45 Times Women Got The Worst Ick From A Guy And Couldn’t Look At Him The Same Again
If you spend at least a portion of your time online, it's likely that you have heard people talking about getting an ick from their partner or someone they "test" to see if they’ll become one.
So, to add to this conversation, today we decided to make a list of examples of women getting the ick from guys. All of them were authentically shared online, which means it's gonna be a wild ride, so buckle in and let's go!
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Ended a phone call by saying “kisses to your pink parts” … horrors
We went to the cinema for a first date and despite it having been arranged for a week he went to see the film two days before (it wasn't a big release I could have understood him struggling to wait to see). He then quoted along with all the trailers until I asked him to stop.
There was no second date.
Haha mine was the guy singing along to the soundtrack as we were watching the film. I might have understood if it was a musical or something. It was 127 Hours, the film where James Franco cuts off his own arm with a penknife
I had been seeing someone for a few weeks and we went to a nice steak restaurant. We decided to get a bottle of wine to share. He took a sip of the wine and a small amount trickled down the side of his glass. He slowly licked the glass from top to bottom with the whole of his tongue flatly pushed up against it. The whole time he was doing it (which felt like forever) his eyes were locked with me, once he finished licking, he winked at me. 🤮🤮
There was no coming back after that.
Ask for a breadstick, and with a strong eye contact, bite it real hard. Edit: Chomp it like a shark.
Maybe he was going for the "Lusty Dining" scene vibe in the movie "Tom Jones". https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NLhWVLiF68
If you have ever delved into the dating world, you know how difficult it can be and usually is. Finding a person you’d even remotely like to get involved with isn’t easy. Then, if you do find them, it doesn’t mean that all hardships are over.
You might realize that you’re incompatible with each other as people, and your life goals might be too different to navigate. It also might become apparent that the first impression you liked is not a realistic representation of the person they are.
Every single photo he took he stuck his tongue out this was a 30 something year old man
Seems to be a huge thing among lesbian women in the UK (from my experience at least on dating apps etc). When I did use them if they had no other pictures on their profile of them smiling or doing an activity or drinking with friends or with their dog or something, I'd swipe left. I think it looks silly no matter how you identify. But that's just me I guess, some people seem to like it
His tongue is so moist, it keeps slipping out of his mouth. He suffers from tongue tide.
Maybe he was one of those Lizard People and couldn't control it.
Well, every selfie is a self-portrait. Thanks for the heads up, fella.
When I was single, I matched with a guy on Tinder, and within the first few exchanges, he was sending pictures of himself and his kid on Christmas opening gifts and saying how he's already told the kid about me. Immediate block.
This one I don't get. It says the first few exchanges? That could be hours, days, weeks or months. If it's hours, then that's too far, too fast. But if it was weeks or months, it's very different.
Look I wouldn't be ok about a guy telling his kid about me if we hadn't even met. We could have talked for a year through text ( I seriously doubt that's the case here) and I still wouldn't be ok with it
Load More Replies...Im sorry if this is a stupid/troll question- I dont have much social skills so Im confused by this one. Does it imply the dudes cheating? What if hes divorced? Idk, pleaae explain why this is gross guys
He ate an entire pizza, which is fine. Not an issue. But then became very bloated to the point you could see his belly was distended through his shirt. Then kept doing those silent burps that stunk of grease and cheese. Then tried to kiss me.
Well, you know how they treat bloated bovines? Maybe that would be a good idea with this fellow. Yuck.
There’s also a chance that you would get an ick. If you aren’t chronically online and don’t really know what this term refers to, basically, it’s an expression of shock or dislike that makes a person feel sick or grossed out. Well, that’s according to the Cambridge dictionary.
This Reddit user provides a little laid-back explanation: it’s when you kind of don’t like the person without a proper reason, so your brain starts focusing on something insignificant; something that bugs you. In a way, that’s your brain signaling to you that this person might not be the right fit for you.
Went on a date with someone I worked with. Went back to his after, genuinely for coffee, definitely nothing more (I’d made that clear). Walked into the house and the dog smell was overpowering. You could cut the air with a knife and I ended up surreptitiously breathing through my mouth to avoid the smell. There was a layer of dog hair over everything. He then offered to show me his gun collection (were in the uk so not a common thing to have) so I made my excuses and ran.
Why do people breathe through their mouth to avoid bad smells? You're not just smelling an odor. It's particles in the air. When you open your mouth, you're going to then get a taste and still breathe in those particles.
You can block the smell component of it if you can block your nose well enough that there's practically no airflow. Very useful trick imho
Load More Replies..."Not a common thing to have"?! In 2023, in England and Wales, there were 147,111 who had a firearms licence. The was population was estimated to be 60,854,727. That means 0.000024% of the of England and Wales had a firearms licence. People who collect antique guns do not need a licence, but the gun must not be capable of being shot. It is incredibly rare for people in the UK to have firearms.
You got the sums wrong, From your figures it would be 0.24% . But there are also 495,798 shotgun licences, making it just over 1% of the population. Still very low, but it's important to Get It Right.
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Someone I never met but kept telling me I needed a big strong man to protect me.
You'll be thankful when you go on that hike and this alpha male thinks he can beat up a grizzly. All you have to do is be faster than him.
"Could you please point one out to me, I don't see one at the moment and I would like to make sure I get the right one..."
He told me that he likes shopping for designer gear.
He told me that he is nice to waitresses as "It is likely to be the only good thing they will experience"
He told me that he is married but separated and still living with his wife for the sake of the children because she is dying of cancer - he then said that he and his wife grew apart as "she's just no fun anymore" he was shocked when I didn't want to have another drink.
No, just a side piece since the wife is too sick to do it anymore. You can also substitute pregnant for sick. Same kind of a*****e, same kind of b******t.
Load More Replies...Well, I can't imagine having cancer would be in any way, shape or form 'fun'.
Yeah, it's annoying when someone concentrates on their own terminal illness instead of worrying about how to make you laugh...
Or how he is more worried about his d**k getting serviced right now, than he is about the woman he supposed to love, honor, and cherish, in sickness and in health, who is suffering and dying, and will be gone forever in too short a time.
Load More Replies...As you probably already guessed where all of this is leading, today’s list is full of stories about people getting an ick. To be more specific, it’s mostly about the ick guys gave women, who shared all of this online.
Just as its description explained, quite often, the ick comes from rather trivial things. Like a guy running for a bus, playing with pool noodles, or simply getting bloated after eating pizza.
Yes, all of these examples are from today’s list, like a little sneak peek of what’s in it. And while it seems pretty stupid to listen to your brain making these fairly normal things seem gross to you, it’s also something you usually cannot help but feel.
One guy gave me a long lecture about how much housekeeping money he would give me on date 3. Not much.
Is it weird that I'm more interested in the bookshelf behind the guy in the photo...?
But, if you give me housekeeping money, how will you have enough left to buy cleaning supplies for My house? I have this incredible place, and after we're married, you'll be my SAHH. Then we can have a kid that can keep you company while I'm at work. I don't intend to breastfeed, so you'll be just fine.
What a complete prïck. He wants you to give up work and become a fückmaid
He kissed me after eating scampi. I'm a vegetarian. He used his tongue. There was still scampi in his mouth. 25 years ago at least and still a visceral ick.
You wouldn't even need to be a vegetarian for that to be abhorrent. Though, admittedly, it does make it worse!!
I am not vegetarian and I enjoy shrimp, but this would be an instance, hard no.
Oh heck... another one...
Dated a guy, went away for a night together, first time
I woke in the middle of the night and stirred and opened my eyes. He was propped up on his elbow just staring at me. And I said 'what are you doing'. He said he'd been staring at me all night because he didn't want to miss one minute of looking at me.
Last date. And my gut feeling was right, he turned a bit stalker.
Even long-term relationships aren’t really safe from the ick, but experts say that if it appears in one, it might speak to something happening on a deeper level of the relationship’s foundation. Partners might feel disconnected from each other, feel that their needs aren’t met, or crave value revaluation.
So, essentially, while at the beginning of the relationship it might be something like a warning not to continue, when it comes up later on, it’s a sign to go to therapy or address it in any other way other than running.
Just remembered this. My ex husband had a weird thing about keeping his toenail clippings. I once found some hidden behind a book in a glasses case.
He also referred to his willy as his “purple parsnip”.
When I discovered all his accounts on the dating apps, one of his usernames was “BillyBigB*lls”.
It’s usually the angry inchers who give their tiny nubs pet names, as well as give themselves usernames that are the diametric opposite of what they’re packing.
Isn't big balls something men are meant to see a doctor about?
Load More Replies...I've only ever heard it called the purple parsnip on The Vicar of Dibbley 😂😂😂😂
He repeated something I said making it rhyme, using a baby voice.
I can't stand anyone using a baby voice and cannot for the life of me understand why anyone would find it a turn on.
That would depend on the context and the something. But as a habit, ...
No, it wouldn't. This is straight up bad. Major ick.
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Any man who repeatedly tells me they are 6 ft 2, 6 ft 3, 6 ft 4 as though that’s a huge allure.
I'm about 6'5", and I discuss my height only with people who are planning to buy me clothes for my birthday.
Of course, the most important aspect anyone can bring to a relationship is respect and a genuinely kind personality. When it comes to height, I'm over the very tall ones as a preference. I've noticed some really attractive men who are more around my height, which is around 5'4-5,6. There are some good shorter men, too, that can be fun to be with. I just find very tall men to be overly cocky. Although it is nice to have someone be able to reach the high shelves for me. But it's not good to be with someone just to utilize them for their size.
I find it harder to bend for the shelves near the floor...
Load More Replies...Yeah right... I'm 5"4 and it's been hard to date... Overheard 2 different/other situation women talking about me : He's nice but too short.... smh
I am 5.4 and I have dated men shorter than me. Personality is what matters. That, and personal hygiene.
Load More Replies...I've seen a video of an "alpha male" saying that he was top tier because he was 6ft something, and earning over 100k. So I guess a common belief for those idiots that tall make you automatically attractive?
And "over 100k" is a lot less impressive than it once was.
Load More Replies...I dated a 6'4" guy for 10 months. A massive crick in the neck was the only thing I got out of that height difference
To be fair many women have this absolute obsession with only dating tall men. I mean,obviously you could see he was tall but I do feel bad for some guys.
I for one do not. I absolutely believe the height thing is a) at least in part socialization and b) fully ridiculous.
Load More Replies...Actually, running away when you get an ick at the beginning isn’t the only option either. Sometimes it might be a feeling that can point out some red flags or incompatibility; other times, it might be something simple that may go away after processing it, and you can continue the relationship. It might even make it stronger, as you would overcome something, even if it’s trivial.
Have you ever gotten an ick for your partner? What was it? Were you able to overcome it, or did it destroy you? We’re waiting for all this tea in the comments!
I had one short-lived romance with a man whose wife had left him for a man at work 8 years previously and he talked constantly about their wedding and showed me all their holiday photos.
Asked if I wanted to eat some “cish and fhips” on the prom. In a baby voice
no, I would rather walk myself into the sea
IDK what some people think is cute about the damned baby voice thing. Its right up there with nails on a chalkboard or constantly cracking knuckles. Just no.
“On the prom” = on the promenade; in the UK that’s a leisure area/walking street by the beach where you might go to get fish and chips and hang out. Not the same as doing something at/after prom, like the US high school dance thing. The photo choice is making me laugh, sorry 🤭
My one and only instant ick - and I wish I'd managed to get over it.
Me late 30s, somehow pulled a Greek God like man mid 20s I vaguely knew. Gorgeous. In the bedroom, early stages, all amazing, then he said "I've always wanted to sleep with an older woman, I bet you can teach me a few things eh?". Felt like a dirty old woman, instant ick, made an excuse not to continue. He was very nice about it, we just went to sleep. Still kicking myself 20 years later.
When he stood me up on my birthday and went out with his mates instead. Gave me a big ick that did.
Not so much an ick as I'd be pissed. But dodged a bullet there, good for you !
Worked with a guy who bailed on his wife who-was-in-labour(!?!) because him and the boys had been planning the fishing trip for a long time and she was at the hospital so really nothing more for him to do so bye! They are no longer married.
I'd had a couple of really nice dates with this guy, so after our third date I went back to his. We get to his bedroom and I see that the duvet on his bed is pulled back and there is a towel laid out on top of the bed-sheet. He had pre-emptively put a towel down in anticipation before he'd left the house for our date. Immediate ick.
Someone I knew from work and flirted with when we went out with friends. Dated, finally got back to mine to do the deed after much build up and he sat on the bed, took each item of clothing off slowly and folded it neatly, including socks and underpants. The event was ... sedate. Ive never been so bored or relieved that something was over. There wasnt another date.
I nodded off when feeling ill one afternoon on the sofa. Something woke me up and as I opened my eyes he was two inches from my face.
I have never had such a reptilian brain immediate reaction before or since.
I remember seeing a guy for a little while who must’ve thought of himself as some sort of poet. He would always send me really long wordy texts. One that sticks in my mind was he had asked me what I’d been doing and I replied something about being outside and it being freezing cold. He replied oh how he longed to see my beautiful face, with cheeks blushed red like English roses 🤢
Might sound romantic to some but it was just constant and I found it so over the top. Just thinking about it makes me want to puke right now.
her words of woe turned into blushed cheeks and roses was not the word wanted and he turned out to be an effing w****r
Saw him running for a bus. It was the way he ran, hard to explain. It wasn't the reason for the breakup but it is actually seared on my retinas.
OT, but is it just me or does that guy in the pic have a weirdly jumpy gait?
"Secret to a long life? Never run for a street car. Another one will come along." - The 2000 Year Old Man
After an average first date. We kissed. I was actually trying to get rid of him but he wouldn’t go, kept hovering, like a skinny giraffe with big teeth in a polyester blue v neck jumper, .. . I was thinking I can’t stand here awkwardly much longer, then he started aggressively licking and nibbling my top lip 👀🤢
I had one that never went beyond a Zoom call - was sending me links to houses we could buy on RightMove.
I wouldn't even go on a Zoom call! Ewww. Thank lawks they hadn't been invented 20+ years ago!
Oh, the one who always said 'Madame' on opening a car door. Nice gesture in itself, but the constant Madame-ing was a giant irritation. Even after I asked him to stop. He just could not help himself. Shame cos I really fancied him.
One of my ex partners tried to give me his ex girlfriends hair extensions she left at his honestly couldn’t make it up like I really wanna be going about with you’re ex partners fake hair attached to mine 💀
I dunno, I think this one is iffy. There's a world of difference between a guy asking her to wear his ex's extensions and a guy absentmindedly saying " hey , I found these things. Do you want them or will I throw them out?" Like, I've definitely had women use my exes' bobby pins or hair ties. I never specified they were my exes' but I assumed it was obvious, I'm a bald guy who lives alone.
Said ‘exsqueeze me’ instead of ‘excuse me’, it made me heave 😂
Even though he was the best ex I've had (and we are still friends) another guy used to call his mother, 'Mum Mum' and it totally gave me the ick despite how hot he was.
He turned up to our second date dressed as a cowboy.
Another one called his mum by her first name.
Ick to both!
Maybe he was a rhinestone cowboy Riding out on a horse in a star-spangled rodeo
Load More Replies...Well... some kids just call their parents by name instead of title. My little brother used to do it when he was angry with them. So they knew he was being dead serious. Lol. I knew some people long ago who also called their parents by name. They were mostly hippies, and not believing in authorities so they were taught that by calling their parents by name the parents were not an authority (per se). I still find it super weird to call one's parents by their name, though.
I always called my parents by their first names, never mum or dad. It's how I was brought up in the 70s. How is using your parents actual name an ick?? 🤷🏻♀️
The guy who cooked me dinner on our second date. A drop of sauce fell from my fork onto the table as I began eating (I know, what an animal) and he immediately jumped up to remove the plates and spot clean the tablecloth with stain remover.
At the time I got the ick but now I think he sounds great 😂 he was just careful!
Hmm.... I wonder if my dad's wife secretly raised a son that nobody knows of? 🤔 (she has a wet cloth ready when my kids are eating at her place. She also has a plastic cover between the table and the table cloth. When the kids were in hıgh chairs she'd also lay out a table cloth underneath their chair).
"cooked" would imply they were at his house. And that he'd maybe got out the best heirloom tablecloth for the occasion.
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If anyone grasps at me while hugging me I get it. Like rubbing my back. Ick
That's obviously just a personal space issue i hate being hugged myself I can't stand being touched
DTD - "you're just like a schoolgirl". Although just under 5ft tall and very slim at the time I was around 36 years old. Creepy.
Took me to meet his cousins and we had only been seeing each other a week or so they sat in a smelly living room with massive dogs everywhere and didn't didn't speak to me. Dumped
Went to a fun fair and he ate a burger from a burger van, not his fault it didn't agree with him but when we went back in the car he genuine nearly shat himself, did a fart the car smelt like a dead thing anf then had to run into a BP garage/service station thing for the loo. While I sat there in the stench omg dumped
And stayed up there festering way too long.
Load More Replies...Why would you not just get out of the car? That's ridiculous.
First holiday … boat trip where everyone is diving off the side or at least jumping in. He spent about 20 min wrapping those foam noodles around himself before gingerly going down the steps
Why would you use pool noodles though? I thought they were a floating toy not a safety floatation device? 😊
How could I have forgotten the bloke, who put pulled off his underpants and threw them on a lampshade, before we DTD.
Went in for a kiss and he shoved his tongue in my mouth and whirled it round and round like a dishwasher spinning.
And when we hugged, he was shorter than me, so I felt like I was his Mum cuddling her little boy.
Shudder...
A bad kisser can really turn you off in an instant, even if they’re otherwise really attractive. So come one folks. Learn how to properly kiss someone romantically, ffs. Not rough p**n kisses or trying to suck their whole face into your mouth. Who in their right mind could ever think that would be attractive? Soft and gentle kisses slowly building into more passionate ones is a better way to go—-but you still need to learn how to kiss properly.
Oh man, I went to a date with this beautiful young man when I was in my early 20's. He was good looking, smart, funny, but his kissing, bleugh. It was like having a cold cooked sausage shoved in my mouth. It's 20 years on and we're still friends, but I am glad he managed to find some one who could either put up with his bad kissing, or the patience to teach him better.
Load More Replies...When a man hugs me from behind - it makes me think of the 'broke boyfriend hug' and I just can't get past it 🙃
When you get older a huge from behind is usually while your doing dishes, or laundry, or gardening, or brushing your teeth, or ... a hug from behind means there's still passion despite years of minor problems and irritations. It means our love is still with us and we're grateful for it. (Or that could be just me.)
Its not just you. Personally I don't think a hug from behind is really appropriate on the first few dates and/or before you both know that you love each other, but I don't get not liking it from anyone
Load More Replies...Being hugged from behind is the only type of partner hug I like 🤷🏻♀️
3rd date in... noticed his sock was all twisted around to the wrong side and the ankle part of the sock was where the front of his foot was... massive ick 🤣🤣
If you can’t be trusted to put socks on correctly, perhaps you can’t be trusted to put on a c****m correctly? 😉
Load More Replies...I think they mean the heel part of the sock? But yeah, socks be like that sometimes. NBD
ExDH and I were at a posh hotel breakfast, which was ordered from a menu rather than taken from a buffet. Rather than ordering one of the rather marvellous selection of breakfast dishes, ExDH asked the waitress if they had any Rice Krispies. Instant and irredeemable ick. The marriage didn’t survive the year.
Was enjoying a lovely date and then he started calling his dad Papa. He was a very typical northern English man with northern English family….. the papa just completely threw me!
Huh. I quite often call my parents mama and dada. It's a sort of pet name to denote when I'm feeling extra affectionate. I'm from Essex, England. This sounds like he was referring to his dad rather than addressing him, but it doesn't seem at all strange to me
Well, I called my dad Papa until he died. What's wrong with that? One of our adult kids, however, calls us Père and Mère (Father and Mother). I think that's for fun but who knows...
ANY adult calling their parents Mummy and Daddy (even in the movies) gives me the ick.....
Reminds me of that documentary they made about Elizabeth II in the late '90s. They were at Ascot, I think, watching the races, when something happened that amused the Queen, and she turned to the Queen Mother and said, "Oh, Mummy, look at that!"
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I was meeting another one and his bus passed me as I was walking. He was sat right at the back and saw me walking. He slowly turned his head round to look back at me and winked.
I walked straight back home.
When I went on a date to a carvery restaurant. Didn't eat all day in anticipation. He ordered a bloody salad 😂😂😂😂 greedy guts here ate a huuggeee roast dinner 😂😂 not missing out on a roast for anyone 😂😂 he went to kiss me goodnight and I said there's my bus and legged it 😂😂😂😂
He was far too nice. Like he opened doors for me, carried my stuff and was really gentle manly. It gave me the ick! I felt that I could walk all over him & I need someone to be able to tell me no 😂. Luckily my DH is very good at saying no to me almost too good.
Gee I wonder why your husband has to say no to you a lot .. insufferable twàt...
Haha love this comment. Hopefully that man found someone that appreciates him.
Load More Replies...My worst first date-we'd been chatting online and texting, seemed nice enough. Arranged to meet for a drink. I walked into the bar and started receiving SMS text messages (this was years ago). It was comments like 'You've cut your hair since your profile pic was taken' 'I like that jacket you're wearing' ''you look taller than I imagined" and getting more creepy. It was obvious he could see me but I couldn't see him. I kept looking, he kept sending messages but kept refusing to show himself. After about 15 minutes, I was too freaked out and walked out. He then sent a stream of messages saying I was boring and couldn't take a joke. Not sure if it counts as a date if I never actually saw him, but there was no second date.
I'll bet all of these people have their own flaws about them that gives others "icks", too. We're not all that perfect.
It's no wonder people struggle with relationships. Some of these are being gentlemanly and romantic, others are being confident, yet nothing satisfies. One wants a man who will say No to her, yet I bet he gets some stick when he does...
Is this not just a case of different people wanting different things from a relationship? Some of these are pretty universal but others are likely not an issue for a different person.
Load More Replies...I gotta say some of the complainers on this list need to loosen up a little. "OMG, he calls his mom by her first name. Horrors!" Lighten up, Francis.
My worst first date-we'd been chatting online and texting, seemed nice enough. Arranged to meet for a drink. I walked into the bar and started receiving SMS text messages (this was years ago). It was comments like 'You've cut your hair since your profile pic was taken' 'I like that jacket you're wearing' ''you look taller than I imagined" and getting more creepy. It was obvious he could see me but I couldn't see him. I kept looking, he kept sending messages but kept refusing to show himself. After about 15 minutes, I was too freaked out and walked out. He then sent a stream of messages saying I was boring and couldn't take a joke. Not sure if it counts as a date if I never actually saw him, but there was no second date.
I'll bet all of these people have their own flaws about them that gives others "icks", too. We're not all that perfect.
It's no wonder people struggle with relationships. Some of these are being gentlemanly and romantic, others are being confident, yet nothing satisfies. One wants a man who will say No to her, yet I bet he gets some stick when he does...
Is this not just a case of different people wanting different things from a relationship? Some of these are pretty universal but others are likely not an issue for a different person.
Load More Replies...I gotta say some of the complainers on this list need to loosen up a little. "OMG, he calls his mom by her first name. Horrors!" Lighten up, Francis.
