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“All Three Shot Out Pink”: Triplets’ Baby Shower Turns Sour, Pregnant Wife Wants A Divorce
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“All Three Shot Out Pink”: Triplets’ Baby Shower Turns Sour, Pregnant Wife Wants A Divorce

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Having kids and becoming parents can be a joyous thing full of love, fulfillment, and many revelations. Children help you see things differently. Through having them, you learn a lot about yourself, your relationships, and the world around you.

In this story, the children flipped their mom’s life upside down even before being born. They revealed a new side of her husband that completely changed how she felt about him. She thought she’d been through the worst with him already and they were as close as ever, but, apparently, she was wrong. Scroll down to read how the situation unfolded.

When the going gets rough, having a supportive partner can really alleviate the stress of the situation

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However, sometimes, instead of helping to cope with anxieties, partners put on extra pressure on their significant other. This is what happened in the following story

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Losing a baby is very tough on both parents

Everyone grieves but they do so differently. Some like to open up about their pain to others and cry it out. Others feel like they need more distance and prefer to process it all on their own. Some employ professionals to help them sort out their feelings, while others prefer to do it privately by writing them down in a journal. There is no wrong way to do it.

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Grief is also not a linear process. It may feel manageable one day and devastating the next. It is normal for a new pregnancy to bring in a new wave of grief.

Partners have to understand that and be there for each other. They also have to show each other a lot of kindness and grace. Feeling anger in this situation is completely normal, but one should not direct it towards their partner, which is what happened in this story.

Having a strong support network is crucial in situations like these

Grief can feel very lonely. This is why it is very important to surround yourself with people that love you, such as family and friends. They can show you tenderness and consideration when you most need it.

However, it might also be a good idea to look for a support group for people dealing with pregnancy loss. When you’re going through it, it might seem like you’re the only one who knows how it feels, the only one who’s experiencing it. Knowing that is not the case and hearing other people voice their similar feelings can be very reassuring.

People showed a lot of support for the author in the comments, sharing their reactions and advice

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The story didn’t end there, though. The author posted an update a few days later

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Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

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Anyone-for-tea?
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed, this is one of those things the internet is good for, without the unbiased views of a lot of strangers, she might have talked herself into staying for the sake of her unborn children. She is very very lucky to have a brother and BIL like that.

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Gavin Johnson
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who puts the sex of their child above their partner or the health of Mum and the children has got their priorities properly twisted. I’m a Dad of one, a daughter, we didn’t know her sex until she was born, we wanted one of the few surprises left in this world to be ours alone and one that was a beautiful moment. She is the best thing I’ve ever experienced and I’d like the world to know that as a Dad I wanted a healthy baby and a healthy Mum, I was blessed with both. The whole ‘Dad wants a son’ thing is just some bizarre macho thing or a bloke who doesn’t want to learn how to raise a daughter.

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LakotaWolf (she/her)
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! Plus, I’m assuming OP’s husband wanted a boy for “masculine” child activities - e.g., playing baseball, going fishing, etc. It probably would come as a shock to OP’s husband that not all sons are boyish-boys and not all daughters are girly-girls. My parents had one bio child (female), had a stillbirth (male), and then adopted me (female) at birth. I never asked my dad if he had “wanted” a son instead, but he was the best dad I could have asked for, and always treated me the same as his bio daughter - because we were BOTH his daughters. And - gasp! - I was not a girly-girl and I loved doing all the “traditionally masculine” things with my dad, like woodworking, helping him fix the cars, playing with tools, fishing, etc. XD As you said, it doesn’t matter what the child’s biological sex is! Sounds like your daughter has a great dad :)

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay for the gays! Your mother and MIL suck, while the mom of your BIL and your friends sound lovely. I can't really say anything remotely printable about your future ex. It is also absolutely not normal for men to want a son so bad, they are incapable of loving their daughter - wth are your mom and MIL thinking? That's really offensive and backwards, what shockingly low opinion do they have of men to come to this conclusion?

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Jessica butts
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why so many men act like this, because generations of older women have enabled them.

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Anyone-for-tea?
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed, this is one of those things the internet is good for, without the unbiased views of a lot of strangers, she might have talked herself into staying for the sake of her unborn children. She is very very lucky to have a brother and BIL like that.

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Gavin Johnson
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone who puts the sex of their child above their partner or the health of Mum and the children has got their priorities properly twisted. I’m a Dad of one, a daughter, we didn’t know her sex until she was born, we wanted one of the few surprises left in this world to be ours alone and one that was a beautiful moment. She is the best thing I’ve ever experienced and I’d like the world to know that as a Dad I wanted a healthy baby and a healthy Mum, I was blessed with both. The whole ‘Dad wants a son’ thing is just some bizarre macho thing or a bloke who doesn’t want to learn how to raise a daughter.

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LakotaWolf (she/her)
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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly! Plus, I’m assuming OP’s husband wanted a boy for “masculine” child activities - e.g., playing baseball, going fishing, etc. It probably would come as a shock to OP’s husband that not all sons are boyish-boys and not all daughters are girly-girls. My parents had one bio child (female), had a stillbirth (male), and then adopted me (female) at birth. I never asked my dad if he had “wanted” a son instead, but he was the best dad I could have asked for, and always treated me the same as his bio daughter - because we were BOTH his daughters. And - gasp! - I was not a girly-girl and I loved doing all the “traditionally masculine” things with my dad, like woodworking, helping him fix the cars, playing with tools, fishing, etc. XD As you said, it doesn’t matter what the child’s biological sex is! Sounds like your daughter has a great dad :)

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay for the gays! Your mother and MIL suck, while the mom of your BIL and your friends sound lovely. I can't really say anything remotely printable about your future ex. It is also absolutely not normal for men to want a son so bad, they are incapable of loving their daughter - wth are your mom and MIL thinking? That's really offensive and backwards, what shockingly low opinion do they have of men to come to this conclusion?

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Jessica butts
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why so many men act like this, because generations of older women have enabled them.

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