Husband Ignores Family Emergency To Take A Nap, Tries To Put All The Blame On His Wife
A large part of being an adult is about learning to manage your time. As we grow up, we generally tend to have more responsibilities. Meanwhile, the sheer number of things we have to do can make us exhausted. That means that we have to adapt and set aside at least some hobbies that we used to love or learn to fit them better into our busy schedules. Playing video games all night when you’ve got a job and a family becomes harder to do.
However, one particular dad still prioritizes his entertainment, at the cost of his relationship with his wife and kids. He plays video games at night, goes to work, comes back dead tired, and demands that his family leave him alone for 2 whole hours while he naps. He even locks the bedroom door.
Even though we’re huge supporters of short siestas, in this particular case, the napping is obviously out of control. And the entire situation came to a head when a massive family emergency happened at home while the husband was napping. Scroll down for the full story, dear Pandas. Just one note of warning—the story is incredibly infuriating and reeks of injustice. The mods behind the AITA subreddit had to lock the thread because of how some people expressed their outrage.
A woman shared how she got into a massive argument with her husband over video games and napping
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She shared how her partner came to ignore a family emergency that was happening right at home
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Most redditors were appalled by the fact that the dad kept napping through the entire family emergency after his toddler son got hot oil spilled on his hand.
But, if possible, probably the worst part was the fallout that came later. The dad was angry that nobody told him that they went to the hospital. He then tried to push all the blame on his wife for not supervising their son. She finally had enough and removed the lock from the bedroom door. What do you think of the entire drama, dear Pandas? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Whether you’re sitting in front of a computer or console, pretending to be a couch potato in front of the television, or scrolling through endless cat pics on your phone, you’re still spending your time in front of a screen. In moderation, these activities are great. But moderation is difficult to find when entertainment is so easily accessible.
A while back, Bored Panda spoke about not letting our interests consume us with psychologist and wellbeing consultant Lee Chambers. He spoke to us at length about the line between enjoying TV and having our lives run by it.
“Watching the latest shows isn’t a bad thing, entertainment can be a great way to relax, often starts great conversations and helps us to explore ourselves in the context of others. It is worth remembering that some TV as an addition to a modern well-lived life is a net positive,” he said.
“But as soon as it starts to invade your sleep, impact what you eat, and how much you move your body, it starts subtracting from the fundamentals that keep us in an optimal place as human beings,” Lee stressed to Bored Panda how to recognize when we should start getting worried.
“A lack of sleep compounds in a variety of negative ways, and we are well aware of the challenges we face as a society around eating and movement. We also need to consider the mental and psychological benefits of watching some TV and taking ownership; being in control of what you watch is a great place to be, so ensure you are the master of the TV and don’t let the TV become the master of you,” he told us.
“If you notice yourself starting to delay your sleep, take shortcuts socializing, eating, or keeping fit to keep your TV company, or feel like it’s in control of you, it’s time to take a step back and build a routine that you can control while still enjoying your favorite shows in moderation. It can even be a lot of fun to take it more slowly and build up excitement and anticipation for the next episode!”
People were horrified by what happened and had some very strong opinions. Here’s what some redditors thought
ummm I have so many questions, like where's your car? Why is he napping like a child? My husband is a night owl always has been, goes to bed at 1 or 2 am and gets up at 4 for work. EVERY. DAY. He also cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, does laundry etc. Your husband isn't playing video games honey, he's cheating or about too. No man keeps a console locked up. There's something else going on. You need to leave like now. He's a POS.
The man appears to be an addict. Most addicts have to hit bottom before they get help. Fighting about it won't help. The way to deal with an addict is to start setting boundaries, in a healthy way (not controlling). There's a great book called Boundaries I found very helpful. Also anyone living with an addict should try going to an Al-Anon meeting if they can. Al-Anon is separate from AA, it was started to help the families of alcoholics. Looks like there's also Online Gaming Anon (OLG-Anon), and Gamer-Anon for help that would be more specific to the issue of living with a person with video game addiction.
When you're a danger to your family, children, or pets, be it through neglect or ignoring a hot oil burn on a three year old, by laying in bed and refusing to get up and take them to the ER, you've already crossed some very dangerous lines and bypassed just a common addiction. Yes, Al-Anon or OLG-Anon may very well provide insight to his wife maybe teens, I hope she has access to outside help with the kids so that she could go. This guy sounds like he likely has some mental health issues, personality disorders well before any addiction occurred but may be a reason he was easily influenced. He needs to get his head straight.
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I think you don't have a husband or a partner and should consider what you want to do with your roommate.
Redditors are way too prone to telling people to get divorced, but Jesus Christ if her husband is just gonna sit there napping like a toddler while s**t goes down then the kids would be safer off without that neglectful jerk. He’s so incredibly selfish. Watch. His son’s skin getting burnt off by oil is fine with him. But a fire? He’d be pushing his kids out of the way to escape.
Whatever the man's issues, and there are volumes of 'em I suspect? She needs to bail with the kids while they're alive.
OK I would have a MAJOR problem with a guy who came home from work, wanted to take a nap to be up for playing computer games. What is he, a teenager? When do his kids get to interact with him? How is his wife responsible all the time??
I would have a MAJOR problem if my teen child do this kind of s**t. If their dad do this, I swear...
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Typical insecure manbaby behavior: wants to be a caveman husband and head of the family, until he decides the "family" part is too inconvenient to his good times.
The husband prioritizes a nap over the family. He needs to reconsider some things.
Yeah clearly the husband is an a*****e, but the real problem I see is this woman having to get a neighbor to drive her and the kids to a hospital rather that calling an ambulance. People may not love Russia at the moment, but I gotta say last week I had horrible chest pains ( turned out to be high blood pressure) and I called the ambulance. They were there in 15 min, treated me, stayed for over a half hour, offered to take me to the hospital and it was all free. And I'm not even a citizen ( though I do pay taxes). That kind of burn should have warranted an ambulance call and it should be free or affordable. And yeah she needs to not have any more kids with this guy and possibly look at a divorce. Currently she has a toddler and two teens.
First, I'm glad to hear you're ok (and didn't get a bill ahum). That man is a POS. He ignored his families emergency and would rather play well into the night instead of going to bed at a reasonable hour to enjoy his children when he comes home. He's a selfish twat.
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I'm a huge proponent of having hobbies and fun in your life, I consider video games to be a part of self-care. And of course, sleep is incredibly important! However if you flip the script and consider him having a normal night's sleep but LOCKING HIMSELF IN with video games for 2 full hours every evening, ignoring wife and kids and emergencies... well even for me it becomes quite obvious that he's TA here.
When I first started reading I thought he was just a bad and ignorant husband with a video game addiction. When I read he had kids I was shocked. My husband loves video games but if he's too tired, he simply doesn't play and the kids always come first. That isn't extraordinary, it's simply the way it should be. If I was the OP I would seriously be considering divorce. The man certainly isn't much of a father.
I am 36 years old and I am still able to get my parents' attention if something is wrong with me. This guy is a douchebag and she needs to kick him and the door lock to the curb.
He prioritizes playing video games in the middle of the night over spending time with his kids? Time for him to move out so he isn't disturbed by his family anymore.
NTA - he is, take his storage box with his console, and bury it. Then change the locks on the house. When sleep and games are more important than your family, you need to get rid of him the legal way.
IF her kids survive his so-called "parenting".
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Install privacy locks. You twist the lock on the inside so no one can accidently walk in on ypu, but there is a hole on the other side where you can insert something to unlock it in emergencies without needing a key. The prong on most belt buckles, wire hanger, inside tube from a pen, incense stick, etc.
Remove yourself & childern(the real ones) from the situation. Contact an attorney about divorce; making sure that the manchild pays for his offspring. Don't go back unless he finally grows up and becomes an actual adult.
Sorry...but your husband is still a child. No matter what the calendar says, he is perhaps 17-18 years old or even younger in maturity. He wants to play games instead of being a responsible adult. It doesn't matter what type job he has or whether he is good at that job, emotionally he is still a child. If asked, I suspect he considers it "baby-sitting" should you leave him at home with the kids while you went out. It is probably time to evaluate your marriage and decide whether you and the kids should be with someone with such an addiction and such a sense of entitlement.
This is not good. I mean what happens if there is a house fire? This guy needs to get his priorities straight. If he's going to take on the role of father and husband he needs to be there for his family. Having some me-time is okay, but the dude still need to make himself available 100% should there be an emergency!
The issue is if you leave this man, he will be caring for the kids alone on his weekend, and then when he is asleep the poor kids will have to go out to the street to find help. So once again a woman will choose to be abused for her kids. Happening all over the world.
Maybe see if he can get serious about a better schedule that works for everyone. Write it down and stick to it.
Who gets married to those people? Who has kids with them? Who stays married to them? I have so many questions...
I can't explain for most women or even this one, but a lot of people change over time, and some don't show their true colours till they are married. Staying married is difficult, but sadly so is leaving. My biggest thing there was the age gap in the kids age. I'm aware there could be many reasons for that, but over 10 years between the two? Better not have been an attempt to fix this marriage by having another kid.
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Locking her out of her own room is BS. I know there is so much more going on, but many have already commented on the other stuff.
wow. my hubby games, but we don't have kids. and he'll still get up and take care of the animals if needed. i'm sad for this lady and her kids. what a loser.
yikes. I'm just so thankful that after years of dating man-children like this guy, I finally found a man who takes his responsibilities seriously and acts out of love. Girlfriend, this incident should be a wake up call for divorce. I know you think it will be hard on your own but think about it as having one less child to look after.
Kick him out. You're living like you're a single mother, might as well be one. Don't be his caretaker.
That is so disturbing. I'm going to ignore my family so I can play games all night is so insanely horrible. Regardless of an emergency. Also, to the commenter who asked, what if there was a fire?, I'd say, let him burn
Might add that his 2 hour naps are not helping him. The average amount of sleep needed to maintain mental and physical health is between 7-8 hours of "continuous" sleep. Sleeping 5-6 hours and trying to make up the difference later doesn't work. Sleep studies have shown you can't "catch up" on sleep.
Post nr 3415 of: 'I was dumb enough to marry a POS. Am I the a*shole?' No, you're not. You just made stupid choices in your life. Now, get a divorce.'
It may be some time until you are financially able to divorce. In the meantime, get an air horn and if you need him for anything, sound it until he responds.
this man is a narcissist. Things will not get better. She needs to dump him and find someone who is actually a mature adult.
He sounds exactly like my ex-husband .He would spend hours on the computer ,like all night, then sleep most of the day ,demanding that he was "Not to be disturbed". While I took care of two tiny children. He did nothing and became increasingly physically, emotionally, financially abusive .If I ever asked for some help with the house or kids, he would tell me what a bad mother and wife I was. I finally got up the courage to kick him out. After he left I found that he had spent everything we had, cleaned out our bank accounts to buy a boob job for some married chic on the other side of the country ,that he had been having an "online romance" with. The OP needs to run a mile & dump the Manbaby. There are red flags everywhere.I should add that after a couple of years of rebuilding myself ,I married an actual adult, who had no interest in computers/gaming.We raised 4 kids and have been married for over 20 yrs. p.s Boob Chic didn't want anything to do with their "romance" either:)
It will not get better, only worse. Leave and don't look back. You are better off as a single mom, considering he isn't interacting with anyone. make sure he takes all his games with him when he is kicked out of your house and make him hand over any and all keys to the house so he can't come back in. Make a fast track to a lawyer.
ESH She's helped make a marriage where he views her as an enemy who takes things from him and dictates what he can and cannot do. It's not a relationship of equals, but one of disappointed parent who wishes he were a different person, and a lashing out, distrustful teen. So he locks up his property, doesn't believe her when she says there's an emergency because she used that excuse too often, hides from them all by staying up too late, and has created an entire life out of avoiding her. It does not sound like he likes, enjoys, or trusts her, and she resents him for not being a completely different person and feels entitled to unilaterally do things like remove locks and/ or steal his gaming equipment or anything else she feels is in the way.
Well, you dated, married and had children with a man-child... although I feel for you, I'm pretty sure you ignored A LOT of red flags along the way if you ended up in this situation... So, if you don't want an extra kid to raise, tell him to grow up or get out. If you still have doubts, just imagine it could have been a lot worse than that...
yes the husband is an ass, theres no denying that and he does need to be given divorce papers BUT he does make 1 very good point, why was the toddler left unsupervised near boiling oil? unless the teenager was being stupid with the pan how on earth does oil splash all down a childs arm to cause that much damage? why wasnt he secured away from the kitchen so this didnt happen in the first place?
In case you haven't been around toddlers, they're quick. "Don't run near Sissy and the stove." Generally translates to "Let's run to the stove repeatedly. "
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I'm with the others who say she needs to lawyer up and get out of that relationship. Husband is just as absent as if he wasn't physically there. Locking up the video game system? That's what an addict would do with drugs/alcohol/cigarettes/porn/any other addictive substance. And the late-night video games being more important than spending time with his family seals it. Addicts care more about feeding their addiction than about their families. OP even said before the video games it was a different addiction...YouTube vlogging. OP is effectively a single parent anyway, she might as well be one in fact. Let the husband enjoy his addiction by himself.
Obligatory Nta, but I will say that I believe him when he says he didn't hear her. I sometimes sleep with earplugs, and there have been times when I've apparently slept through loud goings-ons in the house. (My bdrm door wasn't locked, I just wasn't needed.) Especially right around the 2 hour mark when you hit that first REM. I'll sleep through anything at that point, earplugs or not.
I get having a hobby, we all need one and need to set aside time to do so. Having said that, hobbies should come second in life when you have kids! He has the nerve to get angry at OP for not supervising the kids when one was 14?! It was an accident, these things happen. If dad truly was that concerned, he'd go to bed at a normal time, cut down on video games and spend time with his kids.
I dont care who you are. If you decided to have kids...all rights to privacy and ignorance of the world are GONE!! Take care of your family!
Find the console and sell it. Then go stay at your parents place while you get divorce papers
He doesn't deserve a family. Sorry, but it's incredible how they have 2 kids and she didn't realize that he's a big a**h0le. Now her son got burned, but next time may be worst and nobody wants this. Family always comes first !!!
Sounds like my man child brother in law, goes fishing at weekends too.
Unless the video games is an actual job, no she's definitely in the right. Family comes first. People have to learn to balance, like maybe gaming during a weekend, the rest they have to be available for family. Wow he's the a$$hole. And, gaslighter for putting the blame on her. Wow. She must not have access to a car or driver's license too. That's really a necessity these days. I know personally. I hope she leaves him, or he learns to budget his extracurricular activity times better. He sounds like an adult child.
I didn’t read the story just the headline, but I know my husband is cheating on me now because this has to be about him and I didn’t write it 😂
lol OP is just trying to Karma farm. Wake up people! 99% of AITA posts are fake!
Orrrr, and hear me out on this, he wasn't like this before marriage or had hid it when he met her. No one marries a known jerk unless they're into that or think they can change them.
Load More Replies... ummm I have so many questions, like where's your car? Why is he napping like a child? My husband is a night owl always has been, goes to bed at 1 or 2 am and gets up at 4 for work. EVERY. DAY. He also cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, does laundry etc. Your husband isn't playing video games honey, he's cheating or about too. No man keeps a console locked up. There's something else going on. You need to leave like now. He's a POS.
The man appears to be an addict. Most addicts have to hit bottom before they get help. Fighting about it won't help. The way to deal with an addict is to start setting boundaries, in a healthy way (not controlling). There's a great book called Boundaries I found very helpful. Also anyone living with an addict should try going to an Al-Anon meeting if they can. Al-Anon is separate from AA, it was started to help the families of alcoholics. Looks like there's also Online Gaming Anon (OLG-Anon), and Gamer-Anon for help that would be more specific to the issue of living with a person with video game addiction.
When you're a danger to your family, children, or pets, be it through neglect or ignoring a hot oil burn on a three year old, by laying in bed and refusing to get up and take them to the ER, you've already crossed some very dangerous lines and bypassed just a common addiction. Yes, Al-Anon or OLG-Anon may very well provide insight to his wife maybe teens, I hope she has access to outside help with the kids so that she could go. This guy sounds like he likely has some mental health issues, personality disorders well before any addiction occurred but may be a reason he was easily influenced. He needs to get his head straight.
Load More Replies... I think you don't have a husband or a partner and should consider what you want to do with your roommate.
Redditors are way too prone to telling people to get divorced, but Jesus Christ if her husband is just gonna sit there napping like a toddler while s**t goes down then the kids would be safer off without that neglectful jerk. He’s so incredibly selfish. Watch. His son’s skin getting burnt off by oil is fine with him. But a fire? He’d be pushing his kids out of the way to escape.
Whatever the man's issues, and there are volumes of 'em I suspect? She needs to bail with the kids while they're alive.
OK I would have a MAJOR problem with a guy who came home from work, wanted to take a nap to be up for playing computer games. What is he, a teenager? When do his kids get to interact with him? How is his wife responsible all the time??
I would have a MAJOR problem if my teen child do this kind of s**t. If their dad do this, I swear...
Load More Replies... Typical insecure manbaby behavior: wants to be a caveman husband and head of the family, until he decides the "family" part is too inconvenient to his good times.
The husband prioritizes a nap over the family. He needs to reconsider some things.
Yeah clearly the husband is an a*****e, but the real problem I see is this woman having to get a neighbor to drive her and the kids to a hospital rather that calling an ambulance. People may not love Russia at the moment, but I gotta say last week I had horrible chest pains ( turned out to be high blood pressure) and I called the ambulance. They were there in 15 min, treated me, stayed for over a half hour, offered to take me to the hospital and it was all free. And I'm not even a citizen ( though I do pay taxes). That kind of burn should have warranted an ambulance call and it should be free or affordable. And yeah she needs to not have any more kids with this guy and possibly look at a divorce. Currently she has a toddler and two teens.
First, I'm glad to hear you're ok (and didn't get a bill ahum). That man is a POS. He ignored his families emergency and would rather play well into the night instead of going to bed at a reasonable hour to enjoy his children when he comes home. He's a selfish twat.
Load More Replies... I'm a huge proponent of having hobbies and fun in your life, I consider video games to be a part of self-care. And of course, sleep is incredibly important! However if you flip the script and consider him having a normal night's sleep but LOCKING HIMSELF IN with video games for 2 full hours every evening, ignoring wife and kids and emergencies... well even for me it becomes quite obvious that he's TA here.
When I first started reading I thought he was just a bad and ignorant husband with a video game addiction. When I read he had kids I was shocked. My husband loves video games but if he's too tired, he simply doesn't play and the kids always come first. That isn't extraordinary, it's simply the way it should be. If I was the OP I would seriously be considering divorce. The man certainly isn't much of a father.
I am 36 years old and I am still able to get my parents' attention if something is wrong with me. This guy is a douchebag and she needs to kick him and the door lock to the curb.
He prioritizes playing video games in the middle of the night over spending time with his kids? Time for him to move out so he isn't disturbed by his family anymore.
NTA - he is, take his storage box with his console, and bury it. Then change the locks on the house. When sleep and games are more important than your family, you need to get rid of him the legal way.
IF her kids survive his so-called "parenting".
Load More Replies... Install privacy locks. You twist the lock on the inside so no one can accidently walk in on ypu, but there is a hole on the other side where you can insert something to unlock it in emergencies without needing a key. The prong on most belt buckles, wire hanger, inside tube from a pen, incense stick, etc.
Remove yourself & childern(the real ones) from the situation. Contact an attorney about divorce; making sure that the manchild pays for his offspring. Don't go back unless he finally grows up and becomes an actual adult.
Sorry...but your husband is still a child. No matter what the calendar says, he is perhaps 17-18 years old or even younger in maturity. He wants to play games instead of being a responsible adult. It doesn't matter what type job he has or whether he is good at that job, emotionally he is still a child. If asked, I suspect he considers it "baby-sitting" should you leave him at home with the kids while you went out. It is probably time to evaluate your marriage and decide whether you and the kids should be with someone with such an addiction and such a sense of entitlement.
This is not good. I mean what happens if there is a house fire? This guy needs to get his priorities straight. If he's going to take on the role of father and husband he needs to be there for his family. Having some me-time is okay, but the dude still need to make himself available 100% should there be an emergency!
The issue is if you leave this man, he will be caring for the kids alone on his weekend, and then when he is asleep the poor kids will have to go out to the street to find help. So once again a woman will choose to be abused for her kids. Happening all over the world.
Maybe see if he can get serious about a better schedule that works for everyone. Write it down and stick to it.
Who gets married to those people? Who has kids with them? Who stays married to them? I have so many questions...
I can't explain for most women or even this one, but a lot of people change over time, and some don't show their true colours till they are married. Staying married is difficult, but sadly so is leaving. My biggest thing there was the age gap in the kids age. I'm aware there could be many reasons for that, but over 10 years between the two? Better not have been an attempt to fix this marriage by having another kid.
Load More Replies... Locking her out of her own room is BS. I know there is so much more going on, but many have already commented on the other stuff.
wow. my hubby games, but we don't have kids. and he'll still get up and take care of the animals if needed. i'm sad for this lady and her kids. what a loser.
yikes. I'm just so thankful that after years of dating man-children like this guy, I finally found a man who takes his responsibilities seriously and acts out of love. Girlfriend, this incident should be a wake up call for divorce. I know you think it will be hard on your own but think about it as having one less child to look after.
Kick him out. You're living like you're a single mother, might as well be one. Don't be his caretaker.
That is so disturbing. I'm going to ignore my family so I can play games all night is so insanely horrible. Regardless of an emergency. Also, to the commenter who asked, what if there was a fire?, I'd say, let him burn
Might add that his 2 hour naps are not helping him. The average amount of sleep needed to maintain mental and physical health is between 7-8 hours of "continuous" sleep. Sleeping 5-6 hours and trying to make up the difference later doesn't work. Sleep studies have shown you can't "catch up" on sleep.
Post nr 3415 of: 'I was dumb enough to marry a POS. Am I the a*shole?' No, you're not. You just made stupid choices in your life. Now, get a divorce.'
It may be some time until you are financially able to divorce. In the meantime, get an air horn and if you need him for anything, sound it until he responds.
this man is a narcissist. Things will not get better. She needs to dump him and find someone who is actually a mature adult.
He sounds exactly like my ex-husband .He would spend hours on the computer ,like all night, then sleep most of the day ,demanding that he was "Not to be disturbed". While I took care of two tiny children. He did nothing and became increasingly physically, emotionally, financially abusive .If I ever asked for some help with the house or kids, he would tell me what a bad mother and wife I was. I finally got up the courage to kick him out. After he left I found that he had spent everything we had, cleaned out our bank accounts to buy a boob job for some married chic on the other side of the country ,that he had been having an "online romance" with. The OP needs to run a mile & dump the Manbaby. There are red flags everywhere.I should add that after a couple of years of rebuilding myself ,I married an actual adult, who had no interest in computers/gaming.We raised 4 kids and have been married for over 20 yrs. p.s Boob Chic didn't want anything to do with their "romance" either:)
It will not get better, only worse. Leave and don't look back. You are better off as a single mom, considering he isn't interacting with anyone. make sure he takes all his games with him when he is kicked out of your house and make him hand over any and all keys to the house so he can't come back in. Make a fast track to a lawyer.
ESH She's helped make a marriage where he views her as an enemy who takes things from him and dictates what he can and cannot do. It's not a relationship of equals, but one of disappointed parent who wishes he were a different person, and a lashing out, distrustful teen. So he locks up his property, doesn't believe her when she says there's an emergency because she used that excuse too often, hides from them all by staying up too late, and has created an entire life out of avoiding her. It does not sound like he likes, enjoys, or trusts her, and she resents him for not being a completely different person and feels entitled to unilaterally do things like remove locks and/ or steal his gaming equipment or anything else she feels is in the way.
Well, you dated, married and had children with a man-child... although I feel for you, I'm pretty sure you ignored A LOT of red flags along the way if you ended up in this situation... So, if you don't want an extra kid to raise, tell him to grow up or get out. If you still have doubts, just imagine it could have been a lot worse than that...
yes the husband is an ass, theres no denying that and he does need to be given divorce papers BUT he does make 1 very good point, why was the toddler left unsupervised near boiling oil? unless the teenager was being stupid with the pan how on earth does oil splash all down a childs arm to cause that much damage? why wasnt he secured away from the kitchen so this didnt happen in the first place?
In case you haven't been around toddlers, they're quick. "Don't run near Sissy and the stove." Generally translates to "Let's run to the stove repeatedly. "
Load More Replies... I'm with the others who say she needs to lawyer up and get out of that relationship. Husband is just as absent as if he wasn't physically there. Locking up the video game system? That's what an addict would do with drugs/alcohol/cigarettes/porn/any other addictive substance. And the late-night video games being more important than spending time with his family seals it. Addicts care more about feeding their addiction than about their families. OP even said before the video games it was a different addiction...YouTube vlogging. OP is effectively a single parent anyway, she might as well be one in fact. Let the husband enjoy his addiction by himself.
Obligatory Nta, but I will say that I believe him when he says he didn't hear her. I sometimes sleep with earplugs, and there have been times when I've apparently slept through loud goings-ons in the house. (My bdrm door wasn't locked, I just wasn't needed.) Especially right around the 2 hour mark when you hit that first REM. I'll sleep through anything at that point, earplugs or not.
I get having a hobby, we all need one and need to set aside time to do so. Having said that, hobbies should come second in life when you have kids! He has the nerve to get angry at OP for not supervising the kids when one was 14?! It was an accident, these things happen. If dad truly was that concerned, he'd go to bed at a normal time, cut down on video games and spend time with his kids.
I dont care who you are. If you decided to have kids...all rights to privacy and ignorance of the world are GONE!! Take care of your family!
Find the console and sell it. Then go stay at your parents place while you get divorce papers
He doesn't deserve a family. Sorry, but it's incredible how they have 2 kids and she didn't realize that he's a big a**h0le. Now her son got burned, but next time may be worst and nobody wants this. Family always comes first !!!
Sounds like my man child brother in law, goes fishing at weekends too.
Unless the video games is an actual job, no she's definitely in the right. Family comes first. People have to learn to balance, like maybe gaming during a weekend, the rest they have to be available for family. Wow he's the a$$hole. And, gaslighter for putting the blame on her. Wow. She must not have access to a car or driver's license too. That's really a necessity these days. I know personally. I hope she leaves him, or he learns to budget his extracurricular activity times better. He sounds like an adult child.
I didn’t read the story just the headline, but I know my husband is cheating on me now because this has to be about him and I didn’t write it 😂
lol OP is just trying to Karma farm. Wake up people! 99% of AITA posts are fake!
Orrrr, and hear me out on this, he wasn't like this before marriage or had hid it when he met her. No one marries a known jerk unless they're into that or think they can change them.
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