There is no one-size-fits-all solution to parenting, so it can be hard to judge what an adult chooses to do as their childcare solution. But certain parents, for better or worse, decide to outsource their tasks to, inevitably, a tablet, smartphone, or TV screen.
TikToker and mom Alexandra Sabol described and demonstrated her parenting style, with ample snacks and screen time for her kids. Netizens had pretty strong opinions, which they actively voiced in the comments section.
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Some adults trust that a tablet is enough of a substitute for parenting
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One mom believes in giving her kids a lot of snacks, sweets and unlimited screen time
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You can watch the full video here:
@alexbabii97 #silkymom #fyp #foryou ♬ original sound – Alexandra Sabol
Some might be wondering what exactly is a silky mom
Many of you might immediately be asking the obvious question, that is, what on God’s green earth is a “silky mom”? Unless you are a parenting-content aficionado, this term might seem anything from confusing to downright risque. But the truth is a lot more simple. A silky mom (or parent) is simply one who embraces all the current, “suggested” parenting methods, from indulging your child to allowing them digital device access.
This doesn’t necessarily sound that bad. After all, strict, 20th-century parenting is likely the cause of a whole host of issues, so actually engaging in what your child wants might not be the worst thing in the world. Technological skills are more important than ever and strict eating habits tend to only lead to eating disorders.
However, as some of the comments point out, children tend to not exactly know what’s best for them. This is, among other reasons, why we don’t let them take loans, get married, vote, or sign job contracts. When I was a child, if I had it my way, we would be eating pizza and cake for a solid 80% of meals. I would inevitably pass for heart disease before reaching my forties in this alternative reality.
This isn’t the only parenting “style” to emerge on TikTok
An alternative to the “silky mom,” if we are keeping to this terminology, is the “crunchy” mom. This parenting style is considerably more old-school, with near-mandatory outdoor time, no snacks, limited free time, and a focus on tactile, physical toys. While on paper it perhaps doesn’t sound that bad, like the silky moms out there, it all comes down to execution.
For example, many crunchy moms embrace unmedicated births, perhaps even ones done at home. They might breastfeed a lot longer into their child’s life and often have a superiority complex, as if suffering and ignoring modern medicine is a mark of a “better” mom. When and where this became a competition is a mystery.
And, to round off this tour of TikTok-based parenting, there is the parenting style in the middle, the scrunchy mom. At the core of this philosophy, is trusting one’s gut and being open to experiment. As in most things in life, moderation is key, which might mean not giving your kids industrial levels of sugar every day, but simultaneously still letting them try the sorts of foods that kids enjoy.
Many commenters called out the mom for being lazy
But some thought it wasn’t as bad as it seemed
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Disgustingly lazy. How is she proud of this?? This isn't a parenting style, it's practically abuse!
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Not necessarily lazy but irresponsible, uninformed and plain stupid. Bad eating habits will have consequences later on in life, if not now. Too much screen time has effects on learning, focus and all kinds of things. Just because you coin a name for being a person with no self control, doesn't mean that you are a good parent.
Yeah, not a fan of the free access to unhealthy food. Treats definitely have their place, but shouldn't be the main thing that kids are eating. My (hippy-ish) parents raised me on organic, healthy, whole foods. There were times I hated it, like in sixth grade when I coveted my classmates bologna and american cheese on white bread (and I was stuck with baked tofu and sprouts on a ciabatta roll--a sandwich I'd love now!). As an adult, however, I am so grateful. My comfort foods are things like basmati rice with steamed broccoli and tamari, not mac and cheese (not that there's anything wrong with mac and cheese!). It's easy for me to fall back on a healthy diet, because it's what I was raised on. Thanks, mom and dad!
my children always had free access to healthy food and candies...but there was always a limited small amount of candies and lot of fruits ans legumes.. I never wanted use food as a tool of parenting,so they don't be conditioned to use food as emotional relief. My parents were bad at cooking and it took a lot of time to getting used to healthy food, I never got fresh legumes or fruit and candy just for some comforting. I learned sideways to my kids to change my habits.
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Disgustingly lazy. How is she proud of this?? This isn't a parenting style, it's practically abuse!
Load More Replies... Not necessarily lazy but irresponsible, uninformed and plain stupid. Bad eating habits will have consequences later on in life, if not now. Too much screen time has effects on learning, focus and all kinds of things. Just because you coin a name for being a person with no self control, doesn't mean that you are a good parent.
Yeah, not a fan of the free access to unhealthy food. Treats definitely have their place, but shouldn't be the main thing that kids are eating. My (hippy-ish) parents raised me on organic, healthy, whole foods. There were times I hated it, like in sixth grade when I coveted my classmates bologna and american cheese on white bread (and I was stuck with baked tofu and sprouts on a ciabatta roll--a sandwich I'd love now!). As an adult, however, I am so grateful. My comfort foods are things like basmati rice with steamed broccoli and tamari, not mac and cheese (not that there's anything wrong with mac and cheese!). It's easy for me to fall back on a healthy diet, because it's what I was raised on. Thanks, mom and dad!
my children always had free access to healthy food and candies...but there was always a limited small amount of candies and lot of fruits ans legumes.. I never wanted use food as a tool of parenting,so they don't be conditioned to use food as emotional relief. My parents were bad at cooking and it took a lot of time to getting used to healthy food, I never got fresh legumes or fruit and candy just for some comforting. I learned sideways to my kids to change my habits.
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