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Woman Exposes ‘Instagram Perfect’ Mom After She Pays No Attention To Her Child At A Pool, Shows You Shouldn’t Believe Social Media
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Woman Exposes ‘Instagram Perfect’ Mom After She Pays No Attention To Her Child At A Pool, Shows You Shouldn’t Believe Social Media

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Deep down, we know that what we see on our social media feeds rarely reflects reality – we are only seeing the best, most interesting, funniest and most beautiful aspects of other people’s lives. Yet we are human, and the weight of comparison, constantly reinforced every time we open Instagram or Facebook, can become unbearably heavy over time if we somehow lose sight of this critical self-awareness.

An occasional reality check is therefore very welcome! Especially for young moms who might be feeling the pressure to balance their busy, often stressful lives whilst still finding the energy to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ and present an eternally happy image of themselves out to the world.

Enter Jen Flint, a Creator, Artist and Mother-of-six from Utah. Her short story about a very modern encounter at the local swimming pool resonated with hundreds of thousands of people, by highlighting the sad contrast between what people want others to see and the actual reality behind the pics.

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Speaking to Bored Panda, Jen wanted to ensure that the intent of her post was not to shame the young momma at the pool. “I’m sure she had reasons for her behavior, those reasons weren’t the intent of my post though,” she told us. “No judgment on her at all.”

“The main intention of my post was to help mothers (but really it applies to fathers and teens as well) to realize that what they see on social media isn’t always real and when they scroll through perfectly staged photos of women who are better fit, on exotic vacations, wearing expensive clothes and living in spotless homes, that they need to remember not to compare themselves to what they see.”

The reaction to Jen’s post has been overwhelmingly positive, being shared over 140k times on Facebook and starting plenty of conversations about mental health, self-esteem and positive thinking. People have contacted Jen with their own stories and experiences, and we all got that little reality check we need from time to time.

“We are enough, just how we are,” Jen says. “Remember that YOU at home with your kids or YOU at work supporting your family or YOU with the spotless house or YOU with the small apartment or YOU with an extra 30 lbs of weight that’s you’d rather not have, YOU are enough. Don’t compare yourself or your situation to anyone else’s.”

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“Comparison is the thief of joy, y’all!”

Here’s what people had to say about the eye-opening story

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Random Panda
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm getting a little tired of these anecdotes being shared by some random person, with no pictures for proof or whatever. If you didn't confront the person then and there why should anyone care what you have to say about it? Why are people getting mad at a story that for all we know could be completely made up for some likes?

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Al Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She didn't want to shame but she wrote a highly detailed account of her being a bad mom... I find that very difficult to believe, I'm afraid. Why couldn't she use an example of herself rather than shaming somebody else? Or perhaps she's saying she's a perfect mother.

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Jamie Richard
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4 years ago

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She didn't say a single bad or negative thing about the mom at the pool.

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What's In Your Head?
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I can say is that we are living in a very toxic era (and this can be applied to both sides of the story).

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Monilip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about don't judge the mother at pool too? Maybe she was making important calls for work? Maybe she spend last few days playing with her dauther and went to pool to have a little break? Author of this post is judging her because she saw one tiny fragment of her life. She's doing exactly the same things ans instagram lookers.

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KatKaleen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People will always judge, it's hard-wired into our brains. The real question is what you're comfortable with being judged for, a dirty shirt and messy house or dragging your kid to the pool to take photos and then ignoring them when they ask you to play with them. That's a personal choice to make, but nobody should delude him-/herself into thinking people won't judge. Even those paying a lot of lip-service to being "non-judgemental" will form an opinion, whether consciously or subconsciously.

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Kenny Kulbiski
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the part where she says " no judgement on her" and then goes on this long self righteous rant.

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Claudia Machado
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why shame this mother? The OP doesn't know anything about her life. Maybe she got a call telling her to go quickly to the hospital, who knows? The fact is this person spent a lot of time judging someone else. Go get a life, go swimming since you are there.

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WilvanderHeijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And there's another one of those stories where someone feels the urge to rant about someone else's behaviour. FFS. If you're so bothered by it, call the woman out on her idiocy on the spot. Writing an "inspirational" story on social media isn't going to change anything for the child that's bullied by her crazy Instamom.

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Suzi Gauthier
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4 years ago

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It wouldn't do any good. If she won't act like a mom for her kid, she's not going to do it for a stranger. Posting here might help someone else who is either feeling low because they don't have a wonderful Facebook life or someone who is ignoring their kids for Facebook likes.

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MonsterMash
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My favorite thing about being a mom is that, no matter what you do or don’t, another woman/mom is watching and waiting in the wings to tear you down🙄 This is so goddamn sanctimonious. She has no idea what this mom did for the rest of the day. Being a stay at home mom doesn’t make you awesome and neither does being a working mom, social media mom, whatever. We’re all moms, making mistakes but doing our best.

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Mark Smallman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure I read something almost exactly the same as this a while ago. I think these same stories circulate around.

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Marie Stanford
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“No judgment on her at all”?? Then why are you sharing the story? Of course the poster is judgmental, or she wouldn't have bothered to include all the little details and made comparisons to other mothers.

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Hendra Lim
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so many people got mad at these story where no names/photos got shared, they don't get the real point are they?

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first started reading this article I was in agreement with the OP. However, after reading some of these comments I realize that while this is saying she wasn't judging the other mom, that's exactly what she is doing. She didn't know this woman's story and shouldn't have made a judgment on the little bit she saw.

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Whatever...
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so friggin tired of this shaming and doxxing atmosphere! It reminds me of a movie 'Invasion of the Body Snatchers', where the 'pod people ' would point to real people and shriek. Like another BP article 'Employee Shares A Meme And Gets Fired Over It, So He Shares The Text Exchange With The Boss'. No proof the boss was an a*****e (although his son was). No proof the employee was not an a*****e (except that he was on probation). Nothing showing maybe it was the last straw of many issues. So, BP readers (and others) left bad reviews for that company. What if it's you under the microscope next time? At this point, it's more likely to happen than not.

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Safy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many people fall prey to feeling inadequate and comparing themselves online. But the only thing this post should really be about is grounding ourselves in the reality that what people post online 9/10 is what they want to share. However, someone feeling inadequate from someone's online post is something that they need to work through. It isn't someone else's fault, or someone else's blame. That is very flawed thinking... which is sort of the basis for the entire story lol

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey BoredPanda, you were really doing well with your articles the past several days. It was really refreshing to see posts featuring actual artwork and not all this stupid and negative dribble about vapid Instagram models. These “stories” (cough, cough) do nothing but foster drama and offer no real means for debate or commenting. A lot of us are here for actual artwork and fascinating articles about travel, food, animals, current events, etc. Stop giving these renters a platform. If I want to read trashy stuff like this I could just open a Gossip magazine.

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Liz Perry
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why you gotta tear another woman down though? It's not a good look.

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ChickyChicky
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she spent all that time on the phone because she was talking to someone about a situation that came up and they had to leave. Ugh, enough with the judging.

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Valerie Lessard
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh god, cry me a river, another sanctimonious diatribe from a nobody. People are fake on social media? really? couldn't have guessed...next

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Liz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't wanna shame, but *writes long, detailed post shaming another person with absolutely no proof*"

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TheExtremeSmell
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know my parents wouldn’t do stuff with me to teach me to play with myself. I eventually looked forward to coming home from school being ignored but just running to my room so I could play with myself all night

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Roger Haywood
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. Crime of the century! Taking selfies with your kid is worth shaming. People are so judgemental.

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Helen Haley
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have no idea what is going on in their life, what portion of the day that was, why those pictures were being taken, you have no idea what is going on. You saw a few minutes of this woman's day and decided to publicly mom shame her. I judge you more than this mom.

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Uwe Theiss
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no name and no picture. Only a story. Where is the shaming?

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Sancho Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some women work so hard for their kids and may look like a photo shoot but face it maybe that was her only time to get a pic of joy for her lovely kid I travel with mine sometimes we may have 30 mins to swim or sight see damn right I'm going to pose and snap the hell out some pics because we have work kid activities and we want something to remember it mom had took us out before her job conference out of town but managed to take us out and we took pics or other reasons dont hate on that women people are different not just trying to get likes, so stop maybe someday those insta-pics will be priceless for those kids so what if you dont approve her life you dont that woman

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Dorothy Parker
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sanctimonious balderdash. Post it on your own Facebook page, please.

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Sheanna Caban
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm gonna call b******t, here. And, by the way, "ADVERSARY?!?" Seriously? One mother is NOT another mother's adversary unless there's some sort of cage match I don't know about. These types of "puff pieces" area load of judgmental BS storytelling that never happened, but only serves as a template for us to toot our own horns about what great mommies we are while simultaneously judging others. "I'm that mom that's disheveled and my house is a mess and I feel terrible when I see these pictures on social media, but then this 'article' came around and validated me in a way that I couldn't do for myself." Okay, Brenda, proof or it didn't happen. But thanks for the condescending commentary trying to pit me against another woman in a contest of who's better today. Begone!

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Starbelly Eleven
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was great until she brought God into it. God has nothing to do with this situation. Also, can we stop judging other women for doing things differently? You have NO IDEA what is going on in someone else's life, stop pitting women against women, it's disgusting and craven. F**k outta here.

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jip 879
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are all addicted to internet, smartphones and social media. I hope one day it will change.

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Uwe Theiss
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At one point we were addicted to books and newspapers. Just wait for the next thing that will replace the corrent items.

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Marnie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was in my 20s, I thought, things are so much better for women, but we still have the unreasonable stereotypes and expectations in the various tyeps of media. But next generation, it will be even better. Next generation: Far, far worse. And one of the saddest things is there the Instagram stuff is women doing it to women.

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cybermerlin2000
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't go into a pool because of the dangerous delicate nature of my heart but my daughter and I have an agreement. When I get a heart transplant and I'm ready to do so, regardless of our ages, we are going to have some proper daddy-daughter play time in a pool. In the mean time we hug each other a lot, watch movies together and have a laugh but I am looking forward to swimming with my daughter

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was going to call BS on this one then I remembered my wife doing something similar

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Nunya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I gave up on "social media" a long time ago. I noticed that my friends, family, and everyone else ALWAYS put up the things they wanted others to see and never the things they did not want others to see. For example, they posted about their triumphs at promotion, new car, new baby, etc. But, never their failures, foibles, missteps, and screwups. It has LONG been the reality that folks will display the best parts of themselves and hide the bad. So when "influencers" and "bloggers" became a thing, it made perfect sense that such folks would do the same kind of fakery. And so, I do not really pay much attention to such things. I give them credit because their heart was in the right place. And, frankly, that's all that matters to me. When we try to show respect and compassion for each other, life is good. When we are critical and judgmental of each other, life can really suck.

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Elica
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think for anecdote like this, it does not matter if it comes with a photo or if it is real or not. It's not a news article or police report. Gather the gist of the story if you think it makes sense or helpful to you is more than enough :)

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Seabeast
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every pool I've ever swum at has had signs posted for parents telling them to keep their children at arm's length at all times in the water. For me the most worrying bit is the part about the child swimming around on her own while her mother talked on the phone with a friend. I don't care how many swim lessons your kid has had, you don't let them be in the pool on their own until they can swim at least one full length unassisted.

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William Teach
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of times when I see these types of stories I think "fake!" But this just smacks of the reality of narcissism for social media in this age. Because I've seen similar. I broke my thumb last Thursday at the gym (back of bench fell on it), so I can't do upper body stuff. Anyhow, as I'm just walking on the treadmill I watched this guy doing taking more photos of himself surrounded by heavy weights he wasn't actually lifting. I'd love to be able to lift right now.

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Foxxy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is just sad, I really feel for that little girl.

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Ottmar Straub
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most mamas have hardly access to essence and are extremely damaging to children's souls. It would be too much for society to get revealed how deep the abuse of women towards children really is. We only look the other way round. As a father who got blamed to be pedo in rose-war I know well how deeply rotten the mind of too many women in terms of motherhood is - we do not have many real mothers around - sorry to say that.

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Marcellus the Third
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In many public swimming pools cameras arent allowed (for obvious reasons); I suppose those people avoid these pools!

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Diana Cartwright
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

stop hating the messenger, people... who wouldn't have been infuriated after witnessing that? I'm not a "media" person, but those who are will naturally expose it on social media. Do you feel it would have been nicer to not say anything? That's just silly. And yes, those 10 minutes spoke loudly about the type of mum that woman is. Also, I want to believe that, had this been a life-threatening or illegal situation, this person would have turned to the police instead of her blog or whatever.

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Zania Erso
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have mixed feelings about this...Carey Reist Emm was absolutely right, but yet this post was also right.

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Jeff Requier
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The actual problem here is the mother letting her TODDLER play in the water out of reach and alone while she yaps on the phone.

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Liz Karsa
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at this event recently where this group of woman were all just starring at their phones while I was watching them....then they stopped , all gathered around with their glasses raised and took a few selfies together...then went back to starring at their phones for the next few hours. The next day all their IG posts were of that one photo and captions like "GETTING OUR PARTY ON!" and "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE HOTNESS". It was too funny.

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Kjorn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The hunt for like is a plague! i hate social media.

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Kirah Bettis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate how everyone is getting on here posting negative things if you don’t believe the story stop wasting your time getting on here and talking bad about her, Do you guys not have anything better to do then talking bad about other people because you are not perfect either

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Jeff Requier
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Oh ya I'm sure Lots of mothers are getting anxiety ridden because someone might shake them online. The Instagramer washing a useless twat and using her kid as a prop

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Too long read (i.e. time wasting) to get another confirmation that most insta moms/influencers are stupid af

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The Mom who did the photoshoot with her daughter at the swimming pool is USING her daughter so she can get famous on social media! She didn't bring her daughter to the pool to enjoy herself or even to play with her, she brought her there so she could do what she wanted to do - she had no intention of playing or having fun with her daughter. If this doesn't stop, her daughter will resent her and the Mothers behaviour may even get worse. The Mom who wrote the post did nothing wrong, she didn't expose anyone, she just made an observation. How do some people not understand this?

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Monilip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't know that. You one one small fragment of they life and you judge them like you know whole story.

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I cannot believe that people are reading this post and not completely understanding what the mom is trying to say. Are some people really that ignorant and stupid?

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Not an attitude i´d like from the mother of my daughters. But still have to acknowledge young Social media mom did a great job on teaching patience.

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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm getting a little tired of these anecdotes being shared by some random person, with no pictures for proof or whatever. If you didn't confront the person then and there why should anyone care what you have to say about it? Why are people getting mad at a story that for all we know could be completely made up for some likes?

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Al Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She didn't want to shame but she wrote a highly detailed account of her being a bad mom... I find that very difficult to believe, I'm afraid. Why couldn't she use an example of herself rather than shaming somebody else? Or perhaps she's saying she's a perfect mother.

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Jamie Richard
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She didn't say a single bad or negative thing about the mom at the pool.

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What's In Your Head?
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All I can say is that we are living in a very toxic era (and this can be applied to both sides of the story).

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Monilip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about don't judge the mother at pool too? Maybe she was making important calls for work? Maybe she spend last few days playing with her dauther and went to pool to have a little break? Author of this post is judging her because she saw one tiny fragment of her life. She's doing exactly the same things ans instagram lookers.

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KatKaleen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People will always judge, it's hard-wired into our brains. The real question is what you're comfortable with being judged for, a dirty shirt and messy house or dragging your kid to the pool to take photos and then ignoring them when they ask you to play with them. That's a personal choice to make, but nobody should delude him-/herself into thinking people won't judge. Even those paying a lot of lip-service to being "non-judgemental" will form an opinion, whether consciously or subconsciously.

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Kenny Kulbiski
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the part where she says " no judgement on her" and then goes on this long self righteous rant.

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Claudia Machado
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why shame this mother? The OP doesn't know anything about her life. Maybe she got a call telling her to go quickly to the hospital, who knows? The fact is this person spent a lot of time judging someone else. Go get a life, go swimming since you are there.

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WilvanderHeijden
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And there's another one of those stories where someone feels the urge to rant about someone else's behaviour. FFS. If you're so bothered by it, call the woman out on her idiocy on the spot. Writing an "inspirational" story on social media isn't going to change anything for the child that's bullied by her crazy Instamom.

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It wouldn't do any good. If she won't act like a mom for her kid, she's not going to do it for a stranger. Posting here might help someone else who is either feeling low because they don't have a wonderful Facebook life or someone who is ignoring their kids for Facebook likes.

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MonsterMash
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My favorite thing about being a mom is that, no matter what you do or don’t, another woman/mom is watching and waiting in the wings to tear you down🙄 This is so goddamn sanctimonious. She has no idea what this mom did for the rest of the day. Being a stay at home mom doesn’t make you awesome and neither does being a working mom, social media mom, whatever. We’re all moms, making mistakes but doing our best.

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Mark Smallman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure I read something almost exactly the same as this a while ago. I think these same stories circulate around.

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Marie Stanford
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“No judgment on her at all”?? Then why are you sharing the story? Of course the poster is judgmental, or she wouldn't have bothered to include all the little details and made comparisons to other mothers.

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Hendra Lim
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so many people got mad at these story where no names/photos got shared, they don't get the real point are they?

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deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first started reading this article I was in agreement with the OP. However, after reading some of these comments I realize that while this is saying she wasn't judging the other mom, that's exactly what she is doing. She didn't know this woman's story and shouldn't have made a judgment on the little bit she saw.

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Whatever...
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so friggin tired of this shaming and doxxing atmosphere! It reminds me of a movie 'Invasion of the Body Snatchers', where the 'pod people ' would point to real people and shriek. Like another BP article 'Employee Shares A Meme And Gets Fired Over It, So He Shares The Text Exchange With The Boss'. No proof the boss was an a*****e (although his son was). No proof the employee was not an a*****e (except that he was on probation). Nothing showing maybe it was the last straw of many issues. So, BP readers (and others) left bad reviews for that company. What if it's you under the microscope next time? At this point, it's more likely to happen than not.

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Safy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many people fall prey to feeling inadequate and comparing themselves online. But the only thing this post should really be about is grounding ourselves in the reality that what people post online 9/10 is what they want to share. However, someone feeling inadequate from someone's online post is something that they need to work through. It isn't someone else's fault, or someone else's blame. That is very flawed thinking... which is sort of the basis for the entire story lol

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Loki’s Lil Butter Knife
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey BoredPanda, you were really doing well with your articles the past several days. It was really refreshing to see posts featuring actual artwork and not all this stupid and negative dribble about vapid Instagram models. These “stories” (cough, cough) do nothing but foster drama and offer no real means for debate or commenting. A lot of us are here for actual artwork and fascinating articles about travel, food, animals, current events, etc. Stop giving these renters a platform. If I want to read trashy stuff like this I could just open a Gossip magazine.

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Liz Perry
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why you gotta tear another woman down though? It's not a good look.

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ChickyChicky
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she spent all that time on the phone because she was talking to someone about a situation that came up and they had to leave. Ugh, enough with the judging.

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Valerie Lessard
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh god, cry me a river, another sanctimonious diatribe from a nobody. People are fake on social media? really? couldn't have guessed...next

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Liz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't wanna shame, but *writes long, detailed post shaming another person with absolutely no proof*"

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TheExtremeSmell
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know my parents wouldn’t do stuff with me to teach me to play with myself. I eventually looked forward to coming home from school being ignored but just running to my room so I could play with myself all night

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Roger Haywood
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. Crime of the century! Taking selfies with your kid is worth shaming. People are so judgemental.

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Helen Haley
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have no idea what is going on in their life, what portion of the day that was, why those pictures were being taken, you have no idea what is going on. You saw a few minutes of this woman's day and decided to publicly mom shame her. I judge you more than this mom.

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Uwe Theiss
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no name and no picture. Only a story. Where is the shaming?

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Sancho Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some women work so hard for their kids and may look like a photo shoot but face it maybe that was her only time to get a pic of joy for her lovely kid I travel with mine sometimes we may have 30 mins to swim or sight see damn right I'm going to pose and snap the hell out some pics because we have work kid activities and we want something to remember it mom had took us out before her job conference out of town but managed to take us out and we took pics or other reasons dont hate on that women people are different not just trying to get likes, so stop maybe someday those insta-pics will be priceless for those kids so what if you dont approve her life you dont that woman

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Dorothy Parker
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sanctimonious balderdash. Post it on your own Facebook page, please.

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Sheanna Caban
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm gonna call b******t, here. And, by the way, "ADVERSARY?!?" Seriously? One mother is NOT another mother's adversary unless there's some sort of cage match I don't know about. These types of "puff pieces" area load of judgmental BS storytelling that never happened, but only serves as a template for us to toot our own horns about what great mommies we are while simultaneously judging others. "I'm that mom that's disheveled and my house is a mess and I feel terrible when I see these pictures on social media, but then this 'article' came around and validated me in a way that I couldn't do for myself." Okay, Brenda, proof or it didn't happen. But thanks for the condescending commentary trying to pit me against another woman in a contest of who's better today. Begone!

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Starbelly Eleven
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was great until she brought God into it. God has nothing to do with this situation. Also, can we stop judging other women for doing things differently? You have NO IDEA what is going on in someone else's life, stop pitting women against women, it's disgusting and craven. F**k outta here.

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jip 879
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We are all addicted to internet, smartphones and social media. I hope one day it will change.

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Uwe Theiss
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At one point we were addicted to books and newspapers. Just wait for the next thing that will replace the corrent items.

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Marnie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was in my 20s, I thought, things are so much better for women, but we still have the unreasonable stereotypes and expectations in the various tyeps of media. But next generation, it will be even better. Next generation: Far, far worse. And one of the saddest things is there the Instagram stuff is women doing it to women.

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cybermerlin2000
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't go into a pool because of the dangerous delicate nature of my heart but my daughter and I have an agreement. When I get a heart transplant and I'm ready to do so, regardless of our ages, we are going to have some proper daddy-daughter play time in a pool. In the mean time we hug each other a lot, watch movies together and have a laugh but I am looking forward to swimming with my daughter

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was going to call BS on this one then I remembered my wife doing something similar

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Nunya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I gave up on "social media" a long time ago. I noticed that my friends, family, and everyone else ALWAYS put up the things they wanted others to see and never the things they did not want others to see. For example, they posted about their triumphs at promotion, new car, new baby, etc. But, never their failures, foibles, missteps, and screwups. It has LONG been the reality that folks will display the best parts of themselves and hide the bad. So when "influencers" and "bloggers" became a thing, it made perfect sense that such folks would do the same kind of fakery. And so, I do not really pay much attention to such things. I give them credit because their heart was in the right place. And, frankly, that's all that matters to me. When we try to show respect and compassion for each other, life is good. When we are critical and judgmental of each other, life can really suck.

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Elica
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think for anecdote like this, it does not matter if it comes with a photo or if it is real or not. It's not a news article or police report. Gather the gist of the story if you think it makes sense or helpful to you is more than enough :)

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Seabeast
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every pool I've ever swum at has had signs posted for parents telling them to keep their children at arm's length at all times in the water. For me the most worrying bit is the part about the child swimming around on her own while her mother talked on the phone with a friend. I don't care how many swim lessons your kid has had, you don't let them be in the pool on their own until they can swim at least one full length unassisted.

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William Teach
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of times when I see these types of stories I think "fake!" But this just smacks of the reality of narcissism for social media in this age. Because I've seen similar. I broke my thumb last Thursday at the gym (back of bench fell on it), so I can't do upper body stuff. Anyhow, as I'm just walking on the treadmill I watched this guy doing taking more photos of himself surrounded by heavy weights he wasn't actually lifting. I'd love to be able to lift right now.

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Foxxy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is just sad, I really feel for that little girl.

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Ottmar Straub
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most mamas have hardly access to essence and are extremely damaging to children's souls. It would be too much for society to get revealed how deep the abuse of women towards children really is. We only look the other way round. As a father who got blamed to be pedo in rose-war I know well how deeply rotten the mind of too many women in terms of motherhood is - we do not have many real mothers around - sorry to say that.

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Marcellus the Third
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In many public swimming pools cameras arent allowed (for obvious reasons); I suppose those people avoid these pools!

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Diana Cartwright
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

stop hating the messenger, people... who wouldn't have been infuriated after witnessing that? I'm not a "media" person, but those who are will naturally expose it on social media. Do you feel it would have been nicer to not say anything? That's just silly. And yes, those 10 minutes spoke loudly about the type of mum that woman is. Also, I want to believe that, had this been a life-threatening or illegal situation, this person would have turned to the police instead of her blog or whatever.

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Zania Erso
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have mixed feelings about this...Carey Reist Emm was absolutely right, but yet this post was also right.

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Jeff Requier
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The actual problem here is the mother letting her TODDLER play in the water out of reach and alone while she yaps on the phone.

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Liz Karsa
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at this event recently where this group of woman were all just starring at their phones while I was watching them....then they stopped , all gathered around with their glasses raised and took a few selfies together...then went back to starring at their phones for the next few hours. The next day all their IG posts were of that one photo and captions like "GETTING OUR PARTY ON!" and "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE HOTNESS". It was too funny.

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Kjorn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The hunt for like is a plague! i hate social media.

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Kirah Bettis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate how everyone is getting on here posting negative things if you don’t believe the story stop wasting your time getting on here and talking bad about her, Do you guys not have anything better to do then talking bad about other people because you are not perfect either

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Jeff Requier
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Oh ya I'm sure Lots of mothers are getting anxiety ridden because someone might shake them online. The Instagramer washing a useless twat and using her kid as a prop

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4 years ago

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Too long read (i.e. time wasting) to get another confirmation that most insta moms/influencers are stupid af

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Shireen
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4 years ago

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The Mom who did the photoshoot with her daughter at the swimming pool is USING her daughter so she can get famous on social media! She didn't bring her daughter to the pool to enjoy herself or even to play with her, she brought her there so she could do what she wanted to do - she had no intention of playing or having fun with her daughter. If this doesn't stop, her daughter will resent her and the Mothers behaviour may even get worse. The Mom who wrote the post did nothing wrong, she didn't expose anyone, she just made an observation. How do some people not understand this?

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Monilip
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't know that. You one one small fragment of they life and you judge them like you know whole story.

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Shireen
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I cannot believe that people are reading this post and not completely understanding what the mom is trying to say. Are some people really that ignorant and stupid?

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François Bouzigues
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Not an attitude i´d like from the mother of my daughters. But still have to acknowledge young Social media mom did a great job on teaching patience.

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