone to continue to be attracted to you if you change your appearance.

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Henry Russell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what does feminist land whale mean someone being cornered up to a bad spot because of all these bad things making here go there oyu are kinda supporting her point there buddy

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Bender Bending Rodríguez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love isn't lost over a change in how your partner looks, lust on other hand will. If you love a person, how they look doesn't matter.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You still would love your wife if she shaved your head?! Oh no, p3nis rights revoked! P3nis rights revoked for 100 years!!!!

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Lisa M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I promise... Til Death Do Us Part. Unless you do something with your hair that I don't like.

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Transphobia And Misogyny All In One

Transphobia And Misogyny All In One

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Not From Reddit But I Think It Fits

Not From Reddit But I Think It Fits

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A Statue Representing The Myth Of A Woman Who Was R**ed Is Going To Be Installed In Honor Of Metoo

A Statue Representing The Myth Of A Woman Who Was R**ed Is Going To Be Installed In Honor Of Metoo

But rather that showing her beheaded by Perseus for his own gain, she will instead be shown holding her attacker’s head. Definitely a men’s rights issue!!!

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Carbonel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I loved Greek mythology as a kid but re-reading the tales as an adult, I’m realising how insanely misogynistic it all is.

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You Have Been Warned

You Have Been Warned

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I Got Downvoted For Saying That This Isn’t Funny

I Got Downvoted For Saying That This Isn’t Funny

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How many sexists does it take to change a lightbulb? None, these a-holes dont want change.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bet 4000 of the comments on the female thread are men offering their services and acting all nice guy in the hope that if they put enough kindness coins in the machine, sex will fall out.

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Gets Downvoted For Correctly Quoting Movie

Gets Downvoted For Correctly Quoting Movie

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